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RULE23:GettingadviceaboutwomenfromawomanislikeaskingOsamabinLadentotell
youthelocationsofallhisterroristcamps.

LMAO

saturnalia
Don Juan

priceless:crackup:
looksdomatter,period=>https://malelooksdomatter.wordpress.com/
saturnalia, Jan 7, 2013

#101

bradd80,howdoyouthinkoneshouldmemorizeallofthat?

Philippe
Schlichting
Don Juan

Goon,tellmethewholestoryofyourlife,tellmeeverythingIdon'tcareabout,doit
extensively,complainandsoon...Icanstanditcausethenthetwoofuscanhavefuntogether
faster.

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Philippe Schlichting, Jan 9, 2013

#102

Philippe,
You'renotsupposedtoremembereverysinglethingyoureadinmygoldenlistof
secrettips.Theimportantthingistotrytoimplementasmuchofitas
youcaninactualpractice.Thisisthekey.
bradd80
Moderator

It'snotenoughtojustreadandmemorizeit,youhavetogooutthereandactually
implementitinpracticeoverandoveragainuntilitbecomessecondnature.
Whatyou'resupposedtodoisreaditallslowly,andallowittopenetrateyour
deepestsubconscious.Youwillusethisinformationtochangethewayyouthink
aboutwomen.Youwilldevelopapositivemindset,notonlyaboutdeveloping
relationshipswithwomenbutmoreimportantlyhowyoudevelopyourownself
confidenceandinnergame.Youwillobtainpowerfromtheknowledgethatyou
knowpreciselywhywomenthinkandactthewaytheydo,andyouwillalsoknow
preciselyhowtodealwithwomeninanygivensituation.Ihavegivenyouthe
actualtoolsyouneedtouseinordertodevelopthepropermindset.
Mytipsaren'tbullsh*t,that'sthebestthingaboutthisthread.It`snottheory.It's
stuffthatactuallyworks.Itlistsinpracticalstepswhatyouneedtodotogetup,go
overtoagirl,andgethertolikeyou.It'sallfullofpracticaladvicethatwillgetyou
outthereinordertoimproveyourrelationshipwithnotonlywomenbutalso
otherpeopleingeneral.Byreadingmytipsyouwillnotonlydevelopagreater
understandingofwomen,howtheybehave,andhowyoushouldrespondthem
butyouwillalsobecomeacalmer,better,morepatientperson,whodoesn'ttake
thingsseriouslyandbasicallydoesn'tgiveafvck.Andthisinturnwillhelpyouyou
developthepropermindsetofaDonJuanthatis,ofsomeonewhoisverygood
withwomen.
Youcanchoosetoimplementcertainlessonsforwhateverproblematicareasyou
thinkneedtobeaddressed.Forexample,ifyouhavelotsofgreatclubsinyour
area,andwouldliketofigureouthowtomeetmoreofthehottiesthere,you
wouldimplementthelessonsIhavegivenyouaboutclubgame.Orinthe
alternative,ifyouwantedtolearnhowtoteasewomenandmakethemlaughyou
wouldlookatmylessonsoncharm,c0cky+funny,andhowtoteaseagirl.Shore
upyourweakareas.Youcanalwayscomebackandreadthelessonsagainfor
reinforcement.
Andifworsecomestoworse,youcanalwaysPMmeorjustposthereandI'llbe
morethanhappytohelpclarifyanything.

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TheSecretGuidetoBeingaDonJuan
bradd80, Jan 9, 2013

#103

LESSONXXVIII:HOWTODEALWITHFLAKYWOMEN
Haveyouevermadeplanswithawomanandthen30minutesbeforemeetingshe
sendsyouatextsayingTotallyforgot.Ihaveplanstomeetmygrandmotherand
cantmakeitorSeemsworkhascalledmeinlastminute.Canwereschedule?
bradd80
Moderator

I'mprettysureyou'veexperiencedthisatleastonceinyourlife.Icantellyou
almost100%guaranteedthatthiswomandidnotjustremembershehadplans.
Sheisflaking.Sheisafemaleflake.
Whenawomanlikesamanonlyrarelywouldshecancelplansonhimfor
somethingelse.ANDifshedoescancelshewillmakecertaintheyhaveconcrete
plansinthefuture.
HowdoIknow?
IknowbecauseIhavetalkedaboutthiswithalotofmygirlfriendsandfemale
friends.Theyhavedonethistomenlotsoftimes.
Sothequestioniswhydowomendothis?
Unbeknowntothem,womendothisbecausetheyareselfish.Toavoidtheirown
discomforttheywillbepoliteandacceptaninvitewithabsolutelynoplansofever
followingthrough.
Idowanttoaddthatthisisnotalwaysmaliciousbehaviorfromwomen,andits
notalwaysplannedormeanttobecruel.Womenareusuallynottryingto
embarrassyouorbemean.Mostofthetime,itissimplydonetoavoidan
awkwardsituationforher.
ItiseasiertosayyestoaninviteorgiveoutaphonenumberthantosayNO.At
leastthatiswhatmostwomenfeelandwhatfeltinthepast.Theywouldmuch
ratheravoidthephoneorflakeonadateratherthanbeingrudeandsayingNOto
yourface.
Again,thisisselfishbehaviorthatisbasedinfemaleinsecurity.
Womendontrealizehowhurtfultheseactionsaretoanotherperson.Theydont

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realizethefrustration,annoyanceandhurtmenexperiencewhentheyhavea
womanflakeonthem.
Theythinktheyhaveavoidedbeingmeanandrudewheninfacttheiractions
wereactuallymorecruel.
Now,I'mgonnatrytodomybesttoteachthewomenoftheworldtobehonest
andsaywhattheymeanbutthat'sgoingtotakesometime.
InthemeantimeIcanprovideyouwithtipsonhowtoprotectyourselfagainst
theflakes!
Thesetipswillhelpyouensureyoudontwastetime,moneyandenergyon
womenthatarenotintoyou.
Tip#1:DontGetAngry
Whenawomantextsyou15minutesbeforeyourdatethatsheforgotshehas
anotherobligationunderstandthatthismeanssheisnotintoyou.
Insteadofbeingangryorhurtaboutherflaking,feelsorryforherthatshewas
notmatureenoughtobehonest.
Thiswillcreateacalmnessinyoubecauseyouwillrealizethatthisisatypeof
womanthatisnotworthyofbeingwithyou.Awomanwhocannotspeakthe
truthisnotworthyofyourattention,norisshematureenoughtohandleyou.
Ifyoulikeyoucanexpressbackyourdisappointmentinamaturemannerthatlets
herknowyouwillnotacceptthisbehavior.Again,asaDonJuanalwaysmaintain
yourselfrespectanddonotbead1ckbutmaturelyexpressthatthistypeofflaky
behaviorisnotcool.
ForexamplewritesomethinglikeTotallyunderstandthatthingscanslipthe
mind.Inthefutureitwouldbebesttocheckyourschedulesothatyouawareof
yourcommitments.MytimeisveryvaluabletomeandIhopeyouwillrespect
thatinthefuture.Nohardfeelings.Havefunatyourevent!
Itsfirm,showsyouhaverespectforyourselfandisalsosoftattheendtolether
knowyouarestillsafe.
Hopefullyshewilllearnthatherbehaviorwasnotcoolandeithercorrectitwith
youORcorrectitinthefuture.Eitherwayagooddeedhascomeoutofthe
situation.
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Tip#2:DontLeaveTheHouseBeforeConfirming
Tosaveyourselfadriveandpossibleparkingfee/tickettextherbeforeyouleave
yourhomeaboutanhourbeforeyou'resettomeet.
SayRunningabout10minuteslate.Hopethatisstillcool?
Thistextgivesheralastshotatbeinghonestandcancelthedateifshewantsit.
Truthis,ifawomanisgoingtoflakesheisgoingtoflakebutatleastwiththis
moveyoucansaveyourselftime,money,andenergy.
Tip#3:LearnToSpotSignsOfInterest
Thepossibleflakedatecanbeavoidedbybeingarmedwithknowingwhatitlooks
likewhenawomanisinterestedinyou.Imustaddthatthesearenotfoolsignsto
lookforbecausecircumstancecanplayaroleinmanyinteractions.
Forexample,soberingup.
Somewomenwillonlybeveryavailabletoyouforasinglenight.Meaning
potentialforaonenightstandbutnodateaweeklater.
Anotherexampleisapersonalreason.
Shemaybeontherockswithanex,shemaybesuperstressedinherownlife,she
maybegettingoverabreakup,shemayhavejustbeenupforflirtingthatevening.
Somanyreasonsexistastowhyherfeelingsfadedafteranevening.
Anotherexampleismeetingsomeoneelse.Attractive,qualitywomenmaymeet
someoneelsethattheyaremoreinterestedin.Thereforetheywillnowputtheir
energyintothisnewguy.You'dbesurprisedhowquicklyandoftenhotwomen
canmeetandfallforsuchguys.
Thesignstolookforthatsheisinterestedinyousexuallyorfordatingare:
Makingeyecontact
Ignoringherfriendsevenifitisagirlsnight
Slightlytouchingyou(toomuchtouchisasignofextremecomfortandpossible
futurefriendship)
Engagementinconversation
Twirlingherhair
Puckeringherlips
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Goingtothebathroomandcomingbackalltouchedupandlookingfresh
Sheasksyouifyoulikecertainphysicalorpersonalitycharacteristicsthatshe
has
Onceyouaskforthenumberlistenforthepause.Theawkwardpausewhereshe
debateswhetherornottogiveyouarealnumberorfakenumber.
Mostwomenwhowantyoutocall,iftheygiveyoutheirnumberhavebeen
waitingforthisquestiontocomeoutofyourmouth.Meaningthereshouldbeno
pause.
Apauseusuallytranslatesintopossibleflake.
Thesetipswillassistyouwithdeterminingwhetherornotawomanwillflakeon
youandwillalsoassistyouwhenyouaredealingwithaflake.
Theimportantthingtorememberisthatwhenawomanisaflakeitisareflection
onher.Itshowsthatsheisnotconfidentenoughinherselftogivearealhonest
answerandisscaredtolookpoorlyinsomeoneseyes.
Nowontheotherhand,whenagood,decent,respectablewomanlikesyoushe
willmakeitobvious.Shewontplaygames.
Thesearethemoreorlessfailsafesignssheisreallyintoyou:
1.Sherespondstomessages,andshedoesnttakeunreasonablylongperiodsof
timetoanswerback.Shewantstogettoknowyouafterall,soshewillwantto
talktoyouandhaveaconversation.Shewillgiveshortmessagesthatdon'tinvite
furtherconversationifsheisnotinterested.Ifsheconsistentlytextsorcallsyou
backadaylater,thisisnotagoodsigneither.
2.Shewillinviteyouoverfordinnerandhappilycookforyou.Shemaynotpay
formeals,andmaylookatbeingtakenoutfordinnerasatreat,butshewill
alwayseventhingsoutbycookingforyou.
3.Shewillinviteyoutospendtimewithherandherfriends.Whenyouaskher
out,shewillsayyesandbehappytospendtimewithyou.
4.Shewillbeapositivesupporter.Youtellheryoudidsomethingawesomeat
work?Shewillpraiseyou.Sorefromthegym?Ashouldermassageandaprotein
smoothiewillbeoffered.
5.Shemaysometimeskeepthingsplatonicforawhiletogetasenseofwhoyou
areasaperson.Figureoutifyouhaveyour****togetherorifyouarejustanother
manchild.
Somegirlschoosetobefriendsfirst.Decidewhetherornotyouwanttoputup
withthis.
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6.Agirlthatlikesyouwillwelcomeyouintoherlife,notjustherbed.
7.Shereturnsallmessages/callsinatimelymanner
8.Sheacceptsalldateinvitesand/orcounteroffersifshecan'tmakethe
suggesteddate/time
9.Shedoesn'tflinchwhenyoutrytotouchher
10.Sheiswillingtohavesexwithyouasearlyasthefirstdate.Butifshedoesnt
fvckyourightaway,thisdoesnotnecessarilymeansheisnotintoyoueither.
Somewomenprefertowaitabitandgettoknowyou.
11.ShetakesinitiativetocallYOUupandaskYOUoutonadate
12.Shedoesn'tgo2weekswithoutcontactingyouheck,shecanbarelygo2
DAYSwithoutcontactingyou
13.She'llgoonvacationandstillhityouupeverysooften
14.Shevoluntarilypaysfortheoccasionalmealordateouting
15.Shedoesn'ttellyoushe's"confused"aboutherfeelingsforyouthereisno
confusionbecauseshelikesyouandONLYyou
16.Shedoesn'ttrytoinvitefriendsalongonyourdates
17.Shedoesn'tcomeoveryourhouseandleaveyouwithblueballs
18.Shegivesyoucomplimentsaboutthewayyoulook,act,smell,etc.
19.Shewillknowwhatyourinvitationtoyourhousemeans...andstillwantto
showup
20.Thewords"let'sjustbefriends"areneverspokenbyher
21.Itwon'tmatterwhatyourlifesituationisyoucouldbepoor,livingon
someoneelse'scouch,withalousyjobandnocar,andshe'llstillwanttobeseen
inpublicwithyou
22.Shewon'tsendyoumixedsignalsagirlthatlikesyoudoesn'twantyou
confusedabouthowshefeelsaboutyou
23.Itwon'tmatterhowlongit'sbeensinceherlastboyfriend(2days,2weeks,2
months,etc.)sinceshewon'thavefeelingsforhimafterbeingaroundyou
24.Shewon'tkeeptalkingtoexboyfriends,asthisisdisrespectful.
25.Youcanactlikeanidiotclown,andshe'llberighttherewithyouactinglike
justasmuchofanidioticclown.
26.Herfriendswon'tbeabletopersuadehernottodateyou.
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TheSecretGuidetoBeingaDonJuan
bradd80, Jan 11, 2013

