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“Father Breaks Silence to His Children
on Why He Really Became a Doctor…”
Dear Friend,
Confessions are tough.
Real tough. But, sometimes a
confession can set the record
straight, and I want to give credit
where credit is due. Before I talk
about my confession, though, let
me say a few other things first.
Let me start by explaining
the photo in this letter. You
know, when I meet people in
town they usually say, “Oh, yeah,
I know you, you’re Dr. McKay.
I’ve seen your ad with that picture of
you and the two cute little kids.”
Well, I’m the guy on the left.
Sixteen years ago something
happened to me that changed my
life forever.
Back then I was a senior in high
school, when I was in an automo-
bile accident, where I almost lost
my life. I developed a painful
condition in my neck and low
back. The pain in my neck and
back was so intense that I could-
n’t get out of bed without help.
My neck hurt to the point where
I couldn’t turn it to change lanes
while driving. I was afraid that
I’d lose the ability to play baseball
if the disability continued. After
several months of trying pain
medication, muscle relaxants,
physical therapy and nothing was
working. I was considering sur-
gery, but I decided against it. But
there’s more.
A friend of mine con-
vinced me to give a chiropractor
a try. The chiropractor did an
exam, took some films, and then
“adjusted” my spine. The adjust-
ment didn’t hurt, it actually felt
good. I got relief, and I could turn
my neck and stand without pain
again. It worked so well that I
went to chiropractic school
myself.
Now for the photo, this is
my little girl, Hanna-Marie (3 yrs.
old), my son, Tristen (5 yrs. old),
and wife, Jennifer. My children
know enough to ask me to adjust
them when they fell like they
After all these years…
may be getting a headache or
sick, or sometimes just to stay
“tuned up.”
It’s strange how life is, because
now people come to see me with
their neck and back problems.
Also they come to me with their
headaches, migraines, carpal tunnel
syndrome, chronic pain, neck pain,
shoulder/arm pain, whiplash from
car accidents, backaches, numbness
in limbs, athletic injuries, just to
name a few.
Here’s what some of my patients
had to say:
“I had headaches everyday of my life
for the past 12 years; Dr. McKay
put an end to that in just a few
adjustments!” – (D. Kirkland-
Florence, SC)
“I tried numerous different treat-
ments including medication, physical
therapy, and even surgery. A friend
of mine told me about Dr. McKay.
With his help, I am now able to sleep
through the night. Thanks to my
friend and Dr. McKay.” - (H.
Davis - Florence, SC)
“They gave me my life back!!” – (B.
Mills - Florence, SC)
Several times a day
patients thank me for helping
them with their health problems.
But I can’t really take the credit.
My con-fession is that I’ve never
healed anyone of anything.
What I do is perform a specific
spinal adjustment to remove
nerve pressure, and the body
responds by healing itself. We
get tremendous results. It’s a sim-
ple as that!
Being a chiropractor can be
tough, because there’s a host of
so-called experts out there. They
tell people a lot of things that are
just plain ridiculous about my
profession. But the studies speak
for themselves, like the Virginia
study that showed that 99% of
patients who saw a chiropractor
were satisfied with their results.
That’s just incredible!
Forty-five million Americans
no longer have health insurance,
and those who do have found
that their benefits are reduced.
That’s where chiropractic comes
in. Many people find that they
actually save money on their
health care expenses by seeing a
chiropractor. Another way to
save… studies show that chiro-
practic can double your immune
capacity, naturally and without
drugs. The immune system fights
colds, flues, and other sicknesses.
So you may not be running off to
the doctor as much. This is espe-
cially important if you are self-
employed. And, an entire week
of care in my office may cost what
you could pay for one visit else-
where.
You Benefit from an Amazing
Offer- Look, it shouldn’t cost you
an arm and a leg to correct your
health. You are going to write a
check to someone for you health
care expenses, you may as well
write one for a lesser amount for chi-
ropractic. When you bring in this
article (by July 31, 2010) you will
receive my entire new patient
exam for $27. That’s with x-rays
and a thorough health evalua-
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exam could cost you $250 else-
where. And, further care is very
affordable and you’ll be happy to
know that I have affordable fam-
ily plans. You see I’m not trying to
seduce you to come see me with this
low start up fee, then to only make it
up with high fees after that. Further
care is very important to consider
when making your choice of doc-
tor. High costs can add up very
quickly.
Great care at a great fee…
Please, I hope that there’s no mis-
understanding about quality of
care just because I have a lower
exam fee. You’ll get great care at
a great fee. My qualifications…
I’m a graduate of Regents College
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Chiropractic. I’ve been entrusted
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more people who need care.
My assistants are Debbie
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best to make you feel at home.
We have a wonderful service, at
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School). Our phone number is
843-669-1010. Call Debbie
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can help you. God Bless.
-Dr. Steven McKay
P.S. When accompanied by the
first, I am also offering the second
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C O N T EJN T S
uly 2010 Free to Be!
(stories begin on page 76)

