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I
JUST
GOT
ANOTHER
ONE-STAR
REVIEW
ON
AMAZON.
This
one
really
hurts
because
the
article
contains
information
that
people
who
are
sexually
active
could
use.
I
wish
I
had
known
what
was
in
this
article
by
the
time
I
was
a
teen.
The
name
of
the
article
is
Lust,
Agape,
Philia,
and
Erotic
Love:
Meanings
in
Personal
Relationships.
Few
feelings
are
more
pleasant
and
powerful
than
lust.
How
many
young
people
have
had
conversations
about
the
delights
of
feeling
lust?
How
many
people
in
general
have?
As
I
said
in
my
summary
of
the
article
Who
doesnt
want
to
be
in
love
and
feel
safe
and
cherished?
While
most
people
want
this,
many
do
not
get
it.
Some
of
them
may
be
confused
about
the
different
kinds
of
love.
This
article
discusses
lust,
agape,
philia,
and
erotic
love,
the
main
types
of
attraction
we
feel
toward others. These ideas will guide people to make good choices. The ideas will help avoid heartbreak and life-long spiritual damage that arises when there is a mismatch between lust and agape. Lust feels wonderful, but when its disconnected from the other forms of love, acting on it is a crap shoot. The odds favor hurtful consequences. Erotic love, on the other hand, builds on agape and philia. It transform the mindlessness and joy of lust to the joy of erotic love. When this happens, the consequences fulfill dreams. . The information in this essay is especially important for young people who are about to become sexually active. I wish Amazon would set some standards for reviews. It seems that one-star reviews mean that the reviewers already decide what should be in the article before they read it. If authors do not meet reviewers' expectations, then these reviewers give one-star reviews. This is the one-star review of my article on lust, etc. This did not turn out to be as anticipated...clearly one not to get. Relationships are to be built on respect and trust if it is to be a lasting relationship. Actually, I discussed both respect and trust throughout the article, as well as the importance of promoting the well-being of others. Here is an excerpt from the article about trust. Building relationships of trust takes time. If you do hop in the sack without really knowing and trusting another, be prepared for a range of consequences. This is lust responding to lust, which is sometimes satisfying in the short and long run. Its a crap shoot, however. The odds favor hurt, regret, and guilt. I wish someone had told me that when I was 18. I probably would have needed to hear it periodically for many years. Its unfair to allow reviews that misrepresent articles and books.
Reviewers who are even-handed first try to understand what authors' purposes were, assess whether authors fulfilled their purposes, and then reviewers state what they think about the article in light of purposes and whether authors fulfilled their purposes. They are free to say anything else they believe is relevant. One star-reviews based on these guidelines are likely to be fair. How about it, Amazon? How about establishing some standards? One-star reviews are often unfair, say more about reviewers than what they review, and affect sales. Affecting sales is particularly sad when the information is hard to get and the usual information is destructive. This certainly is the case for the article on lust, etc. Few young people understand differences between lust, agape, philia, and erotic love. Lust is delightful. Lust feels the head with images of bliss. Lust promises ever-lasting happiness. Acting on lust is at best a crap shoot and at worst a disaster if lust is not also integrated with agape, philia, and erotic love.
almost 40 years. I studied human sexuality at the Catholic University of Louvain in Belgium. I have done research on healthy and unhealthy sexuality for almost 40 years. This review does not follow the minimum standard of first understanding the purpose of an article and then evaluating whether the author fulfilled the purpose. Then reviewers are free to give their assessments. This is yet another case where readers had an idea in their heads about what should be in an article. When the article does not met their expectations, click on one-star. What is sad about this is that young people rarely are prepared when they start thinking about becoming sexually active. The information in this article could help many people. The one-star review will influence many people to ignore the article. I could be sarcastic say how delighted I am that the grandchild enjoys the Kindle. Maybe the grandchild will buy and read the article. I hope granny doesnt check the childs Kindle.
took me many hours to gather the information from interviews and case records and more hours to think about it and write it up. The general public knows little about the lives of children like Marly. If the general public did, they may pressure politicians to develop more humane policies. I find this review to be narrow-minded and destructive to the well-being of children. I wish Amazon would set some standards for reviewers and take down any reviews that don't consider what the authors' purposes are and then the review does not cover whether authors fulfilled their purposes. How can anyone with a heart not have empathy for Marly and her situation?
The
Thin
Blue
Line
of
Police
Brutality
and
Other
Essays
on
Violence
The
review:
The
author
is
angry
because
I
give
one
case
of
police
brutality
and
then
talk
about
rapists,
woman
abusers,
and
other
sadists.
(I
also
discussed
a
nanny
alleged
to
have
killed
two
young
children,
which
he
didnt
mention.)
He
also
said
I
must
have
gotten
my
Ph.D.
from
a
diploma
mill
and
that
the
set
of
essays
is
a
sad
commentary
on
education
in
the
United
States.
My
comment:
This
is
a
set
of
four
essays.
The
purpose
of
the
set
of
four
essays
is
stated
clearly.
