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remember having peer education groups come into my classroom once or twice a year throughout elementary school and speak to us about the dangers of smoking. I remember thinking that these students were the coolest kids in the world; all the women in the group had long, beautiful, sophisticated hairstyles, and all of the men were cute jocks. They just seemed to have their lives together. I wanted to be just like them. If they said dont smoke, I wouldnt smoke. It was a clever strategy, really, sending high school students into our class. When you are a kid, every older student seems like a god, a standard to live up to. They taught us to repeat the simple phrase smoking isnt cool, just say no. The gods spoke. I vowed to never smoke. Then I went through the obligatory rebellious phase where I just started questioning everything under the sun. I
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WhAT: kus dancing with the stars WhEN: 7 PM WhERE: kANsAs union, ballrooM Why yOu cARE: watch soMe of our very own
faMous Jayhawks dance the night away.
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WhAT: Mens basketball vs. texas WhEN: 8 PM WhERE: allen fieldhouse Why yOu cARE: because our teaM is caPable of
nights like last saturday night with Mizzou.
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WhAT: Jayhawks aMazing race WhEN: 11 aM - 4 PM WhERE: kansas union Why yOu cARE: ruMor has it, you can win an iPad.
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WhAT: free argentine tango oPen Practica WhEN: 8 PM - 10 PM WhERE: signs of life, 722 Massachusetts st. Why yOu cARE: take a break froM doing hoMework for
a free lesson in tango dancing.
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editor sss nadia iMafidon associate editor sss lindsey deiter designers sss eMily grigone, allie welch love sss sasha lund, aliza chudnow, rachel schwartz school sss allison bond, Megan hinMan caMPus + town sss kelsea eckenroth, John garfield, brittney haynes entertainMent sss kelsey ciPolla, rachel schultz, alex tretbar Play sss sara sneath, rachel cheon contributors sss Michelle Macbain, landon Mcdonald, lizzie Marx creative consultant sss carol holstead 03 01 12
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WhAT: cia inforMation session WhEN: 5 PM - 7 PM WhERE: visitor center Why yOu cARE: because it has been your dreaM
to work for the cia since you were a sMall child.
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WhAT: Poetry slur WhEN: 7 PM WhERE: Jazzhaus Why yOu cARE: take out your Mid-week frustrations
on stage with PerforMance Poetry.
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campus and town: what its like to... witness a drive-by shooting
A Topeka seniors evening stroll turned dangerous fast.
How to put together a sophisticated meal for those who cant tell a cabernet from cranberry juice.
are you a catch? tweet @Jayplaymagazine and tell us why, and you could be featured in catch of the week!
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Learning to love and forgive her sisters illness is one of lifes biggest challenges for one Jayplay writer.
Israel Nebeker, the bands lead singer, catches up with Jayplay before the group plays in Lawrence on Saturday.
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03 01 12
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The Hookup
Dear Michelle, Ive experienced a very strong smell sometimes when going down on a woman. What is a woman supposed smell like when I go down on them? Is there anything else that can leave that unpleasant odor on someone? Wondering Whats Wrong Dear WWW,
jonna ramos
hometoWn: overland park year: freshman major: occupational therapy interested in: men
Whats a deal Breaker When it comes to a guy? Body odor, or if hes a jerk. I also hate guys who makes stupid sandwich jokes. Like go make me a sandwich. So not a fan of those. What makes you a catch? Well, Im fun and outgoing, friendly and I am open to new experiences like rock climbing and going on road trips to different places. I love getting in the car and driving somewhere random. My favorite places to go are Branson, Mo. or Lake of the Ozarks. the first thing you notice in the opposite sex? Their smile. I like perfect, straight, white teeth. Best date experience? It would have to be Valentines Day my junior year in high school. My ex-boyfriend and I went to dinner, the movies and then went cosmic bowling. I spent all night hanging out with him and his family. It was great getting to spend the whole day with someone that I love. celeB crush? Chace Crawford. He plays a hot, mysterious, caring guy in Gossip Girl, and although he might not be like that in real life, I like to believe he is. ideal first date? I feel I am really traditional when it comes to the first date. Dinner and a movie. I dont want to do something crazy on the first date. So like a nice restaurant and a movie after. favorite thing to do on a friday night? Go out with the girls. favorite restaurant in laWrence? McAllisters because I am a sucker for their sweet tea. major turn ons? He has to have a nice personality and be kind. He has to be outgoing just like I am. He has to have a great smile, and be someone I can talk to. Also, he must have a sense of humor. Quote or saying you live By? This too shall pass. It just means that whatever situation youre in, whether its a fight with a boyfriend or drama with the girlfriends, things will get better and you shouldnt dwell on it.
The female vagina contains delicate natural bacteria that helps maintain the healthy and normal balance of microorganisms in the vagina. When this bacteria is disrupted or prompted to overgrow, the result can sometimes cause the foul odor you experienced. If the odor resembles a fishy smell, the culprit is likely a condition called bacterial vaginosis (BV). BV is often mistaken for a yeast infection or trichomoniasis because of the itching and burning sometimes accompanying vaginal infections. Along with the possibility of itching and burning, the most obvious symptom of BV is the fishy odor and grey discharge. Only a doctor can properly diagnose the condition, so never feel intimated or scared to encourage your sex partner to seek treatment for BV or any other vaginal infection. If left untreated, BV may increase a womans risk of pelvic inflammatory disease, pregnancy complications, post-operative infections and leave her susceptible to herpes, chlamydia, gonorrhea and HIV. Infections of BV are often caused by the following: -Multiple sex partners. -E. coli spreading to the vagina after anal sex. Always change the condom and wash the penis, mouth and/or hands thoroughly after anal play. -Heat and moisture. Wearing breathable, cotton underwear is important. Avoid tight, synthetic fabrics and thong underwear. -Poor health. Smoking, excessive caffeine and excessive alcohol consumption should be avoided.