#104

1 person likes this.

Allgreatandtrue.
Ithinkoneofthesurestindicatorsofgenuineinterestiswhenshewillhangout
withyounomatterwhatyourlifecircumstancesnojob,crappyjob,crappy
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place,justgotdumped,etc.Thatandresponsiveness.Thisisprettymuch100%
reliable.

Colossus

Ialwaysjustrememberthatagirlwhoistrulyintomewillalwaysmakeherself
availableandneverpurposefullygivemeanyreasontothinkshedoesn'tlikeme.
Whenthereisambiguity,mixedmessages,andgapsincommunicationlackof
interestISthemessage.

Master Don Juan

AManhassaid
Colossus, Jan 11, 2013

#105

Ionlyjustsawthisthread,sinceIhaven'treallybeenonforawhile,butthereis
somegreatinfoinit.
Sometimes,it'seasytogetboggeddownindetailsaboutspecificsituationswithout
focusingontheoverallbigpicture.
runner83

Thisthreadprovidesagreatoverview.

Master Don Juan

Judgeawomanbyheractions,notherwords.
Rollo Tomassi said:

Awomanwhowantstouckyouwillfindawaytouckyou.

runner83, Jan 11, 2013

#106

LESSONXXIX:HOWTOIDENTIFYBEINGBLOWNOFF

bradd80
Moderator

Nowthereisadifferencebetweenawomanthatisblowingyouoffandawoman
thatisbeingflaky.Awomanblowingyouoff,willusuallygiveyounothingbackto
workwith.Awomanthatisbeingflakymeansthatsometimesshegivesyouwhat
youwantandothertimesshedoesnt.Youcanprobablydescribeheractionsas
intermittent.Whenawomanisbeingflakysheismostlikelyinterestedinyou,but
istestingyou.InotherwordstheyareseeinghowmuchofherBullS***Tyouare
preparedtotakeandhoweffectiveherlittlegamesandmannerismswillbewith
you.Themoreeffectivelysheisabletomanipulateyou,thelessinterestedshewill
beinyou.
Sowhenawomanisbeingflakyandtestingyou,thisisgreat!Becauseitmeans
thereisactuallysomethingthatyoucando,togiveyouafightingchancewithher!
Tohelpyouunderstandalittlebitmorethough,firstIllgiveyoualistofreasons
whywomenfeelcompelledtotestyou

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togaugeamanspresence
togaugeamansstrength
toseewhetherthismancanmatchheronherlevel
tofilteroutwhichmenareworthhertime
toensurethatthismancanprotecthimselfandthereforeprotecther
(emotionallyand/orphysically)
Seethereasonswhywomenaretestingisbecauseatthecoreoftheirbeingthey
havetheurgetowanttofeelsafeandprotected.Thisalsohelpstotrigger
attractioninawoman.Bybeingpresent,demonstratingstrengthand
understandingheractions,behaviours,andherchallenges/testsshefeelslikeshe
ismoreabletosurrenderandletherguarddown.
Thesaferawomanfeelsaroundyou,thelessshewilltestyou,period.
Youseeifthereisawomanthatistestingyoualot,thenitsbecauseofoneoftwo
things.
Reason#1
Sheisgettingtoknowyou,sosheisgaugingyououthertestingwillstopor
minimizedramaticallyifyouareabletoassertwhoexactlyisinchargeandpass
hertests.
Reason#2
Shefeelsinsecureandlikehersafetyisthreatened(emotionallyand/orphysically)
Mostofyouguyswheninitiatingthedatingstageswillcomeacrossawoman
flakingoutonyouortestingyoubecauseshewantstofindoutwhereyour
boundariesandyourlimitsare.
Themostimportantthingyoucanrememberisthatyoumustnevergiveawoman
thereactionthatsheisexpecting.Assoonasyoudothat,thatiswhenyoufailthe
test.
SeethenumberonethingthatIwantyouguystounderstandisthatwomen
speakinfigurativetermsratherthanliteralterms.Men,youaregreat,because
usuallywhenyousaysomething,thatisexactlywhatyoumean.Whenwomensay
something,itmanytimeswillhavenothingtodowithwhatsheisactuallyfeeling
orwhattherealproblemorunderlyingmeaningis.Themeaningwillusuallybe
hiddenunderlayersofdiversions,excusesandfakesmiles.

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Inthemeantime,youarethinkingthatwhensheiscomplainingaboutherjob,
thatitsaboutherjob.Whenitsreallybecauseshefeelsunappreciated,overworked
andemotionallydrainedandfeelslikeshejustneedssomeonetolistenand
validateherfeelings.
Alternativelywhenshetellsyouthatshelikesyouasafriend,itcanalsobeher
subtlewayofaskingyou,comeon,howinterestedinmeareyoureally?How
muchofmycrapareyougoingtotake,beforeyoujustgoafterwhatyoureally
want.
Itcanalsobeexpressedinherbrattiness,hersarcasmandhersmartaleck
remarks.Underlyingallofthissheisscreaming,comeonprovetomeyouarenot
likealltheotherguyswhoarejustgoingtokissmyassallnight.Provetomethat
youaredifferent.Beatmeatmyowngame.
Iknowalotofyoucomplainaboutwhywomenplaysomanygames.
Foryourownsanity,Iaskyoutoreframethisandlookatmorelike,women
subconsciouslyarecompelledtotestmenasasurvivalmechanism.Asaself
preservationtechnique.Asabiologicalandsomewhatautonomouspartoftheir
brainthatdrawsthemtostrong,capableandconfidentmen.
Justlikeyouguysarevisualcreaturesandautomaticallyfindwomenwith
hourglassfiguresandproportionatehiptowaistratios,womenaregearedtotest
andevaluatetheirpotentialmatestofindthemostsuitableoneforthem.When
youlearntherules,youcanthenusethemtoyouradvantage.
Imean,whynotgiveyourselftheupperhand?Shewillloveit!
TheSecretGuidetoBeingaDonJuan
bradd80, Jan 12, 2013

#107

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Sonowthatweknowthatflakingcanonceinawhilebeagoodthing,butthat
blowingoffisalwaysabadthing.So,sincewehaveidentifiedallthesignsof
flakiness,nowwilllookatallthesignsofbeingblownoff,iesituationswherewe
haveabsolutelynochancewhatsoeverwiththegirl:
Thetopsignagirlisblowingyouoffiswhenyougottaaskyourself,"Isthisgirl
blowingmeoff?"Yourgutnormallyknowswhat'supbeforeyourbraindoes.
bradd80
Moderator

Thegirlswhoactuallywanttoseeyouwillfindwaystoseeyou.Thegirlswho
don'twillmakeexcuseafterexcusetonothangoutwithyou.Butthey'llstill
happilyreplytoallyourtextsbecause,well,they'regirls.

