Rules of The House

Past & Now Forward: Rules of the House (by Ellen A. Mogensen, Fun Life, www.healpastlives.
com)
Copyright 1999-2005 Ellen A. Mogensen - Past & Now Forward, The Fun Life Company, Marlton, NJ 08053 (856) 988-0197 1
ANSWERS TO LIFE'S QUESTIONS: Rules of the House
"Man's mind stretched to a new idea never goes back to its original dimensions."
(Oliver Wendell Holmes)
"The real voyage of discovery lies in seeing what is already there with new eyes."
(Marcel Proust)
About This Book and How to Use It:
All of us stand upon the shoulders of someone else who taught us valuable lessons
and thereby saved us from learning them quite painfully on our own. Nothing is
more valuable for painless learning than the "wisdom of the ages". Learning from
the mistakes of others saves you from being "condemned to repeat them"!
This book is set up to help you find the information you need quickly and easily so
you can benefit immediately from the wisdom of others. Rules of the House: Answers to Life's Questions is a
virtual treasure trove of channeled information about how the universe works presented as "rules" that are
simple and easy to understand. Underlying these rules is the simple principle so perfectly articulated by
Gautama Buddha: "The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, not to worry about
the future, or not to anticipate troubles, but to live the present moment wisely and earnestly."
These rules start with healing your life so that you can "stop mourning the past." These rules continue with
understanding your life so that you can "stop worrying about the future." These rules conclude with mastering
your life so that you can "live the present moment wisely and earnestly". May the Blessings Be!
In love and light, Ellen Presented by www.healpastlives.com
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Past & Now Forward: Rules of the House (by Ellen A. Mogensen, Fun Life, www.healpastlives.com)
Rules About Healing Your Life
The FIRST Rules of the House
1> #41: 12 Sacred Rights: "We Hold These Truths to be Self Evident" .............................................. 4
2> #42: Learning to Love the Self: "The Greatest Love of All" ........................................................... 7
3> #43: Learning to Love Others: "For Love & Love Alone" .............................................................. 10
4> #44: Becoming a CoWorker With God: "Why We Are Here" ........................................................ 13
Rules of the House about Healing, Illness, and Recovery
1> # 4: Rules for Healing: What You Need to Know If You Truly Want to Heal ............................... 16
2> # 7: Rules for Illness: What You Need to Know If You are Ill ..................................................... 18
3> # 9: Rules for Recovery: You Must Understand: Getting Better is Being Better ............................ 20
4> #32: "Going to Hell in a Handbasket": By Violating the Rules of Healing ..................................... 22
5> #20: Secret's Out: Spiritual Reasons for the Top 10 Leading Causes of Death ............................... 26
Rules of the House about Past Life Healing
1> #11: Top Ten Indicators of SERIOUS Past Life Problems .............................................................. 28
2> #14: A Prison Without Walls: Your Body as an Agent of Free Will & Karma ............................... 30
3> #15: It's Not in Your Stars But in Your Cells: How Cellular Memory Works ................................ 32
4> #30: "Towing the Iceberg": How Past Life Resonance Works ........................................................ 34
5> #27: Rules for Past Life Healing: Settling Accounts in True Coin .................................................. 37
Rules About Understanding Your Life
Rules of the House about Past Life Karma
1> # 3: How to Live a Karma-Free Life: The "Reduce-Your-Daily-Karma" Diet ................................ 41
2> #16: Your Karma Ran Over Your Dogma: What Karma is & How it Works ................................. 43
3> #25: Top Ten Causes of Past Life Carry Overs into the Present Life .............................................. 45
4> #37: "Walking the Minefield": Past Life Karma & Childhood ...................................................... 47
5> #28: Who is the I That is Me?: Evidence of Adult Past Life Reversion .......................................... 50
Rules of the House about Reincarnation
1> #26: You'll Be Back: The Principles of Reincarnation .................................................................. 53
2> #39: "Hardwired into the Human Consciousness": Reincarnation Skepticism ............................. 56
3> #36: "Inbetween Times": The Rules of Life Between Lives ............................................................ 60
4> #35: "You Asked For It, You Got It": The Rules of Life Contracts ................................................ 63
5> #22: Living the Way of Dharma in Coworkership with God ........................................................... 66
Rules of the House about "Evidence"... The Truth is Out There
1> #18: Life Goes On and On: Evidence of the Continuation of Life After Death ............................ 68
2> #17: Hide in Plain Sight: Evidence of Past Lives in Everyday Life .............................................. 71
3> #31: Untangling the Web: Unique Qualities of Past Life Memories ............................................. 74
4> #45: Living Another Life: Unique Qualities of Past Life Dreams ................................................. 77
5> #19: Smoke & Mirrors: Top Ten Myths Against Past Life Exploration .......................................... 81
6> #38: "Empiricism vs Stubbornness": Debunking the Reincarnation Debunkers ........................... 83
Rules About Mastering Your Life
Rules of the House about Advancing Along the Spiritual Path
1> # 1: For Spiritual Beings Having a Human Experience: Rules for Being Human ...................... 86
2> # 2: How Your Body-Mind-Spirit Works: Take Time to Save Your Life ....................................... 87
3> # 6: Hallmarks of the Spiritually Advanced Being: See How You Measure Up ............................. 89
4> #34: Hallmarks of the Spiritually Lazy: See How You Measure Up ............................................. 91
5> #12: Top Ten Things Your Higher Self WANTS You to KNOW ................................................... 94
Rules of the House about "Problems" Along the Spiritual Path
1> # 8: Rules for Discerning "Spirit-based" vs "Ego-based" Guidance .............................................. 96
2> #40: "Beginning All Over Again": Managing Change and Transition .......................................... 98
3> #21: Wheels Within Wheels: Astrology, Karma, & Arts of Divination ........................................ 101
4> #13: Are You Really Someone Else? How to Know if You are a "Walk-In" .................................. 104
5> #46: "Waking Up is Hard to Do": The Soul's Journey of Awakening ............................................. 106
6> #24: The Soul's Journey: Inside "The Dark Night of Soul"............................................................... 109
Rules of the House about Being Master of the Domain Known as Your Life
1> # 5: Rules for Spiritually Based Intimate Relationships ................................................................. 112
2> #29: "Finding Selves Unimaginably Mine": Soulmates, Twin Flames, & Basherts ........................ 113
3> #10: Numbers as Building Blocks of the Universe: Knowing the "Secret Code" ........................... 116
4> #23: The Root of All Accomplishment: The Spiritual Energy of Money .................................... 117
5> #33: Let Everything Be Your Signature: Doing God's Work ........................................................ 120
Rules of the House #41: 12 Sacred Human Rights: "We Hold These Truths to be Self Evident"
(adapted from channeled information)
These basic human rights are yours as a Divine Spark of God. They are yours regardless of whatever culture,
religion, government, or other social group that you have incarnated into. If those groups cannot support your
basic human rights, then they should be resisted. As the tried and true Quaker Proverb goes, "Resistance to
tyranny is obedience to God".
Resistance means not participating in your own abuse by submitting to the tyranny. The most fundamental right
of all is that no one has the right to do you harm. This is a right you must cherish and defend. Your freedom
begins because you are Soul and God loves you. Your freedom ends when you harm another because in doing so
you agree karmically to "reap" what you have "sown".
#1: YOUR BODY IS HOLY GROUND
Your body is the temple of your spirit and as such is holy ground. Given that your body is holy, no one has the
right to violate it. Violations include harming it in any way, shape, or form. Active harm includes such "crimes
against the body" as beatings, stabbings, strangulation, poisoning, violent interrogation, and other acts carrying
criminal penalties. It also includes "invasive procedures" and/or "cutting edge cures" which claim to cure the
body by harming it (different from the temporary inconvenience, permanent gain involved in healing). Passive
harm includes acts resulting in depriving a body of sleep, food, drink, love, air, protection from nature, etc. You
should utterly and completely resist anyone who harms your body actively or passively.
#2: YOUR MIND IS HOLY GROUND
Your mind is the guardian of your spirit and as such is holy ground. Given that your mind is holy, no one has
the right to violate it. Violations include harming it in any way, shape, or form. Active harm includes feeding it
mind altering drugs, forcibly reprogramming it, exposing it to unwanted subliminals, using domination type
interrogation techniques, and other acts carrying criminal penalties. Passive harm includes subtle manipulation
used to detach someone from core beliefs, thoughts, and attitudes, constantly subjecting them to barrages of
negative statements, convincing them that they are worthless or anything less than a Divine Spark of God. You
should utterly and completely resist anyone who harms your mind actively or passively.
#3: YOUR EMOTIONS ARE SACRED
Your emotions are sent from your Higher Self to propel you along your life's path and as such are sacred.
Emotions should always be honored but not always acted upon. Emotions act like pain in your body and
suspicion in your mind in that they are a signal for you to take action that is in your own best interests. When
another suggests, asks, insists, or forces you to act against your emotions, they are invading your sacred space.
You have an inalienable right to your emotions and to feel the way that you do. Often if you just listen to your
heart and what it feels, you will be led to the right path. You should utterly and completely resist anyone who
tries to get you to deny, repress, minimize, convert, project, or dissociate from your emotions.
#4: YOUR SPIRIT IS SACRED
Your spirit is the most sacred and holy part of you. Bodies can be killed. Minds can be shattered. Emotions
can lead to the path of tangled karma. Yet in your Soul, you are always free, always safe, always loved. It is
your Divine Core Essence: it is eternal and indestructible. As you unfold into greater awareness of your Soul,
you will explore many paths of religion, philosophy, and spirituality. Each of these paths will enrich your total
life experience and so you should be left to explore them in peace at your own pace. You should not allow
anyone to convince or convert you to their way of thinking, believing, and being. What you think, believe, and
have chosen is perfect for you right now honor that and keep your Soul sacred.
#5: YOUR BASIC RIGHT: YOUR LIFE
Once you are born into this Earth plane, you have a right to be here for as long as your body-mind can sustain
your life. This is true provided that you do not deprive another of their rights while you are here. An integral
part of the dynamic of abuse and torture is a belief on the part of a torturer that you do not have the your God
given right to the life. This belief comes from the mistaken idea that the tortured are somehow inferior to the
torturer. And so because the tortured are "children of a lesser God" they do not deserve to enjoy the same right
to life as their "superiors". Take the case of the Nazi Holocaust. The beliefs which "justified" the wholesale
slaughter of Jews, gypsies, etc was that they were from a "lesser race" or were "not quite human" or were "much
less evolved" than their persecutors. The Nazi propaganda machine was quite effective in convincing a nation
that they were participating in a "noble cause to rid the world of the plague of Zionists" transforming normal,
ordinary people into "Hitler's willing executioners". The truth is that God is the only one who gives life and
those He gives it to have a Divine Right to preserve it at all costs.
#6: YOUR BASIC RIGHT: YOUR LIBERTY
Those who live in "unfree" areas of the world can attest that freedom is an essential component of happiness. In
"free" societies, an individual's liberty is only restricted by their inability to interfere with the rights of others. In
"unfree" societies, the individual spends a majority of their time laboring against restrictions that are imposed by
the society, religion, or culture they have incarnated into. Take the case of the American South. Not that long
ago, African Americans were killed for exercising their right to vote or died because they could not be admitted
into the "right" hospitals or were beaten for sitting in the "wrong" section of a bus or drinking from the "wrong"
water fountain. More insidious, however, were the daily restrictions on individual freedom that came from
constant barrages of insults, criticism, and abuse. It is those small wounds that fester in the mind and wear
down body and spirit a little more each day. The freedom to live your life as you chose is one of the most
precious gifts you can receive: cherish and defend it no matter what.
#7: YOUR BASIC RIGHT: YOUR HAPPINESS
What lies at the end of the trail of karma is happiness. For karma leads one to their true freedom of living in a
continual state of joy, love, and awareness (primary attributes of God). Historically speaking, the "pursuit of
happiness" is a relatively new goal. For most of human history, existence on Earth has been a grim and
desperate struggle for survival and in many areas on Earth, this - unfortunately - is still true. When he wrote
the "Declaration of Independence", some laughed at Thomas Jefferson for including the "pursuit of happiness"
along with the "more important goals" of securing life and liberty. And yet, today, the pursuit of happiness has
created more wealth and commerce than those only devoted to the preservation of life and liberty. It has also
opened up the mass consciousness to greater levels of receiving and giving love. In turn, this has helped many
rapidly accelerate their karmic learning. There is as much challenge in joy as in sorrow. Allow your life to flow
in bliss and abundance by letting go of those interfering with your happiness!
#8: YOUR BASIC RIGHT: YOUR EQUALITY
All Souls are created equally and are equally loved by God. God does not value Mother Theresa more and
Adolf Hitler less. Both are Divine creations and as such are equal in God's eyes. It is a truly loving God who
creates a universe vast enough to give everyone infinite chances to spin through the cycles of karma and
reincarnation experiencing life from every viewpoint until they become love, joy, and awareness. It is only the
torturer who sees inequality. For it is their belief in inequality which allows them to view others of God's
creation as undeserving of the same rights they enjoy. Take the case of American slavery. Slaves were
considered property of their masters who were free to abuse them to death. This freedom came from human
laws which empowered masters to abuse slaves. Karma works to reverse the fortunes of master and slave until
those participating in the dynamic of slavery are brought to value the sacredness of all life equally. Anyone who
tries to convince you that you are "not equal" to another of God's creatures should be resisted.
#9: YOUR BASIC RIGHT: YOUR CONNECTEDNESS
Our journey through the cycles of reincarnation is propelled by our need to take responsibility for our actions
(personal karma) and our duty to all life (group karma). Since we are individual sparks of God, we each must
learn in our own way (better known as individuation). Yet since we are all part of the "one song" of the uni-
verse, we learn from our connection to others (better known as divination in sense that we are all CoWorkers
with God). We are like stalactites in a cave. We are all joined together at the roof of the cave (our divination)
but we hang down from the roof all in unique formations like the stalactites (our individuals). When outside
forces (government, society, culture) tries to deny this connection, they do so because their purpose is to gain
complete control over us. Take the case of the Russian and Chinese cultural revolutions. The practice of
religion was forcibly stripped from the long oppressed peoples of those countries as their governments sought
total domination of body, mind, and spirit. "Worship the government or die" was the choice. So to live, many
did so, feeling "they stole our souls". Let no one steal your Soul for only in your Soul are you free.
#10: YOUR BASIC RIGHT: YOUR WORTHINESS
Saint and sinner are value judgments placed on the "worthiness" of an individual life by humans and their
institutions. As such, these value judgments have no bearing on the unfoldment of these individuals' karma.
Saints have no more a free ticket to eternal bliss than sinners do to endless damnation. The philosopher
Epictetus said it best: "After a theatrical performance nobody says: this actor played the king, what a good actor,
this one played the beggar so I don't applaud him." Thus after your death the Gods (Lords of Karma) will say:
"you played your part well or badly". And then all they will say is "do better next time". For they know that
God does not create junk only masterpieces. In God's eyes, the minister and the bank president are as equally
worthy of His Love as are the terrorist and the crack whore. You are worthy because God made you so, if you
do not feel worthy, it is because others have made you feel that way. Anyone who tries to convince you that
you are "not worthy" in yourself or of anything that you desire should be resisted.
#11: YOUR BASIC RIGHT: YOUR BELIEFS
It is a maxim of psychology that every belief that you have comes from somewhere in your experience. And, at
one time, every thought, belief, attitude, and behavior you have made perfect sense to you even if they do not
make perfect sense to you now. Only in the context of past lives can the truth of this maxim be seen. For
example, those compelled to hoard money in their life today invariably had a traumatic death in the trail of their
past lives caused by lack of money. Or those who just cannot take off the weight no matter how hard they try
are usually carrying traumatic memories from past lives where they starved to death. Or those who just cannot
put on weight no matter how hard they try many times had past lives where it was considered holy to starve the
body into being ultra thin. No matter what trouble those beliefs are causing in your life now, you are clinging to
them unconsciously because they have somehow served you in the past. Only you can decide what beliefs do
not serve you - those seeking to detach you from them are your torturers.
#12: YOUR BASIC RIGHT: YOUR EXPERIENCES
The Earth is a big schoolhouse where we come to learn and grow in love, joy, and awareness. When our
learning does not go the way we expect, we count it as a mistake. Yet, "making mistakes" is value judgment
that we place on the process of unfolding into Soul awareness. As we "correct mistakes", we learn ways of
thinking, doing, and being that are more in harmony with how the universe works. Experience becomes our
greatest, truest, and best teacher about the laws of life. For experience "shows" us how things work in ways that
books cannot tell us, that others cannot explain to us, and that we cannot "figure out" in the silence of our minds.
That is why Native Americans say "do not judge another person until you have walked a mile in their
moccasins". That is why it is utterly impossible for you to "tell" your children anything and why you have to
stand back and let them discover life through experiences for themselves. On a larger scale, that is what God
does for all of us: allowing another to have their own experience is the greatest gift of all.
Rules of the House #42: Self Love: "The Greatest Love of All"
"To put the world in order, we must put the nation in order. To put the nation in order, we must put the family in
order. To put the family in order, we must nurture our personal life. To cultivate our personal life, we must first
set our hearts and minds right Plant a thought, reap an act. Plant an act, reap a habit. Plant a habit, reap a
character. Plant a character, reap a destiny."
- Confucius
"What is it that makes you worthy to be loved?" was the question posed by a facilitator at one workshop that
changed my life. One by one, he asked the participants this question. They answered that to be worthy of love
one had TO DO or TO BE something. Of course, these were all the wrong answers. Impatiently, the group
asked what the right answer was and it was this. "You are worthy to be loved because God loves you and
because you believe that you are worthy". The Earth would be the paradise that God intended it to be if
everyone did love themselves. In fact, all the problems in the world can be reduced to one: lack of self love.
Louise Hay said it best: "When someone comes to me with a problem, I don't care what it is: poor health, lack of
money, unfulfilling relationships, or self esteem issues... there is only one thing that I ever work on, and that is
LOVING THE SELF. I find that when we really love, accept and approve of ourselves exactly as we are, then
everything in life works." So how does one begin to love themselves by doing the following:
#1: SELF LOVE IS DEFENDING YOUR WORTHINESS
"This above all: be true, be true, be true." (Nathaniel Hawthorne)
Being true to yourself is remembering one thing: you exist because God loves you and with that love all
things are possible. Before you read another word, raise of a shield of pure and unconditional love all around
you: body, mind, emotions, and spirit. That's better Filling yourself with love is the first step is driving out
the poison of hate that constantly assaults us all. For society tells us the infinite things that are wrong with us:
we are too fat, too dumb, too emotional, too old, too whatever and that is why we have to get this, do that, or
change who we are. This is not to mention family, friends, coworkers, and others in our life who are telling us
what to do all the time. Of course, there is one enemy who is particularly relentless towards us: ourselves.
We are our own worst enemy when we think, act, and treat ourselves as anything other than Divine Beings.
When we think "I have should have done that" or "I could have done this" or "I would have done better if I do
not do that" or "If only I had" we are criticizing ourselves. This constant internal criticism does "not make us
do better next time", it only makes us more fearful that "I am going to screw it up next time." The next time you
say "should have", "could have", "would have" STOP beating yourself up! Say to yourself (aloud if you can)
"CANCEL!" Then tell yourself, "I did the best I knew how, I learned from it, next time I will and this will get
me what I desire to manifest in my life!" Defend your right to be yourself from all the people who are telling
you "you are wrong", including yourself. End self criticism now before it kills you!!
#2: SELF LOVE IS NURTURING YOUR BODY
"The body is the temple of the spirit." (Bible: 1 Corinthians 6:19)
The primary means for showing love to yourself is nurturing the body that God gave you in this lifetime. Like it
or not, your body is your vehicle for navigating your way through life. For optimum performance and vitality,
you would do well to give it regular maintenance. This means doing basic things like: constantly sustaining it
with vital life force by breathing properly, by drinking plenty of water, by feeding it good food, by getting
enough rest and exercise, by clothing and sheltering it properly, and by nurturing it with loving touch. It means
taking active steps to protect it from harm. It also means acknowledging it when it has "gone the extra mile" so
that you could do whatever it was you wanted to do. Treat your body like a beloved pet by patting it, saying "I
love you", and giving it special treats you will be amazed by the results!!
#3: SELF LOVE IS CULTIVATING YOUR MIND
"Failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently." (Henry Ford)
You have made mistakes we all have. Louise Hay said it best: "Self hatred is really only hating your own
thoughts. Don't hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts. Acknowledge that you
created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So lovingly release
the old negative patterns." If you are not cultivating your mind to manifest your joyful desires then it will create
your life based on your worries. Choose love over fear and your life will improve. This means doing basic
things like: living life holistically, managing stress, and using nature's way (aromas, oils, and herbals) to help
your mind retain/regain the composure needed to help you make good decisions.
#4: SELF LOVE IS LISTENING TO YOUR EMOTIONS
"Each of us makes our own weather in the emotional universe we inhabit." (Fulton J. Sheen)
The word "emotion" means "energy in motion" as sent from your Higher Self to propel you along your path in
life. Emotions are also sent by your ego ("lower self") to keep you safe and protected. Life often becomes a
conflict between these two conflicting sources of emotion: the positive/loving (Higher Self) that prompts you to
go for your future dreams and the negative/fearful (ego) which begs you to stay with your current reality. Stop
living on the choppy seas of your emotions and sail your boat into calmer waters. You do not have to be a slave
to your lusts, a captive to your anger, a pawn of your greed, a victim of your vanity, or a prisoner of your
attachments. Just listen to emotions and then decide what you want to do about them.
#5: SELF LOVE IS HONORING YOUR SPIRIT
"In my Soul, I am free." (Paul Twitchell)
As essential component of honoring your spirit is coming into agreement to see yourself for who you really are,
to listen to that truth, and to live it in your daily life. For you are a not a human being come to Earth to have a
spiritual experience, you are spiritual being having a human experience. You are not physical matter you are a
complex energy field which binds you together past, present, and future. You are not your five senses - sight,
hearing, taste, touch, and smell - but you can become caught in their traps, as in unhealthy addictions and misuse
of sex. You are Soul: doing your best in the worlds of karma and reincarnation.
#6: SELF LOVE IS ACCEPTING YOURSELF/OTHERS AS IS
"Until I accept my faults I will most certainly doubt my virtues." (Hugh Prather)
No one is perfect, not me and not you. No matter what you want to change about yourself, it is of vital
importance that you value yourself - just as you are right now. Self acceptance is not getting back what you
thought that you had yesterday or achieving what you think you are wishing for tomorrow, it means loving the
self right now today. We are all a "work in progress": changing every day and evolving into becoming who we
already are. As Louise Hay advises: "Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as
you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved."
#7: SELF LOVE IS SHOWING YOURSELF/OTHERS KINDNESS
"Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle." (Philo)
Many people lead lives of "quiet desperation": drowning in negativity, consumed by worry, and waiting for
disaster to strike. They do so not realizing that negativity breeds problems, worry causes undesired results, and
disaster is experienced less often than it is imagined. Whenever you feel this way, you are unable to treat others
or yourself with kindness. That is the time to STOP! and make a conscious effort to be kind to yourself and
others. Do this by replacing negativity with a positive outlook, worry with confidence that "all is well", and
anticipation of disaster with faith in the future. You can do this because you are the creator of your own
universe. Regardless of what happens in the outside world, fill your inside world with peace, love, and joy.
Affirm: "All is well in my universe, I am safe. Out of every situation, only good will come to me".
#8: SELF LOVE IS SHOWING YOURSELF/OTHERS COMPASSION
"The more a person loves, the closer he approaches the image of God." (Martin Luther)
Although it may be hard to believe, the truth is that everyone does the best they can with what they have. For
everyone, including you, is just living out they have learned in this or previous lives. Compassion comes when
you realize that those who hate and hurt others are just lashing out against times when they were hated and hurt
themselves. For it is then that you can see that "it is the pain talking" and not the person. Given that you can
understand that there are no truly bad people - only people who say and do bad things - you can be
compassionate towards every person in every situation. Pouring the oil of compassion, tolerance, and
understanding on the troubled waters of daily life is the very essence of unconditional self love.
#9: SELF LOVE IS SHOWING YOURSELF/OTHERS RESPECT
"Accepting responsibility for one's life is the source from which self respect springs." (Joan Didion)
Everyone is a spark of the Divine and brings a unique note to the universal song we are all singing (notice that
the word uni-verse means "one song"). This means that everyone has something valuable to contribute: in the
words of Thomas Carlyle: "everyone is my superior in that I may learn from them". Unfortunately, the world is
all too ready to teach us that others should be discounted because they differ from us in some way (gender, race,
nationality, religion, etc) when we are all the same and equal as Soul. That is why the word "Namaste" is such a
powerful greeting because it conveys respect in a very pure way. For when we respect ourselves and others, we
are acting from one of the deepest places of unconditional love.
#10: SELF LOVE IS ACTING TO FREE YOURSELF/OTHERS
"Don't go through life, grow through life." (Eric Butterworth)
It is always wise to remember that "all conditions are temporary". The world was here before you came and will
go on after you are gone. The position you hold to today relative to others in your life now may be reversed
tomorrow or in a future life. The world exists to be a stage for karma and each one must play their role as they
see fit. Those who try to lift the world upon their shoulders to "make it better" for loved ones will usually find
themselves quickly buried under it's weight. You get "out from under" when you realize that the only person
you can change is yourself. Allowing others to have their lessons helps them learn the only way they can - by
experience - and it frees you. Love yourself by laying down the world right now.
#11: SELF LOVE IS SHOWING YOURSELF/OTHERS FORGIVENESS
"He that cannot forgive others, breaks the bridge over which he must pass." (George Herbert)
In Louise Hay's words, "Let the past go. You did the best you could at the time with the understanding,
awareness and knowledge that you had. Now you are growing and changing and you will live differently."
Forgiveness does not mean condoning what happened or just forgetting about it or not learning from it. All of
those are valuable lessons that you spent time and emotion learning. What forgiveness means is simply
releasing the anger and other emotions that keep you stuck in unforgiveness of yourself or others. Holding onto
these toxic feelings will have no effect on the other person and will not alter what you did or did not do.
Holding onto unforgiveness is deadly poison to your body, mind, and spirit: love yourself enough to let it go.
#12: SELF LOVE IS ALLOWING YOURSELF TO BE HAPPY
"The time to relax is when you don't have time for it." (Sydney J. Harris)
Happiness is to be found in only one place: inside your own heart right at this moment. So many people lose so
much by waiting until I "get healthier, find my dream partner, get a new job, get a new house, or lose the weight,
and so on". And when they get those things then they wait for better ones until they learn the hard lesson that
"happiness deferred is happiness denied". So get happy: start now by doing more of the things that make you
happy on a daily basis. Look for joy everywhere. Laugh or do a good deed just for fun! Love yourself enough
daily to "smile, 'cause when your smilin', the whole world smiles with you!"
Rules of the House #43: Learning to Love Others: "For Love & Love Alone"
"To others we are not ourselves but a performer in their lives cast for a part we do not even know that we are
playing." - Elizabeth Bibesco (Haven)
Whether we realize it or not, the role that we play in the lives of others - those we know and those who know of
us - is that of karmic instructor. It is the same role that others we know play in our lives. Each of us is
constantly teaching all others around us - by our words and actions - about different ways of being. From these
examples, each decides what to do and how to be as we make our own journey through the universe.
So as Thomas Carlyle said "everyone is my superior in that I may learn from them." Often others teaching us
what NOT to do/be is just as valuable as their teaching us what to do/be. Being open to learning from others is
the first step on the long journey through the universe that we all undertake in order to unfold into greater levels
of love, joy, and awareness. It is easy to SAY that we love others. It is more difficult to SHOW that we love
others. All it takes to show that we love others is to "love one another; as I (God) have loved you." (Bible: John
13:34) Treating others with such loving kindness is easier said than done.
So how does one begin to love others? by doing the following:
#1: LOVING OTHERS IS ACTING AS IF THEY ARE WORTHY
"For one human being to love another that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate, the last
test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation." (Rainer Maria Rilke)
Everyone exists because God loves them and with that love all things are possible. Everyone is perfect in
God's eyes and is loved more than they will ever know. We are our own worst enemy when we think, act, and
treat others as anything other than Divine Beings. When we think "I hate them" or "They do not deserve to live"
or "Too bad they are (fill in the blank) otherwise we could be friends" or "If only they were more like me", we
are saying the God made a mistake when "they" were created. This constant criticism of others does nothing to
change them and it hurts us. Being unloving to others is like taking poison and expecting them to die when it
is you who will surely be harmed by the barrage of your unloving thoughts towards them.
To stem the tide of negativity towards others, you need to start one thought at a time. As you go throughout the
day, for every person you see (yourself or others) say silently to yourself "I love you as Soul". Soul Love is
impersonal and unromantic. You can love someone's Soul even if you actually hate everything about them
because their Soul is the "love" part of them. It is the perfect part that God sees, that God knows, that God loves.
That is how you can connect with their worthiness and act as if they are worthy and really mean it!
#2: LOVING OTHERS IS RESPECTING THEIR BODIES
"We too often love things and use people when we should be using things and loving people." (Rueul Howe)
The primary means for showing love to others is respecting the body that God gave them. To respect the bodies
of others requires that you do it no harm. Most would agree with doing obvious things like helping others to
breathe, eat, drink, sleep, get exercise, receive proper clothes and shelter - especially where they have difficulty
in doing this for themselves. If you love the other person, contribute to their health by nurturing their bodies
with loving touch. Leo Buscaglia (the "Love Guru") has rightly said that four hugs a day are the minimum for
good health, 8 a day are really needed, and 12 a day lead to personal empowerment.
To show love to another, work to encourage them to love their own bodies. So often we join others in the
present day trend of "woundology" (Caroline Myss) where we trade stories about how ugly, bad, or imperfect
our bodies are. Let's stop the insanity: love is the only way to respect bodies whether it is yours or others.
Think for a moment how hard it is for you is exist in a world without love this is often how your bodies live
all the time. They go on quite unappreciated: who can work well under those conditions? No one!
#3: LOVING OTHERS IS RESPECTING THEIR MINDS
"Love is a good teacher, it teaches in no time at all." (Pierre Corneille)
Mental "woundology" is greatest damage that we routinely do to one another. We think that by sharing our
sorrows that we are supporting others. The reality is that continually sharing heartache - especially once the
painful crisis has passed - only serves to keep our wounds and theirs alive. For what we lavish our attention on
is what we manifest into our reality. Everyone has made their share of mistakes we are meant to learn from
them and move on. We show the greatest respect to others when we refuse to keep their pain alive when we
speak of ways that they can solve their problems and move past their pain. Or when we show them the path to
their own empowerment or how to achieve their dreams anything but nursing their pain.
#4: LOVING OTHERS IS RESPECTING THEIR EMOTIONS
"Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired." (Robert Frost)
Emotional "sandbagging" is another way we often disrespect others. We encourage sandbagging when we
recommend "ego defenses" which have us inappropriately handling our emotions. These include: denial ("the
upsetting event is not really happening to me"), repression ("the upsetting event really never happened in the
first place"), dissociation ("was there an upsetting event? I cannot seem to remember one"), projection ("the
upsetting event is happening to anyone else but me"), minimizing ("the upsetting event happened but it is no big
deal so what?"), and conversion ("the upsetting event will be OK after more sex, food, drugs"). Help others to
deal with the emotions head on that is the truest love and the highest form of respect.
#5: LOVING OTHERS IS RESPECTING THEIR SPIRITUAL BELIEFS
"Love is the only satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence." (Erich Fromm)
In many different past lifetimes, I have been a Jewish rabbi, a Roman Catholic priest, a Russian Orthodox priest,
a Protestant minister, a Buddhist monk, a Hindu cleric, a follower of Confucius, Lao Tse, Islam, Sihkism,
Shinto, and numberless other religious, spiritual, and philosophical paths. I have translated many religious texts
into many languages over the course of several lives. I have great respect for all beliefs for all religious paths
can lead one to a greater love for God. I show this respect by not trying to convert others to my point of view.
For I know that each path contains it's own beauty and offers it's own special gift to it's followers. I have found
that showing this respect is one of the greatest gifts of love that I can give others.
#6: LOVING OTHERS IS ACCEPTING THEM AS THEY ARE
"We love the things we love in spite of what they are." (Louis Untermeyer)
No one is perfect, not me, not you, not anyone else. No matter what you dislike about others, it is of vital
importance that you value others - just as they are right now. For by doing so, that is how we create peace within
our own hearts. The fact is that we all are - from the saints to the sinners - a "work in progress": changing every
day and evolving into becoming who we already are. As Philo the philosopher advises, "be kind, for everyone
you meet is fighting a hard battle." When you can accept others just as they are right now, this is the ultimate
way of respecting the hard battle that they are fighting. If you can think of them as Soul, as a being struggling
as you are, you will find that it is not so very hard to achieve this level of acceptance.
#7: LOVING OTHERS IS SHOWING THEM KINDNESS
"All disease is related to a lack of love all healing to giving & receiving unconditional love." (Bernie Siegel)
Love is the most powerful force in the universe. It is the universal solvent which cuts through all hate, all fears,
all obstacles, all difficulties. Where difficult, problematic relationships exist, it is due to the absence of love
energy between us and others. By always holding thoughts of loving kindness toward others in your heart, you
rebuild the love energy bridges between you and other(s). This dissolves away the problems between you and
others like magic - without you trying to change them (which would be a form of psychic attack and bad karma).
Giving unconditional love to others is the greatest gift that you could ever give them.
#8: LOVING OTHERS IS SHOWING THEM COMPASSION
"Love is the strongest force the world possesses, and yet it is the humblest imaginable." (Mohandas Gandhi)
Although it may be hard to believe, the truth is that everyone does the best they can with what they have. For
everyone is just living out what they have learned in this or previous lives. Compassion comes when you realize
that those who hate and hurt others are just lashing out against times when they were hated and hurt themselves.
For it is then that you can see that "it is the pain talking" and not the person. Given that you understand there are
no truly bad people - only hurting people who say and do bad things - you can be compassionate towards every
person in every situation. Pouring the oil of compassion, tolerance, and understanding on the troubled waters of
daily life is the very essence of loving others.
#9: LOVING OTHERS IS SHOWING THEM RESPECT
"Love is the extremely difficult realization that something other than oneself is real." (Iris Murdoch)
Everyone is a spark of the Divine and brings a unique note to the universal song we are all singing (notice that
the word uni-verse means "one song"). This means that everyone has something unique and valuable to
contribute. Even though you may not understand their contribution or believe it is valuable, know that it is.
Unfortunately, the world is all too ready to teach us that others should be discounted because they differ from us
in some way (gender, race, nationality, religion, etc) when we are all the same and equal as Soul. That is why
the word "Namaste" is such a powerful greeting because it conveys respect in a very pure way. For when we
respect ourselves and others, we are acting from one of the deepest places of unconditional love.
#10: LOVING OTHERS IS ACTING TO FREE THEM
"Love is like water in the hand. Leave the fingers open & it stays, clutch it & it darts away." (Dorothy Parker)
One of the highest forms of unconditional life is to prepare your loved ones to live without you. For only when
those you love are completely self reliant are they totally free, safe, and protected for the rest of their lives.
Even if that freedom means that they walk away from you forever, you have given them gifts that will help them
wherever they go. If you truly love them, then you should want them to be free. Free to make their own
choices, even if it means making mistakes. Free to find their own love, even if it means feeling heartbreak.
Free to live their own life on their own terms, even if that life will bring them pain, especially if you can see it
and they cannot. For love with freedom is the only way that it can be truly unconditional.
#11: LOVING OTHERS IS SHOWING THEM FORGIVENESS
"Love means never having to say that you are sorry." (Erich Segal "Love Story")
What keeps us firmly stuck to our negative baggage is the fact that we cannot forgive others for somehow
failing us. Sincere, heartfelt forgiveness is the solvent that unsticks our fingers from this baggage, allowing us to
drop it. Dropping it is the best thing that we can do for ourselves and others. Forgiveness does not mean
condoning what happened or just forgetting about it or not learning from it. All of those are valuable lessons that
we spent emotion learning. What forgiveness means is releasing the anger and other negative emotions that keep
us stuck in unforgiveness of others. For it is these negative emotions that keep us from loving and living
happily ever after because they keep our hearts closed when they need to be open for health and life.
#12: LOVING OTHERS IS ALLOWING THEM TO BE HAPPY
"Life is short and we never have enough time for gladdening others' hearts. Be swift to love!" (Henri Amiel)
If there is one key to showing unconditional love to others, it is this. As William Penn said, "any good that I can
do, or any kindness that I can show to any fellow creature, let me do it now. Let me not defer or neglect it, for I
shall not pass this way again." Making people happy, helping them to be happy, and allowing them to be happy
are all ways of showing others unconditional love. The greatest monuments we can leave behind us are helping
a child to smile, a friend to laugh, a stranger to feel better. The small, random acts of kindness that are done out
of "love and love alone" are the easiest ways to show our unconditional love for others.
Rules of the House #44: Becoming a CoWorker With God: "Why We Are Here"
"For one human being to love another that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate, the last
test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation." -Rainer Maria Rilke
For most of our human lives, we are primarily concerned with gaining experience in the worlds of karma and
reincarnation. When we have reached a certain level of advancement, we realize that it is in our interest to learn
and work within this system of divine justice. And when we have achieved a certain level of mastery with the
laws of karma after many cycles of reincarnation, we can begin to understand why we have undergone such a
long and extensive journey through the universe in the first place.
For at the beginning, in the end, and all throughout our personal trek, the reason behind everything we have
learned, endured, suffered, and triumphed becomes clear. No matter where we are, no matter what we are
doing, being, or becoming, we are growing in our ability to love so that we can become an ever better CoWorker
with God as we serve in the unfolding majesty of His/Her Creation.
So how does one become a CoWorker with God? by being the following:
1> SELF JUDGMENT: FOR THE HIGHEST GOOD OF ALL
"Believe in no other God than the one who insists on justice and equality for all." (George Sand)
All religion, philosophy, and spirituality can be summed up this way: "Only love is real. All we have is
this moment now. Choose love at every moment." That is easy to teach but hard to live. Therefore
most of these systems go for the opposite: something easy to live (to attract and retain followers) and
something hard to teach (to keep the "shamans" - the ones who know the system - employed). Since
daily life is often enough of a challenge, the relative ease of the man-made systems helps it's followers
to get what they need and to learn what they can from life.
Eventually, after many incarnations, if there is one thing that karma ingrains in us, it is the absolute
necessity of acting at all times for the highest good of all concerned. For the greatest good is the
centerpoint of all existence and the place where love flourishes the best. What is the greatest good is
always a judgment call: one that only lifetimes of experience can help us to make with the highest
accuracy and the greatest consistency. For it is by our choices that we are known and judged. And it is
our choices/judgment calls that determine how we best can serve as a CoWorker with God.
2> SELF MOTIVATION: ALWAYS LENDING A HELPING HAND
"'Let me help' we'll recommend those three words even over 'I love you'." (Classic Star Trek)
"I love you" is perhaps the most overused and misused phrase in any language. It is so easy to say those
words and often so hard to mean them. That is because meaning them generally requires us to take
action to give those words meaning. The actions that we choose to take as well as those we avoid taking
are usually the truest measures of our love. It is our actions that reveal our hearts: when we say "let me
help" and we do it, that shows our love far more than any telling can do.
When we stand by loved ones "in sickness and in health, for richer and for poorer", we show them more
than words can say that our love is real and when we fail to, we show everyone that it is not. If we
act to prevent or end situations that put our loved ones in the way of harm, we again show others the
quality of our love. It is all too easy to turn a blind eye or a deaf ear and say "that's not my problem".
Being a CoWorker means "lending a hand" wherever you are because you will not pass that way again.
It means that because God has put you where you are, you have agreed to do your best to help however
you can. It means deciding to lend a hand not having to be told to do so.
3> SELF INTEGRITY: HONESTY & TRUTH ABOVE ALL
"This above all: be true, be true, be true." (Nathaniel Hawthorne)
Unshakable honesty and personal integrity is the very essence of being a Coworker with God. Our
journey of life is all about developing this capacity for discernment: learning what works and what does
not by direct personal experience with the laws of karma through many incarnations. For it is only upon
the rock of truth that we can stand as CoWorkers with God. In the universe, our every thought, belief,
intention, and action is known by God more precisely than we can ever comprehend.
So the only one we can ever deceive by departing from truth is ourselves until the weight of karma
shows us the futility of doing so. When we begin to connect with truth, we find that it exists at many
different levels. As we unfold into this greater awareness of truth, our perception of it changes as our
consciousness expands. Truth remains the same: we are just able to see it better as one by one the scales
of illusion fall away. The more we connect with truth, the better we become as coworkers.
4> SELF DISCRETION: BALANCING SPEECH & SILENCE
"Language is the blood of the soul into which thoughts run and out of which they grow." (Oliver W. Holmes)
Words are the vital, living connection between actions and truth for "as we believe, so shall we do".
Nothing manifests into the universe without thoughts. And thoughts cannot be communicated into
action without the words that express the underlying ideas. Almost always before we become known by
our actions, we are recognized by our consistently spoken words, by what we usually choose to share by
our speech, and by what we always remain silent about. Nothing snares us karmically as much as our
own tongues the sooner we learn to control them, the better coworkers we will be.
5> SELF CONFIDENCE: BEING BRAVE VOYAGERS
"I thank God I am endued with such qualities that if I were turned out of the realm in my petticoat, I were able to
live any place in Christendom." (Queen Elizabeth I)
Courage is the fuel that gives us strength to make our journey through the universe as we explore the
worlds of karma and reincarnation. If you ever feel you are lacking in courage, know that coming to
Earth to have a spiritual experience was in and of itself a great act of bravery. Aristotle said that
"courage is the first among human qualities because it guarantees the others". Courage is the golden
thread that draws us ever higher into the inner realms and helps us be better CoWorkers with God.
6> SELF BALANCE: SERVING AS HUMBLE INSTRUMENTS
"We are all but humble instruments in the service of God." (Thomas Jackson)
All Souls are created equally and are equally loved by God. God does not value Mother Theresa more
and Adolf Hitler less. Both are Divine creations and are equal in God's eyes. It is only humans who
make value judgments about the merit of individual incarnations labeling them saint or sinner, great or
small, good or evil. The spinning wheel of karma works to reverse fortunes until we are brought to the
place of loving service as humble instruments working with God to cocreate the universe.
7> SELF IMPROVEMENT: BECOMING STATE OF THE ART
"As long as you live, keep learning how to live." (Seneca)
The universe is always unfolding so we will always find ourselves in a state of change. In any life, we
grow, then we age. We live, we learn, we contribute to the evolution of consciousness. During our
personal journey, we work ourselves from darkness to light, from negative to positive, from karma to
dharma. We do it again in life after life until we transition into the inner worlds where we continue to
unfold for there is always more to becoming "state of the art" in coworkership.
8> SELF RELIANCE: BEING COMPLETE WITHIN THE SELF
"The great lesson that nature seems to teach us at all ages is self-dependence." (Elizabeth Cady Stanton)
The most terrible truth that anyone will ever learn is that they agreed to experience all that has, is, and
will happen to them. The universe operates under this simple rule: "all that happens is by prior
agreement". These agreements are made with one simple purpose: to teach the individual to become
whole and complete within themselves as they unfold along with the constantly changing universe. For
the more complete we become within ourselves, the better we become as CoWorkers with God.
9> SELFLESS COMPASSION: ALL ARE CONNECTED
"I have seen the face of the enemy and I find that we are they." (Anonymous)
Our journey through the cycles of reincarnation is driven by our need to take responsibility for our
actions (personal karma) and our duty to all life (group karma). Since we are individual sparks of God,
we each must learn in our own way (individuation). Yet since we are all part of the "one song" of the
uni-verse, we learn from our connection to others (divination). Compassion springs from realizing that
all of us are on the same journey and will ultimately arrive at the same destination. That journey is
through the worlds of karma and that destination is love, the heart of God Itself.
10> SELF RESPECT: HONORING OURS & OTHER'S CHOICES
"Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood." (Helen Keller)
All roads lead back to God... but all roads are not the same nor do individuals travel along the roads in
the same way. Whether we realize it or not, all of us are seekers after truth and each will come to truth
in the way that is best for them. An essential part of becoming a coworker is honoring the path, life
contract, and choices that we make and others make in their Soul's journey in this and other lifetimes.
We are all unique sparks of God choosing the "succession of lessons which must be lived to be
understood" that is best for us. The highest form of respect coworkers can show is allowing others their
own choices/lessons and forgiving ourselves for our own personal choices/lessons.
11> SELFLESS EMPOWERMENT: BEING ALL YOU CAN BE
"Every creature is a word of God." (Meister Eckhart)
One of the greatest acts of love we can do for another is to show them how to be whole and complete
within themselves. It is just as the old adage goes: "catch a fish for a person and you feed them for a
day teach them to fish and you feed them for a lifetime." When we empower others to fully enjoy
their birthright as Divine Beings, we pass on the flame of love that others gave to us when they brought
us into our own power. It is that flame of love which grows and spreads and fills the universe with the
energy that is so necessary to it's unfoldment. We were all created to make manifest the Glory of God
that is within us as coworkers we all do that when we "be all that we can be."
12> SELF DISCIPLINE: SERVICE FIRST, LAST, AND ALWAYS
"I shall do good, I shall do His work; I shall be an angel of peace, a preacher of truth in my own place if I do but
keep His commandments and serve Him in my calling." (John Henry Newman)
It is one of the great ironies of human existence that humans seek to maximize love and to minimize
service. Yet one of the easiest ways of getting more love is by giving more loving service. For as we
give from sincere service from our hearts, they naturally open. As they open, we become ever more
receptive to the flow of love which, by it's very nature, is a circle of giving and receiving. The fastest
way to step into the flow of love is by the work that we do for, by it's very nature, our work is what
engages the majority of our time. Having the discipline to give loving service first, last, and always is
what prepares us "the work for which all other work is but preparation": CoWorkership with God.
Rules of the House #4: Rules for Healing
(adapted from information provided by Barbara Brennan, Janet Koenig, and Victoria Pendragon)
These healing rules operate impersonally just like any other physical phenomena. No one is free from them
ever. So either you decide to work with them or you will constantly bang into them. The choice is yours.
1> YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO EVER HEALS YOURSELF
You heal for two reasons. One, you believe you deserve to heal and that manifests as your desire to be
healed. Two, your desire to be healed manifests as action on your part to get healed. So many people
delay, deny, and diffuse their healing because, at bottom, they do not want to live. The desire for
healing is truly the desire for living. You will only really heal if you only really want to live.
2> TRUE HEALING COMES FROM WITHIN YOURSELF (AS ABOVE, SO BELOW)
No one outside of you can take responsibility for your problems. This means that no one outside of you
can really heal you. The truth is that healers are merely facilitators and vehicles for your healing.
Healers can advise you, counsel you, and prescribe treatments for you but they cannot heal you. Only
you can heal the spiritual cause ("as above") of your body-mind problem ("so below").
3> YOU ARE THE ONE WHO IS TOTALLY RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR HEALING
When you go to see a healer, you go for a few hours a week at most (unless you are seriously ill). So do
the math: the rest of the time your healing is totally up to you. Its your job to take the medicine the
healer has prescribed. Its your job to do the things the healer has instructed you to do. Its your job to
assess if the healer is helping you or if you should find another vehicle. So if you are not achieving the
results you want from your healing, the first place to look for answers is in the mirror.
4> YOU ARE ENERGY: YOUR STATE OF WELLNESS IS YOUR STATE OF BEINGNESS
Everything in the universe is energy. We may appear to be "solid" matter but looks can be deceiving. If
you magnify your cells down to your atoms, you would see that you are made up of subtle energy fields
and not matter. Your body-mind-spirit is constantly radiating, absorbing, and conducting this energy.
Every action, every thought, every choice effects your energy field. Dis-orders and dis-ease occur in the
body-mind due to imbalances and blockages in your energy field resulting from how much or little you
have honored the needs of your body-mind-spirit and respected your path. In the long run, your state of
wellness is the net result of your state of beingness: body, mind, and spirit.
5> YOU ARE A CONNECTED BEING: YOUR BODY, MIND, AND SPIRIT ARE ONE
Looking back one hundred years ago, we are amazed that anyone could believe that you could heal the
body without healing the mind. Looking forward one hundred years from now, people will be amazed
that anyone could believe that you could heal the body and the mind without addressing the spiritual
issues arising from the manner in which you conduct your life. Your body, mind, and spirit are
intimately connected and act as one. Your body-mind-spirit connect you to your lessons, your spiritual
path, and to the oneness of the universal collective consciousness.