-Use of an intrauterine device (IUD) or other insertable method of birth control. -Routine douching. Your body is extremely capable of filtering out toxins, expelling post-menstrual fluid, and maintaining bacterial balance. Douching will strip the natural bacteria from your vagina, causing vaginal infections to occur. Douching should be avoided. -Scented or treated toilet paper, fragrant personal hygiene products, and any soap with dyes and perfumes.These should be avoided. According to the Center for Disease Control (CDC), although BV will sometimes clear up without treatment, all women with symptoms should be treated to avoid complications. Male partners generally do not receive treatment, but BV may spread between female-to-female sex partners. The CDC goes on to list two common antibiotics used to treat BV: metronidazole or clindamycin. Remember, although treatment may cure the infection, BV can recur after treatment. Take care in exercising the precautions listed above. A woman should be in tune with her body. This means looking at, touching and smelling her vagina to monitor any changes. Grab a hand mirror, lay down on a towel in your bathroom or bedroom, and inspect in and around your vagina for any visual changes. A healthy vagina will be void of any warts, cuts, sores, rashes, unusual discharge or foul odors. Finally, for you men. A woman will never naturally smell like flowers, fruit or perfume. She will have the natural and erotic scent of a woman. If you have a problem with that, youre not worthy of anything she has to offer.
michelle macBain, kansas city, is a graduate student in communication studies. she studied psychology and human sexuality at ku and the university of amsterdam. Email questions to michelle@michellemacbain.com
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//sasha lund
ight-hundred forty-five million people use Facebook, and like them, you have probably logged on once or twice. We use the popular social media website to chat with friends, play games or as Ashley Rodgers, a senior from St. Paul, Minn. puts it, keep track of people we might not otherwise keep in contact with. But as Rodgers and many other students know, your Facebook account can cause major problems with your significant other. A 2009 study concluded that Facebook led to increased jealousy in 19.1 percent of relationships. Vickie Hull, a marriage and family therapist at 1201 Wakarusa Dr., says Facebook is mentioned several times a day in her therapy room. The problem is not the site itself, but the trust problems that arise because of what gets shared on these sites without the partners knowledge, Hull says. She says the most common problems couples experience from social media are when one partner flirts with someone else on the website or reconnects with exes. With a 2008 study by Pew Internet and American Life Project finding that 22 per-
cent of Facebook members use the site to flirt, this problem could be more common than most people think. Reconnecting with an old flame is exactly what inspired Jason and Kelly Krafsky to write their book Facebook and your Marriage. Jason and Kelly, known as the social media couple, had been married for 14 years when they both created Facebook accounts in 2008. Soon after, Kelly informed Jason, who had friended ex-girlfriends, that she had added her first love on Facebook. After discussing it and deciding it brings up unnecessary issues, they both decided to unfriend their respective exes. As her and I were talking through what this meant, it opened up the door for us to say, Who are we friending? All of a sudden, youre brought into that persons life, Jason Krafsky says. Jason Krafsky explains that typically, what will start out as an innocent conversation over the Internet can often lead to a physical affair. People think they are just accepting a friend request and then they start com-
Vickie Hull, a marriage and family therapist in Lawrence, warns against some of the most common relationship problems that can arise from having a Facebook account:
Reconnecting with exes. Flirting with someone other than your partner. Sharing sexual photos with others. Publicly breaking up with someone online. Fighting publicly on Facebook. Getting back at your partner in a public way. Sharing personal information without your partners knowledge. Not facing the reality that social networking is public Nothing is private!
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Couples Advice:
// RACHEL SCHWARTZ When Jarrett Lies first met Nick Aguilar in sixth grade, she thought he was annoying and quiet. Nick, now a junior at Baker University, would always make fun of Jarrett, an Olathe junior. But the two became friends as they got older and attended the same junior high and high schools. Before high school, Nick only cared about soccer and his friends. Come high school, a stronger relationship began to develop. Jarrett and Nick soon started hanging out one-on-one. One snow day Nick came over to Jarretts house and from then on, they started dating. The two have been in a serious relationship now for more than four years. Nicks my best friend. We have fun together. Were in a serious relationship, but were not serious all the time, Jarrett says.
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other when they have problems with each other is very helpful to their relationship. It brings you closer because youre able to really learn how to work out issues. If
you confront your problems right away, it helps you know the other person better, Jarrett says.
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schOOL
Couples Advice:
// AlizA Chudnow
Get Involved:
AlternAtive BreAks
// Allison Bond comfort zone, Sitz said. Learning about the elderly population in America taught Sitz how much fun it is to meet people and hear their stories. Its incredible, Sitz says. These people are still so full of life. Sitz is now the co-coordinator for summer breaks with Bailey Reimer. The education piece of Alternative Breaks speaks most to Julia Barnard, codirector of the program with Stephanie Jian. Barnard says its different from any class she has taken at KU because the Alternative Break program has an emphasis on lifelong service commitment. One of the goals for the program is to have students walk away with a commitment to service, whether incorporating it into their career or daily life. Its very fulfilling, Sitz says. You begin to think, I could have been sitting on the couch, doing nothing, watching Jersey Shore, or I could be here helping people. When Hannah Sitz, a sophomore from Andover, went to Atlanta, Ga. during the winter break of 2010 for a KU Alternative Breaks program, she spent three days snowed inside an Atlanta hotel room because of a blizzard, which hadnt occurred in Atlanta in the previous 16 years. Sitz and six other students then spent the last two days of their trip working with the Atlanta Center for Self Sufficiency, working at a professional clothing closet and helping people with computer internet resume skills, and at Caf 451, serving coffee and pastries at a cafe which helps people with mental and physical disabilities. The upside to that is we got to know each other in our group very well, Sitz says. Alternative Breaks offers several different programs to students looking to travel around the nation for hands-on-service opportunities. Dedicated to increase awareness about issues such as health, education and environment, each trip focuses on a combination of service and learning experiences. Trips are offered during winter and spring break, summer, and weekends to more than 350 students each year. You go to do service, thats the emphasis, but youre learning new things and doing new things as well, Sitz says. You dont know what youre going to learn. Sitz also traveled to Nashville, Tenn., for a winter break trip in 2011. The trip included a lesson in Wii bowling with an 80-year-old woman named Margaret as Sitz learned to work with the aging population in a group called Fifty Four. At first I was like, Why would I want to go do that? But then I pushed myself out of my
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Katie Russell, a freshman, and Marlon Addisons, a junior, relationship started off as a summer fling. Katie attended Marlons high school graduation party with a few friends, not expecting anything but a fun night out. When the two crossed paths at the party, they instantly gravitated toward each other. During that summer, their relationship blossomed. They discovered a shared love of concerts and went to see The Fray together as their first big date. By the time summer came to an end, Katie and Marlon, both from Olathe, decided they wanted to continue their relationship even though Marlon was going away to college and Katie was still in high school. dAting tip: Keep it fun. Its good to know why you fell in love with each other in the first place. It has been two years and four months since that fateful summer night when Katie and Marlon first met, and their relationship is stronger than ever. Marlon transferred to KU from Johnson County
Community College, so this year they are experiencing KU for the first time . We walked around campus together, and found our classes, Katie says. It was fun having that beginning college experience together. Fun is a word these two use often as they are constantly venturing down Mass. Street searching for a new restaurant to try or going to different concerts together. Every Monday morning they send each other a text with a list of reasons they love each other, and to recap the previous week or weekend they shared together. Its important to continue to remind one another why we are together and what we love about each other, Katie says. On our two year anniversary, I framed two pictures of us and a list of promises that I made for our relationship. Whatever happens in the future, the couple made a promise to love each other and understand each other, two things off their list they plan to continue to do forever.