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1.Whensheclaimstonot"know"ifshe'llbefreeornotonthedaythatyouask
hertogooutwithyouonadate.
2.Whenshe"suddenly"tellsyouthathercousin,herbestfriendfromoutof
town,orherrelativeshavecometotownonthedayshewassupposedtogoout
withyou.
3.Whenshecallsyou@11amtocanceladateyouhavewithherat7pmthatsame
nightbecauseshe'snot"feelingwell".(Whatshe'stellingyouisthatsheain'teven
PLANNINGontryingtofeelbettertogooutwithyo'ass8HOURSLATER!!!)
4.Onthedayofthedateitself:WhensheclaimstohaveFORGOTTENthatyou
evenaskedheroutinthefirstplace!
5.WhenshegoesoutwithyoubutENDSTHEDATEearlyclaimingshehasto
getupearlyinthemorningorshehastogopickherkids,etc.
6.Whensheagreestogooutwithyoubutsurprisesyoubybringingsomeone
onthedate"withher"toblockyoufromgettinganywherenearclosetoher.
7.Youaskheroutandshesaysshe'sbusybutdoesn'tgiveadefiniteraincheck
date."Maybesomeothertime"doesn'tcount.
8.Shepostponestotomorrow,andthenpostponestotomorrowagainthenext
day.
9.Youjustgetthatgutfeelingthatsomethingchanged.
10.Shetakes12hourstoreplytoatextaboutanimportantmatter,andoffers
minimalsupport.
11.Shedoesn'tcheckinonyouwhenyouaregoingthroughamajorchange(job,
house).
12.Youtakeheroutandshedoesn'tatleasttext(preferablyshe'llcall)tosayshe
hadagoodtimeandtothankyouafter.
13.Shesays"Bbye".
14.Whenshestartscallingyouher"friend"whileshe'sonthedatewithyou.
Orworseyet,here'sonemore:
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15.Whenyou'reonthedatewithherandsheSUDDENLYrevealstoyouthatshe
hasaboyfriendandjusthowmuchinlovewithhimsheisRIGHTNOW.(Yo'ass
hasjustbeenusedtopayfordinnerandmovie...)
16.Shefallsasleeponthenightofthedate.
17.She'soutwithhergirlfriends.
18.Shegoesoutoftown.
19.Whenherphonegoesstraighttovoicemaileverytimeyoucallher.
Womenchoosehowtheywanttofeel.Theycancontroltheiremotions.Andifa
womanwantsyou,she'llfindawaytogetyou.
20,HercellphonehasbeenworkingPERFECTLYallweek,butthedayaftershe
missesyourdate,shetellsyouitwasbecausehercellphonewasn'tworking.
Therewasonethatwastouchedonthatformeistheultimatetesterforme.
Whenyou'rehavingagreattextconvogoingbackandforthsmoothly,responding
toeachotherwithina510minutetimeframe,thencomestimetoaskherout
andtheframecompletelychanges.The510minutetimeframegetsstretchedto
anhourormore(ifsheanswersatall),noexclamationpointsoranyothersigns
ofthepreviousperkyenergyshehad,it'susuallyalameexcuseoraflakyresponse
like"idon'tknow.i'llletyouknow"
what'salsoworkedformeisbeingvagueandseeingwhatherreactionis.ifyou
cangethertoagreetothedatebeforeyoueventellherwhatthedateinvolves,i
thinkyou'regolden.example:
me:hey,youwannadosomethingsaturday?
interestedgirl:yeah!
me:cool,iwasthinkingwecould______,pickyouupat______?
interestedgirl:okcool!
me:wannadosomethingsaturday?
uninterestedgirl:what?
me:maybe_____
uninterestedgirl:whattime?
me:likearound______
uninterestedgirl:i'mnotsure,i'llletyouknow

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themorequestionssheasks,themorelikelysheistoflake,inmyopinion.the
payoffshouldbeshe'sgettingachancetobewithyouoneonone.thatshouldbe
herdraw,nomatterwhatitisyoupropose,sheshouldbedown.
Remember,awoman'sdatingoptionsareinfinite.
Menaremuchmorelikelytogetflakedonbecausetheirdatingoptionsaren't
infinite,barringthattop10%thatmostwomengofor.
Andthesefemaleexcusesandgamesarepartoftheequation.
21.Shestartsareplytoyourtextmessagewith"Umm..."
22.Shereferstoherboyfriendusingtheword"boyfriend"(evenifshehasone,
sheshouldn'tusethatwordaroundyou).
23.Shegetsevenmoreannoyedbythelittlethingsthatannoyyouthanyouwere
inthefirstplace.
24.TheBusStop:Attheendofthedate,asyou'reabouttodropheroff,shestarts
gatheringallherthingstogethermomentsbeforearrival,putsherhandonthe
interiordoor
handlewhilethecarisstillrolling,andopensthedoortogetawayfromyou
beforethecarofficiallystops.
25.Shedoesn'tprogramyourhome/newphonenumberintoherphone.
26.Shechangeshercellphonenumberanddoesn'tvolunteerthenewone,
leavingyoutoonlyemail/FB.
27.Shesaysshehastocleanwhenyouwantsex.
28.Shesaysshe'snotinthemoodevenonce.
29.ThePityPeckyougotokissherlipsandsheturnstogiveyouthecheek(the
oppositeshouldhappen).
30.ThePityPayshepaysforthedatebuthasareasonshehastoleaveearly.
31."I'mactuallygoingtoafriendsbirthdayparty.Maybenextweek."
Orsomevariation

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32.sheclaimsherphonewasresetsoshelostallhercontacts
33.Whensheasksthatyouconfirm...
"IthinkIcanmakeitThursday.TextmeWednesday."
ThisgivesheruntilWednesdaytocomeupwithanexcusetogiveyou.
Ingeneral,nevergettooexcitedaboutadateyouhavesetup.Untilsheactually
showsup,itmeansnothing.
Followingonfromthat(offtopicslightly)....untilyou'vegotyourduckinsidethe
gal,adatemeansnothing.
34.Onewordtextresponses
Ifshe'snotexcitedorenthusiasticaboutgoingoutwithyou(believemeyouwill
knowwhensheis),itisgoingnowhere.Thatprettymuchsumsupeverything.
itssimple...
imagineanuglyobesegirlisaskingyouout.
samedeal.
oryouareonadatewiththatsameuglychick(fvckhowdidthathappen?)and
she'stryingtogetyoutoherhouseforsex.Youfindeveryreasontododgethat
sh*t.
samething,onlythistimeitshappeningtoyou.
TheSecretGuidetoBeingaDonJuan
bradd80, Jan 12, 2013

#108

Greatpostsbradd.Thanksabunchforthisthread.

solitaryone, Jan 13, 2013

#109

solitaryone
Don Juan

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LESSONXXX:THE2STRIKESRULE
Fellas,withthisnextlessonIwanttosaveyouallalotoftimeandtrouble.In
dealingwithflakywomenwhoblowyouoff,allowmetointroducetoyouthe
gloriousnessofthe2StrikesRule!
________________________________________
bradd80
Moderator

