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NEWSLETTER
SUMMER 2015
CONFLICT
Conflict in relationships, whether it be between spouses,
family members, friends, or coworkers, is virtually
inevitable. Conflict itself isnt the problem; however, how
its handled can bring people closer together or push them
farther apart. Poor communication can potentially weaken
the bond between people, resulting in mistrust,
frustration, and resentment. Disagreements and
misunderstandings can be grounds for intense anger and
distancing. On the other hand, effective communication
can enable sharing of information, perspective taking, and
profound understanding. When communication flows well,
conflict is more likely to be resolved in a cooperative
manner, instead of escalating to a destructive level. Good
communication is essential to achieving and sustaining a
healthy relationship.
RESOLUTION
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biggest problem
in
is the illusion
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communication
that it has
taken place.
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HEALTHY
COMMUNICATION
USING
I-MESSAGES
An I-message is an assertive
way to express your anger,
sadness, or disappointment
with something
another
I-Message Formula:
I feel ______________ (State
your feeling) when you
____________ (Describe the
behavior that elicits the
feeling) because
______________ (State why the
behavior causes that feeling).
Id like ______________ (State
what youd like for the
outcome).
Example: "I feel hurt and
insignificant when youre
THINGS TO AVOID
Defensiveness
Overgeneralization
(i.e. You always
You never)
Blame
Criticism
Ridicule
Body language that
conveys disinterest
or that is
patronizing
Character attacks;
Name-calling (i.e.
Youre lazy.
Youre careless.)
Lying
Needing to be
right or to win
Interrupting
Being judgmental