6> YOU WILL NOT HEAL IF YOU DO NOT ACCEPT AND LEARN YOUR LESSONS
The Earth is a big schoolhouse. You are here to learn lessons (if you have not already consulted Rules
of the House #1, please do so). There are many ways for you to learn your lessons. You can learn
through pleasure or pain. The God Self within you, your Higher Self, is the one who sent you the
problem to be healed to advance your learning. So the best way to heal your problems is to accept that
you have lessons to learn and to do your best to master them.
7> THERE ARE NO MISTAKES: YOU CAUSED THE PROBLEM AND ARE THE CURE
Your life is always up to you: do not ever allow anyone to convince you otherwise. Too many people
too often allow those in the healing professions to define their lives by accepting the life or death
sentences the healers decree. Only God is perfect: any human healer can be wrong (even me). Case in
point: if I had believed my doctors I would have died by 21, yet somehow I have lived to be 42+. I
lived because I accepted that I had caused my problems and the answers to them lay within me. I was
born deeply wounded because I had wounded others but it was my wounds that led to my gifts. I
healed because I forgave myself. I forgave myself because God loved and forgave me.
8> HEALING WORKS BY UNLEASHING YOUR NATURAL ABILITY TO HEAL
Benjamin Franklin said "God does the work (of healing) and the physician takes the fee". And its true.
Your body-mind-spirit was designed to be a self-maintaining system, automatically correcting for the
problems inevitable to your existence on Earth. In fact, the truth is that you are always sick because
your body-mind is in a continual state of fighting off threats from your environment. You become ill
when the body-mind is too overburdened by afflictions to go on functioning normally. Dis-orders result
whenever long standing threats to the body-mind-spirit go untreated for too long. Death is inescapable
when the energy field is so degraded that the matter cannot be supported.
9> ANY TREATMENT HEALS ONLY IF IT PRODUCES ENERGETIC HARMONY
The energy field that surrounds, penetrates, and binds your body-mind-spirit is in a perpetual state of
activity. It is constantly in motion, continuously taking in and sending out vibrating energy waves. It
processes signals of energy created by your actions, your thoughts, and your emotions as well as by
your environment and lifestyle choices (food, sleep, exercise, etc). Medicine, drugs, or herbs work to
heal your body-mind because the vibration they produce has the right harmonic relationship to the part
of the body-mind currently in a state of dis-ease. This harmonic boost serves as an aid to the body-mind
in eliminating the energetic imbalance that caused the dis-ease to begin with. For only a balanced field
can supply the body-mind with sufficient energy to maintain a healthy state of matter.
10> THE MOST POWERFUL HEALING TOOLS YOU HAVE ARE LOVE AND JOY
One of the best physicians there is has the sign saying "Laughter is the Best Medicine" prominently
displayed in his office. Thats just goes to prove that the best things in life are still free - even in a
doctors office! When people come to me for healing, I always know that those who can laugh about
their ills and have a sense of humor about their problems will do the best. No matter what treatment you
are on, it can always be improved by "a smile a day to keep the doctor away".
11> TO HEAL IS TO ACHIEVE A BALANCED STATE OF WELL BEING
Simply defined, healing is achieving and maintaining a state of "wellness". Wellness flows from fully
developing each dimension of body, mind, and spirit and finding an overall balance between them.
Ultimately, this balance is achieved by honoring your spiritual path and your unique purpose in life.
12> HEALING IS NOT ONLY REPAIR BUT CONTINUOUS ENHANCEMENT
Most view healing as a process of just "repairing" problems. Yet when all the repairs are completed,
continuing the healing process takes you to the next level of your growth and enhancement. The
universe is a continuously unfolding and expanding creation and there is always more to explore and to
grow. Healing is the means to get you there: it becomes a journey and not just a destination.
Rules of the House #7: Rules for Illness
(adapted from my own lessons in the "School of Hard Knocks")
Illness operates impersonally just like any other physical phenomena. No one is free from them ever. So
either you decide to work with these illness rules or you will constantly bang into them. The choice is yours.
1> ILLNESS ALWAYS HAS A PURPOSE IT IS ALWAYS INTENSELY PERSONAL
The first thing anyone asks once they have contracted a serious illness is "Why me?" The question gets
asked without the person expecting the answer. Yet there is an answer and it is "you agreed to it in
advance for your own growth". This is directly contrary to the strongly held societal belief that illness is
something that "happens to us", that somehow it is outside ourselves. The truth is that your illness has
everything to do with you. Your illness has been directed at you by spirit. Usually you agreed to it
before you incarnated here. Or more often you contracted it while you were "down here" because you
strayed from your path in life. Your illness is meant to propel you on a profound journey of self-
discovery. If you cannot accept this, then your illness will be harder than it has to be.
2> ILLNESS ALWAYS REFLECTS A STATE OF DIS-EASE WITH YOUR LIFE
If you have ever noticed that most people seem to be in a perpetual state of complaining about their
lives, it is because they have "forgotten" why they are here. People are here on Earth to learn lessons
and, in general, have chosen to accept experiences that are harder than they can handle - hence the
complaints. This usually manifests as a profound state of dis-ease with their life. This feeling of dis-
ease, if deep and long standing, manifests as illness. Thoroughly joyful, ecstatic people are usually in
great health. If they do have serious illness, it is because they have chosen it at the level of spirit.
3> ILLNESS USUALLY REFLECTS IMBALANCES IN GIVING & RECEIVING LOVE
When we are babies, most of us are bathed in love. Babies are totally focused on getting and giving
love every moment of every day. They get touched, hugged, and kissed more as babies than they will
for the rest of their lives. In return, they are not afraid to give love or to get it. As we grow older, we
are taught to fear getting or giving love. Love becomes associated with pain and we narrow the circle of
those we allow to come close enough to us to exchange love. Yet love is as important to our health as
the air we breathe or the food we eat. When we are chronically unable to give or receive love, the lack
of this vital nutrient always manifests as illness in our bodies or minds.
4> ILLNESS WILL STEM FROM LACK OF/DERAILING LIFES PURPOSE & MEANING
Even when we are receiving and giving our minimum daily requirement of love, we still can be starved
for another vital nutrient. This is the inherent need in each one of us to find purpose and meaning in our
lives. At some point as we grow older, we must ask ourselves: "Am I leading the life I want to lead?"
and "Am I the person that I want to be?" If the answers to these two questions are "No", this never fails
to induce a profound state of dis-ease in our lives. Either we take the action that is needed to turn those
"No-s" into "Yes-es" or illness will manifest in our bodies-minds.
5> ILLNESS IS A DIRECT RESULT OF HOW YOU HAVE CONDUCTED YOUR LIFE
It is amazing how readily when can accept that this is true for other people and not for ourselves. It
makes sense to us that women we know, who cannot accept their femininity, contract breast and/or
ovarian cancer or that men who, struggle with their masculinity, contract prostate cancer. And that
those who have been inflexible all their lives manifest the rigidity in their bodies as arthritis. Or that
those who have difficulty speaking up for themselves end up with throat cancer. Yet, we all have a
blind spot when it comes to ourselves that keeps us from seeing how our conduct is helping or harming
our overall health. The truth is "the fault lies not in our stars, but in ourselves..."
6> ILLNESS IS CAUSED BY CHRONIC PATTERNS OF YOUR SPEAKING & THINKING
Everything you think and speak, in essence, is a command to the universe. So if you are always
thinking and saying "I'm tired", then you should not be surprised when you always are. Of if you are
always thinking and saying "I'm going to die before my time", then you will. So watch your thoughts
and your words for these are your spiritual commands that will manifest in your body-mind.
7> ILLNESSES BOTH ORIGINATE AND HEAL IN YOUR ENERGY FIELD
Unless you are on the brink of death, before you seek a cure by chopping (major surgery), burning
(laser/radiation), or poisoning (hard "drugs") your body or mind, first give peace a chance. You owe it
to yourself to seek cures that work with your body and mind instead of against them. Do energy work,
meditation, visualization - anything you can - to avoid the drastic measures that chopping, burning, and
poisoning present. Since you are all energy, the problem and the solution healing to your illness begin
and end in your energy field. For more, see the "Rules for Healing"...
8> ILLNESS IS CURED BY ACCEPTING AND MASTERING ITS LESSONS
If you are looking for a miracle cure, here it is: "Choose to love at every moment: forgive everyone,
everything." This magic cure will speed you through whatever lessons you have to learn. When you
have learned your lessons, the clouds of illness hanging over you will magically part - with one
important exception. That is where death has been deemed as the ONLY way for you to learn. Yet we
are all creators here so anything is possible. See the "Rules #1 for Being Human"...
9> THE MORE SERIOUS THE ILLNESS, THE GREATER THE NEED FOR CHANGE
In the spirit worlds, those on the Earth plane with serious illnesses are called butterflies. This is because
illness has put them into a cocoon of survival. To keep on living, the "butterfly" must struggle and force
it's way out of the cocoon by learning the lessons that life has to teach. The more serious the illness, the
greater the need to change ways of life that no longer serve the individual.
10> ILLNESS WILL STAY WITH YOU AS LONG AS YOU IGNORE IT'S LESSONS
Illness used to be the greatest excuse in my arsenal for not living. As long as I ignored it, illness clung
to me. Once I "listened" to it, my illness fell away. So no excuses: just choose to live!!!
11> IGNORANCE OF YOUR ILLNESS ONLY FEEDS ITS POWER OVER YOU
The saying the "ignorance of the law is no excuse" is never more true than when it comes to illness.
Illnesses run like trains on a predefined track with a predetermined timetable. While you choose to
ignore the illness, it keeps going, chugging on schedule down the track. Ignoring it never stops the
illness train. What stops it is a conscious desire on your part to switch to a safer length of track.
12> ONLY YOU CAN REALLY KNOW AND UNDERSTAND YOUR ILLNESS
You are the only one who lives inside your skin: 7 days a week, 24 hours a day. When it comes to
diagnosing and treating your condition, the difference between you and your doctor/healer is that they
have read more books than you have and they have more practical experience with healing dis-eases
than you have. When it comes to caring about and understanding your condition, never forget that only
you really care and only you really understand because only you are living with it. You can always
learn more about your condition but your doctor can never live inside your skin. So until they do, you
will always know best. So listen to the doctor but be sure to follow your heart and gut.
Rules of the House #9: Rules for Recovery
(adapted from "Alcoholics Anonymous: 12 Step Program" www.12steps.org)
Recovery is the search for serenity. Remember the Serenity prayer: "God, grant me the serenity to accept the
things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference."
1> RECOGNIZE THAT YOU ACTUALLY HAVE A "REAL" & SERIOUS PROBLEM
You can never heal any problem unless you first admit that you have one. Only at this moment can you
begin your healing process. In fact, from this moment, your healing has begun. In the language of 12
Steps, "we admitted we were powerless over our problems (fill in the blank with whatever they are):
that our lives had become unmanageable". We promise ourselves "we are going to know a new freedom
and a new happiness". We choose to know "hope instead of desperation".
2> RECOGNIZE YOU NEED HELP FROM OTHERS TO SOLVE YOUR PROBLEM
If you could solve the problem on your own, you would have. When you cannot, you need to get help.
In the language of 12 Steps, "we came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to
a joyous and peaceful way of thinking and living ". We promise ourselves "we will not regret the past
nor wish to shut the door on it". We choose to know "faith instead of despair".
3> AGREE TO BECOME OPEN TO RECEIVING THIS HELP FROM OTHERS
Knowing that you need help is no good unless you are open to receiving it. Openness to receiving help
always involves the greatest courage to make an extraordinary leap of faith. For to heal, we must put
ourselves in the hands of others. In the language of 12 Steps, "we made a decision to turn our will and
our lives over to the care of this power of our own understanding". We promise ourselves "we will
comprehend the word serenity". We choose to know "courage instead of fear".
4> AGREE TO HONESTLY TO DISCOVER THE INNER CAUSE OF THE PROBLEM
Your illness and your problems are intensely personal and meant to propel you on a journey of learning
(see the "Rules of Illness"). You cannot heal the problem unless you are willing to discover its inner
cause. You cannot discover the inner cause unless you are willing to look within. In the language of 12
Steps, "we made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves". We promise ourselves "we will
know peace". We choose to know "peace of mind instead of confusion".
5> AGREE TO ADMIT TO OTHERS THE EXACT NATURE OF YOUR PROBLEM
Admitting your problems to others is what allows the darkness to be brought to light and is what allows
the healing to transform your state of being. Admitting your problems to others allows them to benefit
by avoiding the mistakes you have made. In the language of 12 Steps, "we admitted to this power of
our own understanding, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs". We
promise ourselves "no matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can
benefit others ". We choose to know "self-respect instead of self-contempt".
6> AGREE TO MAKE THE COMMITMENT TO CHANGE FOR THE BETTER
Changing for the better is very simple but often very hard to do. It is simply this: "Choose to love at
every moment: forgive everyone, everything". For negative emotions - like fear, hate, anger lie at the
bottom of all illnesses and love is the cure. In the language of 12 Steps, "we were entirely ready to have
all these defects or character removed". We promise ourselves "the feelings of uselessness and self-pity
will disappear ". We choose to know "self-confidence instead of helplessness ".
7> AGREE TO ASK OTHERS TO HELP YOU CHANGE FOR THE BETTER
Change can happen in an instant. To make sure that the change lasts, we need the help of God and all
other people in our lives to keep our feet planted on the path of change. For know that if we do not stick
to the necessary changes we have agreed to make, our problems will return to us. They return until we
have learned our lessons or our bodies-minds have no choice but to die. We die so that we can get
another chance to learn to love. In the language of 12 Steps, "we humbly asked God to remove our
shortcomings". We promise ourselves "we will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in
others". We choose to know "the respect of others instead of their pity and contempt".
8> AGREE TO PUT THE PAST BEHIND YOU AND MAKE A NEW START
You life can only begin anew once you have agreed to put the past behind you. You cannot change the
past, you can only become willing to make amends for it. Others may or may not forgive you. Whether
they do or not, realize that you are making amends primarily for your peace of mind and to ingrain in
you the habit of always projecting love. In the language of 12 Steps, "we made a list of all persons we
had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all". We promise ourselves "self-seeking will
slip away". We choose to know "a clean conscience instead of a sense of guilt".
9> AGREE TO TAKE ACTIVE STEPS TO "SHOW" YOU HAVE MADE A NEW START
Our bodies and minds were not meant to hold negative emotions they were meant to receive and give
love unconditionally. We cannot heal our bodies-minds as long as we continue to drink in the poison
that sustained negative emotions and bad treatment of ourselves and others produce in us. In the
language of 12 Steps, "we made direct amends to such people (including us) wherever possible, except
when to do so would injure them or others". We promise ourselves "our whole attitude and outlook on
life will change". We choose to know "real friendships instead of loneliness".
10> AGREE TO IMPLEMENT THE CHANGE EVERY DAY, ONE DAY AT A TIME
To be effective and long lasting, change must be a continuous daily process. Many fail to make changes
because doing so for the rest of their lives seems too overwhelming. The process becomes manageable
when we take it one day at a time and allow ourselves to have setbacks without ever giving up on
ourselves. In the language of 12 Steps, "we continued to take personal inventory and when we were
wrong promptly admitted it". We promise ourselves "fear of people and insecurity will leave us". We
choose to know "a clean pattern of life instead of a purposeless existence ".
11> RECOGNIZE THAT GOD WILL ALWAYS HELP YOU EVERY STEP OF THE WAY
Opening ourselves to Gods help is the only way that we ultimately succeed. In the language of 12
Steps, "we sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we
understood God, praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry that out". We
promise ourselves "we will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us". We
choose to know "the love and understanding of our families instead of their doubts and fears".
12> RECOGNIZE THAT AS WE HELP OTHERS TO HEAL, WE HEAL OURSELVES
In the language of 12 Steps, "having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these twelve steps, we
tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs ". We promise
ourselves "we will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves ". We
choose to know "the freedom of a happy life instead of the bondage of our problems".
Rules of the House #32: "Going to Hell in a Handbasket": Violating the Rules of Healing
"Shit happens" is a favorite expression in the United States. It summarizes quite eloquently the mistaken belief
that karma falls down on each one of us randomly just like rain. So that when "bad things happen to good
people", we can just shrug our shoulders and feel sorry for ourselves. This is especially true when it comes to
"suddenly" getting ill: we say "shit happens, what can you do?"
Yet there is nothing sudden about most illnesses... and like rain, we see the clouds gathering, but we are sure
they will go away. Then when a bolt of lightning strikes us in the head, we are totally surprised. So let's take
the guesswork out of it... Let's see what happens when we do not honor ourselves, when we let our chakras and
auras go to "hell in a handbasket", when we fail to heed the call of Soul and live as we know we "should".
Before We Go to "Hell": Let's Review Quickly How Our Chakras Work
The energy field (otherwise known as the aura) that surrounds, penetrates, and binds the body-mind-spirit is in a
perpetual state of activity. It is constantly in motion, continuously taking in and sending out vibrating energy
waves through openings in the aura (otherwise known as chakras). The human energy field processes signals of
energy created by one's actions, thoughts, and emotions as well as by one's environment and lifestyle choices
(food, sleep, exercise, etc). When someone thinks and chooses in a manner that is consistent with love and with
their agreed upon path in life, they experience abundant energy and vibrant health.
It is the ability to love that keeps the energy chakras open and flowing. So when one thinks and chooses from
fear, power, lack, negativity, or selfishness, the flow of energy is blocked. Dis-ease then occurs in the body-
mind due to imbalances and blockages in the energy field resulting from how little one has honored the needs of
body-mind-spirit and respected their path. These blockages deprive the area of the body-mind being fed by the
chakra by restricting the flow of energy to below what is necessary for good health.
Since there is more than one chakra, energy will continue to reach the total body-mind despite the blockages.
However, the areas around the blocked chakra slowly get diseased. Such blockages do not occur evenly or
randomly across the body. They occur in the chakra associated with "the area of life" where the individual is not
acting in a manner that is consistent with love and/or their path in life.
Persistent blockages manifest as problems which can be as minor as infrequent pain and as major as cancer. To
truly heal illness usually requires a life change ultimately leading to a personal life more connected to the core
of one's being. It leads us to that deeper part of ourselves called the Higher Self. And when we refuse to be led,
the consequences can become severe and dramatic. We descend into our own personal hell.
And So As We Believe and Act, So Shall We Become
1> NEGLECTING THE "ROOT" CHAKRA
Related Diseases: Sexual Dysfunction, Prostate/Ovarian-Breast Cancer
Just because someone incarnates into a male or a female body, it does not automatically make them a
man or a woman. To become a man or a woman means embracing their body's gender with a glad heart
while being grateful for the lessons it will bring. Yet, in past lives, most of us usually develop a
preference for one gender over the other. When we find that we are either consistently "wishing and
hoping" or "acting as if" we were the opposite sex, we are telling our bodies to reject those gender
specific parts of ourselves that "do not belong" to us. This dis-ease with our own gender, if not
confronted and resolved, will result in sexual disorders. Similarly, if we find ourselves with partners
who reject or belittle how we are honoring our sexuality and we do nothing to "defend ourselves", this
lack of self love will also be interpreted as us rejecting our own sexuality and opens us to disease.
2> NEGLECTING THE "SACRAL" CHAKRA
Related Diseases: Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue, Kidney & Liver Disorders
Remember when you were young and had lofty dreams of "what you were going to be when you grew
up"? If you are like most people, somewhere along the way, you look up and realize that not only have
you failed to achieve your dreams but that your life is a nightmare. Who grows up wanting to be a "kiss
ass", a "back stabber", a "spineless yes person"? We have all come to Earth to create our lives as we go
about unwinding our past life karma. Often we struggle in the tides of karma, get weary, and are
dragged under into dis-eases that reflect our "karmically lazy" choices. The weariness manifests as
fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue. The chronic indecision manifests as liver disorders while anger at or
disappointment in ourselves hits the kidneys hard.
3> NEGLECTING THE "SOLAR PLEXUS" CHAKRA
Related Diseases: Stomach Cancer, Gastric or Peptic Ulcers, Anorexia, Bulimia
The dynamic of the universe is this we are all individual sparks of God, all connected, just all separate
at the same time. This creates a natural tension between our need to honor our own needs versus
honoring the needs of others. Almost all of us come into this life with a strong tendency from past lives
either to usually put others ahead of ourselves or usually put ourselves ahead of others. When we always
sacrifice ourselves for others, we eat away at our own self esteem by caring too much about other's
opinions and expectations. This eating away at ourselves often manifests quite literally in our
physiology as stomach cancer and gastric or peptic ulcers. On the other hand, when we put our needs
ahead of others, we may put undue attention on ourselves that can take life threatening turns as in the
case of eating disorders like anorexia and bulimia. These disorders are often the result of an individual's
desire to control their bodies because they feel out of control in all other areas of their life. Ironically,
those who end up starving their bodies into submission gain the ultimate control by focusing others on
their own self induced struggle between life and death.
4> NEGLECTING THE "HEART" CHAKRA
Related Diseases: Heart Attack, Stroke, Congestive Heart Failure
It is no wonder that Heart Disease is the Number 1 killer worldwide. Human hearts were designed to
receive and give love unconditionally. Love is as vital a nutrient to our heart as anything we eat or
drink or do for exercise. Since we all have come to the Earth to grow in our ability to give and receive
love, it is not surprising, that when we are unable to do so, we develop problems in our hearts. Usually,
this is caused by our inability to love ourselves. Since we all are constantly picking up so much
"negative programming" from our families, our friends, our schools, and our society, that it is no
wonder we fail to love ourselves. For if we are not as successful as Bill Gates or as gorgeous as a Barbie
doll or having emerged from past lives as strong as Hercules, we inevitably feel "less". It is long held
feelings of internal dis-ease in our minds that invariably manifest as disease in our hearts.
5> NEGLECTING THE "THROAT" CHAKRA
Related Diseases: Throat Cancer, Thyroid, TMJ, Teeth Problems
Speaking up for ourselves is the most effective way of letting others know of our wants and our needs.
It saves time & energy and takes the guesswork out of others interpreting our grunts and groans. It was
the reason that language evolved in the first place. Speaking up for ourselves is not just telling others
mundane things like "pass the ketchup". It involves "carving out and defending" a sacred space for
ourselves. As in telling others when they have hurt us, especially as to why and how they have treated
us when it is unacceptable and has violated our sacred space. Often when we consistently fail to speak
up for ourselves when we have been hurt, we are unconsciously repeating disempowering patterns from
past lives. Yet these unspoken words stick in our throat chakras blocking the energy until they get so
shut down that they become easy targets for disease.
6> NEGLECTING THE "3
rd
EYE" CHAKRA
Related Diseases: Eye-Sight Disorders, Ear-Hearing Disorders
Shutting the eyes and closing the ears to the call of spirit often leads to "real" problems with our eyes
and ears. The truth is most vision and hearing problems are the result of the person's desire to avoid
looking at or listening to the truth about some aspect of their life. Dealing only with the symptoms
(getting eyeglasses or hearing aids) "masks" the problem without solving it. The real tragedy is that
such "eye/ear care solutions" fits in perfectly with the mass conscious belief that sight and hearing
problems are the natural result of aging. Whereas what is usually true that as we age we become "set in
our ways", and it is actually this inflexibility of mind that is responsible for our vision and hearing
"impairment". Sight and hearing loss are only permanent for those who have "shut their eyes" and have
"closed their ears" to the call of spirit and to the possibility that 10,000 others can be wrong.
7> NEGLECTING THE "CROWN" CHAKRA
Related Diseases: Migraine Headaches, Nerves, Spine Disorders, Multiple Sclerosis, Parkinson's
Likewise shutting out the call of spirit can result in blinding, migraine headaches as the war rages on
between mind (which responds more to our "lower ego") and body (which responds more to our "Higher
Self"). The Crown Chakra is always the focal point of such a war because it is the point when
divination "ends" (one's connection to the collective consciousness) and "individuation" begins (one's
own unique individuality, the note one's brings to the universal song). This war can rage throughout the
entire nervous system effecting all the nerves and the spine. In extreme cases, it can manifest as
Multiple Sclerosis and Parkinson's Disease. These diseases are usually found in spiritually advanced
individuals who are so attached to their ego that they believe and act as if it were possible for them to
control everything. The only way to break down such "hard heads and willful hearts" is to show them,
in a way that cannot be ignored that they are more than this. That they are more than their mind, more
than their body, more than their heart they are Souls and CoWorkers with God.
8> NEGLECTING THE "PHYSICAL" OUTER BODY
Related Diseases: Skin Cancer, Bone Diseases, Arthritis, Muscle Disorders
It is most often our "skin and bones" that show the "years and mileage" that we have undergone in our
physical existence. Take Skin Cancer which often strikes those in "trapped" in life situations that have
been "eating away at them" for years: it is the simply outer manifestation of the inner pain. Or Bone
Diseases which often strike those with unhealed past lives gnawing away at them deep inside. Or
Arthritis which is the outer manifestation of long standing, inflexible patterns of being: whether it been
rigid thoughts, unyielding beliefs, or disempowering actions. And finally, Muscle Disorders, which
relates to one's ability to "experience life as a joyous dance". After love, regular doses of joy are
essential to one's well being. "All work and no play" makes Jane / John not only a very dull girl / boy, it
eventually makes them one prone to major diseases which will put them out of their misery.
9> NEGLECTING THE "ASTRAL" INNER BODY
Related Diseases: Self Destructive Behavior, Addiction, Drugs, Reckless Spending, Risky Sex
Of course, there are many that do not wait for a friendly disease to come their way. Their emotions
drive them to self destructive behaviors designed to end their pain. Many like to bring on death by
building their coffin one nail at a time. They "ramp it down" by smoking (which clouds their view of
their problems), drinking (which numbs their pain), or medicating (let's be honest: prescription and
over-the-counter drug abuse is far more prevalent than hard core drug use). They "ramp it up" by
reckless spending (which leads to death more often than is reported), risky sex (which leads to disease
or to "Mr. Goodbar"), or extreme sports (let's be honest: the news is littered with stories of those who
"tragically" died young). Either way self destructive emotions are the true cause of death.
10> NEGLECTING THE "CAUSAL" INNER BODY
Related Diseases: Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, Multiple Personality Disorder, Schizophrenia
Some in the psychology field believe that "all behavior comes from somewhere" and that "on the inside
all behavior makes sense." Often the "somewhere" is past lives. Take Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder:
OCD in this life is usually directly traceable back to a past life where the disempowering trait or
behavior was created. The trait was created in the past to empower the person to either live through a
life threatening situation or to prevent them from re-experiencing a traumatic death in future. Problems
crop up when this "cellular learning" inherited from past lives are no appropriate in the context of the
present life. Similarly, Schizophrenia (SCH) and Multiple Personality Disorder (MPD) are both caused
by improper functioning of protective "past life" mechanisms. During life threatening situations arise,
aspects of past life personalities will emerge to help the present day person solve problem(s). When the
danger is passed, these past life personalities will automatically be shut down and reintegrated back into
the present day person's memory. The trouble arises when the individual suffers constant threats from
their environment due to long standing patterns of physical and/or sexual abuse. The shut down
mechanism is disabled and the past life personalities (MPD) or personality (SCH) will then compete for
the attention of the body-mind.
11> NEGLECTING THE "MENTAL" INNER BODY
Related Diseases: Alzheimer's Disease, Phobias (All Types), Paranoia, Depersonalization Disorder
Less extreme forms of mental problems can also have their origins in past lives. Take those who suffer
from Alzheimer's Disease. They often choose to incarnate into situations where they are bound to
repeat old patterns to see if they can transcend their inflexibility. After living a lifetime, it is often
crystal clear as to whether the individual has or has not transcended their "unwanted" patterns.
Contracting Alzheimer's Disease is the usual penalty when they have not a similar more drastic but
less common penalty is Depersonalization Disorder (disconnection from one's mental processes). Other
"blasts from the past" into mental states are phobias (which 9 times out of 10 originated in past lives)
and paranoia (past life conditioning to always expect the worst case scenario).
12> NEGLECTING THE "ETHERIC" INNER BODY
Related Diseases: Recurring Nightmares, Sleep Disorders, Hallucinations
The Etheric Body is the final frontier between the worlds of karma and reincarnation and the pure
realms of Soul. During sleep, people are in the closest contact with these Soul realms. So when those
of us on the Earth are "going out of control" from the universal perspective, what is a Soul to do? If it is
inconsistent for our life path for us to contract an illness, Soul usually "tries" to reach us through our
dreams. By nature, dreams are fragile, foggy things that are usually confusing and are quickly
forgotten. To get our attention through dreams, they need to be dramatic and repetitive. If we ignore
them, they can become recurring nightmares and/or sleep disorders. Sleep deprivation over a long
enough period of time usually forces us to pay attention. Unfortunately, it can also lead to
hallucinations. If we experience these hallucinations, and it is determined that our mind is not breaking
down, it is likely that "inner beings" (angelic or demonic) are trying to contact us directly.
The Get-Out-of-Hell-for-FREE-Card
If you have recognized your disease above - and how you have participated in it's creation - you have taken the
first step toward freeing yourself from your own personal hell. There is only one way to get out of hell for good
and that is to accept that you are totally responsible for all that has happened to you. When you have learned all
that your illness has to teach you then you can become free from it. As long as you think that it has happened to
you "by accident", that it is "random", or it is a "cruel joke played on you by the God and/ or the universe", you
will never get out of hell. If you hold such beliefs but have failed to get out of hell on your own, why not try
accepting responsibility for your problems? They are all that you have to lose.
Rules of the House #20: The Secret's Out Spiritual Reason for the Top 10 Leading Causes of Death
(based on information from the United States National Center for Health Statistics, Louise Hay's Book
"You Can Heal Your Life", and channeled information)
Here is how the Rules for Illness (#7), Healing (#4), and Recovery (#9) play out in "real life". Below are the
Top 10 leading causes of death in the United States, excluding accidents ("there are no accidents in a universe
which runs by agreement") and suicide (which usually the result of an overload of spiritual challenges relative to
the person's ability to handle them). For each cause, the spiritual reason for it is given. If you have one or more
of these conditions, I urge you to look inside and see if maybe - just maybe - this applies to you.
1> HEART DISEASE Failing to Love and to Learn to Love Yourself (and Others)
The heart "is the first thing in us to have life, and which has dominion over all the body." So it "should be
the first and the last to love and worship God, both when we begin and end our actions, be they spiritual or
bodily, and generally in all the affairs of life." The human heart was designed to receive and give love
unconditionally. Love is as vital a nutrient to our heart as anything we eat or drink or do for exercise. Since
we all have come to the Earth to grow in our ability to give and receive love, it is not surprising, that when
we are unable to do so, we develop problems in our hearts. More often than not, this is caused by our
inability to love ourselves. We all pick up so much "negative programming" from our families, our friends,
our schools, and our society, that it is no wonder we fail to love ourselves. For if we are not as successful as
Bill Gates or as gorgeous as a Barbie doll, we feel somehow "less". These long standing feelings of internal
dis-ease in our minds invariably manifest as disease in our hearts.
2> CANCER Failing to Take Action to Solve Long Standing Life Conflicts
In the inner worlds, cancer is known as the "butterfly disease". Like a butterfly, the cancer patient has to
struggle to break out of the "cocoon" of their disease or die in the attempt. More often than not, the cancer
"victim" has a pattern of long standing life problems that have been "eating them up inside". Their inability
or unwillingness to effectively deal with these problems is what created the cancerous cocoon to begin with.
Often, cancer is the manifestation of the person's conflicting desires to escape the situation and to "keep
things as they are" because change would be too painful. Cancer becomes the means of escape that many
take by doing nothing to stop it from leading them to a "final solution".
3> STROKE (CEREBROVASCULAR "ACCIDENT") Failing to Honor One's Body-Mind
Stroke should be renamed to "strike" for strokes are invariably caused by the body-mind going on strike
against the individual's lifestyle. To those around the individual, strokes are seldom a surprise because they
can usually point to the ways in which the person has failed to honor themselves. Stroke "victims" generally
have not consistently honored their bodies by giving them the proper food, drink, exercise, sleep, and other
things "which everyone knows" they should do. They do not honor their minds by consistently getting the
"time off" they need to play, "re-charge", and "re-create" themselves. It is "no accident" that since stroke
"victims" do not honor their bodies or minds as the temples of spirit they are, the temples collapse around
them. Unfortunately, it is only when the temple of the body and mind are permanently damaged by stroke
that they learn this lesson - in this life if they are lucky, in the next if not.
4> PNEUMONIA - INFLUENZA Failing to Face Overwhelming Fears and Challenges
Just as cancer is the inability to deal with long standing problems, fatal bouts of pneumonia and influenza
usually result from an individual's inability to handle multiple fears and challenges overwhelming them in a
much shorter and compressed timeframe. Usually the person becomes drowned in the floodtide of emotions
(fear, anxiety, panic) that engulf them. The "internal floods" manifest as severe lung congestion which cuts
off their connection to breath and ultimately their connection to life.
5> DIABETES (MELLITUS) Failing to Connect with Joy and the "Sweetness" of Life
If diabetics had their own theme song, it might be this one from Henry Purcell: "a person of sorrow and
acquainted with grief" Many diabetics will tell you that the restrictions they endure with this disease are
cause enough for their sadness. And yet it is the sadness from many lifetimes that has usually caused them
to contract this disorder. The bodies of diabetics cannot handle sugar because these individuals cannot
connect with life's sweetness. Aside from love, it is joy and happiness that are the most necessary
"spiritual" nutrients that are required to sustain life. So "stop worrying and get happy".
6> AIDS - HIV Failing to Love and Accept Oneself for Who and What One Is
In the course of many lifetimes, we have been and will be all things - from a mass murderer to a saint (and
yes, it is possible for the same individual to have had incarnations as each one is personally known to
me!). It is no accident that AIDS and HIV originated in the gay community as the primary lessons of those
in "alternative lifestyles" is self discovery and self acceptance. Those who become "tired" of constantly
fighting off the rejection and criticism from others manifest this weariness in their bodies. At the same time,
their bodies become unable to fight off threats from the environment and become "self" rejecting. The
inevitable result of this self rejection can be nothing but fatal, nothing but death.
7> LIVER DISEASE (CIRRHOSIS) Failing to Accept What One Has Made of One's Life
Cirrhosis of the liver is the ultimate disease of choice. For those who get it have chosen consistently to
"drown their sorrows in a bottle" rather than facing them. For those in life situations or places in the world
where misery, despair, and hopelessness are the daily diet getting drunk may seem the only sensible
alternative. And death that lies waiting at the bottom of the glass may seem to be the only true hope.
8> CIRCULATORY (ATHEROSCLEROSIS) Failing to Be Open and Receptive to Life
More commonly known as "hardening of arteries", this disease is caused primarily by the "hardening of the
attitudes". The entrenched attitudes which narrow and restrict the mind manifest as hardened and
constricted arteries in the body. Cutting off the flow of new ideas and ways of thinking literally reduce the
body's ability to flow and circulate life energy properly which then results in hardened arteries.
9> KIDNEY DISEASE Failing to Transmute Negative Emotions (Anger, Hate, etc) Properly
There is a common misconception that the body is a machine and that the organs handle only physical
functions. The truth is the organs also process an individual's emotions and can get easily overloaded when
the individual is emotionally "out of control". This is especially true of the often besieged kidney whose job
it is to remove waste from the body. The most toxic emotional waste products are anger and hate which are
lost opportunities to move a person toward forgiveness and tolerance. If these toxic emotions are "indulged"
in excessively and consistently, they will deluge the kidney and cause it to fail.
10> LUNG DISEASE Failing to Fully Take in Life due to Feelings of Unworthiness
Every moment we make a choice of how much life we take in by every breath we take. Air contains the
only vital life force that we need constantly (ten minutes without air and most people die). Significantly our
breath is also the only physical function that we have complete and conscious control over. That happens
because by choosing the quality of our breath we are given the opportunity to choose the quality of our life.
When we breathe deeply, we nourish our body profoundly. When we fail to do so, we slowly starve
ourselves. Breathing disorders, like eating disorders, are a reflection of an individual's beliefs about their
worthiness to receive the nourishment that gives life. Those who cannot breath deeply cannot live fully.
Those who cannot live fully usually come from a place of mistakenly believing they are not worthy. The
truth is everyone is a child of God and it is that and that alone that makes everyone worthy of life.
Rules of the House #11: Top Ten Indicators of Past Life Problems
The truest test of how deeply you are effected by your past lives is found when you get the results of our
exclusive, revolutionary "Past Life Profile". Your profile will tell you where and how deeply you are effected
by your past life problems - physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Below are the top ten indicators
that you may have a serious past life problem that is adversely effecting your life now. If you have more than
seven, you should seek out past life counseling immediately - if not with us, then with someone in your area.
1> OBSESSIVE-COMPULSIVE DISORDER
Every attitude and belief you have comes from somewhere. Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) in
this lifetime is usually directly traceable back to a past life where the disempowering trait or behavior
was created. The spiritual purpose of OCD is force the individual to seek the answer to why they are
now being "plagued" with thoughts and behaviors that they have no control over. When the life lesson
associated with OCD has been fully learned and "absorbed" into the individual's body-mind, the
"disempowering" trait or behavior will fall away. Often all that is needed is for the individual to
confront the past life(s) where the OCD originated. Going back to the past becomes the means of
freeing them from being condemned to repeat those lessons in the future.
2> SUICIDAL THOUGHTS - ATTEMPTS
For many, the weight of the difficult spiritual path they have undertaken in this lifetime becomes too
much to bear. This may manifest as dark periods where suicide seems the only solution to ending their
pain. So if you are seriously thinking of committing suicide or if you have already attempted to do so,
then you owe it to yourself to find out why. Take it from one who knows: suicide is NEVER the
answer. Suicide only makes the problem one thousand times worse. That is because all suicides are
forced to return to a physical plane of existence in a body that is severely compromised in some manner.
For example, most "Downs Syndrome" people are returning suicides.
3> FIBROMYALGIA-CHRONIC FATIGUE
Fibromyalgia is a disease of "soul weariness" where the body in this life is so weighted down by past
life resonances that it cannot function properly until it has had an abnormally long period of rest. These
resonances manifest as toxins in your body that are stored in your cellular memory. The best thing to do
for fibromyalgia is NEVER to give into the despair that is an inevitable consequence of prolonged pain
and confinement to bed. Other "must dos" for this disease include drinking as much water as you can
stand every day (to flush out the toxins), getting on a daily program of laughing and smiling, and doing
some exercise - even if it is only moving your eyes in a regular pattern for an hour daily. For chronic
fatiguers, the best thing to do is to walk and increase the time a little each day.
4> MULTIPLE PERSONALITIES - SCHIZOPHRENIA
Multiple personality disorders (MPD) and/or schizophrenia (SCH) can be caused by the emergence of
past life personalities that arise to help the present day person solve problem(s). The trouble comes
when these past life personalities are not properly reintegrated back into the present day person's
memory. What normally happens is, that when an individual is in crisis, they access the "unused" part
of their brain where their past life personalities are stored to help them overcome it. When the crisis is
averted, the pathway to that part of their brain is automatically shut off. In cases of MPD or SCH, the
crises are either so severe or so chronic that this shut down mechanism can no longer function properly.
The mind then has difficulty distinguishing between the current and all prior personalities. In a sense,
the prior personalities come back to life and fight for the attention of the current body-mind. In SCH,
there is usually a very dominant prior personality which drives out all others except themselves and the
current day personality. In MPD, a host of prior personalities jockey for position at the forefront of the
person's awareness and end up taking turns.
5> EXTREME EATING DISORDERS-WEIGHT PROBLEMS
In the most recent generations, the Holocaust and other tragedies have driven many to reincarnate with
serious imbalances in their weight. Those are seriously overweight-obese are usually suffering from a
past life resonance which causes the body to become determined never to starve again. "Enough"
weight is put on the individual by the body to keep it safe. Those who are seriously underweight-
anorexic are usually suffering from a past life resonance which causes the body to believe that it still
must be caught up in the struggle for survival. Individuals become compelled to drop weight and give a
variety of other explanations for it (as in they need to "look good", to "be perfect", to "control their out
of control lives", etc). The reality is that there is usually a past life personality just "starving for
attention" and for the healing that only knowledge of the past brings.
6> MULTIPLE BIRTH DEFECTS/NATAL CONDITIONS
Multiple medical problems at birth (three or more) are usually the result of an individual being on the
spiritual "debt consolidation karmic payment plan". Since birth conditions can never be ignored and
usually last for the entire lifetime, they become the perfect vehicles for the working off of serious and
complex karmic conditions arising from past lives. It is as if all the individual's problems have been
rolled into one big, gigantic ball that the individual will be dragging around for "the rest of their life".
7> UNEXPLAINED CHRONIC PAIN AND/OR ILLNESSES
If doctor(s) have told you "I cannot find anything wrong with you" but you are certain something is
wrong, then both of you are right. Past life problems can be remarkably resistant to present day
treatments. If the problem truly does originate in the past, the solution will defy resolution using
conventional present day therapies. However, if the source of the chronic pain or illness does lie in the
past, then past life treatment can most likely produce fast and dramatic healing results.
8> UNEXPLAINED CHRONIC PHOBIAS - INAPPROPRIATE FEARS
A fear or a phobia can be classified as "inappropriate" when the situation triggering the fear or the
phobia in fact poses no imminent threat, no forseeable danger, or no actual risk of harm to the
individual. Like chronic pain, chronic phobias arising from past life trauma can be very resistant to
present day treatments. If the fear is buried in the past, then it is the most quickly healed by going back
to the past. Often confronting the fear or phobia is enough just to send it away.
9> RECURRING NIGHTMARES ABOUT TRAUMATIC DEATHS
Often all the people we see or hear or know about in our dreams are just other manifestations of our
personality. If the people we see in our dreams seem to be historical (dressed in clothes from the past,
etc), they are more than likely who we were in a past life. If these people are being harmed or killed, it
is usually your body's way of working off fears associated with these traumas from past lives. Working
off karma in the dream state - believe me - in the end is often much more pleasant than healing it while
you are "awake". Know that if you wake up terrified by a nightmare, it is infinitely less frightening than
experiencing real trauma played out as harm to your physical body.
10> SEVERE CHRONIC LUNG CONGESTION
Many people on the brink of contacting the greater totality of themselves experience a release of cellular
toxins over an extended period of time that comes in the form of nasal or lung congestion. This is a
necessary cleansing which provides the opening for past life healing. It is your body's way of crying
and releasing all the grief that has accumulated within you over the years.
Rules of the House #14: A Prison Without Walls Your Body as an Agent of Free Will & Karma
(from "Karma" by Annie Besant and channeled information)
The World Goes 'Round in Circles: At some point, as an individual grows in spiritual understanding, they will
come across an apparent contradiction between the concepts of free will and karma. It goes like this "Well if
everything is a working out of karma and all agreed to in advance, then how do I have free will?" but "Well if
everything is free will then I can do what I want but then why are my past lives holding me back?"
And the Answer is Your physical body is literally a prison without walls. You are free to do
whatever it is your body will or will not allow or compel you to do. Here is how it works:
1> YOUR PHYSICAL BODY IS ACTUALLY GOVERNED BY YOUR INNER BODIES
Annie Besant explained it best: You get the karmic body "you have prepared for yourself" directly from
"agents of the Lords of Karma." This "inner double" karmic body is "built according to the elements you
yourself have provided." These elements include your character strengths and weaknesses, your skills and
abilities, your desires and dreams "after which is shaped your physical body." In "very truth, you are self
created, responsible for all that you are." Your inner bodies "condition the exercise of your faculties."
They shape your beliefs and thoughts which governs your choices and creates your reality.
2> MOST OF HUMANITY RUNS ALONG THE "TRAIN TRACKS" OF KARMA
Often most people cannot even notice that their lives are running along the "train tracks" of karma laid out
by their inner bodies. They never try to test the limits of their "self made prisons" to see if they can be
something more. They merely accept that their life "is the way it is" and that "some things will never
change". It is this type of thinking that keeps most safely inside the box of karma that their body-mind has
become. They use their free will only to the extent that they are "thinking inside the box". Thus their karma
and their free will coexist: never interfering or contradicting one another.
3> YOUR HEREDITY (CELLS-DNA-GENES) CREATES THE "TRACKS" OF YOUR KARMA
The genetic coding of any individual physical body is formed by it's past life predispositions and is stored as
cellular memory (see Rules #15). It gives the individual the potential to contract any number of physical
ailments and to undergo any number of different life experiences. Whether or not someone manifests a
particular condition or encounters certain life experiences is totally dependent upon the choices individual
has made using their free will. These choices can be made consciously (you are aware of them) or
unconsciously (your Higher Self sends them to you as a vehicle for learning life lessons).
4> YOUR ENVIRONMENT SETS THE ROUTE OF THE "TRACKS" OF YOUR KARMA
Each individual carries into this lifetime the potential for manifesting a recurrence of a past life condition.
This potential resulted from conflicts created and left unresolved in past lifetimes. When an individual
encounters similar situations in the environment of this lifetime, they get the opportunity to complete that
issue. They complete an issue when they address the deep seated causes of the problem. If the person is
successful in solving the problem, their environment transforms to move them to the next set of problems.
If not, their life is "switched" back to a similar situation, so they can try again to solve it.
5> YOUR EMOTIONS FUEL YOUR RIDE ALONG THE "TRACKS" OF YOUR KARMA
Emotions are literally "energy in motion". Highly charged emotions that are not expressed and released will
have adverse if not life threatening - effects on an individual's physical and mental condition. To heal
them, it is not necessary to express such emotions directly to the person(s) involved in a given life situation.
All that is really needed is for the individual to acknowledge the truth of their emotions, honor them, and
develop unconditional self love. What makes your ride on the tracks of karma at all bearable is the
compassion, love, and forgiveness that you develop for yourself and others along the way.
6> HEREDITY + ENVIRONMENT + FREE WILL = RESOLUTION OF KARMA
So the life of most people on Earth today can be summed up by the above formula. The heredity (which
they chose before they came), their environment (which they inherit but are driven to change), and their free
will (the actions they "choose" based on their emotions) create their life. If you look at the mass of
humanity, you will find that most people usually do not transcend the circumstances of their birth and their
upbringing. Heredity and environment become the blinders that keep them plodding along their track of
karma. If these conditions are "bad enough", they also become the motivation for an individual to exercise
their free will and work toward overcoming "the 'karma' cards they have been dealt".
7> KARMA MEANS TAKING ACTION TO TRANSCEND HEREDITY/ENVIRONMENT
For every action there is a reaction, for every cause, an effect: this is the fundamental principle of karma.
Free will is involved in the selection of the action taken. Karma is involved in creating the circumstances
that make selecting an action necessary. Evolution and spiritual growth in joy, love, and awareness are the
end results of the karmic process. When you recognize that your physical body is merely one of the
garments your Soul wears to gain experience, you can understand how to transcend the circumstances you
are living under. In essence, you can begin to exert your free will to break out of the box of karma.
8> TRANSCENDING YOUR HEREDITY MEANS HANDLING SPIRITUAL CAUSES
Every problem contains the solution within it. Although there is a "point of no return", all physical, mental,
or emotional conditions experienced within this lifetime can be healed. They can only be transcended once
the spiritual causes which created them are resolved (see Rules #2, 4, 7, and 9). The spiritual causes are
those you "inherited" from past lives the major karmic issues you are resolving.
9> TRANSCENDING YOUR ENVIRONMENT MEANS HANDLING SPIRITUAL EFFECTS
All physical, mental, or emotional environments experienced within this lifetime can be transcended. The
media is full of stories about how certain individuals have overcome incredible odds. They can only be
transcended once the spiritual effects which created them are resolved (see Rules #2, 4, 7, and 9). The
spiritual effects are those you "created" in this lifetime the karma created by how you react now.
10> TRANSCENDING YOUR EMOTIONS MEANS SETTLING BOTH CAUSE AND EFFECT
Your karma functions like a fence: it sets up the boundaries within which you use your free will to work on
the "problems" caused by your heredity and environment. To climb over the "fence" of karma, you need to
transcend both your heredity and your environment. Doing so, necessarily involves working on your
emotions. It is your emotions that drive you to take action to resolve the causes and effects of your heredity
and environment. Emotions can only be "settled" when the causes and effects are "settled".
11> TRANSCENDING YOUR KARMA MEANS HANDLING FREE WILL RESPONSIBLY
Karma works to develop your ability to handle free will responsibly. Karma operates impersonally, giving
you the opportunity at every moment to become open to greater levels of love and compassion. The goal is
to give you needed experiences so you evolve into greater levels of awareness and responsibility.
12> IN COWORKERSHIP WITH GOD, KARMA AND FREE WILL BECOME ONE
All that you do at every moment is your choice. Once you accept total responsibility for who you are, for
what you have done or will do, and for all your choices, life straightens out. You become what you are and
you see yourself as Soul. Once you do, you are able to become a co-worker with God.