In Every Issue: 50-51 Beauty Buzz 116 There She Goes

14 Letter from the Editor 56 And She Cooks,Too! 118 There She Goes

16 She mail 60 She’s Closet 120 Shop Talk

Let Freedom Ring! Palmetto First Federal Credit
Union
26 Wings for the Spirit
62 She’s Closet
Sherry S. Page Atkinson
Free to Rome! 122 Purse Strings
Tammy Epps
30 Mary Unmarried
64 She’s Closet
Mary R. Dittman, MBA
From See to Shining See! 124 Art & Soul
Angie Ketcham
34 She’s Closet 66 She’s Closet
The Right to Bare Arms! 126 In His Own Words
36 Ask Dr. Avie Eric S.Weinstein, MD
Avie J. Rainwater, III, PhD, ABPP 106 Chicks of the Month
Wilson Senior Care in 130 The Sir-Vey
Darlington
40 She Wants to Know
108 The World According to 132 Fabulous Finds
48 Chick Lit Jennifer McKay
Tracey LaShelle
Frierson-Singletary 112 Wee She
138 Who’s That Girl?
Maddy Boyle Anna Shelley

Contributing Writers:
22 Anna P. Fox 52 Melodie Griffin 72 Marti Miller
I Am Complete One Man’s Trash Is Another Lost and Found
Girl’s Plant Stand
28 Ouida K. Page, RN, LPC 114 Jumana Swindler
Freeing Yourself from the Guilt 58 Paige Self Thomas The Real Truth About Dogs
Trap Real Freedom
128 Sharon Bixler
38 Cookie Cawthon 70 Ferebe Gasque I’ve Got to Be Free!
Sweet Land of Liberty My Freedom
134 Beth Grant
44 Becky Hunter Ruffles & Tatting
Free to Be a Woman
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letter from the editor

July 2010

Free to Be!
The American Flag that was used at my DaDa’s funeral service is one of
my most cherished possessions. My mother allowed me to keep it after
the service, and its presence in my home reminds me of the sacrifice he
made for our country and the honorable way in which David Flowers
lived his life, both in his service to our nation and in serving his family
and friends throughout his lifetime.