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winter 2011 Alternative Break trip to give kids the world in kissimee, Fla. give kids the world is a theme park for terminally ill children.
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//megan hinman
//allison Bond
Mom always tells you to get plenty of sleep and drink lots of fluids when you get a cold. But have you heard how these home remedies can help you overcome cold symptoms?
agree that getting plenty of sleep and drinking the recommended eight glasses of water or juice a day are the most effective ways to over the common cold.
Eating chicken noodle soup when sick is nothing new; it makes us feel better. But can chicken noodle soup really help with cold symptoms? Physician Stephen Rennard, and University of Nebraska Medical Center researcher, conducted a chicken soup study that looked at the effects of Grandmas soup on the common cold. While colds are the result of a viral infection in the upper respiratory tract that causes inflammation, Rennard found that eating chicken noodle soup could help reduce inflammation through the slowed movement of neutrophils, the white blood cells that trigger inflammation, thereby reducing cold symptoms. Chicken noodle soup can also increase hydration and is nutritional. However, Rennards Grandma soup is a recipe that includes chicken, onions, sweet potatoes, parsnips, turnips, carrots, celery and parsley. Not all chicken noodle soup recipes may offer the same effects.
t seems I am constantly sick throughout the winter. Each winter across campus I see the thinning of classroom attendance and constant coughing from those who tough it out. The common cold cant be cured but people everywhere have tried different home remedies to help with symptoms. My mom used to make me a Hot Toddy every time I was sick, Alicia James, a senior from Topeka, says. It had whiskey, tea and honey all mixed in and it broke up whatever was in my chest and even cleared the nose. While home remedies like these may help with cold symptoms, experts still 03 01 12
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There is no direct medication to cure a cold. However, other medical cold remedies could help with symptoms. Congestion and coughing can be treated with a decongestant or antihistamine, says the American Lung Association. Taking Vitamin C supplements can also help boost the immune system. The Mayo Clinic warns on their website though, to remember that cough and cold medicines wont make a cold go away any sooner.
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A Western prActice With virtuous teAchings
Falun DaFa
// megAn hinmAn holding your arms in a circle at a 45 degree angle up and away from your body for several minutes, but Kara doesnt notice because it improves her tolerance and the meditation makes her feel comfortable and peaceful. Some schools, like Columbia University, have practice sites and organizations for people who want to practice together, though Falun Dafa is a very personal exercise. There used to be a group at KU, but it ended when many of the involved students graduated. Because of this, Sophie and Kara join members of the community to practice at the United Way building, 2518 Ridge Court. Cat Howland leads that group and is a testament to Falun Dafas powerful benefits. In 2001, doctors told Howland that her heart would fail because of the pituitary damage and adrenal issues she had been dealing with for years. She had exhausted every remedy she could find when a friend recommended that she try Falun Dafa. Her chronic illness and the allergies she had since childhood were gone eighteen months after she began practicing. Everybody that practices has a story of how their body or mind changed, or both. Its just part of our experience, Howland says. Its real common to have incredible miracles happen. When Howland moved to Lawrence in 2003, she recruited her friend Joyce Mitchell to join her in practicing. I think any kind of meditation that people do is good. Youll get benefits. But with this practice, when you bring in trying to live by those principles of truth, compassion and tolerance, it takes you to another level, says Mitchell, who is able to maintain her stress levels from her hectic family life through practicing Falun Dafa. You end up seeing your behavior, and it gives you a means to change it. When the weather is nice, the group practices in a more traditional way outdoors at South Park, on Massachusetts Street between 11th and 13th streets. It is always free to practice Falun Dafa, no matter where you go. Similarly, all Falun Dafa-related materials, including books, music and DVDs, are free online at www. falundafa.org.
Be truthful, compassionate and tolerant. Sounds simple enough, right? Well, its easier said than done. Those virtues are the core of Falun Dafa, a Buddhist spiritual discipline that combines meditation and repeated exercises for an all-encompassing experience in Qigong, a category of Western health practices that includes Yoga and Tai Chi, but Yoga and Tai Chi dont teach the virtues, just meditative poses. Falun Dafa, which began in China in 1992, can improve mental and physical wellness by channeling, enhancing, purifying, circulating and strengthening energy, each of those actions with its own exercise. If youre able to find an inner peace, the practice may also improve your schoolwork. Sophie, a graduate student from China who has practiced Falun Dafa for about a year and a half, says she has
experienced great improvement in her schoolwork since she began the practice, among many other benefits. The more you practice, the more powerful your meditation will become, increasing your chances of seeing results. Im a person that is afraid of difficulties, especially assignments in my courses, such as write a paper, Sophie says. I always begin my projects near the deadline so I always have little time to finish it because I dont want to face the difficulties. I have a lot of anxiety. After practicing Falun Dafa, she has been able to face her challenges more confidently, with a good attitude and finish assignments on time. Another student who practices, Kara, a senior from China, has seen improvements in herself since she began practicing with her mother in China in 1997. Some of the exercises are difficult, like
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Q&a with:
Blind Pilot
//Kelsey cipolla
The past three years have been busy for Blind Pilot. In 2009, the band released its first album, a folksy blend of pop and indie rock that earned one of the top spots of Billboards digital album charts. The success led to appearances in clubs across the country, a spot in the Lollapalooza lineup and a performance on The Late Show with David Letterman. Late last year, the six-piece Portland-based band released their sophomore effort, We are The Tide, which theyre currently playing on tour. Catch them on Saturday, March 3 when they perform at the Granada. Until then, get acquainted with Blind Pilots songwriter and lead singer, Israel Nebeker.
