// february 10, 2011

life. and how to have one.

How tecHnology and cHanging
definitions are evolving cHeating
ExpirEd HEaling
The imporTance of examining
daTes on medicine boTTles
CaUgHT in THE aCT
EvEryday planning
The benefiTs and sTraTegies
for organizing your life
TABLE OF CONTENTS
FEBRUARY 10, 2011 // volume 8, issue 18
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overwhelming and counterintuitive with
the planners goal to reduce stress. I
needed to expire my lifelong motto, The
best minute is the last minute, which had
never failed me in the past, for The early
bird gets the worm.
So thats what I did, and I adjusted
accordingly. My queen-sized bed has
become the perfect workspace to spread
out magazine projects, and neon-colored
Post-Its brighten my day with friendly and
not so friendly to-do reminders.
No matter how you organize your
life, stress is still unavoidable. Youre in
college, remember? Stress comes along
with the territory. Check out Gabrielles
story on page 11 to learn how to stress
less and manage your time wisely.
My organizational methods are by
no means the ideal examples to follow.
Each person organizes and prioritizes
differently; the trick is to learn what works
for you and to adjust when needed. A part
of me is jealous of those organizational
pros who color code their tasks using a
fancy collection of pens, or those tech-
savvy pros who organize their lives with
their iPhone or Blackberry smart phones.
But a planner, a queen-sized bed, Post-Its
and a good memory are all I need to keep
my sanity when to-do lists accumulate
quickly.
THE STAFF
EDITOR // MOLLY MARTIN
ASSOCIATE EDITOR // JONATHAN HERMES
DESIGNER // ALExANdRA AvILA
CONTACT // ALExANdRA ESPOSITO, CAROLINE KRAFT, LAURA ERdALL
MANUAL // GABRIELLE SCHOCK, JENNIFER dIdONATO,
LINdSEY SIEGELE
NOTICE // BECKY HOWLETT, SARAH CHAMP
PLAY // BEN CHIPMAN, MICHAEL BEdNAR, LINdSEY dEITER
HEALTH // JUSTINE PATTON, ELLIOT METZ, JACK RAFFERTY
CONTRIBUTORS // MIKE ANdERSON, MICHELLE MACBAIN,
BRITTANY NELSON, SAvANNAH ABBOTT, CHANCE CARMICHAEL,
LANdON MCdONALd, ALEx TRETBAR, ZACK MARSH, BRITTANY
CLAMPITT, CHELSEA THENO
CREATIVE CONSULTANT // CAROL HOLSTEAd
during my first three years as a college
student, I did not own a planner. I prided
myself on my no-frills organization strategy.
I programmed deadlines, tests, social
events and birthdays into my memory, and
there they stayed. I never missed a deadline
or test, and my friends always got a birthday
shout-out. The only organizational-like
item I owned was a decorative calendar
on my bedrooms wall. Most of the time it
was covered with magnets and pictures or
important reminders like valentines day!
and My birthday! just in case I forgot
what date they fall on each year. Or it would
fall to the floor and stay there indefinitely.
At the start of my senior year, with lists
of deadlines, interviews, weekly work
schedules and sorority obligations looming
over me, I knew my memory wouldnt have
space for everything. Neither would that
plastic, dry erase calendar. I surrendered
to the guaranteed anxiety of the near future
and bought a planner.
Seeing everything on paper made my
tasks seem tangible, which is good, but also MOLLY MARTIN | EdITOR
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> Tackle the sticky world of relationships.
kansas in heat // SHY IN THE BEDROOM
Q. Ive been with my girlfriend for about 18 months, and when we met, I thought she was
outgoing, confident and a bit crazy. She tried to jump my bones the first night we met.
She has since decided that she is really shy and cant express herself unless drunk, and
now our sex life is a nightmare. I pretty much always want sex, and she never seems
interested and expects 30 minutes of foreplay, initiated by me but only when she might be
in the mood. Also, she hates going down on me, which is almost grounds for moving on!
Mike Anderson, Dellwood, Minn. graduate student, and Michelle MacBain, Kansas City, Kan., graduate student,
are the hosts of Kansas in Heat, a talk show about sex and relationships that airs Mondays at 9 p.m. on KJHK,
90.7fm and at kjhk.org.
a. This tale of sorrow sounds like a common
problem with a different twist. Her early sexual
behavior might have been caused by alcohol
or an unrequited love situation with a previous
guy where she was the pursuer and lost a bit
of self-esteem. Now that she knows she has
you, she can fall back on a sexual schedule
that better suits her. If you believe your sexual
compatibility might be too different, that may
be grounds for moving on - if that is something
that is really important to you in a relationship.