Rules of the House #15: It's Not in Your Stars But in Your Cells How Cellular Memory Works
(from "Take Off Your Glasses and See!" by Dr. Jacob Liberman and channeled information)
As it says in the Talmud, "we do not see things as they are, we see them as we are". That is because we are
always looking through the world through the eyes of our constantly changing cellular memory.
Unlocking Your Cellular Memory: Body and mind work that acts on your cellular memory (like Past Life
work, Remote Releasement, and Geometric Repatterning) are powerful tools for personal transformation. In
essence, they make your prison more comfortable and spacious to live in. They open doors into other ways of
seeing, being, and becoming that your original cellular memory had closed. Here is how it works:
1>YOUR "BODY-MIND" IS ACTUALLY AN INTELLIGENT, INTEGRATED HOLOGRAM
Your being is actually a completely intelligent, integrated, and individual hologram. This means 3 things.
One, that distinctions between your body, mind, and spirit are "artificial" ones that exist only to make it
easier for you to comprehend your existence. You are a whole, holistic being: not a sum of your parts.
Two, that each point within your hologram "contains all of the information of the whole". The complete
"blueprint" for your existence is contained and infinitely accessible in each and every one of your cells.
Three, that to be successful permanent and complete your healing must address the hologram of your
being holistically. Meaning that "body" can only be healed if "mind" and "spirit" are also treated.
2>CELLS APPEAR DIFFERENTIATED BUT ARE ONLY LIGHT & SOUND IN FORM
Everything in the universe is energy. You may appear to be "solid" matter but looks can be deceiving. If
you magnify your cells down to your atoms, you would see that you are made up of subtle energy fields and
not matter. As those in the realm of physics are just discovering, the basic building blocks of energy are
light and sound. At bottom, all cells are just manifestations of "light and sound in form". For as modern
science is learning, all cells are essentially the same. "Turn off" the markers that cause the cells to
differentiate and they revert to their original state where they are capable of becoming anything.
3>CELLS ARE THE "BUILDING BLOCKS" OF "BODY-MIND-SPIRIT" HOLOGRAM
The "body-mind-spirit" hologram "appears" to be composed of individual cells (another artificial distinction
but one useful for discussion). Modern science teaches us that your physical body is formed as cells grow,
multiply, and differentiate. In this way, your cells serve as the building blocks of your "body-mind-spirit"
hologram. Inside each cell is the unique, complete hologram that is you. This hologram forms your bodies
at all levels to become the vehicle for your karma in this lifetime.
4>YOUR CELLS HOLD PHYSICAL, MENTAL, EMOTIONAL, AND SPIRITUAL DATA
Modern science teaches us that your cells contain DNA which is the "blueprint" for the complete design and
construction of your physical body. They also hold the "blueprint" for your mental, emotional, and spiritual
aspects of your makeup. Your cells "remember" all of who you have been in past lives and all you have
been in this life right up to the present day (hence the term "cellular memory"). So as you develop, change,
and grow in any aspect of your life, your cells constantly update this "personal data".
5>TO LIVE, YOUR CELLS NEED TO REGULARLY RECEIVE AND GIVE LOVE ENERGY
Your "body-mind-spirit" hologram was designed to require "energetic" nourishment. The most critical form
of nourishment is love energy. To live and thrive, your cells need to regularly receive and give love energy.
Look all around you and you will see this simple truth Those who regularly receive and give love energy
enjoy vibrant health. While those who do not take such "love baths" age "prematurely" and tend to suffer
from a wide variety of health problems. Literally, it is love that gives your cells life.
6>CELLS CONSTANTLY INTERACT WITH YOUR CHAKRAS & INNER BODIES
Your energy chakras constantly nourish your cells with universal energy. Your cells in turn sustain your
bodies at all levels. This in turn reinforces your chakras. When your chakras become blocked, your cells do
not receive the proper nourishment. If your cells are not feed with love or universal energy for long enough,
they become a "breeding ground" for dis-ease, dis-order, and illness.
7>CELLS ARE ALWAYS IN EITHER A "GROWTH" OR A "DEATH" STATE
Cells are constantly growing and dying. They are the ultimate reflection of how the universe works. It is
constantly changing, constantly transforming chaos into order, darkness into light, and so on. Most
significantly, it requires the same of all who inhabit it. So either you make the choice to live and to grow or
your hologram makes the choice for you to die. The truth is illness is almost always a reflection of a
person's decision to stay "stuck" (whether actively by making "wrong" choices or passively by "doing
nothing"). If you review "Rules #7 for Illness", you will see how true this is.
8>TRANSFORMATIONAL NATURE OF YOUR CELLS ALLOWS YOU TO TRANSFORM
Any changes made directly to your "body-mind-spirit" hologram have a profound and accelerated effect in
healing. This happens because such changes effect your cellular memory, in effect rapidly updating the
physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual data on file. That is why Past Life work, Remote Releasement,
and Geometric Repatterning can be so effective so quickly. They literally "remove" the unwanted data from
the individual's hologram and "replace" it with more empowering ways of being. So because your cells can
be transformed in this manner, it allows you to transform your beingness and way of life.
9>CELLS SERVE TO REGULATE YOUR TRANSFORMATIONAL PROCESS
Before you go thinking that you can dip into your cellular holograms at will, bear this in mind. Your cells
also come with built in protections against transformation. If you have not earned the right to transmute
your beingness, your cells will not allow you or your healer to access the hologram. There are 2 reasons.
One, it is for your own safety: if you are not ready to handle the changes responsibly, it will do you and
others more harm than good if you transform too rapidly or if you transmute into the "wrong direction".
Two, it is for your own safety: if changes are made too quickly or incorrectly, it could cause serious damage
to your hologram. Instead of being better off at any level, you could be worse off at all levels.
10>RESONANCES ARE INHERITED PATTERNS OF BEING MODIFIED BY EXPERIENCE
Cells transform by adding, changing, or deleting "resonances" from cellular memory. Resonances are
"inherited patterns of being modified by experience". "Inherited patterns of being" come from past lives.
These patterns are meant to be "modified by experience" in this lifetime. Most of the time resonances are
good: they are the sources of strengths, skills, abilities, and talents. Those resonances which keep you from
being all you can be today physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually - need to be healed.
11>CELLS WORK TO "THROW OFF" PATTERNS OF BEING NO LONGER SERVING YOU
Cells are built to "dump" resonances that no longer serve you. They do this the same way that they body
rids itself of any unwanted waste: excretion, sweating, coughing, throwing up phlegm, etc.
12>CELLS "INTEGRATE" NEW PATTERNS OF BEING INTO YOUR AWARENESS
Like nature, cells abhor a vacuum. Once old patterns of being are discarded, they must immediately be
replaced by new hopefully positive and empowering ways of seeing, being, knowing, and becoming.
Rules of the House #30: "Towing the Iceberg": The Rules of Past Life Resonance
Do you often sense that you are weighted down inside? Like you are dragging invisible baggage that you can
feel but cannot see? Are you usually unable to take advantage of opportunities that come your way because
"something" is holding you back? Have you done affirmations until you are "blue in the face" but they never
really work for you? Do you feel like the man in the rowboat vainly trying to tow a gigantic iceberg?
If you have had any or all of these feelings come up regularly in your life, then it is likely that the "weight you
feel inside" are "past life resonances". If your body is the "prison" (Rules #14: Your Body: A Prison Without
Walls) which compels to you work off your karma within predetermined limits. If your cells are the tiny bricks
that create this prison (Rules #15: It's in Your Cellular Memory). Then your Past Life Resonances are the
mortar keeping the bricks firmly in place, until you decide to rearrange them.
So What Are Past Life Resonances Anyway and Why Should You Care About Them?
Past life resonances are simply "inherited patterns of being modified by experience". These patterns of being
are the sum total of all the learning that you have inherited from past lives. This is how keep all that you have
learned in past lives without being overwhelmed by all the details of your previous incarnations.
These "patterns of being" are meant to be "modified by experience" as you live each lifetime. Most of the time
resonances are good: they are the sources of your strengths, skills, abilities, and talents. However, those
resonances which keep you from being all you can be today - physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually -
need to be healed. For until they are healed, they will be like the stone in your shoe. Yes, you will move
forward. However, your journey will be slowed, made needlessly uncomfortable, and eventually stopped.
For "problems" from the past - like most problems - just get worse until they are resolved. Even worse, if these
problems come from the past they are remarkably resistant to present day treatments. This is because our past
lives operate much like icebergs. Six-sevenths of the mass of an iceberg is below the sea surface and so it is
always more massive and immovable than it appears. Same way with past life resonances, they are buried deep
inside your unconscious mind. So deep that it can take years of patient effort to heal them.
So What Are the Major Sources of Past Life Resonances Anyway and Do You Have Them?
1> ATTACHMENT: "I have to DO", "I have to BE", "I have to HAVE"
The hardest thing you will ever have to accept about your life in the universe is that you have chosen to
be here. Almost always, the choice was made because there is something that you "HAVE TO" do, be,
or have. Often, those somethings are dictated to you by the Lords of Karma after they have passed
"sentence" on your "performance" in your last previous life. Just as often, those somethings are things
we are attached to such as "I have to live one last lifetime of love with my mate", or "I have to be more
forgiving to others", or "I have to have the experience of being wealthy." Have tos most often spring
from regret, guilt, and shame that HAVE TO be overcome. As long as you are attached to a HAVE TO,
past life resonances will ensure that you will be back life after life.
2> VANITY: "Let me tell you", "I am SO fantastic that", "I am SO horrible that"
Each of us has within us the capability to be a "Mother Theresa" type Saint and an "Adolf Hitler" type
of mass murderer. The truth is that each has a place in God's universe and each has a role to play. At
one time, we have or will have all played all the roles. We come to learn that we are neither "so
fantastic" or "so horrible" but that we are all servants of God. Past life resonances of both the "fantastic
narcissist" and the "horrible masochist" will cry out for healing until they are resolved.
3> INTOLERANCE: "We are the BEST", "THEY are the WORST"
Of all past life resonances, those involving rigid, fanatical intolerance - "good-or-evil" beliefs, "we-or-
they" attitudes, "black-or-white" thinking - are among the hardest to heal. What it takes are lifetimes of
experiencing things from all viewpoints to come to the truth that "we have looked into the face of the
enemy and find that we are they" So if you cannot stand some group - race, sex, religion, sect, creed,
nation - your intolerance will keep you spinning on the wheel of reincarnation until you can. For
example, Romans come back as barbarians, Arabs come back as Israelis, Irish come back as English,
Chinese as Japanese, and so on until as Soul we can tolerate and embrace all ways of being.
4> UNFORGIVENESS: "I will NEVER forgive", "I will ALWAYS remember"
Unforgiveness is the companion of intolerance: for those we cannot tolerate, we can never forgive
because our past life resonances ensure that at a cellular level we always remember. Since our bodies
were designed to carry our learnings forward from life to life, "never" and "always" can be quite a long
time karmically speaking. And yet since our bodies were made to give and receive unconditional love,
carrying negative emotions like intolerance, unforgiveness, and hate will cause us pain. And the pain
will "always" persist until we learn to "never" be intolerant or unforgiving!
5> HATE: "I HATE you FOREVER", "I hope you SUFFER and DIE"
If left unhealed for too long, intolerance and unforgiveness manifest as the most extreme form of past
life resonance: hate. Hate is THE most difficult past life resonance of all to heal. For hate is like fire: it
can fuel itself indefinitely on everything it finds around it. Since we are infinite beings, vowing to hate
forever is a command to the universe that can be carried out for millenia. What eventually stops hate is
the heavy price it carries as we make our long journey as Soul. For hate is as surely a poison to the body
at all levels - physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually - as love is a tonic. Hating is like taking
poison and expecting someone else to die because what you wish for others is what you will attract to
yourself. It is you who will "suffer and die": is that what you want? Do you want to keep coming
back... then keep on hating for it is a guaranteed ticket back here! For until you can fully embrace what
it is that you hate, you will never fully share in God's love. For all that exist are created by God to serve
his purposes in the unfolding majesty of His Creation.
6> PRIDE: "Let me tell you", "It's ALL about ME", " It's ALL about YOU"
Closely related to vanity is pride. Our individual journey as Soul through the universe (karma) is "all
about me" and learning about oneself is necessary to become fully Self Realized. At the same time, our
journey is "all about others" as we develop our continuous connection to the God Source (our Higher
Self) and the collective consciousness so we can become fully God Realized. Since some past lives
involve learning "all about me" and other involve learning "all about others", it is very easy to become
unbalanced about pride. Honoring the self while honoring others is always is a delicate balance. Yet,
past life resonances are particularly good at working to "burn up" those who focus only on the "me"
while it will "burn out" those who focus only on the "others".
7> GLUTTONY: "I GOTTA get me some of that...", "I can NEVER get enough..."
There are many things to love on this Earth: food, sex, money, power, nature, challenge, adventure,
discovery. And the list goes on and on seemingly forever. That which you love down here - that which
you cannot get enough of... are past life resonances that pull on you until you satisfy them. Morbid
obesity will cure that love of food. Aids and other sexually transmitted diseases will douse the eternal
flame of sexual desire. Become corrupted by power and you will be brought lower than low. Lose
respect for the Earth and natural disasters will teach you otherwise. Gluttony kills.
8> ENVY: "Why do THEY have... and NOT me?", "Why are THEY like... and NOT me?"
Envy is always caused by misplaced attention. You envy in others what you use to have in a past life or
what you have yet to create in a future life. Since all time is now, resonances manifesting as envy in the
present life are created when you catch glimpses of your past or future self in another's life experience.
Envy is the failure to realize that, along our journey of Soul in the universe, we have been and will be all
things. Like hate, envy is a poison that will sicken us until it is purged. It becomes purged when we
connect with the totality of ourselves and know that all is within us now.
9> ANGER: "THEY make me SO angry that I...", "I get SO angry because it is so..."
Anger is the fuel that powers all the "negative emotions" that we have, especially hate and envy. It often
seems to us that anger comes from outside ourselves ("they make me angry") but the truth is, in the end,
that anger ALWAYS comes from inside. In the beginning, anger is a signal from our emotional body
that something is wrong, that somehow our sacred space has been violated. What we decide to do about
this signal is our choice. If we get angry at something or someone else, we have chosen this as the
response to the anger signal. Yet there are many choices we could make in response to the situation and
anger is only one tool available to us. Instead of "getting so angry", maybe it is better to "get so clear"
about what really needs to be done to fix the problem for good. Many times the source of our anger
does not truly lie in the present, particularly if the anger is a very inappropriate response to the current
situation. Often this kind of present anger is really anger from past lives that needs to be acknowledged
and so that the related resonances can be healed.
10> GREED: "For ME to get, I must TAKE from you...", "There is NEVER enough..."
Greed is the fuel that powers gluttony. Although we live in an abundant universe, it has taken us quite a
long time to create societies on the Earth that realize the promise of abundance. So the fear of "lack"
("there will never be enough") is deeply ingrained in our collective consciousness and it invariably
manifests as greed ("so I have to take all for me while I can because I will lack someday"). The
companion of greed is "cheapness" ("since I cannot make more, I must spend less"). Both of these
emphasize the duties to self at the expense of duties to others and manifest as "selfishness". Since these
were often appropriate as defensive, survival strategies in past lives, they create deep and strong past life
resonances that are both hard to heal and hard to avoid. All around us every day in the news are
examples of how greed hurts others and in so doing, leads to it's discovery.
11> SLOTH: "I am SO tired and so I CAN'T", "I'll do it LATER, someday, never"
From a karmic standpoint, laziness is the central problem of human existence. The truth is most people
are not the actors in their life's drama but the reactors to circumstances in their lives which require
action to be taken. For example, most people get jobs, not out of a genuine desire to help others, but
because they do not wish to live out of doors becoming subject to the elements and predators there.
They only marry to satisfy desires for love, companionship, support, and sex etc. Karma, created by the
individual's past life resonances, drives the action that overcomes such sloth.
12> LUST: "I WANT this", "I WANT that", "GIMME, GIMME, GIMME!"
Lust is the fuel that powers attachment and completes the circle of "negative" human desires. As long
as you "want" something, you are being driven by past life resonances to experience something else that
you have not already explored in past lives. All your wants become satisfied when you have finally
experienced and are complete with all the Earth has to offer. Until then it is the "gimmes" (as in "give
me this, give me that") which makes to world go around spinning Souls - each on their own path -
through the cycle of human experience. For only by experiencing something can we become free of it.
And, in being free, are we finally ready to fulfill our destiny as true CoWorkers with God.
Rules of the House #27: "Settling Accounts in True Coin": The Rules of Past Life Healing
Past life healing can be one of the most powerful experiences that an individual may have in any given lifetime.
For the physical, mental, and emotional problems which have "plagued" an individual for many incarnations can
be released "in the blink of an eye"... for those willing to follow the rules of past life healing. We live in a loving
and compassionate universe. God wants us all to know the joy that is our birthright. All we need to do is let
ourselves out of the prisons we have created for ourselves in the past. Here's how...
1> PAST LIFE HEALING IS PERFORMED "BY PERMISSION ONLY"
Whether past life healing is done by channeling or by regression, it is always only done by permission
only. Your Higher Self, the Lords of Karma, your guides, and other servants of the universe will decide
just how much or little past life healing you will receive. This is necessary because the Earth is a big
schoolroom designed to be teaching us all lessons at every moment of the day. Getting past life healing
is like being allowed to glimpse the "answers to our life" at the "back of the textbook". Just like in
grade school, the only way we really learn is by "working through the problems" on our own. So
glimpses in the "back of the textbook" given by past life healing are automatically going to be limited to
only the "best students" who can handle the knowledge responsibly.
Limiting the flow of past life information is much easier in a regression session than in channeling
which is why regression is much more widely available. In regression, the ego function of the human
unconscious mind will shut down, block, or distort the past life information that the individual is
receiving if it is threatening to derail their life path. In channeling, the individual's ego is bypassed but
the information which is transmitted to the channeler is also limited to what the Higher Self etc believes
is in the best interests of the person's evolution as Soul. That is why some people are unable to be
regressed and why channelers will be denied permission to work on others.
2> PAST LIFE HEALING IS THE TRANSFORMING OF KARMA
Past life healing can alternatively be described as the clearing of karma, the healing of karma, and the
transformation of karma to dharma, it can NEVER be described as the escaping of karma. If you are on
the Earth, you are subject to the laws of karma and reincarnation. You can be free of karma in the sense
that if you obey it's laws and live your contract, you can exist in peace. Yet advance on the spiritual
path and break a karmic law and you will be amazed by how quickly and strongly karma comes back
upon you. The goal of past life healing - as with all experiences in life - is to help you unfold in Soul
awareness so that you can live the path of Dharma in CoWorkership with God.
3> PAST LIFE HEALING IS A PROCESS OF EVOLUTION
Enforcing the evolution of each individual into Soul awareness is what the rules of Healing, Illness, and
Recovery are all about. Those rules work to ensure that you stay on your path so that you meet your life
contract. These rules of Past Life Healing work to expand and enrich your path so that you can
accelerate in Soul awareness if you choose to. Accelerating is much like peeling back the layers of an
onion. The outer layers of past life problems are tougher and take longer to strip away while the inner
layers are more compact and intense but easier to remove once they are reached. The purpose of
working through the layers is to slowly realize the totality of your beingness so that you are not
overwhelmed by the information. That is why we agree to "forget" our past lives before we come here...
so we can concentrate on unwinding intractable bits of our karma. Once our karma is "straightened out"
we can begin the process of fully reconnecting with all who we have been. By leveraging our past and
integrating with the present, we thereby empower our future by evolving into total awareness of
ourselves as infinite Soul beings (the "Kingdom of God within us").
4> HEALING THE PRESENT IS THE REASON FOR HEALING THE PAST
The central tenet of past life healing is this... The point of all power is in the present moment because
this NOW moment is the only one that you ever experience. The Now that was present yesterday we
call the past. The Now that will be present tomorrow we call the future. If you cannot be at peace with
a particular Now moment in the past - whether from a past life or from a past event in the present life -
you need to heal that moment. For what is unhealed from the past can keep you from being all you want
to be now - physically, emotionally, mentally, or spiritually. And what is unhealed from the past will
continue to negatively influence your present until it is resolved.
5> THE ONLY WAY PAST YOUR PAIN & PROBLEMS IS THROUGH THEM
The simple truth is the only way past your pain and problems is going through them. For "what is
forgotten, 'unknown' and unhealed is always more frightening than what is remembered, 'known', and
healed." It is this fear that attaches the painful past to you like a magnet. Pushing through the fear and
the pain is what resolves it... avoiding it only increases its' "magnetic" pull until it becomes so
unbearable that it must be faced. Amazingly, when the light of truth dispels the darkness of the
unknown, the problem is never as bad was feared. Time and time again when the fear is confronted, the
person finds that they are in the place where they can handle the knowledge and resolve the issue. And
when the pain is truly faced, it is then truly gone.
6> THE POINT OF THE PAIN IS TO FORCE YOU TO REMEMBER
When we experience pain, we invariably ask ourselves the question of "WHY?" "Why am I having this
pain?" "What is the point of it?" "When will it ever stop?" Although the precise answers to these
questions will vary in each individual case, the general answers to these questions are always the same.
"You are having the pain because you are forgetting, ignoring, or misunderstanding something very
important that you need to remember about yourself." "The point of your pain is to get you to the place
where you are ready to listen and accept this very important thing." "The pain will end when you finally
do listen and accept this very important truth about yourself." [Example]
7> IF PAST LIFE PAIN RETURNS, YOU HAVE ATTRACTED IT BACK TO YOU
Often just facing past life pain is sufficient to release it for good. If you really have let the pain of the
past go it will not return to you. Yet sometimes an individual is so "invested" in their pain that it returns
to them as inevitably and faithfully as a boomerang. People can become invested in their pain for many
reasons. Some like to be super heroes: "look at me, look at how well I overcome my adversity... when
the going gets tough, the tough get going..." Others like to be martyrs: "poor little me, if only I did not
have the cross of my pain to bear, what wouldn't I do..." A few are in it strictly for the narcissism: "I
have real problems, my pain is the only thing that matters, focus on me, serve me, put up with me..."
The truth is there are better things to be invested in than pain. Yet if you want to keep your pain, it will
be happy to come back to you and stay with you for as long as you need and want it to. Healers can
help you lay down your pain but only you can let it go for good.
8> THE PAST LIFE HEALING OF PHYSICAL PROBLEMS
The healing of physical problems is the most popular use of past life healing because it gives people the
most immediate and obvious results. Often they have a specific problem - most often chronic pain - that
conventional medical treatments or other alternative healing cannot address. If the pain is "originating"
in a past life, then it becomes very difficult to treat it using only present day means. Using past life
healing for past life problems produces results that are often immediate and dramatic. The results are
immediate in that the problem will cease altogether anywhere between the time the person makes a firm
intention to keep their appointment to a month after the session is completed.
The results are dramatic in that presenting symptoms decrease in a way that is noticeable to the client.
These range from restoring full function to previously impaired parts of the body to the reduction in the
severity of the original problem. The good news is that physical problems do not have to be a life
sentence for those willing to look deep inside to heal their pain. [Example]
9> THE PAST LIFE HEALING OF EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS
Past life healing of emotional problems is particularly effective precisely because they force someone to
look deep inside themselves for answers. To understand this, look at the word emotion. It comes from
the phrase "Energy in Motion". Everyone's emotions originate inside themselves as energy seeking
expression. This energy is sent by our Higher Selves for our learning and unfoldment as Soul and
drives us to take action and make choices. Our choices then either "work off" or "make more" karma
for ourselves. Past life healing gives us a unique opportunity to examine the karmic patterns which
underlie these emotions. For once we see the emotional patterns that drive us we are free either to
transcend them and make different, more empowering choices. [Example]
10> THE PAST LIFE HEALING OF MENTAL PROBLEMS
Closely linked to our emotional patterns are our mental ones: otherwise known as attitudes, beliefs,
thoughts, and behaviors. Since these were formed through trial and error during the totality of all our
experiences, they are often the most "treatable" by past life healing. For disempowering mental patterns
that cannot be explained by our lives now are virtually certain to have arisen in one or more past lives.
Most psychologists do not realize just how true their maxim - "that on the inside, every attitude, belief,
thought, and behavior makes perfect sense" - really is. [Example]
11> THE PAST LIFE HEALING OF SPIRITUAL PROBLEMS
Of all the past life problems out there, spiritual ones are often the most difficult to heal. This happens
because as we all make our solitary journey back home to God, most people become firmly attached to
one particular religious path. Spiritual problems arise when we are asked to step beyond a path that no
longer is advancing our learning or our unfoldment as Soul. As we grow spiritually, we are like the
mountain climber who sets out to scale the largest mountain he can see. The climber believes that once
he has summited, he will have attained the greatest possible height. And yet when the climber gets to
that summit, he sees that there is another whole range of mountains stretching on in the distance that are
even higher and steeper than the one he has conquered. And so it is with the spiritual life, there is
always more. There is more because God has created an infinite universe. And because there is more, it
means that certain past lives must be healed at deeper levels. [Example]
12> ON THE JOURNEY & DESTINATION OF PAST LIFE HEALING
If the process of past life healing could be summed up in a single phrase, it would be this one. "Those
who do not learn from the lessons of the past are condemned to repeat them." (Santayana) Our failure
to learn the laws of life in the Universe, to grow in Soul awareness, to expand in our ability to Love is
what propels us along the journey through the worlds of karma and reincarnation. Yet our experience -
slowly but surely - does teach us the laws of life. As time goes by, we grow in awareness and we learn
to love. We do this by "settling our accounts in true coin": by experiencing the "good" and the "bad"
that we have done to others by allowing it to be done to ourselves.
Past life healing has the power to show us that everything that happens to us now is the effect of a cause
that we ourselves set in motion in the past. For only when we can accept total responsibility for all that
happens to us now do we become free of the past. This freedom is the final destination of all our past
life healing for it allows us to live fully in the only moment we ever have: NOW!
[EX6] Remember me? Past life channeling is a path that I would have not chosen for myself except for the fact
that my eyesight was getting progressively worse. I was told at one point that it might be best for me to have my
right eye (the eye of intuition) surgically shut down because it was so out of synch with the left eye. I was not
using my gift of channeling (convinced it would be taken from me) as I should have been doing. Finding
blindness incompatible with my independent lifestyle, I decided to follow where my body was leading me. The
more I embraced my true path for this life, the more I listened to the important truths about myself, the more my
eyesight improved. Failing eyesight was what it took to make me "remember" who I really was.
[EX8] Physical Problems: Nothing gets a person to pay attention to their body like the inability to walk. For
with every step you take (or cannot take), the pain gets reinforced. Often, an inability to walk is the outer sign of
a person's inner inability to move forward in their life. For example, one client was in an extremely
disempowering romantic relationship. Everyone told this person that their partner was "no good for them" but
the client, insecure about their looks and their personal attractiveness, hung on to them. The underlying reason
for this clinging was not so much insecurity about finding another partner but unconscious guilt over how they
treated this person in a past life. Once their guilt was gone, so was their partner and their pain.
[EX9] Emotional Problems: "Fatal attractions" that we fall into almost always have roots in past lives. For
example, a client (who was happily married) met someone else (also happily married) and they instantly "fell in
love with" one another. Their love affair quickly came to the point where it was threatening both their
marriages. The client was desperate for answers and found the solution in a past life. This client and this lover
had been killed while trying to get married against their parent's wishes. As they lay dying, they promised one
another that the next time they were together (which they assumed would be heaven), they would stay together.
Since this promise did not serve them in this lifetime, the client released it. Shortly afterwards, the two parted as
friends and returned to their marriages, better for having loved one another.
[EX10] Mental Problems: One of the risks of coming back to the physical plane - having forgotten who and
what we have been - is that we can form false "mental" pictures of ourselves. For example, a client, who was a
very old, very advanced Soul had the idea that they were "lazy" about their spiritual development. This was
because they "could not get into" Yoga and other forms of meditation. And yet this client was having rich
spiritual experiences without the benefit of such meditation. When they connected with their past lives, they
found they "had no desire" for such things because they had already mastered them. Instead of being lazy, the
client was spiritually active and needed to view their mental pattern of "no desire" as steering them away from
subjects they had already mastered so that they could be led to new and greater spiritual challenges.
[EX11] Spiritual Problems: Religions sometimes seek to put a "stranglehold" on their followers to keep them
on their particular path even though it may no longer be serving the individual. One client, who was on the
Christian path, was having a terrible time reconciling their inner knowingness of the truth of karma and
reincarnation with the "official church doctrines". After confiding in their minister, they were urged to seek
psychiatric help to "deal with their personal demons." Instead, the client decided to become connected with
their past life awareness. Once they "remembered" several past lifetimes as a follower of Eastern religions, it
validated their own inner knowingness and helped them take their next step on the spiritual path.
[EX12] Repeating Patterns: "Those who do not learn from the lessons of the past are condemned to repeat
them" was the sign over the entrance to the camp where the Jonestown Massacre took place. In November 1978,
913 American citizens - some forcibly, most voluntarily - committed suicide at "Jonestown", a "village" that
they had built in the jungle in Northwest Guyana. The dead were all members of a group known as "The
Peoples Temple" which was led by the Reverend Jim Jones. It was discovered later that this group had been
trained for many years by Jones to obediently execute the mass suicide that finally took place in 1978. "The
possibility that one man could manipulate so many people to such a great extent is incomprehensible" to most
who study the "massacre". Yet it is completely comprehensible to those who know the underlying karma. For
Jones, it happened because he failed, as he had in many past lives, to exercise power responsibly. For his
followers, it happened because they failed, as they had in many past lives, to claim their own power. Instead,
they obediently handed it over to Jones and so the patterns will continue until they all learn
Rules of the House #3: How to Begin Living a Karma-Free Life
(adapted from "Mahanta Transcripts" by Sri Harold Klemp, "Learning to Love the Self" by Elsie Kerns,
"How to Find Your Mission in Life" by Richard Bolles and "Reiki" by Elizabeth Severino)
While you are on the Earth plane, you are living in the worlds of karma and reincarnation. Yet, you can live a
life as free of karma as possible just by following these "simple rules":
1> I LOVE AND ACCEPT MYSELF JUST AS I AM RIGHT NOW
This Earth would be a better place if everyone could simply and truly love themselves right now just as
they are. And I mean NOW not later when you would be more like one thing or less like another. If
you find it difficult to love yourself at this very moment, remember that God made you and He does not
make mistakes or junk. Most of the "problems" in the world are caused by those who do not and cannot
love themselves. For a person can only love others to the extent that they love themselves. When a
person hates themself, they hate others. It is this hatred that makes it possible for the unloved person to
do violence to themselves and to others in the process creating "bad" karma. The truth is that love is
always the answer for any question that is posed here on Earth.
2> I GIVE THANKS FOR ALL THE MANY BLESSINGS OF MY LIFE
Everyone is blessed somehow: with compassion, wisdom, talents, health, or strength to name a few.
Notice that the greatest blessings come in the form of personal attributes that God has given you "for
free" right from the start. It is the attitude of gratitude that continues to cause the blessing of life to flow
to you abundantly from God. Just as when you say "Thank You" to someone, it motivates them to help
you even more, it causes the universe to do the same a thousandfold.
3> I TRUST IN THE PERFECTION OF THE PROCESS AND FLOW OF LIFE
Life is perfect relative to you learning the lessons you came down here to learn. Right now you are
where you need to be to learn what you need to know. If you want to go to a better place, then master
where you are now. For once you are complete with a lesson, an experience, or a person, the "process
and flow of life" will automatically take you to the next best person, place, or thing.
4> I CREATE PEACE AND HARMONY WITHIN AND AROUND ME
If you want to create peace and harmony in your world, then you must let it begin with you. If a critical
mass of people just focus on creating personal peace, the world will automatically be uplifted. Just as
the "journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step", world peace begins with you finding the
inner peace and contentment you were meant by God to have.
5> I HONOR THE HOLINESS AND DIVINITY IN ALL PEOPLE AND THINGS
Everyone you encounter is holy because they are a child of God. Everywhere you go is holy ground
because God made it. So treat people and things accordingly and life will truly open up to you. Always
remember that you are a child of God and are yourself holy. When you honor the sacredness of all
people and things, then applying the Golden Rule - "Do unto others as you would have them do unto
you" works. If everyone did this, then Earth would truly be the paradise God intended.
6> I ALWAYS DO MY BEST AND ACT FOR THE HIGHEST GOOD OF ALL
When you do "your utmost for Gods Highest", you are expressing an attribute of God. When you do
your best and act for the highest good of all concerned, you automatically create a karma free space for
your actions. You are opening your Crown Chakra to receive Divine, pure, loving, and healing energy
as you do this because you are expressing your true Divine core essence.
7> I ALLOW MY DIVINE CORE ESSENCE TO SURROUND AND SUPPORT ME
Everyone has the same three overriding missions in life. You are opening your Third Eye Chakra
once you accept this as truth to receive all you need to know and all you need to have to carry out these
common human missions as well as your unique and special purpose on this Earth.
The first is to seek the consciousness of God moment by moment, step by step, day by day, for
God is the One from whom your Mission is derived.
The second is to make this Earth a better place every day in every way by recognizing and
following the guidance of God within and around you.
The third is to exercise your greatest gift (that which gives you the greatest joy) wherever and
whenever God calls for the purposes that God needs most to have done on the Earth
8> I ALWAYS AND ONLY SPEAK WHAT IS TRUE, NECESSARY, AND KIND
More often than not, our tongues are responsible for snaring us in the ropes of karma. When you focus
on speaking only what it true, necessary, and kind you put yourself in a karma free space. You are
opening your Throat Chakra to transmit only what is truest and best from your spirit.
What is true is always factually correct to the best of your knowledge and totally honest to the
highest standards of conduct and integrity possible.
What is necessary is communicating something that "must be said" so that all concerned in the
situation can clear issues and blocks so that all can move forward with their lives.
What is kind is how you look, how you speak, and the words you use when you convey your
message. The truth is any message no matter how hard or unpleasant can be delivered and
received with the spirit it is intended if it is done kindly enough.
9> I AM COMPASSIONATE, LOVING, AND RESPECTFUL TO EVERY LIVING THING
If you remember nothing else from this website, remember this. We are all Soul from rocks, to plants,
to animals, to people here on Earth to have spiritual experiences. You are opening your Heart
Chakra to the greatest joy when you learn to love all as Soul and to see God in everything.
10> I ALLOW MY LIFE TO FLOW IN JOY, BLISS, AND ABUNDANCE
If you are not happy, then you are not living the life that you were meant to live. When you fully and
completely connect with the truest part of yourself your Divine Core Essence which is your Higher
Self your life will flow in joy, bliss, and abundance. You are opening your Solar Plexus Chakra
when you come into total agreement to allow yourself to become the full totality of who you are.
11> I AM A COWORKER IN THE MAJESTY OF GODS CREATION
If you think about your three missions and your special purpose in life, you realize that it all boils down
to one thing: you are simply a CoWorker with God in the majesty of His Creation. You are opening
your Sacral Chakra to connect with your personal power once you have accepted this fact.
12> I EXIST BECAUSE I AM DEEPLY LOVED BY GOD
Karma begins and ends with love. Karma was created to propel you as Soul on a personal journey
through the universe. Karma ends when you have perfected yourself in your ability to love. You are
opening your Root Chakra when you receive "sex, money, and power". "Sex" gets you to connect with
another in love so that you can more fully connect with Gods love. "Money" is Gods love in form to
support you on this Earth. "Power" is the ability to carry out your mission and purpose.
Rules of the House #16: Your Karma Will Run Over Your Dogma What Karma is & How it Works
(adapted from "ECKANKAR: Ancient Wisdom for Today" by Harold Klemp, "Karma" by Annie
Besant, and "Mantra: Sacred Words of Power" by Thomas Ashley-Farrand)
We are All Karma Chameleons. While you are on Earth, you are living in the worlds of reincarnation and
karma. Believe it or not, karma begins and ends with love. Karma was created to propel you as Soul on a
personal journey through the universe. Karma ends when you have perfected yourself in your ability to love.
So What is This Karma Anyway? As Soul you are eternal, having past, present, and future lives. To grow in
love, you reincarnate into a series of physical bodies to experience many different existences (various sexes,
races, religions, and nationalities) through many lifetimes. Karma means that "as you sow, so also shall you
reap" in this and other lifetimes until you understand the complete consequences of all your actions. Karma is
the principle of cause and effect, action and reaction, total cosmic justice and personal responsibility.
The 4 Different "Flavors" of Karma: There are 4 different types of karma that you are always working on:
a> Sanchita Karma: the accumulated result of all your actions from all your past lifetimes.
(this is your total cosmic debt, either you are adding to it or you are reducing it)
b> Prarabdha Karma: the portion of your "sanchita" karma being worked on in the present life.
(if you work down your agreed upon debt, more past debts surface to be worked on)
c> Agami Karma: the portion of actions in the present life that add to your "sanchita" karma.
(if you fail to work off your debt, then more debts are created and sent to future lives)
d> Kriyamana Karma: daily, instant karma created in this life that is worked off immediately.
(these are debts that are created and worked off ie. your do wrong and spend time in jail)
"Resistance is Futile": As Soul, you experience a constant cycle of births and deaths into a series of bodies
until you have learned all the spiritual lessons that the totality of all experiences have to teach you. Until you
have learned, you will find that "resistance" to the rules of karma is "futile"
1> THE PURPOSE OF KARMA IS TO TEACH BY EXPERIENCE AND NOT TO PUNISH
Although it may often "feel" like punishment, the purpose of karma is to teach not to punish. Often the
way we learn "the best" is to endure the same type of suffering that we have inflicted on others. For
example, I remember very little of my life as a City Commander in ancient Constantinople where I
killed many without mercy, often with little justification. Yet, I remember vividly the life where I
repaid some of that karma by being slaughtered by an Indian during the Martin's Hundred massacre.
Believe me, I learned the lesson of mercy during the final, few terrifying moments of the massacre.
2> WE ARE HERE TO LEARN LESSONS AS "SPIRITUAL BEINGS IN HUMAN FORM"
We are all here to learn lessons as "spiritual beings in human form" (see Rules #1). These lessons are
designed to help us grow into greater levels of love, joy, and awareness. They teach us to "choose love
at every moment", to "forgive everyone, everything", and to "live happy". Where we do not choose
love, show forgiveness, teach tolerance, or display compassion, karma intervenes to put us back on the
path of these lessons. Quite simply, the only way to achieve a state of love is to be love.
3> WE AGREE TO "FORGET" HOW KARMA WORKS TO SEE IF WE HAVE LEARNED
Before we came here, we agreed to put ourself in the path of all that is we needed to learn. Once we got
here, we agreed to "forget" all this. The purpose of our "forgetting" is to keep us from being
overwhelmed by the totality of our past while making sure that we have really learned our lessons. For
example, having been a General in many lifetimes, I tended to treat others in a very domineering
manner. In this life, I put myself into my situations where humility would have served me better than
being "the dictatorial General". Only when I overcame this "problem" and leaned my lesson did I
understand why I had put myself into those karmic places to begin with.
4> THE LAW OF KARMA IS IMPERSONAL, LOGICAL, AND TOTALLY PREDICTABLE
Karma gives you the opportunity at every moment to become open to greater levels of love and
compassion. It operates impersonally: applying to everyone, all the time, no exceptions. It is very
logical: what you sow is what you reap in exact and precise measure. It is as predictable as the laws of
gravity: what is done to you is the net result of what you have done to others.
5> THE LAW OF KARMA IS PERFECTLY FAIR AND CREATES TOTAL JUSTICE
For example, there are no "innocent" people in prison, they are there for a reason. If they appear
"innocent" in this life, it is because they were "guilty" in a past life and "got away with it". The
"innocent" feel "cheated" because they cannot see the cause of this life was the effect of a past life.
6> THE LAW OF KARMA ENSURES WE LINK OUR ACTIONS WITH THEIR RESULTS
The cause of this life is always the effect of a past life(s). The goal of karma is to ensure that we link
our actions (the cause) with their results (the effect). "It is the loving God which helps each Soul
develop it's highest spiritual potential through experience." Experience teaches us the Law of Love.
7> KARMA TEACHES US THAT WE ARE TOTALLY RESPONSIBLE FOR OUR LIFE
The goal of karma is to give you all the experiences that you need to evolve into greater levels of love,
joy, awareness, and responsibility. Karma is like "training wheels". They keep you on the straight and
narrow path until you have mastered your vehicle and can ride freely on your own.
8> KARMA TEACHES US LOVE, TOLERANCE, AND COMPASSION FOR ALL
"See that you are at the center of the universe... Accept all things as being part of your infinite body.
When you perceive that an act done to another is done to yourself... you understand the great truth."
9> KARMA DRIVES US FROM ONENESS TO WHOLENESS TO UNITY WITH LIFE
"Love is based upon unity. To love something is to be part of it." Karma drives us to look beyond
ourselves (oneness) so that we can see ourselves as we truly are (wholeness or Self Realization). Once
we understand ourselves, we can see our divinity (God Realization) and unity with all life.
10> KARMA DRIVES US TO SERVICE, THE ULTIMATE EXPRESSION OF LOVE
Love means service: service is your choice. Once you accept total responsibility for your life, you see
yourself as Soul in service to life. Once you do, you become a fully realized co-worker with God.
11> UNDERSTANDING THE LAW OF KARMA IS THE KEY TO HARMONIOUS LIFE
"Belief in karma ought to make the life pure, strong, serene, and glad. Only our own deeds can hinder
us; only our own will can fetter us. Once let us recognize this truth, andour liberation has struck.
Nature cannot enslave the Soul that by wisdom has gained power and uses both in love."
12> KARMA SHOWS US THAT FOR ANY QUESTION, LOVE IS ALWAYS THE ANSWER
"Love is our birthplace, our final refuge, and our reason for being. If we recognize that compassion and
love are the ultimate destination of our journey, the heart of the universe itself responds."
Rules of the House #25: Top 10 Causes of Carrying Over of Past Life Traumas into the Present
Believe it or not, the universe responds to your commands. In some lifetime, your deepest dreams, desires, and
wishes will be granted. Nowhere is this truer than in the case of these dreams, desires, and wishes being carried
over from one life to the next. Problems result because people enter their present life have forgotten - on a
conscious level - that they have chosen the difficulties they are experiencing now to resolve unfinished business
from one or more past lives. The strongest charges from past lives usually come from these sources:
1> UNCOMPLETED DYING THOUGHTS, DESIRES, WISHES
Dying thoughts usually carry the strongest charges from past lives into the present one: for the seed of
this life is sown by and at the moment of death of a previous one. Dying thoughts usually concern
unfinished business and unlearned lessons. The universe requires that we all carry everything until the
business is finished, the lessons are learned, and the thoughts are played out. For example, a client who
was a soldier in the Great War (now known as World War I), was finally killed after spending many
harrowing months in a trench. This man's dying thought was that "if I ever get out of this trench, I am
going to..." was played out in my client's next life. This individual pursued a very wild lifestyle: going
through sex partners and money like there was no tomorrow (and for the man in the trench there was no
tomorrow). Yet this hedonistic lifestyle was not serving my client. Once they could see where it was
coming from, they were free to leave the man in the trench behind them.
2> SUDDEN AND/OR UNEXPECTED PHYSICAL DEATH
Although everything happens by agreement in the universe, there are times that "misadventure" occurs
and an individual "suddenly" or "unexpectedly" leaves a satisfying life situation behind them. Often,
the individual chose the death before the life began. Yet, once fully engaged in the life, the person finds
that they do not really wish to leave it. When death comes as planned, it is a "shock" to the person and
embeds a strong desire in them to reincarnate. For example, it is quite common for a family member
who has died suddenly or unexpectedly to come back into the next child that is born into the family.
Often the child is named for the dead family member "unconsciously" by the parents as a
"remembrance" but it is really to help that child get right back on the same life path.
3> TRAUMATIC AND/OR VIOLENT PHYSICAL DEATH
The effect of a sudden, unexpected death is compounded when it is also traumatic or violent. The
"tearing away" from life by a violent death generates a huge desire in the individual to come "roaring
right back" into a new body. The problem is that the person's fast return usually causes their horrific
wounds to come back right along with them. For example, in a past life a client was body slammed
repeatedly and then drowned while their ship was caught in a freak storm at sea. This physical trauma
from that death was carried directly into their next life as severe lung congestion and chronic arm pain
that could not be alleviated by traditional medical treatments.
4> TRAGIC SEPARATION FROM LOVED ONES BY DEATH
Often dying thoughts and the desire to return immediately after unexpected and traumatic deaths are
linked to the tragic separation from loved ones. For what we most regret about our leaving the world is
how it will effect those we leave behind. We return, not to come back to the physical plane - a place full
of tears and sorrow compared to the inner worlds -, but to be reunited with those that were the truest,
tenderest, and dearest to us while we were on Earth. That is what the Buddhists mean by saying that our
good karma "drags us back" as surely as our bad karma compels us to return. For example, that is why I
am here: to be reunited with one who is everything to me.
5> UNRESOLVED FEELINGS OF ANGER & OTHER NEGATIVE EMOTIONS
Hate will bring us back to the physical world sooner than love will. Unresolved feelings of anger, hate,
fear, and other highly charged negative emotions from past lives are magnets to people, events,
emotions, and situations in the life now. For example, a client who was severely abused as a child was
shocked to discover they had abused their parent in a past life when the roles were reversed.
6> ANGER-HATE/DESIRE FOR VENGEANCE AGAINST MURDERERS
The strongest unresolved feelings of anger/hate usually relate to the uncompleted desire for revenge
against those who murdered us in past lives. This current runs so strongly through us that it often
appears in movies such as "Ghost", "Dead Again", "Stir of Echoes", "The Sixth Sense", "What Lies
Beneath" and so on. These desires are literally what fuels the energy of poltergeists who perform After
Life Interventions. For example, one client's desire for revenge lead them to track down their assassins
through several lifetimes and violently murder each one in turn talk about revenge!
7> GUILT/DETERMINATION TO COMPLETE A TASK/KEEP A PROMISE
The strongest unresolved feelings of guilt usually relate to the determination to complete a task left
undone or to keep a promise made to another in a previous life. For example, a female client met a man
who literally swept her off her feet in a whirlwind romance. Before she knew it he had taken over her
whole life and was threatening to smother her with his over protectiveness. As it turned out, his reckless
actions in a previous life had "accidentally" led to his death and in this life he was "bound and
determined" to keep a promise he had made long ago to return and protect her!
8> FEAR/DETERMINATION TO "PUT RIGHT WHAT ONCE WENT WRONG"
The strongest unresolved feelings of fear usually relate to the determination to "get it right this time -
finally!" Often this springs from many failed attempts in past lives to accomplish an elusive spiritual
goal. The repeated failures in the past and the fear of repeating the failure in the present life is what sets
up the karma. For example, a client had a fatal attraction for an individual that was sudden,
overwhelming, and inexplicable in the context of the current lifetime. As it was threatening to derail
both their lives now, they needed to understand where it was coming from. It came from a past life
where the people involved were executed together and vowed "in the life to come" to "put right what
once had gone wrong". With the understanding that past life awareness brings, they did just that!
9> UNCONTROLLABLE/UNWANTED "HISTORICAL" DREAMS/NIGHTMARES
In many respects, dreams are the easiest pathway to past life awareness and understanding. That is
because when a person dreaming they are in automatically in touch with the inner realms of awareness.
Dreams themselves are coded messages from your Higher Self which are meant to guide you on you
journey through life. To understand how dreams carry past life awareness into the current life, see a
client's past life dream or see how a nightmare led me to this important work.
10> RINGING THE UNIVERSAL ALARM CLOCK: "BAD" ANNIVERSARIES"
The most striking examples of past life carryovers are those which come from the universal alarm clock.
The past life alarm tends to ring on the exact date of a traumatic death in a past life by bringing up some
physical ailment related to the death. It rings when certain life events occur: for example, a client
experienced severe ankle pain when they learned to drive a car because their ankle had been crushed in
a chariot racing accident. Marriage, divorce, death of a loved one, loss of a job: all of these can be and
often are on the schedule to the past life alarm clock. So, wake up, the universal alarm clock may be
ringing for you right now to tell you that your life is calling!
Rules of the House #37: "Walking the Minefield ": Past Life Karma Awakened in Childhood
Are We Effected More by Heredity (Nature) or Environment (Nurture)?
On the side of Heredity and Nature, modern science tells us that we all are "genetically predisposed" to think
and act in predefined ways. Links between genetics, disease, and behavior are becoming more firmly
established all the time. So science has us believe, the fault lies not in our stars but in our cells. And yet science
fails to answer the question of why our cells formed in one way and not another. One answer to that question is
that resonances from past lives carry over and determine which way our cells have formed.