Ryan (Dobrowski, drummer) and I met in college, and we both did a study abroad program together in England in a town on the coast of Cornwall. Its sort of a vacation destination and a big surfing town. There are lots of musicians playing music on the street. We just decided to do that. I had my guitar and he got together a sort of trash kit with a five gallon bucket and a cheese grater and bottles and a sketch pad. We loved meeting people that way, and it turned out really great. Then we finished school, and a few years later we ran into each other in Portland. We wanted to do just a regular bike trip, and it just seemed to make sense, since weve done it before, to bring our instruments and fund the trip that way.
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from left to right, luke yolstie, Katie claborn, ryan dobrowski, israel nebeker, ian Krist and dave Jorgensen are blind pilot. the indie-pop band will play the Granada saturday, march 3.
We had bike trailers. Ryan had his drum kit. He had this kind of cool system of nesting his drum kit, sort of like Russian nesting dolls. I had a guitar, so I had it easy. Our goal that time was to go from the Canadian border to the Mexican border. We made it as far as San Francisco. We went to the museum of modern art there and when we came back, our bikes were stolen. That was the end of the trip. It was the greatest experience of my life, musically or not. We came back and recorded 3 Rounds and a Sound.
top album:
named for a woman of montreal, this band is creeping up charts all over the continent.
Of Montreals newest album, Paralytic Stalks, has a funky, jazzy and electronic vibe to its first few tracks. Listening on, the bands style is much more complex, featuring a flute, violin and steel guitar. Although its hard to pin down an exact style or genre, its clear that this album is a truly personal creation from songwriter Kevin Barnes as he reflects on emotions ranging from anger and self-hatred to thoughts on human existence and relationships. Its eclectic, but the album forces the listener to get immersed in the music and experience it along with the musicians. You just want to dance silly when you hear them, says Claire Pedersen, a sophomore from Omaha, Neb., majoring in graphic design. Their vocals make you feel as though youre in someones backyard for a private concert in the summertime. The band recorded Paralytic Stalks, its 11th album, in Barnes home studio in Athens, Ga. For the first time, Barnes worked with session musicians, or musicians hired just for a certain period of time, while recording. Many of them are now touring with Of Montreal. Barnes made a strong connection with session musician Zachary Colwell, who arranged all of the brass and woodwind pieces for the album, and as a result became the newest member of the band. Kevin Chael, a senior from Olathe majoring in mechanical engineering, has seen the band in concert. He says they use props and costumes to help engage the audience and play their music videos on a screen behind the stage. It all told a vibrant story, Chael says. They were pretty trippy. Unfortunately many fans in Kansas will have to wait to see the album performed live. Although currently on tour in the United States, the performance closest to Lawrence is in Oklahoma City on March 12.
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We have a tour bus, but I dont know if its a legitimate tour bus. Its an old crown school bus from the 70s. We gutted the whole thing and put in wood floors. I love touring in that thing because it feels like home.
We were going for a different sound this time. I definitely write songs that I dont think are anything like Fleetwood Mac, but I was listening to a lot of Fleetwood Mac at the time and I thought it would be a fun thing to try to make it more of that rich or classic sound. The last one was so sparse, and I think that was the strength of it. We didnt want to do the same thing again, so we kind of did the opposite.
youve played in lawrence before. wHat was your impression of tHe city?
It was amazing. Really, truly amazing. We see a lot of big towns and we see a lot of small towns, but I remember just having the most incredible day ever there. We went and got this incredible Mexican food. There were like these two women from Africa and they got up and started dancing in the restaurant. I was like, This is an incredible place. We met a lot of really good people.
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SMOKE SIGNALS
smokers are everywhere. what Drives them to light up?
n the especially warm, recent sunny days, anywhere from five to 20 people can be seen on Wescoe beach. There are guys in plaid shirts and tight jeans, girls with piercings and patterned tops, guys in polos and Sperrys, and girls in long tops with leggings and Uggs. Some are sitting down reading, some are standing in groups talking, and some are on their phones. They have cigarettes in hand, smoking them quickly before they run off to class, or just relaxing, taking long, slow drags.
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Despite the warnings on cigarette packs, in TV commercials and in school throughout childhood, more than 15 percent of college students smoke regularly, according to a study conducted in spring 2011 by the National College Health Association. Other non-habitual smokers include people who smoke when they drink, stress smokers and social smokers. More than 1,000 people 18 years or younger start smoking each day. There are a plethora of reasons people start smoking, and once you start smoking, it can be very hard to quit. This is in part because of the addictive chemical known as nicotine. Addictions MAny PersonAlities As many know, nicotine is the main addictive property in cigarettes. According to the National Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA), nicotine increases the amount of dopamine, a neurotransmitter that increases happiness, released in the brain. These effects wear off after just a few hours, so some continue smoking to keep achieving this feeling. If your smoking becomes regular, your brain will want that reward dopamine gives you, resulting in addiction. smoking helped her acclimate to the new environment and make friends. Smokers stick together. You go outside and, even at bars here. You meet people when youre smoking, Hale says. Hale says smoking relaxes her when she is stressed out, and she also enjoys smoking after she eats. Since she smokes a pack each day, Hale says she smokes just about anywhere, anytime. She even smokes when shes drinking coffee in the morning. Of course I smoke when Im out drinking. I definitely smoke more then, Hale says. She doesnt mind that she has to go outside to smoke, but does enjoy places, such as casinos, where you can smoke inside. All other public places like restaurants, bars and taxis are now under a smoking ban, since the Kansas Indoor Clean Air Act was passed in 2010. sMoking sociAlly More students consider themselves social smokers than habitual ones like Hale. More than half of college student smokers are considered social smokers, according to the American Lung Association, which
More than half of college student smokers are considered social smokers, according to the American Lung Association.