The other possibility is that stress from work,
school, the relationship or another area is
causing a decrease in her libido. Id frst ask
her about that possibility and how you can
help. Also, something might be causing her to
produce less vaginal lubrication, which might
make sex painful for her. Id openly talk to her
about her libido and yours; just do it in a non-
confrontational way. Strong libido differences
or sexual differences normally do not get
better without communication.
Heres what I would try. Dont initiate any
type of sex for an extended period of time-
Ill let you decide how long it should be; it
depends how often you see her. In most of
these situations, the rejector of sex (your
girlfriend) will get turned on by your sudden
lack of sexual interest and start to initiate
sex.
// MIke ANDeRSON
a. Without being too presumptuous, did you
happen to be under the infuence the frst
night you met? It is amazing how alcohol lives
up to its reputation as a disinhibitor, dont you
think? That said, lets tackle your questions.
First of all, foreplay is almost always an
absolute necessity for sexual satisfaction!
Foreplay allows stimulation development from
numerous parts of the body, which in turn
provides muscle relaxation, mental relaxation,
blood fow to the genitals and lubrication.
Foreplay also allows you and your partner
to discover each others erogenous zones
and alternative ways to reach orgasm; this
is benefcial for women who cannot orgasm
from genital stimulation alone. Have you ever
discussed with your girlfriend what turns her
on and how she can reach orgasm? Perhaps
she requires a different path towards her fnal
destination. Go with her on the journey!
Now, onto the blow job. Inexperience often
leads to apprehension. Your girlfriend might
need your patience and feedback to learn
how to give YOU a blow job. I emphasize
YOU because, despite the number of sexual
partners you might have during your lifetime,
each and every partner will have different
sexual needs and desires.
Both you and your partner may need to
adjust your techniques to reach your desired
sexual satisfaction. Tenderly communicate
your frustrations with your partner and
disclose to each other your sexual desires.
Hopefully, you will rediscover the sexual
animal in both of you!
// MICHeLLe MACBAIN
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CONTACT
> Two people. Five questions. See how they stack up.
FIVE QUESTIONS // Pat Green & aaron SPeier
PaT Green
> Pat Green is a country musician from ft. worth, texas.


aaron SPeier
> aaron sPeier is a junior from toPeka majorinG in communications.

WhAT is yOur fAvOriTe
ChildhOOd memOry?
WhAT is yOur fAvOriTe
sONg ANd Why?
WhAT dO yOu like TO dO
WheN yOu hAve free Time?
WhAT persONAliTy TrAiT
Are yOu kNOWN fOr by
frieNds ANd fAmily?
WhO iNspires yOu mOsT
ANd Why?
my dad took me to the Cotton bowl one time to watch baylor and Ala-
bama play. i grew up in Waco, Texas, and didnt go to the big city often. it
was nice to go to something as important as the Cotton bowl.
going to florida with my whole family when i was eight years old. We
went to the beach and Walt disney World and i learned how to surf.
The next one i write. i think all songwriters get really excited about an
idea coming together.
What Was i Thinking by dierks bentley, because my friends and i used
to blare this song at parties in the country.
hunting and golf. in north Texas, where i live, there are plenty of places
to hunt.
boating and camping. i own a camper and a jet ski, so i spend every
weekend of the summer at the lake with my friends.
i am fun-loving and easy to be around. i am not an intense person. i am
intense on stage, but thats just me on stage.
i bring everybody up. im always happy and i talk a lot.
my wife, because she is such a prominent person in my life. between her
and god, thats where my loyalty lies.
george strait, because he makes me want to be a country singer.
// CArOliNe krAfT
caTch OF ThE wEEk // Zach Zarda
> our weekly peek at a fsh in the KU sea.
interests & hobbies:
running, Wakeboarding, sports, Cars,
star Wars

notices first in a Potential Partner:
if a girl is friendly and has a good smile.
