Cinderella complex

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This article is about the syndrome. For the song, see C\C (Cinderella\Complex).
Not to be confused with Cinderella effect.
The Cinderella complex was first described by Colette Dowling,
[1]
who wrote a book on
women's fear of independence - an unconscious desire to be taken care of by others. The
complex is said to become more apparent as a person grows older.
The complex is named after the fairy tale character Cinderella. It is based on the idea of
femininity portrayed in that story, where a woman is beautiful, graceful, polite, supportive,
hardworking, independent, and maligned by the females of her society, but she is not
capable of changing her situations with her own actions and must be helped by an outside
force, usually a male (i.e. the Prince).
Contents
1 Criticism
2 Defence
3 See also
4 References
5 Further reading
Criticism
Feminist women can be taken aback to find that, after taking steps to extend their own
autonomous presence in the world, they may still find themselves hankering for
rescue/support from some external force
[2]
- still tempted into dependency.
[3]
This
phenomenon or syndrome becomes particularly significant with regard to the question of
why women may choose to stay in dysfunctional relationships.
[citation needed]

Defence
Others point to Ronald Fairbairn's concept of mature dependency,
[4]
to challenge cultural
disparagement of dependency in favor of an ideal of isolated independence.
[5]
Carol
Gilligan's championship of a web of connections as a feminist goal,
[6]
rather than the
solitary male hero, is also invoked to defend the Cinderella complex's tendency to define
the self in terms of a mate/settled relationship.
[7]

See also
Bridget Jones
Family nexus
Pamela, or Virtue Rewarded
Sibling rivalry
References
1. Colette Dowling (1981). The Cinderella Complex: Women's Hidden Fear of
Independence. Simon & Schuster. ISBN 0-671-73334-6.
2. Y. Inoue-Smith, A Shadow of Mist () p. 26
3. Judith Viorst, Necessary Losses (2010) p. 119
4. Judith Viorst, Necessary Losses (2010) p. 120
5. Adam Phillips, On Flirtation (1994) p. 53
6. Judith Viorst, Necessary Losses (2010) p. 120
7. R. J. Corsini, A Dictionary of Psychology (1999) p. 166
Further reading
S. Palm/I. Brewer, The Cinderella Syndrome (1979)
Anthony Wilden (1987). Man and Woman, War and Peace: The Strategist's
Companion. Routledge. p. 85. ISBN 0-7100-9867-7.
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Cinderella (1697) (Disney franchise)
Characters
Buttons
Cinderella
Ugly sisters
Fairy godmother
Wicked stepmother
Prince Charming

Films
Cinderella (1899 French)
Cinderella (1914 silent)
Ella Cinders (1926 silent)
The Cookie Carnival (1935)
The Magic Shoes (1935)
First Love (1939)
Cinderella (1947 Russian)
Sepia Cinderella (1947)
Cinderella (1950)
The Glass Slipper (1955)
Cinderfella (1960)
Stop! Look! and Laugh! (1960)
More Than a Miracle (1967)
Ti oky pro Popelku (1973 Czech-German)
The Slipper and the Rose (1976)
Cinderella (1979 Russian)
Cinderella (1994)
Ever After (1998)
A Cinderella Story (2004)
Ella Enchanted (2004)
Cinderella (2006 Korean)
Elle: A Modern Cinderella Tale (2010)
Rags (2012)
Cinderella (2015)

Animation
Poor Cinderella (1934)
Cinderella Meets Fella (1938)
Swing Shift Cinderella (1945)
Cinderella (1950)
Seorella and the Glass Huarache (1964)
Cinderella (1979)
The Tender Tale of Cinderella Penguin (1981)
The Magic Riddle (1991)
Happily N'Ever After (2007)
Year of the Fish (2008)

Sequels
Cinderella II: Dreams Come True (2002)
Cinderella III: A Twist in Time (2007)
Another Cinderella Story (2008)
A Cinderella Story: Once Upon a Song (2011)

