THE 4 FOUNDATIONAL LAWS OF MARRIAGE

THE LAW OF PURSUIT

Read Genesis 2:24-25

When God made Adam and Eve, He had a perfect design for marriage. The problem wasnt the
Creator or the Design. The problem is that man must be willing to follow the design.
Man was created with a _____________________ in his life that can only God can fill. When we
expect our spouse to meet this need we are heading for disaster.
God created a __________________ and a __________________ and gave them a perfect design for
marriage. As long as they follow Gods design they will have a warm lasting fulfilling marriage.
This design comes in the Four Laws of Marriage.
Law 1 was the Law of _____________. Your spouse is to be
_______________________________________________________________________________.
How many times have we heard, I just dont love him/her anymore. I guess we made a mistake.
The answer to staying _________________________ in love or restoring your love is found in Gods
perfect design. Cleave

I.

THE MEANING OF THE WORD CLEAVE (2:24)

** Cleave means to _____________________________ and to CLING to something zealously.

** God commanded that they _____________________ and _________________________________ to one another for the
___________________________.

I.

THE MESSAGE OF THE WORD CLEAVE

From the very beginning God has known the secret of staying in love.....__________________________!!!
Marriage only works when __________________________________.
NOTE: To tell a couple that they must _____________________________________________ for the marriage to work challenges one of the
greatest _________________________ of Romance.
If you marry the right person, you should not have to work at a relationship to stay in love. It just happens naturally.
So we ________________________ to find Mr. Right or Mrs. Right. And each night we ride off into the sunset so fulfilled and live happily
ever after.
We are trained how to make love and stay in love by the _________________, but have you ever noticed how
_______________________________________ these people are in their marriages. Their lives are full of
__________________________________________________________.
People ____________________________ having to WORK at their relationships with their spouses.
How hard did you work when you were dating?
_________________________your date
Preparing yourself _____________________________
Choosing the __________________________________ carefully
Serving and trying to _______________________________
We broke our necks trying to impress each other. It was NOT _______________________________________that made your relationship to be
satisfying, it was _________________________________________.
We work very hard at a relationship until we are secure in the love of the other person. Then we gradually __________________________
and begin to take each other for granted.

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THE LAW OF PURSUIT

This marks the beginning of the end of the _____________________ and ___________________________ that was in the early stages of the
relationship.
We must work every day for our marriages to stay rewarding and healthy. The grass is not greener on the other side....its greener where you
water it.
When you __________________________________________________________, it will _________________________________ working for you.

I.

THE MANDATE OF THE WORD CLEAVE

No matter how _________________________ you think you are today, if you will begin to _________________________________, you will
soon see the ___________________________________ of feelings and experiences that you thought were ________________________________.
Your feelings, even if they are bad, will change as you ___________________ Gods commandment to _____________________________.
Some say, I dont think it can work, or I am going to get a divorce and get on with my life. Okay, say you get a divorce, you will probably
re-marry again. When you do you will...work hard to attract a wife or husband, once married the excitement will carry you for a while, then
the day will come as it did before, and emotions will fuel your life and not commitment.
It is _______________________________________________ to begin working on the marriage you have _________________________ and get
on with your life a lot quicker than trying to start all over again after a hurtful divorce and sense of failure.
NOTE: Why will we work so hard to impress total strangers but not work at all to please the ones we have vowed before God to love and
cherish for the rest of our lives?
_____________________________________. No matter how good you think it is. They are __________________________. They cause far more
problems than they solve. Any relationship initiated through an affair is on shaky ground. What happens when the newness wears off? Will
they be more faithful to you than they were before?
NOTE: If you will work hard at loving your spouse and meeting his or her need, you will begin to see a great change in your marriage. The
results will be incredible.

I.

THE MODELING OF THE WORD CLEAVE FOR RENEWAL (REVELATION 2:5)

NOTE: If your marriage has been wounded and you are losing feelings and desires for each other and you want your marriage healed and
restored, God gives us a __________________________________________ to restore the first love of our marriages.
Ephesians 5 was written on how the relationship of Christ and His Church are compared to the husband and wife relationship.

** A. Remember from whence thou art fallen (Revelation 2:5)

This cooling off comes when we stop working at the relationship Love is the word agape. It is the
____________________________________________. A commitment to do what is right for someone else regardless of emotions.
Gods standard and foundation for love is a ______________________________________ in anothers best interest ________________________
of how we feel. Feelings are ______________________________________ as a foundation for a relationship.
1.
2.

He wanted them to remember their actions at the beginning of their relationship with Him.
He did not ask them to remember their feelings but their _____________________________ love.

For Marriage:
1.
Remember your _________________________________ and _________________________________ at the beginning of your
relationship when it was _________________________________ and ____________________________________.
2.
Remember how you ________________________________________________ each other.
3.
Remember how you were ______________________________________________ in your speech.
4.
Remember how you did _________________________________________ to impress each other.
5.
Remember how you ___________________________________________ through the day and anticipated and prepared for your
time together.
*** Once you remember the actions your first love was built upon, you are ready for step TWO.

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THE LAW OF PURSUIT

A. REPENT: True repentance means to _________________________________________.

You are going the ______________________ and need to change directions. You are to ____________________________ or attitudes currently
being displayed that are _________________________________ from those at the beginning.
NOTE: True repentance includes 3 ingredients
1.
2.
3.

I.

_______________________________ - Acknowledge the truth!

_______________________________ - Admitting you were wrong!
_______________________________ - Adjusting your direction!

Do your first works

** He is not asking for any emotions or feelings. They are to __________________________________________ of how they feel.
** _____________________________ to your ________________________________ and __________________________ and begin to
_____________________________________.
** ____________________________ to your spouse. __________________________________ with diligence and begin doing what you did to
win them.
** The result will be a __________________________________________ relationship that will begin to emerge from what
________________________________________ a failed marriage.
CONCLUSION: 1. LAW OF PRIORITY-PUT SPOUSE SECOND ONLY TO GOD
1.
LAW OF PURSUIT-CLEAVE, PURSUE YOUR SPOUSE EVERYDAY

Love Languages we speak differently

1.

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2.

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3.

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4.

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5.

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Question #1
What does your spouse do or fail to do that hurts you the most deeply? The opposite of what hurts you is probably your love language!!
Question #2
What have you most often requested of your spouse? The thing you have often requested is likely the thing that would make you feel the
most loved!!
Question #3
In what way do you regularly express love to your spouse? Your method of expression may be an indication that would also make you feel
loved.
Love is a ___________________________!! How can we speak each others love language when we are full of
____________________________________________ over past failures? We are creatures of Choice. That means I have the capacity to make
poor choices, (all of us have done this). We have spoken critical words. We are not proud of those choices. Poor choices in the past dont
mean we must make them in the future. We can say.... I am sorry, I know I have hurt you in the past, but I would like to make the future
different. I WANT TO MEET YOUR NEEDS!!!