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By Paige Benton
Had I any vague premonition of my present plight when I was six, I would have demanded that Stephen
Herbison (incontestably the catch of the second grade) put his marriage proposal into writing and have it
notarized. I do want this piece to be practical, so to all you first-graders: carpe diem.
Over the past several years I have perfected the artistry of escape regarding any singles functions-cookouts, conferences, Sunday school classes, and my personal favorite, putt-putt. My avoidance
mechanism is triggered not so much by a lack of patience with such activities as it is by a lack of stomach
for the pervasive attitudes. Thoreau insists that most men lead lives of quiet desperation; I insist that
many singles lead lives of loud aggravation. Being immersed in singles can be like finding yourself in the
midst of "The Whiners" of 1980s Saturday Night Live--it gives a whole new meaning to "pity party."
Much has been written in Christian circles about singleness. The objective
is usually either to chide the married population for their misunderstanding and segregationism or to
empathize with the unmarried population as they bear the cross of "Plan B" for the Christian life,
bolstered only by the consolation prizes of innumerable sermons on 1 Corinthians 7 and the fact that you
can cut your toenails in bed. Yet singles, like all believers, need scriptural critique and instruction
seasoned by sober grace, not condolences and putt-putt accompanied with pious platitudes.
John Calvin's secret to sanctification is the interaction of the knowledge of God and knowledge of self.
Singles, like all other sinners, typically dismiss the first element of the formula, and therein lies the root
of all identity crises. It is not that hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, but that life has no tragedy like
our God ignored. Every problem is a theological problem, and the habitual discontent of us singles is no
exception.
Can God be any less good to me on the average Tuesday morning than he was on that monumental Friday
afternoon when he hung on a cross in my place? The answer is a resounding no. God will not be less good
to me tomorrow either, because God cannot be less good to me. His goodness is not the effect of his
disposition but the essence of his person--not an attitude but an attribute.
I long to be married. My younger sister got married two months ago. She now has an adoring husband, a
beautiful home, a whirlpool bathtub, and all-new Corningware. Is God being any less good to me than he
is to her? The answer is a resounding no. God will not be less good to me because God cannot be less
good to me. It is a cosmic impossibility for God to shortchange any of his children.
God can no more live in me apart from the perfect fullness of his goodness and grace than I can live in
Nashville and not be white. If he fluctuated one quark in his goodness he would cease to be God.
Warped theology is at the heart of attempts to "explain" singleness: "As soon as you're satisfied with God
alone, he'll bring someone special into your life"--as though God's blessings are ever earned by our
contentment. "You're too picky"--as though God is frustrated by our fickle whims and needs broader
parameters in which to work. "As a single you can commit yourself wholeheartedly to the Lord's work"-as though God requires emotional martyrs to do his work, of which marriage must be no part. "Before
you can marry someone wonderful the Lord has to make you someone wonderful"--as though God grants
marriage as a second blessing to the satisfactorily sanctified.
Accepting singleness, whether temporary or permanent, does not hinge on speculation about answers
God has not given to our list of whys, but rather on celebration of the life he has given. I am not single
because I am
too spiritually unstable to possibly deserve a husband, nor because I am too spiritually mature to possibly
need one. I am single because God is so abundantly good to me, because this is his best for me. It is a
cosmic impossibility that anything could be better for me right now than being single. The psalmists
confirm that I should not want, I shall not want, because no good thing will God withhold from me.
Such knowledge of God must transform subsequent knowledge of self-theological readjustment is always
the catalyst for renewed self-awareness. This keeps identity right-side-up with nouns and modifiers in
their correct place. Am I a Christian single or am I a single Christian? The discrepancy in grammatical
construction may be somewhat subtle, but the difference in mindset is profound. Which word is
determinative and which is descriptive?
You see, we singles are chronic amnesiacs--we forget who we are, we forget whose we are. I am a single
Christian. My identity is not found in my marital status but in my redemptive status. I am one of the
"haves," not one of the "have-nots."
Have you ever wondered at what age one is officially single? Perhaps a sliding scale is in order: 38 for a
Wall Street tycoon; 21 for a Mississippi
sorority girl; 14 for a Zulu princess; and five years older than I am for me. It is a relevant question
because at some point we see ourselves as "single," and that point is a place of greater danger than
despair. Singleness can be a mere euphemism for self-absorption--now is the "you time." No wife to
support? No husband to pamper? Well, then, by all means join three different golf courses, get a weekly
pedicure, raise emus, subscribe to People.
