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DEAR MOTHER
most freeing influence in your life, welcoming you from old thoughts, influences, and habits
of conduct, into a new shared heaven. In your partner is a chance for renewal, a chance for
self-discovery in the presence of a dear friend.
Your partner is your fellow traveler in your personal life journey. If you two are well met and
well married, then you share with one another a truly great life, a life that makes the rest of
the world envious, a life that people around you, near and far, would love to experience
themselves. From your life and your love will come a happy home. From your love and your
sharing will come a sense of security and nurture that makes countries strong.
In your love for one another you will, certainly, sense not only your own souls, but you will
see in the deep beauty of your partner's eyes the love of your partner for you, an eternal,
unconditional loving that too few mortals have ever known.
On the other hand, perhaps your marriage is not fully happy or, possibly, your marriage is
downright unhappy, a wedding of your individual problems compounded by those which have
been created by the two of you together. Perhaps you live in held-back tears, in crushed
dreams. The world seems so empty.
With your heart's great love eclipsed and your mind in shadows, the world and society are
deprived of your contribution. All the good that you feel, all the kindnesses you wish to share
with others, are probably blocked held back, in your pain and the hard lessons of your
life are burdensome.
Reconciliation
In your sorrows and in your longing, you are very likely not seeing the world, with all its
possibilities, as well as you could be seeing it. Likely, you are not fully alive to the
opportunities that may be coming your way. Possibly, also, the chances for deeper
understanding and reconciliation with your partner are being missed as well in your mutual or
personal agonies.
Unless you recognize these negative influences, they will rob you of your life. You will spend
your years in a shrouded world and never know how bright and personal the light of love and
higher consciousness can be. You will never know your true potential or express it freely and
productively.
Whether your marriage is going well or badly, you and your mate continually influence one
another. Your companionship is extraordinarily deep. You know and affect one another on all
levels. Being wedded, you have, in many ways, not only joined your physical beings but
mentally, emotionally, and spiritually you are fused and diffused in one another. You are
profound influences on one another.
Here is an exercise that you might wish to try alone, and together, in order to enrich your
companionship, or in order to renew and reestablish it.
If you practice this exercise alone, simply feel that you are sitting with your beloved partner,
perhaps holding both of your partner's hands in yours and speaking directly to your partner,
pausing after each sentence to reflect on each important point sending your love and
insight.
And, of course, at the end of the exercise, feel free to continue with questions and thoughts
which are very important for you to consider and find answers for.
If, on the other hand, you and your partner wish to do this practice together, sit facing one
another, feel love for one another, and then join hands. When you have joined hands,
determine which of you will ask the questions. Remember to let the one who asks the
questions continue through the whole set.
MY BELOVED
Wonderful is the life of a man and woman who not only love one another but also recognize
and adore the spiritual nature in their companion! Companionship being stronger than
willpower, generally mates who are conscious of spirit (the essence of life) find tremendous
inspiration and comfort from one another. When one partner is weak or blue, spiritual
strength flows to him or her from a spirit-filled mate. And, when both are spiritually in touch
with the Lord of their heart and with each other a synergy beyond comprehension
makes their love stronger and ever-new. People who come into the presence of such
companions can feel the love and are changed by it.
If your relationship is suffering from psychological problems, don't pretend a spiritual gloss
and sweet words will improve your companionship. Just as delicious gravy can't cover the
taste of rotten food, so high-sounding words of devotion or the vocabulary of life-essence
cannot overcome an unsound relationship. If you and your partner are not having a satisfying
time with one another, do yourselves a favor, eliminate much heartache, and select a
counselor whom you both trust.
But, if you have a satisfying relationship and sense the life-essence the spirit shining in
one another, here is an enriching practice. In doing this exercise now, and several times each
year, you can profoundly encourage your love to flourish. In making these declarations, you
clear the way for new levels of love and wonder.
Put an hour aside. Sit facing one another. Get comfortable. Decide who will make the
declarations first. You may wish to give your good companion a flower or a symbolic gift
before making your declarations.
When you are the listener of these declarations, actively receive the love and intent of your
mate. Accept and treasure your friend's declarations. Few people in the world will ever hear
such beautiful thoughts spoken with such love.
Spiritual Declarations
Whether you are making these declarations or receiving them, strive to speak or listen from
your soul your innermost being. Look into one another's eyes as you do each declaration.
Pause in love as long as you like between each one. Perhaps both of you will prefer to close
your eyes in brief meditations. Or, after several practices of this exercise, the receiver may
wish to make helpful, non-critical responses at times. (Of course you will need to talk about
your problems on other occasions; but the purpose of these declarations is greater and
greater spiritual companionship.)
You may wish to join hands. The declarer strives to make these statements with his or her
whole heart as an already experienced actuality, or as a deeply felt ideal.
D E C L A R AT I O N S
I love you.
I love you without limits or conditions.
I am your friend.
I am your companion throughout life.
I'm on your side.
I will always strive to make your life more
beautiful and pleasing.
I think of you with good will and appreciation
every day.
Each day I think well of you and speak well of
you.
I pray for your happiness and well being often.
I am on your side in all the good you are doing.
I adore your soul and your good qualities.
I will help you whenever you want help and
when life is difficult or challenging.
I will help you in your devotion to God.
I will help you find time, freedom, and
opportunity to grow spiritually.
I will always share my soul's love, kindness, and
wisdom with you.
My beloved, may your life be filled with joy.
May your heart be full.
May your mind know deep peace and profound
faith.
Before God, I rededicate myself to you. I
dedicate myself to your soul and the love and
ideals we share.
I am grateful to God that I am your beloved.
I pray that I may always take your hand when
you reach out to me. May I always be your true
spiritual partner.
You may wish to add other declarations which are revealed to your mind and heart in this
solemn and especially sweet communion. When you have concluded your declarations, say:
"Beloved, I have shared my soul with you."
Then the receiver of these declarations begins his or her turn and, feeling deep love radiating
from the innermost self, extends a flower or symbolic gift and begins the above declarations.
The one who made the declarations first must make a point of switching thoughts and feelings
into a deeply appreciative and receptive mode in order to be deeply conscious of the
declarations which are now being made.
Remember to pause whenever you like and strive to more fully understand and commit
yourselves to these profound ideals these spirit-empowering attunements.
When these declarations, along with additional ones, are shared, embrace.
Becoming Free
As you grow toward higher consciousness, and especially as you develop in Exercises One
through Four, you will find yourself free! Free to become the person you yearn to be.
You will conquer the old, destructive tendencies.
In your life, companionship negative companionship will not be stronger than your will
power.