Surprising Health Benefits of Sex

Sexual Health
"When you're in the mood, it's a sure bet that the last thing on your mind is boosting your immune system or
maintaining a healthy weight. Yet good sex offers those health benefits and more. That's a surprise to many
people, says Joy Davidson, PhD, a New York psychologist and sex therapist. 'Of course, sex is everywhere in
the media,' she says. 'But the idea that we are vital, sexual creatures is still looked at in some cases with disgust
or in other cases a bit of embarrassment. So to really take a look at how our sexuality adds to our life and
enhances our life and our health, both physical and psychological, is eye-opening for many people.'
Sex does a body good in a number of ways, according to Davidson and other experts. The benefits aren't just
anecdotal or hearsay -- each of these health benefits of sex is backed by scientific scrutiny." *

Sex Relieves Stress

"A big health benefit of sex is lower blood pressure and overall stress reduction, according to researchers from
Scotland who reported their findings in the journal Biological Psychology. They studied 24 women and 22 men
who kept records of their sexual activity. Then the researchers subjected them to stressful situations -- such as
speaking in public and doing verbal arithmetic -- and noted their blood pressure response to stress. Those who
had intercourse had better responses to stress than those who engaged in other sexual behaviors or abstained." *

Sex Lowers Blood Pressure

"Another study published in Biological Psychology found that frequent intercourse was associated with lower
diastolic blood pressure (the lower, or second, number in a blood pressure reading). This study focused on
people living with their sex partner.
Still further research found a link between partner hugs and lower blood pressure in women.
Elevated blood pressure is a risk factor for coronary artery disease, heart attack, kidney disease, and stroke." *

Sex Boosts Immunity

"Good sexual health may mean better physical health. Having sex once or twice a week has been linked with
higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A or IgA, which can protect you from getting colds and
other infections. Scientists at Wilkes University in Wilkes-Barre, Pa., took samples of saliva, which contain
IgA, from 112 college students who reported the frequency of sex they had.
Those in the 'frequent' group -- once or twice a week -- had higher levels of IgA than those in the other three
groups -- who reported being abstinent, having sex less than once a week, or having it very often, three or more
times weekly." *

Sex Counts As Exercise

"'Sex is a great mode of exercise,' says Patti Britton, PhD, a Los Angeles sexologist and president of the
American Association of Sexuality Educators and Therapists. It takes work, from both a physical and
psychological perspective, to do it well, she says.
The benefits of sex as a form of exercise are many - sex can improve your cardiovascular fitness, strength,
flexibility, and balance, not to mention your emotional health." *

Sex Burns Calories

"Thirty minutes of sex burns 85 calories or more. It may not sound like much, but it adds up: 42 half-hour
sessions will burn 3,570 calories, more than enough to lose a pound. The number of calories burned during sex
is about the same as the number burned by walking at 2 miles per hour.
Doubling up on the 30 minute sessions, you could drop that pound in 21 hour-long sessions." *

Sex Improves Cardiovascular Health

"While some older folks may worry that the efforts expended during sex could cause a stroke, that's not so,
according to researchers from England. In a study published in the Journal of Epidemiology and Community
Health, scientists found that the frequency of sex was not associated with stroke in the 914 men they followed
for 20 years.
And the heart health benefits of sex don't end there. The researchers also found that having sex twice or more a
week reduced the risk of fatal heart attack by half for the men, compared with those who had sex less than once
a month." *

Sex Boosts Self-Esteem

"Boosting self-esteem was one of 237 reasons people have sex, collected by University of Texas researchers and
published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior.
That finding makes sense to Gina Ogden, PhD, a sex therapist and marriage and family therapist in Cambridge,
Mass., although she finds that those who already have self-esteem say they sometimes have sex to feel even
better. 'One of the reasons people say they have sex is to feel good about themselves,' she tells WebMD. 'Great
sex begins with self-esteem, and it raises it. If the sex is loving, connected, and what you want, it raises it.'" *

Sex Strengthens Your Well-Being

"Sex, like any activity that fosters a close and loving connection to your partner, not only raises self-esteem, but
strengthens your overall sense of well-being. Studies have shown that people with strong social support
networks (which includes lovers) are healthier and happier than their less-connected peers." *

Sex Improves Intimacy

"Having sex and orgasms increases levels of the hormone oxytocin, the so-called love hormone, which helps us
bond and build trust. Researchers from the University of Pittsburgh and the University of North Carolina
evaluated 59 premenopausal women before and after warm contact with their husbands and partners ending
with hugs. They found that the more contact, the higher the oxytocin levels.
'Oxytocin allows us to feel the urge to nurture and to bond,' Britton says.
Higher oxytocin has also been linked with a feeling of generosity. So if you're feeling suddenly more generous
toward your partner than usual, credit the love hormone." *

Sex Reduces Pain

"As the hormone oxytocin surges, endorphins increase, and pain declines. So if your headache, arthritis pain, or
PMS symptoms seem to improve after sex, you can thank those higher oxytocin levels." *

Oxytocin The Love Hormone

"A study published in the Bulletin of Experimental Biology and Medicine examined the response of the 'love
hormone' oxytocin on pain perception in an experiment with 48 volunteers. Study participants inhaled oxytocin
vapor and then had their fingers pricked. Those who had inhaled oxytocin lowered their pain threshold by more
than half." *