On the side of Environment and Nurture, modern psychotherapy tells us that most present day problems
spring from the never ending bucket of "childhood issues". In other words, everything that "happened to you in
your childhood", especially if it "gives you trouble" as an adult, is the "fault of your parents". And yet science
fails to answer the question of why given the same environment do different people react so very differently.
One answer to that question is that Souls react to the life experiences they are presented with using the
cumulative learnings gained from their own unique past life journey.
Bringing the Past Forward into the Present
To grow in awareness, we consciously incarnate into situations that will bring us to heal unresolved pain and
issues from past lives so we can advance our spiritual growth. We set the stage for the karmic drama we choose
in any given lifetime by participating in life experiences where our old patterns of being will no longer serve us.
This brings us to new learnings about our life in the universe so we can grow in love and awareness.
Although we can attach to our past life issues at any point along our journey, we tend to pick up the majority of
them in our "young and impressionable" childhood. Since past life issues attach to us so firmly in childhood, it
is there that traces of our existences in past lives most strongly reveal themselves. For it is past lives - via our
cellular memory - that have formed our nature. And it is past lives - via the choices about reincarnation we are
entitled to make (choosing our parents, our life circumstances, our romantic partners, and so on) - that have
formed our nurture. Finally, it is what we carry with us from past lives - our skills and abilities, our wisdom and
resourcefulness, our instincts and guts - that help us along our journey through life.
1> IDENTICAL TWINS WITH VASTLY DIFFERENT LIVES
If heredity and environment were the only factors influencing our lives, then identical twins who have
the same genetics and were raised in the same environment, should always end up living the same lives.
And yet there are many cases where identical twins lead diametrically opposite lives. In a case
personally known to me, one identical twin is a straight A student with a picture perfect life and while
the other is a drug addict with a lengthy criminal record. In that case, the straight A student had a rich
heritage of past life experience which "saved" him from his upbringing by toxic parents in an abusive
home. While his twin, lacking the past life inner resources, was crushed by the hardship.
2> KARMIC RISK FACTORS: BIRTH DEFECTS
The miracle of genetics is that with just two parents "infinite diversity in infinite combinations" of
physical and mental gifts in a single child is possible. In any given lifetime, an individual comes into
agreement with new parents whose bodies and minds are capable of producing offspring with the
desired traits. For example, Leonardo DaVinci's father was an educated nobleman but the servant girl
he raped to produce Leonardo was "ignorant and stupid". How the child is actually conceived and
developed is determined by their life contract. Birth defects are almost always signs of both parents and
children being on the "karmic debt consolidation repayment plan." And the specific birth defects
always relate to the karmic and spiritual issues that the "child" must work to resolve.
3> KARMIC WONDERS: CHILD PRODIGIES & IDIOT SAVANTS
Extreme forms of past life manifestations in children are "child prodigies" (children who are born with
extremely advanced expertize) and "idiot savants" (children who can perform complex mathematical or
scientific calculations but are lacking in very basic social skills). Child prodigies have developed
certain skill sets in such a high degree in past lives that they become deeply ingrained in their persona.
So when that Soul reincarnates, the skills come along in the new body fully intact and a child prodigy is
born. Similarly, idiot savants reincarnate with fully developed skill sets but there is usually such a
serious imbalance between their mental and emotional bodies as to put the mental body completely in
control of the individual. The mind "out of control" drives the emotions and the physical body of the
savant to act in ways that are considered to be socially unacceptable. The karmic goal of this existence
is to "knock" the emotions back into shape and restore balance.
4> EXPERIMENTS IN ABANDONMENT: ORPHANED BABIES
As those courageous and kind enough to adopt children abandoned in foreign orphanages can tell you,
the neglect of early years usually leaves the orphan emotionally and mentally damaged. Often these
children will develop attachment and rage disorders. Common wisdom says that if a child has been
abandoned in an orphanage for more than two years they become so internally damaged as to be "unfit"
for adoption. And yet, there are many cases where children abandoned for four years emerge
"unharmed" from the experience while others left only a few months become psychotic. Again the
differences can be explained from the inside by varying strength developed in past lives.
5> KARMA OVER MIND: THE UN-MOLESTED CHILD
It is a depressing statistic that sexual molesters, in any given lifetime, are unable to change their
destructive pattern of behavior. Usually they attract family members around them who need to repay
sexual abuse karma by being a sexually abused child. Yet in many families with a sexually molesting
parent is one or more children are never targets for the sexual abuse. This is not strategy on the part of
the abuser to divert the suspicions of others. For many abusers do try and "mend their ways" with little
or no success at stopping themselves. Why this happens is that the unmolested children have not come
into agreement with being abused and so they are "passed over" by the parent. Often the parent gives
some reason "why" one was skipped which even they know is not the "real" reason.
6> LONG TIME COMPANIONS: PLAYING FAVORITES
As much as parents try, when there is more than one child, they will be accused of playing favorites.
Often this is "imagined" by the child but very often it is quite real. When parents play favorites among
children, especially where there are no "significant reasons" based on personality, looks, behavior, and
so on, it comes from past life karma. For example, a client was routinely ostracized from her family
despite her continual and persistent attempts to win their approval. In their most recent past life, this
family had incarnated as a group in Nazi Germany and the client had been responsible for turning them
all into the authorities. Not realizing it would result in their deaths, the client had died shortly afterward
of a "broken heart". In this life, she is trying to make it up to them.
7> ROLE REVERSAL: CHILDREN AS PARENTS
There are many families where, as soon as the child is "old enough", they assume the role of parent.
Often this is because the parent is "under-functioning" due to prolonged illness, addiction to drugs, or
extreme "immaturity". Where the child is able to function with any degree of success as a parent, it is
due to inner strength they have developed over the course of many past lifetimes. Take the case of
Lorna Luft, daughter of Judy Garland, who parented her through many bouts of alcoholism. Lorna was
an old Soul who took on the role of parent out of the greatest love for her "mother".
8> CHILDREN OF THE HEART: "ADOPTED" CHILDREN
There are no accidents in the universe - nowhere is this more true than in the case of adopted children.
Adoptive children and parents are drawn together for the same reasons that "natural" (biological)
children and parents are drawn together the resolution of past life karma. Children become attracted
to parents having the same unresolved spiritual issues as they do. In many cases, to make that clear, the
parent and adoptive child will physically resemble one another. Take the case of famous newswoman,
Barbara Walters, and her daughter, Jackie. They have a striking physical resemblance and admit to
sharing similar issues. Not surprisingly, there was an unconscious recognition of this by Barbara herself
who said Jackie was "born to be my child".
9> STRANGERS IN A STRANGE LAND: ODD ONES OUT
Although those born in the same family have karma in common, people are more like themselves as
they have developed in past lives than they are like other members of their family. Very often the
spiritually advanced will choose to incarnate into a family of developing souls to help them grow by
being an example. Or they will incarnate into a family where, to be themselves, they must go against
established "family values" and bring themselves to deeper levels of self love and self acceptance. Or
they will incarnate into an extremely toxic, dysfunctional family to help them develop their "spiritual
muscles" by defining their personal boundaries and by clarifying their sense of their "true self".
10> CONTRARY TO NATURE: SKIPPING FAMILY DISEASES
Disease runs in families more because it's members are attracted to similar unresolved issues shared by
the group rather than by "strictly biological" concerns. Meaning that it is one's past life karma that
determines a person's attachment to any given disease because their karma is what has formed the
cellular matrix of their body-mind. Take the case of Huntington's Disease which is an "inherited"
disorder resulting in the "irreversible" deterioration of both body and mind as the individual ages. "Each
child of an affected parent has a 50 % chance of inheriting the disease and is said to be at risk." And yet,
even those who have the gene, can "skip" the disease if their karma warrants it.
11> CONTRARY TO NURTURE: FAMILIES WITH "STARS" & "IDIOTS"
Everyone knows someone whose family has a one child who is the "shining star" and another who is the
"village idiot". The most striking example of this was the Carter family which produced both a
President of the United States (Jimmy Carter) and an extremely dysfunctional alcoholic (Billy Carter).
Both Carters had similar genetics, the same environment, and yet vastly different levels of personal
achievement. Yet what is unexplainable by nature and nurture is perfectly explainable in the context of
past lives. Jimmy Carter is an "old Soul" who has been on the path of world leadership for many
incarnations while Billy Carter is a "young Soul" struggling to master basic life conflicts.
12> TOXIC PARENTS OF THE SPIRITUALLY ADVANCED
It is very common in my work with the more spiritually advanced for them to ask me "why did they
hook up with such toxic parents". The answer always comes back that the purpose of "toxic" parents is
to force the spiritually advanced to love themselves at the deepest levels. They must become their own
parent because they cannot receive enough love from their biological parents.
For most people, this following quote sums up the results of one's walk through the minefield of childhood.
"Anybody who has survived his childhood has enough information about life to last him the rest of his days"
(Flannery O'Connor). More precisely, people usually emerge with all the karma they can carry for one life. To
bring healing to the next level "we cannot stop the psychic archeology at childhood, or even infancy, but that
past life patterns and memories also must be excavated for complete healing to occur" (Brian Weiss).
Rules of the House #28: More Evidence: "Who is The I That is Me?" - Past Life Reversion
Reincarnation demands of us all that one time we have been all things: famous and insignificant, rich and poor,
victim and perpetrator, man and woman, all races, religions, and creeds. This teaches us respect and reverence
for all ways of life and yet, as we evolve, we still retain our own preferences for certain ways of being. When
we come into greater awareness of our past lives, we understand that we are more than our current personality.
We see that we are infinite beings and we connect with the truth about the totality of our existence. We ask
ourselves "who really is the I that is me?" Often the answer to this question leads us to "revert to type". In other
words, we return or revert to our core preferences developed over many lives.
1> RADICAL REVERSION: TOTAL "SUDDEN" LIFESTYLE READJUSTMENT
Sometimes the forces from past lives are so powerful that they cause an individual to radically uproot
and transform their lives. Take the case of Cat Stevens. Born in England and making his way into rock
super-stardom, he "inexplicably" abandoned his thriving musical career to pursue the path of Islam and
the "simpler life of a Moslem". Looking at the trail of incarnations for this Soul over many past
lifetimes, the radical change was really incarnating in England and becoming a rock musician. For
when Stevens "converted" to Islam, he was returning to a way of life that he had come to prefer over
many incarnations. Significantly, Stevens recognized this when he said that all one had to do was look
at the lyrics to his songs to discern his yearning for his "new" Islamic life. There are many other
instances of this in recorded history. Mother Katherine Drexel left a life as a Philadelphia debutante to
found a religious order. Mother Elizabeth Seton was a widow with children who converted to
Catholicism and founded religious schools around the world. The most famous reversion was Gautama
Buddha who was a prince and renounced everything for his spirituality.
2> TYPICAL REVERSION: "CONVERSION" TO "NEW" RELIGIOUS BELIEFS
Conversion to "new" religious beliefs is most common type of past life reversion. Take the case of John
Henry Cardinal Newman. Born in England, he was raised as a member of the Anglican faith and in his
youth developed "a hatred of the Roman Catholic Church and a personal conviction that the pope was
the anti-Christ." Scholarly and brilliant, Newman was "ordained as a deacon in the Anglican Church"
and naturally gravitated toward academic pursuits becoming "a tutor at Oriel College, Oxford". There
he became a prominent figure in the "Oxford Movement" which was seeking to tie the Anglican religion
more closely to Roman Catholicism. Unable to accomplish this, Newman "decided to become a priest"
and was ordained by Pope Pius IX. Later he wrote "Apologia Pro Su Vita" - Apology for My Life -
which documented his conversion. It was a past life reversion for this Soul had a love for the Catholic
Church deeply ingrained in him through many lifetimes.
3> TYPICAL REVERSION: GENDER IDENTIFICATION CONFLICTS
More common - but more hidden - are the gender identification conflicts in the present life which
originate in past lives. For as we reincarnate through many lifetimes, most of us become more
comfortable with being one gender than the other. Gender identification conflicts arise when we
incarnate against our type. In other words, if we have been predominantly female or male through many
lives, we will feel very uncomfortable when we incarnate into a life of the opposite gender. Take the
case of Renee Richards, formerly Dr. Richard Raskind. Renee underwent hormonal therapy and then
full genital surgery (better known as a "sex change operation") to have her outer physical appearance as
a man correspond with her inner emotional reality as a woman this Soul had developed over many
predominantly female lifetimes. Determined to continue her life in all aspects, she won the right to play
professional tennis as a woman (he was formerly a tennis pro as a man). Imagine the costs involved
with a sex change - physically, mentally, emotionally, socially, and financially - and you will
understand how strong past life pulls can be.
4> TYPICAL REVERSION: "SUDDEN" CAREER CHANGES
Careers usually carry on uninterrupted from life to life. This is particularly true of those in the religious
and healing professions. Take the case of Martin Luther who started out his career being a lawyer but
soon found that it did not suit him. "All of a sudden" he decided to abandon the law to become a monk
(his apocryphal story of the thunderstorm being a cover story). This Soul had been on the path of
religion through most of their incarnations (and had even been Pope!). So Luther returned to the path he
had walked in many lives... reverting to his past life type. Most people when they connect with their
past life awareness are often astonished by the "career coincidence".
5> UNCOMMON REVERSION: THE "SHOOTING STAR"
An uncommon type of career reversion is the "shooting star" phenomenon. You know the story: a child,
with an unusual talent, born into circumstances seemingly designed to crush that talent into the dust,
overcomes all odds. Their talent takes them - like a shooting star - from obscurity to fame. For
example, Emlyn Williams ("The Corn is Green") born into an impoverished Welsh mining town rises to
become an internationally known play and screen writer. Not surprising since he had been an acclaimed
poet and playwright in many previous lives. Hollywood is full of shooting stars like Elvis Presley,
Jackie Gleason, Oprah Winfrey, and so on. Each of these individuals had many past lives in related
disciplines which laid the groundwork for their present success as "shooting stars".
6> UNCOMMON REVERSION: BIZARRE LIFESTYLE CHOICES
Another uncommon form of past life reversion concerns bizarre lifestyle choices that are generally
inexplicable to others around the individual making them. Take the case of Greta Garbo whose most
famous line "I want to be alone" became her life. Even after spending the bulk of her life alone, there
was still astonishment over her lifestyle choice as shown in this article written after her death. "Turns
out that Greta Garbo did want to be alone. And that she said so not only publicly, on screen, but
privately to her obsessive admirer, Mercedes de Acosta, international playgirl and playwright." This is
less astonishing when you consider that in many past lives Garbo had been an anchorite, living alone in
a single cell worshipping God and glorying in her solitary lifestyle.
7> UNCOMMON REVERSION: OBSSESIVE HOARDING
Hoarding is not uncommon but obsessive hoarding is. Take the most famous recorded case: the Collier
brothers who "lived in terror that they would be poor (after effect of the Great Depression), that people
would steal their possessions, and so they hoarded everything" throwing nothing away. "One brother
booby-trapped the house with stacks of newspapers and trip wires. Eventually, one brother became ill
and was an invalid who stayed on the second floor One day the mobile brother tripped a booby trap
wire and was killed in the crush of newspapers. The other brother died of starvation and without any
access to outside help." Their problem started in a past life they shared, they were servants of an
Egyptian Pharoah who had them both gruesomely tortured over several weeks for losing one scroll
(later found) among thousands. This ingrained in them a deep fear of letting anything go which was
then intensified to extremes by the Great Depression.
8> UNCOMMON REVERSION: THE INESCAPABLE OCD PATTERN
Hoarding is one of the many seemingly inescapable obsessive compulsive patterns that can be inherited
from past lives. Usually the patterns are very specific and relate very closely to a specific past life
incident. For example, a man who is currently compelled to straighten the fringe on his carpets was a
servant who had been regularly and severely beaten (eventually to death) for failing to do so by his cruel
master in a past life. There is present day help available (see "The Boy Who Couldn't Stop Washing:
Treatment of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder" by Judith Rapoport).
9> UNCOMMON REVERSION: THE MUNCHAUSEN SYNDROME
You have probably seen them on TV: the "Munchausen" mothers who are addicted to the attention that
their sick children bring them and so secretly and deliberately work to keep their illnesses going. Before
you judge them too harshly, consider that their condition may be an occupational hazard that is inherited
from past lives. Many of them were former "court fools" whose job it was to attract attention of their
kings anyway they could. Failure was often fatal: lots of kings loved to see the fools tossed out of castle
windows to their death. When these people reincarnate, they bring with them the craving for massive
and continuous attention that can lead to the death of their own children.
10> UNCOMMON REVERSION: ANOREXIA NERVOSA & SELF MUTILATION
Anorexia nervosa (people who starve themselves) and self mutilation (people who inflict wounds on
themselves) can also be occupational hazards inherited from past lives. In medieval times, those in
religious orders expressed devoted to Christ through an aesthetic lifestyle that included starvation
("fasting"), self-inflicted torture ("mortification of the flesh"), and sensory deprivation ("self-denial").
These behaviors were applauded and those "successful" in taming their flesh to death were revered as
holy martyrs. That is why these behaviors are so hard to break because of deep seated unconscious
beliefs that this self destruction is "good for the soul" (see "Holy Anorexia" by Rudolph Bell). That is
what contributed to depriving us all of the gentle voice and amazing talent of Karen Carpenter.
11> UNCOMMON REVERSION: BULIMIA (BINGE-PURGE EATERS)
Past lives can also be the source of another eating disorder: bulimia (people who binge eat and then
purge the food so that they will not gain weight). Take the most famous bulimic: Diana, Princess of
Wales. Certainly her life in the media spotlight was cause enough for her bulimia but it also had past
life origins. In Roman times, she was married to a very strict, unloving husband who looked upon her
as a trophy wife. Whenever she would gain any weight, he would demand that she go on a program of
purging until she "came back into line" which was a socially acceptable custom in that era. So it was
not surprising that Diana would unconsciously revert to the past life pattern of bingeing and purging
when once again finding herself as a trophy wife in an unloving marriage.
12> VERY RARE REVERSION: "DEVOLUTION" TO AN UNHEALED STATE
In rare cases, past life reversion can take a devastating and fatal turn. Take the case of Howard Hughes
Jr. He created a billion dollar empire from his relatively modest inheritance of the Hughes Tool
Company. For many years, Hughes enjoyed a life of amazing accomplishment. He was a famous
aviator, breaking the record for an around-the-world flight and designing unusual airplanes. He dabbled
in the movies, meddled in politics, and was the prototype of the modern entrepreneur. Then after being
injured in an airplane crash, Hughes began the descent into reversion and madness that would find him
dying in filthy rags with his body ravaged by scars and infection.
This was considered odd because Hughes' problems started with an obsession with cleanliness, a
compulsive need to protect himself, and a horror of germs. The contradiction is easily explainable in
the context of past lives. In an extremely painful incarnation, Hughes had been a leper who was
repeatedly stoned as he made his way to the leper colony. People were free to hurt him because lepers
(often called the "unclean") were under the protection of the law. This left him with two strong past life
charges: one to be clean (unlike an unclean, germ ridden leper) and two to provide his own security
(protecting himself and not relying on others). Hughes reacted to the symptoms of the pain without
healing the causes of it. It was so deep that it overtook him in the end. He died as dirty and ravaged as
a leper. Fortunately, such cases of fatal past life reversion are very rare. Most are led to the help they
need to resolve their past life problems before they reach such extremes.
Rules of the House #26: "You'll Be Back": The Principles of Reincarnation
More of the world (by percentage of population) believes in the concepts of reincarnation and karma than do
not. Whether or not you believe it, you have been here before and it is likely that you will be here again. This
time around proper knowledge of these principles of reincarnation may make the next "go 'rounds" easier.
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1> REINCARNATION DEFINED: A JOURNEY THROUGH THE HEART OF GOD
At some point in our journey as Soul, we ask ourselves "why am I here?" For those of us who have
asked that question many times, it changes into "why did I come back here?" The answers to both
questions are one in the same. You are here - you came back here - to grow in your ability to love.
What we learn through our wanderings in the universe is simply this. Life is a choice: learn to choose
love in every moment. This is far easier said than done. Think about what it means to choose love in
every moment. It means "don't cut that car off in traffic", "don't scream at your kids when you've had a
rotten day", "don't gossip about your boss behind their back when they've 'screwed you'", etc.
Love at every moment means greeting the world with a smile when your heart is breaking, forgiving
those who trespass against you, and being happy when there is every reason to be sad. For love is the
very Heart of God Itself and reincarnation is the journey that takes you through it. Love is the
beginning and the end of everything - more than learning to be loving, reincarnation teaches us all to
become the very essence of love itself. For what is God but love?
2> REINCARNATION GOAL #1: BEING A COWORKER WITH GOD
"So now what?" you may be asking. "If I travel through the heart of God and 'get to the end', what more
is there left for me?" The answer is "even more love". For once you have learned all you need to know
about love, the journey begins anew as you help to guide others along their journey. This is what it
means to "be a coworker with God" in the majesty of His Creation. Although everyone is always
working with God along the way, for one to become a fully realized coworker with God, all the
"individual imperfections" must be shed. Reincarnation and karma are the processes that ensure this
"purification" happens for the highest good of the universe.
3> REINCARNATION GOAL #2: GETTING A 360 VIEWPOINT ON LIFE
To serve God, one first must understand the universe. Imagine the vastness of the small part of the
universe that we can see from Earth and you will see that understanding it is a very great task indeed.
To begin to understand the universe, one must have experience of it from all angles so that one emerges
with a 360 viewpoint on life. This means a person, through the trail of many lifetimes, will be all
things. They will be famous and insignificant, rich and poor, victim and perpetrator, man and woman,
all races, religions, and creeds. They will see life from every vantage point so that they can come to a
correct understanding of it. The more they can understand, the more they can see love in every
situation, the better they are qualified to be a fully realized coworker with God.
4> REINCARNATION GOAL #3: BECOMING TOLERANCE & COMPASSION
"The highest result of education is tolerance." (Helen Keller) Teaching tolerance and compassion is the
true purpose of the cycle of reincarnation and the laws of karma. For what you cannot tolerate, what
you have no compassion for, what you resist or hate, persists in your beingness until the wheels of
karma and reincarnation grind it out of you. The simple truth is that you have come into the present life
as something you resisted or hated in a past life. What you resist or hate now, you will reincarnate into
in a future life. For example, the Women's Movement today is populated with former Victorian men
who thought that "barefoot and pregnant" was good enough for women.
5> REINCARNATION WORKS #1: WHAT YOU LEARN IS WHAT YOU LIVE
There is only one way for anyone to truly understand what it is to be man or woman, rich or poor, in
sickness or in health, and so on. That is for someone to live through that experience for a lifetime
having forgotten that they agreed to do it in the first place. That just makes it more real because they are
that person - for better or worse - and it is a life sentence with no possibility of parole.
So we all must accept the consequences of our place in life and work to create/manifest better ones - if
that is even possible. So that "what you live becomes what you learn"... literally getting it into your
body by recording it indelibly over the course of lifetime after lifetime into your cellular memory.
Eventually you will have lived enough lifetimes to know that you have been here before. Then you will
come to the place of really knowing that each way of life contains within it a unique and special gift of
experience. In this way, you gradually develop the 360 viewpoint on life that is necessary for you to
become a fully realized coworker with God in the unfolding majesty of His Creation.
6> REINCARNATION WORKS #2: LESSONS ARE TAUGHT ONE AT A TIME
There are so many ways of beingness in the universe that it is not possible to experience them all in one
lifetime. That is why reincarnation is necessary: it gives you a body through which to experience a
manageable slice of lessons in each lifetime. Although the progress of spiritual advancement looks like
a wildly fluctuating stock chart, still there is always an overall upward trend. Even after a life where
one has taken a sharp downturn, the drop was agreed to so that in future lives the rise in spiritual
advancement could be even greater. Yet there are always lessons in every life at every moment no
matter what the level of spiritual advancement one achieves. And still the lessons are taught day by day,
life by life, so that they can be mastered and the way made for more learning.
7> REINCARNATION WORKS #3: LEARNING CAUSE AND EFFECT (KARMA)
There is no better or fairer way to learn lessons than for you to experience the direct effects of the
causes you have set in motion. In other words, what you have done to others ("as you sow") in this or
past lives, you will have done to you ("you reap") in this or future lives. When viewed in the context of
a string of lifetimes, what happens to us all is always totally fair and completely just. For example, there
are no innocent people in prison. If they "did not do it" in this life, they were sure to have "done it" in
another life where it seemed that they "got away with it". Yet the Lords of Karma are totally patient -
time being nothing to them - and eventually those who have sown the wind will reap the whirlwind.
This is not to punish but to teach them the laws of life and the laws of love.
For a loving and compassionate God treats all His children equally. He does not give some a life of
ease and others a life of sorrow. He lets each live according to their own state of consciousness and
allows each to have the experiences which will benefit them the most karmically. If this means a life of
ease in one incarnation, it also means a life of sorrow in a past or future one. Again the point is to give
everyone what they need to become a fully realized coworker with God. If some achieve this "sooner"
in linear time, all will achieve it eventually and it will unfold for each Soul in divine timing.
8> REINCARNATION RESULT #1: DEVELOPING DISCERNMENT
Discernment is the art of having learned what love is and what it is not. As we go through our many
incarnations, we explore love in all it's aspects so that we can understand what it means to love like
God. Loving like God means loving another for all that they are - the good and the bad - and standing
back to allow them to have their own experience. It is so easy to want to reach out to another and say to
them "do this, don't do that because...". It makes us feel better but it does not help the person as much
as we think. For when we are gone and we can no longer steer loved ones through the pitfalls of life, we
have left them ill equipped to handle life on their own without us.
It is much harder to stand back and to watch them stumble and fall, knowing that they must learn the
lessons of life as we have done... by true experience. The simple fact is that each soul must learn to
stand on their own and to develop their discernment the only way they can - through success and failure,
tragedy and triumph, mistakes and miracles. Think of how much love God has for all His children to
stand back and watch everyone make their own way through life.
9> REINCARNATION RESULT #2: DEVELOPING DISCIPLINE
Part of the development of discernment is the development of discipline. For discipline is the art of
doing what you have to, especially when you do not want to. For when you think about it, the central
problem of human existence is laziness and the only way to overcome it is discipline. If not for the
intense pleasures of sex, people would not make the effort to procreate - it would be too much trouble.
If not for the need to eat and to shelter our bodies from the intemperate Earth, we would not be
motivated to work - it would be too much trouble. In the process of meeting our basic needs, we must
learn some discipline even if it is as little as going to apply for public assistance.
As we go through many lives, we soon see that our success in any area of life is directly linked to our
discipline in pursuing it. Try running a winning army without the discipline of academic and field
training. Try running a prosperous business without employee policies to enforce the disciplines of
daily attendance and the minimum achievement of work objectives. Try developing spiritual
discernment without discipline and see how soon the "Dark Night of Soul" will make you give up. Do
any of those things as you will soon see how necessary the development of discipline is.
10> REINCARNATION RESULT #3: DEVELOPING DETACHMENT
Part of the development of discipline is the development of detachment. For both discernment and
detachment are necessary for keeping discipline in balance. Too little discipline, and the achievement
of discernment is unlikely. Too much discipline, and it is impossible to achieve detachment. For
detachment is the art of letting the will of God ("Thy Will") become your own ("my will"). Which only
make sense: for if the ultimate goal is to become a coworker with God, that implies complete acceptance
of and surrender to His Will. Accepting His Will is only possible when one detaches from their own
finite expectations to participate in the infinite manifestation of the Divine Plan.
11> REINCARNATION IS "THE MEANS" OF SOUL EVOLUTION
When a Soul has mastered the "three D's" - discernment, discipline, and detachment.- it then that the
individual realizes they are spirit having a human experience and not a human being having a spiritual
experience. Reincarnation works to strip them of false illusions so that they can see the perfection of
their own creation by God ("Self Realization") and how they have served/serve/will serve the Divine
Plan ("God Realization"). For the evolved Soul knows that there is no "we" and "they", no "friend" and
"foe". There are only Divine sparks of God all connected together and all separate at the same time.
There are only those who serve God and those who know His love. "We" are "they".
12> REINCARNATION IS "THE END" OF SOUL AWARENESS
"We shall not cease from exploration and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we
started... and know the place for the first time." (T. S. Eliot) This is what Soul awareness is to really
understand all that we encounter in all it's aspects all the time. It is like looking down the hall of mirrors
to see ourselves looking at ourselves farther than the eye can see, more precisely than the mind can
know, more compassionately than the heart can feel. It is approaches - but never reaches - knowing
what God knows. It is something that can be better imagined than described by those of us still
wandering around the earthly realms. As Henry Ward Beecher said, "and now the mystery"
Rules of the House #39: "Hardwired into the Human Consciousness": Reincarnation Skepticism
(adapted from channeled information and inspired by Tom Shroder's book "Old Souls")
According to Tom Shroder ("Old Souls") Paul Edwards in his book "Reincarnation: A Critical Examination"
tries "to make (Ian) Stevenson (author of "Twenty Cases Suggestive of Reincarnation") look absurd for even
raising the possibility that he may have uncovered evidence for reincarnation Edwards says 'Stevenson will no
doubt claim (that he has) much better cases now. They do not even begin to overthrow what I call the
formidable initial presumption against reincarnation.' What Edwards is really saying (here) was this: because
something challenges the accepted understanding of the world, it obviously cannot be true, and therefore is
unworthy of consideration. That is the position of dogma, not science"
- Tom Shroder (from his book "Old Souls")
Why? Why Is It That People Cannot Accept the Evidence for Reincarnation?
After more than 40 years and 3,000 cases "suggestive of reincarnation", Ian Stevenson asked Tom Shroder, the
journalist who followed him on three research trips, "why is it that people cannot accept this evidence (of
reincarnation)?" The answer is because the process of reincarnation works to "hard wire" the "formidable initial
presumption against reincarnation" deeply into the human consciousness. We are born forgetting the long trail
of our past lives and with a resilient skepticism that keeps us from wanting to explore them.
In people where the skepticism has a strong hold, it will prompt them to believe the most elaborate set of
explanations that are "anything but reincarnation." Even scientists would rather bleed to death on one of their
own most cherished principles, Ockham's Razor, than let go "the formidable initial presumption against
reincarnation". For you non scientists, Ockham's Razor is a principle of philosophy which - interpreted from the
original Latin - means all other things being equal, the simplest explanation is usually the correct one.
The Powerful Force of Reincarnation Skepticism
Again, Tom Shroder (from his book "Old Souls") expressed it best: "It felt as though some force hovered above
us, seeding these cases with just enough compelling evidence to make them impossible to dismiss but never
quite enough for them to be proven beyond doubt. Still the logical gymnastics required to explain 'normally' any
single case were enough to give pause. And going through those same gymnastics in case after case after case
Pretty soon, reincarnation began to seem like a less fantastic alternative. If I accepted even one of these cases as
genuine, I had to accept many, if not most of them. If reincarnation were possible, even once, then it became a
far simpler explanation for (what Shroder had seen on Stevenson's field trips) than was the strained chain of
conspiracy and coincidence that I had to cook up to explain them all away. And I asked myself clearly given
all that I'd seen and heard, why couldn't I simply accept reincarnation as real? There was something stopping
me, some factor that I could sense but not quite grasp."
That factor is the resilient, inborn, "hard wired" skepticism which creates "the formidable initial presumption
against reincarnation". The truth is reincarnation is it's own worst enemy. For reincarnation to work to set the
stage for life after life of karmic lessons it, by necessity, it must work to obliterate any evidence of itself. Yet,
for the small percentage of the population who are ready for greater awareness at any given time, it must open
the door to past life knowledge for their greater spiritual unfoldment. So only where the door swings open a hair
for such individuals do the reality of past lives open themselves to examiners like Ian Stevenson.
Why and How Reincarnation Works to Regulate Human Awareness
How reincarnation works is best summed up by this poem written by Sir Walter Raleigh: "Even such is Time
which takes all in trust: Our youth, our joys, our all we have, And pays us but with age and dust. Who in the
dark and silent grave, When we have wandered all our ways, shuts up the story of our days. But from this Earth,
this grave, this dust, The Lord shall raise me up, I trust." And so when we have exited one life we are "raised
up" in a new one, leaving the "story of our days" behind us in the past where it really belongs.
We come into a new life with new challenges, taking what we have learned with us in our subconscious mind to
improve upon ourselves as "works in progress". It truly is, as Gandhi said, "nature's kindness that we do not
remember past births. Life would be a burden if we carried such a tremendous load of memories." And so we
are born forgetting via certain enzymes released in the brain as we are born which modern science is only now
starting to become aware of and thus is our human awareness of past lives regulated.
Below are the reasons why we variously forget and remember our past lives. As you will notice below,
there are far more reasons to keep the door to past lives closed. And the reasons for allowing the door to be
open often result in it being open for a short time to resolve issues before it is shut again for good. Proof that
reincarnation is extremely effective at it's job is that after millenia of reusing the stage of Earth, the very reality
of reincarnation is not accepted and there is more of a "formidable presumption" against it than ever.
1> CLOSING THE DOOR: ENSURING LESSONS ARE LEARNED
The Earth is nothing more than a gigantic schoolroom for learning the lessons of karma. Logically, if
we are here to learn lessons - particularly if we are trying to correct past mistakes - it would seem to be
easier if we remembered our past lives. That way we could "remember" what went wrong last time so
we could do it right this time around. And yet the vast majority of people come to Earth agreeing not to
remember their past lives at all. For only when we undergo our tests without the knowledge of where
and why we have failed them in the past, can we honestly pass them in the present. We will continue to
receive these tests until our lessons are fully learned. The lessons, the tests, and even what the answers
are and how we have consistently failed those tests can all be discerned merely by looking back over the
panorama of our past lives. Since the primary purpose of reincarnation is the working out of past life
karma, we are kept from past life knowledge so that we cannot "cheat" on present life "tests" by looking
in the back of our book for the answers from prior incarnations.
2> CLOSING THE DOOR: PROVING LESSONS ARE LEARNED
Getting a fresh start is vital to learning our lessons. It is one thing for us to say to our guides when we
are "between lives" that we have "learned our lessons for sure and do not need to repeat them". It is
quite another to "prove it". Before we came into this life, we agreed to put ourself in the path of all that
is we needed to learn and to "forget" we did so. We "forget" to keep from "cheating" and from being
overwhelmed by the totality of our past while making sure that we have really learned our lessons.
When you forget who you were and carry your character forward into a new life to meet new
challenges, that is when you receive the truest test. What you have learned - and what you have not
learned - become painfully apparent. For example, having been a General in many lifetimes, I tended to
treat others in a domineering manner. In this life, I put myself into my situations where humility would
have served me better than being "the dictatorial General". Only when I finally overcame my "problem"
and learned my lesson did I understand why I had put myself into those karmic places.
3> CLOSING THE DOOR: STARTING FRESH, FREE FROM BAGGAGE
In any given lifetime, it is all too easy to become "stuck in the past". Reincarnation ensures that we are
constantly moving forward in our journey as Soul through the universe by putting an end to "dead men
walking" and "dead men sitting" mired in the past. "Dead men walking" are those people who cannot
forgive themselves for what happened - what they did or did not do - in the past. They mourn a past
event for the rest of their lives and become frozen at the stuck point unable to move forward. "Dead men
sitting" are those who "have achieved their dreams" and decide to "rest on their laurels" for the rest of
their lives. From a reincarnation standpoint, both "dead men" have stopped their karmic evolution
because they are stuck in the past. Their stuckness dies with them: having forgotten about it, they
become free of past baggage. So, in new lives, the tides of karma once again get them to stop mourning
or rejoicing in the past by fully engaging them in new experiences.
4> CLOSING THE DOOR: PREVENTING PAST LIFE REVERSION
Past life reversion occurs when people overcome the tides of karma to "revert" to comfortable patterns
from past lives (for more on this, see "Rules of Past Life Reversion"). Left to themselves, people will
naturally gravitate towards "doing what they have always done". Reincarnation will eventually work to
put them in places and situations "where they have not gone before". The most essential part of
countering past life reversion is to implant unusually strong past life skepticism inside them along with a
strong and overwhelming desire to go out and master the unknown.
5> CLOSING THE DOOR: CREATING NEW TYPES OF CHALLENGES
One of the primary reasons that people agree to reincarnate is to see how they would react under ever
more challenging circumstances. When we look back on our old lives to create new one, we wonder
"was my success a fluke or could I do it again under even harder conditions?" An integral part of doing
that is coming back as an "unknown quantity" and building your success all over again without others
or yourself relying on your past track record of success. For example, in all my many military
incarnations, my most satisfying victories were those where the odds were the most stacked against me.
In other words, those where I was severely outnumbered, was terribly lacking in supplies, was
outclassed by superior technology, or was caught in a situation that seemed "utterly desperate and
hopeless" to others (but not to me). To snatch a victory from the jaws of certain defeat is the greatest
thrill a commander can experience because it is the ultimate test of courage, discipline, and leadership.
It would have been far less thrilling if I had known this was not the first life where I had meet and
mastered such situations it would have taken the challenge out of it!
6> CLOSING THE DOOR: DERAILING PRESENT EXPERIENCES
The most important thing to remember about the past life exploration is that NOW - the present - is the
point of all power. The central tenet of past life healing is to help one to be all they can be now by
healing blocks from past lives. Yet, in most of their lives, people do not spend their time looking back
at past lives but instead they focus on living in the now. To focus on now, it is utterly essential to wear
the "veil of unknowingness". Simply put, if we knew the precise relationship that we have had with
everyone we love, feel friendship for, work with, or meet even casually, we would live in a state of
constant information overload. We would spend so much time trying to separate the past from the
present that we would could not experience the true power of living in the here and now.
7> CLOSING THE DOOR: DERAILING PRESENT RELATIONSHIPS
Before we go on the adventure of our lives, we agree to come into certain relationships with others.
These relationships are designed to help us resolve our problems with these people while at the same
time helping us to work through our own issues. The primary goal of reincarnation is to open us to
greater levels of love. This becomes both easier and harder when we reincarnate with the same group of
people over time. Easier when we meet those we already love. Harder when we meet those we already
hate. It is our enforced forgetfulness that frees us to make different choices now. We can quite literally
start over in our relationships with others because we are not carrying any past baggage. For example, if
you had married someone in a past life, you or your former spouse might feel as if you had to do it again
because you were "still married". Being clear of such previous associations, you are free to do what best
makes sense for the person you are today, instead for your past self.
8> CLOSING THE DOOR: ACTING ON IMPERFECT PAST KNOWLEDGE
The ultimate baggage from past relationships are "grudges". For example, if you knew someone had
killed you in a past life, you might not be able to forgive them or allow them to make it up to you. You
might find yourself overwhelmed by revenge (as in "you killed me so I am going to get even!").
Yet past lives are like the hall of mirrors. To understand why you agreed to be killed in one life, you
would have to look back at another, back and back through the corridors of time. Since you cannot
possibly grasp the whole totality of all your relationships with all others throughout time and space, you
need to trust that the scales between you and others will be fairly balanced by the time all your
experiences together are done. That is why "a little (past life) knowledge is a dangerous thing". For if
you saw only a "piece of the past life puzzle", you take actions that you yourself would label as being
unfair if only you had seen the total past life picture. And so you agree to forget and to roll along the
train tracks of karma that were laid out for you before you were born. Particularly if a person has been
famous or infamous throughout history, they would never be free to live another life unless they were
freed of the past life baggage by escaping into a new life and another identity.
9> CLOSING THE DOOR: "INSIDER" KARMIC KNOWLEDGE
One of the greatest paradoxes of reincarnation is this one. As Tom Shroder ("Old Souls") quotes
reincarnation researcher, Ian Stevenson: "In the West, people say 'Why are you spending money to
study reincarnation when we know it's impossible?' In the East, they say 'Why are you spending money
to study reincarnation when we know it's a fact?'" And the paradox continues when you realize that
knowing about the reality of reincarnation in the East has done little, if anything, to lessen the violence
and misery which breeds bad karma there like it is going out of style! Unfortunately, karmic knowledge
has instilled in Easterners a paralyzing fatalism: since they know that their past misdeeds have caused
their present repayment, they are demotivated to change. They throw up their hands and say "it's my
karma, what can I do about it?" And since they make no effort to learn their lessons, they cannot escape
the inevitable karmic consequences of repeating past mistakes. Yet this is all proof positive of why past
life forgetting is so essential to the process of present life learning.
10> OPENING THE DOOR: RESOLVING PAST LIFE ATTACHMENTS
And yet, the door to past life knowledge does swing open when there is no other way to break the past
life attachment except by confronting it in the present life. If you notice the majority of the cases that
researcher Ian Stevenson encounters are those involving past lives cut short by tragedy where the person
involved had a compelling reason to reconnect with family or friends of their "prior personality". Often
that is the only way to bring needed healing to the person's life now as well as assuaging the grief of
family members who are comforted that their loved one was not lost. See the "Rules of Past Life
Carryovers" for more on how past lives break through into the present.
11> OPENING THE DOOR: RESOLVING TOXIC PAST LIFE PAIN
When we reach a certain point in our spiritual evolution, we come to the place where we must come to
total peace with ourselves all who we have been through the trail of many incarnations. In the last
few lifetimes on Earth, before we leave the cycle of reincarnation for good, we must "wrap up" the "odd
bits" of karma that remain seeded in our consciousness. Often this means contracting certain rare
diseases to force us to break through long standing, unresolved toxic past life pain. For a listing of the
"diseases of the evolved" and advice on how to handle them see the Karmic Dictionary.
12> OPENING THE DOOR: ACCELERATING PRESENT GROWTH
When we have truly connected with the greater totality of ourselves, can we accelerate our spiritual
growth ending the cycle of reincarnation in that lifetime. For experience is the best teacher of truth. The
purpose of all experience - human and spiritual - in all lives - past, present, and future - is to refine our
character so that we may become better CoWorkers with God. The ultimate lesson that reincarnation
teaches us is all that we do at every moment is a choice - is our choice. Once we accept total
responsibility for who we are, for what we have done or will do, for all our choices at every moment,
only then do see through reincarnation and realize it has lead us to the heart of God: love.
Rules of the House #36: "Inbetween Times": The Rules of Life Between Lives
The Cycles of Soul Existence: As Soul, we are eternal. Most of us go through cycles of existence that can be
termed as "Before Life", "Lives", "Inter Life", and "After Life": all of which effect us profoundly.
"Before Life": Our existence began as pure, unmanifested consciousness in the Ocean of Love and Mercy from
which all life springs. Most chose to accelerate their advancement as Soul by leaving the Ocean to begin a
personal journey through the universe. Some chose to remain "pure" by staying fully connected to the Ocean
and offer assistance to those who chose to leave and experience life disconnected from their true selves. Most
angels still exist in the "before life" state, never having known a physical incarnation.
"Lives": Our intermittent existence as physical beings - for discrete units of time where we are born, age, and
die to gain experience from different viewpoints - are the lives we lead. We forget about those lives we have
lived before (our past lives), are disconnected from those we will live (our future lives), so that we can focus our
attention on the experience we have chosen for ourselves in our life now, today.
"Inter-Life": Our existence between two physical incarnations - where we leave the last one and prepare for
the next one - is the Inter-Life state. In the Inter-Life, we are concerned with our own development as Soul into
greater states of love, joy, and awareness. As a result, we are confined to the areas in the inner worlds which we
will use to help us prepare for our next life. In the Inter-Life, we grow as we prepare to live again.
"After Life": Our existence after the cycle of our physical incarnations is completed is the After Life state. In
the After Life, we are concerned with assisting others in their development as Soul into greater levels of love,
joy, and awareness. As a result, we expand our knowledge of the inner worlds, going wherever we need to go to
help others along their personal journey. In the After Life, we grow as those we help grow.
The Inter Life and the Need for Past Life Healing
Those in the "Before Life" and "After Life" stages of their existence are clear of their past lives. Those in the
"Before Life" state have no past lives. Part of the mastership process that is necessary for the achievement of the
"After Life" state is coming to terms with past lives by settling all their causes and effects.
Those in the "Inter Life" state and those in "Life" are not clear of their past lives. In the "Inter Life" state, a new
life gets "formed" from the failed lessons from one or more past lives. While "alive" in physical form, an
individual is constantly in the process of clearing past life karma or adding to future life karma until they reach
their last physical incarnation. So most of the time we are either living or between lives. Although some past
life karma can be and is worked off during the Inter-Life, the majority of issues that we have had from past lives
carry over from one life to the next. This can best be explained by an example.
How the Inter-Life Helps and Does Not Help in Playing the Game of Life
Life is like a football game and the Inter-Life is like the time between games when the team reviews their
mistakes from the last game, lays out strategies for the next game, and heals wounds gotten along the way. All
that matters to the fans (your guides and the Lords of Karma) is how you do once you are out on the field of
Life. And although what you do in the Inter-Life is helpful, it somewhat "goes out the window" when you take
the field again and become caught up in the passion and the intensity of your Life's drama.
Like the football game, once it starts again, you remember the times when the other team burned you. Maybe
you chose to avenge the wrong and maybe you chose to forgive it. Whatever you decide, those choices must be
made in a split second while you are on the field of Life with emotions surging through you and onlookers
screaming for blood. You do not get the luxury of quiet time in the locker room of the Inter-Life with your team
of coaches and trainers to decide what may be in your best interest in the long run - karmically speaking.
Here is how you get from one life to the next on your journey between lives
1> DETACHMENT FROM THE CURRENT PHYSICAL BODY
Leaving the physical body is a normal part of life. Often when we sleep we are out of the physical body
having other experiences in the inner worlds of God. By pursuing meditation and spiritual exercise,
some chose to leave their bodies and visit the inner worlds of God in full consciousness (better known
as "Out of Body Experiences" (OBE)). When the physical body is at a point near death, the
consciousness of the individual will detach from the body. The person will see their own body as if
"floating above it" and be able to "perceive" more than usual. They may hear the thoughts of others or
know everything happening around them down to the smallest detail.
2> CONTACT WITH PERSONAL GUIDES & GUARDIANS
Once detached from the physical body, most will know that something is "not normal" and they will
"wander around" trying to "make sense" of what is happening to them. Often it is this sense of
confusion and desperation that prompts these personal guides to manifest their presence. Usually the
guides will appear in the form of one of the person's religious icons (ie. Christians may see Jesus and
Moslems may see Mohammed, etc). The guides appear to comfort and reassure the person that all is
well and to gently guide them into realizing the "seriousness" of their situation.
3> DETACHMENT FROM THE CURRENT PERSONALITY
The guides' first job is to get the individual to detach from their current personality. When one comes to
Earth they agree to forget that they are a Soul who takes on a body and mind to have certain experiences
for their greater growth and spiritual advancement. The individual is gently brought to reconnect with
their own awareness of their greater totality and identity as Soul.
4> TOTAL REVIEW OF CURRENT INCARNATION
Dannion Brinkley ("Saved by the Light"), who recovered from being struck by lightning, described the
life review process this way: "As my body lay dead on that stretcher, I was reliving every moment of
my life, including my emotions, attitudes, and motivations. The depth of emotion I experienced during
this life review was astonishing. Not only could I feel the way both I and the other person had felt when
an incident took place, I could also feel the feelings of the next person they reacted to. I was in a chain
reaction of emotion, one that showed how deeply we affect one another."
5> DETACHMENT FROM THE CURRENT INCARNATION
As far as the "current" life is concerned, this is the point of no return. Those having Near Death
Experiences (NDEs) must turn back at this point and return to their physical body. Those who move on
to the inner realms must fully detach from their physical body. Often when the death is very sudden or
traumatic, the individual will leave a "fear imprint" behind them (more often known as ghosts). And/or
they will attempt to resolve the pain of their passing with some form of "After Life Intervention" to
assist loved ones with moving forward in life without them.
6> OPTIONAL EXCURSION #1: TRANSPERSONAL EXPERIENCES
Ever wanted to meet Jesus, Abraham, Buddha, Krishna, Mohammed, Lao Tse, Confucius, or any other
historical figure that you are attracted to? Now is your chance. Or have a fantasy that was never
fulfilled in life? Here is the place to realize it. In the inner worlds, all your dreams can come true even
if they are "not real". Many times, Souls will elect to "take some time off" from their journey of
unfoldment and have these kinds of "transpersonal" experiences in the inner realms.
7> ASSESSMENT AND EVALUATION OF SOUL PROGRESS
The individual's team of guides and guardians will work with them to determine where they are in the
greater scheme of their evolution as Soul. Agreement will be reached as to what was successfully
accomplished in the last incarnation and what still needs to be improved. Sometimes this agreement
will come down from the Lords of Karma as a decree that the individual has little choice but to accept.
As the individual advances in Soul awareness, they will play a greater role in assessing their Soul
progress and in evaluating what will need to be done in the next incarnation.