Singleness is never carte blanche for selfishness. A spouse is not a sufficient countermeasure for self. The
gospel is the only antidote for egocentricity. Christ did not come simply to save us from our sins, he came
to save us from our selves. And he most often rescues us from us through relationships, all kinds of
relationships. "Are you seeing anyone special?" a young matron in my home church asked patronizingly.
"Sure," I smiled. "I see you and you're special." OK, my sentiment was a little less than kind, but the
message is true. To be single is not to be alone. If someone asks if you are in a relationship right now,
your immediate response should be that you are in dozens. Our range of relational options are not
limited to getting married or to living in the sound-proof, isolated booth of Miss America pageants.
Christian growth mandates relational richness.
The only time folks talk about human covenants is in premarital counseling. How anemic. If our God is a
covenantal God then all of our relationships are covenantal. The gospel is not about how much I love God
(I typically love him very little); it is about how much God loves me. My relationships are not about how
much friends should love me, they are about how much I get to love them. No single should ever expect
relational impoverishment by virtue of being single. We should covenant to love people--to initiate, to
serve, to commit.
Many of my Vanderbilt girls have been reading Lady in Waiting, a popular book for Christian women
struggling with singleness. That's all fine and dandy, but what about a subtitle: And Meanwhile, Lady,
Get Working. It is a cosmic impossibility for God to require less of me in my relationships than he does of
the mother of four whose office is next door. Obedience knows no ages or stages.
Let's face it: singleness is not an inherently inferior state of affairs. If it were, heaven would be inferior to
this world for the majority of Christians (Mom is reconciled to being unmarried in glory as long as she
can be Daddy's roommate). But I want to be married. I pray to that end day. I may meet someone and
walk down the aisle in the next couple of years because God is so good to me. I may never have another
date and die an old maid at 93 because God is so good to me. Not my will but his be done. Until then I am
claiming as my theme verse, "If any man would come after me, let him . . . "
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E. Guys, be men and pursue well. It will relieve the girl's feeling that dating is an
everlasting audition! But be willing to follow through. Don't just pursue hard and then back off.
I really believe that from our perspective there are tons of people you could marry. Pray that
God would give you His love for this person you are pursuing because if your love for God is
like the morning mist that disappears as soon as the sun comes up (Hosea 6:4), how can you
expect to love a sinner? But it is not sin for a woman to ask a guy out dont call something sin
that the Bible doesnt call sin.
II. So, What is the Purpose Of Dating? We need to ask 1st, what is the purpose of mankind? To
glorify God and enjoy Him forever. So, this must ultimately be the purpose of dating! Dating is not just
about getting married, but it is also not to be a substitute for marriage! John Holzman in his book Dating
With Integrity (which, while far from perfect has some good principles) say that the purpose of dating is
to be blessed and to be a blessing. I think that is a helpful perspective because otherwise dating takes on
huge, overwhelming pressure. Too many people get caught in the catch-22 of "I don't want to date them
unless I would marry them, yet I don't really know them well enough to know if I want to date them." On
the other hand, we don't want to make dating too casual. There are too many people who date around to
have their cake and eat it too, to have fun but avoid any commitment or real intimacy. Being a blessing
should be our goal in all relationships (remember we are love one another as ourselves) and dating is no
exception!
IV. The Problem With Most Christian Books On Dating
"Super-Spirituality" "We should focus on being the right person rather than on looking for the right
person." This sounds good (and we should pursue sanctification) but unfortunately is not Biblical. There is
nothing wrong with seeking a spouse, in fact, it is encouraged (if not by implication commanded.) Look at
Prov. 18:22 "He who finds a wife finds a good thing..." Then compare it with what is said about wisdom in
Prov 8:35. Finding wisdom and finding a wife (or husband -- the Bible is not being sexist at this point)
both are means through which we receive favor from God. Are we called to seek wisdom? (look at Prov
8:1-11) So, by implication, are we called to seek a spouse. It is not spiritual to pretend that you are content
when you are not. It's not spiritual to think you don't need anybody but you and God.