Sex Reduces Prostate Cancer Risk

"Frequent ejaculations, especially in 20-something men, may reduce the risk of prostate cancer later in life,
Australian researchers reported in the British Journal of Urology International. When they followed men
diagnosed with prostate cancer and those without, they found no association of prostate cancer with the number
of sexual partners as the men reached their 30s, 40s, and 50s.
But they found men who had five or more ejaculations weekly while in their 20s reduced their risk of getting
prostate cancer later by a third.
Another study, reported in the Journal of the American Medical Association, found that frequent ejaculations,
21 or more a month, were linked to lower prostate cancer risk in older men, as well, compared with less
frequent ejaculations of four to seven monthly." *

Sex Strengthens Pelvic Floor Muscles

"For women, doing a few pelvic floor muscle exercises known as Kegel exercises during sex offers a couple of
benefits. You will enjoy more pleasure, and you'll also strengthen the area and help to minimize the risk of
incontinence later in life.
To do a basic Kegel exercise, tighten the muscles of your pelvic floor, as if you're trying to stop the flow of
urine. Count to three, then release." *

Additional Benefits of Kegel Exercises

"Kegel exercises have a number of proven health benefits in addition to making sex more enjoyable. The
strengthening of the pelvic floor muscles can help prevent prolapse (a slipping out of position) of the vagina,
uterus, and bladder. Pelvic floor muscles may be weakened later in life as a result of childbearing, being
overweight, and aging. Kegel exercises help offset the consequences of weakened pelvic floor muscles." *

Sex Helps You Sleep Better

"The oxytocin released during orgasm also promotes sleep, according to research.
And getting enough sleep has been linked with a host of other good things, such as maintaining a healthy weight
and blood pressure. Something to think about, especially if you've been wondering why your guy can be active
one minute and snoring the next." *

Sex As Physical Exercise Also Promotes Sleep

"The physical exercise component of sex can also help you relax and sleep better, in addition to the hormonal
effects. People who get regular exercise tend to sleep better and have more restful sleep. Moreover, as we have
seen in the earlier part of this slideshow, sex is a great way to get some exercise." *

Summary

"Take note that sex is good for you in ways you may never have imagined and that the health benefits extend
well beyond the bedroom." *

8 Surprising Health Benefits of Sex

Find out how getting intimate can improve your
well-being
By Sarah Jio

Of course sex is healthy, but did you know that a good sex life can provide specific health benefits? We
spoke to the experts to find out just how sex improves our health (not that you needed any convincing).
1. It May Make You Thinner
Dread working out? Dont break up with your treadmill just yet. But if its late and you havent made it to
the gym, dont forget that sex counts as exercise, too! Sex burns between 75 and 150 calories per halfhour, says Desmond Ebanks, MD, founder and medical director of Alternity Healthcare in West Hartford,
Connecticut. Its comparable to other physical activities, he says, like yoga (114 calories per half-hour),
dancing (129 calories per half-hour) or walking (153 calories per half-hour).
Bonus: Sex may also help your muscles stay lean in the process. Sexual arousal and orgasm releases the
hormone testosterone, which, among other things, is necessary to build and maintain bone and lean
muscle tissue, he adds.
2. It May Improve Your Heart Health
Youre probably already aware that heart disease is the number-one killer of women. Eating a healthy diet,
and keeping your cholesterol low and sodium in check are great ways to stay on top of heart health, but so
is having sex. Sex is exercise that raises heart rate and blood flow, says Dr. Ebanks. In a study
published in the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health, researchers found that having sex twice

or more a week reduced the risk of fatal heart attack by half. While the study results were focused on
men, Dr. Ebanks suspects similar effects for women, too.

3. It Can Help You Get a Better Nights Sleep

What do you do to help you sleep? When chamomile tea and other remedies arent doing the job, sex may
helpespecially if youre having trouble sleeping due to anxiety or stress. People having frequent sex
often report that they handle stress better, notes Dr. Ebanks. The profound relaxation that typically
follows orgasm for women and ejaculation or orgasm for men may be one of the few times people actually
allow themselves to completely relax. Many indicate that they sleep more deeply and restfully after
satisfying lovemaking.
4. It Can Boost Your Immune System
With all the concerns about cold and flu viruses, combating germs can sometimes feel like a full-time job.
Surprisingly, there may be something you can do in the bedroom to keep your immune system strong,
says Dr. Ebanks, who points to a study by researchers at Wilkes University in Pennsylvania. Individuals
who have sex once or twice a week show 30 percent higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A,
which is known to boost the immune system, he says. So, make this your new cold-and-flu season
mantra: Wash your hands and make a bedroom date with your sweetieoften!
5. It Can Improve Your Mental Health
The quickest way to boost your mood, fight depression and beat anxiety? Patricia Tan, MD, a boardcertified internist in Arizona and medical expert for JustAnswer.com, says the answer is simple: sex (in a
loving, committed relationship, of course). Psychologically, sex improves ones mental health by building
intimacy and reducing stress, she says. The stress reduction component lowers a person's cortisol level,
thereby reducing the chances of increased blood pressure, hyperglycemia and increased acidity in the
abdomen.
6. It Can Help Relieve Pain
You might change Not tonight, honey, I have a headache to Yes, tonight, honey, I have a headache, or
so says Dr. Ebanks, who believes theres a real correlation between sex and pain management. Through
sexual arousal and orgasm the hormone oxytocin is secreted in your body, which in turn causes the release
of endorphins, he explains. Because of these natural opiates, sex acts as a powerful analgesic.
7. It Can Help You with Bladder Control
It may sound weirdthe idea that sex can help you minimize incontinencebut its true, say experts. Sex
therapists have long recommended that women do Kegel exercises (flexing the muscles in your pelvic
floor) throughout the day, but also during sex. Why? Not only can the exercises help increase pleasure,
they also strengthen the muscles associated with incontinence. You can do Kegels anywhere (including
during intercourse), so dont be shy! Gently flex and tighten your pelvic floor muscles in the same way you
would to stop the flow of urine. Hold for three seconds, then release.
8. It May Give You Healthier Skin
Could sex make you more beautiful? It sounds far-fetched, but Eric Braverman, MD, founder of PATH
Medical Center in New York City, says having sex releases a key compound in the body that is good for all
kinds of thingsincluding improving your complexion. During sex, your body produces a hormone called
DHEA (dehydroepiandrosterone). It can boost the immune system, give you healthier skin and even
decrease depression, he says. So much for the $79 night cream!

