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Tennis!
A Parent’s Guide to Experiential
Learning:
Tennis and the Game of Life
Introduction
Chapter 3: Sportsmanship
• Sportsmanship and Childhood Memories
• A Winning Attitude
• Etiquette and the Socialization Process
• Role Models
Conclusion
Acknowledgements
Introduction
my youth. But, I wasn’t good enough to play high school ball. One
day, my father came out to watch me play, and once again noticed I
was warming the bench. He said, “Jimmy, you need to find a sport you
can play for the rest of your life. I played handball as a kid. Why don’t
you try tennis.” So, my sister and I bought two Wilson T-2000’s during
the first tennis boom in the mid-1970’s, and the rest, as they say, is
realized just how much fun the game is. Just hitting it back and forth,
chasing after that fuzzy yellow ball in a rectangle for hours on end,
whatever the weather was incredibly fun! What a truly amazing game
and activity tennis is. I’ve met so many great people because of the
game. I played throughout high school and college, stopped play for a
much joy, and I hope I’ve amply expressed that joy to the thousands of
students that I’ve worked with worldwide over the last 20 years. I hope
you’ll find a nugget or two of wisdom in this book that will be the
catalyst to show your child just how wonderful this game is, now and at
with your child. That’s right! There are coaches who will tell you that
tennis is a very difficult game, that it will take years to learn, and that
you and your child will need to take hours and hours of lessons to
improve. That may be true if you have some seriously lofty goals, but
if your interest is to learn and play tennis for fun, as a social outlet, and
as a great way to spend an hour or two of family leisure, then this book
for your child, there are a number of books and coaches that can help
you. The premise of this book is to show you that tennis is something
you can learn and play simply and easily, then teach to your child, and
have fun during the process. We’ll provide you with the tools you’ll
provide your child with a healthy, safe, fun lifestyle for the rest of their
lives. Remember, you are the most important role model for your
child. Providing them with the gift of tennis will be something that you
fantastic and incredible tool. But, it has a sinister side to it. We all
know about the dangers of the Internet, but what about those dangers
you really don’t see until the habit is ingrained. Child obesity is well on
academic pursuit and career they choose. Tennis offers a lifestyle that
choose, competition. If they get the “tennis bug”, they’ll find a very
large circle of friends who will share their passion, providing them with
a second family! There are few, if any sports that can lay claim to this,
adult’s “prime” years. Many players in their 80’s and beyond enjoy the
We retain:
EXPERIENTIAL LEARNING!
way to present tennis to them. This holds true of children without any
your family members, and enjoying the process. Each time you go out
to play, you’re re-creating that great experience you had the week
and your child improve. When you don’t set any limitations, and you
When the mistake is repeated, then a correction can be made, but self-
facilitator, you, the parent, need to understand the ABC’s, then present
have shown me that in general, boys lose interest when they have to
listen for long periods, and if girls haven’t been exposed to hand-eye
sports like tennis, they may be more self-conscious about their initial
word facilitate is from the French word, facile, to make easy. So, let’s
make tennis easy, and show you some really simple exercises that will
be fun for both you and your child. Tennis is F-U-N! F represents your
of the exercises because it’s about Us! Finally, N represents the most
is a series of 5 simple but effective exercises you and your child can
experience together, for just 15-30 minutes, 3 times per week, for 4
effect, which will quickly provide you and your child with skills to allow
you play tennis together. Remember, you must be familiar with the
Exercises before you take your child out, so review them, and if you
now one of the most popular sports in the world, making a comeback
that hasn’t been seen since the mid-1970’s. During this time, I
under pressure.
As for courteous relations, it’s imperative that your child learns to treat
you and others with respect on the court, and off the court. That holds
true with his or her future “rivals”, on and off the court. The most
most are, whether they admit it or not!) may just be the “graceful
or an adult league match, you may be a bit surprised to find that grace
liken it to cheating on a test; you may get that A, but you didn’t earn it
honestly. The process is necessary for the result, win or lose. There
are no shortcuts! Tennis teaches you and your child patience and
preparation for the rest of their lives, no matter what they decide to be
and do.
My Dad was my hero as a kid, and he still is. He was a great athlete,
but I felt good about the last few innings. My Dad didn’t wince, walk
away, or scream at me. He told me after the game how proud he was
that I hung in there, despite our team being utterly thrashed. That
but this is still my all-time favorite. I recommend you read this book,
then when your child reaches his or her teens, give them a copy with
your thoughts. My Dad’s note in the book reads “Jimmy, learn from
losing. Be proud but considerate when winning. May you win all the
“big ones’ in your life, and learn from all the “little ones.” Thanks for
become what we think about, and our attitude is the catalyst. If there
is one word that comes to mind when I think of the great past and
present players of all time, it’s their on and off-court attitude. Bjorn
never rattled him. He didn’t allow distractions to enter into his mind.
But, it wasn’t always that way. He was, at a very early age, given a
contemplating his tennis fate, and chose to control his emotions and
decision to control his temper, his attitude provided him with the
professional players in the history of the game. Borg treated his wins
and losses the same. He learned from losing, but was humble in
victory. His victories and defeats didn’t define his attitude. It was
no time slated in the academic calendar for etiquette. Mom and Dad,
of style.