They present a Simpleton Approach to the Christian Life" Dan Allender uses the term simpleton to
refer to the majority of Christians who want a little formula or set of rules that are guaranteed to make life
"work" (whatever that means!) This approach is rampant in "Dating" books and even in books that
advocate courtship instead of dating. For example, listen to these quotes from Choosing God's Best by Dr.
Don Raunikar (a book I would not recommend.)
o
"Dating creates more problems than it solves: broken hearts, illegitimate children, abortions,
sexually transmitted diseases, and feelings of guilt or shame that can last a lifetime... [I almost
laughed out loud when I read this -- is dating the problem or is sin the problem?]
As serious as these consequences are, the solution for them is simple: biblical courtship instead
of dating... [It's so simple, all you have to do is court rather than date and your life will be worryfree!]
dating is little more than an experimental blip. As an experiment, though, it has been a total
failure. With God's help, it's a failure you can avoid from now on... If you are one of those singles
who has experienced the brokenness of a failed dating or marriage relationship, you will find
healing in the courtship process this book describes. (pg 14-15) [Is he serious? If you follow the
rules his book describes - which he claims are Biblical even though he doesn't even deal with a
single scripture until page 87 and then misuses Ruth as an example of courtship!] No rules, not
even Biblical ones will bring healing -- it is the gospel that brings healing!
"...courtship offers us a way to meet our needs legitimately without getting out of God's will,
without missing God's planned blessing, without causing ourselves pain and grief, without causing
hurt to other people, and without causing confusion in our lives." [Courtship does not guarantee
all these things but even if it did, it seems to me that God likes confusion, it is one of His best
tools! see Deut 8:2 ff, Isaiah 50:10-11
They are driven by fear" I Kissed Dating Good-bye is like this. The whole motivation for courtship is
that dating brings pain. Choosing God's Best even admits that it is counting on pain as the motivation for
you following it's formula! (see pg. 14 at the bottom) These books are driven by the same thing our culture
is, fear. But fear is a sub-Christian motivation! Perfect love casts out fear, therefore a distinctively
Christian approach to relationships can't be driven by fear! These books fail to address the real sin issue
that underlies so much of dating (and courtship by the way) and that is fear driving us to try to take control!
[By the way, I do think there is wisdom to couples looking for community input into their relationship.)
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progressed, it became increasingly common knowing these things in our heads, these
that are cynical about the possibility of
for couples who were dating or going steady kinds of stories can still breed discontent
healthy male/female relationships or marto be sexually intimate (at some level).
with our marriages, and tempt us to throw
riage, frequently depicting men and women
But on secular college campuses today,
away a good but imperfect marriage (there
as mutual predators. Lee Siegel, writing for
not only is sex disconnected from marriage
are no perfect ones!) to chase a fantasy. The the New Republic44 describes the popular
(present or future plans), but from dating
book, The Bridges of Madison County, by
T.V. series Sex in the City as an assault on
and romance. One student writes, College
the way, was incredibly populara runheterosexual romantic hope. The four sinis about casual sex, hooking up and oneaway best seller for many months.
gle thirty-something women who are looknight stands, often when drunk. Its sex
In America today, divorce is so coming for love and happiness in the city are
unburdened with meaning. Not surprisingmonplace, that it is possible to speak of A
constantly trashed by the creepy men they
ly, STDs are at epidemic levels on secular
Divorce Culture as Barbara Defoe
have sex with, and the women themselves
college campuses today.
Whitehead does in her book by that title.
alienate the only decent guys in the show
I wish I could say that attitudes and
According to one estimate, half of all marby their own creepy behavior. I recently
behavior are totally different among
riages made in the mid-1970s will end in
learned that (at least in California!) proChristians. But many professing Christians
divorce. And for marriages made more
fessed Christian women have Sex in the City
seem to experience very little dissonance
recently, some demographers project that as parties, where they get together to drink
between their faith and casual sex. One six- many as 64 percent will end in divorce.40
martinis, watch reruns, and air their grievteen year old told me that she had sex
Whitehead writes: With each passing
ances about men.
because it was easier than talking. Some are year, the culture of divorce becomes more
sexually promiscuous, while dreaming of a
deeply entrenched. American children are
Marriage is Still Popular
future Christian marriage to a wonderful
routinely schooled in divorce. Mr. Rogers
Despite rampant cynicism, marriage is still
godly spouse. There seems to be no
very popular, and for good reason.