10 Health Benefits of Having Sex

By Jocelyn Voo

Let's state the obvious: Having sex is fun. But what might be less
obvious is that it's also good for you -- mentally and physically.
While it's something of a chicken or egg situation to determine the
direction of causality -- "Do healthier people tend to have more sex
or people who have more sex tend to be healthier?" says Jennifer
Bass, head of information services for the Kingsley Institute, there
are some studies that link better loving with better living. Read on
for the perks for getting busy.

It's Time to Start Sexercising

While sex will never equal a kickboxing class or a session of
strength training, the fact that you're getting some sort of a muscular workout is undeniable. The
human body has over 600 muscles and during sex, "we're releasing and contracting all the
muscles within the body," says Patti Britton, PhD, author of The Art of Sex Coaching and past
president of the American Association for Sexuality Educators. Arms, butt, legs, core muscles -they're all getting used. And while some positions have better toning payoffs than others, as long
as you're putting some effort into it you'll be burning calories from start to (ahem) finish.

A Happier Mood
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surmised reason, believe it or not: Exposure to semen. A study done by the State
University of New York controlled the length of a relationship, amount of sex, time
since last sexual encounter, and use of oral contraceptives to show that women who never used
reported better moods and fewer depressive symptoms or suicidal thoughts than those who
condoms. Why? One theory is that vaginal tissue is very absorptive, and semen
a host of mood-elevating chemicals, like endorphins, oxytocin, serotonin, and prolactin.
women, sex is literally a jolt to your system, and if you're getting it on regularly you might
cloud nine for quite a while.

A Stronger Immune System

Orange juice? Check. Flu shot? Check. Sexytime? Check!

A study from Wilkes University in Pennsylvania indicated that people having

sex one to two times a week had three times as much Immunoglobulin A (a
major antibody) in their systems as those having no sex, infrequent sex (less
than once a week), or -- a note to your nosy neighbors -- very frequent sex (3
times or more a week).

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Stress Relief
In

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2010, Brazil's health minister recommended sex (along with other traditional
forms of exercise) as a fix for the nation's high blood pressure problems, and
he wasn't completely off the mark. Researchers from Scotland have found that
people who were sexually active had lower blood pressure when engaged in
stress-inducing tasks, such as public speaking, with those only having sex in
last two weeks charting the lowest number.

part, it's the oxygenation of blood and the focusing of the mind away from
negative stressors," explains Britton. "Sex has that magical quality of
bringing
you into the moment, especially at orgasm, which is a period of time that
feels like animated suspension, where your mind and body both go off-grid."

More Zzz's
Don't

take it personal if your guy starts snoring shortly after some quality time
between the sheets. That intense relaxation you feel right after
climax due to an oxytocin rush can actually make you doze off
faster. Big meeting tomorrow? Include an evening romp on
your list of prep work for the night before.

A Self-Esteem Boost
Those after-sex smiles on both your faces are signs of a fun night and also a job well done. "I
think when people raise the potential of sexual expression, it boosts their self-esteem and gives
them a sense of being attractive, desirable, proficient, and confident," says Britton.
"And that carries over into all areas of life."

A Stronger Relationship

to
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Here's a perk you'll both enjoy: increased intimacy. A

study conducted by researchers at the University of
Pittsburgh and the University of North Carolina found
that among 59 couples, those with more loving
physical contact showed the highest amounts of
oxytocin. Released both during sex and even while
kissing, "oxytocin is the hormone that creates the urge
merge and bond," explains Britton. "There's a surge of
after sex and that's where the desire to cuddle and
hold each other comes from."

"Solo sex, or sex with someone who you're not in love with can
still be pleasurable, but neither fulfills the emotional needs to
the extent that sex with someone you care about can," says
Marta Meana, PhD, professor of psychology at the University
of Nevada, Las Vegas, and president of the Society for Sex
Therapy and Research. So while you're still getting the release
of oxytocin during masturbation, the pair-bonding aspect may
manifest itself more in feelings of generosity toward others
(e.g., baking your girlfriends cookies), rather than impulses to
settle down and start knitting baby booties.

Fast Relief from Aches and Pains

That runner's high you get after finishing your morning loop? Thank for endorphins for that. That
breathless, heady haze after some midnight nooky? Thank endorphins for that, too. Right before
climax, a wave of oxytocin rushes through your body that in turn releases endorphins, which are
similar in structure to opiates and have the same feel-good affect by occupying morphine
receptors in the brain. "It's pain relief and pain killing effect," says Britton. Have a headache?
Ditch the nap and squeeze in a quickie instead.