Brittany Hale, a senior from Singapore, started smoking when she was 14 years old, because her friends were smoking and it just went along with drinking. In Singapore, the legal drinking age is 18, but Hale says the bars arent strict and let younger people in. Since Hale became addicted, she kept smoking even after her mom caught her and disapproved. In one year, she went from smoking four cigarettes each day, to half a pack, to a full pack each day. When Hale first came to KU, she says
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There are complete smoking bans on more than 650 college campuses in the U.S., according to American Nonsmokers Rights Foundation.
ence withdrawal symptoms. These are greater for people who have smoked longer or more often. While she knows smoking is bad for her, Giselle says there are certain times that she just wants to smoke. Like Hale, smoking on campus helped Giselle make friends when she first came to KU. Smokers are pretty social, says Giselle, and talking about cigarettes or bumming from others are great ways to start conversations. Smoking is also a great way to take a break when studying for long hours. Youre literally stepping outside and away from your work. I have a chance to just get away, be by myself or chat for a minute. I can just clear my thoughts and get back to work. It gives me some motivation, Giselle says. SmokeleSS School campuSeS Since Giselle enjoys taking smoke breaks on campus, she says she would be angry if KU banned smoking, but she doesnt really think it will happen. She had the experience of being on a college campus with a smoking ban when she went to Johnson County Community College for an artist lecture. She and her friends went outside for free food and to smoke, and she was surprised when the security guard told them they couldnt smoke. There are complete smoking bans on more than 650 college campuses in the U.S., according to American Nonsmokers Rights Foundation. And while smoking bans and restrictions dont prevent all smokers from smoking, according to a study from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, they do drastically cut down cigarette use. Despite this, Giselle says a ban at KU wouldnt stop her from smoking and she doesnt think it would stop others either. People are going to do what theyre going to do. There are hidden places where I could definitely go to smoke. And if youre there all night like I sometimes am, youre not really going to worry about someone trying to catch you, Giselle says.
StreSS-relieving Smoking Jackie Sewell, Andover senior, grew up in a household where her mom, one of her brothers and both sisters smoked. Sewell says she didnt think of smoking as bad though, until her teachers and D.A.R.E. officers started saying things like Smoking is really bad and Anyone who smokes is a bad person. These statements confused Sewell. She had never heard smoking was bad and, as she says, she thought, My mom is awesome. She smokes. I dont understand.
Quitting Qualms
Thinking of quitting smoking? Here are some professional and peer tips to help you get started. A Five-Step Guide from the Center for Disease Control: 1. Get Ready: Set a quit date, remove cigarettes and ashtrays from your home and car, and, once you quit, dont even smoke one more puff! 2. Get Support and Encouragement: Tell family, friends and even try counseling to help keep you in check. If your friends or family
smoke, ask them to not smoke around you. 3. Learn New Skills and Behaviors: Distract yourself with walks or talking to friends, and reduce stress by taking a hot bath or reading a book. 4. Get Medication and Use it Correctly: For a list, look to see the seven approved by the U.S. Food and Drug Administration. 5. Be Prepared for Relapse or Difficult Situations: If you relapse, you can always just try again. Beware of situations involving alcohol and other cigarette smokers.
Some evidence, including that from a 2008 study by the Pew Research Center, shows that smokers actually experience more stress than nonsmokers.
The message got to her and she became anti-smoking. Then, she says, once she was 19, she decided, Hey, why not? At the time, she was going through a lot of emotional distress and thought smoking might help her because it seemed to help her sister deal with stress. Sewell started
out just smoking about two cigarettes each week and now smokes about seven cigarettes a day. Whether or not smoking actually decreases stress is unclear because of conflicting research. Some evidence, including that from a 2008 study by the Pew Research Center, shows that smokers actually experience more stress than nonsmokers. In the study, of those who smoked, half said they often experienced stress, while only 30 percent of nonsmokers said they often experienced stress. According to the study, this could be a result of the anxiety and cravings in between cigarettes that the body develops over time. Other research points to cigarettes as a stress reducer. Information from the Cleveland Clinic says that while smoking increases stress on the body, it lessens emotional stress. This is because of the mood-altering components of nicotine. Sewell is one of those smokers who feel that smoking helps decrease their stress. It just makes you feel better. After you do a bunch of work, youre like, Yeah. Cigarette. Awesome, Sewell says. Sewell does plan to quit smoking, but says she isnt ready yet, because smoking is something she enjoys. She plans on quitting by the time she is 25. I figure when Im done with school and get my life together with a job and such, I wont need to smoke anymore. Im still in my phase with my determined time frame, Sewell says.
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Some films are noble failures; wellmeaning attempts to entertain that simply fall short for any number of reasons: contrived dialogue, miscast performers or the overreaching ambition of an unproven director. Then there are movies whose stunning bouts of ineptitude seem almost deliberate. The aggressively odious anticomedy This Means War is an interminable bore for men, an offensive chore for women and a sleazy, contemptuous affront to the intelligence of audiences everywhere. Like the satanically begotten hate child of Mr. and Mrs. Smith and Twilight, director McGs newest cinematic booby prize features Reese Witherspoon as a scheming, vacuous strumpet who decides to break up the worlds most bro-mantic pair of super-spies to prove shes not a scheming, vacuous strumpet. The two buddies shes simultaneously dating (Tom
Hardy and Chris Pine) both work for the CIA, and once they find out whats going on, both seem to have zero qualms about illegally tapping her phone and installing cameras around her apartment with the creepy/kinky intention of watching each other score. Despite the acting talent involved, none of these characters resemble anything other than shallow, self-involved idiots. They all act and talk exactly the same, and their actions only make sense when serving the whims of the vapid-fire screenplay. The generally likeable Witherspoon trades in her usual sunny demeanor for the ditzy, screeching neurosis of a Katherine Heigl character. Pine, known for 2009s Star Trek reboot and not much else, succeeds in crowning himself King Douche in a movie full of hardy contenders. And speaking of Tom Hardy, what
is the future villain of The Dark Knight Rises doing slumming in a sloppy subcomic stinker like this? Let me be clear: I would never hate a film simply because its a romantic comedy. Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind is one of my all-time favorites. Ill admit to liking Easy A better than most of The Kings Speech. But like my beloved horror genre, the rom-com is often home to guttersnipe charlatans who delight in taking your money and leaving you with a cynical septic stain in the place of a quality motion picture. And theyll have no reason to change their ways until movies like This Means War quit turning a profit. So do your part and steer clear. Trust me, youll smell this one coming.