connection in their minds between
Contrary to commonly held antiOur culture still saturates us with an marriage myths, research consistently
the lives they are living now and the
futures they envision for themselves.
updated version of the medieval ideol- shows that married people live
No question about whether the godly
longer, are healthier, wealthier, happiogy of romantic love. Marriage and
spouse of their dreams would want to
er, and have more satisfying sex lives
family are too banal for romance.
marry someone who is living as they
than single people.45
are now and no questions about the
There is a decline in the proporimpact of their present choices on their
(taught) toddlers about divorce. An entire
tion of Americans marrying, and especially,
future moral character and their ability to
childrens literature is devoted to divorce.
marrying successfully, yet marriage remains
be faithful to a spouse.
While well motivated, these books, movies
an extremely important goal to most
Our culture still saturates us with an
and T.V. shows carry an unmistakable mes- Americans. Ninety-three percent of
updated version of the medieval ideology of sage about the impermanence and unreliaAmericans rate having a happy marriage
romantic love. Marriage and family are too bility of family bonds. Like romantic love,
as either one of the most important or very
banal for romance. Grand romantic passion the childrens storybooks say, family love
important objectives.46 Yet, they fear this
can only happen in adulterous affairs.
comes and goes. Daddies disappear.
may be impossible to achieve.
For example, in The Bridges of Madison Mommies find new boyfriends. Mommies
Several years ago, I audited a class on
County, after a three-day affair, Robert, a
boyfriends leave. Grandparents go away.
Feminist Theory at Clarke University. A
divorced National Geographic photograEven pets must be left behind.41 Not surnumber of women in the class expressed a
pher, tells Francesca, the wife of an Iowa
prisingly, many children of divorce are
longing for a reliable, faithful husband who
farmer, My whole life has brought me here extremely cynical about marriage as a relawould enable them to raise children at
to you...Do you think love like this haptionship of permanent commitment.42
home. But their mothers had stayed home
pens to everyone? Were hardly two sepaTragically, divorce is sometimes neceswith children and their dads had walked
rate people. Were fused. This kind of cersary, and the lesser of evils, but far less freout, leaving them poor and with no job
tainty comes but once in a lifetimeIs it
quently than is often assumed. While many skills. They realized that they had to be
right giving it up? Dont throw us
Americans prefer to believe that children
financially independent, whether they marawayCome away with me.
are infinitely resilient and divorce does no
ried or not. Similar fears motivate many
In this genre of romance stories, the
long-term damage to them, all the evidence people to begin marriage with pre-nuptial
grand passion is fleeting, unfulfillable and
points the other way. Longitudinal studies
contracts as insurance, just in case the marultimately a fantasy. If Francesca went off
tracking the impact of divorce on children
riage fails.
with Robert, what are the chances that he
over a twenty-five-year period have shown
Even when the word marriage is not
wouldnt neglect her like he did his first
on-going negative consequences, including
spoken, there is a longing for what marriage
wife, through his obsession with photogragreater difficulty in forming permanent
representsa permanent relationship of
phy and travel? The everyday routines of
marital commitments themselves.43 It turns
love and commitment. Think of the populife would inevitably change their relationout that children are not always better off
larity of romantic comedies (especially
ship, and their romance would be tarnished when the parents are happily divorced
among single women). All romantic comewith their guilt and the pain inflicted on
rather than unhappily married.
dies are about finding Mr. (or Ms.) Right,
Francescas husband and children. While
There are many movies and T.V. shows or finding your soul mate. The implication
6
A Different View
The alternative to a cynical rejection of
Further Reflection
To those who are addicted to romantic
comedies, and are incapable of breaking the
habit cold turkey, start by being selective
about the ones you watch.
My Big Fat Greek Wedding and
Monsoon Wedding are antidotes to the
extreme individualism of most romantic
comedies. They show marriage as embedded in large, extended families, with many
stakeholders.