Staying Mentally Sharp

In addition to providing enhanced blood flow to the body, sex
blood flow to the brain, delivering an extra boost of glucose
energy. So, if you've got a buildup of e-mails to read or really
your crossword puzzle, sex might just be the jumpneed. Afternoon delight, anyone?

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Health Benefits Of Sex

I've recently collected another daunting pile of questions regarding the health benefits of sex.
Through the years of my career, and I imagine through the ages of all humanity, this has been a
resurfacing question. Typically I answer questions pertaining to the health benefits of sex on a
one-on-one basis, but since I know that there are many more men out there who are asking
themselves the same question I thought it admissible to address the topic here.
Many people simply enjoy a healthy sex life because sex is pleasurable. Now there's another
reason to stay under the sheets; there are substantial health benefits of sex.
Enjoying a rigorous romp can do wonders for everyone both physically and psychologically. Now,
men everywhere can tell their ladies that sex is not only for fun, but, since there are health
benefits of sex, their lives may depend on it.
The following are six different reasons why sex and sexual activity may help you live a longer,
happier life due to the health benefits of sex:
sex can cure headaches
All those times that you were told, "Not tonight honey, I have a headache," all you had to do was
inform your woman that one of the health benefits of sex is its ability to act as a pain reliever.

The hormone oxytocin (a nine amino acid peptide that is synthesized in hypothalamic neurons
and transported down axons of the posterior pituitary for secretion into blood) secretes within
your body whenever you engage in sexual activity.
Because of this secretion, endorphins (hormone-like chemicals that bear a close functional
resemblance to morphine) are released.
When a person is aroused or excited, oxytocin levels not only begin to increase, they are the
reason that orgasms come about. Studies have shown that a rise in oxytocin levels can relieve
pain; everything from headaches, cramps and overall body aches can be diminished with a
simple roll in the hay.

reduce stress, sleep well

A recent survey revealed that people who have more sex reported that they felt more at ease,
happier and learned how to handle stress better. So perhaps the term "sexual frustration" is not
too far from the truth.
After an orgasm, an intense wave of calm and relaxation overcomes humans (that's why men
usually fall asleep) and it's a time when people can truly liberate themselves and let go. Plenty of
people who enjoy a regular dose of sex convey that they sleep much better during the night and
feel alive and refreshed throughout the day. So, one of the health benefits of sex is a better
nights sleep, which allows you to handle day-to-day stress much more efficiently
increase blood flow
It goes without saying that when we get aroused our blood starts to pump at a quicker rate and,
thus, blood flow to our brain increases. Both an increased heart rate and more blood pumping
through the brain result in better performance (in and out of the bedroom).
What this ultimately means is that the fresh supply of blood pumping through your body provides
the organs with a healthy dose of oxygen and rids the body of old and wasteful products. So,
another health benefit of sex is a cleansed system. Treat your temple right with the help of a
little excitement.
The health benefits of sex will give you more hormones and keep you younger.
body maintenance
One of the health benefits of sex is that it helps to keep you fit and it can keep you in constant
awareness of your body image. Everyone likes to know that they have a nice physique and
continually being naked in front of another person can be somewhat of a good incentive to stay
in shape.
Believe it or not, sexual intercourse burns off 150 calories every half hour. Although the average
couple engages in sex for approximately 25 minutes a session only three times a week, it still
accounts for 450 calories that are better taken off than put on.
If you're more active than average, then that will only make things more beneficial for you and

that lucky gal. A health benefit of sex, particularly a rigorous hour of sex, is that it may burn even
more than 300 calories depending on how rigorous you get.
fountain of youth
Although the orgasm is sometimes referred to as the "little death," having at least two orgasms a
week can increase your life span. Every time you reach orgasm, the hormone DHEA
(Dehydroepiandrosterone) increases in response to sexual excitement and ejaculation.
DHEA can boost your immune system, repair tissue, improve cognition, keep skin healthy, and
even work as an antidepressant. Therefore, a health benefit of sex if you keep the orgasms
coming, is potentially a longer life.

more hormones are good

Both testosterone and estrogen levels experience a boost through regular sexual activity.
Testosterone does more than just boost your sex drive, it helps fortify bones and muscles, and it
keeps your heart in good working condition as well.
In women, sex increases the levels of estrogen,
wonder why women love the touchy, feely stuff
levels. This hormone also plays a huge role in a
women sentimental, a rise in their testosterone

which protects against heart disease. Ever

so much? It's because of their rise in estrogen
woman's body scent. While estrogen makes
levels is what makes them desire penetration.

Men also produce estrogen and as they age, their estrogen levels increase while their
testosterone levels drop. This reversal often results in men becoming somewhat calmer as they
get on in years.
health benefits of sex galore
It's quite evident that there are many health benefits of sex. It increases brain power, heart rate,
it can help fend off diseases and ailments, and it makes individuals feel good about themselves.
In today's stressful society, it has become a little more difficult to engage in intimate sexuality as
often, but as long as you incessantly make the effort, you'll realize that it's always worth it.
The health benefits of sex will make you feel wonderful within and without and you will gradually
notice that the more sex you have, the more bounce you will have in each step. Happiness isn't
sex itself, but sex does ultimately play a role in human happiness.