THE2STRIKESRULE:
LetmesimplifyyourlifewithalittlesomethingIwrote..
WHAT?:THE2STRIKESRULEisthecommonsenserulewhichremindsyou
thatifawomanisinterestedinyouasaman/lover,shewillnotdenyyou2times
inarow.Itfollowsthebasicfactoflifethatwomenwillnotgiveyoutimeand
attentionunlessyouareattractivetothem.Mostguyscomplicatetheirlivestrying
tofigurethemoutwhentheyaren'tgettingwhattheywantoutofwomen,yet
theyreallyaren'tthatdifficultifyoucanacceptthefactIstated(iftheywantyou
theywillnotdenyyou)andfollowthe2STRIKESRULE.
Ifawomanisinanywayinterestedinamanshemightdenyhimonce(andwe'll
givethemthebenefitofthedoubt)butnottwiceinarow.Yougiveawoman2
chancestogiveyouwhatyouwant.Doyouwantadate?doyoujustwanttotalk
toheronthephoneforthefirsttime?akiss?Giverher2strikes.Ifshelikesyou
shewon'tdenyyoutwice.Ifyoukeepatitaftermorethan2strikesyouare
wastingyourtimewithawomanthatisn'tattractedinyouasalover.
WHY:The2STRIKESRULEwillonlymakeyouputtimeandeffortonwomen
thatyouactuallyhaveachancewithplusitwillsaveyourdignityandselfrespect,
andremindyouofabasicprincipleaboutwomen(iftheywantyou,theywon't
denyyoutwiceinarow).Besidesitwillkeepyoufrombeinglabeledasacreepby
womencausereally3tries(inarow)istoomuch.
HOW?:Thisruleappliestoallaspectsofdating.Whetheritbeaskingheroutand
notgetingadate(1ststrike),notgettingacallfromagirlyoumettheotherday
(1ststrike),kisscloseattempt(1ststrike)etcetcetc
IMPLEMENTATION:Itissimpletoimplementthisrule.Followthe3steps
afterthe1ststrike:
1.Forgive
2.GiveHertheBenefitoftheDoubt
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Iftheygeta2ndstrike,THEY'REOUT!
Deniedyouforadate?flakedonyou?ignoredyou?notcalledyouback?resisted
yourkissattempt?refusedtogiveouthercell??didnotfollowyourcommands?
FORGIVE,BENEFITOFTHEDOUBT,GIVEITA2NDTRYWHENYOU
THINKTHETIMEISRIGHT,ifthatfails...2NDSTRIKE!THEY'REOUT!
POSSIBLESCENARIOS
Scenario#1
Youcallagirltoaskherout,tellsyoushesbusybutshewasgivingyouallkindsof
signalstheotherday!whatdoyoudo?
Answer:Ifawomanishotforyoushewillmaketimeforyouthefirsttimeyou
askherout.Ifshereallydoeshavealegitimatereason(work,school,family,
whatever)goaheadandtryagain!rememberthe3steps
1.FORGIVE
2.BENEFITOFTHEDOUBT
3.2NDTRY
Ifyouaredeniedthe2ndtimeyouaskherout,2STRIKES!YOU'REOUT!
CommonSense:Ifawomanisattractedtoyouasamanshewillnotdenyyou
twice.Sureshecanhavealegitimatereasonthe1sttimebuta2ndtime?betterfor
youtofocusyourtimeandenergyonwomenthatarereallyattractedtoyou.
Pleaserememberthatwomencomeupwithallkindsofbstodenythewimpy
menthataskemout.Idon'tcarewhatexcuseshegaveyou,ifsheleavesyou
hangingfora2ndtimeinarowitistimeforyoutomoveon.Shedoesnotwant
youasaman.
Scenario#2
Youcallagirlyoumettheotherdayandshedoesn'tanswerandit'sbeenacouple
days,whatdoyoudo?
Answer:Ifyoumetagirlandshewasinterestedinjustbeingyourfriendshe
wouldanswer.Ifshedoesn'tevenansweryourfirstcallyoucanprettymuch
forgetaboutherBUTifyouwanttobenice...
FORGIVE
BENEFITOFTHEDOUBT
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2NDTRY
Ifyoudon'tgetaresponsethe2ndtimeyoucallher,2STRIKES!YOU'REOUT!
Scenario#3
Yougoforthekissclose,aredenied,whatdoyoudo?
Answer:Ifshewantsyouthenyouwon'tbedenied,butmaybesheisn'treadyyet?
ormaybeyouhaven'tbuiltenoughattractionandrapport?ifsoyoucanwaitfora
2ndtrylateron..
FORGIVE
BENEFITOFTHEDOUBT
2NDTRY
yupyouknowit..2STRIKES!YOU'REOUT!
CommonSense:Soyoutriedtokissheragainthefollowingweekandshe
turnedherhead?,2STRIKES!YOU'REOUT!ifshewasinterestedinyousexually
shewouldhavekissedyouasyoualreadytriedbeforeandsheknowsa2nd
attemptprettymuchshouldtellyouthatshedoesn'twantyou(eventhoughmost
guyscan'tunderstandthatfactbutshedoesn'twanttojustsayit).Definitelynot
interestedinyouasaman.
FORTHESKEPTICS
Soyoudon'twanttofollowmyadvice?Sostillthinkyouhaveachanceyou
hopelessafc?goaheadandbreaktheruleandaskheroutagainsomeothertime
soyoucanonlybedeniedagainandshecanletallhergirlfriendsknowhow
creepyyouare(andthatisareallybadwordforawomantouseforaguy).Go
aheadandtryathirdtimemaybeyouwillgetadifferentanswerfromthefirst
2...NOT!!
3strikesisonly1morestrikeafter2butitreallydoesmakeahugedifference.
Thestrikescanbelabeledas
1ststrike:Benefitofthedoubt
2ndstrike:Decider
3rdstrike(ifyougoforit):theselfdignityremovingfingercrosser(causethisis
whatyou'redoing,crossingyourfingersandremovingyourselfdignityifyoutry
morethantwice)
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TheSecretGuidetoBeingaDonJuan
bradd80, Jan 15, 2013

#110

CONCLUSION
Usethisruleinallaspectsofdatingtosimplifyyourdatinglife.Therearesomany
scenarioswhereyoucanusetherule.Ifyouhaveanyquestionsorscenarioson
theimplementationofthisrule,justask.
bradd80

Therearecountlessscenarios,justgivethem2strikestogetwhatyouwant.

Moderator

Iknowwhatyourethinking:Ilikethispost,itmakesitalotsimpler,butdoesit
changeanywithagirlyou'vehookedupwithafewtimesalready,dotheygeta
3rdstrike?
Itdoesn'tchangehowwomenwork,womenwon'tdenyamantheywanttwicein
arow.
example:soyouhookedupwithagirlafewtimes.Youhaven'tseenherin2
weeks.Youcallheraskingwhat'sup,shedoesn'tanswer.Oksoyoutrycallingher
again4dayslater,shestilldoesn'treply,whatisgoingonhere?thisb|tchwasall
intomeandwehadalotoffun!
theaboveisatypicalscenarioyoucanfindinathreadonsosuave.Whydoesthe
guycomplicatehimselfsomuch?
wouldyounotanswerthecallfromawomanyouwanttoF***???twiceinarow?
NO!
alotofthingscanhappenin2weeks.Maybeshefoundanotherguy,maybeshe
died,maybeshefoundreligion,whoknows!thefactoflifestillremainsthesame,
ifshewantsyoushewon'tdenyyoutwice.Soatthatmomentintimeshedoes
notwantyouanymoreorisnotinterested,getthatthruyourhead!youalready
gaveher2chancestogetwhatyouwant,2STRIKES!YOU'REOUT!
stillthinkshewantsyou?maybeshewashavinghugepersonalproblems?thefact
ofthematteristhatwomenwon'tdenyyoutwice.Yougaveher2strikes,shegot
yourcalls,neveranswered,thatshowslowinterestlevel,sonowyougopursue
othergirlsandifyouhappentogetacallfromheruptoyoutoanswer.Letherdo
thework,youalreadygaveher2chances.
Andagain,Iknowwhatyourethinking:"butbradd80,thetwostrikesruleis
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incompatiblewiththebasicDJprincipleofconfidentpersistence!"The
fundamentalproblemhereisthatyouareforgettingthattryingtwiceIS
PERSISTENCEINITSELF!Youtriedonce,gotshotdown,gotbackupandtried
again.WhenagirlsaysNOthefirsttimegiveherthebenefitofthedoubt,BUTIF
SHESAYSNOAGAIN???Andyou'vereceivednothingfromherbutflakinessand
blowingoffANDZEROATTEMPTSONHERPARTTOMAKETHINGS
BETTER.
SoIthinkshemeansitfellas.
Hardforguystogetitthrutheirheadsthatifawomanisreallyinterestedinyou
asaloverinanywayshewillgiveyouachanceandwon'tturnyoudownbackto
backtimes.Forexampleifagirlgoesoutwithyouthefirsttimeyouaskherout
sheisattractedinyouasapossibleloverthatisplaintosee.Ifagirlturnsyou
downthefirsttimebutgoesoutwithyouthe2ndtime,yougiveherthebenefitof
thedoubtforwhateverreasonshehadbutyouknowshewouldn'tbegivingyou
thetimeofdayifshewasn'tattractedtoyouasapossiblelover.
I'mnotsayingconfidentpersistencedoesn'twork,butifshegot2strikesalready
andyoukeeponwith"confidentpersistence"youareworkingwithagirlthatisn't
givingyoutheinterestlevelandyouaren'tattractivetoherasapossiblelover.Do
youkeepputtingtimeandeffortordoyougowithgirlsthatwon'tstrikeoutthe
first2times?uptoyou.
confidentpersistenceandthe2strikesrulearecompatible.Someguysmayusea
variationofthetwostrikesrule,liketheonestrikeruleorthethreestrikesrule.
Andsometimes,youmaygiveagirlevenmorechancesifyoufeelitinyourgutor
ifshereallyseemstobeinabusyperiodandyou'rewillingtogiveitatry.
Remember,we'redonjuansnotpickupartists:ourgoalisn'ttobedawomanin
thequickestamountoftimepossible.Rather,ourgoalistoliveOURlifetheway
WEwantto,andthatmeanslettinggoofouregoandnotgivingasingleflying
fvckwhenotherpeopletrytoraindownonourparade.
Inotherwords,thisisnotahardandfastrule,andyoumaytweakittosuityour
lifestyleandifyourguttellsyoutotakeachance.
AllowmetotellyouthislittlestorytoexplainwhatImean:
Acoupleofmonthsago,Imetthissexygirlinaclub.Igrabbedherfirmlybut
seductively,startedjokingaroundwithher,andeventuallydancedandthen
hookedupwithher.Ihookedherfriendupwithmyfriendwhowastherewith
me.Bytheendofthenight,Icharmedthegirlsintolettingmeandmybuddy
drivethemhome,whereweallendedupupstairshavingafewdrinks.Iendedup
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bangingthegirlinherfriend'sguestbedroom.
Then,foraboutamonth,sheseemedtostartflakingonme.EverytimeIasked
hertocomeovertomyhousetobang,shewouldfallasleep,orshehadtobreak
plansduetoanemergency,orshegotsick,orsomethingcameup.
IfIwasn'tseeingabunchofothergirls,Iwouldhavegottenpissedoffandgiven
up.Ifihadn'tadoptedtheDonJuanidealsof
1.spinningotherplates
2.notgivingafvck
3.notlettingmyegogetinmyway
4.beingpersistent
Iwouldhavegottenallupsetandgivenuponthisgirlanddeletedhernumber.
Instead,likeatrueDJIdidn'tgiveafvck.Irolledovereachoneofherexcuses
liketheymeantnothing.BecauseIwasseeing/fvckingabunchofothergirls,I
reallydidn'tcare.Andyouknowwhathappened?Icalledheronedayandshe
cameoverandIpoundedthebrainsoutofher.Andnow,sheismymost
consistent,leasthighmaintenancefvckbuddy.Nobodysucksmyd1ckwithas
muchpassionasshedoes.She'smymosteasygoingbang,shecomesover
wheneverIcall,andleaveswheneverItellherto.SheabsolutelyinsiststhatI
don'tspendanymoneyonherIpracticallyfvckingbeghertotakehertodinner
justtorewardherandshealwaysrefuses,tellingmeshehastowatchherweight
andkeepherfigureinshapesoshedoesn'teatafter7pm,whichisprettymuch
theonlytimewehookup.
Bottomline,eventhoughwehaddonethedirtydeeditstilltookalittlebitto
warmherupandgethercomfortabletocomingoverandfvcking.AndonceIdid,
lookhowgreattherelationshipitis..literallyeverythingyou'dwantfroma
relationshipwithasexygirl,withoutanyofthehangups.
Sotrytounderstandthedifferencebetweenthe2strikesruleandconfident
persistence.The2strikesruleworksgreatonwomenthathavenevergivenyou
muchtoworkwithatall.Confidentpersistence,ontheotherhand,workswell
when(1)thegirlhasgivenyoupositivesignsand(2)whenyouactcoolandnot
likeanafc.
Solet'ssayyouuseconfidentpersistencetofinallygetadatewithagirlyou've
beenpursuingforamonth.Yougoonadate,itgoeswellandyouhavefun.You
goonaseconddateandyouattemptthekisscloseandsheturnsherhead.
Nowaskyourselfifyouattempttokisscloseinthefutureandsherefuses,just
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howmuch"confidentpersistence"doyouhaveinyouwithagirlthatisshowing
sheisnotinterestedinyouasamanatthemoment?andby"confident
persistence"imeanpatience.Areyougoingtoletherstrikeyouout3timesinthis
case?NO!IsayYOUGIVEHER2backtobackstrikes.Youneedtomake
yourselftheprize.Yourtimeisvaluable,youonlyliveonce,makeyourselfthe
prizenother!ifsheisn'tgivingyouwhatyouneedwhetheritbefornotbeing
attractedtoyouasamanorforwhateverreason,timeforyoutogiveher2
strikes.
TheSecretGuidetoBeingaDonJuan
bradd80, Jan 15, 2013