this july, my DaDa would

have been ninety-three-years old. It has been
more than a year and a half since I last saw his
face, and I miss him in the worst way. This
Father’s Day, I visited his grave and sat alone in the
heat of the afternoon with my memories. The
thing I miss most about my DaDa is his voice. He
had the most wonderful voice, which was the per-
fect mixture of deep and soft. It was melodious, but
his laughter was more like a roar. As I sat in the
cemetery, I forced from my memory the sound of
that precious voice. To my joy, it is still very clear to
me. My biggest fear after losing my daddy was that
the day would come when I would not remember.
Thank God, that day has yet to come.
My DaDa was a storyteller and, let me
assure you, the ninety-plus years he spent on this
earth produced a wealth of them. In fact, I do
believe his stories were never ending. Some were
repeats that he told time and time again – so often
that I could tell them for him. Then, amazingly, even
up until the time of his death, he was able to sur-
prise me with a story that I had never heard.
Most often, his recount of life as he had experi-
enced it produced that roaring laughter that I
loved so much.
However, there was one subject that
evoked an entirely different emotion in my DaDa
– one that I rarely saw. That subject was war.
DaDa fought in World War II as a soldier in the
United States Marine Corp. While his time spent
serving our country was something he was proud
of, I know it was also a source of pain that I could
not begin to understand. And he never seemed
to want to explain, although he never told me
that the subject was off limit. In fact, there were
times in which he did share a lot of his experi-
ences with us – the part that included what boot
camp was like, the people he met and the things
that he saw as humorous.
When I was little, I heard him mention
the “Guadalcanal,” which I thought was a ditch
near our house instead of an Island in the South
Pacific where much of his war experience had
unfolded. Still, there was a part of that experience
that he was never able to talk about – at least not
with me. Even as a little girl, I instinctively knew not
to pry when I saw a certain look come over his
face. Through the years, that look never changed.
I recognized it at certain times of the year, which
signified anniversaries of events that were perma-
nently etched in his memory.The look in his eyes
was one of pain and sadness – for what, exactly, I
never knew.
Since losing my daddy, Memorial Day and
Independence Day, the latter of which we celebrate
this month, have come to mean more to me than
ever before. I think a lot about his service to our
country and the price he paid, alongside countless
other men and women. I have also come to under-
stand more clearly that freedom is anything but free.
I am proud to call this issue of She
Magazine, FREE TO BE! In the seven years since the
war in Iraq began, the generations who previously
escaped the reality of war have been introduced
to the harsh truth of what it means to be a nation
at war. Whether a family member, friend or co-
worker, everyone seems to know someone who
has directly, or indirectly, suffered the price for
freedom. For this reason, I felt compelled to visit
the topic of FREEDOM in honor and in celebration
of all those brave men and women.
As a woman,what does FREEDOM mean to
you? I personally am ever mindful of the FREEDOM
that allowed me to dream of publishing this mag-
azine and the blessings of being FREE to make it
a reality. I am immensely grateful that I live in
America, where my gender is viewed as a value to
society and my worth is equal to that of a man. I
thank God that I am free to worship Him, and I
am expected to walk behind no one but am free
to stand alongside my fellow man. I am aware
that my earthly freedom was bought with a price
and, even more importantly, that my eternal
melia flowers berry
freedom was bought with the Blood of Christ. I
am reminded of the Scripture in John 8:36,“If the
Son sets you free, you are free indeed.”
Even if you don’t have a patriotic bone in
your body, chances are you’ll be dusting off your
flag and finding a pole from which to let it fly after
reading this issue. We found the most inspiring
stories of women who are FREE TO BE! in all
sorts of things. Some are patriots; some are just
lovers of life. All are very inspiring!
We also had a lot of fun with our fashion
pages this month, which are filled with fabulous
summer fashion inspired by this FREEDOM issue.
Before closing, I have a bit of news to
share with you. After a lot of thought – and even
more prayer – I have decided to move our She
Office to Florence. (Our distribution sight will
remain in Marion.) This decision did not come
lightly as there is a lot of sentimentality connected
with our being in Marion. First, this is my home.
Second, She Magazine was born here, and I have
spent the last eight years building this business
right here in the city that I love. While it truly
saddens me to relocate, I, as the owner of She
Magazine, must do what is best for the company I
love so dearly. With approximately 90% of our
business in the Florence area, it’s going to increase
the productivity of my staff tremendously.
With the tenth birthday of She in sight,
there are many new opportunities on the horizons
that will be more easily executed in Florence. I
love the people of Marion and am thankful to be
a part of their business community, where She
Magazine and I will continue to give our support.
It is with sadness that we prepare to leave our
Main Street office. However, I do trust that my
desire to follow where I feel God is leading me
will bring forth wonderful things for She. I am
excited and I am thankful that I am FREE to
explore what lies ahead.
Enjoy this issue . . . It’s a woman thing!
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Dear She, Dear She Magazine Makers,

What a great magazine! Can you use my
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May 2010
In Every Issue
1. Avie J. Rainwater, III, Ph.D., ABPP This month, She Magazine is happy
to bring to our readers the debut of ASK DR. AVIE - A MAN’S PERSPECTIVE ON
THINGS WOMEN CARE ABOUT. A Senior Partner of LifeCare Psychology Group,
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Contributors
LLC, Dr. Avie J. Rainwater is the only Triple-Boarded Psychologist in SC, holding
Specialty Certification in Clinical Psychology and Sub-Specialty Designations in both
Biofeedback and Pain Management. He and his wife of 31 years, Karen, have three
children together. Chelsea, Seth and Josh.