The Hidden Health Benefits of Sex

By CARI WIRA DINEEN

Women's Health
Mar 5, 2012

feel closer to your

healthier," says
obstetrics and
of
and

"Having sex regularly can do more than make you

partnerit can actually make you physically
Dr. Hilda Hutcherson, a clinical professor of
gynecology at Columbia University and author
Pleasure: A Woman's Guide to Getting the Sex You Want, Need,
Deserve.

Less
Stress
If you're freaking out about tomorrow's job interview, slip between the sheets.
Research from the University of the West of Scotland reveals that people who had intercourse at least once over
two weeks were better able to manage stressful situations such as public speaking, says study author and
psychology professor Stuart Brody, Ph.D.
That's because endorphins and oxytocin are released during sex, and these feel-good hormones activate pleasure
centers in the brain that create feelings of intimacy and relaxation and help stave off anxiety and depression,
says WH advisor Laura Berman, Ph.D., an assistant clinical professor of ob-gyn and psychiatry at the Feinberg
School of Medicine at Northwestern University and author of "It's Not Him, It's You!"
You don't have to climax to net the effects, but you'll get the biggest surge of soothing hormones if you have an
orgasm. Just one more reason to shoot for a stellar finish! Easy Ways to De-Stress Your Day

Sounder
Sleep
It's downright dreamy how an O can lull you to sleep. That's because the same endorphins that help you destress can also relax your mind and body, priming you for slumber, says Cindy M. Meston, Ph.D., director of the
Sexual Psychophysiology Laboratory at the University of Texas at Austin and coauthor of Why Women Have
Sex. Plus, during orgasm, the hormone prolactin is released.
"Prolactin levels are naturally higher when we sleep, which suggests a strong relationship between the two," she
says.
But if you're wild in the sack, take note: Highly active sex can make you feel more energized than sleepy. Sex
should never be a snooze, but if you want to use knocking boots as a sleep aid, skip the acrobatics and opt for a
subdued session.

Minimized Pain
Talk about flipping the script: "Yes, tonight, honeyI have a headache." The surge of hormones released after
an orgasm can help ease any annoying ache, whether it's a strained back or a head pounder, says Meston.
A study conducted at the Headache Clinic at Southern Illinois University found that half of female migraine
sufferers reported relief after climaxing.
"The endorphins that are released during an orgasm closely resemble morphine, and they effectively relieve
pain," says Meston.
Have a migraine but your man isn't around? Self-medicate by treating yourself with some solo sex. As long as
you hit your peak, masturbating will have the same soothing effect.

Fewer Colds
There's nothing sexy about sneezing, wheezing, or that runny-nose look. But getting hot and bothered can help
you avoid coming down with the sniffles.
People who have sex were found to have higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A (IgA),
according to researchers at Wilkes University in Pennsylvania. These antibodies help combat diseases and keep
the body safe from colds and flu. Save up your sick days and use them as sex days!

A Youthful Glow
Get busy to get gorgeous.
In a study conducted at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital in Scotland, a panel of judges viewed participants through
a one-way mirror and guessed their ages. Those who were enjoying lots of nooky with a steady partnerfour
times a week, on averagewere perceived to be seven to 12 years younger than their actual age.
Regular sex promotes the release of hormones, including testosterone and estrogen, which can keep the body
looking young and vital; estrogen has also been shown to promote soft skin and shiny hair, says Meston. Move
over, moisturizertime to turn back the clock with some shagging.

Lighter Periods (With Fewer Cramps)

"When a woman orgasms, her uterus contracts and, in the process, rids the body of cramp-causing compounds,"
explains Meston. The increased number of uterine contractions can also help expel blood and tissue more
quickly, helping to end your period faster, she adds.
Going horizontal while menstruating has also been shown to help decrease the risk for endometriosis, a
common condition in which uterine tissue grows outside of the uterus, causing pelvic pain and sex that hurts,
according to researchers at Yale University School of Medicine.
Sex during your period may not sound too appealing, but don't stress over making a mess. Just lay down a darkcolored towel and stick to missionary; when you're lying down, your flow tends to be lighter, says WH advisor
Michelle Callahan, Ph.D., author of Ms. Typed: Stop Sabotaging Your Relationships and Find Dating Success.

A More Toned Bod

Sex counts as cardio! A romp can burn anywhere from 85 to 250 calories, depending on the length of the
session (obviously a quickie will be less strenuous than an all-night pleasurefest), says Meston. In fact,
cardiologists consider sexual activity comparable to a modest workout on a treadmill, according to a study
published in The American Journal of Cardiology.
Not only will your ticker get a workout, but you'll also squeeze in some sculpting: "Your abs and the muscles in
your back, butt, and thighs get a good workout as you thrust during sex," says Hutcherson. Looks like you have
a pretty good reason to skip spin class on Sunday morning and work up a sweat in bed.