HoMeToWn: Shawnee
MaJor: Finance & Supply Chain Mgmt
Year: Junior
inTereSTeD in: Women
ZoDiaC SiGn: Pisces
turn-ons:
Confdence, kindness and honesty
turn-offs:
Too much makeup, immaturity, an annoying
laugh, alcoholism, bad teeth and being a
missouri fan.
idea of a Perfect date:
College gameday at the phog followed by ku
crushing k-state. Wed probably go out after
the game to celebrate the win.

why im a catch:
i do not have a family history of male pattern
baldness or heart disease.
// CArOliNe krAfT
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HEALTH
good for you bad for you
// Eating snow > Sometimes its hard to tell.
It has been a week since a blizzard blanketed
Lawrence with eight inches of snow. Many of
us have developed a love-hate relationship
with the stuff. The shoveling, scraping and
slipping are all part of the deal when Mother
Nature decides to give us the cold shoulder,
but with just one gallon of snow, a little sugar,
vanilla and milk, you have enough ice cream for
eight. But is it safe to eat?
For Lauren Richter, a Shawnee sophomore,
the idea of eating snow is nothing new. In high
school, my friends and I would take snow and
Dr. Pepper and make tasty snow cones.
Staci Simonich, associate professor of
chemistry at Oregon State University, has
studied snow extensively and has the answer.
As snow crystals fall, pollutants - such as
pesticides found in the atmosphere - can
attach themselves to the water particles, but
not enough to cause harm, Simonich says.
Si moni ch was part of a Nati onal Park
Service study that examined the toxicity level
of snow found in national parks across the
country. The study, published last year, found
EPA-approved: Eating freshly fallen snow is a
part of the winter experience and its safe, too.
Photograph by Travis Young
the concentration of pesticides in snow to
be 100 to 1,000 times lower than the drinking
water standards set by the United States
Environmental Protection Agency [EPA].
The snow we measured in the U.S. is
safe, Simonich says. I have two children
and I wouldnt take the joy of eating fresh
snow away from them.
VErdICT: Good for you!
// JAck RAFFERTy
bETTEr oPTIoNS for bad SITuaTIoNS
// CaFFEinE
> If youre going to do it, be smart.
Whether studying into the wee hours of
the morning or celebrating a best friends
birthday, most students have one thing in
common: theyre night owls, which can leave
them in a sleep-deprived daze the following
day.
Luckily, weve been graced with a
wonderful substance: caffeine. But which is
better: coffee or energy drinks? Tea or soda?
Anna Hurst, a sophomore from Wichita,
says she likes to sip on coffee daily, preferably
a caramel macchiato, because she feels like
she needs it to function.
Ann chapman, a dietitian at the Wellness
Resource center at Watkins Memorial Health
center, says Hurst is on the right track.
When students need a caffeine boost, coffee
or tea is the best bet. Research shows that the
antioxidants in these two beverages can help
protect our hearts, chapman says, so in addition
to a pick-me-up, students are also getting some
health benefts. Those benefts increase if a
student orders a latte or cappuccino, which
contain vitamin D and calcium.
chapman warns students to stay away from
energy drinks and soda, because often these
beverages offer no health benefts and large
amounts of sugar.
// JUSTINE PATTON
Te best part of waking up: Cofee and tea ofer
health benefts, such as antioxidants, as well as an
energy boost. Energy drinks only ofer sugar.
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HEALTH
Imagine a hazy Sunday morning cloaked
with the worst kind of hangover. A pounding
headache makes your skull throb as you recall
those countless rounds of Jgerbombs. You
reach for a bottle of ibuprofen that expired
a year ago, pop a couple pills and gulp them
down with a tall glass of water, praying that
your pain disappears soon. Two hours later, the
same agonizing migraine pulsates through your
temples.
Thats what could happen if you take expired
medication.
Nathaniel Vigil, a senior from Austin, Texas,
found himself in a similar situation a couple
weeks ago when a stuffy nose and deep
cough clouded the start to his semester. He
began taking Sudafed to ease his symptoms.
After taking his first dose, Vigil examined the
box and discovered the medicine had expired
over a year ago. Vigil immediately tossed the
medication and hopped in his car toward the
pharmacy.
Tama Sawyer, the director of the Poison
Control Center at the University of Kansas and
a pharmacist, says as time goes on medication
may lose its effectiveness. Thats why Lisa
Oller, also a pharmacist and a senior certifed
specialist in poison information at the University
of Kansas Hospital Poison Center, doesnt
recommend anyone take medication after its
expiration date.