Monsoon Wedding tells the story of an
arranged Indian marriage. The couple marries very soon after meeting for the first
time. This movie deals realistically with the
sense of anger and betrayal the fianc feels
when his soon-to-be-bride tells him, the
day before the wedding, that she has been
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one another about their love, friends hardly ever talk about their friendship. Lovers are normally face to face, absorbed
in each other, friends side by side, absorbed in some common interest. Above all, Eros (while it lasts) is necessarily
between two only. But two, far from being the necessary number for friendship, is not even the best. And the reason for
this is important: In each of my friends there is something that only some other friend can fully bring out. By myself I
am not large enough to carry the whole man into activity; I want other lights than my own to show all his facets. Now
that Charles is dead, I shall never again see Ronalds reaction to Charles joke. Far from having more of Ronald, having
him to myself now that Charles is dead, I have less of Ronald. Hence true friendship is the least jealous of loves. Two
friends delight to be joined by a third, and three by a fourth, if only the newcomer is qualified to become a real friend.
The Great Tragedy: Those who simply want friends will never really make any! Lewis says, That is why those pathetic people who
simply want friends can never make any. The very condition of having friends is that we should want something else besides
friends. Where the truthful answer to the question Do you see the same truth? would be I see nothing and I dont care about the
truth, I only want a friend, no friendship can arise though affection of course may. There would be nothing for the friendship
to be about, and friendship must be about something, even if it were only enthusiasm for dominoes or white mice. Those who have
nothing can share nothing, those who are going nowhere can have no fellow travelers.
You will not find the warrior, the poet, the philosopher, or the Christian by staring in his eyes as if he were your mistress; better
fight beside him, read with him, argue with him, pray with him.
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here are few issues that have generated Christian groups, because he regarded his
were frustrated that the public discussion
more political heat and extreme rheto- own situation as more complex and tragic
of this matter has been dominated by insisric; more anger and hatred; confusion
tently ideological voices: on one side, gay
than their stance could acknowledge. He
and pain, than the issue of homosexuality.
also worried that the gay subculture encour- rights activists demanding the churchs
Christianity has come under fire for its traunqualified acceptance of homosexuality;
aged homosexual believers to draw their
ditional teaching that homosexual behavior
on the other, unqualified homophobic conidentity from their sexuality and thus to
is intrinsically immoral. For those who
shift the ground of their identity subtly and demnation of homosexual Christians.
believe that a persons homosexual orientaHays wrote this article, after Garys death,
idolatrously away from God.
tion is biologically determined, as much as
in the hope that it would foster compasFor more than 20 years, Gary had
race and sex are, the traditional Christian
grappled with his homosexuality, experienc- sionate and carefully reasoned theological
teaching seems cruel and intolerantakin
reflection within the community of faith. I
ing it as a compulsion and an affliction.
to racism or sexism. It appears to many that Now, as he faced death, he wanted to talk it have quoted Hays because both here and in
the God of the Bible condemns people for
his studies on the Bibles teaching about
all through again from the beginning,
expressing the innate identity He gave
because he knew my love for him and trust- homosexuality, he expresses so well the spirthem.
it with which I have attemptThere are many
ed to reflect on this terribly
Public discussion has been dominated by insistently sensitive issue.
Christians and nonChristianswho feel
Let me start by pointing
ideological voices: on one side, gay rights activists
alienated from all camps.
out
that there are enough
demanding the churchs unqualified acceptance of
They cannot celebrate
differences between male
homosexuality; on the other, unqualified homopho- homosexuals (gay men) and
their homosexual feelings and wholeheartedly
lesbians that they should not
bic condemnation of homosexual Christians.
embrace a homosexual
automatically be lumped
lifestyle because they are
together, even though the
convinced (for any number of reasons) that
two groups are often political allies. For
ed me to speak without dissembling...In
their homoerotic feelings are the result of
particular, Gary wanted to discuss the bibli- example: few men are aware of choosing to
something having gone wrong. I have
be gay. Many women are not either, but a
cal passages that deal with homosexual
friends in this situation, and my heart goes
significant number of women
acts...
out to them.
convert to lesbianism, sometimes after
He had read hopefully through the
Those who identify with the gay rights standard bibliography of the burgeoning
years of marriage and raising children.
movement talk a lot about respecting diversi- movement advocating the acceptance of
For radical feminists, lesbianism can be
ty, but they do not always respect the diver- homosexuality in the church...In the end,
a political choice, motivated more by femisity among those with homosexual feelings.
nist ideology than by an exclusive sexual
he came away disappointed, believing that
They need to allow space for those who
these authors, despite their good intentions, attraction to women. For them, lesbianism
interpret those feelings as the result of
had imposed a wishful interpretation on the is the strongest possible statement of consomething having gone wrong...including
tempt for men (or of their irrelevance).
biblical passages... Gary, as a homosexual
those who seek help to change.