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Nest, Jan. 2010. that day i got a haircut and my mom had sewn feathers onto my sweater because i begged her to and she was nice because i am bad at sewing.
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//brittney haynes
Tellers is a World Cuisine restaurant and bar located at 746 Massachusetts St. Owner Tom Wilson and general manager Philip Wilson provided these 10 facts about the establishment, which has been open since 1992.
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The building that now houses Tellers was built in 1889 and was originally known as Merchants Bank. In 1930, the bank was remodeled and renamed The First National Bank of Lawrence. In 1932, after checking into the Eldridge Hotel and staking out the bank for three days, Clyde Barrow and two other men robbed the bank, getting away with $33,000. It was their biggest job, and the first bank they robbed in a string of robberies by a group that would be infamously known as the Bonnie & Clyde gang. In 1970, the bank moved locations and the building was used by the KU Department of Theatre for rehearsals. The building underwent a $600,000 renovation in 1992 and was re-named Tellers Restaurant and Bar. The bathrooms in the restaurant are located in the banks original safe. There are two mores safes in the basement. Tellers has an apprenticeship program with the Johnson County School of Culinary Arts. The restaurant always has two apprentices on hand. The current executive chef at Tellers, Chef Patrick Chow-Yuen, trained with celebrity chef Gordon Ramsay from Hells Kitchen. He also opened a restaurant called Restaurant Gordon Ramsay in Chelsea, London, which was awarded three Michelin stars. Tellers uses two woodfired ovens and supports local food suppliers when possible. The restaurants fish comes straight from source, and the beef and chicken come straight from local farms and are hormone-free. The restaurant changes its food and drink menus four times a year to accommodate the seasons. The wall murals in Tellers were done by local artist, Stan Herd. The murals are all canvas and were only the second abstract works hed done at the time.
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//briTTney haynes
Weve all seen them the group of guys wearing khaki shorts and pastel button ups, the girls in leggings and Ugg boots, or the group of football players in red and blue sweats walking out the doors of Wescoe. So what drives students to dress the way they do? What influences their style? I decided to interview students with different types of style to get some insight. I was sitting in my American Literature II class when two guys walked in and sat by each other. The looked like twins. They had the exact same style, haircut, and even the same bookbag. It was hard to tell them apart and even my professor mixed their names up. Brett Crawford, a junior from Olathe, and Cameron Birdsall, a junior from Mission, met their freshman year smoking on the stoop in front of Hashinger Hall. After discovering Tumblr and with help from mutual friend Sean Derry, the two coined their style as what they describe as 1980s traditional Americana. Its not really about looking like friends, Birdsall says. Its about dressing like an adult. We dress to impress. We want to look grown up but still have a simple, understated look, Crawford added.
Its not hard to spot men in fraternities. Theyre pretty easy to see with their Sperry boating shoes, khakis and brightly colored polos. Ive always wondered if theyve had that style their whole life though. Ive worn polos for a while and I didnt know what dressing fratty was like until I came to KU, says Cullen
well-dressed. I want to be seen as a professional, as opposed to someone who just dresses in sweatpants, he says. Taryn Eby, a sophomore from Topeka, and Macey Hundley, a sophomore from Netawaka, are roommates but have completely different styles. Hundley describes her style as girl-next-door meets punk, while Eby describes her style as glamour
Ive just always taken a lot of pride in my appearance. I think its important to look professional and put together because people judge you based on your appearance.
-Stephanie Higinbotham
Moriarty, a freshman from Lansing. I wasnt into Sperrys or khakis every day of the week but a lot of the guys around here bothered me about it for awhile. I tried it out for a little bit and found out that I wanted to commit to it because I found out it was comfortable for me. Alec Swall, a freshman from Overland Park, went along with what Birdsall and Crawford said previously. I dress the way I do because I want to be seen as grunge. Sometimes I dress like a hooker, sometimes I dress like the girl next door, and sometimes I dress like a grungy little hippy. I came from a really small town where everyone wore cowboy boots and shit and I made it my goal to dress as differently as possible. I got made fun of in middle school for wearing Converse and then in high school I got made fun of for wearing Sperrys before they were all the
craze. I just like to be different, Hundley says. Eby says her style tends to have more of a lace and leather feel to it. I like to dress however I feel that day. Like if I feel really tired or depressed, I wear a lot of black. Which happens to be most days. I also like to take my own unique spin on the trends going on right now. Like black leggings, not a chance. But shiny, fake leather looking black leggings, hell yes, she explains. In her sorority, Stephanie Higinbotham, a sophomore from Andover, is the girl you go to when you need to borrow clothes. I remember in 7th grade my moms neighbor had a bunch of Vogues and Harper Bazaars she didnt want, and thats how I started my knowledge with fashion. From then on, Ive just always taken a lot of pride in my appearance. I think its important to look professional and put together because people judge you based on your appearance, she says. College students get a bad reputation for not caring about their appearance, but from what I gathered, looking puttogether is on their minds. Students may have different styles, but they do want to look good.