2. J. Marshall Dent, MD is Board Certified in Family Practice & Obstetrics and

Gynecology and also holds an Advanced Certification in Menopausal Medicine. He can
be contacted at Complete Women’s Health Care in Florence. This month, Dr. Dent
gives 20 TIPS ON LOOKING YOUR BEST.
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3. Melodie Griffin is a Hartsville native who is proud to call the state of SC her
home. She resides in the Midlands now with her husband, 3 children and 2 Westies.
You can learn more about Melodie at www.melodiegriffin.com.

4. Sherry Page Atkinson lives in Marion with her husband, Jimmy. This month
in Wings for the Spirit, she expresses how, “The Truth Sets You FREE”

5. Ouida K Page is a Licensed Professional and National Board Certified Counselor

with a Bachelor’s Degree in Nursing and is a member of the International Honor Society
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of Nursing. She specializes in families and issues relating to children, adolescents and
women of all ages.

6. Cookie Cawthon is wild about her family. She totally digs serving as a
greeter at NewSpring Church every week, and she flat out loves reading, writing,
speaking, teaching, and blogging www.cookiecawthon.com.

7. Jumana Swindler is the Director of Marketing and Public Relations for

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McLeod Health. Her personal favorite pastimes, reflected in her writings, are RV'ing,
movies,Theater, fishing, reading and spending time with her son and family.

8. Ferebe Gasque is the Music Therapist at McLeod Hospice House, has a private
music studio (teaching piano, voice, guitar, strings, and just about any other musical
instrument), and sells Pampered Chef kitchen tools. She is honored to have the free-
dom to live, love, laugh, and be happy... and to write for She Magazine each month,
too!
In This Issue
14. Erika Chapman loves her husband, Mark & living in Florence. Her passions
include raising her three boys, serving as a KidSpring Volunteer at NewSpring Church and
reading just about anything she can get her hands on.

9. Marti Miller lives in Marion, loves writing for She Magazine and is
excited (and a little bit nervous) about returning to work fulltime this 15. Cheri Jordan is a Florence resident and has been married to her husband,
month as a case manager for Marion County Guardian ad Litem program. Robert, for eleven years. She is a stay-at-home mom to four children, Abbi, Luke,
Prayers appreciated...especially for her supervisor. Savannah and Matthew.

10. Anna Pitts Fox is a Media Specialist at Greenwood Elementary
School. Anna enjoys reading and writing but more than anything, she loves
being a newlywed.
11. Paige Self Thomas lives in Florence with her husband, Joey, and two Sheltie
children,Timmy and Buddy. Together, Paige and Joey have seven grown children. She works
part-time as Business Administrator for the Francis Marion University Center for the Child
and is a Licensed Realtor with Prudential Segars in Florence.
16. Sharon Bixler is blessed to be the wife of Hal, mother of Holly (Stanley)
and grandmother of Ian. She is a Member of Emmanuel Baptist Church in Hartsville.
17. Allison Marie Chandler is a senior at Francis Marion University,
majoring in English-Liberal Arts with a minor in Mass Communications. She’ll
graduate in May 2011. Allison was born in Florence, and graduated from West
Florence High School. Along with being a full-time student at FMU, she works as
a waitress at Percy and Willie’s in Florence.