#111

Ok,soinourpreviouslessonwebrieflytouchedonhowatrueDJneedstomake
himselftheprize.Heneedstoshowwomenthatheisamanofstatus,ieamanof
exceptionallyhighvalue.Inupcomingchapters,wewillsoonbegettingintothe
reallyhighlevelsofbeingatruedonjuan.Butbeforewedothat,youwillneedto
understandthatthemorehighqualitywomanyouwanttosnag,thehighervalue
youwillneedtocomeacrossas.
bradd80
Moderator

Sohowdoyoucomeacrossashighvalue?Welllet'sgetrightintoit..
LESSONXXXI:HOWTORAISEYOURVALUEINTHEEYESOFA
WOMAN
ManyyearsagoIlearnedaveryimportantlesson,alessonthatonceIhadtruly
understood,completelyturnedmycareeraround.Andwhenyouunderstandit,
willallowyoutobecometheDonJuanthatIknowyouarecapableofbecoming.
Andthatlessonis:PerceivedValueandRealValuearetwodifferent
things.
Letmestartfromthebeginning...
Yearsago,whenIfirststartedmycareerasalawyer,Ifiguredthatthebestwayto
getclientswouldbetochargealowfee.SoIcharged$200anhourformylegal
advice.Now,onethingtokeepinmindisthatwhenyouareselfemployed,notall
ofyourworkinghoursarebillablehours.Infact,whenyouarestartingoutand
donthaveanyemployees,mostofyourworkinghoursareadministrationbased,
andarenotbillable.Soneedlesstosay,it'snotthegreatestwaytomakemoney.
Sointruth,at$200perbillablehour,Iwasntevenmakingenoughtopaymy
overhead,butIfiguredthatitwouldbeacceptableinthebeginningsothatI
wouldatleastgetsomeclients.Guesswhat...Icouldntevengetoneclient!

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Ittookseveralmonthstofigureoutwhattheproblemwas,sinceIwastoocloseto
thesituationtoseetheforestforthetrees.Ofcoursebynowyouprobablyguessed
whatitwasmypricewastoocheap!Eventhoughmyskillsasalawyerwere
quitegood,nobodybelievedthatIhadanythingtoofferatsuchalowprice.SoI
increasedmyfeeto$300perhour.
Istartedgettingafewclients,buttheywerethewhiners,thetypeofpeoplethatI
hadtotakebythehandeverystepoftheway,andwhomwouldcomplainat
everything.Overtime,Iincreasedmypriceagain.Istartedgettingevenmore
clients,andthequalityoftheclientsimproved.
Oneday,oneofmyclientstookthesuggestionsofanotherlawyer,aguythat
didntknowwhatthehellhewastalkingabout.Iwaspissed,sincetheonlything
thisguyhadovermewasthathispricewashigher.Soagain,Iraisedtheprice.
Thisprocesswentonoveraperiodoftime,untilnowIchargemoreperhour
thanIusedtomakeinadayortwo.Butdoyouwanttoknowwhatthereally
amazingthingis?Inowdealwithonlythebestclients,thosepeoplewhoactually
respectmyopinion,andwhomIenjoyworkingwith.Notonlythat,buteventually
IhadmoreclientsthanIcouldhandle,andhadawaitinglist.
Now,whatdoesthishavetodowithseduction?
EVERYTHING!
WhatdoestheAFCdo(includingmewhenIfirststartedpursuinggirls)?He
figuresthathellbereallysweettogirls,putthemonapedestal,andtreatthem
likepreciousgold.Hell,helleventreatbelowaveragegirlsthatway,sincegetting
anygirlsisbetterthannogirls.Andwhathappens?Hecantgetanychicksifhis
lifedependedonit.
Sohecomesacrossthissite,andstartstochange.Hestopsputtinggirlsona
pedestal,andthingsstartmovingalittlebitmoresmoothly.Still,hehasalotto
learn.Butatleastnowheisabletogetsomegirls,eventhoughforthemostpart
thosearenotthecreamofthecrop,girlsthathewouldkillfor.
Butthenhestayslongeronthiswebsite.Herealizesthatheistheprizetobe
wonandlearnsevenmoreadvancedstrategiesandawholehostofhighpowered
pickuptechniques.
Hesontopoftheworldnow...atlasthecangetsomeworthwhilechicks.Still,
eventhoughhecangetthe7sand8s(andwhenIsaya7or8,Idontmean
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strictlylooks,buttheWHOLEPACKAGE),atsomelevelhejustcantseemto
acquirethe9sand10s.
Onedaythough,hefindsa10thattotallyrockshisworld.Heusesallhis
newfoundskills,andsinceherealizesthatheistheprizetobewon,heisableto
attracthertohiminitially.Everythinglookswonderful,untilithappens...the
chickdecidestoleavehimforaguythatdoesnttreatheranywhereaswonderful
ashetreatedher.
Theguyispissed,butsinceheknowsheistheprize,hemoveson.Unfortunately,
theprocessrepeatsafewmoretimes.Atthispoint,herealizesthatthecommon
denominatorishim.Hewondersforaminuteifmaybeheisntattractiveenough,
ormaybehedoesnthavetheskillstoacquirethehighestqualitychicks.
TheSecretGuidetoBeingaDonJuan
bradd80, Jan 28, 2013

#112

Then,oneday,whenhewasabouttogiveuphopeongettingthe9sand10s,he
getsanepiphany:
HEKNOWSHEISTHEPRIZE,BUTDOTHEGIRLSREALLYKNOW
ITASWELL?
bradd80
Moderator

Ofcourse,girlshavecometorealizehisvalue.Frombothhisstrategiesand
techniques,andhisbeliefthatheistheprize,heisdemonstratingtothechicks
hisvalue.Theonlythingthough,isthatthehottestchicksaroundhavesomany
guystochoosefrom,guyswithlooks,money,andstatus.
Sowhenourfriendgoesforthehotchickiemamas,thechickshavenothingtogo
byotherthancomparingvalueforvalue.Atthislevel,ourfriendcanonlyshowso
muchvalue,sincehisRealValue(includingpickupskillsandthebeliefthatheis
theprize)isgoingheadtoheadwiththeRealValueofotherguysalsocompeting
forthegirl(whichmayincludemoney,status,looks,pickupskills,andasimilar
beliefthattheyaretheprize).
Asitstands,thechickwillusuallypicktheguythatoverallhasthehighestReal
Value.
Butthisiswherethefallacylies.Togetbacktomyreallifecareerexample,when
Icharged$200perhour,andwhenIchargedahellofalotmorethanthat,my
RealValuewasprettymuchthesame.ButwhenIrackedupmyfees,this
translatedintoamuchhigherPerceivedValue,whichisreallytheonlyvaluethat
counts.