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//john gaRfield crimes committed and program eligibility. Their research follows participants over multiple years, tracking how many have returned to prison following periods of a year, year and a half and two years. In addition to the realities of sampling errors, Severson argues the qualitative issues that have been ignored thus far regarding other measures of the programs success: When the participants were in the community, did they contribute to the economy? Did they pay taxes? Did they provide support for their families? Did they adequately parent their children? Those are the important questions we should ask and answer.
those studied returned for new convictions. It is too early to say the program didnt work. Severson is co-authoring a piece to be published in the Journal of Offender Rehabilitation that argues that the program has been unfairly evaluated. Along with Severson are Kimberly Bruns, the project coordinator, Christopher Veeh, a KU Social Welfare graduate and doctoral student at the University of Denver, and Jan Hoon Lee of KUs Center for Research and Data Analysis. The group believes that the state is not asking the right questions, and that sampling methods may have caused statistical errors. Factors they say have been previously excluded include gender, type of
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professor: I dont wash my hands all the time so I have the immunity of a first grade teacher. girl: Some girls may find it attractive if a guy cries during the Notebook. guy: This guys body odor was like mashed potatoes and lime mixed with three-day old-dead rat. girl: Has your vehicle ever caught on fire? I am trained to use fire extinguishers. professor: You know what Im thinking right now? FML. girl 1: Have you ever had a buttery nipple? girl 2: A what? girl 1: My mom loves buttery nipples now that shes had one. guy: That would be the best thing to wake up to in the morning. girl: What? Your mom? professor: Now we have learned the history of the F word. Interesting. guy 1: Last night my toaster went off by itself. guy 2: Ghost toast! professor: Yes, I am giving you permission to research sex phone lines.
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KU stUdents and staff say what they are most looKing forward to in march. // rachel cheon
KaleB weaver senior Parsons sPanish major March Madness, spring break, and for winter to be dead. Also, a trip to Joplin, Missouri to help with relief efforts.
mcKenzie shUlte freshmen overland ParK film major March Madness, St. Patricks Day and spring break. I need a break.
emma dolPhin freshmen edina, minn. Biochemistry major Probably spring break and getting closer to summer.
Bo zhao soPhomore Xian, china aec (aPPlied english center) stUdent Spring break. Im gonna go on short trip to Missouri to help with the tornado relief as a volunteer.
manogna thimma gradUate stUdent hyderaBad, india comPUter science major Spring break. Although during most of the spring break, I have to write my thesis and work on projects.
jae heUng ParK freshmen fort leavenworth comPUter engineering major The Japanese exchange students that visit in March.
charlie stocK senior toPeKa theater major Im looking forward to March Madness. Really watching enjoy as many games as I can.
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I was flying with Delta Airlines this winter, and they served a a salad with lots of bell peppers in it for one of the meals. It is rare to have such a good experience with in-flight meals for me, but this salad tasted so delicious that I decided to replicate the recipe at home. Based on this experience, I came up with a recipe that is easy and quick to make and budget-friendly for students. This salad does not require chopping lettuce and stays fresher for longer than a traditional lettuce leaf salad. The salad from the plane had various colored bell peppers, cucumbers and kidney beans. Put all of those ingredients in a bowl, along with tomatoes, and butter or lima beans. I added these additional ingredients because they are also cheap to purchase, and add more flavor to the salad. The only work required is dicing the vegetables, opening the canned beans and tossing the salad together before adding the dressing of your choice. It takes less than five minutes to make, and is good for your health. Bell peppers are a good source of vitamin A and C and kidney beans and lima beans are good sources of protein, according to nutritiondata.self.com. One cup of kidney beans give you 30 percent of your daily protein value. Ann Chapman, a registered dietician at KU Student Health Services, says that the vitamins in this dish help the health of our skin and hair and boost our immune system, while the protein helps us stay focused and gives us more energy. In other words, it is better to have more protein than carbohydrates. Having a piece of turkey will make you more alert than say, a bowl of pasta, Chapman says. For even more protein, you can put bacon or boiled eggs in this delicious salad. It is sweet, healthy and colorful.
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Wining and dining isnt just for your parents anymore. A wine pairing dinner can be a great way to relax and enjoy the company of friends in a more laid back setting than a bar or house party. I like having wine with dinner, because its a slower meal, says Taylor Dorman, a senior from Leawood, who first became interested in wine while studying abroad in Italy. If you find a wine you like, its not just a chug a beer kind of thing. You can just sit down and enjoy a whole meal together with friends. Whether youre new to pairing or not, this guide will help you build a foundation to have dinner matching success. There is one main guideline to keep in mind when it comes to menu planning and choosing the right wine to go with a meal. In general you want to match the color of the wine to the color of the protein you are eating. For example, you would want to pair a red wine with a steak, and a white wine with chicken or seafood. Lighter entres require a lighter wine that wont overpower the flavor of the dish. You need to consider the intensity of the flavors in the dish. If its a heavier dish, use a lighter wine. You wouldnt want to pair a really heavy wine with something like Alfredo sauce, the meal would be too rich, says Ryan Sciara, managing partner for Cellar Rat Wine Merchants, located in Kansas City, Mo. When it comes to red wines, you should compare flavors between the wine and the dish, rather than contrast the flavors like you would with a white. Something like barbecue thats smoky and spicy would need a wine that is deeper in flavor, like a shiraz, that has a lot of flavor, versus something like a French red wine thats much lighter, Sciara says. Although pairing red wines with red meats and white wines with white meats is good to think about when choosing a wine, it is not a concrete rule. As with any rule there can be exceptions based on personal preferences or different flavor profiles in a dish. Adding particular spices to a white meat item may warrant the use of a red wine because the spices may be too over the top for certain white wines to handle, says Leo Dickson, the Wine Guy for the Culinary Center of Kansas City, located in Overland Park. The same applies with certain red dishes. If you were enjoying steak tartar lightly seasoned and tossed in an extra virgin olive oil or a little clarified butter, a rich buttery California chardonnay would pair well, he says. Flavors of the food may lend themselves to bending rules, but personal preferences can also influence wine choices. Some people just dont like red wine so they will always choose a white and vice versa. Wines range in flavor from very sweet to very dry or tart. Those who arent as familiar with wine may like sweeter whites to begin with and work their way to drier reds. Wine is something you have to get used to before drinking really dry wines, says Emily Franke, a senior from Austin, Texas, who prefers wine to any other alcoholic beverage. I would recommend starting with a sweeter white like a pinot grigio and then moving to a tarter one like chardonnay, and then it is easier to adjust to a red, Franke says. The important thing if you dont have much experience with wine, is to just try things out and find one that you enjoy. Whether you have a lot of experience pairing wine with food or none at all, a great evening with family or friends can be just a bottle away. Have fun with it, have everyone bring a bottle of his or her favorite wine, or a food to share. Even on a college students budget you can find a nice bottle of wine for $15.