Your Sex Life After Baby

Introduction
"Having a baby is an amazing, life-changing experience. But no matter how in love you are with your little one,
caring for a newborn can take a serious toll on your sex life. To put it bluntly: 'Babies are sex killers,' says
psychiatrist Gail Saltz, MD, at New York-Presbyterian Hospital/Weill Cornell Medical Center.
Though getting back in the sexual swing of things can be tough, it's a necessary process that challenges most
couples, says Saltz, who specializes in sex therapy and is author of The Ripple Effect: How Better Sex Can Lead
to a Better Life. 'It's difficult, but doable,' she says, as long as you have reasonable expectations of yourself and
your body." *

Getting the Green Light to Have Sex After Baby

"Most women receive the OK from their doctors to have sex between four to six weeks after delivery. Before
you start up again, you should no longer have any postpartum vaginal discharge, known as lochia. Regardless of
a vaginal or c-section delivery, all women who give birth go through this period for a few weeks afterward.
Having sex before the discharge stops puts you at risk of infection. If you had a lot of stitches during childbirth,
getting the OK to resume sex may take even longer." *

Lack of Sleep Smothers Your Sex Drive - Moms

"For moms of newborns, sheer fatigue is perhaps the biggest roadblock to feeling sexy again. Especially at the
beginning, a new baby is usually awake to feed every two or three hours around the clock. This pattern can go
on for months. About 30% of babies still aren't sleeping through the night by nine months of age, according to
the National Sleep Foundation. While the nighttime wakings continue, it may feel like you've become a mommy
machine, devoid of sensation and desire." *

Lack of Sleep Smothers Your Sex Drive - Dads

"Dad might be just as tired. But men are still more likely to be interested in sex. To them, it's often a way to
relax and help feel emotionally close to you, Saltz tells WebMD. And they don't need much of a warm-up before
diving into sex. In contrast, most women need some talk and foreplay to become aroused." *

Fatigue
"If fatigue is what's keeping you from getting your sex life back, the first thing to do is talk with your partner
about it, advises Saltz. Then do some creative problem solving. Saltz suggests asking your partner to watch the
baby so you can rest up and get into the mood. Also, aim for early morning sex, when you've both had a chance
to catch some ZZZ's.
Lean on your family or friends or a sitter so you can have some time without the baby. Or give it a shot when
Junior is napping. Of course, your baby might wake up at the worst possible moment -- while you're trying to
reignite those bedroom flames." *

Postpregnancy Hormones and Sex

"Hormones are part of the sex problem, too. Estrogen levels go down after delivery. That can cause a shortage
of vaginal lubrication, which can make sex painful or less pleasurable. A simple solution: Use a topical lubricant

during sex. 'Lubrication issues usually go away after you stop breastfeeding or after your period resumes,' says
Cleveland Clinic OB-GYN Elisa Ross, MD. Hormonal changes after childbirth might also be related to
postpartum depression, which can stymie sexual desire. These feelings of sadness, anxiety, irritability, or just
having the blues may last for a few weeks or even months. Talk to your doctor if you are having these feelings,
especially if they worsen or if you feel hopeless or sad most of the time." *

Breastfeeding May Get in the Way

"Breastfeeding has many benefits. But it can create several pitfalls when you try to resume your sex life.
Spending tremendous amounts of physical and emotional energy feeding baby may block access to a nursing
mom's sexual mind and body.
Compassion is just as important as passion. Let your partner bring these feelings out into the open, so you can
address them together. Constant nursing or pumping milk can make your breasts feel so tender you just don't
want to be touched there. If you're worried about leakage or tenderness, try keeping your bra on during sex,
Ross says." *

Body Changes, Inside and Out

"During pregnancy, a normal-weight mother typically puts on about 25-35 pounds. Add on newly acquired
stretch marks and a fresh scar if you've had a c-section, and it's no wonder so many women say they feel selfconscious, turned off, and even depressed about their body. If you're not feeling so hot about how you look,
your partner's positive feedback can go a long way. Enlist your mate's help in working toward your body goals.
For example, you can ask for a half hour to exercise while they watch the baby, or for more support in preparing
healthy meals. Meanwhile, Saltz suggests buying some lingerie that makes you feel sexy while strategically
covering up some of your new problem areas." *

Body Changes, Inside and Out (cont.)

"Another physical issue is that delivering vaginally usually stretches the vaginal walls, which could decrease
friction and thus reduce sexual enjoyment. It can take a while for those muscles to resume their original tone.
For some, it never does, according to Ross. Try some Kegel exercises to tone your pelvic muscles. The
repetitive tightening and releasing of those muscles can also help heal the area after vaginal tears or an
episiotomy. With all the changes that might be happening to your body, try your best to embrace them as a part
of motherhood." *

Be Honest About What's Holding You Back

"If you're still having trouble resuming your sex life -- apart from physical issues -- it might be time to take a
look at what's going on emotionally in your relationship. 'Ask yourself, 'What is making me uncomfortable
enough that I don't want to express intimacy with my partner through sex?'' Saltz says. One of the typical
emotional blocks is the feeling of anger or resentment about being home changing diapers all day while your
spouse rejoins the 'real world' and does 'normal' things like working outside the house and talking to other
grownups." *

Communicate With Your Partner

"Other big emotional hang-ups are usually from self-consciousness about your body and mental fatigue. Much
of these problems can be addressed through discussion with your partner. Relying on your mate's support
underscores to both of you that you're in this together.
Don't forget couples' counseling. Ross recommends that every couple proactively seek therapy at least once
after having a baby. It might help resolve smaller problems before they can snowball into something bigger." *

Explore the Alternatives

"'Sex is about pleasuring each other and there are many ways to do that,' Saltz says. If you're not up for fullblown intercourse, consider oral sex, manual stimulation, and erotic massage as ways to feel closer to your
lover. Even when you're not feeling sexual, make an effort to express your affection. Try kissing, hugging,
holding hands, cuddling on the sofa, or giving a relaxing foot rub. Remember to do that during the day to keep
alive your feelings of connectedness." *