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Soletslookagainatourimaginaryfriend,andletspretendthatheisyou.Atthis
pointinyourDJcareeryoumayfinditmucheasiertoapproachgirls,youve
acquiredthepropermentalityaswellastheskillsrequiredtoacquirechicks.Still,
youhaveahardtimegettingthosereallyHOTgirls.
Whatdoyoudo?
Simple...YOURAISEYOURPERCEIVEDVALUE!
Andhowdoyoudothis?
BYRAISINGYOURPRICE!
Okay,thismaybekindofvague,soletmegetalittlebitmoreindepthhere...
Whatdochicksdotomostguys?Theymaketheguysjumpthroughhoopsin
ordertodemonstratethattheyareworthyofthechick.Whatyouwanttodo
insteadismakethechickjumpthroughhoopstoprovehervaluetoyou.And
believeitornot,thisismosteffectivewiththeultrahotchicks,simplybecauseno
onehasgiventhemtheopportunitytodemonstratetheirvaluebefore,andthey
willrelishtheopportunitytodoso.
Howdoyouaccomplishthis?
Byhavingherdothingsforyou.
Ihaveaverygoodfriend,heisthebestDJIhaveeverseen,plusalsothebest
businessmanIhaveevermet.WhenIfirstcametothiswebsite,Iwasvery
boggled.Yousee,heconstantlyflatterswomen,alwayspaysfordates,andhedoes
otherthingsthatwould,bythedefinitionusedonthisboard,makehimaWuss.
However,hewouldalwaysbedatingthehottestgirlsaround,andtheywerethe
onesalwaysfallinginlovewithhim.Imean,thisguyisGOOD!Imeansogoodas
tosleepwithtwosistersatthesametime,amotherandadaughteratthesame
time,andothersituationsthatifIdidntknowhimsowellIwouldsayhewas
lying.
Butinthelastfewmonths,Irealizedsomethingabouthim.Heneverdid
anythingspecificallytotrytodemonstratevaluetothechicks.Instead,hewould
havethemdemonstratevaluetohim.
Forexample,ifagirlwasmeetinghimathisofficebeforetheywenttodinner,he
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wouldhavehersitdownonthecomputerandhewoulddictatealettertoher.Or
sometimeswhenhepicksupthegirlforadate,helltakehertoacarwashbefore
dinner,andafterthemachinewash,hewouldhandheratowelandhaveherhelp
himdrythecar.
AtfirstIthoughtthechickwouldbepissed.Imean,hereisthisgorgeousgirl,
dressedtokill,dryingacar.Butinstead,shewashappytohelp.Henever
apologizedforhavingthegirlsdothingsforhim,buthewouldshowerthemwith
compliments.
Irememberonetimehetoldme,"Peoplewanttohelp,theyfeelgoodabout
helping.Youhavetogivethemtheopportunity."Atthetime,thecontextofour
conversationwasaboutlittlechildren,butnowIseethathemeantpeoplein
general.
So,the"secret"totakingyourgametothenextlevel,andtogetthemostdesirable
girlsaround,istostartallowingthemtodemonstratetheirvaluetoyou,andto
rewardthem(whetheritbewithcompliments,timespentwithyou,etc.)for
provingtheirworth.
Havethegirldrivetopickyouup(especiallyifyouliveabitfaraway),givethegirl
theopportunitytocookdinnerforyou,haveherproofreadareportyouwrote...
juststructuresomeopportunitywhereshecanprovehervaluetoyou.Andthen
rewardher.Complimentsarewonderfulhere.
Yousee,womenLOVEcompliments,BUTONLYiftheyfeeltheyhaveearned
them.Sogivethegirlsachancetoearnyourcompliments.
Forexample,ifIaminasocialsituationoraclub,Iwillaskagirltoholdmy
drinkwhileIdosomething,andthenthankherbyspendingtimewithher.OrifI
haveacamera,Illpulloutmycamera,giveittoher,andhavehertakeapicture
ofmeandmyfriends.Illthenthankherbyhavinghertakeapicturewithme.
(Thisisespeciallykillerasanopenerinaclubsituation.Throwsalotofgirlsoff
guardanddisarmsthem.)
Mostgirlswanttofeelthattheyearnedyou,thattheyhadtoworkhardtoget
you.Irememberreadingaquoteonce,"Thefactthatthepriceisbeingpaidis
proofthatitisworthpaying."
Putahighpriceonyourself,placeahighPerceivedValueonyourperson,and
watchthegirlsfighteachothertoprovetheirvaluetooandtrytoearnyou.
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LESSONXXXII:HOWTOBEACHALLENGE
"Beachallenge!"

bradd80
Moderator

That'soneofthemostcommonphrasesslungaroundtheDJForumshereonSS
topotentialupandcomingyoungdons.Now,havingreadtheDJBibleand
variousothertips,weallknowthatbeingachallengeisadamnedgoodthingto
havegoingforyou(andifyoudidn'tknowthatYOUDONOW!).Theprevious
lessonontheimportanceofshowingperceivedvaluetowomenisperfectly
complementedbythislesson,whichwillextendthebridgeandshowushowto
evenmoresuccessfullyshowwomenthatwearemenofhighvalue.
Sothatallbeingsaid,it'sprettyobviouswhybeingachallengeissuchaDJthing
todo.ItsetsusasidefromtheAFC'sbyshowingwomenthatwe'renottheir
servantsandwedon'tneedtheminordertodogreatthingsandhavegreattimes.
Buthey,we'veallheardthisbefore.
Whatwedon'thearenoughofisHOWweshouldgoaboutbeingachallenge
whatweneedtodotoshowwomenwhatthey'remissingouton.So,forthe
benefitofthosewhohavesomethingtoworkoninthisarea,here'sabreakdown
ofhowyoushoulddoit:

1)YouareBETTERthanher
That'sthemindsetyoushouldgowithifbeingachallengeappealstoyou.Let's
faceityou'retheDonJuan,andYOUaretheraretreasurehere,notthewoman
you'relookingat.Youdon'tneedher,butshe'sgoingtowantyoushortly.
Thismeansthatyou(unlikeanAFC)willNOTdowhateveryouaretoldbya
woman,andmoreimportantly,youwillnotdothingsthatrequireeffortonyour
parttomakeherhappy.Afterall...
Quote:
Treatherlikeadog,andshe'llbegyouforatreat.ButtreatherlikeaQueen,and
she'lltreatYOUlikeaservant.
Example
Woman:"Howaboutyoubuymeadrink?"
You:"Howaboutyoubuymeadrink!"

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Asalways,besurethatyoudon'tdoanythinglikethisinanoffensiveway.Your
aimistoshowherthatyoudon'tgooutofyourwaytopleaseothers,nottoget
yourselfslapped.

2)No"SpecialTreatment"
Thisoneyou'veheardbefore.
Youtreatallwomenthesame,andyouDONOTmakeanyexceptionsforanyone
ofthem.ThisgoesbacktowhatIwassayingaboveaboutNotbeingaslavetoany
onewoman.Ifyoushowprioritytoonewoman,thennotonlywillthatonelose
interestwhensherealizesshehasyouwrappedaroundherlittlefinger,but
anotherwomanmaylosehopeinyoufindingherbecauseyou'retoobusywith
theother.

3)Needless
Alwaysrememberthatyoudon'tneedawoman!Ifyouhavetosacrifice
somethingimportanttoyoujusttopleasesomewoman,thenyoutellHERto
leaveandfindanother.
Thereare~3billionwomenonthisplanetatanygiventime.Evenafteryoufilter
outtheonesyouwouldn'twant,that'sstillahellofalotofpotentialsoutthere
sodon'tgethungupaboutONEofthem!
SomeoneIknowisasmoker.Now(ironically)heisalsoaMedicalPractitioner.I
askedhimonedaywhyhedecidedtosmoke,consideringheknewallthedangers.
Herewastheanswer:
Quote:
Thereisnopointtryingtolivelonger,ifyouhavetosacrificeallthethingsthat
youloveinlifeinordertodoso.
Smartwords,eh?
Thesamethinggoesforwomendon'tletthemcontrolyourlife.Youdon'tneed
that.

4)"IObject!"

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Ifyoudon'tagreewithsomethingawomanhassaid,thenyoushouldlether
knowaboutit!Womenalwaysseemtogoforguyswiththeirownviewsand
ideals,andnotspinelesswimpswhoagreewiththemallthetime.Youhaveyour
ownviews,showthem!
...Justdon'tforgetnottorevealtoomuchaboutyourselfeither.

5)Revelations
Don'tgoaroundrevealingtowomenyourlifestory.Here'swhy...
FriendshipisbasedaroundaconceptofTrust.Twofriendsneedtobeabletotrust
eachotheriftheyareevergoingtobeopenandsharethoughtsandexperiences
withoneanother.Ifyousharethissortofinformationwithawoman,youare
effectivelythrowingyourselfintothe"Let'sJustBeFriends"Zone(LJBFZone).
Thisisalsooneofthereasonswhyitissodamnhardtogofromfriendshipto
loverwithawoman.
Quote:
Friendstalk.Loversmakelove.