Television
Hey, Cinderella! (1968)
Cindy (1978)
Cinderella Monogatari (1996)
Cinderella (1997)
CinderElmo (1999)
Cinderella (2000)
La Cenicienta (2003 Spanish)
Bawang Merah Bawang Putih (2004 Indonesia-Malaysia-Hawaiian)
Floricienta (2004)
Floribella (2005 Brazil)
Floribella (2006 Portugal)
Grazilda (2010 Filipino-Tagalog-English)
Aik Nayee Cinderella (2012 Pakistani)

Literary
adaptations
Ash (2009)
Bella at Midnight (2006)
Celestina (1791)
Chinese Cinderella (1999 English-Chinese-Bangla)
Cinder (2012)
Cinderella, or the Little Glass Slipper (1954)
The Coachman Rat (1989)
Confessions of an Ugly Stepsister (1999)
Ella Enchanted (1997)
The Fairy Godmother (2004)
I Was a Rat! or The Scarlet Slippers (1999)
Just Ella (1999)
Nine Coaches Waiting (1958)
Phoenix and Ashes (2004)
Princess of Glass (2010)
Witches Abroad (1991)

Opera
Cendrillon (1810 Isouard)
La Cenerentola (1817 Rossini)
Cendrillon (1899 Massenet)
Cendrillon (1904 Viardot)
La Cenicienta (1966 Hen)

Ballet
Cinderella (1893 Fitinhof-Schell)
Aschenbrdel (1900 Strauss-Bayer)
Cinderella (1945 Prokofiev)
Cinderella (1948 Ashton)

Musicals
Cinderella and the Prince, or The Castle of Heart's Desire (1904)
Stubborn Cinderella (1909)
Mr. Cinders (1929)
Cinderella (1957)
Cindy (1964)
The Penny Friend (1966)
The Slipper and the Rose (1984)
Soho Cinders (2008)
Cinderella (2013)

Plays
A Kiss for Cinderella (1916)
Hobson's Choice (1916)

Comics Cinderella: From Fabletown with Love
Cinderalla

Songs
"Spread a Little Happiness" (1929)
"Bibbidi-Bobbidi-Boo" (1948)
"A Dream Is a Wish Your Heart Makes" (1950)
"Cinderella" (1987)
"Hey Cinderella" (1993)
"It's Midnight Cinderella" (1996)
"Cinderella" (2001)
"Cinderella" (2002)
"Cinderella" (2003)
"Stealing Cinderella" (2007)
"Cinderella" (2007)
"C\C (Cinderella\Complex)" (2008)

Albums
A Cinderella Story (2004 soundtrack)
Disney's Princess Favorites (2002)

Sociology
Cinderella complex
Cinderella effect
The Cinderella Movement

Commercials
A Coach for Cinderella
A Ride for Cinderella

Adult
Cinder Ellen up too Late
Cinderella (1977)
Naughty Cinderella

National
variation
Bawang Merah Bawang Putih (Malay and Indonesian)
Beauty and Pock Face (Chinese)
Chj-hime (Japanese)
Fair, Brown and Trembling (Irish)
Finette Cendron (French)
The Green Knight (Danish)
Katie Woodencloak (Norwegian)
Ochikubo Monogatari (Japanese)
"Rhodopis" (Greek)
Rushen Coatie (Scottish)
The Sharp Grey Sheep (Scottish)
The Story of Tam and Cam (Vietnamese)
Sumiyoshi Monogatari (Japanese)
The True Bride (German)
The Wonderful Birch (Russian)
Ye Xian (Chinese)

Games
Cinderella's Castle Designer
Cinders

Related
Catskin
Into the Woods
Into the Woods (2014)
A Kiss for Cinderella (1925 film)
Politically Correct Bedtime Stories
Disney's characters
Stop, Look and Laugh
Waltz Suite
Black Cinderella Two Goes East
Cinderella's Sister
Cinderella (sports)
Lying to Be Perfect
Cinderella's Eyes (2011)

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