The Confidence Code: The Science and Art of Self-Assurance--What Women Should Know
Written by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman
Narrated by Sandy Rustin
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About this audiobook
New York Times Bestseller
Following the success of Lean In and Why Women Should Rule the World, the authors of the bestselling Womenomics provide an informative and practical guide to understanding the importance of confidence—and learning how to achieve it—for women of all ages and at all stages of their career.
Working women today are better educated and more well qualified than ever before. Yet men still predominate in the corporate world. In The Confidence Code, Claire Shipman and Katty Kay argue that the key reason is confidence.
Combining cutting-edge research in genetics, gender, behavior, and cognition—with examples from their own lives and those of other successful women in politics, media, and business—Kay and Shipman go beyond admonishing women to "lean in."Instead, they offer the inspiration and practical advice women need to close the gap and achieve the careers they want and deserve.
Katty Kay
Katty Kay is the anchor of BBC World News America, based in Washington, DC. She is also a frequent contributor to Meet the Press and Morning Joe and a regular guest host for The Diane Rehm Show on NPR. She’s the author, along with Claire Shipman, of two New York Times bestsellers, Womenomics: Work Less, Achieve More, Live Better and The Confidence Code: The Science and Art of Self-Assurance—What Women Should Know. In addition to her work on women’s issues, Katty has covered the Clinton administration sex scandal, four presidential elections, and the wars in Kosovo, Afghanistan, and Iraq. She was at the Pentagon just twenty minutes after a hijacked plane flew into the building on 9/11—one of her most vivid journalistic memories is of interviewing soldiers still visibly shaking from the attack. Katty grew up all over the Middle East, where her father was posted as a British diplomat. She studied modern languages at Oxford and is a fluent French and Italian speaker with some “rusty Japanese.” Katty juggles her journalism with raising four children with her husband, a consultant. Visit Katty online at www.theconfidencecode.com.
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Reviews for The Confidence Code
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- Rating: 2 out of 5 stars2/5There's very little new here about women and not speaking up and it doesn't go very deep. The inquiry is guided mostly by the author's own personal experiences and reflections than critical thought. I would even say this book is a bit old in thought, maybe more appropriate for a decade or more ago. The only added value from the book is defining confidence as per psychology. But don't expect a literature review, just quotes from psychologists whos credentials /expertise areas are not clear.
Confidence is feeling that you can recover from failure, the sense that you can master something; it changes from task to task.
Takeaways for building confidence the book:
1) Practice. The authors don't go into this example I'm sharing, they just point to the mastery definition, but in scuba when someone is nervous before a dive we don't say"oh don't worry you'll be fine!" Instead we ask the person what are you worried about? They answer and we say, what would you do in that situation? You want that person to connect their worry to their training, to recall in that level of heightened anxiety the skills. You want the training to be their gut response to panic.
2) Meditate.
3) Practice gratitude to help persevere and persist.
4) Break up challenges into manageable chunks
5) Value struggle/become comfortable with struggle
6) Be yourself (this one is more modern and I am giving the authors credit here because they didn't really give a lot of space to this, behaviors were portrayed as gendered more than individual)
7) speak up/without hedging (the "fix the women" approach)
I want to read a book about how women can tell where to find support and when to give up on a group. Because sometimes your energy is better utilized elsewhere, no matter how confident or capable.2 people found this helpful
- Rating: 2 out of 5 stars2/5A lot of duh! kind of insight, especially when it comes to comparing men and women. That is, no new information here.
The genetics and hormonal influences on confidence was interesting. One gene provides 3 phenotypes, oxycotin and serotonin influence is. And despite your nature, nurture has a lot to do with your confidence levels. Other than that, their advice comes done to "nothing ventured, nothing gained" and you just need to practice. Again, nothing really new.1 person found this helpful
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5A million thank you for writing this book. Am going to be giving a talk about confidence to some girls very soon. I pray their lives see a shift into their potential of public speaking after the talk.
- Rating: 2 out of 5 stars2/5A bit outdated now. Of the "Lean In" style. Acknowledges the double bind, but says you can overcome it with your own feminine style of confidence and authenticity. The significant amount of time spent investigating the possibility of genetic predisposition to confidence really seemed off the mark to me, a person with a PhD in genetics. This book clearly means well and has some interesting research behind it, but felt out of touch to me.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5I highly recommend this book, this book is made for girls but men can also find useful
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5As a female executive in a very large organization, I was reading this book in the hopes that I could help coach other young women in our organization to become more confident. It is not something I have struggled with very much personally, but I have struggled trying to boost the confidence of those on my team. Claire and Katty’s work was really enlightening to me, and I will lead and coach differently as a result of it. I am also the mother of a child with two short strands in her genetic code, and I didn’t expect to get new information about that in this book but it was also very helpful.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5This is a great read full of fantastic points and based on really great research. Highly recommend!
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5It was enlightening. It's interesting to know that genes and environment have alot to do with your confidence set up.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5A bit more than your average self help book. Evidence based and uplifting.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Every woman should read this book! It should be a requirement! I hope this helps create a furthering shift in the way women think about themselves & behave in this world. #yinrising
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5This resonates at work, in both my personal experience and the scenarios of bright women around me. Really enjoyed this perspective! Already testing some of these confidence building tips.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5So good I need to listen to it again. Thank you for researching and writing this book.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5This is a fantastic book. I recommend it for every woman who is determined to do more and be more.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5I have recommended this book to several coworkers. It has the power to be transformational - completely reframing how we can approach work, communication, and taking the risks so essential to success. Written for women, this book can also be eye opening for men. Recommended.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5This book made me feel like I wasn’t alone in how I feel about my level of confidence. It gave my the emotion and science behind confidence in relation to both women and men and in doing so, I feel like I finally feel a step that I can push off from to go up the ladder. This was a really great read and would be a great book for a book club where you can share your stories with one another.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Beautifully read. Some interesting themes and good exploration of scientific studies relating to confidence but I found it to be a weak final discussion
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Required reading for all women. Great insight and great motivation.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5I loved and enjoyed how the authors infused research based insights, case studies from psychologists as well as their personal experiences to explain the misconceptions and realities about developing confidence. I recommend this book to everyone, male and female, young men and women - for women to understand and develop their confidence, and for men to raise their awareness on the different forms of confidence.
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