6)ShredsofHope
Finally,everynowandthen,giveoutalittleclueortwothatyoumightbe
interestedinawoman,whilemaintainingthewholechallengething.
Ifyouwantawomantobethinkingaboutyou,thenyouneedtoGIVEHER
somethingtothinkaboutthisbeingthequestion"Isheinterestedornot?'inher
head.
Quote:
Curiositykilledthecat,butitiswhatwillgetyoup*ssy!
TheSecretGuidetoBeingaDonJuan
bradd80, Jan 28, 2013

#114

Brad,thanksforcontinuethisseriesofposts.Allqualityvalue.
Thatsaid,itseemstomethatwhatyouwriteisofmostvaluetoguyswhohave
someexperienceundertheirbeltandwanttofigureouthowtoimproveand/or
wheretheywentwronginthepast.
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That'snotacritiqueofwhatyouaredoing.
Ithinkthatifyoungerguyscomeacrossyourserieshere,theymaynotseeitas
toousefultothem,i.e.,"howdoIgetlaidthisweekend?","howdoIbandthat
chickinEcon101?"
HalfPUAHalfAFC
Senior Don Juan

So,youyoungerguysreadingBrad'sposts,yougottotakethemtoheartinthe
longterm.Thesearelessonstointernalizeforyouroveralldevelopmentasaman,
seducer,womanchaserforalifetime.
It'sacliche,butIdowishthe"manosphere"existedwhenIwasyounger.Idid
okay,andstilldo,atgettingtail.But,notonlywouldIhavebeenbetteratithadI
internalizedlessonssuchasthoseBradprovides,butIwouldalsohavenotmade
manymistakesinmyrelationshipswithwomenIdidmorethanjustbangfora
oneoff.
Brad'spostsmakeagreatadjuncttoreadingRossi'spostsat"TheRationalMale."
Anyway,kudosandthanks,Brad.
HalfPUAHalfAFC, Jan 28, 2013

#115

HalfPUAHalfAFC said:

Brad,thanksforcontinuethisseriesofposts.Allqualityvalue.
Thatsaid,itseemstomethatwhatyouwriteisofmostvaluetoguyswhohavesome
experienceundertheirbeltandwanttofigureouthowtoimproveand/orwheretheywent
wronginthepast.

bradd80
Moderator

ThanksHalfPUA,commentsarealwayswelcome.
ButmySecretGuideismeantforeveryone:beginners,intermediates,
andtheadvanced.Itisbasicallymeanttobeasuperchargedsummary
oftheDJBible,withpracticaltipsthatshowyouwhattodoandguide
youthrougheachstep,fromnewbieallthewaytoadvanced.
Theveryfirstlessonintheseseries,"TheMythoftheNaturalSeducer,"isthe
foundationandbasicallytellsallnewbiesandbeginnersthattheydon'thavetobe
anaturaltobegoodatpickingupgirls.Thetitleofthatveryfirstlessonsaysitall,
andIchosethatasmyfoundationlessonbecauseitgivesallfreshDJrecruitsthe
comfortinknowingthatanyonecanlearnthis.Throughoutallmyproceeding
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therewithwomen.Alltheyhavetodoisreadit,andthengooutthereand
implementwhatthey'velearned.
Thoseearlylessons,onhowtobuildbothshortandlongtermconfidence,howto
dress,andpointersonhowtoteasegirlsandact****yandfunny(nottoomuch,
justalittle)weremeanttoarmthenewupandcomingDJ'swiththeknowledge
theyneedtoreachtheintermediatestage.Thenewbiesaretaughtwhatkindof
statementswomenneedtoheartogettheirpvssyjuicesflowing(ie."i'mnotafraid
ofanything")andthekindofmindsettheyneedtodeveloptoreachthenextstage
ofbeingaDonJuan.Theywerealsotaughtthebeginnerbasics,stufflikehowto
approachgirls,whattosay,howtosayit,andhowtogetphonenumbersquickly
andeasily.DJbeginnerswerealsotaughtthecriticalimportanceofbeingdecisive,
andhowtheycanusethistogarnertherespect,andeventually,love,ofthe
oppositesex.ThecornerstoneofthisintroductoryphasewasConfident
Persistenceandthe6GuidingPrinciplesofBeingADonJuan,becausethiswas
thecoretenetaroundwhichalloftheotherDJprinciplesrevolve.Bylivingthe6
principles,alltheyoungdonsouttherewillbegintoshedtheiregoandstartto
developthe"Idon'tgiveafvck"mindsetthatmakesadvancedDJ'ssosuccessful.
Ialsoincludedlessonsonthe5BasicRules,whichalmostneverchangeandare
meanttobeanunwaveringguidepostforyoungmenintheirrelationshipswith
women.Thiswasreinforcedbythe30Rules,whicharealittlemoreflexiblebut
stillprovidemoreguidancewithregardtothesmallerdetailsofhowmencanlead
successfullives.
Ialsoteasedtheseyoungbuddingdonswithlessonslike"howtostealagirlfrom
herboyfriend"toshowthemjustwhatkindofpowerlaybeforethemastheygot
furtherandfurtherintothelessons.
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TheSecretGuidetoBeingaDonJuan
bradd80, Jan 28, 2013

bradd80
Moderator

#116

Intheintermediatestage,Istartedoffbywarningyoungmenoftheevilsthat
womencanholdinstoreforthem.Becauseeventhoughweoftentreatthisasa
game,wehavetounderstandthattherecanoftenbeseriousrepercussionsthat
flowfromourrelationshipswithwomen,suchasphysicalaltercations,criminal
charges,emotionaldevastation,pregnancy,childsupport,andevenjailtimeand
death.Intheintermediatestage,webuiltontheintroductorylevelbylookingata
varietyofevenmoreusefulwaysofseducingwomen,suchasbyusingcharmor
teasingthem.
Ialsousedafewteasersthatareinstoreforthemintheadvancedstages:Italked

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aboutseductiontechniquesofthemasters,peoplelikesociopathsandSoviet
spymasterswhoperfectedtheartofseductionandwereabletogetthemost
beautiful,prim,andproperwomentocommitthemostunbelievablyawfulthings
justbecausetheyfellsodeeplyinlove.WealsodiscussedmethodsIusedtoget
womentoobsessoverme,allasafoundationforthenextlevel,theadvanced
stage.
Inthisstage,wewilldiscusswhatelse?theadvancedtechniquesoftheDon
Juan.Wewilltalkaboutthe3differentgroupsofwomen,thatIbelieve,arethe
mostdifficulttopickup,andIwillpointoutwhattechniquesinmyexperience
haveworkedbestoneachofthethree.We'lldiscusshealthanddiet,andwe'lltalk
aboutthebestexerciseandweighttrainingtechniquesintheworldbasedonmy
readingsintheseareas:theoriginaldiarieslayingouttheirworkoutregimesby
BruceLee,ArnoldSchwarzenegger,andLouFerrigno,manualswrittenby
Olympictrainers,articleswrittenbybodybuildershereatSoSuave,anduptodate
scientificjournalsthatlaydownthequickestandmosteffectivetricksto
bodybuildingandkeepinghealthy.Andbelieveme,asanyexpertinanyarea
knows,therearetricks.
Butkeepinmind,althoughtherearelittletrickswecanusetobecome
betterinshorteramountsoftime,thereisnosubstituteforpractice
andexperience.YOUHAVETOGOOUTTHEREANDPRACTICE.Even
ifatfirstit'swrong.Onlybygoingoutthere,andsteelingyourselfwith
resolveandbecomingimmunetorejection,willyouthenbeableto
developthepropermindsetofaDonJuan.Itisonlybypracticingoverand
overagain,andbecomingreallygoodatit,thatwecanthenbegintotakeshort
cuts.SoonwewillripoffallthelayersofBSwehavebuiltupovertheyears,and
cometoapointwherewereachtheoriginalpointwherewestartedfrom.Like
beingababythatdoesn'tcarewhatothersthinkofit,thatlovesothersandis
endlesslylovedbyothers,thatgrowsupdevelopingallsortsofdamagingthoughts
andbeliefs(ie"i'mnotgoodenough"or"noonelikesme")rightbacktothat
originalfeelingagain,ofnotcaringwhatothersthinkbecauseoursenseofself
worthissohighitcan'tpossiblyreachhigherlevels.
SohalfPUA,althoughtheselaterlessonsmayappeartobeadvanced,westill
haven'tevenreachedthatstageyet!Andtruthfully,Ihaven'treallyreachedthat
stageyeteither.Perfectionhasnot,andprobablyneverwillbe,achieved.Butwe
don'twanttoachieveperfection,becauseperfectionisboring.Whatwewantto
doishavefunalongtheway,becausetheNumber1RuleofbeingaDonJuanis
livinglifethewaywewanttoliveit,notunderthecontrolofanybodybut
ourselves.It'sajourneywewilltraveltogether,andwewilllearnalotabouteach
otherandhopefully,justasmuchaboutourselves.Neartheendofthissecret
guide,wewillgraduallybecomemorephilosophical,andatthispointwewill
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discussissuessuchas"innergame"andwhatPookreferredtoasnirvana.
Soaswegetreadytoreachthenextadvancedstage,keepinmindthatthisisjust
buildingonthepreviouslessons,theintermediatestage,whichbuiltuponthe
lessonsbeforethat,theintroductorystage.Becauseintheend,thisguideis
dedicatedandabsolutelymeantforthoseyoungdonswhoarejust
startingout.Thekidswhoareafraid,havenoonetoturnto,andwho
maybeignoredbygirlsorevenbulliedbyotherguys.We,astheolder
guyshere,haveadutytoprotectthembypassingontothemallthe
impressiveknowledgewehaveaccumulatedovertheyears.
You'reright,IwishIcouldhavehadthisinformationatmyfingertipswhenIwas
growingupdealingwithwomen.ItwouldhavesavedmeALOToftimeand
heartache.Butlikeanybigbrother,halfPUA,wehavelearnedthehardwayand
sufferedsowecanprovideguidancetoourlittlebrotherswhocomeafterusso
theydon'thavetosufferasmuchaswedid.
Tillthenextlessongentlemen,readupandgooutthereandimplementwhat
you'veread!Don'tbeafraid,andalwaysrememberthatnobodyonthisearthis
toogoodforyou..You'retheprizetobewon,becausethere'ssoveryfewtrueDJ's
likeyouonthisplanet!
TheSecretGuidetoBeingaDonJuan
bradd80, Jan 28, 2013

#117

Damnbradd,thisisagoldmine,thanksforeverythinghere.Iwishwecouldedit
theoriginalposttoputlinkstoallyourlessonsinoneplace

Frenchisthelanguageoflove.

sageproduct
Master Don Juan

SoSuaveisthelanguageofhate.
Boldisthelanguageoftrolls.:up:
sageproduct, Jan 28, 2013

#118

WaitingforBrad'snextpostislike:
*Beingatagreatconcertbutthebandistakingabreaktotunetheirinstruments
andusappreciativefansaregrowingimpatient.