Scheduling Sex
"Although it varies from person to person, most sexual issues women experience after pregnancy get better
within the first year, according to experts at the Mayo Clinic. That first year with baby is physically intensive.
During this time, both partners need to accept they might not be having as much sex as they did before.
It's also realistic to think that you may not ever go back to the way it was pre-baby. For example, scheduling sex
might become the not-so-romantic norm for a while. But if the other option is missing out altogether because
your lives are too hectic, then it's a necessary strategy." *

Accepting the New Normal

"With each stage of your family's development, you may enter a 'new normal' with sex. 'But it's not about how
much sex you're having. It's about how unhappy you each might be about not having it,' Saltz says. 'If one
partner feels denied all the time, it creates a vulnerability in the relationship...These problems have to be
addressed before it's too late.' Similarly, says Saltz, if you're both fine with not having sex as much, you're OK."

Causes of Low Libido

Is Your Sex Drive in Park?

Are you or your partner losing interest in sex? A variety of physiological and psychological factors can impact
your libido. Check out these common sex-drive killers.

Sex-Drive Killer: Stress

You may be the kind of person who does many things well when under stress. But feeling sexy isn't likely to be
one of them. Job stress, money troubles, caring for a sick family member, and other stressors can decrease
libido. To keep your stress levels in check, learn helpful stress management techniques or seek the advice of a
counselor or doctor.

Sex-Drive Killer: Unresolved Issues

Unresolved relationship problems are one of the most common killers of sex drive. For women in particular,
emotional closeness is a major ingredient in sexual desire. Simmering arguments, poor communication, betrayal
of trust, and other barriers to intimacy can steer your sex drive off the road.

Sex-Drive Killer: Alcohol

A drink or two doesn't always put you in the mood. Alcohol famously makes you feel less inhibited about sex.
But it can also numb your sex drive. And even if it doesn't numb your sex drive, inebriation can be a turn-off for
your partner. All of this goes for recreational drugs, too.

Sex-Drive Killer: Too Little Sleep

If your sexual get-up-and-go is gone, maybe you're getting up too early or getting to bed too late. Or maybe you
have insomnia or sleep apnea. Whatever it is that's interfering with your sleep, it's also interfering with your sex
drive. Too little sleep creates fatigue. Fatigue saps sex drive.

Sex-Drive Killer: Parenting

Parenting itself doesn't kill sex drive. But it can be hard to find time to be intimate when the kids are under foot.
Hire a baby sitter for some time to nurture your relationship. New baby in the home? Try scheduling sex during
the baby's nap time.

Sex-Drive Killer: Medication

Drugs commonly linked to libido loss include:

Antidepressants

Blood pressure medications

Antihistamines

Oral contraceptives (some studies show a link; others don't)

Chemotherapy

Anti-HIV drugs

Finasteride

Synthetic progesterone-medroxyprogesterone

Changing to a different medication or different dosage may solve the problem. Other drugs may affect sex
drive, too. If your sex drive shifted into park soon after beginning a new medication, talk with your doctor.
Never stop taking a medication without consulting your doctor.

Sex Drive Killer: Poor Body Image

It's hard to feel sexy if your self-esteem suffers from poor body image. For example, feeling ashamed of being
too heavy (even if you're not) will douse your love light. If your partner has these feelings, it can really help to
reassure him or her that you still find him/her sexy. And there's a flip side to the equation: Working out not only
enhances your self-esteem, but also ups your sex drive.

Sex-Drive Killer: Obesity

Being overweight or obese is linked to a lack of sexual enjoyment, desire, and difficulties with sexual
performance. The reason isn't clear, but may be linked to self-esteem, unsatisfactory relationships, social stigma,
and other psychological issues.

Sex-Drive Killer: Erectile Dysfunction

Erectile dysfunction (ED) is a different kind of sexual disorder than loss of libido (a medical term for loss of sex
drive). But men with ED worry about how they will be able to perform sexually. And that worry can drain their
sex drive.

Sex-Drive Killer: Low T

Testosterone increases sex drive. As men age, their testosterone levels may decline slightly. Not all men lose the
desire for sex when their testosterone levels drop -- but many do. Testosterone is linked to sex drive in women,
too. But a woman's hormonal balance is more complex than a man's. It's not clear whether testosterone therapy
is as safe and effective in boosting sex drive for women as it is for men.

Sex-Drive Killer: Depression

It doesn't seem fair. Many antidepressants can lower your sex drive -- and so does depression. But if your sex
drive has drooped, it might be a sign that you're depressed. Clinical depression is a serious, but treatable
condition.

Sex-Drive Killer: Menopause

About half of women report reduced sex drive around the time of menopause, even though they believe it
important to maintain an active sex life. Menopausal symptoms, such as vaginal dryness and pain during sex,
may make sex less comfortable. But the hormonal changes of menopause are only part of the picture. An aging
women concerned about her sex drive should also consider the quality of her relationship, her body image and
self esteem, medications she is taking, and her physical health.

Sex-Drive Killer: Too Little Intimacy

Sex without intimacy is a sex-drive killer. Intimacy isn't just a code word for sex. If your sex life is in neutral,
try spending more non-sexual intimate time together alone. Talk, snuggle, trade massages. Learn to express
affection without having to have sex. As intimacy builds, so does sex drive.