While many women become lesbians
Christian, believed that their writings did
Richard Hays, a New Testament schol- justice neither to the biblical texts nor to
after experiencing abuse by men, there are
ar, wrote about his best friend from college, the depressing reality of the gay subculture
also compelling ideas that draw feminists
who spent a week with his family shortly
to embrace lesbianism. Obviously, to comthat he had moved in and out of for 20
before dying of AIDS. Hays writes: (Gary) years.1
municate with these women, we need to
was angry at the self-affirming gay
understand their thinking. We must also
Hays writes that both he and Gary
1
homosexuality, in and of itself, as an illustration of the moral confusion and unrighteousness that comes from refusing to
acknowledge the Creator who, as Jesus said,
made them male and female at the beginning, and said, For this reason a man
shall...be joined to his wife, and the two
shall become one flesh(Mt. 19.4-5).
Marriage between a man and a woman, two
complementary equals, was established at
creation as the only legitimate context for
sexual intimacy.
In Romans I, Paul establishes the
intrinsic immorality of homosexual behavior, irrespective of social context, personal
motivation or anything else. This means
that when Paul condemns pederasty (in 1
Cor 6:9-11) he not only condemns the
exploitation involved in that practice,
(which he surely hated),but also the homoeroticism itself. Pauls teachings must therefore be taken seriously by Christians and
applied (with love, care and sensitivity) in
every culture to whatever model of homosexuality emerges.
Homosexual Orientation in a
Biblical Perspective
We must understand homosexuality in light
of the brokenness and abnormality of living
in a fallen world. All of the Bibles references to homosexuality specify homosexual
behavior or acts; there is no Hebrew or
Greek word for a homosexual person as
such.
It cannot be denied that some people
can only remember, as far back as they can
recall, being attracted to the same sex. They
are not aware of ever having had a choice in
the matter. This raises a terribly troubling
question. Isnt God cruel and unfair to prohibit homosexual behavior for those with a
homosexual orientation they did not
choose?
We must never minimize the suffering
experienced by those with persistent homosexual desires, who struggle to be celibate.
At the same time, ever since the fall, every
one of us has been born with an orientation, or predisposition, to sin which we
have not consciously or freely chosen. Yet
God holds us morally accountable for our
acts. Paul puts it very strongly. We are
slaves of sin (Romans 6:17)so much so
that we need redemption, a word that
means emancipation from slavery. We
have the first fruits of redemption,
but our struggle against sin will not be
over until the final redemption of our
bodies (Romans 8:23). Even if some
people are biologically predisposed to
homosexualitythat is not the same
thing as causationit does not determine behavior.
We are, in fact, in deep trouble if we
believe that a biological predisposition for
certain behavior (aggression for example)
frees us from moral responsibility for our
actions. Pre-Menstrual Syndrome affects
some women dramatically. That does not
excuse them morally if they abuse their
children when suffering from PMS.
The fact that the Bible speaks of
homosexual behavior but not homosexual
persons, should encourage us all. God does
not define us by, or stigmatize us for our
particular temptations (sinful dispositions
or orientations), whatever they are! To
define any person by their sexual orientation is to radically reduce a splendid Image
bearer of God.
Thankfully, God sees everything, and
understands the combination of factors
3
Conservatives are in a
panic about homosexual
marriage while virtually ignoring the issue of
divorce, which has been
far more widespread
and devastating to our
culture.
and family norms; they must be beautiful,
attractive and life-affirming for men,
women and children. They must also be
welcoming to othersincluding homosexualsand a source of rich blessing in society.
Celibate singleness must also be seen as a
good, positive and productive call, as it was
in the lives of Jesus, Paul, and other disciples, both men and women (Mt 19:12, 1
Cor 7, Mary, Martha and Lazarus, etc.).
If these things are not living realities,
we cannot expect our verbal apologetics for
Biblical faith and sexual morality to be persuasive.