8> OPTIONAL EXCURSION #2: REMEDIAL INNER EDUCATION
Sometimes everyone will agree that it is in the individual's best interests to work through certain issues
in the schoolhouses of karma in the inner worlds before returning to a physical body. This kind of
"remedial inner education" is often very unpleasant much like summer school where the person would
rather be playing on Earth instead of serving time in Heaven (or in what appears to them to be Hell).
Usually this kind of remedial education helps the individual work off heavy karma without drastically
upsetting the stage or the players in the physical realm.
9> HEAL & REBUILD SUBTLE, INNER BODY ENERGY FIELDS
Often an individual's inner bodies take quite a beating before they leave the physical realm. Most
sensible Souls take the time that is needed between incarnations for their energy fields to be healed and
rebuilt in the inner worlds. Those who do not will often manifest birthmarks and/or birth defects which
directly relate to the unhealed wounds from past lives. For more on how this works, see Ian Stevenson's
article and book entitled "Where Reincarnation and Biology Intersect: Birthmarks and Birth Defects
Corresponding to Wounds on Deceased Persons".
10> REVIEW GOALS AND PLAN FOR NEXT INCARNATION
At some point, the individual will "tire" of the inner worlds and feel the call of Soul urging them to once
again return to physical existence. The time between incarnations varies widely among Souls. Some
chose to return to the physical world right away while others will "take their time" before coming back.
When the decision has been made to return, the team of guides in conjunction with the Lords of Karma
will determine what is best for the Soul to tackle in their next incarnation. The more advanced the Soul,
the greater the number of issues that are usually selected. Broad goals and plans are then formed until a
consensus is reached among all the parties involved.
11> FORMULATE LIFE CONTRACT FOR NEXT INCARNATION
Based upon the broad goals and plans, a specific life contract is then agreed upon which works out the
"details". This Life Contract covers such items as where and how the person will be born, what
resonances from past lives will be embedded in their body-mind creating birth conditions, and what
major life events will be presented to the individual for their growth as they work through their
resonances. It will also touch on which significant people they will encounter during their new life such
as their birth family, friends, romantic partners, children, coworkers, etc.
12> IMPLEMENTATION OF LIFE CONTRACT INTO BODY-MIND
Just before the individual is about to be reborn into a new body, they are taken to a special area in the
inner worlds to prepare for their new life. In this chamber, they are shown the various potentials that
their new life holds for them. They are also embedded with the necessary unconscious data that will
allow them to recognize significant others they will encounter on their life's journey. After some last
minute advice from their team of guides, they are sent off into the adventure of their new life.
Rules of the House #35: "You Asked For It, You Got It": The Rules of Life Contracts
Lifes Most Terrible Truth
The most terrible truth that anyone will ever learn while they are on Earth is that they agreed to come here
and to experience all that has, is, and will happen to them. The universe operates under this simple rule: "all that
happens is by prior agreement". So if your life is not as you would wish it to be, you will want to know just who
it was that agreed and why "they did it". The "who it was" that entered into this agreement - better known as
your life contract - was you in the "between life" state before your entered into this lifetime. As to "why" you
did it, the answer is always the same to promote your spiritual advancement.
About Your Life Contract: Your Life Sentence to "School House Earth"
Sometimes these "life sentences" are decided upon by the Lords of Karma and you have no choice but to
agree with them. More often, you - the you in the "between life" state - is the one who selected the particular
adventure known as your life. Before you conclude that you may have done a lousy job there and want a
change, consider that the view from the "inside" (the inner God worlds) is vastly different than the "outside"
view (the Earth "reality"). On the inside, you were more concerned with settling karmic debts, with getting
certain spiritual lessons right, and with growing closer to God. Once you arrive on the outside, the nature of
your perspective always shifts and you become more concerned with getting through the day.
In the Perfectly Unfolding Universe
The good news is that "you are where you are supposed to be, doing what you are supposed to be doing, and
contributing to the perfection of the universe." At times, that knowledge alone can make a difficult life easier to
bear. The bad news is that "you are probably firmly tied to the train tracks of karma, are likely to stay there for
the rest of your natural life, and should just stay the course to avoid getting a worse ride next life." And yet
there is a shining ray of hope: for if you learn your lessons, if you accomplish your spiritual objectives, and if
you settle your debts, the train tracks of karma can be switched to give you a more pleasant ride. It is a
compassionate universe: no one wants to punish you, they only want to see you learn.
1> GOD ALLOWS EVERYTHING IN THE UNIVERSE
Whenever I find myself "going into judgment" about something, I get right out of it by remembering
two things. One, that if it is allowed to exist, it exists because God allows it and, if God allows it, it is
for some good reason that I am either not capable of knowing or am not privileged to know. Two, that
is world is a stage of karma, and that, eventually, "what goes around, comes around". The beauty of
past life work is the constant reaffirmation that it is a just universe. For someone might succeed in
delaying the hand of justice, but, given enough time, they never succeed in denying it. So, if there is
something in your life that has "happened to you", remember that God has allowed it and that the reason
for it will be revealed to you at some point on your journey through the universe.
2> ALL THAT HAPPENS IS ALWAYS BY AGREEMENT
For universal justice to be perfect and absolute, then everything must happen by prior agreement. Even
experiences imposed by the Lords of Karma on any given individual always contain an element of
negotiation which implies a measure of consent. So when we come into the adventure of our lives, we
are much like actors who are handed a series of roles. Unlike actors, we are free to change the script
within the confines of the role we are assigned to play. For those of us that transcend our parts by
playing them to perfection, we move onto better, more challenging roles. And the others we were
originally signed to play against are assigned to other actors. So when it comes to organizing and
administering all the agreements, it becomes apparent that God really is in the details.
3> THERE IS NO GOOD OR EVIL - ONLY EXPERIENCE
It frequently surprises clients when I tell them that I outrank them on the Sin-o-Meter (as in "I was a
way worse sinner that you were in past lives!"). The truth is that not many have had past lives that
were and still are labeled as "Anti-Christ" like I have had. Yet if I could go back in time and undo those
lives, I would not, because I had gained too much from them. My courage, resourcefulness, resilience,
toughness, and so on came from my so-called "evil" lifetimes. Now I have certainly paid karmically for
all the harm I inflicted, and I have no desire to pursue the "dark path" any longer, but I have lost my
judgment of it. Even I have moved into what is called "the universal viewpoint". That there is no good
and no evil, no reward and no punishment, no high and no low all there is are experiences that are
designed to help you grow as Soul in love, joy, and awareness. You learn as Soul what works and what
does not. In the end you find that for any question, love is the answer.
4> THE "DEPTHS OF DARKNESS" LEAD TO THE "HEIGHTS OF LIGHT"
Since we live in the world of duality - day and night, winter and summer, man and woman - we learn to
look at the world "from both sides now". We discover that one is not better than another, only different.
And so it is with the paths of darkness and light: to understand one path, we must have experienced the
other. And the more we wish to experience one path, the more we must embrace the other. For we can
only reach the "heights of light" by experiencing the "depths of darkness". So the "higher" we wish to
go into the "light" means the "lower" we must journey in the "darkness". What we come to is a true
understanding of the ancient Chinese symbol of "Yin and Yang". For there is not darkness in which
there is no light, and no light in which there is not darkness.
5> ALL PROBLEMS ARE BLESSINGS, ALL WOUNDS BECOME GIFTS
Most people are incapable of believing that they are the source of their own problems. It is so much
easier to "blame it" on bad luck, misfortune, and random circumstances than to accept total and
complete karmic responsibility for their lives. And yet before we incarnate we agree to take on all our
problems for the lessons they bring us. Simply put, our wounds become our gifts, and the greater the
wounds, the greater the gifts. I have yet to meet a great healer that did not go through their own cycle of
serious problems before connecting with their healing gifts. The truth is that you cannot heal someone
unless you can first understand their pain. And you cannot understand their pain without having gone
through it yourself. For experience is the best and the only teacher.
6> THE "WHO" BEHIND THE AGREEMENT
So "who" was it that agreed to your life contract anyway? The "you" who is down here on Earth is not
the one who agreed to it, you are just the one who lives with it (as in, for example, becoming a "crack
whore"). The "you" who is up there in the inner worlds of God is the one who has agreed to your life
contract "on behalf" of the "you" down here. This "you on high", better known as your Higher Self, is
the Soul part of you that is behind everything that happens to you and everything you do. So - literally,
in the end - you only have yourself to blame for "your problems".
7> THE "WHY" BEHIND THE AGREEMENT
Before you start beating yourself up for making your life too hard, keep in mind that the "you on high"
is only following the rules that are laid out by "management": God/Goddess/All That Is. There are
many rules governing agreements that everyone is expected to follow, most of them boil down to this
one simple rule. That what you have done to others will be done to you in life after life until you learn
to value and love all life unconditionally so that you can become an "independent" CoWorker with
God independent in the sense that you can be trusted to lead others wisely. And where you lead them
is along their own path to total love, joy, and awareness.
8> YOUR BODYS ROLE IN ENFORCING AGREEMENTS
In the between life state, when people choose parents and bodies for their next Earth life, that choice
always involves genetics. The genetics driving an individual's birth condition(s) is a choice made
consciously by the Soul and/or the Lords of Karma before the Soul reincarnates. So severe physical
birth "defects" - like Down's Syndrome, improperly functioning/deformed body parts, learning
disabilities, etc - ensure that the "life sentence" imposed by these conditions will be carried out. That is
how a human body functions like a "prison without walls" - it traps the individual inside a prison of
flesh that largely determines what they can and cannot do in any given lifetime.
9> YOUR MINDS ROLE IN ENFORCING AGREEMENTS
In the between life state, when people choose parents and bodies for their next Earth life, that choice
always involves mental preconditioning. This preconditioning consists of embedding "triggers" in an
individual's consciousness that will be activated when they encounter "pre-planned" life events. Dr.
Morris Netherton best explained how this process begins: "The unborn child, awaiting their new life, is
profoundly affected by prenatal awareness. With no conscious mind to discern or interpret, the
unconscious plays back any past life incidents triggered by events in the mother's life. These incidents
shape the behavior patterns of the child. At birth, the infant will begin a life of trying to resolve those
past life events without ever knowing what they are." As a person continues through the "minefield" of
their life, they continue to stumble across the "unexploded bombs" of these triggers which then continue
to compel them to take the action that is necessary to resolve the past life karma.
10> YOUR EMOTIONS ROLE IN ENFORCING AGREEMENTS
The word "emotion" means "energy in motion" and is energy that must be resolved as a person's life
unfolds. Emotion, when linked to both physical birth conditions and mental preconditioning, is an
especially powerful force in the unfoldment of karma. Take the case of transsexuals: when born, they
receive the brain structure of one gender, but have the flesh of the opposite gender, which sets up an
extremely compelling karmic conflict. Literally, their biology drives their emotional reality - like it or
not - and practically forces them to experience of the alternative lifestyle. In other words, body, mind,
and emotions are so tightly aligned that there is no backing out of the alternative lifestyle simply
because parents do not approve of it, friends cannot accept it, strangers hate and hurt them, etc. So if
you "feel" that you are being driven by your emotions, then very likely you are exactly right!
11> WHEN THE UNIVERSE MUST ENFORCE AGREEMENTS
Despite the mighty forces of body, mind, and spirit arrayed against them, some individuals still manage
to "beat the system" by powerfully imposing their will and their manifesting intentions upon the
universe. Since we are here to learn to become the creators of our lives, we are expected to manifest our
desires and to transcend our personal circumstances. If this is inconsistent with our karma and our life
path, then the universe will step in to "redress the balance". In other words, an accident will happen to
transform the present life or circumstances of a future one will be altered.
12> AGREEMENTS WERE MADE TO BE CHANGED
Life contracts are not "set in stone". In an ever evolving universe of "infinite possibilities" and under
the watchful eye of a compassionate God, those who have earned the right by their actions in this life
can change their life contract. Such changes are rare but they can be made. Often they are not made
because the individual, for most of their lifetimes, is on the path of karma specifically to advance their
spiritual growth. In the last life that the person has on the Earth plane, they are taken - in the inner
worlds - to the Cave of Purification where the karmic residue is burned from their energy field. If this
did not happen, people would spin around on the "Wheel of 84" and reincarnate forever.
Rules of the House #22: Living the Way of Dharma in Coworkership with God
(adapted from the Buddhist Principles of the Eightfold Path and the Four Noble Truths
and from the "Mahanta Transcripts" by Sri Harold Klemp)
Karma is designed to bring us all onto the way of Dharma, the path of CoWorkership with God. The "pain and
suffering" that are part of karma are designed to teach us how to live within the laws of karma. Learning to live
a karma free life ingrains in us a deep and abiding respect for the law so that we always stay within it's bounds.
For only by staying inside it's bounds can we become free of it. Once we can handle this ultimate freedom
responsibly, do we get off the road of karma and move onto the path of Dharma. The way of Dharma is the way
of CoWorkership in loving service to and respect for all life. Here is how it unfolds:
1> DHARMA MEANS ACTING FROM SOUL CONSCIOUSNESS
Similar to the Buddhist principle of Right Concentration, we enter the way of Dharma by becoming
fully in balance with our Soul Body. This happens when an individual becomes completely absorbed in
the NOW, accepting the complete perfection of each moment. Free from mourning the past and from
worrying about the future, those on the path of Dharma experience each moment in it's full totality and
beauty because they know NOW is the only time any of us really has. For mourning the past happens
because we did not live fully in that NOW as it was happening. While worrying about the future means
our fears are blocking the present NOW experience. Yet when we are fully present in NOW, our Soul
and Causal (Karmic) Body becomes one.
2> DHARMA MEANS ACTING FROM SOUL'S PURPOSE IN DIVINE PLAN
Similar to the Buddhist truth regarding Suffering, we enter the way of Dharma by becoming fully in
balance with our Etheric (Intuitive) Body. Suffering comes from and individual's refusal to embrace
their role in the Divine Plan. Suffering ends when the individual accepts that it is "Thy will" and "not
my will" that must be done. Although embracing one's role in the Divine Plan can be painful at times
(example, "who wants to be crack whore?"), it ultimately leads over the course of many lifetimes to the
greatest joy: becoming a full co-worker with God in the majesty of his creation.
3> DHARMA MEANS BECOMING ONE WITH THE PROCESS AND FLOW OF LIFE
Similar to the Buddhist truth regarding Attachment, we enter the way of Dharma by becoming fully in
balance with our Mental (Thought) Body. Clinging to base desires, prejudices, familiar ways of life,
and other such attachments keeps us small and bound by karmic chains to the wheel of rebirth. It is
only by embracing the process, flow, and perfection of life that we break the attachments which are the
primary causes of our pain and keep us from becoming a fully realized co-worker with God.
4> DHARMA MEANS BEING A CENTER OF PEACE AND HARMONY FOR OTHERS
Similar to the Buddhist truth regarding Detachment, we enter the way of Dharma by becoming fully in
balance with our Astral (Emotional) Body. Detachment means letting go and letting God move
through our life so that we can accomplish his work in the world. Often this requires little more than
becoming a center of peace and harmony which others rely on and draw comfort from.
5> DHARMA MEANS HONORING THE DIVINITY IN ALL OF GOD'S CREATIONS
Similar to the Buddhist truth regarding Evolution, we enter the way of Dharma by becoming fully in
balance with our Physical (Matter) Body. Those on the path of Dharma recognize that how they treat
their physical body mirrors their treatment of all life. The physical body is a gift given by God to
accomplish Soul's purpose in this life - by honoring it, they honor their Creator. As they honor the
body, they connect with and honor the divinity and the perfection of all God's creations.
6> DHARMA MEANS ACTING FOR THE HIGHEST GOOD OF ALL
Similar to the Buddhist principle of Right Understanding/Right View, those on the path of Dharma
have opened their Crown Chakra to express their true Divine core essence. Acting for the highest
good of all frees one of all expectations. They do not have hopes about how things should be or fears
about how things might be. They accept things as they are: trusting that "all things work together for
good for those that love God" and that they will unfold for the highest good of all.
7> DHARMA MEANS TRUSTING UNIVERSAL SUPPORT OF THE HIGHEST GOOD
Similar to the Buddhist principle of Right Thought/Right Intention, those on the path of Dharma have
opened their Third Eye Chakra to receive all they need to know to carry out their Soul's purpose.
Abandoning expectations, hopes, and fears, they are free to work with what is. This brings a purity to
their thoughts and actions that in turn attracts support from the universe that they need to accomplish
God's work in the world whether it be ideas, people, money, or other resources.
8> DHARMA MEANS SPEAKING ONLY WHAT IS TRUE, NECESSARY, AND KIND
Similar to the Buddhist principle of Right Speech, those on the path of Dharma have opened their
Throat Chakra to communicate only what is truest and best from their spirit. Since their intentions are
pure, they will naturally speak from the heart. This heart centered speech always contains the three
essential karma-free components: it is true, it is necessary, and it is kind. Notice that these are also the
essential qualities of all Divine Guidance "spoken" to the clairaudient.
9> DHARMA MEANS ACTING WITH LOVE AND RESPECT FOR ALL LIFE
Similar to the Buddhist principle of Right Action/Right Discipline, those on the path of Dharma have
opened their Heart Chakra to their greatest joy because they have learned to love all as Soul and to see
God in everything. Their love and respect for all life embraces everything and everyone: from the mass
murderer to the saint. Those on the path of Dharma are able to love and cherish all because all are loved
and cherished by God - equally - for all are His much loved children.
10> DHARMA MEANS ALLOWING LIFE TO FLOW IN JOY, BLISS, AND ABUNDANCE
Similar to the Buddhist principle of Right Livelihood, those on the path of Dharma have opened their
Solar Plexus Chakra to the full totality of who they are. Service is the deepest expression of love for
as we serve we put the needs of others ahead of our own. Dharmic work is that which empowers and
uplifts others as it feeds and nurtures us. All work can be dharmic if we form a simple relationship with
it by to performing it properly with loving attention to detail.
11> DHARMA MEANS BEING A COWORKER IN THE MAJESTY OF GODS CREATION
Similar to the Buddhist principle of Right Effort, those on the path of Dharma have opened their Sacral
Chakra to connect with their personal power as a CoWorker with God. Power is a tool: it is neither
good nor bad in and of itself. When one uses their personal power to achieve the loving purposes of
Dharma, one always works with it gently, without any aggression or manipulation.
12> DHARMA MEANS LIVING THE LOVE OF GOD IN EVERY MOMENT
Similar to the Buddhist principle of Right Mindfulness, those on the path of Dharma have opened their
Root Chakra to the Earthly tools of "sex, money, and power" in a balanced, helpful way. They are
mindful of the tiniest details of their experience - the way they perform their job, spend their money, and
treat their love partner, family, friends, and coworkers - at every moment of every day.
Rules of the House 18: Life Goes On and On Evidence of the Continuation of Life After Death
(based on Victor Zammit's "A Lawyer Argues the Case for the AfterLife: Irrefutable Objective
Evidence", Raymond Moody's "Life After Life", and channeled information)
"Do we pass from being into nothingness and find there is no exit - or - is there more?" has been asked from the
beginning of time. Many in our electronic age believe that we have moved beyond the need for God and have
abandoned the quest for finding Him/Her and answering this age old question. And yet, ironically, it is the
electronic age which has managed to give us some of the most compelling proof of life after death.
1> ELECTRONIC VOICE PHENOMENA (EVP) - "SOUND" COMMUNICATION
Victor Zammit has the best description of this phenomena: Electronic Voice Phenomena (EVP) is
"objective communication between those who live physically on this earth with those who passed on,
those who physically died but are now living in a different dimension. For more than 50 years
experimenters all over the world have been tape recording 'paranormal voices'- voices which cannot be
heard when a tape recorder is playing but which can be heard when the tape is played back."
"Many of the very short messages claim to be from loved ones who have passed on. They are
responsive, use the experimenter's name and answer questions." I myself did not believe in this
phenomena until it happened in a session and a client called me to ask how "I did it". I thought it was a
flaw in the tape at first but it was not (see "Phone Calls from the Dead" by Scott Rogo).
2> INSTRUMENTAL TRANSCOMMUNICATION (ITC) - "LIGHT" COMMUNICATION
Again Victor Zammit describes this Instrumental Transcommunication (ITC) as "contact with people
who have died via radio, over telephones, on television, on answering machines and on faxes and
computers. This is highly evidential in that the contact is repeatable, is occurring in laboratories
throughout the world, and is being subjected to scientific scrutiny."
ITC is the modern equivalent of the better known "automatic writing" phenomena. In automatic
writing, an individual serves as the conduit through which the thoughts of others flow. They write words
on paper without consciously directing them while in an altered state of consciousness. It is this super
conscious state that allows them to contact beings in non-physical planes of existence (see "How to Do
Automatic Writing" by Edain McCoy, Llewelyn Publication).
3> NEAR DEATH EXPERIENCES (NDE)
Near Death Experience (NDE) from Victor Zammit: "is a powerful argument for the existence of the
afterlife. As medical resuscitation techniques are being improved more and more people are being
brought back from the border of clinical death. A number of them recount an intense profoundly
meaningful experience in which they seem to be alive and functioning outside their body."
Most NDEs go something like this: "'I had a floating sensation ... and I looked back and I could see
myself on the bed below. I went through this dark black tunnel at super speed. I saw a light coming
toward me. From the moment I heard a voice in the light speaking to me, I felt really good -- secure and
loved. I heard the voice telling me what I had to do - go back - and I felt no fear. My NDE opened up a
whole new world for me -- I kept thinking, 'There's so much I've got to find out.'"
Dr. Raymond Moody ("Life After Life") studied "more than one hundred people who experienced
'clinical death' and were revived. Their amazing testimonies and surprising descriptions of 'death' and
'beyond' were so strikingly similar, so vivid and so overwhelmingly positive that they have changed the
way many view life, death, and the spiritual hereafter." Proof positive that life goes on and on.
4> OUT OF BODY EXPERIENCES (OBE)
Out of Body Experiences (OBE) from Victor Zammit: "happen when a person's duplicate invisible
body" (which are the four inner bodies: Astral, Causal, Mental, and Etheric) "is able to move out of the
physical body with full consciousness A person who experiences an OBE does not have to be ill or
near death." They just need to have earned the right to get this kind of experience.
"Those who have had an out of body experience usually accept that they survive physical death. They
know that the reason why they return to their physical body is because their invisible duplicate body is
still connected to the physical body by a silver cord. When the silver cord is irretrievably severed, the
invisible body continues to survive" in the inner worlds.
OBEs are well documented throughout history: by the ancient Egyptians, the ancient Greeks (Plato,
Socrates, and Plutarch), the ancient Romans (Pliny and Plotonius), and the ancient Chinese. OBEs are
also practiced by tribes in Africa, by North American Indians, by Buddhists and Hindus. The Emperor
Napoleon was said to have credited his success on the battlefield by his ability to perform OBEs at will.
He would rise above his body, get an overview of the battle, and adjust accordingly.
5> DISCARNATE MATERIALIZATION (DM)
Discarnate Materialization (DM) from Victor Zammit: "cases involve a person who has recently died
appearing to loved ones to announce the fact of their death. In many such cases the death was
unexpected and was later confirmed to have occurred immediately before the apparition."
Like "phone calls from the dead", numerous and well documented cases of discarnate materialization
exist. A typical case of discarnate materialization is the case of a Mrs. Pacquet reported by Scott Rogo.
Her "brother Edmund appeared to her six hours after he had drowned at sea." He "acted out how he had
been caught around the legs by a rope and dragged overboard" - later verified to be true. Discarnate
materializations, more popularly known as ghosts or apparitions, have been successfully photographed
in conjunction with research into long term paranormal activity (haunted homes, etc).
6> AFTER LIFE INTERVENTIONS (AI) & 7> DISTURBED POLTERGEISTS
After Life Interventions (AI) are interventions in the physical world caused by beings existing in the
non-physical realms of existence. Usually these interventions are termed 'poltergeists' which comes
"from German and literally means 'noisy spirit'". "Thousands of poltergeist incidents" have been
"recorded from around the world". They include such physical interventions as "clothing (being) set on
fire, human voices being heard from unknown sources, solid objects (being sent) flying through the air,
vases being and smashed on the floor or walls." These after life interventions can be as graphic and as
threatening as "matches being lit in the eyes of witnesses, stones being thrown (at them), and other
material things being moved" despite pleas of those present to stop the activity.
After life interventions from Victor Zammit "are usually related to some serious unfinished business.
Sometimes serious crimes such as murder, rape, torture and some other form injustice motivates the
(discarnate spirit) to seek revenge If a person is extremely disturbed at the time of death, there is a
likelihood that the person will continue to be disturbed in the next world" for some time to come.
The manifestation of this disturbed energy will continue to be played out until the cause that set it in
motion is addressed by "some resolution" to the cause. Often discarnate spirits intervene in the physical
world with the purpose of motivating someone else to discover their remains. Often when the bodies
are unearthed, it initiates a sequence of events that will lead to the arrest of the murderer. More often,
the discarnates simply wish to put an end to the suffering of loved ones who miss them.
8> PRE-DEATH CROSSOVERS (PDC)
Pre-Death Crossovers (PDC) is from Victor Zammit: the phenomena of those close to dying having
"visions tak(ing) the form of apparitional visits of loved ones, glimpses of the next world (The) dying
would tell of visions of God and of seeing those who had died before them." This is a special form of
discarnate materialization. It happens because the dying person is in the process of becoming ready -
vibrationally - for their entry into the next non-physical plane of existence.
9> MEDIUMSHIP #1: DISCARNATE CHANNELING (DC)
Discarnate Channeling (DC), better known as "mediumship", is the ability of a person to channel
information directly from "dead people". From Victor Zammit, when famous American medium,
George Anderson gave New York TV host and paranormal debunker, Joel Martin a short reading,
Martin was "shocked. 'George had been accurate about everything. He had not generalized, there was no
ambiguity. He knew things - names, details, events, opinions, even gestures - that no one else could
have known I relived the reading time and again, searching my memory for evidence of tricks.
George had worked in a fully lighted room, did not go into a trance state and seemed so matter-of-fact
about it all... I had to admit that there was something going on. It flew in the face of everything I'd
learned to believe about science and religion, the nature of life itself.'"
10> MEDIUMSHIP #2: BRAIN PATTERN LIGHT OVERLAYS (BPLO)
Brain Pattern Overlays (BPLO) from "non-physical" entities onto the physical medium are what
allow the transmission of "inner information" to the medium to occur. From Victor Zammit: "American
Professor Charles Hapgood tested the electroencephalograph (EEG) of the medium Elwood Babbitt
while three different intelligences were allegedly in control of the medium. The EEGs of each of the
three were found to be completely different from each other and from the EEG of Babbitt (while) not in
trance. An EEG expert, Dr Bridge, noticed that the EEGs were characteristic of people of different
physical ages and could not belong to the one person."
11> MEDIUMSHIP #3: VOICE PATTERN SOUND OVERLAYS (VPSO)
Voice Pattern Overlays (VPSO) from "non-physical" entities onto the physical medium also allow
transmission of "inner information" to occur. From Victor Zammit: "Voices of three intelligences which
regularly manifest through medium, Shirley Bray were tape recorded. These taped voices were
then put through a very high tech voice machine (which) can measure variables such as pace, rhythm,
accents etc. The machine showed that all taped voices from the medium Shirley Bray were those of
totally different individuals (Since) the machine registers breathing pattern(s) while speaking it
would not have been possible for one person to produce the three voices on the tape. This is because the
voice pattern vibration for each individual is different from person to person".
12> MEDIUMSHIP #4: MERGING OF MULTIPLE CONSCIOUSNESS (MMC)
Merging Of Multiple Consciousness (MMC) is essentially what allows mediumship to function.
From Victor Zammit, a word association test was given to a medium "Mrs Garrett when NOT in
trance and to give her control, Urvani, a word association test when Mrs Garrett WAS in trance
Professional psychologists and psychiatrists attest that the subject cannot maintain fraud for any length
of time using a word association test of 100 words where the response time to a word is measured in
tenths of a second. Any inconsistency and hesitation is noticed immediately. The results showed
conclusively that the word associations of Mrs Garrett and of Urvaniwere all radically different and
that it was not possible for the information transmitted to have come from one person, from one mind.
These results correspond with the argument that we survive physical death and that our personality, our
mind, our character survive (along) with us."
Rules of the House #17: Hide in Plain Sight Evidence of Past Lives in Everyday Life
(based on the works of Ian Stevenson and channeled information)
The past is still present. When most people look for evidence of their past lives, they usually overlook evidence
that is "hiding in plain sight". Looking at the present day world through past life eyeglasses can give one a
whole new perspective on and explanation for phenomena that has been and is present in "real life". Here is
some evidence of past life carryovers that explain several observable present day situations.
1> GENDER IDENTIFICATION CONFLICTS
The most common and most overlooked impact of past lives on the present is in the area of gender
identification. Past lives contribute the most to an individual "feeling like" a man or a woman "on the
inside". Consider the lengths - physically, socially, and financially - that some (commonly called
transsexuals) go to in changing their outer gender appearance to correspond to their inner emotional
reality. It is then you will gain an appreciation for how compelling the drive toward correct gender
identification is and how deeply such conflicts can run in an individual. This is an outgrowth of that
person having incarnations that are predominantly of one gender. For example, in my case, having been
a General in many lifetimes, my incarnations have been predominantly male. Although I am a female
now and I do embrace this gender, if given a "free" choice, I would choose to be male. I would choose
that simply because it is more comfortable for me as an expression of my life path.
2> DJ VU EXPERIENCES
The "dj vu" experience is the feeling that we have been somewhere or done something before when
we could not possibly "have been there or done that". For example, Peter Ramster investigated Cynthia
Henderson who "remembered a life during the French Revolution. When under trance, she spoke in
French without any trace of an accent, understood and answered questions put to her in French, used
dialect of the time, and knew the names of streets which had changed and were only discoverable on old
maps. An even more compelling case of dj vu is the "800 Year Old Case of Synchronicity" reported
by Dr. Bruce Goldberg who had two clients unknown to one another who shared the same lifetime. In
different sessions years apart, they reported identical events from the opposing viewpoints of their past
life personalities. Only Dr. Goldberg knew of this synchronicity (for more see Ramster "In Search of
Lives Past" and Goldberg "Past Lives, Future Lives").
3> CHILDREN WITH ADULT MEMORIES
Children who claim to remember a previous life have been found in many parts of the world,
particularly in areas where the concept of reincarnation is accepted "as in the Buddhist and Hindu
countries of South Asia". There are also cases "among the Shiite peoples of Lebanon and Turkey, the
tribes of West Africa, and the American Northwest. Stevenson has collected over 2,600 reported cases
of past-life memories of which 65 detailed reports have been published. Specific information from the
children's memories has been collected and matched with the data of their former identity, family,
residence, and manner of death." Many believe that children's past life memories are among the most
compelling because, given the level and complexity of detail "remembered", it would be almost
impossible to fake this information by coaching. (For more see Ian Stevenson's "Twenty Cases
Suggestive of Reincarnation" as well as Carol Bowman's "Children's Past Life Memories").
4> CHILD PRODIGIES & IDIOT SAVANTS
Extreme forms of past life manifestations in children are the phenomena of "child prodigies" (children
who are born with extremely advanced expertize) and "idiot savants" (children who can perform
complex mathematical or scientific calculations but are lacking in very basic social skills).
Child prodigies have developed certain skill sets in such a high degree in past lives that they become
deeply ingrained in their persona. So when that Soul reincarnates, the skills come along in the new
body fully intact and a child prodigy is born. For example, Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart believed that he
had been a musician in many past lives where he had developed his amazing technical skills.
Similarly, idiot savants reincarnate with fully developed skill sets but there is usually such a serious
imbalance between their mental and emotional bodies as to put the mental body completely in control of
the individual. The mind "out of control" drives the emotions and the physical body of the savant to act
in ways that are considered to be socially unacceptable. The karmic goal of this existence is to "knock"
the emotions back into shape and restore balance.
5> UNLEARNED LANGUAGE (XENOGLOSSY)
Xenoglossy is someone's "ability to speak or write in a language that has not been learned". Cases of
xenoglossy are the hardest to explain - other than in the context of past lives - where the individual
involved "spontaneously" can write in languages long extinct and known only to a handful of research
scholars. For example, "Dr Morris Netherton reports one case of a blond, blue-eyed eleven year old boy
who under hypnosis was taped for eleven minutes as he spoke in an ancient Chinese dialect. When the
tape was taken to a professor at the Department of Oriental Studies at the University of California it
turned out to be a recitation from a forbidden religion of Ancient China" (see Ian Stevenson's work
"Unlearned Language: Xenoglossy" for more).
6> MULTIPLE BIRTH DEFECTS & DISTINCTIVE BIRTHMARKS
Multiple or severe birth defects are usually the result of an individual being on the spiritual "debt
consolidation karmic payment plan". Since birth conditions can never be ignored and usually last for
the entire lifetime, they become the perfect vehicles for the working off of serious and complex karmic
conditions arising from past lives. It is as if all the individual's problems have been rolled into one big,
gigantic ball that the individual will be dragging around for "the rest of their life".
"Birthmarks or other physiological manifestations have been found to relate to experiences of past
lives, particularly violent death. Writing as a specialist in psychiatry and as a world-renowned scientific
investigator of reported paranormal events, Stevenson asks us to suspend our tendencies to disbelieve in
reincarnation." Consider the reality of the burgeoning record of cases now available as in Ian
Stevenson's "Reincarnation and Biology: the Etiology of Birthmarks and Birth Defects".
7> LOVE OR HATE AT FIRST SIGHT
Many people dream about looking across a crowded room and seeing the love of their life. "Love at
First Sight" is a well documented historical phenomenon. Caesar and Cleopatra acted as man and wife
from almost the first moment they met one another. Once Czar Nicholas met Lady Alexandra, he - in
an uncharacteristic act of stubbornness - refused to consider marrying anyone else. After Queen
Victoria met Albert, she became bound and determined to marry him. The same with King Henry II and
Eleanor of Aquitaine, King Henry VIII and Anne Boleyn, and the list goes on.
8> OBSESSIONS & COMPULSIONS
Every attitude and belief you have comes from somewhere. Obsessions and compulsions in this lifetime
are usually directly traceable back to a past life where they originated. If the traits or the behaviors are
disempowering enough in one's life today, then it becomes a disorder (OCD). The spiritual purpose of
OCD is force the individual to seek the answer to why they are now being "plagued" with thoughts and
behaviors that they have "no control over". When the life lesson associated with OCD has been fully
learned and "absorbed" into the individual's body-mind, the "disempowering" trait or behavior will fall
away. Often all that is needed is for the individual to confront the past life(s) where the OCD originated
and integrate the necessary learning.
9> MULTIPLE PERSONALITIES & SCHIZOPHRENICS
Multiple personality disorders (MPD) and/or schizophrenia (SCH) can be caused by the emergence
of past life personalities that arise to help the present day person solve problem(s). The trouble comes
when these past life personalities are not properly reintegrated back into the present day person's
memory. What normally happens is, that when an individual is in crisis, they access the "unused" part
of their brain where their past life personalities are stored to help them overcome it. When the crisis is
averted, the pathway to that part of their brain is automatically shut off.
In cases of MPD or SCH, the crises are so severe or so chronic that this shut down mechanism can no
longer function properly. The mind then has difficulty distinguishing between the current and all prior
personalities. In a sense, the prior personalities come back to life and fight for the attention of the
current body-mind. In SCH, there is usually a very dominant prior personality which drives out all
others except themselves and the current day personality. In MPD, a host of prior personalities jockey
for position at the forefront of the person's awareness and end up "taking turns".
10> JINXES & HARD LUCK CASES
Ever met someone whose life was a "bad news buffet"? Ever met someone whose life - if put on a
television soap opera - would be just too tragic to be believed? Ever met someone who never seems to
get ahead and is the classic case of "when bad things happen to good people"? Most people have.
It raises the classic problem of "evil": for how does a truly loving God let "bad things" happen to some
of His children and not others? The answer is: "as one has sown, so also shall one reap" and those who
"sow the wind" will "harvest the whirlwind". In the context of present lives being the working out of
past life causes, there is no hard luck... there are only experiences one has chosen. Often those
experiences are to suffer for ourselves what we have caused others to suffer.
11> INFANT ADDICTS & DOWN'S SYNDROME CASES
The encounter with the "problem of evil" is greater nowhere than in cases of infants born addicted to
drugs or severely compromised mentally and physically as in Down's Syndrome cases. If a person only
"got only one shot at life" and it was with extreme birth defects like these, then how could belief in a
loving, just, and merciful God be possible? I think it could not be. When it becomes clear that these
situations were chosen by returning suicides, Nazi medical experimenters, serial killers, and the like to
understand the effects of their brutality, then the role of cosmic justice becomes clear.
12> UNEARTHING BURIED TREASURES
A tangible form of the "dj vu" experience is what I call "unearthing buried treasure". There have been
documented cases of individuals retrieving things in a later life that they had stashed away in a previous
one. Take the case of Shanti Devi from New Delhi, India "who at the age of four began to mention
certain details about clothes, food, people, incidents, places which surprised her parents. Briefly, Shanti
mentioned the following which were later verified to be true. She identified herself as Lugdi and used to
live in Muttra, 128 kilometres away She knew in her former life where she had hidden 150 rupees in
an underground corner of a room for safe keeping in the house. The husband of the previous life, Kedar
Nath, confirmed that although the money was not there (when the case was investigated) he was
responsible for (finding it) and taking it himself." For more see Victor Zammit's "A Lawyer Argues the
Case for the AfterLife: Irrefutable Objective Evidence".
Rules of the House #31: "Untangling the Web": The Unique Qualities of Past Life Memories
(inspired by Carol Bowman's "Children's Past Lives" and adapted from channeled information)
Memories are much like spider webs: sturdy but fragile, interconnected but reduced to bare essentials, full of
actual materials but woven by our own hand. As any reputable historian will tell you, sorting "fact" from
"fiction" is not as easy as it appears. For example, ask all the people in a car accident to describe it to you and
you will have as many stories as you will people. Investigate it closer and you will uncover even more theories
on "how it really happened" from onlookers. Now imagine that instead of a car accident, it is an important
historical event you wish to discern the "truth" about, suddenly the "truths" will multiply at an alarming rate.
So for those having dreams about past lives or for those consciously connecting with past life memories, the
question becomes "how do I know if these are real?" In other words, "what is the difference between past life
memories and dreams, imagination, and other 'mental' processes?" The good news is that there are several clear
signs indicating that memories originate from past lives. The bad news is that, unless are you totally and
brutally honest with yourself about your experience, these signs may not help you. They are:
1> PAST LIFE MEMORIES HAVE DEPTH & DETAIL
Critics of past life work are quick to point numerous documented cases of where hypnotists have been
able to "induce past life memories" in their subjects by "suggesting" that the subject lived a past life in a
certain place or time. The mind will then oblige the hypnotist by obediently constructing a "story" of a
past life based on what the subject has learned, seen, or heard about the particular time and place
suggested. These researchers then often conclude that past life memories are just the activity of a hyper
active and/or deluded mind that randomly selects events and calls them past lives.
Looking closer, these "induced" or "suggested" memories all have one thing in common: they lack the
depth and detail common to true past life memories. Those experiencing true past life memories are
able to recall details about their past lives that are as "wide and deep" as details they would be able to
recall about their life today. These would include such things as: the names of loved ones, family,
friends, neighbors, and employers; who they loved or hated and why; who owed them money; where
they had left certain things; their health problems; where they lived and so on. Especially when those
details can be verified by researchers and when there was no way the person involved could have gotten
the information from another source, the truth of past lives becomes hard to deny. Past life researcher
Ian Stevenson has spent a lifetime in amassing scientific evidence of reincarnation (see "Twenty Cases
Suggestive of Reincarnation" for "in depth" documented case histories).
2> PAST LIFE MEMORIES HAVE CLARITY & CERTAINTY
Another common failing of "induced" or "suggested" memories is that they lack clarity and certainty.
Since they are based on "nothing", it becomes easy for a researcher to lead a subject "by the nose" and
get them to contradict previous statements made about the "suggested" past life. Not so with real past
life memories because they are based on "something" that has already happened in the sequence of
"linear time". Usually in channeled readings, the most significant single event of the individual's past
life is shown first and then past life unfolds in sequence beginning with childhood.
Even when it seems like there is no way the "significant" event could happen to the person given their
beginnings, it always unfolds logically, clearly, and with great certainty to that ultimate moment. Many
times as the life is unfolding the individual will begin to "remember" these past events. Often they will
start to fill in some details about the past life or they will point out parallels between the past and their
life now. Invariably, this leaves the person clearer about what they need to do now to avoid the
mistakes of the past. Almost always, a significant personal detail - known only to the client - will
emerge to satisfy them the past life being channeled is most certainly theirs.
3> PAST LIFE MEMORIES HAVE INTERNAL CONSISTENCY
Those getting past life information through their dreams or by doing self guided regression work will
probably find that their memories will come out of sequence. In other words, memories of events later
in a past life may be revealed before memories of earlier events in that life. This happens because our
unconscious mind presents us with information in the order of importance to our evolution as Soul.
Often that is not in the order in which the events actually happened to us.
If these are true past life memories, then the memories will automatically have internal consistency. In
other words, the memories will be like pieces in a puzzle. When all the puzzle pieces are neatly fit
together, a clear, consistent picture will appear. That only works if each piece of the puzzle was "good"
in the first place. It can only be good, if it comes from a slice of that was actually lived. If the pieces do
not fit, then it cannot be a memory and is more likely a dream or an imagination.
4> PAST LIFE MEMORIES CONTAIN "UNLEARNED" KNOWLEDGE
There is so much in the universe to learn that it is impossible to master everything in the space of a
single lifetime. And so we come into each life to take on a certain set of series and challenges. Yet
what we have learned in past lives is always available to us. When we need to use this knowledge, it
will always come back to us. Often this surfacing of past life wisdom is so natural and subtle that most
do not recognize it. Or if they do, they are likely to attribute it to a "God given gift".
All knowledge must be earned. Anything you "know" that you have "not learned" in this life, you have
mastered in previous incarnations. Often, this unlearned knowledge manifests itself in the sudden
emergence of "survival skills" to cope with life threatening situations. There have been many news
stories of people who saved their own lives because "somehow they knew just what to do".
5> PAST LIFE MEMORIES CONTAIN "UNLEARNED" WISDOM
"Unlearned knowledge" relates to the "remembering" of specific skills and abilities while "unlearned
wisdom" relates to the "connection" to the understanding that comes only with time and experience and
only after a base of knowledge is amassed. Those who possess such "wisdom beyond their years" -
child prodigies, savants, and geniuses - have carried it with them from past lives.
The phenomena of "unlearned wisdom" is most readily observed in the case of children's past lives.
When children can relate stories of "the time before when I was big", which are full of details that are
clearly beyond their experience, they are most likely reconnecting with their past lives. Since children
have come from the inner worlds more recently, they are better able to connect with the greater totality
of themselves which includes past life awareness. For a more in depth look at how children can
demonstrate "unlearned wisdom", see Carol Bowman's "Children's Past Lives".
6> PAST LIFE MEMORIES EXPLAIN UNUSUAL BEHAVIORS & ATTITUDES
Many psychologists will tell you that "from the inside, all attitudes and behaviors make sense." This
flows from the idea that, at some point in the past, mostly in childhood, specific incidents created all of
the behaviors and/or attitudes a person possesses. Where a specific incident cannot be found, it is
generally attributed to repressed memory. Often, it should be attributed to past lives, especially if the
behavior or attitude is "unusual" given the context of the person's life now.
Most obsessive-compulsive behaviors are carryovers from past lives that are crying out to be healed. As
in those who must obsessively hoard everything now - no matter how trivial - generally suffered and
died horribly for having let food or money slip through their fingers. Or as in those who are now
compulsive control freaks are now "making up" for lives when they were powerless.
7> PAST LIFE MEMORIES CORRESPOND TO STRANGE HABITS & MANNERS
Like unusual behaviors/attitudes and strange habits/manners often originate in past lives. This is
especially true of "fear based" habits that cannot be explained by present life events. For example, those
who fear heights often have past lives where they fell to their death from a great height. Or those who
fear confined spaces may be "reacting" to having been buried alive in past lives. As Johannes Kepler
asked, "why are things as they are and not otherwise?" In the case of "strange habits and manners", the
answer to this question is almost always "past lives".
8> PAST LIFE MEMORIES CORRESPOND TO SKILLS & TALENTS
Skills and talents developed in past lives carry over into your present life just like your issues and
problems do. Everyone has something that they do especially well, something that comes easily and
naturally to them. Past life memories often reveal that what work you are doing now you have done
before in many, many past lives. Many doctors and nurses have had previous incarnations as healers.
Many psychiatrists and counselors have had past lives as priests, ministers, or monks/nuns. Many
writers, musicians, and artists have perfected their respective crafts over numerous lifetimes.
9> PAST LIFE MEMORIES HAVE PHYSICAL TRACES
Physical traces of past lives often lie just on the surface of your skin. The marks - moles, warts,
discolorations, and other "imperfections" - you were born with on your skin are often the roadmap to
your past lives. These "birthmarks" are the cellular memory of past life wounds imprinted on your
present day body. They are carried forward because the past life "trauma" associated with them (mostly
from violent death) has not been resolved. Until it is resolved, the body will continue to carry the
birthmark and it's resonance to future lives (see Stevenson's "Reincarnation and Biology").
10> PAST LIFE MEMORIES HAVE EMOTIONAL TRACES
Emotional traces from past lives are usually the most recognizable to others because they are on the
receiving end of our emotional responses. Paying close attention to those comments that are
consistently made by a wide variety of others about one's emotional behavior will give important clues
to the nature of past lives. This is especially true if the emotions "make no sense" given the context of
the present life. For those who are naturally dictatorial may have had many lifetimes in command.
While those who are naturally jealous may have been betrayed by lovers in past lives.
11> PAST LIFE MEMORIES HAVE MENTAL TRACES
Mental traces from past lives are usually the most recognizable to ourselves. because only we are
totally familiar with the inner workings of our own minds. This usually manifests as our own internal
questions such as "why do I think this way when my thinks so much differently?" Or "why does
this stay 'stuck' in my mind?" Or "why can't I get over?" All these are mental traces from past
lives. As in "you think differently because you are more like yourself as you grow over many past lives
then you are like" Or "you are stuck/can't get over" because of an unhealed past life issue.
12> PAST LIFE MEMORIES HAVE SPIRITUAL TRACES
Spiritual traces of past lives are generally the most recognizable to others who have already been to the
same place on the spiritual path where you are. Yet you can discern them for yourself by looking at
what primarily interests you and how this corresponds to your chakras. If you are totally into the "sex,
money, and power" bag, then you are operating from your Root Chakra and have lots of rich life
experience before you. Yet if you are primarily into the "spirituality and God" bag, then you are
operating from your Crown Chakra and have a rich tapestry of past life experience behind you.
Rules of the House #45: "Living Another Life": Unique Qualities of Past Life Dreams
"These dreams that sleep when I close my eyes every second of the night I live another life"
- (lyrics from a popular song)
"To Sleep, Perchance to Dream"
One of the tragedies of modern life is that sleep is often regarded as unproductive down time an annoying
habit that cannot be broken. Since sleep cannot be avoided, it is often minimized, to "get it over with" and to get
on with life. And yet, from a spiritual standpoint, sleep is an incredibly productive activity. For while our body
sleeps and our mind rests, they and "we" are put in touch with the healing and regulating currents of the
universe. It is the longest part of the day that we - all of us - spend in touch with the inner worlds of God.
If you think nothing happens while we are sleeping, why is it that we can go to sleep angry or upset about a
problem and wake up feeling better about it? Nothing in our situation has changed so if nothing had gone on
while we were sleeping, how could this happen? Yet, it is dreams that are the real evidence "something is going
on" while we sleep. And part of what dreams are used for is to work through past life karma.
Dreams and the Burn Off of Past Life Karma
You might wonder how and why such "karmic dreams" work to burn off past life karma
How it works is that - relative to the working through of karma - there is no difference between what is "real"
(happening in waking life on the physical plane) and what is "imagined" (happening in sleeping life in the inner
worlds of God). As long as you can feel it, whether in a dream or in "real" life, you can heal it.
Why it happens depends on your level of spiritual evolution. If you are "just getting into" greater awareness of
spirituality, then "karmic dreams" are a safe way of introducing you to the greater totality of yourself to your
past lives. In other words, you can relive a traumatic past life event even if your "waking" belief system does
not support belief in the "reality" of past lives. If you are "already on the path", then "karmic dreams" are a
more harmonious way to work off karma. In other words, if you have past life "robbery" karma to work off,
then experiencing getting your house vandalized in the dream state is much less disruptive to your life in the
future than if it had "actually" happened to you in "real life" (ie. healing a broken house, etc).