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//Rachel cheon
Angeline Song, junior from Los Angeles, says she put on about 10 pounds in one semester as a result of snacking on fast food and going out to eat more than cooking at home. She decided she needed to lose weight and get her healthy body back before going back home to California for the break. She chose to do a juice fast, in which she replaced meals with beverages such as smoothies or fruit juices. She drank lots of fruit drinks such as Odwalla Superfood drinks, and also made her own smoothies. This gave her the opportunity to experiment with many types of smoothies, but her favorite recipe is one she calls, brain boost smoothie. I saw the recipe from magazine and tweaked it a bit. I call it brain boost smoothie because of the fruits that go in the smoothie are known as brain foods, Song says. Two main ingredients are blueberries and bananas. Staci Hendrickson, dietician at Healthy Balance, Inc., 535 Gateway Drive, says blueberries are known as superfruits because they are packed with antioxidants, which are especially good for the brain. She says blueberries and bananas are a very good source of glucose, which is a good, steady source of energy for the brain. Our brain needs lots of sugar. Its the brains favorite fuel, Hendrickson says. This doesnt mean you should snack on candy all day to fuel your brain. Fruits tend to be more sustained source of sugar, while a pack of skittles would give you lots sugar quickly, but also a crash later, Hendrickson says. To make the smoothie, blend together 1 cup apple juice, one fresh ripe banana, cup frozen blueberries, cup frozen raspberries, cup of vanilla yogurt and four ice cubes. This makes two servings.
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//aliza chudnow
Aliza is learning to let go of her resentment and to embrace her big sister.
school in Vermont her last two years of high school to help her manage these issues. Id seen her in the hospital before, but not like this. Once I got home that night, I began to sob. As I continued to replay the days events in my head, my tears turned to anger. I was 14. I spent my life admiring my sister, looking up to her. This was not supposed to happen. My sister was supposed to be my protector. She was supposed to show me the ropes of high school and give me advice that only an older sister could give. I vowed that after I got all my tears out, this would be the last time I allowed myself to be sad over her. She was no longer sissy to me. Six weeks later, my sister was released from the hospital with an official diagnosis: schizoaffective disorder. There are plenty of official definitions of the disorder, but all I knew was it made her a complete mental case. Numerous times during the next four years, I opened up the pantry in our kitchen and saw her sitting there, yelling at me to shut the door before they took her away. Or heard her screaming at the top of her lungs that she was going to kill herself, while Id wrestle her to the ground after she attempted to grab a handful of pills. My home life was in constant chaos. The crazier she got, the more I hated her. At times my anger got the best of me. I would flip her off, or call her a mental case to her face. My only escape was school. There I was normal; happy even. From about 11th grade on, I spent most of my time at my friends houses, yearning to be anywhere but my own. I sometimes even caught myself fantasizing about being in their families. I would eat family dinners with them, and enjoy their family movie nights. But at the end of the day, I had to go back to my house. For the longest time I completely resented that. It wasnt until the end of my senior year when I finally cracked and cried to someone other than my blanket about my sister. Her illness had gotten really bad, so my parents decided to move her to an assisted living home in Michigan, where people with disabilities like hers lived. Since her diagnosis, things were never the same with my sister and me. I learned to avoid her completely or give her one-word answers when I was forced to talk to her. That night when she said bye to me, I gave her a small hug, (probably the first time we hugged since that day in the hospital). I almost lost it. Once she was gone, I started to hyperventilate. The past four years I had treated her like complete shit. I just couldnt wrap my head around the fact that she was sick and didnt do any of this to herself. I immediately picked up the phone and dialed my best friend Christies number. As soon as she answered, I started sobbing. My friends knew about my sister, but I never really talked about her. When they did bring her up, I just sort of laughed her off, so crying to Christie was a big step for me. I sobbed over the phone with her for hours, and she sat on the other end, not reassuring me that everything was going to be okay andnot telling me what I wanted to hear. Instead she just listened to my sobs until they subdued. Finally she spoke: Your sister still loves you, you know, and I know you love her too. That was almost four years ago. My sister is now back in Dallas. She is doing a lot better, attending community college classes and working with my dad. As for me, well, I have made amazing friends at KU, but none of them know this side of my life. For the longest time I was ashamed of my sister. When I came to college, I realized I didnt have to tell anyone about her, and as time went on, it got harder and harder to talk about her with people. I blocked the past out of my memory. I have always had fears of people judging me, and I never wanted other peoples pity by telling them a sob story. But this is me. Im not perfect. As much as I fantasized about that perfect family, my family is not perfect. For my 13th birthday my sister gave me a ring, which I have worn every day since. I constantly look down at my ring, and it brings me back to years ago when we stayed up late watching American Sweethearts or played cooking show at our grandmas house. Sometimes I lie awake at night thinking about who my sister would be if she had never gotten sick, who I would be. Then I realize there is no use looking back. As hard as it is, I have slowly started to remind myself that it is time to let go of the past. Before its too late, I know I need to form a relationship with the person she is now; still my family, still my sister.
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walked into the psychiatric ward of the Dallas Childrens Medical Center, immediately searching for my 17-year-old sister. I scanned one face after another, trying to locate her familiar shiny, dark hair, bigtoothed smile and bright green eyes. When I finally found her balled up in a corner, she was hardly recognizable. Her hair was dried out, frizzy and looked days un-brushed. She had lost a good 15 pounds and her chapped lips were surrounded by sores. Her hands were a purple color and her fingernails were yellow, but what got me the most was her eyes. My sister has always had the most striking green eyes, full of energy and life.
When I looked into them that day all I saw was black, darkness. I knew that nothing with this picture was right. I had to get out of there. I began to shake and wanted to do nothing more than fall down on my knees and beg God for my big sister back. Instead, I sat there in silence. Moments later, she slowly made her way up to me, and whispered, You dont have to worry. They are coming to get me. My parents said my sister had a mental breakdown. When I saw her, I knew it was something more. In the past, shed dealt with anorexia and some behavioral problems and had been attending a special
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