DAD! MOM! YOU CANT DIVORCE!

The kids are afraid to be left alone.

Azalia Faozanudin Higher- Intermediate 4

LBPP LIA Purwokerto 2013

IDEAS

FAMILY
FAMILY DYNAMIC
FAMILY'S MEMBER ROLE

CHILDREN'S ROLE ACKNOWLEDGMENT OF CHILDRENS ROLE

OUTLINE
A. Introduction

Thesis Statement Parents need their childrens consent to decide anything related to the divorce in order to give them proper protection. B. Body Paragraphs

1. a. Topic Sentence I Children are the consequences of the relationship between the parents, they have the rights to keep the tie well and fine. b. Supporting Details a) The family is created by the will of the spouse. b) The children are the result and prove of the relationship. c) The children have the important role as the part of the family. d) That important role should be enforced to provide and give them a comfort zone.

2. a. Topic Sentence II Children as the victim of the divorce which leads them to be out of line and face a hard life for being rebellious. b. Supporting Details a) Parents divorce is such a big shock for the children who are underage. b) The children who are immature still need the guidance from their parents. c) After the divorce, they will lose their guardian and will be in confusion over the custody rights.

d) Meanwhile, juvenile crime acts are mostly coming from the broken homes children. e) This is showing us, that the traumas caused by divorce will get the children as the victim.

3. a. Topic Sentence III Children should be given the rights of protecting themselves from the tangible harms of divorce. b. Supporting Details a) Children live as society, means they have equal rights of protection. b) The protection comes from themselves in form of acceptance and rejection. c) The mechanism will lead the children to have their own way of solving the problems. d) Also, mold a defense and further prevention of the divorces impact on children.

C. Conclusion

This mechanism will ensure that nobody will be at the stake of disadvantages. The mechanism will provide a good circumstance for both parties, where they will have considerations. For the kids, themselves, they will have strong protection in the case of divorce, which is caused by the acknowledgment of their consents, since they have the same rights of protection. It will also work on society in the form of the message given, that they have to protect the kids no matter what happens. The good kids now will create the good men later. The awareness of the roles in the family also will appear within the kids, themselves. In the end, it will slowly create a sustainable development in the society.

DAD! MOM! YOU CAN NOT DIVORCE!

The number of divorce in Indonesia increases for 70 percent in the past 5 years. That is what Badan Kependudukan and Kantor Agama stated. It was already more than 250.000 cases of divorce with a variety of background and factors. Here, we will not talk about those factors which causes a divorce, even it is not about how to keep the marriage to be a long-lasting relationship, but how these cases of divorce will not take and do harms to the individuals and the certain communities around. In this case, the children who are kids the children before the legal age, should be at the center of attention. Remembering, how they are being the closest parties with the spouse, having a special relationship morally. It cannot be neglected that this matter will have the kids to be the ones received the harms. The pre-divorce and after-divorce traumas will surely create pressure for the kids, physiologically. Moreover, the kids consent and opinions are not being acknowledged. Their demands are often being ignored only for the sake of the spouse. At the very last, the kids themselves will feel threatened. Therefore, the parents should be obliged to consider their childrens consent in order to decide anything related to the divorce, to pursue a proper protection for the kids. Firstly, a family is created by a strong bond which is the parents act as the main roles. The kids, themselves, appear between them as their love bloomer, cherish of the relationship. It means that the kids are actually the consequences of the special ties between the spouses, proves of the love, where they act as the legacy and dignity of the family. They are ones with important roles. Giving them chances and ways to decide, whether they should allow their parents to divorce is one of a wise action. They are born with a reason, when the reason is

going to be broken, they do have right to sustain and keep that fine. I believe, by giving them such a special treatment of giving their consent, the kids, themselves, will be pushed towards their own comfort zone, where they still have voices to be spoken and possess the rights of protection. Secondly, the condition of pre and after the divorce will be a time bomb for themselves as the kids. A lot of divorce cases bring to the way of the juvenile crimes, which is be done often by those broken-home kids. These facts actually show us that the trauma given by the action of divorce will jeopardize the attitudes and the morals of the kids. Just like we know, the system of divorce itself already feared these human, break their trust and give the shock. The fight over the custody rights also being something really sensitive towards this matter, as the kids will feel confuse to choose which one to follow. At this age, when they need ones to trust and to depend on, ones who protect and embrace them, ones who can be their guardian. By divorcing without even consider their consent, it will create the uneasiness, where they feel that theyve lost their guardians. Indirectly, this uneasiness will affect on how they behave, that mostly lead to the act of juvenile crimes, be the act to express their disappointment, have the bleak future on their own. Enforcing the rights to express their emotions through this mechanism, I believe this dark future will be prevented. Thirdly, during the time goes on, the kids are considered to be dependent human which is lead to the limitation of rights. People believes that actually at their ages, kids do not have such rights of defending themselves from particular harms, because they are weak and do not have power to counter the attack. But here, kids live as the society, blend on the culture and tradition, obey the norm and still being tied by the law. That is why, I strongly believe that they do have the rights to do such defense of protecting themselves from being a victim. The rights of defense will likely come out in the form of acceptance and rejection, which they have options whether to agree or disagree with the decision of their parents . I

believe nobody wants to be hurt, or even be a victim so do the kids. They have fears of pain, hurt, lost, alone and others that we do possess. Be the part of the broken-homes is already such a pain for them. By giving the opportunities to express their consent toward the divorce, it will create a comfortable circumstance where the parents and the kids will have consideration to each other and furthermore, be a defense for the harms done by divorce. By implementing this system, it will ensure that nobody will be hurt and take the harms of divorce. It will provide a good situation and such comfort place for the fragile kids who are still waiting for their own future. At the very least, it will mold awareness among the society, that these weak human need to be well-protected, by giving them enough affection and proper attention also by letting them have chances and fights against those that gain harms for them. The awareness itself will be built within the kids, that they also have responsibility in reconciling the whole family and take a part in familys future decision. In the end, it will mold a dynamic society.