If i t i s expi red, i t shoul d probabl y be
replaced, Oller says. Think of it kind of like
something in your kitchen cabinet that is
expired. Do you really want to eat that?
Its not hard to find the expiration date on
most medications. Oller says the expiration date
for over-the-counter medication can usually
be found on the back of the bottle. Sawyer
says its a good idea for shoppers to check the
expiration date before they make a purchase.
Otherwise, they could only be throwing their
money away on old medication.
If you shop at Dollar General Store or other
outlet-type store, make sure you check the
expiration date, Sawyer says. I have found
many of these products are already expired at
the time of purchase.
Just because medication hasnt expired
doesnt mean its still as potent as the day it was
produced. If medication isnt stored properly, it
may stop working long before its expiration
date.
Oller says humidity and moisture can affect
the actual composition of the medication and
can cause the drugs to degrade more rapidly as
well. Sawyer says medication should be stored
in a place with a stable temperature. The glove
box of a car, for example, is probably the worst
possible location. Oller discourages storing
medication in refrigerators as well, unless
otherwise noted on the bottle, as refrigerators
often provide easy access for children.
Shel by McCreery, a sophomore f rom
Shawnee, says she only checks the expiration
dat e on her prescri pt i on medi cat i ons.
McCreery says when she takes over-the-
counter medications, such as Advil for a
headache, most of the time she doesnt notice
the expiration date.
The good news? Taki ng most expi red
medications wont cause sickness. However,
a few medications become poisonous after
they have expired. Sawyer says a class of
drugs prescribed primarily to treat acne,
which includes Tetracycline, Doxycycline
and Minocycline, can have serious effects
on individuals kidneys if they ingest the
medication after the expiration date. Oller says
insulin and liquid antibiotics are also unsafe to
take after they expire because they degrade
more rapidly than other medications and lose
their effectiveness quickly.
Sawyer says just because medication isnt
expired doesnt mean individuals should hold
onto it.
If it is a prescription medication, take it as
directed and dont hoard the remainder for the
next time you get sick, Sawyer says, Your
illness may not be the same.
Sawyer also discourages passing medication
onto someone else with similar symptoms.
Instead, she recommends getting rid of it.
Disposing of medication the right way is
really pretty simple but there are a lot of
wrong ways as well. Oller discourages fushing
expired medication down the toilet, whether it
is liquid or solid, because the drugs potentially
could get into the public water supply, which
includes the water pouring out of kitchen
faucets. This could cause problems for people
with allergies, pregnant women and small
children as well.

EXPIRED
MEDS
Still dependable or
juSt plain dangerouS?
Drug calendar: Check the expiration date on
medication before taking. While most expired
medications are not dangerous, a few become
poisonous over time.
Photo Illustration | Megan Singer
// JUSTINE PATTON
Put unused or expired solid medication in a
sealable bag.
Dont forget unused or expired
pet

medications.
Add unused or expired liquid medications.
Add a small amount of water to help
dissolve solid medications.
Add kitty litter, sawdust, or coffee grounds
to make medicine unattractive to children
and animals.
Seal and gently mix the contents together.
Toss the bag into the trash.
Remove and destroy personal information
on medicine containers.
Toss, or where possible, recycle
medicine containers.
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How to DISPoSE of MEDIcatIon:
Cheating. A word that holds so much power,
it ignites distress among romantic partners.
Some people regard cheating as being sexually
involved with another person while being in a
relationship. Others consider texting another
person to be cheating.
While defning cheating and the reason for
doing it is different for each couple, the backlash
and emotions involved can be devastating. The
reasons for cheating have changed little over
the years. What has changed is the defnition
of cheating and the different outlets in which
it occurs.
What IS It?
Each couple defnes cheating differently.
Typically, people think of it as being sexually
involved with a person who is not your romantic
partner. But what does it mean to be sexually
involved? Mayo Clinic womens health nurse
FEATURE
How far is too far?: Communicate with your
partner to establish a mutual understanding of
what is and isnt cheating.
Photo Illustration | Travis Young
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The TruTh abouT
cheating
// EllEn ShEFTEl
What IS It Why It happenS.
practicioner lois McGuire identifes sexual
intercourse as much more than the traditional
defnitions. In her article What is considered
intercourse? McGuire notes the defnition
of sexual intercourse has changed from just
a penis entering a vagina to other forms of
intimacy. These other forms can be anything
from oral sex to other forms of sexual activity.