Remember that karma is more about teaching than punishing and, if you can learn lessons less painfully in the
dream state, that is the surest sign of the working of a loving and compassionate universe.
So here is how to tell if your dream has "past life origins" or if it is just a "regular" dream:
1> PAST LIFE DREAMS HAVE HISTORICAL DETAIL
Regardless of your level of spiritual advancement, the primary purpose of your dreams is to give you
"coaching and feedback" about your life now. Therefore, most dreams will be filled with people,
places, and things that are familiar to you in your life today. When you find yourself dreaming about
"historical" people, places, and things that is the surest sign you are in the process of tapping into your
past lives. In other words, if you find yourself dressed in "period clothing", if you observe yourself in
"historical settings", or if you see yourself living through "significant events" from times that could only
have been experienced in past lives you are having a "karmic dream".
Most often, the strongest indicator of "karmic dreams" are when we see ourselves as "other than" we are
today. Meaning that in dreams we see someone who "we know to be ourselves" that is clearly of the
opposite gender or from a different race, religion, ethnic group, nation, etc than we are today.
2> PAST LIFE DREAMS HAVE UNCHANGING EVENTS
In our dreaming life, just as in waking life, we are "in charge" of what goes on there. If we do not like
what happens, all we need to do is simply decide that we want to change it and it will transform in
response to our wishes. Yet, in "karmic dreams", especially those that are recurring nightmares, we are
not able to change the sequences of events no matter how hard we try. Just as the events in the past life
cannot be changed, neither can the replay of those events in the dream state be changed.
Those events will just replay again and again in dreaming life until they get our attention and cause us to
take action on them in waking life. Often recurring nightmares start out as recurring dreams and if
we had taken care of the recurring dream by exploring and healing it, then it would not have turned into
a nightmare. Nightmares are usually a last ditch effort to get the person to heal their life before the
problems manifest into "physical, waking reality" where they can be no longer denied.
3> PAST LIFE DREAMS HAVE A SEQUENCE OF EVENTS
One of the purposes of "regular" dreams is to give the individual a variety of experiences in the inner
worlds. Often this means that "dream events" happen rapidly and in a seemingly random, chaotic order.
This is designed to bypass our linear, logical minds which are barriers to our pure experience from the
source. Meaning that because our minds cannot keep up or make sense of what happens in the dream
state, they tend to stop filtering the "dream garbage" and let it flow through uninterrupted.
Yet, in "karmic dreams", our minds do register the logical sequence of events in our dreams but are
unable to alter them because they are replays of past events and not current creations of our egos.
The struggle that our minds undergo in the effort to "clean up karmic dreams" is often what brings them
to our attention. They tend to "stand out" relative to the normal stream of dreams that are usually
quickly forgotten. Since "karmic dreams" are designed to bring unhealed past life issues to the forefront
of our awareness, this is a good thing. This is quite essential if we have requested a change in the
circumstances of our present life that to happen require healing of "past life blocks".
4> PAST LIFE DREAMS ARE OUTSIDE OF OUR LEARNING
"Karmic dreams" especially attract our attention, if inside them, our "past life personality" displays
learning, talents, skills, and abilities that we have not acquired in our life now. In other words, in a
"karmic dream" we might have the ability to speak and understand a foreign language we do not know
now. Or, in dreams, we may understand complex medical procedures but, in waking life, we are not
trained as doctors. Or, in dreams, we may have detailed knowledge of the law but, in waking life, we are
not trained as attorneys. Or, in dreams, we have artistic talents that we lack in "real life".
One of the surest signs of a "karmic dream" is, once we have had one, we begin to spontaneously use
those dreamed talents in our waking lives. In fact, almost always, when we "just know how" to do
things we have never been formally taught we are "remembering" what we have already learned in
one or more past lives. If we have already studied and mastered a talent it is ours. If you wish to
consciously reconnect with previously learned skills, try the "Unleashing Past Life Talents" exercise.
5> PAST LIFE DREAMS ARE OUTSIDE OF OUR EXPERIENCE
Throughout our journey through the universe, we will be all things - saint and sinner, hero and villain,
good and evil - so that we can gain a complete understanding or life. Often, "karmic dreams" will try to
show us the past life "shadow side" of our present life selves. In other words, past lives where we
racked up "lots of bad karma". For example, if our house was recently robbed, we might have a "karmic
dream" showing us a past life where we "made our living" by thievery. Or if we are "powerless" now,
we might dream of past lives of abusing power which created our situation now.
For example, a very talented, energetic African American woman had found herself repeatedly drawn
into situations and relationships where others "put her down" and were constantly using "racial slurs"
against her. She wanted to know why this seemed to follow her no matter where she went. So one
night in a "karmic dream", she was shown a past life in the South where she had been a slave owner.
Although she had not been physically cruel to those slaves she "owned", she had been extremely
verbally abusive and now she was experiencing the other side of the coin in this lifetime.
6> PAST LIFE DREAMS CORRESPOND TO STRANGE BELIEFS & THOUGHTS
Strange beliefs and thoughts are very often carryovers of disempowering behavior patterns from
previous lives. "Karmic dreams" often work to reveal how past life tragedies have carried over and have
created our present day beliefs beliefs which may seem strange now but made "perfect sense" to us in
the past. There are many such belief systems which are quite recognizable in modern day life.
For example, the "I gotta live hard because I'm gonna die young" syndrome is a belief system carried
over from past lives cut short by unexpected illness or tragedy as a present day defense mechanism.
The "push it to the edge extreme risk taking" syndrome is also a belief system often carried over from
past lives as mercenaries who lived for the action packed thrills of a dangerous lifestyle that usually was
"short but sweet". The "I am just an abuse magnet" is a thoughtform carried over from past lives as a
battered spouse that only serves to attract abusive partners into the present lifetime.
7> PAST LIFE DREAMS EXPLAIN UNUSUAL BEHAVIORS & ATTITUDES
It is a maxim of psychology that "all behavior makes sense on the inside". So when the origins of
unusual behaviors or attitudes are sought, an explanation is usually traceable back to some childhood
experience. Yet if the answer is not to be found there, then the "psychological archeaology" needs to be
extended to look for the answer in one of more past lives. Often, the explanations for unusual behaviors
or attitudes in the present life are revealed by "karmic dreams" about past lives.
For example, I always have to sit along the aisle in a movie theatre (I simply cannot sit anywhere else
without experiencing extreme discomfort). This phobia resulted from one past life where I was burned
to death in a theatre. I died because I had been sitting in the center seat and could not get out in time.
My body "remembered" that trauma (burning to death is THE WORST way to go) and was protecting
me by making sure it would not happen again. Since this death was so painful, I was shown the origin
of this otherwise "inexplicable habit" inside a "karmic dream". This was a relief because, after I had the
dream, I could at least explain myself to my long suffering family!
8> PAST LIFE DREAMS CORRESPOND TO STRANGE HABITS & MANNERS
"Strange" habits and manners are those which are "out of place" or "out of character" considering how a
particular individual usually acts. Often the individual is able to recognize the inconsistency without
being able to explain to themselves or others why they always act as strangely as they do. And yet the
answer may be revealed to them inside a "karmic dream" from their past lives.
For example, a woman who otherwise liked to wear the most revealing clothes was always careful to
wear a scarf around her neck. She felt very nervous in taking it off no matter how uncomfortable and
hot it got. Then this woman had a "karmic dream" where she has been branded with a convict's mark
that had been burned into her flesh. With help from friends, she had escaped being hung but always had
to wear a scarf around her neck to hide her guilty secret. Later in that life, the convict's mark was
discovered on her and she was executed in a very painful manner. Once she had a "karmic dream" and
understood the origin of her need to wear scarves, she no longer had to wear them unless she decided
to do so and was choosing to wear scarves out of fashion and not fear.
9> PAST LIFE DREAMS SHOW ORIGINS OF PHYSICAL ISSUES
Birthmarks would be marks appearing on you as an infant - that were not caused during delivery - are
often indicative of past life wounds. Ian Stevenson, reincarnation researcher, notes that where "a
deceased person (past life) was identified and the details of whose (past) life unmistakably matched the
child's (present life) statements, a close correspondence was nearly always found between the
birthmarks on the (present) child and the wounds on the (past) deceased person."
How those birthmarks were created are often revealed inside "karmic dreams". For example, a woman
with a birthmark in the shape of a stylized letter dreamed about being branded as a slave. In the dream,
she saw the same stylized letter on the end of a branding iron before it was seared into her flesh in that
past life in the exact same spot where the present life birthmark was located.
10> PAST LIFE DREAMS SHOW ORIGINS OF EMOTIONAL ISSUES
The origins of highly charged sexual functioning (like sexual functioning) and the root causes of sexual
dysfunctions (like male impotence or female frigidity) are often deeply rooted in past lives.
Take this example of "karmic daydreaming" as recounted by a woman in Nancy Friday's book
"Forbidden Flowers". "I had slipped into my fantasy and actually became that slave girl I had fantasized
about It was as though I had been transported back across the ages to ancient Rome"
The woman goes onto recount how her past life fantasy became her present day reality when she was
briefly sexually "enslaved" for a period of time by strangers in the same manner she had always
dreamed about. Yet her abductors were not true strangers in the karmic sense: they were old "friends"
from a Roman past life returned to relive a highly pleasurable past life sexual encounter.
11> PAST LIFE DREAMS SHOW ORIGINS OF MENTAL ISSUES
Poverty or prosperity consciousness is usually deeply rooted in past lives. Money habits are often the
most persistent and hardest to change in any lifetime. That is because if you have a relationship with
nothing else in the physical world, you will have a relationship with money. Since money is everywhere
you want to be, past lives usually have strongly dominated your attitudes toward it. Worse, because you
might have died traumatically because of money or it's lack, disempowering attitudes toward it will
most likely require patient and persistent healing to "correct".
For example, a client who died in the Black Plague was a compulsive spender in this life because they
were continuing to live as if there were "no tomorrow". Before that past life block was cleared with the
help of a "karmic dream", their "eat, drink, and be merry" attitude ruined their credit in this life.
12> PAST LIFE DREAMS SHOW ORIGINS OF SPIRITUAL ISSUES
The weight of tragedies from many past lives can manifest in the present as the "everything is just fine
in my life so why is it that I just cant be happy?" syndrome. If nothing from your life now can account
for your present depression/anxiety, it may well be coming from the past. Often "karmic dreams" will
hold the clues to why, try as one might, a person just cannot be happy.
For example, for as long as one client could remember, they found themselves being periodically
overcome by bouts of uncontrollable weeping. There was no pattern to the weeping except one they
only cried when they were alone or when others would have no chance of discovering it. As the cycle
of crying got worse, the client prayed constantly to be shown the true source of their grief. Then one
night, the client had a "karmic dream" where they say themselves dying and leaving a much loved
spouse behind and they knew it was past life tears that they had been crying all along. And it was this
"karmic dream" that set them on a long path of healing this very traumatic lifetime.
Rules of the House 19: Smoke & Mirrors Top 10 Myths Against Past Life Exploration
(based on channeled information)
Ask any past life worker... there is a strong prejudice in society against past life exploration. These myths and
"urban legends" are hard wired into the human consciousness for a reason. The reason is that this Earth is a
giant schoolhouse and we are all here to learn lessons that we "got wrong" in past lives. All that really matters
is where we are now and what we are learning now. Being free from the knowledge of our past lives relieves us
from the baggage of our past mistakes as well as from "cheat codes" that could advance us more quickly.
1> "WHAT I DON'T KNOW CAN'T HURT ME"
This belief - "what I don't know can't hurt me" - is the single most powerful force that keeps an
individual riding along the "train tracks of karma". If one has chosen a path of heavy karmic atonement,
maybe the best strategy is to cover one's eyes, grit one's teeth, and hope for the best. Just like the person
who ignores the unexplainable lump in their body does not stop the cancer from growing, those ignoring
their karma do not stop it from working. In fact, the only thing that provides "relief" from karma is to
understand how it works, to confront and resolve the issues it raises, and to live going forward in
harmony with it. The terrible truth is the only thing that CAN hurt you is what you do not see coming
and what you take no steps to "prevent".
2> "THAT WAS IN THE PAST... IT IS NOT RELEVANT TO MY LIFE TODAY"
If the above statement keeps you riding along the train tracks of karma, this statement is the safety belt
that keeps you fastened firmly to your seat. For the most relevant thing to your life today is that past life
karma that you are presently working off. The hardest thing to accept about life is that you are totally
responsible for it - past, present, and future. As you have sown, so shall you reap. What you have done
to others, you have - are - will have done to you. That is the law of the universe. It is a law of perfect
justice and complete accountability. It is the only explanation of how a loving God could permit each of
His beloved children to be so vastly different in health, wealth, and happiness.
3> "IT WILL BE TOO SCARY -- I'M WAY TOO AFRAID TO LOOK"
The above statement was made by a person who had lived through the horror of the Nazi Holocaust.
This person had "lived" in a concentration camp for nearly four years when death put an end to that
lifetime of suffering. If they could endure the horror of that life living it 7 days a week 24 hours a day
for 1,400+ days, then hearing about snippets of it for an hour or so is surely mild by comparison. And
in fact, it is what is not known that is ALWAYS more frightening than what is (ask any master of the
horror film). Time after time, when the darkness of a past life is brought to light, the person involved
invariably remarks "that was not so bad" and feels instantly lighter. The truth is that you have already
done the hard part: you lived through it and came back to hear the tale.
4> "IT WILL DESTROY MY PERFECT PICTURE OF MYSELF"
Many times, the true fear associated with past life exploration is that it will "destroy the picture that I
have of myself now by making me think worse of myself". In fact, 99 times out of 100, when a person
looks back on themselves in past lives they instantly connect with the emotional reality of who they had
been. This invariably makes them feel better about themselves - not worse. For they learn about their
own power, about how they turned tragedy to triumph, about the special gifts they have inside just
waiting to be discovered. Yes, people do learn about "bad" lifetimes. For example, in a life as an
avenging, brutal medieval warlord, I did many "bad" things, killing some with little cause and inflicting
horrible suffering on many others. And yet, from that life, I developed unmatched resourcefulness,
strength, cleverness, and many other skills I have today while the mills of karma have ground the
"Death Knight" brutality out of me... and my self image is no worse for it.
5> "A CHANNELED PAST LIFE IS A STORY... THAT DOES NOT RELATE TO ME"
Often when someone makes a statement like this, it is because they fear that it's opposite is the truth. In
fact, a client, who first raised this as an objection to me, was stunned by the truths that were revealed to
them about their life now that originated in a past life. More often, I hear things like "so it looks like I
have been growing herbs for centuries now" (in a past life, this person had been a nun who grew herbs
for her convent). Or "how did you know that I love to go around barefoot - you're scaring me!" (in a
past life, this person had been a shoeless gypsy). Or "how did you know that I cannot stand to wear
anything around my neck" (in a past life, this person was strangled to death). The truth of our past
always emerges in ways that cannot be denied.... always.
6> "IT'S AGAINST MY RELIGION TO BELIEVE IN PAST LIVES"
I have respect for all religious paths... for in my stream of past incarnations, I have experienced all of
the major religions of the Earth. In fact, almost all paths recognize the validity of the concepts of karma
and reincarnation (see the Quotes section of this website for proof of this). The scripture of most
religions always contains the seeds of these truths. Often, the seeds of reincarnation and karma have
been systematically ripped out by the various interpreters of religions in an effort to promote the
organization of the church at the expense of the original teachings. Ultimately, it comes down to you
and your experience... for experience teaches you what is true and what is false. If you are healed by
past life work, if your life is made better by it, does it matter what religion says? Consider that religion
is supposed to be about helping you... where it fails you, is it worth it? Only you can decide!
7> "I JUST DON'T BELIEVE IN PAST LIVES - PERIOD!"
That's fine. Two centuries ago, people did not believe in germs ("how could something that is so much
smaller than me that I cannot even see hurt me?") and went right on dying from diseases caused by
lethal germs. It is not my job to convince you one way or the other. Again, it comes down to you and
your experience. People can be - and have been - healed by past lives without totally believing in them
(see the Testimonials on this site for how past life healing works).
8> "THERE IS NO PROOF THAT ANYONE EVER LIVED BEFORE... I NEED PROOF!"
One of the benefits of "our fast moving computer age" is that evidence proving the case for
reincarnation is piling up all the time. Consult "Rules #17: Evidence of Past Lives in Everyday Life"
and "Rules #18: Evidence for the Continuation of Life After Death" for full details.
9> "MY PAST LIFE KARMA IS SO BURDENSOME... WHY BOTHER TRYING TO FIX IT?"
This is the same type of thinking as "you are just going to get dirty everyday so why bother taking a
bath?" The sad truth is that some people just love to wallow in the mud of their own problems. Yet that
is how the wheel of karma works: people like this will just come back again and again and again until
they are "sick and tired of being sick and tired". Sometimes people who believe too much in past lives
are the least motivated to do something about them. They go around whining "It's my karma". My
answer is "as long as you have that attitude, it will be!"
10> "I AM TOTALLY FREE OF MY PAST LIVES AND BEYOND KARMA"
If you are on the Earth, you are not free of karma EVER. Perhaps that karma has transmuted into
dharma (the way of service) but you are still bound by the laws of karma. Even if you are Christ or
Buddha or an ascended master, if you are here, you have something to work out that originated in past
lives. Even if that something is to refine your skills, you are doing so while on the path of karma.
Beware the person who claims to be free of karma "for they know not what they do!"
Rules of the House #38: "Empiricism vs Stubbornness": Debunking the Reincarnation Debunkers
"We seem to have here (with reincarnation) one of those problems wherein people readily agree on what it
would take to establish something they very much do not want to believe - and then when, contrary to anyone's
expectations, the evidence actually emerges strongly supportive of the belief, they return (for no persuasive
reason) to add more conditions to what it would take to establish what they very much do not want to accept.
And they continue to do so until it is virtually impossible that any such evidence should ever emerge."
- Robert Almeder, Department of Philosophy, GSU
"There is a fine line, Doctor, between stubbornness and empiricism." - Spock to McCoy ("Star Trek Classic")
When it comes to reincarnation, people can quite stubbornly ignore the growing body of empirical evidence
supporting the reality of reincarnation. There is a simple reason for this: when an individual accepts the facts of
reincarnation and karma, they must accept full and complete responsibility for their life. Yet it is much easier to
believe that karma falls down on us like rain for then "no one is at fault". In fact, it is one of the jobs of the ego
to convince us that "the fault lies in our stars and not in ourselves" (Shakespeare).
It is interesting that the reincarnation debunkers rarely address the strongest proofs of the evidence of past lives.
They tend to dismiss dj vu experiences as daydreams even though recorded cases continue to be verified by
subsequent discovery of little known, impossible to fake details. Or they say that spontaneous memories in
children must be coached by parents. Or they say xenoglossy is random noise that just happens to emulate long,
extinct languages known only to a few research scholars. They offer no explanations for the origins of child
prodigies, idiot savants, OCD, etc which are easily explainable in the context of past lives. Here are the "best"
of the cases against reincarnation. Watch as we "debunk the debunkers".
1> CON ARTISTS: WILLFUL & INTENTIONAL FRAUD
Like any other branch of healing, past life therapy will attract it's share of con artists who willfully,
intentionally, and, at times, fraudulently distort the truth to bolster the case for reincarnation. When
these "frauds" are exposed, the debunkers want to "throw the baby out with the bath water" through a
wholesale condemnation of past life healing. And, yet like chiropractic, aromatherapy, herbal healing,
to name a few, past life healing has survived it's critics because there are simply too many cases where it
has alleviated otherwise intractable present life problems "unsolvable" by modern medicine. When
someone is hurting, all they care about is ending their pain. If the problem does originate in the past
then it will not go away until it is healed at it's source. Just as we live with the wounds of our
childhood, we live with the wounds of our past lives. The only difference is in the present we can see
the linkage between the cause of the wound and it's effect: in past lives we cannot.
2> FANTASIZING: DAYDREAMS & DELUSIONS OF GRANDEUR
Critics claim that past life therapy succeeds because it feeds the ego of it's clientele by telling them that,
in a past life, they had been someone famous. And yet there was only one Caesar, only one Cleopatra:
only one of each person who had lives well documented by history (otherwise known as "historical
personalities"). They ignore that fact that past life work reveals that only a handful of people have had
historical personalities with the vast majority having led "ordinary past lives". And they do not account
for the usual reactions of people with historical personalities. Often the person cannot believe it is true
because their life is not "as large" now. Or the person often has attitudes about their prior selves
because these past personalities hold up a mirror of what is "worst" about themselves and not just what
is "best". Of course, that is not to say that people do not daydream or fantasize about themselves in past
lives: they do. Those who have such "delusions of grandeur" are no different than those who always
imagine themselves to be sick. People will be people after all.
3> PARAMNESIA: EMBELLISHING TRUTH WITH FICTION
Close cousins to the con artists and fantasizers are the paramnesiacs are those who get glimpses into
their past lives on their own or via regression and choose to embellish on the remembered details
through subsequent research. Like old war stories, the past lives become richer in detail and scope with
each retelling of the tale. Paramnesiacs are the first to throw the truth out the window when it
"conflicts" with the documented "facts". And yet one of the strongest proofs of the validity of past life
memories is the later verification of remembered past life details that at first somehow conflicted with
published historical opinion. As every scholar of history knows, what is published as history is only the
current "thinking" about the past as skewed by interpretations made where facts are lacking and as
filtered through the prejudices, values, and beliefs of the society writing the history. Of course, critics
usually ignore the cases where reincarnation fact precedes published, historical fact.
4> CRYPTOMNESIA: UNCONSCIOUS "FORGOTTEN" INFLUENCES
Crytomnesiacs are the "unintentional" kind of paramnesiac. They claim to have lived past lives that
bear a striking resemblance to the plots of well known books or movies. This is because they have
unconsciously absorbed the information, forgotten where it came from, and then "remembered" it
claiming it to be their own past life memory. If it is cryptomnesia, when the person is confronted with
the "facts", the "memories" will disappear. Of course, those critics who use cryptomnesia as the reason
to reject all past life memories fail to explain why they exist in individuals who cannot read or have had
no exposure to books or movies, like very young children and those in "illiterate" cultures.
5> CHANNELING DISCARNATES: "GHOSTS OF THE PAST"
Known as the Swedenborg argument, those who do not deny the existence of past life memories claim
that "memories of what is now called 'past lives' are the simply memories of those who have gone
before us." Swedenborg believed that the "past life was lived, but not by the person claiming more than
one life." In essence, he believed that each person only had one life and that memories seeming to be
from past lives would actually memories from discarnates (dead people). Of course, followers of
Swedenborg cannot explain the tangible therapeutic results achieved by past life healing. For if past life
memories are unrelated to the person experiencing them, then there should be no therapeutic result from
past life healing and yet the results are "scientifically" well documented.
6> CHANNELING ENTITIES: "ATTACHED ENERGIES / ENTITIES"
From time to time, individuals will connect with past life memories that are not their own but are part of
the soul history of another discarnate being. This happens because the individuals involved have agreed
to co-create the resolution of that past lifetime. For those who believe that all past life memories are just
those that are induced by "attached entities", there are several ways to tell the difference between the
two (see the "Unique Qualities of Past Life Memories"). Again, the final resolution of the discarnate's
past life issues do not heal the past lives of the living being. The main impact on the living is to have
finally put the "unquiet dead" spirit to rest, not to heal past lives.
7> MINORITY BELIEF SYSTEM: "KARMIC URBAN LEGENDS"
These critics will tell you that "reincarnation is incompatible with many well established facts such as
population increases, the recency of life in the universe, and the transformation of species." Of course,
such "facts" are in the eye of the beholder. The increased frequency of reincarnation and the decreased
time between incarnations can explain "population increases". Life is not so recent in the universe as to
preclude the possibility of many past lives. Finally, learning through the cycle of many lives is what the
"transformation of the species" is all about. For it is impossible to experience life from every angle and
viewpoint in one life spent enmeshed in a single angle and a limited viewpoint.
8> MASS CONSCIOUSNESS BELIEF SYSTEM: "OPIATE OF THE MASSES"
Critics argue that reincarnation is just another 'belief' we have created in the 'mass consciousness'. Since
reincarnation is no more than a 'belief', information gotten in past life therapy is not actually a memory
of past lives but simply a means of getting information needed for healing from the mass consciousness.
Yet those who believe this cannot explain why each individual gets different "past life information from
the mass consciousness" precisely mirroring their own present day issues. Karma explains this for as
each person sows so do they reap. The "rap" on karma is that it is "the opiate of the masses" as in "it's
OK to screw up because you will just come back, so why bother?" We bother to avoid the karma of
reincarnating into painful future lives we have created by just such attitudes.
9> SHARED MEMORIES: FROM THE COLLECTIVE UNCONSCIOUS
Other critics of reincarnation believe that it is not a consciously created belief system so much as it is
one prevalent in the "collective unconscious". Although there are many definitions of the "collective
unconscious", for this purpose, it means that because we are all connected at the level of Soul, there is
no such thing as "individual experience". If there is no individual experience, critics say that there can
be no such thing as karma where a "single Soul" goes through cycles of reincarnation. Instead, we all
have "shared memories" which appear to us as being our individual past lives. Yet like the
"Swedenborg" argument, shared memories cannot explain why past life healing achieves results.
10> INHERITED MEMORIES: FROM ANCESTORS, CELLS, & OTHERS
Inherited memories work like shared memories except that the "past life memories" are passed on
through genetics via the cellular memory inherited from biologically related ancestors. If that were true,
past life memories should always be coming from earlier generations of the same family. While this
does happen occasionally, it does not do so with the frequency needed to justify that belief that all past
life memories are inherited. Edgar Cayce said it best: "Family is but a river through which Soul flows".
Time and again, past life work shows that people owe more to who they were in past lives than to either
the heredity or the environment of the family unit of their current incarnation.
11> INDUCED MEMORIES: FROM HYPNOTIC SUGGESTION
Many critics conclude that past life memories are just the activity of a hyper-active and/or deluded mind
that randomly selects common events and calls them past lives. There are many documentaries of
hypnotists demonstrating how they can "induce reincarnation memories" by telling their subjects that
they had a past life as "y" at "x" time. In looking closer, "induced" or "suggested" memories all have
one thing in common: they lack the depth and detail common to past life memories. Those being
induced will respond to questions asked in a tentative, hesitant way and are clearly "making it up as they
go along". This is not so with past life memories: often in regressions and channelings, the subject will
be astounded at how quickly the details have unfolded. They will be surprised by their emotional
reactions to a "past life tale" and to the parallels between the past and present.
12> IMPLANTED MEMORIES: THE GREATEST ILLUSION OF ALL
Since all time is now, healing can flow both backward and forward through time. Critics use this fact to
argue that there is no such thing as past lives because past life memories have just been implanted in us
by the creative force. If that is true, then past memories from the present life could have been implanted
as well making them just as unreal as past life memories. Yet, no one doubts the reality of their present
life memories. Just as no one, who has connected with the reality of past life memories and has been
healed by them, doubts their reality either. The greatest illusion of all is we are not the creators of our
life and that we are not fully at cause for the consequences of all our actions. For healing only really
begins when we can dispel this illusion and take total responsibility for our lives.
Rules of the House #1: For Spiritual Beings Having a Human Experience
(adapted from "Rules for Being Human" by Anonymous)
Attention recruits, listen up, because here are the Rules for Being Human and I will not be repeating them:
1> YOU WILL RECEIVE A BODY
Listen up, recruit: your body is your vehicle for exploring this Earth. You are only issued one for each
lifetime. You may love your body or hate it, but it will be yours for the entire time you are here this
time around. Your body is operated by your mind and they have their own set of rules.
2> YOU WILL RECEIVE A MIND
Listen up, recruit: your mind is your vehicle for understanding this Earth. You are only issued one for
each lifetime. Your mind will try to be your master but it is supposed to be your servant. So, recruit,
master your mind by controlling your thoughts for these create your life obstacle course.
3> YOU WILL LEARN LESSONS
Congratulations, you have now entered the boot camp called Earth. Your mission whether you decide
to accept it or not is to get through Basic Training and advance as far in the ranks as you can. Each
day you are in this boot camp, recruit, you will learn lessons. You may like the lessons or hate them.
You may get along with the drill instructors or spend all your time on report. You may think the lessons
are stupid, useless, pointless, trivial but you signed on. So suck it up, recruit!
4> SPIRIT WILL DRIVE YOUR BODY AND MIND BY EMOTIONS AND ILLNESS
Thats right, recruit. There is no way that you can avoid the obstacle course. Your commanding officer,
your Spirit, has laid booby traps hidden all along the obstacle course. You might know them better as
"emotions" (energy in motion) and "illness" (body and mind diseases and disorders).
5> THERE ARE NO MISTAKES: ONLY LESSONS AND EXPERIENCE
You will screw up your training, recruit. Nobody gets it right the first time. Just keep at it. You will
learn as much from your "snafus" as from your successes. All obstacles will eventually be overcome.
6> A LESSON FAILED IS REPEATED AGAIN AND AGAIN UNTIL LEARNED
Our drill instructors here on Earth will show you no mercy. You will repeat your lessons again and
again in various forms until you have learned them. Our drill instructors are tough but they are fair.
7> LEARNING LESSONS NEVER ENDS NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU LEARN
Face it, recruit. You will move onto tougher and tougher lesson and instructors. This is not a drill!
8> WHERE YOU ARE IS PERFECT: "THERE" IS NO BETTER THAN "HERE"
Our drill instructors have been through the program too. They have heard every excuse and know every
dodge. Right now, they have put you where you need to be: even if it is cleaning latrines!
9> YOUR RELATIONSHIPS WITH OTHERS ARE MERELY MIRRORS OF YOURSELF
What you love or hate about your officers and drill instructors is really what you love or hate about
yourself. Heres a tip, recruit: try loving yourself more and you will avoid lots of booby traps!
10> WHAT YOU MAKE OF YOUR LIFE IS TOTALLY UP TO YOU
We have issued you all the gear you will need for this boot camp. What you do with it is up to you.
11> ALL YOUR ANSWERS LIE WITHIN YOU
Your officers and drill instructors are here to help you (really!). No "trivial" requests please.
12> YOU HAVE AGREED BEFORE YOU CAME HERE TO FORGET ALL THIS
You signed the paperwork before you came- you agreed to everything. So suck it up, really hard!
Rules of the House #2: How Your Body-Mind-Spirit Works
IF YOU TRULY WANT TO HEAL TAKE A FEW MINUTES TO SAVE YOUR LIFE...
Here is what everyone needs to know about their own bodies, minds, and spirits. Now I know that you
have a hundred things to do and a thousand things to think about. Just starting to remember all those things as
you are reading this right now is probably making your mind spin and your heart pound. Its no wonder - we are
working ourselves harder now than at almost any time before in human history.
We may be working ourselves to the bone and busily rushing from place to place but... we usually fail to
really take care of ourselves in the process. Instead we rely on labor saving devices to keep us from
moving our bodies, from challenging our minds, and from connecting with our spiritual natures.
Because we are not moving, breathing, or living as much as we were meant to... our bodies and minds
become full of illnesses and problems that get worse until we are forced to pay attention.
So how can you and your body-mind-spirit live together in peace? Before this question can be answered, we
must take a step back. First you need to understand what the primary job functions of your beingness (the
complex known as your body-mind-spirit) really are.
Your body-mind-spirit's prime directive - it's first job - is to keep itself safe and protected. So if you -
by what you eat, how you sleep, and what you do - are compromising it by endangering it's health, your
body-mind-spirit eventually strikes back with illnesses and problems.
Your body-mind-spirit's second job is to keep your feet firmly planted on the path of what it is you
agreed to do when you came into this lifetime. Particularly when you have attained great spiritual
advancement, your body-mind-spirit often behaves as if it has a will of it's own. Worse, as you age your
body-mind-spirit acquires greater freedom to get you to notice it.
Your body-mind-spirit's third - and least important job - is to do what you want it and tell it to do.
For example, you tell your body all the time that you want to lose weight and yet the rubber tire will not
come off your middle. Either the excess weight is keeping you safe and protected (first job) or it is
helping you to learn lessons that you have agreed to learn (second job). Adequately address the safety
issues and the life lessons and the pounds will melt away.
So what do you need to do for your body-mind-spirit so that you can get on with your life in the real
world? The good news is that honoring your body-mind does not take massive amounts of time or energy.
Achieving and maintaining a state of "wellness" is all about fully developing each dimension of body, mind, and
spirit and finding an overall balance between them. To do this, all you have to do is keep making small
adjustments to get and keep yourself on the right track. You will be surprised at how quickly these small
adjustments add up to improved levels of energy and "wellness".
So here are the three simple rules:
1> For your body, move and breathe. Breathe deeply. Drink lots of water. Take the stairs instead of
the elevator. Walk short distances instead of driving. Ask a friend to join you in a daily walk.
2> For your mind, learn and think. Watch a news magazine instead of mindless sitcoms. Read a
book. Join a discussion group. Take a fun class and learn something new. Think, think, think!
3> For your spirit, love and enjoy. Take 15 minutes a day to do something fun, something you truly
enjoy. Do some relaxing deep breaths or some quiet meditation. Allow yourself to say "No" more
often. Honor your feelings. Laugh. Smile. Find a reason to be happy.
So what else can you give yourself today? 12 things...
The act of giving is transformational. It creates energy: it changes those who get and those who give.
1> Give yourself credit. Nobody can know how hard you work. Take a minute to tell yourself that you
handled something well.
2> Give yourself freedom to change. Do something different. Break out of your old stale routine. Try
something new just for the sake of it.
3> Give yourself permission to say "No". If you continually ignore your own needs to take care of other
people, you risk becoming angry and depressed. Remember that "no" can mean "not now" or "no and
that's final!".
4> Give yourself health and happiness. The more patience, passion, and energy you have, the more it rubs off
on others.
5> Give yourself a break. Do not be so hard on yourself. On tough days, adjust your expectations. Ask for
help (which gives others a chance to feel needed).
6> Give yourself simplicity. Even the simplest act of giving to yourself or others can make a difference. So
start small but do it - now!
7> Give your full attention. Whatever you are doing, throw yourself into it. You will enjoy it more.
8> Give yourself encouragement. Life can be hard at times. We do not always get the support we need from
others. Sometimes we need to give it to ourselves.
9> Give yourself time. To be alone. To be quiet. To think or listen. To commune with yourself. To do
something you really want to do.
10> Give yourself sacred space. No one has the right to drain you of energy, money, or happiness. Allow only
those who can respect and honor your sacred space into it.
11> Give forgiveness to yourself and others. By forgiving - whether it is yourself or someone else - you are
letting go of an uncomfortable burden you have been carrying around.
12> Give for the sake of giving. When we give on purpose, with purpose, all kinds of powerful, positive things
can happen. Manifest a miracle in your life.
Remember, when you give, the one who gets the most is you!
Honor the emotions, body, mind, and spirit that give you life because the
life you are saving just may be your own.
SO IF YOU TRULY WANT TO HEAL
EVERY DAY TAKE A FEW MINUTES TO SAVE YOUR LIFE...
Honor the emotions, body, mind, and spirit that give you life because the
life you are saving just may be your own.
Rules of the House #6: Hallmarks of the Spiritually Advanced Being
These rules were developed in the response to a seemingly easy question posed by a client. This person asked
"What are the signs that a person is spiritually advanced? " I, of course, replied, "Its obvious". To which the
person said, "OK, what are they?" I was at a loss for a quick answer. It turned out that it was not so very
obvious after all. After much research, deep reflection, and a "little help from my friends", I have come up with
a list of "hallmarks" of the spiritually advanced being (for "when you care very much to be the best").
1> LOVE The Spiritually Advanced are models of unconditional LOVE
In the words of the Bible ("New Testament 1Corinthians 13"), "love is always patient and kind. Love
knows neither envy nor jealousy. Love is not proud or conceited. Love does not behave unbecomingly, nor
seek to glorify herself, nor blaze out in passionate anger, nor brood over wrongs. Love finds no pleasure in
injustice done to others, but joyfully sides with the truth. She knows how to be silent. She is full of trust,
full of hope, full of patient endurance. Love never fails". To this, I would only add that that spiritually
advanced are also full of forgiveness, tolerance, and compassion for all living things.
2> JOY The Spiritually Advanced find JOY in every moment
The English mystic, anchoress Julian of Norwich said (in "Showings") that "to experience well being is to
be touched and illumined by grace with true certainty of endless joy". For "we are preserved in love by the
goodness of God just as truly in woe as in well being". Joyful people are dreaming their life and living
their dream. That is the well spring of their peace and contentment. The joyful find delight in everything
because they are spontaneous and totally open to the beauty of each moment. Truly joyful people
invariably have a great sense of humor. This joyousness keeps them endlessly healed and happy.
3> TRUTH The Spiritually Advanced are seekers after TRUTH
In the writings of ECK ("A Cosmic Sea of Words"), truth is "the essence, Spirit, Soul, and life of
everything that exists, itself unchangeable and immortal, an unlimited ocean of love and wisdom". The
only true advancement is any area of life is built on a foundation of unshakable honesty and personal
integrity. The journey of life is all about developing the capacity for discernment: learning what works and
what does not by personal experience. In this sense, there is no good or evil, all is education as we all make
the long journey back home to our Source: God, the endless Ocean of Love and Mercy.
4> COURAGE The Spiritually Advanced have the strength that comes from COURAGE
Aristotle said (in "On the Soul") that "courage is the first among human qualities because it guarantees the
others". Courage is the fuel that gives us strength to make our journey throughout life. If you ever feel that
you are lacking in courage, know that coming to Earth to have a spiritual experience was in and of itself an
enormous act of bravery. Life is truly an adventure: although when one is cleaning the toilets or doing
other mundane tasks, it seems much like a job rather than the "Soul Play " it was meant to be.
5> TRUST The Spiritually Advanced have the capacity to TRUST unconditionally
Martin Luther said (in "On Creation") that everyday "I trust that God will abundantly provide everything I
need to nourish this body and life. He protects me against all danger, shields and defends me from all evil.
He does all this because of His pure, fatherly, divine goodness and mercy". Trust comes from the
willingness to surrender attachment to persons, things, or outcomes: "letting go, letting God". Faith is the
ultimate expression of the trust that "all things work together for the good for those that love God".
6> PURPOSE The Spiritually Advanced are daily living their PURPOSE in life
When Buddha (Siddhartha Gautama) "resolved to accomplish his purpose" in life, he got the following
advice from a master (in "Bodhisattvas Renunciation"). "Persevere in thy quest and thou shalt find what
thou seekest. Pursue thy aim unswervingly and thou shalt gain the victory. Struggle earnestly and thou
shalt triumph". Obedience to their lifes purpose is what allows joyous transformation to uplift the lives of
the spiritually advanced. Purpose becomes the source and foundation of all their inspiration ("the Holy
Spirit working in a human Soul") and enthusiasm ("the passion of the God Within").
7> ABUNDANCE The Spiritually Advanced live inside the universal ABUNDANCE channel
In the words of the Koran ("Chapter of Abraham"), it was God who "created the heavens and the earth; and
sent down from the sky, water, and brought forth therewith fruits, as a provision for you; and brought you
of everything ye asked Him". God created all this for you to use it because he wants you to become all that
you can be. The spiritually advanced understand that abundance is the means for them to become fully
realized beings. Abundance gives them the freedom to become more of who they are, the power to create
their lives, and the glory to do Gods work for as long as they are on this Earth.
8> CLARITY The Spiritually Advanced are CLEAR channels for God
Confucius said (in "Analects") that "The wise are free from perplexities; the virtuous from anxiety; and the
bold from fear." That is because the consciousness of the spiritually advanced is pure and clear. This
clarity manifests in their awareness as correct understanding of divine guidance, as clear perception of
intuition, as accurate communication, as pure unconditional love, as moral expression of will, as ethical use
of power, and as responsible citizenship in the universe. Those who are clear have a proper sense of
humility: valuing their uniqueness while recognizing their oneness as a coworker with God.
9> SIMPLICITY The Spiritually Advanced allow their lives to unfold in SIMPLICITY
Lao-Tse said (in the "Tao Te Ch'ing") that "Simplicity is without a name, is free from all external aim: with
no desire, at rest and still, all things go right as of their own will". When anything happens with seemingly
"effortless effort", the spiritually advanced recognize that "it was meant to be". They are able to see the
single golden thread running through the most complex issues. They pull on this golden thread and even
the most difficult problems are efficiently resolved. They manage to simplify their life because they can
see the beauty in lifes lessons and they have the grace needed to learn them easily.
10> GENTLENESS- The Spiritually Advanced act with unfailing GENTLENESS
In the words of the Bhagavad-Gita (in "Manifesting of the One and Manifold"), "I praise, and serve, and
seek Thee, asking grace: as father to a son, as friend to friend, as one who loves to his lover, turn Thy face
in gentleness on me!" Gentleness does not mean weakness: it does means allowing other people to be who
they are, what they are, and where they are with complete reverence and respect. For on our journey home
we have been or will be all things. So the spiritually advanced cease to cherish opinions or to take sides,
and instead recognize that we are all one, all Divine sparks of God on our journey home.
11> GRATITUDE The Spiritually Advanced always have the attitude of GRATITUDE
Oriah Mountain Dreamer, Native American Elder, said "I want to know if you can live with failure and still
stand on the edge of a lake and shout to the silver of a full moon YES, I am grateful for this gift!". The
attitude of gratitude puts the spiritually advanced into a constant state of expectancy and hope. This state of
simple gratitude unleashes the awesome, unlimited forces of universal manifestation into their reality. This
brings the spiritually advanced into greater states of harmony as they realize that problems come to them
bearing gifts in their hands and that each failure brings them one step closer to success.
12> BALANCE The Spiritually Advanced achieve and maintain BALANCE in living
In the words of the Bible ("Old Testament Ecclesiastes 3:1") "To every thing there is a season, and a time to
every purpose under the heaven". The spiritually advanced trust in the process and flow of life and have
learned how to operate successfully within its cycles. They are centered and whole. They are responsible
enough work when it is time to work. They are open enough to play when it is time to play. They honor
themselves enough to rest when it is time to rest. They temper discipline with flexibility: always finding
the time and the space for everything and everyone that is important to them in life.
I invite anyone who reads this list to challenge it by improving upon it. The universe is in a constant state of
unfolding creation and we all have our part to play. It just becomes easier to play our part when we know what
the best parts are and how to play them. I hope this will be of use to you on your journey home.
Rules of the House #34: Hallmarks of the Spiritually Lazy
A wise person once said "the world is actually 80% full of people who are basically decent and honest
otherwise, it could not function properly." So the challenge of human relations becomes not to discern the 20%
who are obvious problems (robbers, rapists, etc) but to discern problem behavior patterns in the decent 80%.
Most of these patterns stem from the central problem of human existence: spiritual laziness.
Human laziness has both spiritual and biological causes. The spiritual cause is the distant memory of when we
all were one in the blissful, unmanifested mass consciousness of the universe. This was before we all were
dumped into the worlds of karma - which forced us to take action - and reincarnation - which forces us to come
back until we can act with total responsibility from the place of unconditional love. The biological cause is the
tendency to seize upon opportunities for rest whenever they present themselves. For most of human history, this
was absolutely necessary for survival because the universe was a stressful, hostile place.
Now that the universe is a bit friendlier, the line between necessary rest and "unnecessary" laziness has gotten
finer. Nevertheless, it is useful to understand how laziness manifests. For if you recognize such patterns in
others, you can save time by speeding up the decision to discontinue relationships that no longer serve you. And
if you recognize such patterns in yourself, you can decide to change them and move into much more
empowering ways of life. Or if you are bored, stop reading now because your life is what you have made it.
1> NEVER HAVING ANY TIME, ALWAYS TOO BUSY SOMEHOW
How a person spends their time always reveals the most about their character. Those who are in lazy
mode have infinite time to spend on themselves and none to spend on others. Of course, they will tell
you "we'll get together but I don't when but we'll have a good time then" Just like they will set a time
to do something for you and, at the last minute, something always comes up. Or they will be honest and
actually tell you that "something better has come along, it's really important, I just can't pass it up I
will make it up to you" next week, next year, sometime, never. The gift of attention is the most precious
gift that anyone can give and that anyone can receive. When someone is not consistently honoring the
gift of your attention, it is up to you to decide to stop giving it.
2> NEVER HAVING ANY MONEY, ALWAYS NEEDING FREEBIES
How a person spends their money is closely related to how a person spends their time. Those who are
in lazy mode invariably "want something for nothing" and often end up wondering why it is that they
have manifested "lack" instead of "abundance" in their life. If I had a dime for every time someone has
told me, "well, I would love to get a healing from you but I don't have the money", I would be a rich
woman. Like many other healers, I am willing to work with those who are serious about their healing
regardless of their ability to pay. Unlike others, I insist that the person honor the energy I am giving
them by giving me something in return. Invariably, this involves the investment of time on their part.
The lazy ones - even those who are on disability and have infinite time to surf the Web and write
volumes about their problems - are the first who cannot spare a moment to help me by signing my
guestbook, providing content for the site, or sharing their feedback. It's their loss.
3> NEVER ABLE TO PUT "MONEY WHERE THEIR MOUTH IS"
The simple truth is that money is never a barrier to getting what one wants. Often, the real problem is
the willingness of those who are lazy to "put their money where their mouth is". There are those out
there who complain about their terrible problems. They say "if only you could tell me in one sentence
or less what my problems are and what I need to do". And when I reply, "I will be happy to do so for $5
or $10", the lazy complain it is too much. To those who spend as much on skin care, I say "what is
more important: a pretty face or a soul at peace?" It's all a matter of one's priorities.
4> ALWAYS EXPECTING TEN THINGS, "MAYBE" RETURNING ONE
Chief among a person's priorities is how they act about giving and taking. People always know who are
the "givers" and who are the "takers". The lazy tend to be in the "taker" category and to go to the most
extraordinary lengths to keep from having to give. They are the first to have their hand outstretched
when anything is offered and are very energetic about why they should receive it first. Not that it is bad
to take: indeed, the universe is a circle of energy. And one cannot give unless one receives. To receive
one must be willing to take. However, when a person is always taking and always promising to return
the favor and it rarely if every happens, this is the sign of spiritual laziness. This is why welfare is so
insidious because it promotes and encourages spiritual laziness. For it makes people believe that it is
"their right" to take and helps them to forget that it is an honor and a privilege they enjoy as a member
of civilized society. For those who are not in true need due to illness or handicaps, there is no reason
they should not work except laziness.
5> NEVER ABLE TO GIVE SINCERE & HEARTFELT THANKS
Shakespeare said it best: "the smallest act of kindness is worthy of thanks" (Taming of the Shrew). Not
being able to say thank you is the calling card of the spiritually lazy. Similarly, when the words "Thank
you" are spoken mechanically with no real sincerity, it is another sign of the laziness at work. It is truly
amazing how those two little words open up the doors to the universe. All it costs is a bit of thought
but for the lazy, everything that does not serve their purposes is "too much effort". So we invite you to
take the "Laziness Challenge" right now. If you have read this far, prove to yourself that you are not
among the legions of the lazy by taking a moment to sign our guestbook. The rest of the information on
spiritual laziness will be waiting for you upon your return. I think you will agree that not many websites
offer the wealth of information that this one does. If it has helped you at all, we would like to know it.
Show that you care. Everyone likes to be thanked for their help. And we are no different than anyone
else in that respect so we thank YOU for your courtesy!
6> ALWAYS FULL OF ILL CONCEIVED, "HALF BAKED" SCHEMES
Even when the lazy "truly want something", it is often "way too hard" to put serious thought into
manifesting their desires. Of course, they have infinite energy to talk in vague terms about "what they
could do", "what they should do", and "what they will do someday". Yet they seldom speak of "what
they can do today", "what they will do tomorrow" or "how in six months from now their plan of action
will pay off". Everyone who truly listens can discerns the "holes" in this lazy thinking. Of course, the
worst thing one can do is to point out the flaws to the lazy. For they will take that as an invitation for
you to take the actions you recommend. While the truth that the lazy do not want to hear is "ask not
what others can do for you ask what you can do for yourself". "Wishing and hoping" will only get
anyone so far. So manifest your dreams or half bake schemes: it's your choice!
7> WHERE TALK IS GOOD, ACTION IS ALWAYS LACKING
Of course, not all laziness is created equally. There are those among the lazy who put the most deep and
careful thought into manifesting their dreams. In fact, their thought is so deep and so careful that it just
goes on forever and never ends. Although nothing can happen without thought, in the physical world,
nothing can manifest into reality without action. Often those who do the best are those who just jump
into the deep end of the ocean of action and either sink or swim. Many times these people are just
running with the carefully laid plans conceived by the lazy. I cannot count the number of times I have
heard: "Well, I had that idea X years ago. I knew it would work. If only person Y had not screwed me
out it I was really ripped off I should sue those no good !@#$" While the simple truth is the lazy
have no one but themselves to blame. The universe waits for no one and will always find others not
lazy who will do it's work. So if you are not willing to do the work, then stop "ragging on" those who
do and, above all, get out of their way!