Over the many years of working with youngsters and adults, I find that
great way to take the pressure off, and enjoy learning a particular skill
with a fellow student. This provides your child with the opportunity to
Next, we will introduce you to Competitive games that will provide your
pressure.
from the F-U-N exercises you’re experiencing with your child. Again,
the games are designed to have a building block effect, so be sure not
game.
COOPERATIVE GAME 3:
NATURAL TARGET
Space: Mini-tennis area-service line to
service line.
Game: each player tries to hit each
other’s service line.
Purpose: to learn how to control the
racket so that you can land the ball
close to a specific target.
COMPETITIVE GAME 1:
1 BALL GAME
Space: Full Tennis Court
Game: Facilitator and Student begin on baseline and
play with only one ball. Player that hits ball into net
runs for ball, heads back to baseline, and starts next
point with a groundstroke. Point doesn’t count unless
4 balls are rallied first, including first ball.
Purpose: provides exercise for both players,
Reinforces clearing the net.
COMPETITIVE GAME 2:
KING/QUEEN OF COURT
Space: Full Tennis Court
Game: Facilitator and Student begin on baseline.
The designated King or Queen switch sides with their
Challenger when the Challenger wins two points in a
row. Switch sides and roles.
Purpose: develops patience as well as momentum.
COMPEITIVE GAME 3:
TUG OF WAR
Space: Full Tennis Court
Game: Each player starts at 5. Facilitator tries to get to
0, Student tries to get to 10. For each point won, they move
up or down the scale. If Facilitator wins 4 points in a row,
they have 9, but if Student wins next point, they move down
to 8.
Purpose: teaches players persistence and handling pressure.
COMPETITVE GAME 4:
SERVE AND RETURN PLAY
Space: Full Tennis Court
Game: Both the Facilitator and Student serve and return. The
point doesn’t count unless both the serve and return are in the
proper part of the court. The point counts upon hitting the
third shot. Play first to 10 as server and returner, then switch
roles.
Purpose: develops consistency and practice for the 2 shots that
begin the point in match play. It’s OK to make mistakes!
COMPETIVE GAME 5:
MATCH TIME!
Space: Full Tennis Court
Game: Both F and S play a set of tennis,
with regular tennis scoring. (See introduction)
Purpose: Teaches F and S about the scoring
system, prepares S for match play!
Chapter 5: The Game of Life
The 3 P’s-A 3 Legged Stool
If you’ve gone through this book diligently, and in the order that we
and review the exercises and games, and fill in those blanks. Like life,
PREPARATION
The first leg of the stool. John Wooden, considered one of the all-time
“Everyone has the will to win; few have the will to prepare.”
you get it right without having to think about the process. This is why
we asked you to not skip over the exercises, as they are designed to
POISE
takes time to handle pressure! Nerves are a part of life, and are
chapter 3 to reinforce this skill. It’s one that will take them through life
with less stress, and more enjoyment, if they can pursue the essence
major sporting event, and you’ll see poise exhibited time and time
again.
PERSEVERANCE
This is the third leg of the stool. The stool collapses without any of the
three firmly in place. I believe that PERSEVERANCE may be the most
important trait your child will ever learn from you. He or she may
never be a great player, but if you see to it that they complete the
exercises and games, whether you are “successful” or not, you will
have shown your child that when you start something, you need to
finish it, and finish it strong! Period. That’s a gift that will keep on
What’s the most important concept that we want you to get out of this
experiencing this game with those you care about most: your family!
Tennis is special, since the whole family can play, share in the fun and
truly aren’t many healthy activities that provide all of this. Keep it fun,
Remember, the less you teach and preach, and the more you let your
child experience and enjoy, the better the chance that they will stay
with the game well past their academic career. It’s up to you; we know
and it’s through making mistakes, and figuring it out with a gentle
nudge. I also want you to know that if you feel your child shows
resources.
Conclusion
We want to thank you for reading this book. I am both very much
appreciative and
grateful for the gifts that tennis has provided us over the years, and it
is our hope that we can continue to give back, so that the wonderful
legacy that tennis is can continue. It is not just up to the coaches and
teachers to provide your child with the gift of tennis, anymore than it is
and always will be, what most employers are looking for. Tennis
teaches naturally those skills that will prepare your child for a really
wonderful experience, both on and off the court. I wish you continued
Jim
James T. McGarry
Tennis Professional
fitstocks@gmail.com
Acknowledgements
I would be remiss if I didn’t acknowledge some very important people
in my life who taught
chose. Thanks, Mom and Dad. I miss you both very much. Next, my
the roller coaster of life took some strange turns. Thanks Sharon and
Brian. Finally, two coaches who had a profound effect on my life: Mr.
Annandale, Virginia. We played tennis for two years for fun and
this day. Thanks, Coach! I’d also like to acknowledge the mentorship
and friendship from a coach that not only raised my own game, but
showed me how to teach and coach, and really enjoy the process. Bill
Belser is a world-class circuit coach, and I owe a lot to his patience and
Jim
James T. McGarry