While defning cheating is diffcult enough,
trying to see if and when its coming might
be harder. But the key is noticing changes
in behavior. Molly, Kansas City, Kan. junior,
cheated on her boyfriend and began showing
signs something was wrong after hanging out
with a new set of friends. The summer after
her sophomore year, Molly began hanging out
with her new roommates and their friends.
She noticed herself developing an interest
in a certain boy and slowly began changing
her habits regarding her boyfriend. I started
communicating less with my boyfriend and
spending more time around this new boy and
his friends, she says.
The actual incident of cheating was
unintentional but that detail didnt make Molly
feel any better. I regret my actions because I
hurt someone I cared about, she says.
Being the cheatee and not the cheater
are two very different sides to be on. Kyle
Brown, Topeka senior, was cheated on during
his freshman year at KU. he and his girlfriend
had been dating for four months. The two had
to say goodbye when he left to start school at
KU and he soon began to notice changes in her
behavior. Browns girlfriend started shortening
their conversations and didnt seem as excited
as she used to be to talk to him. She wouldnt
talk to me as much as she used to, he says.
She was also really vague about what she
was doing and whom she was with, and she
used to want to tell me that stuff. Even though
I was at KU and she was in Topeka, we started
seeing each other less. Brown ended things
with her because of distance issues, only to
fnd out she had cheated when she confessed
to him after the breakup. he says he was hurt at
frst but made the choice to move forward and
never look back. We havent talked since, he
says. People who have been there know how
it is.
Why?
Isnt this always the frst question someone
asks when he or she has been cheated on?
Sometimes you wont get a straightforward
answer. But if you read between the lines you
may be able to fgure it out on your own. Ben, a
senior from Chicago, cheated on his girlfriend
of six months during his freshman year at KU.
he cheated with an old girlfriend from back
FEATURE
Too much ego: Cheating may be less about attraction to another person and more about
self-expression; its an act of rebellion so as not to lose oneself within the relationship.
Photo Illustration | Travis Young
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home over a break. He admits he had no
intentions of doing that when he saw her; he
just wanted to meet up and talk since the two
hadnt seen each other in a year.
Its not like I wasnt having sex with my
girlfriend at the time and I did it out of sexual
frustration, he says. I guess one reason
why probably had to do with how jealous my
girlfriend at the time was. She had pissed me
off and annoyed me about talking to my ex
already. She was so incapable of trusting that
it provoked me.
Ben may have stumbled upon something
pertinent in regards to cheating as a way of
rebelling. Maryann Karinch, co-author of Date
Decoder: Military Intelligence Techniques
to Expose What Hes Really Thinking, says
cheating has less to do with attraction to
someone else and more with the ego of the
cheater. She points out romantic partners
have to let go of their egos a little bit, but if
a partner lets go of it too much he or she can
be completely consumed by the relationship.
People are afraid of losing themselves and
cheating is almost a defning thing that people
do in order to express their own identity, she
says.
So how can you make sure your partner wont
Virtual cheating: While some people are tempted
to cheat in public, others fnd temptation on the
Internet. But is online cheating really cheating?
Photo Illustration | Travis Young
PeoPle are afraid of losing
themselves and cheating
is almost a defining thing
that PeoPle do in order to
exPress their own identity.
> Maryann Karinch,
co-author of Date Decoder: Military Intelligence
Techniques to Expose What Hes Really Thinking
rebel by way of cheating? Communication.
The most important part of any relationship
is to talk to one another. Karinch stresses the
importance of partners talking to each other
and setting parameters about what his or her
defnition of cheating is and making sure each
partner is happy in the relationship and doesnt
feel overwhelmed.
CHEATING WITH TECHNOLOGY
The Internet has greatly affected the way
people cheat. The rapid speed and around-
the-clock availability makes the Internet an
enticing outlet. While some couples may not
consider using the Internet to act on sexual
desires, from viewing pornography to carrying
out a sexually-driven conversation with
someone in a chat room, as cheating, others
do. Karinch, the co-author of the Date Decoder,
notes how the Internet makes a person feel as
if he or she is in a different world apart from
reality. The Internet makes cheating feel more
like a cartoon, she says. You are jumping into
this virtual world and you almost feel like its
not really you. Cheating on the Internet can
be compared to role-playing games, like World
of Warcraft or Second Life. Both are game
specifc to the Internet and require users to
build and personalize an avatar. Karinch notes
how some people who cheat on the Internet
feel the same way as the people who play
these games because both circumstances
make a person feel as if they can do things
they cannot do in real life. People consider
the Internet a target for cheating, Karinch
says. It doesnt feel like cheating because its
so surreal.