These are sensitive and complicated
innocent
8Richard Hays, Awaiting the Redemption of our
Bodies, Sojourners, (July 20, 1991) p. 19.
9bell hooks, Talking Back: thinking feminist, thinking
black (Boston, MA: South End Press, 1989) pp. 122123.
10Excerpted from Letters of Francis A. Schaeffer, Lane
T. Dennis, ed., (Westchester, Il., Crossway Books,
1985)
Women are battling masturbation and pornography. Its a taboo subject among
women and is rarely mentioned as a struggle for them. I have had many conversations
with young women about the battles they endure with masturbation and pornography.
Red faces with streaming tears sit before me, and the constant refrain is, Why do I
continually chase after masturbation and pornography? I thought this was a male
problem! What can you say about a topic that is never discussed but is ever present in
the lives of Christian Women? Even I still tend to think of it as strictly a male problem
though, of course, it isn't.
Several months ago (two weeks before my wedding to my husband) I was
talking with a pastor friend of mine. He told me about his camping trip with his
eleven-year-old son. They went to the woods to discuss the birds and the bees,
masturbation and all that other stuff that comes with being a boy. I told my then
fianc I was glad he would be the one to have to speak these things to our children one
day. But the reality is this is not just a discussion between a daddy and his son, this
should be a discussion between mom and daughter, best friends in college, a college
ministry leader and her female students, a youth leader and her female students.
Last week a friend whose job is to work on computers in a school district told me
that female teachers conduct the most searches for internet pornography in his district.
Consequently he gets the most calls from women in the schools to come and remove
inappropriate material from their computers which have been taken over by
pornographic images. I asked him if the women are embarrassed when they have to get
his assistance. He replied, Casey, they used to blush and make up excuses for why
there was pornography on their computer, but now they just laugh and say thanks.
Women think more and more like men with regard to these issues. I believe this
is due to the corruption of our own hearts added to the unprecedented prevalence of
pornography. When Paul describes the sexual perversion he sees in Rome, the Holy
Spirit compels him to explain what is happening in Romans 1. And what he saw there
directly corresponds to what we see now: God gives both men and women over to their
lusts if they insist on indulging in sexual practices contrary to his plan.
Our shameful lusts are inflamed by the prevalence of pornography in much of
culture. Even our shampoo and soft drink ads are driven by sexual innuendo. One
effect of this sexualizing of culture is that our young women imbibe and adopt
destructive views of female sexuality. A young teen used to get her views of modesty
and femininity from her mother, but now the ubiquity of pornography wars against
contemporary notions of Biblical womanhood.
For example, both soft-core (television, romance novels, and some movies) and
hard-core (magazines, internet, and movies) pornography are more on the radar screen
now of women. What used to be considered soft pornography is actually fairly hard
core. I recently watched an episode of Sex and The City just to see the attraction. I
watched the edited version, which is less explicit than the original HBO version. The
show featured masturbation and pornography. One character was frustrated that her
vibrator broke, while another character was jealous of her boyfriends pornography
habit. I was disgusted that television could be so raw and graphic, but I also saw very
clearly why so many women love this show: It portrays what many women truly think,
feel, and battle today. We need to discuss the longings and battles of women so that
women do not have to watch a soft porn show to feel understood.
Our dominant cultural media shouldnt be the only avenues that profess what
we think, feel, and battle. Masturbation and pornography are no longer the province of
men alone and women who have serious issues; they are the struggles of some
women even godly women who profess Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior. Our
churches through their teaching and fellowship must address these issues of the heart
with tenderness and clarity.
If I had the answers to end these struggles, my husband and I would be very rich
and living on some island with an umbrella drink in one hand and a great book in the
other. I can offer hope hope that women are not alone in their struggles and that the
Gospel of Jesus Christ can set women free. Ask your church to discuss these topics with
women. I have shaken many snakes out of bushes, that I could not kill by teaching
on women and sexual sin, but, I assure you, the snakes are eating holes in the lives of
godly women. Lets shake the snakes out and see what happens. Maybe, just maybe,
they will be killed!
Casey Cockrum is the Assistant Director of College & Career Ministry at Independent
Presbyterian Church, in Memphis. E-mail her at: casey@indepres.org