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Senior Don Juan

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*Sittingthrougha16coursemealandthefirstfewcoursesblowyourtastebuds
outandthecookistakinghisgoodoldtimeonthenextone.
*Watchingthebongfulloftastybudgoingarounda20personcircle,waitingand
waitingforittogetbacktoyou.
*Havingtodealwithanhourlonginfomercialsandwichedbetweentwogameson
Sundayafternoon
*StayingawakeasakidonChristmasEve,dyingforthepresentscomingnext
HalfPUAHalfAFC, Feb 4, 2013

#119

1 person likes this.

HalfPUAHalfAFC said:

WaitingforBrad'snextpostislike:
*Beingatagreatconcertbutthebandistakingabreaktotunetheirinstrumentsandus
appreciativefansaregrowingimpatient.

bradd80

*Sittingthrougha16coursemealandthefirstfewcoursesblowyourtastebudsoutandthe
cookistakinghisgoodoldtimeonthenextone.

Moderator

*Watchingthebongfulloftastybudgoingarounda20personcircle,waitingandwaiting
Clicktoexpand...
forittogetbacktoyou.

hahamaybeournextlessonshouldhavebeenontheimportanceofalways
keepingwomenwantingmore?
Oksonoseriously,hereitis,averyimportantintroductorytopicbeforewestart
gettingintoadvancedDJtechniques..
LESSONXXXIII:THESECRETWEAPONEVERYMANHASINHIS
ARSENAL
Ok,sonowwerealmostreadytogetintotheadvancedtopics,andthereallyhigh
levelissuesfacedbyexperienceddonjuansaftertheyhavebeengoodwithwomen
foraround5to10years.Nowthatisnttosayyouwontreachtheselevelseven
soonerthanthat,especiallyifyouvealreadybeenreadingthisSecretGuideand
puttingthelessonsintoactiononaconsistentbasis.
Butnow,IthinkitstimeIintroducedyoualltoaveryimportantsecretweapon,
andinityouwillfindthesolutiontoallyourproblemswithcrappywomen,and
sh1ttypeopleingeneral.Itwontbestrangeorunfamiliartoanyofyou,butI
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thinkyouhaveall,forthemostpart,disregardeditstruepower.
Asaman,alwaysunderstand,alwaysrealize,thatyouhaveoneweapon,one
secretpower,whichifusedcorrectlyistheultimategamechanger.
Whatisthatweapon?
Itissimplytheabilitytogetupandwalkaway.
Soundsprettysimpledoesntit?Asanovice,youmightfindthisprettytoughto
do,especiallyifyoureusedtotheconceptoflimitedavailability,otherwise
knownastheviewpointthatthereareveryfewavailable,goodlookingwomenout
there.
Nowwetalkaboutthisalothere.However,Idontthinkmostpeopleunderstand
thepremisebehindwalkingawayandwhyit'ssuchadeadlyweapon.Mostguys
whenyoutellthemtowalkawayfromabadrelationshiporaterriblegirlfriend,
theythinkofitintermsoftryingtogetbackthegirlthattheyarewalkingaway
from.Inotherwords,guysusuallytendtothink"ifigonocontactshewillseei
haveotheroptionsandshewillstarttomissmeandsoonshewillcomebackto
meaftershemissesmeandrealizesImtheoneafterall",etc.
NO.That'stheexactpolaroppositeeffectofwhatyouaregoingfor.
Outofeverythingonthissite,probablyevenmoreimportantthantheprincipleof
seeingmorethanonegirlatonce,thisisprobablythesinglemostimportantthing
thatIhavelearned,foramultitudeofreasonsthatIwillnowgetinto.
1.SettingStandardsofHowYouWanttobeTreated,andTakingthe
BallandGoingHomeWhenTheyAren'tMet,aretheBuildingBlocks
toSelfEsteem.
Theresultsaren'ttangible,wellatleastnotatfirst,andobviouslythingslike
gettingupandwalkingawayfromawomanwontgetyoulaid.Itisntthekindof
DJstrategythatwillgetyoualotofnumbers.Butunderstandthatthisis,
generallyspeaking,anadvancedDJconcept.Inyourearlyyears,yourgoalwillbe
toapproachasmanywomenasyoucanandberejectedasmuchaspossible.
Learnwhatsucceedswithwomen,andwhatdoesnt.Thepointistogainlotsof
experience.Butafterawhile,afteryouhavedealtwithdozensandevenhundreds
ofwomen,youwillbegintodevelopamuchmoreadvanced,targetedmindset.
NowfromanAFC,heckevenaDJstandpoint,it'scounterintuitivetojustwalk
away.Ifthepointistogetass,whyamiwalkingawayfromit?

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Iunderstandwhatyourethinkingandthisisaverylogicalquestion.
Ihaveaveryhighopinionofmyself,andconsidermyselfveryselfconfident.But
understandthatalmostnoneofthisselfesteemdependsonwhatwomenorwhat
anybodyelsethinksofme.Noneofitdependsonsomefloozysopinionofme.My
confidenceisdeeplyingrained,andreliesalmosttotallyonmyownselfimageand
myownaccomplishmentsinlife.Itisnotflimsyorfakeoranactbutquitethe
oppositeitisrockhardandmadeoutofsteel.ThisispartlybecauseIdothingson
adailybasisthatallowmetopatmyselfonthebackandfeelgoodaboutmyself.
ButitsalsobecauseIrefusetoletanyoneinmylifewhocanpossiblylowerit.
EverywomanIhaveeverdatedwasplacedonanimaginaryseesaw,andthe
secondthatthewoman'streatmentofmebegantorisehigherthanmyself
esteemontheotherendofthatseasaw,Iwouldjumpoff.
2.ItGetsRidofalltheUnimportantBSandAllowsYoutoFocusOnly
onWhatsRelevant.
ThebestwayIcanexplainthisistouseanexamplefrommyownpractice.
Forthefirstcoupleofyears,Iadvertisedmypracticethesameway.Iwould
introducemyself,giveasalespitch,andrevealsomeadditionalinformationabout
whatIdo.AndImean,thisworkedtoanextent.Butineverreallylikedthis
approach,becauseIdhavetocastmynetwideandhopethatsomethingIhaveto
offerwillattractsomeclients.
ButthenIdecidedtotakeamoretargetedapproach.Forexample,Iwouldtarget
smallcompaniesandofferthemsolutionstotheircorporateandcommercial
problems.AndIslowlybegantorealizewhatwaswrongwithmyprevious
attempts..
Ihadbeenmakingadjustmentstomygameforpeoplewhoididn'tevenwantas
clients.
NotonlydidIstartdoingmytargetedsalespitchhowiwantedtodoit,butiused
tospendalotofmydaytalkingtoclients.Nowimighttalkto2or3,butofthese
Iwilldefinitelyretainatleastone.I'mgoingtotakeinalmost50%ofallthe
clientsItalktobecauseIknowexactlywhoI'mtalkingtonow.Iknowhowthey
thinkforthemostpart,Iknowwhattheyarelookingforintermsoflegaland
businesssolutions,andIknowwhat'simportantandwhat'snot.Imnotcoming
inwithsomegenericsalespitchbecauseidon'tdealwithgenericclientsanymore,
andImnolongertryingtohaveaonesizefitsallpolicy.
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Thissoundsutterlyridiculouswhenyousayitoutloud,but90%ofyoudothe
samethingwithwomen.
Sohowdoesthisapplytogameyoumightbeaskingrightnow.Simple...Inever
reallylikedghettowomenandtheyneverreallylikedmetoomucheither.This
usedtokillmewhenIdgetrejectedbyreallycutechicksinthepast,becauseI
thoughtIcouldeasilygetthesurethingbutthenIwonderedwhatmyproblem
wasifIcouldntevengetthiskindofaneasytarget.ButasIgotolderandmore
experiencedIrealizedthatInevergotalongwellwiththemanyway.Werejust
toodifferent.SoIstoppedgivingafvckabouttheirrejectionofmeandwhatever
feedbacktheyhadforme.
I'mknownasabitofapartyguyoranimalorwhateveryouwanttocallit.Iget
enoughofpartying,soIreallydon'tgiveafvckwhatthe22yearoldpartygirl
thinksaboutmebecauseshe'snotmytype.Ialreadyseeenoughofthatside.I'm
notgoingtowastemytimeimputinganydataintomydatabaseaboutwhatit
takestogetagirlthatIknowattheendofthedayidon'tevenwant.Another
example:Idon'tlikefattiesorthickwomen.SowhywouldIgetmyselfesteem
hurtbyapproachingandtakingintoconsiderationfeedbackfromagirlthatIm
notevencompatiblewith?
Sothatstheimportantlessonfortoday:theabilitytowalkaway.
Walkawaybecauseitallowsyoutobuildselfesteem.Walkawaybecauseitallows
youtoonlyconsiderdatafromsanewomenwhoareinterestedinyouandwho
arecompatiblewithyou.
Becauseremember:asaDJ,youmustlearntoquicklycutoutallthe
negativeenergy,allofthenegativewomen,outofyourlifeassoonas
youidentifythem.Wheneverawomanistreatingyoubadly,oris
ignoringyourcalls,ordisrespectsyou,ormakesyoufeelbadmore
oftenthanshemakesyoufeelgood,rememberthatyoucanonlybe
treatedbypeoplethewayyouLETTHEMtreatyou.YOUALWAYS
HAVETHEPOWERTOGETUPANDWALKAWAY.Onlythiswaywill
youbeabletobecomeasuccess,bysurroundingyourselfwithpositive
thingsandpeople.
Andbywalkingaway,youwillalwaysleavetheimpressionintheheadofthat
crazywomanthatunlikealltheotherAFC'sinherlifeyouputupastandand
refusedtotakeherBS.Youwillbebuildingyourownselfesteembyslowly
chippingawayathers.Butaboveall,youwillbetakingawayherpowerandusing
ittobuildyourownselfconfidence!
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