One of the biggest attractions to cheating
on the Internet is ease. A recent survey of
Canadian college students found that more
than 87 percent of more than 2,500 participants
admitted to using technology in order to engage
in sexual acts. But not necessarily cheating.
The tools these participants admitted to using
include Web cams, text message and instant
message. With such an overwhelming number
of college students engaging in sexual acts
via the Internet, one might think it would be
easy to answer the age-old question: Is online
sex cheating? Unfortunately, online sex is
defned just as traditional cheating is, by each
relationship. As couples make their own rules
about what constitutes traditional cheating,
they also make the rules regarding cheating
and technology.
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> Absence makes the heart grow ... ?
Doing without // MUSIC
Ear buds or bust: Going without music for the
day is harder than Gabrielle Schock thought.
Contributed Photo
No music for a day? The idea seemed
harmless. I love music, but a day without it
wouldnt kill me, right?
Well, it almost did.
The start of my music-free day wasnt ter-
rible. I have a short drive to campus each
morning and I didnt miss hearing Ke$ha
blare from the radio.
Once on campus though, walking to and
from class felt mundane without my favorite
music to perk me up.
Dr. Alicia Clair, professor and director of
music education and music therapy at KU,
says throughout the day, music serves different
purposes. The music you listen to while walk-
ing to class probably varies from the music you
listen to while studying or doing homework,
Clair says.
Doing homework on campus without music
to drown out the voices of others was diffcult.
Not only was I distracted by the physical sound,
but also by the things people were saying.
After a sluggish day on campus, I somehow
thought itd be a good idea to workout without
music. I had one of the worst workouts of my
life! I hated hearing myself breathe and I had
little motivation to keep going on the treadmill. I
left the gym feeling tired and cranky.
One beneft of music is it allows us to go
longer when exercising, Clair says. Our body
trains itself to match the rhythm of the music to
the rhythm of our workout.
If youre a music lover, try going without it for a
day. Itll test your sanity, but you might overhear
something funny while at the Underground.
// GAbrIeLLe SChOCK
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At the start of each semester, Mindy Jenks
makes the same promise. She tells herself,
This is the semester Ill change; Ill become
organized and actually stay organized.
But its not always that easy. Usually a
month in, things start to fall apart, Jenks, a
Hutchinson junior, says.
Staying organized as a student is essential,
though its not always easy to keep up. Tests
and projects begin piling up, desks become
cluttered and before long, the task of becoming
organized is daunting. Staying organized is
hard for everyone, Dr. Mary Ann Rasnack,
director of Academic Achievement and Access
Center [AAAC], says. New things pop up,
people get sick, etc. The trick is knowing when
youre off track and when to ask for help.
The AAAC gave Jenks the help she needed.
She scheduled an appointment and the center
gave her an advisor who helped improve her
time management skills. I figured its free
here at [the University of Kansas], I might as
well utilize all the help I can get, Jenks says.
They helped me set up a schedule for every
day of the week. I go to school full time and I
also work, so its been a huge help scheduling
in study time for me.
Setting up a schedule and using a planner
helps alleviate academic stress and will also
provide a visual tool to help manage your time.
Rasnack, the AAAC director, recommends
creati ng two types of pl anners: one for
each day of the week and one for the entire
semester. The weekly planner will help show
what is important to do now, while the semester
schedule is meant for bigger projects, tests and
finals, she says. I also tell students to use
color to tell events apart from each other.
Audrey Moylan, a sophomore from Lenexa,
says she considers her planner a crucial part
of her life. If I dont have my planner, I feel so
disorganized, she says.
Staying organized as a student is not just
about jotting down your homework assignments
in a planner. Moylan says the area in which she
studies must be organized as well. My desk is
usually pretty cluttered, she says. Plus, I live
in a sorority, so it can be kind of noisy. I need a
clean, quiet place to study in.
Rasnak suggests finding a quiet place on
campus to study because distractions at home
can prevent productivity. The Learning Center
on the fourth foor of Anschutz Library is her top
recommendation.