8> BEING FULL OF PROMISES WHERE ACTION IS LACKING
Common wisdom says the "road to hell is paved with good intentions" and it's true. Promises made but
never kept are the bricks of good intentions that pave the road. It is a principle of energy that every
word you speak is a command to the universe. Those who have difficulty in manifesting their desires
are those who routinely send the energy of empty promises out into the universe. In other words, those
who are unable to keep the sacred promises they make to others drain the power of the universe to help
them. This is because lazy promisers fill the space around them with the "negative energy" of karmic
reactions instead of with the "positive energy" of manifestation and creation. The lazy must learn to
honor the sacredness of their word from which all good things must flow.
9> BEING FULL OF EXCUSES WHERE ACTION IS LACKING
The Latin word "excuse" when translated means "I am not at cause". Well if the lazy in fact have had a
plan and have failed to take action on it, who is at cause but themselves? It never fails to amaze me that
how much energy the lazy will invest into making excuses for themselves. It is either "this person
screwed me" or "if only that person kept their promise" and so on. If only the lazy put their creative
genius in manifesting their desires than in excusing the failure to do so, they might get what it is that
they want from life. Again, excuses, like empty promises fill the space around the lazy with the energy
of karmic reactions instead of with the energy of manifestation and creation.
10> ALWAYS PUSHING EVERYONE ELSE TO THE LIMIT
The lazy survive through their ability to push everyone else around them to the limit. For what others
are willing to do for the lazy becomes what the lazy no longer have to do for themselves. Notice the
lazy almost never push those around them too far because that would be jeopardizing those who are
essential in supporting them in their lifestyle of laziness. So the lazy push others just to their limit but
never beyond it. And this then becomes the means of turning the tide back against the lazy. Do less and
that will force the lazy either to do more or to suffer the consequences of being lazy. If you resent the
lazy "for making you do whatever", the person you should resent is really yourself. For no one makes
you do anything: take responsibility for whatever you do or do not do.
11> USUALLY HIDING BEHIND A FALSE IDENTITY
If you hate your name, change it to something you can love and feel proud of. If you do not like the
identity you have established in the world, then throw it out and start over. If you like who you were in
past lives better than you like yourself now, strive to reconnect with your own earlier wisdom. For these
are all traps that the spiritually lazy fall into. For the lazy like "to go by" a "grand name" that conveys
their wisdom without their having to put forth the effort necessary to acquire any. For the lazy love "to
beat themselves up" (as in "look at me, I'm so poor, I'm so wounded, I'm so fill in the blank) because
it keeps them firmly attached to the problems that justify their laziness. And the lazy love to tell you
"who they were" so you do not have to be impressed with "who they are now".
12> ALWAYS LIVING THE DOUBLE STANDARD
"Living the double standard" is the true litmus test of the lazy (if you do not know what this means,
prove to yourself you are not lazy by looking it up). If even you suspect that someone else is lazy, ask
yourself these questions. "Would they be willing to do (fill in the blank) for me especially if I have
already done the same for them?" "If they expect me to do (fill in the blank) for them, would they do
(fill in the blank) for me if positions were reversed?" If the answers to both questions are "No", then
you have correctly identified the lazy. For the lazy are never willing to "do unto others" the same things
that they demand that others "do for them". Once you have identified the symptoms of laziness in
yourself and/or others, it becomes your choice to put up with it or change it for good.
Rules of the House #12: Top Ten Things Your Higher Self Wants You to Know
Over the course of years of Higher Self Channeling Sessions, there have been several common messages that
Higher Selves have routinely delivered to the present day version of themselves. Of course, this list itself - like
almost everything else on this website was channeled. Here is what "they" have to say:
1> OUR MISSION IS TO BRING YOU ALWAYS AND EVER CLOSER TO GOD
Your Higher Self has it's own goal for you. The purpose of all Higher Selves is to bring their "lower
selves" (beings in physical bodies on the Earth like you) back to God. The primary means that your
Higher Self has for accomplishing this overriding goal is to keep you firmly attached to the path of
growth you have agreed to undertake in this lifetime. All the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual
issues that you experience in this life are designed to help you meet the terms of your lifes contract and
to keep you on your path. The truth is that you have agreed to all your lifes lessons before you came
here. Know also that you can transcend them - if you choose to. As always, the choice is yours. Your
Higher Self can help you to make the best possible choices now forward.
2> WE HAVE THE GREATEST LOVE FOR YOU AND WANT YOU TO KNOW JOY
The ultimate goal of all the experiences that your Higher Self is giving you is meant to bring you to a
state of total joy. Joyful people are dreaming their life and living their dream. That is the well spring of
their peace and contentment. Step back for a moment and recognize that a truly loving God would show
that love for you by wanting you to be joyful all the time. Before you arrive at your final destination of
joy, the journey can be (but does not have to be) quite painful at times. Remember you can learn from
pleasure as well as pain and there is as much challenge in joy as in sorrow
3> WE WANT YOU TO BE ABLE TO "HEAR OUR WORDS" FOR YOURSELF
Like all good healers, I am in the business of unemploying myself. That means instead of you coming
to someone like me to connect with your Higher Self, my mission is to empower you to do that for
yourself. Your Higher Self is the greatest use to you when you can "hear their words" for yourself all
time on every topic. Once you are open to their wisdom, the possibilities of what your Higher Self can
do for you are even more limitless than your imagination.
4> WE WANT TO SHOW YOU HOW TO MASTER CREATING YOUR LIFE
Your Higher Self is the ultimate coach. Your Higher Self is able to see all who you have been, all who
you are now, and all who you can be. Due to this expanded perspective, your Higher Self knows you
more intimately than you know yourself. With such expanded awareness, there are limitless
possibilities of what your Higher Self can do for you to assist you in resolving your life's issues. Almost
everything your Higher Self says is driven by their desire to show you how to master creating your life.
Among other things, you are here on Earth to master your skills in creation.
5> WE WANT YOU TO CLAIM YOUR BIRTHRIGHT OF POWER & ABUNDANCE
The true goal of all healing is to empower others to fully enjoy their birthright as Divine Beings. Over
and over again, I hear Higher Selves tell people that they must be open to "all possibilities" that are
available in the universe for them. Invariably, people cut themselves off from the infinity of all creation
for three reasons. First, because our common, "deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure"
(Nelson Mandela) for if we claimed our power, we would fear how our life would have to change.
Second, because we do not believe we deserve it for "we are not worthy" (Waynes World) for if we
were worthy, we would deserve to share in the abundance of the universe. Third, we resist claiming
abundance because it is ingrained in us that "the love of money is the root of all evil" for if we could
have money, it would allows to be more of who we are and claim our power.
6> WE WANT YOU TO ACHIEVE YOUR HIGHEST & GREATEST POTENTIAL
Consider these words of Cherie Hubers: "that which you are seeking is causing you to seek". This is an
ancient principle of Buddhism that is as modern as it gets. Huber explains in her book of the same
name: "If we didnt already know the experience of what were looking for, we would never (think to)
look" for it. When "we begin to seek where, what is that which we long for, our essence, our true
nature, that which we really are? and slowly, painstakingly, we begin to follow it home" to God.
"Haltingly, fearfully, sometimes excitedly, joyfully, we begin to follow it back to itself, back to who we
really are. What we are looking for is causing us to look" and that cause is our Higher Self. "Thats why
we need not go anywhere, do anything, learn more, figure anything out, or worry about going wrong.
We need only to stop, sit down, be still, and pay attention" to our Higher Self. For it is your Higher Self
that will help you achieve your highest and greatest potential right now.
7> WE ASK YOU TO LOVE YOURSELF MORE & FORGIVE OTHERS MORE
When your body is filled with love, it will stay healthier, last longer, and be better able to provide you
with quality of life. When your minds is filled with love, it able to attract better opportunities for
relationships, work, and education that bring you joy and contentment. When your spirit is filled with
love, you make all around you happy, including yourself. All this is what God and the universe intend
for you. All you need to do is "forgive - love - live happy".
8> WE WANT YOU TO KNOW: WE HAVE BEEN, ARE, WILL BE WITH YOU ALWAYS
So often when people reach greater levels of spiritual advancement, they get so beaten up. Often they
do not have a true picture of how wonderful they are. Or they cannot see the one or two things that they
are doing that, if done differently, could transform their lives. Your Higher Self has been with you since
the beginning and through the end of time. Your Higher Self knows you far better than you can know
yourself simply because it is the totality of all your selves: past, present, and future. Your Higher Self
knows all, sees all, and has the greatest possible compassion for your personal situation right now. It is
always with you: a few words from your Higher Self can get you seeing things in a new way: a new way
that could improve your life ever afterward.
9> WE WANT YOU TO KNOW: WE WILL SHOW YOU THAT YOU CAN TRUST US
Your Higher Self wants to make you feel good about contacting them. This way you will grow more
comfortable over time with their guidance as your trust level grows. The best way for your Higher Self
to build trust with you is to establish a "track record" of success which flows from you following their
guidance. It has been said that "God "writes straight with crooked lines". It is when you follow those
crooked lines over an extended period of time and see that they were, in fact, for the best - that is when
you truly learn to trust. Never forget that trust must always be earned.
10> WE WANT YOU TO KNOW: WE TELL THE TRUTH FROM OUR PERSPECTIVE
Your Higher Self sees your issues at deeper levels than you are able to. This is because many times you
are not able to see the forest for the trees. Your Higher Self is much like a helicopter flying over the
forest watching you make your way through the maze of trees below. It can see a better way for you to
walk. It can even tell you why your forest was arranged the way it was: to better guide you on your
life's journey. But there is one thing you always need to remember. You are the one on the ground:
dodging the wild animals all around you, staying one step ahead of forest fires, and feeling hunger when
there is no food, cold when there is no shelter, and pain when you fall into a deep hole. Your Higher
Self does not and cannot feel these types of pain: they cannot even remember it. And sometimes they
have no choice but to let you fall into the hole and get hurt. Thems the rules!
Rules of the House #8: Rules for Discerning "Spirit-based" vs "Ego-based" Guidance
(inspired by "Divine Guidance: How to Have a Dialog with God" by Doreen Virtue)
To be able to tell the difference between "Spirit-based" and "Ego-based" Guidance, you must first understand
the types of guidance there are and how this guidance is communicated to you.
Types of Guidance: "Spirit-based" Guidance comes direct from God and/or His Servants of the Universe and is
grounded in love and abundance. "Ego-based" guidance comes from the "small self" inside you - the "ego" part
of you - and is mired in fear and survival. Both of these sources of guidance present you with truths - neither are
false in that sense. Both of these sources are acting in your own best interests - neither truly wish to harm you.
However, if you do get "guidance" that is clearly false or puts you or others in the way of harm, know that it is
not guidance but "evil" entities trying to draw you into a "dark path".
Means of Receiving Guidance: There are various ways to receive guidance. Each way has it's own advantages
or disadvantages: one is not inherently better than the other. These include being:
Clairvoyant ("clear seeing") - seeing images - still or moving - in your mind's eye.
Clairaudient ("clear hearing") - hearing voices - your own or others - in your mind's ear.
Clairsentient ("clear feeling") - feeling guided via emotional or physical sensations.
Claircognizant ("clear knowing") - knowing something without knowing how you know it.
Clairomni ("clear channel") - moving naturally between all of the above communication channels.
1> SPIRIT-BASED GUIDANCE ALWAYS ACTS FROM LOVE IN YOUR BEST INTEREST
Both "Spirit-based" and "Ego-based" guidance act from love in your best interests. Both wish to protect
and serve you. How they go about it is what differentiates them. "Ego-based" guidance shows it's love
to you by keeping you on the path of the "tried-and-true" where you are safe and protected. "Ego-
based" messages are full of reasons why you cannot, should not, and must not do things. "Spirit-based"
guidance encourages to step off the path of the "tried-and-true" so that you can walk down another road
that in the end will be far better for you than the "safe" way. "Spirit-based" contact is always intensely
loving - it always leaves you feeling very energized and uplifted.
2> SPIRIT-BASED GUIDANCE ALWAYS LEADS YOU TO GREATER LEVELS OF JOY
"Spirit-based" guidance always wants to lead you to where you can get greater joy right now. "Ego-
based" guidance will always trade joy for safety. "Ego" wants you to have joy later (the "pie-in-the-sky-
when-you-die" syndrome). "Spirit" wants you to have joy right now. It recognizes that there may have
to be some "temporary inconvenience" for "permanent gain". Yet Spirit always works with you to
minimize the inconvenience, to maximize the gain, and get you joyful right away.
3> SPIRIT-BASED GUIDANCE ACTS FROM INTEGRITY ALWAYS TELLS THE TRUTH
Your ego can be extremely crafty and manipulative. If you stray from the path of safety, your ego will
put out half truths, bogus arguments, and consistently paint pictures of the worst case scenarios to get
you back to "safety". However. Spirit knows that all fears are nothing more than False Evidence
Appearing Real. Spirit only needs to tell the truth because "it is the truth that will set you free". It
always acts from the highest levels of truth which you inherently feel is "right".
4> SPIRIT-BASED GUIDANCE ONLY OFFERS "RIGHT THOUGHTS, WORDS, DEEDS"
When you get to the point in your existence where you are even interested in receiving guidance, it is
because you have already learned "to tell right from wrong". Instinctively, you know when guidance is
encouraging you to "think right thoughts", to "speak right words", and to "do right deeds". "Spirit-
based" guidance will NEVER ask you to the do the "wrong thing". "Ego-based" guidance may suggest
that you not do the right thing. "Evil" guidance will insist you do the "wrong thing".
5> SPIRIT BASED GUIDANCE FOCUSES ON WHAT YOU "CAN DO" RIGHT NOW
"Spirit-based" guidance will always encourage you to make the courageous and abundant choice.
"Spirit-based" guidance is from beings who know that the universe offers you all possibilities - if you
are open to receiving. Spirit is not limited, frightened, or mistrustful - these are the qualities of ego.
Spirit knows what you "can do, right now" while ego believes in what you "can't do now or later".
6> SPIRIT-BASED GUIDANCE IS ALWAYS VALIDATED BY SUBSEQUENT EVENTS
One of the main objectives of "Spirit-based" guidance is to make you feel good about the contact. This
way you will grow more comfortable over time with the guidance as your trust level grows. The best
way for Spirit to build trust with you is to establish a "track record" of success which flows from you
following their guidance. Ego is not concerned with success - only with safety. It has been said that
"God "writes straight with crooked lines". It is when you follow those crooked lines over an extended
period of time and see that they were for the best - that is when you truly learn to trust.
7> SPIRIT-BASED GUIDANCE ALWAYS SEEKS TO EMPOWER YOU & ALL OTHERS
"Spirit" always suggests actions that empower you and all others concerned in any given situation.
"Spirit" works to enable you to win and others to win at the same time. "Ego" tends to advance your
interests at the expense of others. "Ego" lets you win and will allow others to lose. "Evil" almost
always involves a "lose, lose" strategy: harming others and thereby harming yourself with bad karma.
8> SPIRIT-BASED GUIDANCE ALWAYS FOCUSES ON BLESSINGS & GRATITUDE
"Spirit" is constantly in the process of bringing you the gifts of the universe. The purpose of this is both
to show God's love to you in form and to instill the "attitude of gratitude" within you. It is the state of
thankfulness which attracts all manner of good things into your life. "Ego" always focuses on what you
do not have and moans about the "lack" in your life. While "evil" tries to trick you into believing that
the only way abundance will flow to you is to snatch blessings from others.
9> SPIRIT-BASED GUIDANCE IS ALWAYS COMMUNICATED GENTLY AND SIMPLY
"Spirit-based" guidance is always communicated in a clear, direct, easy-to-understand manner while
"ego" and "evil" seeks to "confuse you with the facts" so that it can achieve it's own agenda. "Spirit-
based" guidance is always gentle: it acts as if it were your best friend. While "ego" and "evil" based
guidance tends to act toward you like lecturing parents or demanding and jealous gods.
10> SPIRIT-BASED GUIDANCE ALWAYS HONORS AND RESPECTS WHO YOU ARE
"Spirit-based" guidance is always motivational and supportive. It motivates you to achieve your dreams
and to connect with your greatest joy. It supports you by encouraging you to honor your uniqueness,
your special purpose, and the needs of your body-mind-spirit.
11> SPIRIT-BASED GUIDANCE HELPS YOU FULFILL YOUR PURPOSE IN LIFE
"Spirit's" main mission is to help you to fulfill your purpose in life. To do this, it is always consistent:
repeating the same clear, honorable, loving advice so that your feet stay firmly planted on your path.
12> SPIRIT-BASED GUIDANCE DEVELOPS YOU INTO A CO-WORKER WITH GOD
"Spirit" shows you how you are equal and one with others: not better ("ego") or worse ("evil").
Rules of the House #40: "Beginning All Over Again": Managing Change and Transition
(adapted from William Bridges' book "Managing Transitions: Making the Most of Change",
Marilyn Ferguson's article on "Managing Change and Transition" and channeled information)
"It's not so much that we're afraid of change or so in love with the old ways but it's that place in between that we
fear. It's like being between trapezes. There's nothing to hold on to." (Marilyn Ferguson)
If You Think that Change is Easy Take the Change Challenge
Change is like a shark in the ocean. Change never stops, never sleeps: it must always keep moving. The good
news is if you hate the way things are, they will change. The bad news is if you love the way things are, they are
certain to change as well. The only thing inevitable about life is change, not death. Change is here to stay! If
you think that change is always easy, take the Change Challenge. Pick up a pen and write your name with the
hand you usually write with (easy, right?). Now try it with your other hand (not so easy, is it?).
Changes "Beyond Our Control" That Are "Imposed on Us" from "Above"
Usually when it comes to change there are three kinds of people: those who make things happen, those who let
things happen, and those who are always wondering "what the hell happened?". No matter what kind of person
you are, change becomes a "real problem" when it has been "imposed" upon you by forces that "seem beyond
your control". That is when it becomes important to realize the difference between change ("what has happened
to us") and transition ("how we adjust mentally and emotionally to what has happened to us").
Here change is an external event while transition is our internal response to the external change event.
Unfortunately, in our "fast moving computer age" rapidly accelerating "imposed" change has become a routine
part of our daily lives. Changes that are "imposed on us" from "above" include the following:
- Death of a spouse, close family member, friend, or anyone significant in your life
- Divorce, separation, marital problems, sexual difficulties, or other disruption in family life
- Unexpected, serious injury or illness of yourself or someone close or known to you
- Sudden dismissal from a job or other "forced change" in career or financial situation
- Natural and unnatural disasters (terrorism, hurricane, earthquake, tornado, flood, etc)
Change is the Way of the Worlds of Karma and Reincarnation
Change is the natural state of the universe. In any given lifetime, death is only the final change: moving again
from a state of physical being into a state of non-physical being. While we are yet in life, we are constantly in a
state of change. We grow, then we age. Our cells die off and replace themselves. We live, we learn. We work
ourselves from darkness to light, from negative to positive, from karma to dharma. We do it all over again.
Given that change can always be expected, it is a sound strategy to learn how to deal with transitions between
"what we are used to" (our past state - the old cycle) and "what we will become used to" (our future state - the
new cycle). When we are in the process of transitioning due to imposed changes, there are always three paths
open to us. The one we end up walking is totally up to us. For we are the creative force in our own universe,
and we can manifest whatever it is that we "invest" our energy in. The three paths are:
1> The Path of Disempowerment: Disempowerment is the "default path": what will happen to us if we do
nothing to meet the challenges of the "imposed change". Part of why change is so fearful is that people
are terrified that they will wind up on the path of disempowerment. Unfortunately, what people put
their attention on is what they will manifest into their reality. That is why so many people who are "too
long unemployed" have such terrible difficulty in "getting another job". Their eyes get fixed on
disempowerment which is an illusion. In the case of job changes, if they were employed once, they
can be again. And often when their back is against the wall, they will do just that!
2> The Path of Recovery: Recovery requires action on our part to "get back what it was that we have
lost". If that is our only goal, we will get it back in some form. Maybe some things will be better and
others worse, but this path will essentially be the same as before. Yet the problem with choosing this
path is that change is not denied, only delayed. The same problems that caused the original change to
be "imposed from above" will only cause another change to be imposed at some future time.
3> The Path of Reinvention: Reinvention also requires action but demands that we take a good hard look
at our lives and "decide what we want to be when we grow up". By imposing change on us, the
universe is giving us the chance to "become more ourselves". It asks us to see new possibilities for our
life that have the capacity to bring us to greater levels of joy, love, and awareness. It prods us to "be all
we can be" if only we reach out to universal abundance and choose to do so.
Here are the steps we go through when "Transitioning" from an "Old" to a "New" Cycle of Life: To
better illustrate this, I will use the story of a client who was "let go" from a job they held for many years. And it
does have a happy ending: it turned out that this was the "best decision they never made".
1> END OF THE OLD CYCLE #1: SHOCK ("What is happening to me?")
When a change is imposed on us - even if it is ultimately for the better - we are still left in a state of
shock. In this case, the client did not see the change coming. They had been on the job for many years:
great reviews, happy customers, good relations with management and employees, and a stable
organization. When a senior management "shake up" resulted in the cancellation of their next two
projects, it was decided to let the client go. The client was literally the "walking wounded" unable to
comprehend what had happened to them or why. For a few days, the client did not eat or sleep.
2> END OF THE OLD CYCLE #2: DENIAL ("It is NOT happening to me!")
Since the change is imposed on us - seemingly not under our control - it is a natural reaction for us not
to believe it. Worse, we may resort to "magical thinking" that somehow the change can be reversed. In
this case, the client could not believe that it was happening. It was made worse by the fact that no one
around them could believe it either. All sorts of rescue scenarios were advanced and promoted... until
the client was faced with stark reality in the form of official termination papers.
3> END OF THE OLD CYCLE #3: ANGER ("It is NOT my fault! Why me?")
Once the change is "made real" to us, we begin to "wrap our heads around it". We soon come to the
realization that there is no use in complaining, we must accept the reality of our situation and move on.
Either we will blame ourselves or others for what has happened to us and we are likely to get angry.
The best thing to do when we feel anger rising within us is to do what this client did and not to give
into it. Lashing out in anger may backfire and alienate the very people in a position to help us solve our
problem. In fact, the calm and professional manner in which the client acted was an essential part of
enlisting those in the company to find another suitable employment opportunity.
4> END OF THE OLD CYCLE #4: FEAR ("It has happened to me and I'm scared")
Worse than being overwhelmed by anger is to be consumed by fear. When one does not have a clear
vision of the future, it is only natural to feel fear. Here is where the client's self knowledge and spiritual
believes paid off. In this case, the client allowed their emotions to flow through them into the safe
outlet of supportive friends and family. They acknowledged their fears to move past them.
5> CHANGING OVER #1: DEPRESSION ("What the hell is going to happen to me now?")
Fears that are not "processed" will inevitably turn inward, creating a depressed and hopeless mental and
emotional state. Unfortunately, fear and depression often "rob" and individual of the desire and ability
to take the action needed to move them onto the paths of recovery or empowerment. In this case, the
client "skipped" this step because they had done to the work to deal with their emotions. Notice that it is
not always necessary to go through each transition step in order. As long as we are moving forward in
transitioning, we can go as "fast" or "slow" in the process as we need to.
Copyright 1999-2005 Ellen A. Mogensen - Past & Now Forward, The Fun Life Company, Marlton, NJ 08053 (856) 988-0197100
6> CHANGING OVER #2: CONFUSION ("What should I do? What should I do!")
Notice that in the process of transition, confusion sets in when the individual finally realizes that change
has occurred and that they have no choice but to deal with it. This is the point of creation: where our
hopes and intentions for the changed the future must be firmly and passionately sent out to the universe.
The thoughts we send out to the universe to find suitable possible matches to our desires are what
powers their manifestation. Here our client envisioned the new job of their dreams.
7> CHANGING OVER #3: UNCERTAINTY ("Will anything really happen for me?")
The tricky part of making a transition is to trust that the change was for the best and that something
much better can result from the transition. Accepting the uncertainty means letting your vision of the
future go out into the universe, watching it disappear over the horizon, and believing that it will come
back to you in the form of new possibilities for your life. In this case, the "uncertainty" of the job search
was something this client had real difficulty with doing (but they had no choice!!).
8> CHANGING OVER #4: RESIGNATION ("I have to do something! I will start to change")
The hardest part of transitions is resigning ourselves that we must let go of the "old trapeze bar" and
spend some time hurtling through free space toward - hopefully - a new trapeze bar that is coming our
way. Resigning ourselves to the unknown is better viewed as opening ourselves to something new and
better that is for our highest good. Here resignation was no easier for out client but they "toughed it out"
be holding fast to their vision of a new and empowering future for themselves.
9> INTO THE NEW CYCLE #1: ACCEPTANCE ("OK, I will do something now!")
The moment that action is taken toward creating a new future, true acceptance of the new cycle has
begun. As Goethe said so well: "The moment one definitely commits oneself, all sorts of things occur to
help one... A whole stream of events issues from the decisions, raising in one's favor all manner of
unforeseen assistance which no one could have dreamed would have come... Whatever you can do or
dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. Begin it now." Here our client was
amazed by the unexpected numbers of people that came to their aid.
10> INTO THE NEW CYCLE #2: PLANNING ("I am making a plan to help me change.")
It's true: "fail to plan then plan to fail." Others may help us but it is up to us to set and steer our own
course through the maze of transitions. When we plan, we are actually clarifying the vision we are
sending out to the universe. The clearer we are, the more obvious what we need to do will become.
Plans beget actions which beget opportunities which beget more plans and actions. Here the client
quickly found that "getting a job" and "doing it right" was a full time job in and of itself.
11> INTO THE NEW CYCLE #3: ACTION ("I put my plan into action and seek alternatives.")
All other things being equal, the clearer and more focused the vision of what is desired, the sooner that
possibilities matching the vision will manifest into the person's outer reality. Most often one than one
opportunity will appear. Part of the process of refining the manifestation is to explore the different
alternatives, comparing one to another to see which is best or if another direction should be considered.
Here our client resisted the temptation to "grab the first one" to get "change over with".
12> THE NEW CYCLE #4: DECISION ("I have chosen the best from among the alternatives.")
Once alternatives have presented themselves, the process of selecting among them is usually fairly easy
and straightforward. Each one is examined in turn as to their strong points and weak points. The
natural result of this examination is thinking through each alternative in a way that "makes it real".
Envisioning oneself taking advantage of each opportunity will lead the person to selecting the one
which most closely matches their "perfected" vision of the future. In this case, it was quite easy for the
client to select the "right job" which turned out to be "the best decision they never made".
It is a loving and compassionate universe that we live in for it gives us infinite chances to learn the ways of
love and compassion as we work through our karma. Know that all will be well with a change and it will be!
Rules of the House 21: Wheels Within Wheels - Astrology, Karma, & the Arts of Divination
(based the books listed below and on channeled information)
"That which we do not confront in ourselves, we will meet as fate."
- Carl Jung
Evidence of the operation of karma can be found in the ancient "arts of divination". The arts include but are not
limited to: astrology, numerology, graphology, physiognomy, palmistry, polarity, and rune systems. These arts
have been dismissed and discredited because many of their practitioners have claimed too much for their
"predictive" abilities. Yet these arts persist in their popularity until the present day simply because they do
reveal clues about the "train tracks of karma" from the past which silently run our present day existence.
1> ASTROLOGY #1: BIRTH CHARTS - PLANETS, ZODIAC SIGNS, & ASTRO YEARS
Of all the arts of divination, astrology provides the clearest evidence of the "train tracks of karma". For
astrology can tell you the most of the things you want to know about your life. In the words of Jan Spiller,
your astrological chart can reveal "the trap or temptation from a past life that can lead to disaster if you are
not forewarned." Or the "special talent that is waiting for you, a unique gift that could easily be turned into
professional success." Or the "self defeating tendencies in your personality that can hold you back and
sabotage relationships." And the "love partner who can be your soul mate or the partner whose hold over
you can lead to heartbreak. For more see "Astrology for the Soul" by Jan Spiller.
The train tracks of karma running through your life are the most clearly revealed by your natal (birth)
horoscope. The natal horoscope shows the position of the Sun, the Moon, and planets "frozen" at the
precise moment of your birth. The sign of the zodiac (ie. Aquarius, etc), the astrological year (ie. Rat, etc),
and the positions of the planets at birth shows the "hand" that has been "dealt" you in this present life.
These "karma cards" are what you agreed to experience before you were born: your life contract. The natal
chart will reflect your natural predispositions, the lessons you have to learn, the issues you need to face, and
the types of problems you need to solve. Yet the natal horoscope does not show how you will choose to
"play" this hand. The use that you make of the "hand you have been dealt" depends upon you.
2> ASTROLOGY #2: EVENTS CHARTS - TRANSITS, ASPECTS, & HOUSES
Events charts are a look at the nature of the time (possibilities and potentialities) at any moment in time.
The goal of events charts is to understand the way in which energy will manifest around events and issues
for a particular time. From the moment of your birth, the energy of the planets effecting you keeps on
transmuting and transforming. Each at their own speed, the planets move on through the houses of the
zodiac, and then form aspects (called transits) to the places where they were at the moment of your birth.
Transits become a way of understanding how your life is unfolding. Transits can give you insights as to
how the tides of karma continue to effect you as well as offering you possibilities and options for spiritual
growth as you move through your life. Transits can mark times of crisis and triumph, chances to advance
karmically, and times of transition, danger, and hope. By observing transits carefully and becoming open to
their insights, you can capitalize on these karmic opportunities as they arise. A good beginner's book on
astrology is "The Only Astrology Book You'll Ever Need" by Joanna Martine Woolfolk
3> ASTROLOGY #3: STAR CHARTS - HOLISTIC ASTROLOGY
Star charts (Indian (Vedic) and Chinese) combine the best elements of natal and events charts to give an
individual a comprehensive and holistic reading of past events, present life situations, and future life
potentialities. Star charts are based on a "sidereal" system which uses the actual stellar constellations as seen
from Earth (versus the "Tropical" system of Western Astrology based on a "fictional" zodiac).
4> NUMEROLOGY #1: BIRTH DATES & LIFE PURPOSE
Each day of the year has a unique energy created from the combination of the energy of the numbers which
make it up (see Rules #10: Numbers as Building Blocks of the Universe). Numbers are both the nails and
the rails which hold together the train tracks of karma. It is numbers which enable the universe to run as a
well oiled machine of karma. Nowhere is this truer than in the case of the day of your birth. Whether you
were "early or late", you were born on time for your karma. This is because your birthday has it's own
unique personality and imprint which it shares with all people who have that birthday. For "a model of the
year as a wheel spinning in a recurring circle of these energy patterns" see "The Secret Language of
Birthdays: Profiles for Each Day of the Year" by Gary Goldschneider et al. See also "The Life You Were
Born to Live: A Guide to Finding Your Life Purpose" by Dan Millman.
5> NUMEROLOGY #2: NAME & LIFE PATH
The name a person receives - just like their birthday - is no accident. Whether you got the name from birth,
married into it, or chose it for yourself, it effects you profoundly. Your name, like your birthday, has it's
own unique personality and imprint which it shares with all people who have that name. Anyone can
discover the energy behind their name by first translating their name into numbers. For it is the key
numbers of your name which contain potent truths about the positive and negative aspects of your true
nature and your identity. The energy of your name effects you very deeply because you are constantly
exposed to it. Even if you do not think of yourself by using your own name, others are always saying it to
you. The purpose of this is to ensure that energy of your path will find constant expression in your life.
This is especially true of when it comes to the working out of karma for there are some names which carry
heavy charges of karmic atonement. The most heavily karmic names for women are Ruth, Victoria, and
Huette while the most heavily karmic names for men are Rudy, Victor, and Hugh. For more see "The
Hidden Truth of Your Name: A Complete Guide to First Names and What They Say About the Real You"
by The Nomenology Project to see what your name says about you!
6> NUMEROLOGY #3: PARTNER COMPATIBILITY
Nowhere is the pull of your karma stronger than in intimate romantic relationships. For the two people
involved always come together for a karmic reason. Partner karma usually brings each what they need to
experience so that both can follow their own true path. Partners have a unique ability to help each other's
growth as Soul in love, joy, and awareness. This happens because of the long term interaction - usually over
many lifetime - with these special, much loved others who share our karmic destiny. Everyone truly needs to
experience at least one deep relationship that will shake them to their core. For it is through our love for our
partner that we learn the wisdom of forgiveness, tolerance, and compassion as well as how to become truly
useful coworkers with God. See "The Secret Language of Relationships: Profiles for Any Relationship with
Anyone" by Gary Goldschneider et al to learn more about the inner workings of the energy dynamics
between you, your intimate partners, and everyone else you encounter in life.
7> BODY WORKS #1: GRAPHOLOGY (HANDWRITING ANALYSIS)
Graphology is the "study of handwriting" as it is used to investigate a person's personality and character. By
careful observation of the many details which make up an individual's handwriting style, it is possible to
accurately discern the person's current physical, mental, and emotional state of being. Graphology can
provide insights into such things as one's outlook on the world, (positive or negative), their energetic
orientation (introvert or extrovert), their primary state of consciousness (focus on the physical, mental,
emotional, or spiritual), their style of communication (simple or complex) and so on. Bodies cannot lie and
handwriting often conveys more truth than one intends. For these truths emerge from the cellular memory
from past lives which finds easy expression in your handwriting. See "Handwriting Analysis: Putting It to
Work for You" by Andrea McNichol and see what your handwriting says about you!
8> BODY WORKS #2: PALMISTRY (LINES ON THE HAND)
Palmistry (also known as chiromancy) is the art of discerning the character and destiny of a person by
careful observation of both the shape of and the lines on the hand. Palmistry is as popular as ever because
"it is a guide to help you understand your destiny. . .to know yourself and others" as to your strengths and
weaknesses. For "once you understand your destiny, you can control it - or change it for the better." Of
course that is the point of all these arts of divination. I would have thought palmistry was bunk except
that when I was sixteen, I was told by a palm reader that the concentration of lines on my "past life
finger" meant I had a lot of past life clearing to do later in life. I laughed then, I am not laughing now (see
"My Story"). See "The Complete Book of Palmistry" by Joyce Wilson for more.
9> BODY WORKS #3: PHSIOGNOMY (BEYOND BODY LANGUAGE)
Physiognomy is the Western name for the ancient Chinese art of studying the head, face and hands to
determine a person's character traits, behavior patterns, and intellectual aptitudes. Unlike graphology and
palmistry, everyone engages in physiognomy whether they know it or not. Subconsciously, we always are
evaluating others based on their physical characteristics, vocal patterns, and body movements to uncover
their personality traits and to predict their future behavior. See "Reading People: How to Understand People
and Predict Their Behavior, Anytime, Anyplace" by Jo-Ellan Dimitrius and Mark Mazzarella as well as
"The Chinese Art of Studying the Head, Face and Hands" by Lee Siow Mong to learn more.
10> BODY WORKS #3: POLARITY (BLOCKS IN THE TOES AND FEET)
Polarity is a healing modality which works on the blocks which accumulate in the toes of your feet. By the
nature and the location of the block, the practitioner can accurately read both the karmic patterns and the
personal characteristics of the individual. The feet are especially prone to such blocks because they are the
farthest away from the purest divine universal energy flowing into the Crown Chakra (located at the top of
the head). The more advanced the soul, the more the toes will show up as blocked during a Polarity Session
(clearing them is more painful than giving birth!). See "Polarity Therapy: The Complete Collected Works
(including the 'Wireless Anatomy of Man')" by Randolph Stone and the "Guide to Polarity Therapy: The
Gentle Art of Hands-On Healing" by Maruti Seidman.
11> RUNE SYSTEMS #1: THROWN OBJECTS
The goal of all "rune" systems is to momentarily disengage the individual from the control of their mind so
that their soul can get a message through. Throwing a cluster of objects to produce a specific result is
normally beyond the mental capabilities of most people and so this lets the soul take charge. The most
popular "rune" systems involving thrown objects are "Runes" (discerning a message from thrown rocks) and
"I Ching" (discerning a message from thrown coins or sticks). The I Ching is especially useful in divination
for those who are at critical points in their life. This is because I Ching is designed to help a person manage
those crucial switches along the train tracks of karma. See "Runes" by David Barrett and "I Ching, Book of
Changes: a Guide to Life's Turning Points" by Brian Browne Walker.
12> RUNE SYSTEMS #2: CARD & BOARD SYSTEMS
More popular, but less pure rune systems, involve cards (like Tarot Cards, Angel Cards, Medicine Wheel
Cards, Goddess Cards, etc) and boards (like Quija Boards, Message Boards, and Tarot Boards). Like the
thrown object systems, the card and board systems bypass the mind by having the person pick cards or move
around the board as directed by spirit. This enables the individual to tap into their own intuitive abilities by
serving as a focal point for spiritual intervention. Using the cards, people can get answers from spirit to
virtually any physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual question. See "The Enchanted Tarot" by Amy
Zerner & Monte Farber and "Quija: The Most Dangerous Game" by Stoker Hunt.
Rules of the House #13: Are You Really Someone Else? How to Know if You are a "Walk-In"
"A strong body and a good mind are terrible things to waste..." not to mention if that body and mind are also
abundant in health, wealth, and a good position in life. This is the driving force behind the exchange of Souls
that takes place when one has "walked out" of a body-mind and another has "walked in".
About "Walk-Ins": "Walking in" is a quick - but not always an easy - way for advanced beings to come
"down to Earth". The completion of the exchange takes far less time than it does for most "walk-ins" to adjust
to their new situation. Like all who come to Earth and incarnate into a physical body, the "walk-in" will
"forget" - temporarily or permanently - about this exchange. Yet the effect on their lives will be totally
unmistakable. This is because while the "walk-in" assumes the personality of the "walk-out" at the exchange,
they immediately start to change so that they can go back to their "real" personality.
Why "Walking-in" can be Difficult: Typically, a Soul exchange is made by the "walk-in" taking on the lower
three personality chakras of the "walk-out" while retaining their own upper four spiritual chakras. The lower
chakras must remain connected to the earth at all times for the body to survive. Yet the upper chakras are a
person's "divine core essence" which they carry from life to life or body to body. If there is a serious
"incompatibility" between the upper and lower chakras after the "walk-in", this will manifest as numberless
difficulties in an individual's life. The bottom line is that if you have experienced 7 or more out of 10 of the
symptoms below in a period of 3 to 6 months, it is likely that you are a "walk-in". It is also likely that you may
need some help getting clarity about your situation so that you can better adjust to your new life.
1> AN EXTENDED PERIOD OF UNCONSCIOUSNESS DUE TO ILLNESS OR INJURY
Walking into a new body is as stressful for the "soul" walking in as it is for the "body" that is receiving
that soul. To make it easier all the way around, many walk-ins occur while the body is "unconscious"
for an extended period of time due to a serious illness or injury. It is easier for the exchange to occur for
both the "walk-in" and the "walk-out" personalities. It is easier for the body-mind to harmonize and
reintegrate the upper and lower chakras. It is easier for the family and friends of the person to accept
the change when the individual "wakes up as a new person". Yet note that unconsciousness is not
required to effect a walk-in, it just makes it easier.
2> TOTAL OR PARTIAL "MEMORY LOSS" OR EPISODES OF "LOST TIME"
When walk-ins occur in a perfectly healthy body, it is likely that periods of mental disorientation will
happen. This manifests as total or partial memory loss and/or episodes of "lost time". This happens
because the body-mind is fully engaged in processing the "walk-in" integration and has no resources to
devote to "non-essential" functions like recording new memories.
3> DRAMATIC CHANGE IN "BELIEF SYSTEMS", ESPECIALLY RELIGION
One of the first noticeable changes in a "walk-in" is a dramatic change in their belief systems -
especially as it pertains to religion. "Walk-out" atheists become "walk-in" believers. Or "walk-outs"
from traditional sects turn suddenly to "new age" beliefs and practices. Or "walk-outs" who had
disempowering attitudes (like sexism or racism) become "walk-ins" who "got religion".
4> DRAMATIC SHIFT IN INTERESTS AND IN PATTERNS OF SPENDING TIME
More obvious to friends and family are dramatic shifts in the way the "walk-in" now spends his or her
time compared to the "way they used to be". It is extremely likely that the "walk-in" will acquire new
overwhelming and absorbing interests that never would have appealed to the "walk-out". This is
because most "walk-ins" have returned to Earth for a reason. Immediately after the exchange and for
six months to a year afterward, they will find themselves absolutely compelled to take actions that
"point them in the right direction" of accomplishing whatever their new mission is.
5> INEXPLICABLE ACQUISITION OF TALENTS, SKILLS, AND ABILITIES
The acquisition of "new interests" by the "walk-in" is directly related to "discovering" what seems to be
new "talents, skills, and abilities" for them. The truth is that the "walk-in" is in the process of
"awakening to those things which they already know, that they already can do".
6> NEW APPROACH TO SOLVING PREVIOUSLY UNSOLVABLE PROBLEMS
Since the "walk-ins" usually have a "higher" state of consciousness than the "walk-out", they are better
able to handle the "problems" they have inherited from the "walk-out". The "walk-in" will suddenly
have great clarity about how to resolve issues that have eluded the "walk-out" for years.
7> OVERWHELMING FEELINGS/EVIDENCE THAT YOU ARE "NOT YOURSELF"
Only the person who lives inside their own skin - 24 hours a day, 7 days a week - can ever truly know
who they really are. Other people experience you like the proverbial "elephant in the dark" - they know
only bits and pieces of you. Only you know if you are on the inside the same as you have always
been or if now you are "somehow different". If you are certain that somehow you have experienced a
deep and profound change and are "no longer" yourself, than you are probably right.
8> "SIGNIFICANT OTHERS" COMMENTING THAT YOU ARE NOW "DIFFERENT"
There is an old saying: "by their deeds shall ye know them". Sometimes the "walk-in" has so strongly
identified with the "walk-out" that they have difficulty believing that they have really changed. This is
almost always the case of "not being able to see the forest for the trees". If everyone around you says
that you have changed... If everyone around you can date the change as in "you were this way before
the date" and "you were that way after the date"... If everyone around you is very concerned that you
have changed and MUST get help while you know that nothing is wrong with you... then - maybe, just
maybe - they are right. Maybe others around you know that you are a different person because you are.
Maybe - just maybe - it is because you are a "walk-in".
9> SUDDEN "BREAKUPS": LEAVING OF LONG TERM MARRIAGES OR JOBS
Marriages usually end because one person believes that the other person is "not the person that they
married". A spouse can often have the clearest perspective about your condition because they are the
one who spend the most time with you. If a "walk-in" has happened, it is almost a certainty that divorce
will follow. This is because - at the highest level - the people are no longer in agreement to be together.
Ironically it is the spouse of the "walk-in" who usually is the one to call it quits. "Walk-ins" most often
will try to honor the commitments made by the "walk-out". This is true of almost everything except for
the "walk-out's" job/career/work. Usually the "walk-in" will immediately end their current job so that
they can free themselves to pursue their "new mission in life".
10> RAPID SERIES OF CHALLENGING "LIFE" PROBLEMS
If it seems that "walking-in" is a great deal for the "walk-in" but not so great for the "walk-out", be sure
to read this fine print. The individual who agrees to "walk-out" usually does so because they no longer
find life desirable. Perhaps the "walk-out" has lost a "loved one" and cannot get over their grief. Or
maybe the "walk-out" is tired of living, has completed their contract, and no longer wishes to go on. Or
possibly the "walk-out" is in a difficult health, wealth, or relationship situation and is not able to find
their way out of it. Whatever the reason, there is always "unfinished business" from the "walk-out" that
the "walk-in" must complete before the "walk-in" is free to "live their own life". This manifests as a
rapid series of challenging life problems to be resolved by the "walk-in".
Rules of the House #46: "Waking Up is Hard to Do": The Soul's Journey of Awakening
(adapted from Geoffrey Hoppe's "Tobias of the Crimson Circle" and channeled information)
So often people cry out "I want to move farther down on the spiritual path" but when they do, inevitably there
will be "growing pains" along the way. Especially now that more intense energies are entering the Earth plane
and causing the world to change so rapidly. In many respects, this New Age offers karmic "bargains" and
opportunities for growth that simply did not exist before. As in people more quickly working through their life
contracts and blowing through their past life karma. For those who are ready, this enhanced process of
expansion ("humans being more") will put quite a strain on the body's ability to keep up with the changes.
"I Just Want to Go Home"
Often this rapid change activates the "quiet part of you that wants to go Home" to the inner worlds of God.
With karma under control and good progress on your life contract, you feel "ready to begin a new lifetime while
still in this physical body. During this transition process, you have an inner remembrance of what it is like to be
on the other side." And because you do, "another tour of duty here on Earth" might not seem so appealing
especially as you meet the challenges of awakening to these new energies.
It is meeting the challenges that are often "creating the problem": the "growing pains" from waking up (listed
below). Be assured that these too shall pass. Remember that "Spirit needs you here to help others transition into
the new energy. They will need a human guide, just like you, who has taken the journey from the old energy into
the new. The path you are walking right now provides the experiences to enable you to become a teacher". So,
hang in there, because although "waking up is hard to do", once you have awakened, your "brand new life" will
be bigger, better, richer, and more satisfying than it has ever been before!
1> WAKING UP: INTENSE, VIVID, LUCID DREAMS
The process of waking up usually begins with the "shedding" past life karma. "Karmic dreams" become
the way to work off past life karma by having you face any residual fears or other negative baggage.
Quite literally, you need to "drop" what is no longer serving you. This "shedding" will manifest in your
dreams as dreams of being chased, of running from something, of fighting battles, or of defeating
enemies. You are literally releasing the energies of the past that have no place in your vibrant present.
Once you have worked through your "baggage", these dreams will simply stop.
2> WAKING UP: DISRUPTED PATTERNS OF SLEEPING
An inevitable consequence of intense dreaming is disrupted sleep patterns. The load of "karmic
dreams" will become so intense that your body and mind will jolt you awake during the night. Literally,
you will need to "take a break" from your karmic dreaming and from the "other work" that is being
performed on you overnight. For those who are ready will attract the assistance of inner beings who
will work on "upgrading" their body and mind to support the greater changes in their consciousness that
they are seeking. Like "karmic dreams", this disruption will eventually stop.
3> WAKING UP: DISRUPTED MENTAL FUNCTIONING
An inevitable part of having disrupted sleep is experiencing disorientation while awake. You will feel
"spaced out" or "not quite myself" or "a bit out of the body" or "feeling off" or "not centered and
grounded". This may result in some awkwardness and clumsiness as in "bumping into things" or
"dropping things" or "missing the target". That is because you are living "between two worlds": the way
you are used to being and the way you are becoming. It will take some time for your body and mind to
readjust to your new way of being. Just be patient with the process for this too shall pass. And when
it does, you will be able to operate from a greater level of clarity and awareness.
4> WAKING UP: DISRUPTED PHYSICAL FUNCTIONING
An inevitable part of disrupted mental processes is experiencing disruptions in physical functioning. In
many ways, the "physical hits" are the most unpleasant part of the awakening process. The bad news is
that they are unavoidable as you awaken to greater levels of consciousness, your cellular memory
(DNA, etc) must change to support your expanded beingness. This disruption usually manifests as
"body aches and pains, especially in the neck, shoulder and back." It can also manifest as angina
(serious heart pain), migraines (severe, blinding headaches), and infections (strep throat, bronchitis, flu,
ulcers, etc) that come like a sudden storm and pass away as quickly too.
5> WAKING UP: DISRUPTED EMOTIONAL FUNCTIONING
An inevitable part of disrupted physical health is experiencing disruptions in emotional functioning.
The commonest result is "crying for no apparent reason". Crying is a part of the transition process. In
crying you are releasing layers of anger, fear, hurt, sadness, guilt, and other negative emotions that have
become "stuck" in your body over many past lifetimes of "doing hard time on planet Earth". So if you
are "crying for no apparent reason", know that it is probably a blessing that you have been spared from
being "burdened with the tremendous load of past life memories" that would explain your tears. So just
let them flow. You might also experience directly the waves of anger, fear, hurt, sadness, guilt, as they
flow through you. Just let them go with love and this too shall pass.
6> WAKING UP: DISRUPTED SPIRITUAL FUNCTIONING
An inevitable part of disrupted emotions is experiencing disruptions in spiritual functioning. If you
believe that greater spirituality should lead you to more joy, love, and awareness, you are right. So if
your spirituality is bringing you nothing but "deep inner sadness for no apparent reason", know that you
are releasing spiritual sadness that you have known in many past lifetimes. "This is similar to the
experience of moving from a house where you lived in for many, many years into a new house. As
much as you want to move into the new house, there is a sadness of leaving behind the memories,
energy and experiences of the old house. This too shall pass" and shall bring you to your greater joy.