This
is
the
purpose
I
stated
to
introduce
the
essays.
"This
document
is
a
set
of
four
essays
that
focus
on
why
they
do
it.
Why
are
police
sometimes
brutal?
Why
did
a
nanny
kill
two
children
in
her
care?
Why
do
men
rape
and
beat
women?
Why
do
men
go
on
murderous
rampages?
This
30-page
set
of
essays
answers
these
questions
by
showing
how
beliefs
about
violence
lead
to
violent
acts."
This
reviewer
doesn't
seem
to
like
the
idea
that
beliefs
lead
people
to
commit
violent
acts.
I
think
society
needs
to
understand
that
widely-held
beliefs
can
come
together
in
some
individuals
to
create
a
perfect
storm
that
leads
to
horrific
acts
of
violence.
When
the
Boston
Marathon
bomber
is
brought
to
justice,
he
will
fit
the
profile
that
is
in
each
of
these
four
essays.
Furthermore,
by
showing
similar
patterns
in
four
different
kinds
of
violence,
I
make
a
case
for
the
idea
that
there
are
identifiable
patterns
in
what
motivates
people
to
be
violent.
The
reviewer
obviously
has
no
idea
how
to
see
patterns
in
situations
that
on
the
surface
seems
different.
It's
annoying
to
me
that
a
superficial
review
like
this
one
will
keep
others
from
buying
this
set
of
essays.
They
contain
important
information.
Its
Time
for
the
Roman
Catholic
Church
to
Show
the
World
What
Penitence
is
The
review:
This
review
says
that
the
church
did
not
protect
thousands
of
molesters
and
that
the
Protestant
churches
have
more
molesters
than
the
Catholics.
According
to
the
reviewer,
this
article
is
inflammatory,
bigoted,
and
ignorant.
My
comment.
A
one-star
review
for
this
article
is
a
high
recommendation.
That
means
that
I
could
have
upset
someone
who
appears
not
to
understand
the
gravity
of
the
church's
cover- ups.
I
hope
I
get
more
one-star
reviews
from
people
who
don't
get
it.
Read
the
most
recent
news
articles--this
time
about
the
diocese
of
Los
Angeles
in
February
2013.
How
many
priests?
How
many
cover-ups?
How
much
damage?
How
much
repentance?
Still
waiting
for
that.
"The
church
has
protected
thousands
of
molesters."
Yes,
it
has.
For
hundreds
of
years,
the
church
has
minimized
and
dismissed
the
effects
of
clergy
abuse
on
children,
teenagers,
and
adult
parishioners.
The
church
has
protected
its
reputation
at
the
expense
and
devastation
of
survivors.
The
church
has
taken
advantages
of
blame
the
victims
mentalities
where
survivors
of
clergy
abuse
are
afraid
to
say
anything
for
fear
of
being
blamed.
Many
are.
The
church
has
taken
advantage
of
a
holy
aura.
Jesus
denounced
those
who
desecrated
the
temple.
What
would
he
say
about
those
who
desecrated
and
continue
to
desecrate
the
temple
of
the
holy
spirit
and
the
holy
spirit
that
is
within?
Clergy
abuse
damages
the
holy
spirit.
The
church
has
a
great
opportunity
to
show
the
world
what
penitence
is.
Instead,
the
official
church
is
showing
perpetrators
how
to
weasel
out
of
accountability.
How
to
be
aggressive
toward
those
who
speak
out
about
child
sexual
abuse.
Most
clergy
are
marvelous
in
their
ministry
and
they
show
the
penitence
that
the
spokespeople
(some
bishops,
cardinals,
the
pope)
have
not
shown.
I'm
still
waiting
for
the
bishops
to
drop
lawsuits
against
survivors.
I'm
waiting
for
them
to
open
the
windows
as
John
the
23rd
did,
our
little
round
pope
who
died
too
young.
A second, five-star review. This reviewer said he couldnt put the book down and its thought provoking. He recommends it. Discussion One-star reviews may sometimes be fitting. When they are, reviewers have shown that they understand the purposes of the article and find that authors have not done a good job of fulfilling the purposes. I hope that Amazon sets minimum standards for the reviews they post. Otherwise, information will be unavailable to people who will benefit. About the Author Jane F. Gilgun, Ph.D., LICSW, is a professor and writer. See Janes other articles on scribd.com and her articles, books, and childrens stories on Amazon, iBooks, Barnes & Noble, and other internet booksellers. She has about 75 scholarly publications and books. She has a Ph.D. from Syracuse University, an M.A. from the University of Chicago, an M.A. from the University of Rhode Island, a licentiate from the Catholic University of Louvain, Belgium, and a B.A. from the Catholic University of American, Washington, D.C. She has won two Excellence in Research Award from the University of Minnesota, Twin Cities, USA. She is the incoming president of the International Congress on Qualitative Inquiry and has lectured all over the United States, in the United Kingdom, Brazil, Thailand, Hong Kong, Australia, New Zealand, and Canada. She has been a full professor at a research one university for 16 years.