If heading to the library isnt a possibility,
creating a comfortable but functional place to
study at home is important. Too much clutter
on top of a desk or a drawer overfowing with
papers and pens can lead to an overwhelmed
feeling.
Marilyn Roy, owner of Simplify! Organizing
Services in Lawrence, says to consider thinking
about the amount of time you waste while
searching for something in a disorganized
pile. She says to then think about how much
less time would be spent if similar items were
kept together. You save time, energy and
your sanity, Roy says. Its important to keep
things together in the same place so when you
sit down to study, everything you need is right
there.
If your desk is disorganized, try tackling one
drawer at a time. Starting small and gradually
working towards a more organized area as a
whole is most effective and less frightening.
Visualize what you want it to look like, Roy
says. She also suggests a planner or calendar
to keep on track.
Between maintaining an academic to-do list
and a clutter-free desk, forgetting to schedule
time to relax and be social is easy. For Jenks,
this means having two planners: one for school
and another for fun things like hanging out with
friends. Penciling in time for yourself is just as
important as writing down the due date of a
Spanish essay.
If you dont schedule for life, it contributes
t o f eel i ng unorgani zed, Rasnack, t he
AAAC director, says. The key is to include
everything.
Clutters last stand: Organizing and planning your
life can reduce stress and help create a functional
study environment. Detailed schedules and to-do
lists ease time-management burdens.
Photo Illustration | Dalton Gomez
How to get your life in order
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NOTICE
wescoe wit
> Lol.
I was sober enough to hide his car keys,
but drunk enough to forget where I put them.
GUY:
GiRL 2:
GiRL 1: We have some extra angel food cake if
you want to come by and eat some.
I would rather eat a gym sock.
PRoFessoR:
GUY: I talk a lot! This stuff gets me fred
up, so you might have to tell me to
shut up sometimes.
Well, I might cross a line by doing
that, so youll just have to shut up
from the get-go.
GUY:
PRoFessoR: Its still a language today.
Like they speak it?
GiRL:
GUY: Worst part besides the snow is that
it looks like all those girls have dead
animals hugging their feet.
Uh, I have her boots.
Weve got to hang out soon! Ive been
whoring myself out to all of my friends!
GiRL:
I spent my second snow day untagging
drunken photos from my frst snow day.
GiRL:
It got crazy last year. Naked people were
jumping into this farmers pond. It made headlines.
GiRL:
Have you overheard any Wescoe witticisms?
Become a fan on Facebook and your post could
be published in Jayplay!
// Sarah Champ
ceLebRitweets // @JudahWorldChamp
// TaKEN FrOm TWITTEr.COm BY Sarah Champ
AT&T sucks. Theyre worse than: Carolina panthers, L.A. Clippers, & Taylor swifts
cover of Last Christmas.
2: 19 p.m. Dec 28th
My New Years resolution this year is to brush my teeth.
11:21 p.m. Dec 31st

At eastville comedy club tonight. both shows. I will discuss my upcoming run for
president. or do lots of fart jokes. or both.
1:44 p.m. Jan 8th
watched lifetime movies all day.
5:22 p.m. Jan 13th
Im going to go sledding before it snows to get a head start.
6:37 p.m. Jan 20th
I just found out that American Idol is a TV show where they discover singers. Im
slow on receiving entertainment news.
6:53 p.m. Jan 20th
Fuck it. Im going for Polish food.
2:43 p.m. Jan 23
Built 5 snowmen today. Then karate kicked them all down.
10:32 a.m. Jan 27th
Going to LA tomorrow. I will teach a How to Look Cool at the Beach class.
5:32 p.m. Jan 28th
Judah Friedlander is an actor and comedian. He plays The Hug Guy in Dave
Matthews Bands 2001 Everyday music video and Frank on NBCs 30 Rock.
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out & About // If you had a TV show, whaT would
be your openIng song?
> Random people. Random answers.
GArrett Dworkin
LenexA | SenIOR
Ben Folds Five- Battle of Who Could Care Less. Its catchy,
and Id want to have a hip theme song.
Liz FrAnGer
MOunt PROSPect, ILL. | JunIOR
Treat Me Like Your Mother, by The Dead Weather. The
song is about detecting lies, and my TV show would be a
talk show where I could ask tough questions and get truthful
answers. Plus, it would make me seem like a hardass.
