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    Get Anyone to Do Anything: Never Feel Powerless Again--With Psychological Secrets to Control and Influence Every Situation
    Get Anyone to Do Anything: Never Feel Powerless Again--With Psychological Secrets to Control and Influence Every Situation
    Get Anyone to Do Anything: Never Feel Powerless Again--With Psychological Secrets to Control and Influence Every Situation
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    Get Anyone to Do Anything: Never Feel Powerless Again--With Psychological Secrets to Control and Influence Every Situation

    By Dr. David J. Lieberman, Ph.D.

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    Get Anyone to Do Anything

    The legendary leader in the field of human behavior delivers the national bestselling, must-read phenomenon that changed the rules. Utilizing the latest advancements in human behavior, Dr. Lieberman's critically acclaimed techniques show you step-by-step how to gain the clear advantage in every situation.

    Get anyone to find you attractive
    Get the instant advantage in any relationship
    Get anyone to take your advice
    Get a stubborn person to change his mind about anything
    Get anyone to do a favor for you
    Get anyone to return your phone call
    Stop verbal abuse instantly
    Get anyone to confide in you and confess anything

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherMacmillan Publishers
    Release dateApr 1, 2010
    ISBN9780312274108
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    Dr. David J. Lieberman, Ph.D.

    David J. Lieberman, Ph. D., is a nationally recognized leader in the field of human behavior and the creator of NeuroDynamic Analysis, a revolutionary short-term therapy. He is a sought-after speaker and lecturer and a frequent guest on top national television and radio programs. His work has been translated into 10 languages. He is the author of books including Make Peace with Anyone and How to Change Anybody. He lives in New Jersey.

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    • 4/5
      For anyone who has been manipulated or who has a fear of being manipulated, this book is for you. The book offers excellent information based on real life situations along with psychological principles that can be used in any situation.
    • 5/5
      Was a great book back when I read it 20 odd years ago, and still proves to stand the test of time!! Now time to bookmark and read Dr. Lierbman's other two books!!!
    • 4/5
      So far so good, interesting and informative. I already have a grasp on much of what I've read thus far, never the less a good read
    • 1/5
      Hmm, how to begin? "Get Anyone to Do Anything" lives up to its title. Lying ("white" lies, of course), misleading, equivocating, flattering.. anything is fair game to get to what you want. Did you really need a book to tell you that if you're an apple polisher, you'll have people who like you? A zero star classic, five stars if your name is Machiavelli.

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      Dont surround myself with people more attractive than me or a lot less attractive than me in order to be noticed? Decide to court someone when their confidence is low, especially if my looks arent up to par? ? Interesting psychology but I cant imagine reading this for the sake of self improvement.

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    Get Anyone to Do Anything - Dr. David J. Lieberman, Ph.D.

    Section I

    Get Anyone to Like You, Love You, or Just Plain Think You’re Great!

    Here you will discover those psychological factors that influence the levels of interest other people have in you. You’re going to see just how easy it is for you to get anyone to like you (or dislike you). By following a simple strategy based on human nature, you can create trusting, lasting friendships and relationships with complete ease. And so we’re clear, these aren’t ways to manipulate other people into liking you. Rather, you’ll be orchestrating the application of certain psychological principles and methodologies to bring out and develop a natural chemistry.

    The obvious question then is, Why do I need these techniques if all I’m doing is bringing out a natural chemistry? Doesn’t it stand to reason that if it’s there it’s there, and if it’s not it’s not? While that seems as if it would be so, below explains why the answer is no.

    It is in our nature as human beings to seek affiliation, to make friends, and to care about others. But sometimes it can be hard for a person to reach out and expose his or her true self and feelings. Most people want to like, want to love, want to connect, but they are afraid. Things get in the way of their innate desire; things like fear of rejection, vulnerability, ego, and jealousy are but a few of the multitude of mixed emotions, attitudes, and beliefs that keep us from reaching out and bonding with others. What these psychological techniques do is to simply influence a person’s natural state to emerge. We feel good when we give, when we love, and when we help. It’s not about twisting someone’s brain so that he does your unconditional bidding; it’s about bringing the person’s submerged desires to the surface.

