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Are you sitting at your desk fuming over the last time you found yourself dealing
with difficult people? Maybe it wasnt even that long ago. Maybe it happened only
moments before you sat down to read this, over there by the water cooler.
Everyone can remember a time when they tried to help things go smoothly, but
instead their path crossed with someone who just stopped them in their tracks. This
person may have been arrogant, degrading, contrary or patronizing, but for
whatever reason, they seemed to be trying to make your life harder.
Take a closer look at this encounter and you'll see that its not quite as simple as all
that. Whether the clash happened due to personality conflicts, differences in work
style, or something unknown that was bubbling beneath the surface, theres a lot
more to our daily interactions than meets the eye.
That's not to say dealing with difficult people is easy. It's not. In fact, dealing with
difficult people can be the most challenging part of anyone's work day. But with a
few pointers, you can improve upon those experiences and protect yourself from
unnecessary stress. These five tips will help you stay sane, whether youre at work
or at school.
1. Stay positive
Your attitude determines your destiny. If you can develop a positive attitude despite
dealing with difficult people around you, youll be ahead of the curve. You'll be able
to maintain your mood and your focus, leading to a productive day despite the way
others may be acting.
Take a moment to think about why someone might be acting difficult. Did something
unusual happen to them at the office? Do they have difficult situations going on in
their home life? Are they going through a big personal or professional change?
All of these things can lead people to act differently than they would under normal
circumstances. These situations can put people on edge, hike up their stress levels,
or bring out their weaknesses. But that doesnt mean their actions are a reflection
on you.
Chances are that their reason for being difficult has little or nothing at all to do
with you. So, if you can keep your head up and try to spread feelings of happiness
and good will, you can have a positive impact on the workplace and you might even
play a central role in improving office relationships.
2. Listen
If staying positive doesnt do the trick, try listening to your colleague. Take some
time out of your day and persuade this person to talk to you, regardless of what it is
they choose to talk about.
By the sheer act of listening, you'll give your colleague the chance to share feelings
and concerns that are on their mind. This will also give you an opportunity to clear
the air or identify the source of the problem. If you take some time to listen to the
person who is being difficult, they might just open up and begin to overcome the
problem they are facing.
Remember that in order to be a good listener, you have to stop talking long enough
to let your colleague have your full attention. As you listen to what they have to
say, you can try to understand the problem and determine ways that you or
someone else might be able to help.
You never know what might come out of this simple gesture of kindness. After all, it
could be that the person who was being difficult was really just lonely, or maybe
they felt undervalued or under-appreciated. The simple act of giving them your time
could change everything.
Whether you decide to take action or not, move forward with good intentions. Dont
let the conversation become a blame game. Don't get sucked into cycles of
negativity. Instead, try to help this person find positive solutions.
Dont let difficult people walk all over you, but instead remind them that you are a
person too. By using these simple tips for dealing with difficult people, you will not
only help yourself to have a better experience with your colleagues, but you will
also help others to help themselves.
Reactive People
Blame circumstances,
conditions & conditioning.
Behavior is a product of
their conditions, based
on feelings.
If weather is good, they
feel good, if it is bad, they
feel bad.
They are still influenced by Reactive people build
external stimulus but
their lives around others
their response is value
emotions.
based choice of response.