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Author: Almir Macario Barros
Paraguay, Aregu, april, 14, 2014
THE LACK OF DESCRETION AND THE DIVORCE

Do you know why the marriages are always falling in discredit? or are always finishing in divorce?
One of the main reasons is because "the lack of discretion of the married couple [man and woman]"
towards the society, family and friends.

THE SPECULATION OF THE SOCIETY, FAMILY AND FRIENDS ABOUT THE LIFE OF THE COUPLE
Everybody wants to know what happened in the life of the married couple,
Everybody wants to know in the minimum details, until what happened in bed, as sex - the intimate life of
the married couple.

ONLY THE MARRIED COUPLE MAY RESOLVE THE PROBLEM: THE FORGIVENESS
This is very, very, very bad to the familiar life of the married couple, for what happens with them are only,
and exclusively of account of them two.....Only they two, between man and woman, may to resolve the
problem.
Only each one can forgives one another.
This normally happens with the married couples: that is, the forgiveness happens between them two after
a misunderstanding or a dissention.
But, when somebody more as father, mother, brothers, sisters, best friends, etc enters in the dispute with
advices or personal opinions between the partners of the married couple, then the confusion will be
established, and since that moment forward, it will be very, very hard some understanding about the issue
in question. Note that the two only can arrive to an understanding, and a mutual forgiveness; but the
others [parents, family, friends and society] with their speculation, dont allow the way of forgiveness.
So, the divorce happens in the life of them two: this is a disaster for the family, a tragedy in the life of each
one of them, a defeat for them two and for the children if they have.
In conclusion, we can write some reflections about the above exposition:
1. The aspect that we talked about doesnt mean that the couple must isolate themselves as for problems
and conflict between them. Is necessary, or even indispensable good pastoral orientations, good
psychologists, good counselors, so that it can be discussion and dialogue about that.
2. But these advices, orientations, etc, must be taken before the problems arrive. This will be as a
planning of the married life, as administration of the differences of the couple, etc.
3. The divorce doesnt arise automatically by itself, as if it had a personal existence. On the contrary, if the
process of divorce arises in the life of the couple, this means that they themselves built it slowly along of
their lives with problems unsolved, conflicts without dialogue, aversion to a good orientation, and a life
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filled of self-interest, each one looking for his own interest, and without cares toward the interest of each
other. Generally, the synonym of Divorce can be synthesized in one word: Egocentrism, this is the
opposite of love.
4. After the problem established, each one of the couple by himself, man and woman, must to know that a
solution for the problem it is not in advices or opinions of other persons, even if they are from family of
them, as father, mother, sisters, brothers, best friends, etc. It is necessary that the two, man and woman,
involved in the process may to communicate to each other, and acknowledge the mistakes committed for
each of them. Also it is necessary an optimistic perspective of the solutions for the problems
ALMIR MACARIO BARROS
macariobarros@gmail.com
Paraguay, Aregu, Departamento Central