    In this section we cover different levels of interpersonal relations. At the core of all relationships, though, is mutual liking. No one will be attracted (for any length of time) to someone whom he doesn’t like and respect. So, the tactics below, while separated into individual specific strategies, can and should be used together. Most important, Chapter 1, Get Anyone to Like You…Every Time, is the foundation not only for this section but for several of the chapters throughout the book. We’ll talk more about the importance of this later.

    1

    Get Anyone to Like You…Every Time

    What are those elusive traits and qualities that arouse feelings of friendship and likability in a person? In just a minute you’ll discover that they’re not elusive at all. In fact they can be reduced to a simple formula that will help you to develop a natural chemistry with anyone.

    The fact is we like or dislike a person based upon a strict set of mostly unconscious processes. It does not happen by chance. But the reality that we’re unaware of the process makes it seem as if it occurs without much rhyme or reason. Nothing could be farther from the truth. The following is a complete list and discussion of the nine psychological laws and phenomena that affect, influence, and even alter what we think of someone so you can get anyone to like you.

    Keep in mind, too, that research shows that our liking a person can influence how physically attractive we think he or she is, and that we also tend to like more someone whom we find attractive. So this chapter and the one that follows it go hand-in-hand and can be used as part of an overall strategy.

    1. Law of Association

    The law of association is discussed in more detail throughout this book, but it has a very specific application here. Briefly, by pairing yourself with pleasurable stimuli another person will begin to associate you with this feeling. Studies conclude that if, for instance, you were planning your vacation you would associate those favorable feelings with whoever was around you at the time, and you would subsequently like the person more. Conversely, research in this area shows us that when you have a stomachache, for instance, those around you become unconscious victims of circumstance, and you tend to like them less. Of course there’s more to liking than just this pairing of pleasant stimuli with a person, but it can generate powerful feelings, either good or bad, toward you.

    So if you want to be liked by a person, try talking to him when he is in a good mood or excited about something. These feelings are anchored and associated with you, and this person will then come to have positive feelings toward you.

    Sometimes it’s easy to tell if a person’s in a good mood. But if you’re not sure, look at his face.

    If he’s in a good mood he’ll likely greet you with a full smile, eyes wide open. If he greets you with a partial lips only smile—one that does not involve his whole face—then this is a forced courtesy smile and usually reflects a person who is not in a good mood.

    Eye contact is a strong indicator of mood. When we are in a good mood we tend to make more direct eye contact. Conversely, when we’re in a bad mood we tend to look down or away from the person we’re speaking to.

    2. Repeat Exposure

    The old adage familiarity breeds contempt is commonly accepted but interestingly enough, it’s not true. In reality, it’s the opposite. Numerous studies conclude that the more you interact with someone, the more he or she will like you.

    According to Moreland and Zajonc (1982), repeated exposure to any stimulus—in this case a person—leads to a greater appreciation and liking (as long as the initial reaction is not negative). This is true of anything—a person, a place, or even a product: the greater the exposure, the more positive the response. This is why companies sometimes advertise just a picture of a product, or its name, without any specific features or benefits of using the product. They don’t need to tell us how wonderful it is, only remind us of it. Exposure, being an obvious component of repetition, can alone increase sales or votes, which is why advertisers and politicians exploit this phenomenon. This factor of human behavior is so powerful that studies show that even a letter in the alphabet that also appears in our name is perceived as more attractive than a letter that is not in our name.

    By simply being around more, you will actually grow on this person. Sometimes we make the mistake of trying to appear mysterious, aloof, or unavailable to someone, but in doing so we diminish our number of interactions. Studies conclude that we become friends with, and tend to like more, those who are physically nearest to us because of this increased level of interaction. (By the way, you don’t have to worry about enacting the law of scarcity, unless you want this person to be attracted to you! That is because the basis of liking follows a different paradigm than for attraction. We will learn more about that law in this

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