Drue SeLLS
OveRLAnd PARk | JunIOR
Elton John- Benny and the Jets. It would just make a great
opening song. I dig the piano part.
MAckenzie Price
OveRLAnd PARk | SOPhOMORe
Dayman, from the TV show Its Always Sunny in Philadel-
phia. Charlie is hilarious, and I have an uncle who looks like
Danny DeVito- no lie. If I had a show, they would both for
certain be in it.
LAuren GorDon
chAnute | FReShMAn
Does it have to be appropriate? If not, then Look Back At
Me by Trina. Its a jam.
JoeL coon
tOPekA | SOPhOMORe
Search and Destroy by The Stooges. Its just the frst thing
that came into my head. Analyze that.
LAurA weAver
ShAwnee | SOPhOMORe
The song I Wonder by Rodriguez. Its a nice, chill song
about the mental quandaries of people. That would introduce
a show about me.
//LIndSeY deIteR
KU Student Health Services

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MOVIE rEVIEw // I LOVE YOU PHILLIP MORRIS
> Hollywood hits, indie ficks and everything in between.
I Love You Phillip Morris is a love story a
pretty unusual one that seems to rely too
heavily on the main couples homosexuality. In
a lot of ways, the flmmakers give up on trying to
make a new, extremely engaging flm because
the two main characters are gay and isnt that
new enough on its own?
The flm centers around Steven Russell (Jim
Carrey), a real-life conman who escapes from
prison several times, much to the chagrin of
Texas state offcials. In prison he meets his
future lover Phillip Morris (Ewan McGregor), a
gentle man who Russell bunks with before be-
ing transported to another prison across the
state. Russell vows that he will get out of prison
soon and help Morris get released early so they
will never again be apart. However, unknown to
Morris, Russells days of scheming and conning
arent over and its only a matter of time before
hes caught again. The flm is based on an ac-
count of the real-life conman and his lover.
The flm does succeed through casting.
Carrey gives one of the best performances of
2010 as the instinctively tricky and truly de-
voted Steven Russell, and McGregor charms
the audience as the sweet object of Russells
affection. As stated, the flm does rest a lot
on the homosexuality of the lead couple. A lot
of scenes would be tired, clich and snore-in-
ducing in a heterosexual romantic comedy, but
the flmmakers feel like they can get away with
it. However, it is refreshing to see a real, live
gay couple represented in flm, and to see how
unapologetic and even celebratory Russell is
about his homosexuality. His many prison es-
capes are fun to watch, but the love scenes
tend to fall fat, much like a boring love poem
with all of the shes and hers changed to
hes and his.
// CHANCE CARMICHAEL
MusIc rEVIEw // SOft CIRCLE SHORE ObSESSEd
(POSt PRESEnt MEdIUM) > KJHKs guide to sonic consumption.
Hisham Bharoocha, who made a name for
himself while playing with insane noise rockers
Lightning Bolt and the equally abrasive elec-
tronic act Black Dice, is on his own with his
second LP under the pseudonym Soft Circle.
Much like his frst album, Full Bloom, Bharoo-
cha deviates greatly from the sounds of his
former bands with Shore Obsessed and strikes
out into a new territory that consists heavily of
danceable beats, actual lyrics to sing along to
and melodies that arent washed out by non-
stop drumming and other background noise.
Bharoocha takes his sound one step farther
with this project, which eliminates a lot of the
droning noise that his frst album relied on and
replaces it with a powerful dose of funk.
This album has plenty of highlights. Bharoo-
cha seems to free himself from his past and
unleashes an album full of tenderness, good
times and the sense that a brighter day is at our
doorstep. Album opener, First Time, which
reverberates and echoes brightly, starts the
record off with a bang but leaves the listener
with enough energy to still enjoy the rest of the
album. First Time establishes this sing-along
record. Bharoochas lyrics are not all that com-
plicated, hey love, hey lover/ hey lover hold
my hand now, but are sung with such emotion
that they will suck you into the song. Another
stand out is Treading Water, with its sultry
boy/girl duet and extremely funky synth lines.
Bharoocha has the ability to create something
catchy without resorting to typical pop or club
beats. Other stand out tracks include the bass
heavy Light Bright, the creepy headbanger
Reaper, and the song closest to Bharoochas
roots, Bonzer.
// ZACk MARSH

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