7> BEGINNING THE CHANGE: FEELING INNER EMPTINESS
All this disruption is bound to leave you feeling very empty "with little or no desire to do anything".
Congratulations the change over to your new enhanced way of being has begun. "Take this time to
do 'no-thing'." Do not resist this feeling: "it is similar to rebooting a computer. You need to shut down
for a brief period of time in order to load sophisticated new software". Instead of moaning that you are
temporarily "off line", instead rejoice knowing that once you get fully back online, you will be able to
become all that you have ever wished that you could be!
8> MAKING THE CHANGE: FEELING INNER LONELINESS
There is a profound difference between being alone and being lonely. Being alone means that you are
not physically in the company of others. Being lonely means that you do not feel connected to anyone
or anything and that can happen even when - and especially when - others are present. As you are
"making the change", you will feel "removed from others" and will want to "flee from groups and
crowds". And "as much as the feelings of loneliness cause you anxiety, it is difficult to relate to others
at this time." So it is best to be alone for awhile - physically apart from others - so that you can "fill
your space with your own divinity". Think of this alone time as a sort of hibernation. You are resting
and rebuilding in a winter of aloneness so that you will be ready to spring forth into your true place in
the universe when the time comes for you to fully embrace your greater destiny.
9> BEING THE CHANGE: BECOMING YOUR TRUE SELF
You will recognize that you are turning the corner when you find yourself talking to your Higher Self
much more often. "There is a new level of communication taking place within your being The
conversations will increase, and they will become more fluid, more coherent and more insightful." In
essence, you will begin the process of more rapidly evolving into your Higher Self your true self.
10> MANIFESTING THE CHANGE: NEW CAREER
As you step into the greater totality of yourself on the inside, things on the outside all around you will
start to change as well ("as above, so below"). The most direct result will be a sudden change in job or
career. The best advice is this: "do not worry about finding the perfect job or career right now. You are
in transition and you may make several job changes before you settle into one that fits your passion."
Just go with the flow, be open to learning the lessons as you do, and trust that you are being given the
best possible training to prepare you to embrace your best and greatest destiny.
11> MANIFESTING THE CHANGE: NEW RELATIONSHIPS
Another result of changing is withdrawing from relationships that no longer serve you. "When you get
off the karmic cycle, the bonds of the old relationships are released. It will appear as though you are
drifting away from your family and friends." In the end, you may develop a new relationship with them
if it is appropriate and if it is in keeping with the new person that you are becoming.
12> MANIFESTING THE CHANGE: A NEW YOU
The best description of this process of awakening was given by our client, "Immogen". It speaks
powerfully to what it is like in becoming a newly awakened being: "Suddenly... A few deaths
Traumatic Remembering my blood lineage Past lives Coming into my body Its all in there now
Actually experiencing what it is to be alive in one's body Awakening... Expecting to find others like me waiting
to celebrate my spiritual graduation Not being able to connect with them as yet"
"Remembering my childhood Where I have been during this life The people who truly are my friends The
many people who have hurt me The lies The secrets Taking stock of what I have accomplished thus far
Feeling like a failure for waking up so late in life Feeling alone As though I had purposely been isolated
Being freshly hatched out of an egg And not liking the world that I see Feeling as though I am racing against
an invisible stop watch Yearning to return to where I come from but not really feeling welcome there
Learning to enjoy and trust the process Feeling like the odds are stacked against me"
"Heavy Karma Bad Karma Perseverance Keeping my objective of leaving where I am clear And
working towards it every day Feeling Conscious Feeling betrayal The ache of having been surrounded with
people who cannot understand. Knowing that I must go on to confront the past so that I may move on to the
future Living in several dimensions at the same time Having to learn to shift between dimensions Switch it
on switching it off Compartmentalizing the daily grind of life chores from new growth"
"Remembering, remembering, remembering Understanding Reconnecting with people in this life who I have
known for eons in past lives Hoping that they will recognize me and welcome me Opening doors Closing
others Having to wait to see people that may be able to confirm that they know who I am just as I know who
they are... Hoping that I will not be too late... Learning to become who I already am"
"Trying to stop worrying and just go on doing and accept what happens instead Rearing that inner child so that
it may merge healthy with my adult self Learning the difference between illusion and reality... Planning while
making it happen... Inching my way to a door that I need to tear open and close behind me What I have learned
thus far cannot be undone Wanting to keep on learning... Wanting to keep on growing..."
"Ready to keep on going..." Ready to keep on growing: for this is the essence of the awakened Soul.
Rules of the House #24: The Soul's Journey: The Dark Night of Soul
(adapted from "The Dark Night of Soul" by John of the Cross)
At some point in our journey, we encounter a phenomenon known as "Dark Night of the Soul". If you have
experienced it, you have no doubt about what it is. If you have not, it can best be described this way. When the
sun is shining brightly and there is every reason to feel happy to be alive, you feel as if it is three o'clock in the
morning and the world is devoid of life. No lover to comfort you, no friend to cheer you, no family to support
you, you feel abandoned and alone. And this feeling goes on, day after day, month after month, year after year,
and sometimes life after life. You come to wonder what is the point of this dark despair and when will it ever
end and why did it start to begin with. These rules cannot end the seemingly bottomless pit of hopelessness but
they will shed some light on it. And yes, the Dark Night of Soul DOES come to an end for everyone. That is
the only way it can be in a loving and compassionate universe.
Consider this: "The light shall shine in the darkness" (Isaias) to illuminate the dark corners of the Soul so that
they can be purified and sanctified to do God's work in the universe. It is my humble opinion that just knowing
that there is a purpose for this seemingly endless suffering makes it much easier to endure.
1> THE PROBLEM OF ATTACHMENT & LETTING GO TO LET GOD IN
Source: Etheric (Intuitive) Body - Problem: Attachment - Solution: Detachment
"Establish in us O God that which Thou hast wrought, and perfect the work which Thou hast begun in
us to Thy glory." (Martin Luther) At the end of all our wanderings, we finally make perfect the
perfection which God has created inside us in the first place. Until we connect with our perfection, we
get drawn back into this world by the attachments which our imperfections create. Detachment, the
desireless state which most Eastern religions believe is nirvana, is the key to leaving this world behind
us for good. The "dark night" helps make this detachment possible by helping one to "burn off"
attachments to this world than no longer serve them. This is the ultimate place of "letting go to letting
God" fully inhabit us so that we can be a full Coworker in the majesty of his Creation.
2> THE PROBLEM OF VANITY & KNOWING YOUR PLACE IN THE UNIVERSE
Source: Mental (Thought) Body - Problem: Vanity - Solution: Balanced Self Esteem
"Be the master of your will and the slave of your conscience." (Hasidic Proverb) Vanity arises
whenever the will and the conscience are severely out of balance - in both directions. In narcissistic
vanity ("how great I art"), the will and the ego are imbalanced in the direction of a person believing that
they are the universe instead of just having a place in it. The "dark night" is quite effective in dispelling
these false, narcissistic illusions but it may aggravate the other extreme. In masochistic vanity ("what a
miserable bag of dung I am"), the will and the ego are imbalanced in the direction of a person believing
that they have no place in the universe when in fact everyone does. Given enough time, the spirit
emerges reborn from the "dark night" into a centered, balanced state of self esteem.
3> THE PROBLEM OF INTOLERANCE & THE ROAD TO ACCEPTANCE
Source: Causal (Karmic) Body - Problem: Intolerance - Solution: Tolerance
"The highest result of education is tolerance." (Helen Keller) For tolerance is learned after we have
gone through many lifetimes and have at one time been all things. For the smallest particle of
intolerance is all it takes to keep one from transcending the human consciousness. Perhaps the most
difficult thing that the "dark night" has to teach is tolerance for the God that "puts us through it". In the
supreme irony, it is this "dark night" process that burns the residue of intolerance from us. For if it did
not then we would never be able to get off the ever spinning wheel of death and rebirth.
4> THE PROBLEM OF UNFORGIVENESS & THE WAY OF UNDERSTANDING
Source: Astral (Emotional) Body - Problem: Unforgiveness - Solution: Forgiveness
"He that cannot forgive others, breaks the bridge over which he himself must pass if he would ever
reach heaven; for everyone has need to be forgiven." (George Herbert) In a universe that is constantly
evolving from darkness to light, it is inevitable that the pattern of the light will change from time to time
revealing new truths. What one did in a past life or earlier in the present life with full conviction that
they were doing right, can later be proved to be wrong. So forgiveness of one's self and others has been,
is, and always will be a part of human existence. Part of the "dark night" experience is forgiving
yourself for "that which you did and should not have been done" and "that which you did not do and
should have been done". One of the biggest surprises in the land of endless night is discovering that it is
much easier to forgive others than it is to forgive yourself.
5> THE PROBLEM OF HATE & THE PATH TO UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
Source: Physical (Matter) Body - Problem: Hate - Solution: Love
"Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do
that." (Martin Luther King Jr) This is because hate begets hate while love begets love. In the physical
world, it is remarkable how little it takes to hate someone else and how much it takes to love them. So
many are drawn to the Earth plane simply because these opportunities to experience the depths of love
and hate are so rich. Dragging hate into the "dark night" produces storms of such great magnitude they
feel as if they cannot be long endured. And yet they go on for as long as one clings to the hate that
powers them. That is why - it is often repeated here - that for any question - even the question of how to
escape the "dark night of Soul" - love is always the only answer.
6> THE PROBLEM OF PRIDE & THE SEARCH FOR BALANCED HUMILITY
Source: Crown Chakra - Problem: Pride - Solution: Balanced Humility
"Pride goes before destruction and a haughty spirit before a fall." (Joseph Addison) Our lives in the
universe are always lived along two tracks. The first is our individual journey as Soul through the
universe (personal karma) so we can become fully Self Realized. The second is our continuous
connection to the God Source (our Higher Self) and the collective consciousness so we can become
fully God Realized. Pride is an imbalance that results when the needs of the individual are always put
ahead of the needs of the collective universe. Humility is the opposite when the needs of the collective
universe are always put ahead of the needs of the individual. Pride leads to an individual being "burned
up" while humility leads to an individual being "burned out". The "dark night" often feels to the
individual that both things are happening to them as the same time so that the individual can come to a
place of humility where honoring oneself and the universe can be peacefully balanced.
7> THE PROBLEM OF GLUTTONY & THE MEANS OF SATISFACTION
Source: 3rd Eye Chakra - Problem: Gluttony - Solution: Satisfaction
"We are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful about what we pretend to be." (Kurt Vonnegut in
"Mother Night") Gluttony is all about pretense. Gluttons for food pretend it fills them with comfort and
warmth. Gluttons for drink pretend it dulls their pain and loneliness. Gluttons for sex pretend it gives
them love. They gorge themselves on sensual pleasures so that they will not have to face how
unsatisfying their lives really are. The "dark night" intensifies these feelings until the Soul realizes that
what it is really missing is the love of God. For it is this divine love where true satisfaction really lays:
Raoul Wallenberg knew this as he spent his life in a Russian prison. Always happy, always smiling, he
knew the true satisfaction that being immersed in the love of God brings.
8> THE PROBLEM OF ENVY & THE ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE
Source: Throat Chakra - Problem: Envy - Solution: Gratitude
"Judge a man by his questions rather than his answers." (Francois Voltaire) For questions are always
more revealing than answers, just as speaking always reveals more about character and intention than
people realize. Of all the words we speak, those which damage ourselves the most are those we speak
in envy. For when we envy others, we tell ourselves that we are not good enough. For when we want
the gifts that others have, it means we cannot appreciate the gifts that we have been given. When we do
not appreciate our gifts, we cannot be grateful for them. When we are not grateful for them, the gifts
simply stop working for us. The power of spoken gratitude cannot be undervalued or underestimated.
For, if during the blackest part of the "dark night", you can shout from your heart that you are grateful
for the gifts it has given you - and mean it - you can start to be free from it.
9> THE PROBLEM OF ANGER & THE QUEST FOR INNER PEACE
Source: Heart Chakra - Problem: Anger - Solution: Calmness
"If there is anything better than to be loved, it is to be loving." (Anonymous) As it says in the Bible,
"love is always patient". Patience is mentioned first because it's opposite - impatience - is another word
for anger. For when anger strikes us, the first thing it shuts down is our ability to love both ourselves
and others. Anger is a wild animal that can push even the most rational among us to unthinking acts of
desperation. Yet the animal can be tamed with the collar of calmness which acts like a big bucket of
water on a raging fire: "calming one's perplexities, moderating one's anxieties, steadying the scales of
judgment, preserving one from exaggerated and rash actions." Calmness is also essential for our
survival in the "dark night". For lack of inner peace just feeds the power of the darkness while calmness
allows the warm rays of love to lighten and shorten our time there.
10> THE PROBLEM OF GREED & THE OPENING TO SELFHOOD
Source: Solar Plexus Chakra - Problem: Greed/Charity - Solution: Self Reliance
"I think that somehow, we learn who we really are and then live with that decision." (Eleanor Roosevelt)
What we come to see through the "dark night" is that the "good" and "bad" aspects of our character are
only value judgments that we place on ourselves. So it is with the concepts of greed and charity. Greed
is a bad thing when a few take all that there is for themselves and refuse to share their bounty with the
less fortunate masses. Greed is a good thing when it motivates people to provide goods and services
that are the best they can be. The same greed that says "I want it all for myself" also recognizes that "I
cannot get what I want unless I somehow serve others". Charity is a good thing when it helps those who
truly cannot help themselves. Charity is a bad thing when it keeps those who can help themselves in a
state of laziness and dependence. The same charity that says "let me help" also adds "let me help you
help yourself". In this light, it can be seen that the entire journey through the "dark night" is meant to
teach us self reliance and self dependence.
11> THE PROBLEM OF SLOTH & THE FIRM ROD OF DISCIPLINE
Source: Sacral Chakra - Problem: Sloth - Solution: Discipline
"A great sailor can sail even with a torn canvas." (Seneca) If the Earth can with a warning label it
would be this: "Do not enter here unless you are prepared to triumph over adversity". Ironically, this is
why most people come to the Earth: so that they can see how they will measure up to the ultimate tests
of discipline that this planet has to offer. Yet discipline is a virtue that must be drilled into an individual
because the central defining characteristic of humans in their natural state is sloth or laziness. If you
doubt this, just look around to see how many labor saving devices there are. Cars save us from driving,
washers and dryers save us from laundering, microwaves save us from real cooking, and so on. They
"save us" time so that we can have it to laze around the TV like couch potatoes. Yet in the land of
endless night, there is no place for sloth - there are just too many challenges. To survive them, grab
hold of the buoy of discipline for it alone will keep you afloat.
12> THE PROBLEM OF LUST & THE DEEP POOL OF COMPASSION
Source: Root Chakra - Problem: Lust - Solution: Compassion
"Empathy and fellow feeling form the very basis of morality." (Sissela Bok on "Compassion Fatigue")
Empathy, the ability to sympathize with and feel sorrow for the pain of another, is the biggest difference
between "regular" people and socio-paths (like serial killers, rapists, etc). For without empathy, man
would exist in a state of "his animal lusts" for power, sex, and money. History is full of examples of
ruthless dictators exercising their power solely for their own benefit and crushing others under in the
process. Police registers bulge with reports of sexual offenses both bizarre and terrifying. The press
just loves to leap onto stories about "misconduct with money" as in con men bilking widows out of their
life savings. Karma eventually balances the scales with the former victimizers becoming victims in later
lives. Not surprisingly, those who did the most hurting in one life and come back to be the most hurt in
the next, are those who develop the deepest compassion for others. Part of what we all must experience
in the "dark night" is to see and to own how our actions have effected others so that we can move
forward with love and compassion.
Rules of the House #5: Rules for Intimate Relationships
(adapted from the Course in Joint Ventures and Strategic Alliances: "8 Is that Create Successful WE"s
and from The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman)
First forget all you have been taught about "The Rules" (about how women trap men) and "The Code" (about
how men trap women). These are the 12 "Is" that create truly lasting and harmonious "Wes".
1> INDIVIDUAL EXCELLENCE
Both partners are individually strong and whole. The partners are together primarily because they want
to be together (sharing strength) rather than needing to be together (overcoming weakness).
2> INTEGRITY
Both partners act honestly and honorably toward one another at all times. Each partner always has the
others best interests at heart and demonstrates their love by actions consistent with words.
3> IMPORTANCE
Both partners give to each other what is easy and natural for them to give because their relationship is
very important to each one. Both partners share the deepest love and respect for one another.
4> IN LOVE MODE
Both partners continually express their affection in one of the "Five Languages of Love": Words of
Love, Gifts of Devotion, Acts of Service, Sharing of Quality Time, and Intimate Physical Touch.
5> INTERDEPENDENCE
Both partners feel that they need one another. Both feel that they are extraordinarily lucky to be in the
relationship. Both partners feel privileged to be making their journey together through life.
6> INDEPENDENCE
Both partners agree on the space and time that is necessary for each to pursue individual interests. As
each partner honors their own uniqueness, that in turn strengthens their relationship.
7> INFORMATION
Both partners are constantly communicating and genuinely enjoy sharing every aspect of life. The
communication is open, honest, and free flowing. There are no secrets (well, no important ones).
8> INVESTMENT
Both partners make a lasting and sincere commitment to one another. Each invests their time, their
love, and their heart in the other. This investment is made willingly and returns great "dividends".
9> INTEGRATION
Both partners are joined at many levels. This integration includes constant sharing of leisure time,
sharing of living space, sharing of money, sharing of tasks, and, of course, sharing of love.
10> INSTITUTIONALIZATION
Both partners have "instituted" a formal commitment to one another. This institutionalization is usually
marriage but can be a "common law" arrangement or a contract governing living together.
11> INFORMALITY
Both partners must feel at home in each others hearts. This means that each partner must feel and must
be completely safe and comfortable in "letting their hair down" around the other.
12> IN MOTION
Both partners must treat their relationship like a garden: it must be fed and nurtured constantly.
Problems must be rooted out immediately. New items should be added periodically for variety. 11
Rules of the House #29: "Finding Selves Unimaginably Mine": The Rules of Soulmates
(adapted from channeled information and the love of my Beloved Darling)
"...losing through you what seemed myself, i find selves unimaginably mine; beyond sorrow's own joys and
hopings very fears yours is the light by which my spirit's born: yours is the darkness of my soul's return... you
are my sun, my moon, and all my stars."
- e. e. cummings
"Losing through you what seemed myself, I find selves unimaginably mine..." sums up how our Soulmates help
us to learn and grow in love, joy, and awareness. At bottom this is why the drive for union with one's
"Soulmate" is so strong, so compelling, and so universal. To properly understand how our Soulmates effect us,
we must first understand the types of "soulmates" that we will encounter in our journey as Soul.
1> Partners in Hate: Believe it or not, those that you hate with all the intensity of your being are one group of
your soulmates. Those we hate are our soulmates in the sense that they continually cross our soul's path lifetime
after lifetime. For it is the hatred for one another that sticks you together like glue until you can understand and
release the hate that binds you. Many times we hate in others what we really hate in ourselves. Those we hate
actually help us to embrace those aspects of our character we find it hard to love.
2> Partners in Love: Those we love in even the smallest degree are another group of our soulmates. Again
these become our soulmates because of the love binding us together. Our partners in love - and hate - most
often come to us as parents, siblings, spouses, and children. Those we love show us what we should love in
ourselves. They serve to remind us about those aspects of our character that we should love and cherish. For it
is all too easy to "eliminate the positive, and accentuate the negative" while we are here on Earth.
3> The One and Only: When people commonly yearn for their Soulmate, what they are really yearning for is
"the one and only" person who can make them complete. This is their Bashert (the Hebrew word meaning one's
predestined mate). When we are with our "Bashert", we realize that we are "two halves of the same person".
Our "Bashert" gives us the opportunity to grow in love like no other person can. So when we speak of how "our
soulmates can help us", we are referring how our "Bashert" can help us grow as Soul.
1> OUR SOULMATES HELP US TO BECOME DIVINE LOVE
We learn to love in the same way we learn to do anything else. We start with simple things and work
our way to the more advanced. In other words, we start by learning to love our "Bashert" which is the
easiest person in the universe to love. We advance by learning to love "our partners in love". We
graduate by learning to love "our partners in hate". In the end, we learn to love everyone as well as we
love our "Bashert" because, in the larger scheme of things, we are all one.
It is easy to love our "Bashert" because, of all the Souls in the universe, they are the true other half of
ourselves. This is not to say that we will never experience any difficulties with our "Bashert" (we will).
The difference is that our "Bashert" stands closest to the wellspring of all our love... which is
God/Goddess/AllThatIs. Since our "Bashert" occupies that central space in our universe, they can "push
us" like no other into taking our ability to love to ever deeper levels.
When we are with our "Bashert", we find that we are overwhelmed by love. Their love is like sunshine
constantly beaming it's warming rays of love on our Soul and nourishing us so that we can be the best
we are capable of being. Living in that love opens our hearts to everyone and everything around us.
We come to feel that "all's right in the world" and, because we feel that way, all becomes right in our
world. We are in love all the time so that we can be love all the time. It is in this "being love all the
time" that we grow eventually to "become Divine Love." And it is this love that lies at the beginning
and end of our journey as Soul through the universe.
2> OUR SOULMATES HELP US TO FIND JOY IN EVERY MOMENT
When we are with our "Bashert", our life is better even if it does not change at all in any outward
respect. We find ourselves better able to bear things we would find unbearable on our own. Jobs that
we hate do not seem so burdensome. People who bother us seem less annoying. Chronic health
problems seem easier to endure. Our "Bashert" makes us glad to come home and sorry to have to leave.
Just knowing there is someone out there who is on our side no matter what we do, who will support us
no matter what happens to us, and who will always totally understand our point of view no matter how
others choose to misunderstand us eases our journey immensely. By helping us to love, our "Bashert"
leads us to our joy. Our unconscious knowledge that endless joy is out there for us just waiting to be
discovered is what compels us to seek out reunion with our "Bashert".
3> OUR SOULMATES HELP US TO CONNECT WITH OUR OWN TRUTH
Often what some view as difficulties with their "Bashert" is when they help us to our own truth. For
they know us so well that there is no room in this relationship for anything but truth. The moment we
deviate from our truth our "Bashert" is there to catch us and gently tap us on the shoulder to remind us
that we have deviated. They do this not because they are the "Karma Police" but because they want
what is best for us. And what is best for us is always based in the truth. Since they stand so close to us
and yet outside of us, they can see it better than we do. And because we love them so very much, we
are ready to listen to the truth from them in a way we would not listen to others.
4> OUR SOULMATES HELP US TO FIND COURAGE TO BECOME OUR DESTINY
Looking from the outside, others often believe that our destiny was so obvious as to be inevitable. Yet
the truth is that destiny is seldom obvious and never inevitable. It takes courage for anyone to go out
and claim it. Often, it is our "Bashert's" love, help, and support that gives us the power, the courage,
and the ability to go out and claim our destiny. Their belief in us helps us to believe in ourselves
especially when all others around us are discouraging and/or sabotaging us. Their love gives us the
courage to "press on" when we find nothing else inside to keep us going.
5> OUR SOULMATES HELP US TO LEARN TO TRUST UNCONDITIONALLY
Beyond courage, trust is essential for us to claim our destiny. For if we did not trust that it was at all
possible to turn our dreams into reality, we would never pursue them in the first place. There is nothing
so inspirational as to look deeply into the eyes on one's "Bashert" and see there how you can do
anything that you have resolved to do. There is nothing so vital as to know that even if you fall, you
will land in the open arms of your "Bashert" and all will be understood and accepted. For it is this
unconditional pool of trust that underlies all accomplishment and enables us to dare, to try, and to
succeed or fail after having given it our all. It is this trust that our "Bashert" always has our best
interests at heart that helps us to expand this trust outwards to others, to the universe, and to God.
6> OUR SOULMATES HELP US TO LIVE OUR PURPOSE IN LIFE
When each of us comes to the Earth, we come with several purposes. We all come with general
purposes to unwind our karma, to come into closer relation with God (which is true even if we choose
the path of an atheist!), and to grow in love, joy, and awareness. Yet we also come to fulfill a special
purpose in life, one that we are uniquely suited to fulfill, one that is our destiny. So if we are fortunate
enough to find our destiny and courageous enough to embrace it, there is still the matter of "staying the
course". Living one's destiny - day after day, year after year, life after life - is made possible - and even
joyful - if one is permitted to share it with one's "Bashert". "For when two hearts as one unite, the road
is made easier, the burden made light" (Amish Proverb).
7> OUR SOULMATES HELP US TO MANIFEST ABUNDANT LIVES
Only when our lives are full of love are they truly abundant. For "money cannot buy happiness... it
cannot even rent it", it can only fill one's life with experiences and possessions that are incomplete
without another to share it with. The simple truth is that one can be happier living with their "Bashert"
in a hovel than with royalty they do not love in a Palace (like Princess Diana).
8> OUR SOULMATES HELP US TO BECOME CLEAR CHANNELS FOR GOD
As we pursue our destiny, seek our fortune, and walk our path, we gain the experience that we need to
become fully realized CoWorkers with God. When our "Bashert" loves, helps, and support us on our
journey through life, they are actually helping to prepare us for this greater destiny. As they help us to
see ourselves more clearly, they help us to see the world more clearly. In turn this makes us clearer
channels in spreading the Divine Love (that God has for everyone) to those around us.
9> OUR SOULMATES HELP US TO "KISS: KEEP IT SIMPLE"
Particularly as we succeed along our path, we encounter temptations to "believe our own press" and to
think that "we have become larger than life." Our "Basherts", knowing us all too well, help to keep us
grounded and to "keep it real". In other words, to "KISS" us - to "keep it simple, stupid!" There is
nothing like a "swift kick in the butt" from our "Bashert" to put us on the right track!
10> OUR SOULMATES HELP US TO BECOME GENTLE & COMPASSIONATE
The Golden Rule would work so much better if it read this way: "Do unto others as you would do unto
the person you loved most in the world, your 'Bashert'!" The overflowing love that we have for our
"Bashert" is often what enables us to develop our own qualities of gentleness and compassion. Loving
them as we do, we cannot help but be gentle and compassionate with our "Bashert". The more we learn
to treat them with loving kindness, the more we can treat others with gentleness.
11> OUR SOULMATES HELP US TO LEARN GRATITUDE
Once you have been reunited with your "Bashert" - trust me - you cannot help but be daily grateful for
the blessing of having them in your life. Being permitted to spend your life with your "Bashert" is the
greatest gift that can be given to anyone in any given lifetime. If you are fortunate enough to be
presently reunited with your "Bashert", stop now and give thanks for the miracle and the gifts they are
giving you daily. If you are presently parted, stop now and express gratitude for knowing that such a
person exists for you somewhere in the universe and for someday being reunited.
12> OUR SOULMATES HELP US TO ACHIEVE BALANCE
Being balanced means becoming truly ourselves - "finding the selves that are unimaginably mine" by
becoming first fully Self Realized and then fully God Realized. For that is the greatest gift that our
"Bashert" bring us: allowing us to see and embrace the full totality of ourselves through their eyes. For
as our "Bashert" loves us, do we truly learn to love ourselves, do we truly see ourselves in a balanced
way, and do we truly come into our own. In balance, we are neither "narcissist" (loving the self too
much) nor "masochist" (loving the self too little). We are "whole being" appreciating ourselves simply
for all of who and what we are over many lifetimes... the core essence of ourselves. We see ourselves as
our "Bashert" has always known us to be.
So what we are doing for our "Bashert" as they are doing all this for us? We are helping them in the same way...
our love for them makes it easy and natural for us to do so. I know this is true... for these rules have sprung
from the deep love my "Bashert" and I have shared through many lives. I thank you, my dearest!
Rules of the House #10: Numbers as Building Blocks of the Universe
(adapted from "A Beginners Guide to the Universe" by Michael S. Schneider)
"Number is the within of all things" (attributed to Pythagoras, Greek Philosopher) it is a key which helps to
unlock the mysteries and secrets of the universe. If certain numbers "resonate" with you perhaps it is because
they have lessons to teach you or because they are showing you who you already are
1> ONE MONAD THE INFINITE CIRCLE UNITY: THE WHOLE IN ONE
"You cannot conceive of the many without the one" (Plato) because "all are but parts of one stupendous
whole" (Alexander Pope). "The discovery and appreciation of the circle is our early glimpse into the
wholeness, unity, and divine order of the universe". (Schneider)
2> TWO DYAD THE ENDLESS LINE - POLARITY & DUALITY: BIRTH OF ALL
"Our mind divides the world into heaven and earth, day and night, light and darkness, right and left,
man and woman, I and you and the more strongly we sense the separation between these two poles
the more powerfully do we also sense their power" in the birth of all. (Karl Menninger)
3> THREE TRIAD THE TRIANGLE ROCK THE BEGINNING, MIDDLE, END
"A whole is that which has a beginning, a middle, and an end" (Aristotle) for it is the "three that
engenders all things" (Tao Te Ching) and is "the formula of all creation" (Balzac). For it is the three
that is the binding element that resolves the natural tension between opposite poles.
4> FOUR TETRAD THE SOLID SQUARE ITS ALL TOTALLY ELEMENTAL
"Behold heaven and nature and all the elements fire, air, water, and earth - for of these are all things
created". (Thomas a Kempis) "The worlds originate so that truth may come and dwell there in"
(Confucius) the square of equality, reliability, fairness, firmness, and solidity.
5> FIVE - PENTAD THE SHINING STAR SPIRALLING REGENERATION
"Avoid extremes keep the Golden Mean" (Cleobulus of Lindus) which is five in the scale of one to
nine: the point of regeneration. "Everyone wants to be associated with excellence the five pointed
stars appeal emerges in the ceremonious respect accorded to stars on flags". (Schneider)
6> SIX HEXAD THE HEX APPEAL STRUCTURE TO FUNCTION TO ORDER
"And God saw everything that He had made, and behold, it was very good it was the sixth day. Thus
were finished the heavens and earth and all their host". (Genesis 1). "Hexagons appear endlessly in
human inventions, providing the greatest structure-function-order". (Schneider)
7> SEVEN HEPTAD - THE PERFECT IMBALANCE PORTALS TO PARADISE
"Wisdom hath builded her house, she hath hewn out her seven pillars" (Proverbs) which are the seven
energy chakras. These energy chakras are the portals by which paradise the Energy of God enters
your body-mind. Seven sided objects are the only ones where the sides can never be equal.
8> EIGHT OCTAD - THE PUREST SYMMETRY REPEATING RESONANCES
"The noble Eightfold way is: right views, right intention, right speech, right action, right livelihood,
right effort, right mindfulness, right concentration". (Buddha) It is the eight sided octagon that brings
perfect symmetry and balance to energy of space in the Bagua of Feng Shui.
9> NINE ENNEAD THE POINTS OF POWER - HORIZONS OF WISDOM
"Nine flows around the other numbers in the Ten like an ocean". (Nichomachus) Nine is "the horizon
which lies at the edge of the shore before the boundless ocean of numbers that repeat in endless cycles
the principles of the first nine digits". (Schneider) It is the final frontier.
10> TEN DECAD INTO THE GREAT BEYOND BEGIN ALL OVER AGAIN
"Leaving the old, both worlds at once 10 views: it stands upon the threshold of the new".(Waller)
Rules of the House #23: The Root of All Accomplishment: The Spiritual Energy of Money
(adapted from "The Energy of Money: A Spiritual Path Toward Personal & Financial Fulfillment" by
Maria Nemeth and "Creating Money" by Sanaya Roman and Duane Packer)
In the physical world, if you have a relationship with nothing else, you will have a relationship with money. Go
through the day and notice how almost every moment of every day is intimately connected with either the
getting or spending of money. Most days you go to work to earn the money that you will inevitably need to
spend. Whether you live in a house or an apartment, each day that passes means you have used up one more day
of your mortgage or rent payment. Try taking a bus, riding a train, or driving your car without spending any
money. Not to mention having a physical body which has an annoying habit of wanting to be fed and clothed
every day. If you have a job you hate, money is keeping you there. Because money is everywhere you want to
be, past lives usually have strongly dominated your attitudes toward it. Worse, past lives may be keeping you
from the enjoying the abundance of the universe which - believe it or not - is your birthright. So learning these
rules of money becomes a very necessary - and lucrative - pursuit.
1> MONEY IS THE MEANS OF ABUNDANCE, FREEDOM IS THE GOAL
Every day, all the time, everyone always wants more money. People will go to enormous lengths to get
it... even going so far as to marry a multi-millionaire! Yet often these self same people end up believing
that money is the goal when the real goal is freedom. For money gives an individual freedom to move
around in the world: whether it ranges from exploring and healing one's karma to simply the desire to
have fun. Money frees one from having to struggle to put food on their table, clothes on their back, or a
roof over their heads. Money frees one from being "trapped" in abusive relationships, unsatisfying jobs,
unproductive ways of life and from fending off fears that someday, somehow, somewhere there will
never be enough. Money frees one from existing in "Scare City" (scarcity) to living in "Magnified
Sense" (magnificence). Simply put, money makes life much easier because it gives a person the means
to fulfill whatever desires God has implanted inside them.
2> MONEY IS THE MEANS FOR MAGNIFIED PURPOSEFUL LIVING
Fulfilling the desires of God is what money is all about. No one knew that better than Mother Theresa
of Calcutta. She lived simply in the worst slums in the poorest part of the industrialized world and
successfully carried out her mission of healing the sick and caring for the needy. Pennies did not rain
down from heaven enabling her to do this charitable work. On the contrary, Mother Theresa was an
efficient and skillful fund raiser who went to wherever the money was. She raised millions of dollars
both in the United States and in Europe to fund her work in India. Money did not detract from her
amazing spirituality one bit. In my opinion, Mother Theresa is one of the most magnificent models of
magnified, abundant, and purposeful living from the 20th Century.
3> THE KARMA OF MONEY CORRECTS IMBALANCES IN IT'S USE
Having taken the vows of poverty in many religious lifetimes, the following Biblical passages are
tattooed into my cellular memory. You may have heard that "Money is the root of all evil" and "It is
easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of heaven".
Yet, in looking closer, for those of us who are ex-Biblical scholars, it is really "for the lust after money
that is the root of all evil" and "it is easier for a camel than a puffed up man" to reach Heaven. The
difference in translation, in both cases, clearly states that the imbalance existing in the individual's use
of and regard for money is the true problem. For when money is spitefully kept from those who need it,
when it is used as a weapon to hurt others, when it becomes more important than love, God, and dear
ones, when it makes us think that we are in fact God, it is a real problem. This imbalance is quite easily
corrected by karma as when "rich men" who have used money in a "puffed up" way incarnate into their
next lives as "deflated, poor men" to balance the scales.
4> MONEY IS JUST ANOTHER FORM OF ENERGY & GOD'S LOVE
Those who by karma evolve to a more balanced view of money realize that it is just another aspect of
the energy of spirit made visible in form. The energy of spirit takes on many forms in the physical
world: like love, time, space, and nature to name a few. No one ever says: "it is bad to have more love
in my life... or more time, or more space, or more natural resources that are freely abundant to
everyone" like air, sunshine, and so on. In fact, people desperately seek love, take time for granted,
occupy space without really noticing it, and ignore nature unless it gets in the way. No one says "give
me less love, less time, less space, and while you are at it, cut down on the air I need to have every
moment and without which I will be dead in three minutes". Yet these same people say give me less
money when they believe that it is "evil" and will keep them from "being a good person" or from
"becoming more spiritual". Was Buddha corrupted by wealth he was born into? No, he gave it up for
spirit. Was Jesus corrupted by the manifesting abundant food for his audience? Certainly not.
5> FINANCIAL BARRIERS ARE JUST OPPORTUNITIES IN DISGUISE
Take the case of Roberta Guaspari, the violin teacher who started a music program for the inner city
children of Harlem, NY, and upon whose life the movie "Music of the Heart" was based. When the
funding was cut for her violin program by the school system, she fought to save it by putting on a recital
featuring performances by her best students. Despite initial enthusiasm, the recital was nearly cancelled
when the appointed theatre suffered flooding. Yet at that moment, Carnegie Hall, hearing of her heroic
efforts, offered her their space for free and recruited several internationally renowned musicians to
appear with the students. The recital was successful enough to keep Guaspari's music program going
for another three years. This attracted the movie and now the future of her music program is virtually
guaranteed. This all resulted from financial barriers paving the road to success.
6> MONEY IS ONE FORM OF ABUNDANCE: PEOPLE ARE THE TRUE ABUNDANCE
When people focus on manifesting money alone, they limit the abundance that the universe can provide.
For abundance is much more than money, it is personal qualities such as physical gifts like health,
strength, and athletic skills or mental gifts like talents, skills, knowledge or emotional gifts like really
getting along with and influencing others. Of these, the greatest gift is connecting with others. For no
one can do or know everything on their own. The greatest abundance of all is knowing others who can
and will help you reach your goals as you help them reach theirs. That is why the Internet is so
powerful because it provides a way for people to more easily exchange abundance. The ancient Chinese
knew this and it is why their symbol for abundance is many people pulling together.
7> HELPFULNESS IS THE SECRET TO MANIFESTING MONEY & ABUNDANCE
If you want to know the secret to success in business it is this: "that you get what you want from life by
helping others get what they want from life". It is just that simple. Those who serve the most people
get the most money. Look around you and you will see that the businesses which are the most
successful are those which offer a superior product, at attractive prices, with great customer support, and
a genuine commitment to customer satisfaction. All this springs from their core desire to serve others
to best of their ability. The motivation for this is often just money but those that succeed the most link
their motivation to love. This ironically is a very logical proposition: that if love is the most powerful
force in the universe and if it is very strongly linked to a money making goal, then that goal will be
fulfilled abundantly and the money will flow like water!
8> ABUNDANCE DRIVES YOU TO BECOME MORE OF WHO YOU ARE
For many, the greatest block to manifesting greater levels of money and abundance in their life is
actually the fear that abundance will in fact drive them to become more of who they already are.
They fear that it will magnify their shortcomings (as in becoming a mental wreck like multi-billionaire
Howard Hughes who died alone in rags and filth because his money supported his aberrations). They
forget that it also magnifies their strengths (like Oprah Winfrey, Montel Williams, or Tom Cruise who
have been known to be generous with both their money and their time to those in true need). The truth
is that money is much like a gun or a knife in that it's results depends on whose hands it is in. The same
gun that can be used to defend a loved one from harm can be used to hold up a liquor store. The same
money that can be used to get medicine for a dying spouse can be given to a hit man to blow that spouse
away. If you cannot trust yourself with more money, the best use you can make of the money you do
have is to find out why and solve that disempowering problem.
9> YOU ARE THE SOURCE OF YOUR OWN ABUNDANCE
Those is the technical fields know this truth all too well. If they do not like the job they are in and if the
technical skills they possess are in demand, they will attract another, better job quickly and easily. For
they are the source of their own abundance: getting and maintaining their skills is the true source. The
truth is that everyone has something which they can do particularly well. Finding out what that is
means looking no farther than to what they like to do or what they can do particularly well. For it is the
joyful exercise of God given skills and abilities which leads to the greatest abundance of all.
10> DO WHAT YOU LOVE AND TRUST THE MONEY WILL FOLLOW
If you have never read the book by Marsha Sinetar, "Do What You Love and the Money Will Follow", I
strongly recommend that you do so. Trust is the key to this process working and it is a process. To do
what you love, you must first find what that is. Once you have found it, you must honor it by doing it
wherever and whenever you can. Once you have honored it, you must pursue it in earnest if you truly
wish to succeed. By pursuing it, you must love it with your heart and soul. If you do not love it, you
will not be able to push through the obstacles and barriers that arise so that you can see the gifts they are
trying to bring you. What makes this work is the underlying trust that you can succeed, that you deserve
to prosper, and that the support that you need will come to you. This is where faith in "the substance of
things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen" pays off.
11> THE ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE KEEPS THE MONEY FLOWING
It is amazing to me how many doors the words "Please" and "Thank You" can open. It is even more
amazing how often people fail to use these simple keys to success to open doors for them. Think about
how you feel when someone thanks you: how it motivates you to do more for them. This is how the
universe works as well: the attitude of gratitude keeps the abundance of the universe flowing in endless
circles. Victoria Pendragon said it best: "All of life is an energy exchange. If we did not eat things that
were alive, we would perish. Likewise, all effort extended is extended for a reward. The reward may be
psychological, spiritual, or financial, but without something coming back to 'feed' us, we would
eventually have to stop extending the effort. We would just run out of energy."
12> BE READY AT ALL TIMES TO MOVE TO YOUR HIGHER PURPOSE
Think of the richest people in the world who you see doing work. What motivates them to keep on
going long after they have abundant money for all they want and need? Like anything else, it is love.
For it is love that draws people inexorably to their higher purpose. Take Oprah Winfrey's show for
example. In the beginning, the show was like most other talk shows about the racy, the unusual, the
titillating. Then, after awhile, the show grew successful and evolved into the exploration of more
meaningful and uplifting topics. This was a conscious choice on Oprah's part and although it led to less
"success" ratings wise, she was moving ever closer to her higher purpose thereby gaining more
"success" from a universal perspective by spreading higher consciousness to the masses. In the final
analysis, that is what all of us are here to do for one another: to help one another find God.
Rules of the House #33: "Let Everything Be Your Signature": The Rules of Doing God's Work
(inspired by Jim Harmon's "Spiritual Healing" and adapted from channeled information)
Artists sign their work because they are proud of their achievement. Contrast that to most corporate workers are
reluctant to write much because at heart they do not want their names associated with what they do. The "it's
just a job, who cares" attitude ensures that unsatisfying, Soul numbing work will cling to them as long as they
have that attitude. Yet attitudes can be changed and when you start doing everything as if you would be
proud to sign it miracles will manifest. To understand this better, let's look at the spiritual principles behind
work everyone is familiar with websites. After all, websites are truly one's signature to the world.
1> SIGNATURE WORK HONORS WHO IT SERVES
The World Wide Web is the electronic embodiment of the fact that everyone everywhere is very
intimately connected. Whether you like it or not, or believe it or not, you are part of the vast collective
consciousness of the universe. What you do - every action, every thought, every feeling - effects others
just as they effect you. Those who are put their hearts into their websites and have a genuine desire to
serve others, always have the best sites with the most traffic. They attract traffic because they honor
who they serve and, in return, they are honored with work, money, praise, insights, you name it. And
because they attract traffic they are here to stay while those without heart either are suddenly pulled
or slowly die the death of a thousand broken links.
2> SIGNATURE WORK COMES FROM DOING WHAT YOU LOVE
The greatest tragedy of modern society is that most view work as a chore and not as a joy. And yet who
are the highest paid, happiest people on Earth? Those who do what they love and love what they do.
Take the Oscars: every year without fail someone will say "I cannot believe that I am getting paid so
much money to do what I love!" The truth is their love for their work paid off and attracted that money
to them! Just as on one money making website, the webmasters proudly declare "you all know that
when your heart is singing and you hear an inner call, you must do what makes you the happiest, and
that's what our site does for us!!!" Do what you love and the money will follow!
3> SIGNATURE WORK IS VALUABLE AND NOT FOR FREE
Nothing is free. Take healing: it starts as a gift but to continue along this path, the healing gift must be
nurtured by training and practice. Take websites: they offer free information and resources but they too
must be maintained by the payment of hosting fees and technical support costs. And yet the same
people who benefit from the free information are the first to complain about sites that contain
commercial advertising and the last to be courteous and sign a guestbook. The spiritual truth is that
those who want something for nothing always take and never give while those who put out something
for nothing always give and never take. Sites and people that give too much get burned out and close up
shop. Sites and people that take too much get a bad reputation and close up too. The only thing that
works is balance sometimes giving, sometimes taking as is appropriate. Sites and people which
take this balanced view are the ones who do succeed in the long run.
4> SIGNATURE WORK EMPOWERS WHO IT SERVES
Together everyone achieves more: teams of people usually accomplish more than individuals do. Quite
simply, strength comes from shared power. Take the Internet: the simple act of linking is the best way
to empower our sites and others at the same time. Not only does linking help to improve a site's
standings in search engines, it draws quality traffic to our sites. The truth is it is better to get 50 hits
from a good link that generates 20 customers than 1,000 hits from a search engine that generates no
customers. The secret to creating wealth is people helping empower other people look at the top
businesses in any industry and you will see that the good, helpful guys are those who finish first.
5> SIGNATURE WORK COMES FROM PURE INTENTIONS
It is a fact of life that what you get out of it is what you put into it. The real reasons that you do what
you do is really what drives your success or assures your failure. Take the case of Meta Tags, those
"hidden" words on a web page that are used by "robots" and "spiders" of search engines to classify and
rank your page. Many use tips and tricks to try and bend robots and spiders to their will but the search
engines are not fooled and neither is the universe tricksters only fool themselves.
6> SIGNATURE WORK PROVIDES VALUE FOR MONEY SPENT
People spend money for a lot of reasons most of which boil down to one. They perceive - rightly or
wrongly - that what they are receiving is more valuable to them than the money they are spending.
Where no value is perceived, no money will be spent. Take web directories that charge for listings,
especially those not among the first 30 on major search engines. Most of them have few listings and
fewer still which renew the next year. Why? Because the best directories provide free listings and
instead cover their costs by advertising. The "free directories" can attract advertisers because their
directory services draw in quality traffic both from those providing and those searching for services.
7> SIGNATURE WORK PROVIDES VALUE FOR TIME SPENT
Believe it or not, people are more ready to spend money than time. Take web surfers: most will look at
the home page of website and decide in 30 seconds or less if they want to "waste any time" on it.
People will decide instantly not to waste their time if they see graphics that do not load, home pages that
go on forever, disorganized content, or graphics created by two year olds. Sites like that scream "I don't
care, why should you?" and yet these webmasters wonder why their sites get no traffic. Duh!
8> SIGNATURE WORK IS WELL ORGANIZED
The first way to provide value is to make sure that whatever you do - your work or your website - it well
organized. Taking the time to set things up so that people can find what they are looking for quickly
and easily shows you are respecting the gift of the time and attention they are giving you.
9> SIGNATURE WORK HAS ACCURATE CONTENT
The second way to provide value is to make sure that the content of your work is as accurate as you can
make it. Of course, there will be mistakes and when others point them out, be gracious about it and
correct them as quickly as you can. For your site is only as good as the information it spreads!
10> SIGNATURE WORK HAS QUALITY CONTENT
The third way to provide value is to make sure that "quality goes in before the name goes on." Quality
content is meant to help others to solve a problem or just feel good. The universe does not need another
"buy my book, worship me" website it needs more sites with "love, sweet love"!
11> SIGNATURE WORK HAS A GOOD APPEARANCE
The fourth way to provide value is to make sure that "you put your best foot forward" at all times. Fix
those typos, clean up those graphics, and remove those words that do not show love.
12> SIGNATURE WORK EXPRESSES PERSONAL PRIDE & UNIQUENESS
The best way to provide value is to show the world your heart. There is no one like you in the universe!
Be proud of that and show us all how we can share in and celebrate your uniqueness!
About the Author
Ellen Mogensen came into her present lifetime crippled by unhealed wounds carried over from a series of past
military and religious lifetimes. These past wounds manifested in Ellen's present reality as fibromyalgia,
chronic fatigue, recurring bronchitis, severe back, neck, and leg pain, myopia, insomnia, sleep apnea,
debilitating allergies, and obesity. Over ten years of traditional medicine, seven years of chiropractic, and three
years of acupressure only temporarily alleviated her persistent symptoms.
After two years of past life healing, Ellen finally found relief from her previously unsolvable problems. While
healing herself, she developed the ability to channel past lives for others.
Since 1996, Ellen has helped her clients to heal physical problems like chronic fatigue, "untreatable" chronic
pain, insomnia, obesity, and hyperactivity. She has also facilitated healing of mental and emotional issues such
as life long depression, chronic anxiety, obsessive-compulsive habits, phobia, paranoia, eating disorders,
relationship problems, sexual dysfunction, and chronic overspending.
While doing her Past Life work, Ellen naturally evolved her ability to channel the Higher Selves of others.
Doing this work, she has been able to guide others in attaining a higher perspective on issues in their lives today.
The wisdom from these sessions was compiled and made available in eBook form as "Rules of the House".
In 2000, Ellen launched www.healpastlives.com, one of the largest sites on the Internet dedicated to past life
healing, karma, and reincarnation. At over 300 pages, her site is the largest free resource of past life healing
information and exercises. It has consistently been ranked in the top ten worldwide by Google and Yahoo. The
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