Give Your Libido a Lift

How to get in the mood for love
By Elaine Magee, MPH, RD
WebMD Weight Loss Clinic - Expert Column
We know it has something to do with sex. We know it's a good thing, and most of us want to have it ? but what
is the "L word" (libido, that is) exactly?
"Libido" is medically defined, in part, as "sexual drive, conscious or unconscious" and "variously identified as
the sex urge, desire for pleasure or satisfaction."
This gives us some insight into the science of the libido. If we want a livelier libido, experts say, we should try
ways to boost it both consciously and unconsciously, with an emphasis on the "P" word -- pleasure.
Sexuality is yet another example of the vital connection between mind, body, and spirit. At first glance, sex
seems like mostly a physical matter. So if you are having libido issues, you should look at physical (bodyrelated) solutions, right? And for some people -- those who have sexual dysfunctions arising from a medical
condition -- that may be the answer. It's also true that the general state of our health can affect our libidos (and
we all know how important good nutrition and regular exercise are for our health).
But we shouldn't neglect the importance of the mind and spirit in relation to libido, according to Louanne Cole
Weston, PhD, a board-certified sex therapist in California.

Think back to some of your best sex. What was going on? Was it following great conversation or a relaxing
soak in a hot tub? Were you sharing your heart and soul with the one you loved? Were you on vacation with
your partner and in "letting-go" mode, shedding all the stress from home and work?

"Hurried Woman" Syndrome

It stands to reason that some people are having libido issues partly because of our crazy, stressed-out lives these
days; there's simply less time for connecting with our partners. Moving our minds and bodies from "being
productive" to "being intimate" mode takes time and attention, says Weston.
One researcher actually came up with a name for this phenomenon -- "Hurried Woman Syndrome." Brent Bost,
MD, a researcher in private practice in Beaumont, Texas, coined the term to describe a trio of complaints he and
other obstetrician/gynecologists see often in their patients: fatigue, weight gain, and decreased libido. In a recent
survey of ob-gyns, 64% said stress was the main cause of these symptoms.
Treatment for "Hurried Woman Syndrome" can include a balanced diet, cognitive-behavioral therapy to help
patients cope with stress, and, potentially, antidepressants, Bost advises.
A Balanced Diet to the Rescue
If you're feeling hurried and harried, give the balanced-diet option a gander to start with. You have nothing to
lose, and improved health (and, possibly, improved libido) to gain.
I'm not going to cite all sorts of statistics on the shocking percentage of women today who complain of low
libido. Suffice it to say that if this describes you, you know who you are -- and you should take comfort in
knowing you are definitely not alone.
By "balanced diet," Bost means not skipping meals, not overeating, and including plenty of nutritious plant
foods (fruits and vegetables, whole grains, and beans) along with lean meats, fish, and low-fat dairy foods. It's
about eating a diet that isn't too high in fat, protein, sugar, or processed foods. And here's some good news for
you -- you're already doing this on the WebMD Weight Loss Clinic eating plan!
The Power of Touch
Other than eating a balanced diet, how can we de-stress and make the switch from indulging our overactive
minds to enjoying our bodies after a hard day at the office or at home?
Besides an inspiring environment that includes romantic music and candlelight, Weston recommends trying the
power of touch. It instantly sends the message that you are worthy of being touched and loved, and it helps
many people relax within minutes.
Being the touch-er instead of (or in addition to) being the touch-ee can also help you de-stress, Weston adds.
Whether you're on the giving or receiving end, you're still making a connection.

Three easy ways to use touch to increase desire is with:

1. Massage. Use a nice scented oil or a rich lotion (maybe one with shea butter) to help your hands glide over
your partner's body. Don't worry if you aren't a trained massage professional. You have some options here:

Teach your spouse how you want to be massaged by massaging him/her the same way.

Rent a how-to massage video.

If you really want to get serious, take a massage class along with your partner. Check at
community centers, hospitals, spas, and sports clubs for classes in your area.

2. A back scratch. You don't need long nails for this. This may sound silly, but when I can't sleep at night
because too much is going on in my head, I scratch my husband's back -- it relaxes me. And FYI, some men
really like to have their backs scratched.
3. A dance for two. When was the last time you slow-danced with your spouse? Was it Uncle Bob's 50th
birthday bash, or your best friend's wedding? Do you remember how nice that was to take a few minutes to hold
him or her close and just feel each other and the music? When you get the chance, try the power of touch
through the art of dance. Hint: It doesn't matter how great a dancer you are when there are only two of you in
the room!
Work Your Body
Regular exercise is not only good for the huffing-and-puffing aerobic aspect of sex, but it also helps you feel
better about your body. Even without any change in weight, the simple act of getting regular exercise helps
overweight or obese people feel better about their bodies, according to research I've seen over the years. Weston
agrees that if we feel better about our bodies -- as well as stronger and more energetic -- we're more likely to
want to get close to someone sexually.
But now we have more scientific proof that exercise is a powerful libido-booster. Results from a recent fiveyear study of menopausal women show that exercise can fight the decreasing sex drive often seen in midlife
women.
"Sexual satisfaction appears to increase with increasing frequency of exercise," explains Judith Gerber, PhD, a
researcher with the University of Vermont, Burlington.
In fact, exercise was the only one of the various factors the researchers measured (including financial and career
satisfaction, testosterone levels, etc.) that was linked to sexual function. They found the connection between
exercise and sexual satisfaction at the beginning and the end of the five-year study.