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    Silence Hurts: Talk Hard
    Silence Hurts: Talk Hard
    Silence Hurts: Talk Hard
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    Silence Hurts: Talk Hard

    By Emily Jacob

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    Silence hurts. It eats us from the inside. It traps us, making sure we feel isolated and alone. In talking there is a taking back of control. In talking we find that we are not alone, that there are others, that others have healed, that healing is possible, that there is hope. In talking we find community. In talking there is power. Talk hard.

    Silence hurts. It eats us from the inside. It stops us from finding solace and comfort in others, it traps us, making sure we feel isolated and alone. Silence makes us into victims, silence is the behaviour of the ashamed, and we must behave as though we are ashamed, even if we’re not. Silence is expected of survivors, rape is an uncomfortable subject—and we don’t talk about uncomfortable things. Silence breeds the fallacy that rape only happens to those who deserve it, to those who were stupid and careless, who could have taken a different action and avoided it. Silence is a conspiracy that makes an epidemic seem rare. Silence hurts everyone except the perpetrator. Silence helps them.

    Talking is hard. Talking means trusting that telling won’t make things worse. Talking is a responsibility to the person who hears, to honour the telling, to accept the telling, to believe. To give that responsibility to another, to entrust them with your story; that’s hard. Talking gives words to what happened. Words give meaning. Meaning makes things real. There is no hiding in talking. Talking is hard.

    But in talking there is power. In talking there is a taking back of control. In talking there is a refusal to be put in a box labelled victim. In talking there is the possibility of others showing compassion and providing comfort. In talking we find that we are not alone, that there are others, that others have healed, that healing is possible, that there is hope. In talking we find community. In talking we can express our anger, our hurt, our pain, our progress, our hope, our survival. In talking there is power. Talk hard.

    This is a short collection of some of the talking I did along my journey in refusing to be silenced. They appear here largely as they did then.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherResonance Press
    Release dateApr 10, 2017
    ISBN9781386400561
    Silence Hurts: Talk Hard

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      Silence Hurts - Emily Jacob

      FOREWORD

      Silence hurts. It eats us from the inside. It stops us from finding solace and comfort in others, it traps us, making sure we feel isolated and alone. Silence makes us into victims, silence is the behaviour of the ashamed, and we must behave as though we are ashamed, even if we’re not. Silence is expected of survivors, rape is an uncomfortable subject—and we don’t talk about uncomfortable things. Silence breeds the fallacy that rape only happens to those who deserve it, to those who were stupid and careless, who could have taken a different action and avoided it. Silence is a conspiracy that makes an epidemic seem rare. Silence hurts everyone except the perpetrator. Silence helps them.

      Talking is hard. Talking means trusting that telling won’t make things worse. Talking is a responsibility to the person who hears, to honour the telling, to accept the telling, to believe. To give that responsibility to another, to entrust them with your story; that’s hard. Talking gives words to what happened. Words give meaning. Meaning makes things real. There is no hiding in talking. Talking is hard.

      But in talking there is power. In talking there is a taking back of control. In talking there is a refusal to be put in a box labelled victim. In talking there is the possibility of others showing compassion and providing comfort. In talking we find that we are not alone, that there are others, that others have healed, that healing is possible, that there is hope. In talking we find community. In talking we can express our anger, our hurt, our pain, our progress, our hope, our survival. In talking there is power. Talk hard.

      This is a short collection of some of the talking I did along my journey in refusing to be silenced. They appear here largely as they did then.

      CONTENTS

      FOREWORD

      SLUTWALK

      DEAR LUKE

      SLUTWALK SPEECH 22ND SEPTEMBER 2012

      CONVERSATIONS WITH FRIENDS

      EMDR

      TIME TO TALK

      AFTERWORD

      THE RECONNECTED LIFE TASTE OF RECOVERY

      THE RECONNECTED LIFE EXPERIENCE

      TESTIMONIALS

      ABOUT EMILY

      SLUTWALK

      WHY I AM WALKING

      Written for SlutWalk London, 2011

      SlutWalk isn’t a feminist issue. Rape isn’t a feminist issue. Rape is everyone’s issue. SlutWalk is about highlighting that it is never the fault of the victim and only ever the fault of the rapist.

      Rape doesn’t define who I am. But it does constitute a big part of who I have become. It has changed the way I view the world and almost everything about me; it has changed my family relationships, it has deeply impacted the relationships with my friends, it affects the way I handle stress at work. It’s changed how I trust (now I distrust). I move house like it’s a hobby, in search of somewhere to feel safe. I’ve overcome depression but it’s a constant cloud hanging over me. I worry about when the next panic attack will creep up on me, whether tonight I will sleep, whether tonight he’ll come back, whether I

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