12. Beth Grant is an Artist, Interior Decorator and Writer. She and her
husband, Don, live on their family farm in Lamar, South Carolina. They own and
operate Mantissa Row in Hartsville.
13. Mary Dittman, MBA, is an Instructor of Marketing and Director of the
Internship Program in the School of Business at Francis Marion University. She
consults for a variety of local and regional companies and is actively involved in the
Florence community. Her column “Mary Unmarried” is now a reader favorite.
18. Becky Hunter and her husband, Rex, have three children, Hannah,
Thomas and Carmen. They live in Florence. Rex is the Minister of Music at First
Baptist Church of Florence, where Becky serves as Pianist and Children’s Choir
Teacher.
Artist Spotlight
19. Trish Biddle (COVER ARTIST) is published internationally, and is collected around
the world. Born in Minneapolis, Minnesota,Trish studied at the Dallas Institute of Art,
before beginning her career as an illustrator and textile designer. Her process of draw-
ing, painting and designing eventually melded onto canvases, creating romantic images
and her unmistakable Art Deco figurative paintings. Her expertise in capturing nature
and light creates richly colored, breath-taking canvases. She travels the world and
enjoys translating her experiences into oil on canvas. Trish currently resides in

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Westlake Texas.
14 16 17 20. Ricki Ford is a photographer out of marion who says, “ Photography is an art
to me and I want every image that I take to be timeless. His work is featured in vari-
ous photo shoots in this issue and more can be seen online at www.rickiford.com.

20. Collin Smith A portrait and wedding photographer based out of Florence, Collin
launched the $100 Portrait Project that donates 50% of its revenue to the Children’s
Miracle Network & stays in the Florence area. In this issue, look for Collin’s work in our

18 19 20 21 “Free To Be” feature stories. He is also the man behind the beautiful photos in the
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Com p l e t e by anna p. fox

in In a recent conversation with my Matron of Honor, I expressed how exhausted, yet still elated I was
amidst all this month has offered me. Her reply? “Make a list.” So, I’ve stolen some of these precious hours
of my last single summer to regroup and make that “list” – which is really more like a book!
Laying here in the sun, just breathing and listening to the sound of an old school sprinkler Brandon
refurbished that is chirping in the background like a happy bird, I realize that I’ve never quite felt this way before.
I’ve stumbled upon new emotional territory, and it’s a doozy to sort through, let me tell you!
Somewhere between complete satisfaction and fulfillment – and an uneasiness that could shake a small
village – I am staring in the face of the rest of my life. I have chosen to make a promise to a man who has cho-
sen to make a promise to me. I have searched and prayed and broken my heart trying to find him, trying to
wait on him – until he finally arrived four short years ago. And now, here we are, walking down the aisle toward
what we have heard and witnessed from others as one of the most difficult, rewarding, joyful and fearful journeys
we will ever know.
But I feel completely full. I feel complete in my joy, as much, perhaps is humanly possible for me, per-
sonally. Surely there have been other times when life has lined up just so – moments when I have felt a pres-
ence of fullness. Although none of those moments were quite like this one, which is coupled with an inner
earthquake of anxious excitement. I question how I should describe it. I search my inner word bank for choic-
es that will most accurately portray how I feel.
Since the beginning, I have prayed. At first that He would guard my heart and then that He would lead
Brandon’s heart, then for affirmation that our hearts were in the same place. And, finally, I prayed that He would
prepare us to be together (after praying many months that He would light a fire under Brandon to hurry up
the process!). Now, I find myself in the exact place I have asked to be. In this moment, I smile continuously, I
think constantly and I rest in knowing that we are cared for and loved by the One who created us for one
another.
I suppose it’s just a growing-up feeling, just as it is to hurt for the first time and realize that hurt actu-
ally feels different each time it happens. Just as it was when I discovered that I could actually feel a presence
when I connect and commune with Jesus. My heart has been conditioned to expect and observe such emo-
tions within myself, as well as recognize and wonder about those that are experienced by others. Giving myself
these few moments of quiet, I can explore its significance. This is, after all, what I’ve desired.
The sprinkler chirps as the river runs in front of me. There is no reason why I should feel any less
than full. Brandon and I are abundantly blessed with friends and family who have allowed us to plan and pull
off the perfect celebration of our marriage to one another. So many have surprised us with their generosity,
their kindness –and their talent! Once again, we have been given much more than we could ever have hoped
for or imagined. Satisfaction seems obvious.
After all is said and done, we have chosen to live here, in the place where much of our story tran-
spired. And though I’m happy as a lark, I’m not quite convinced that I’m ready for the part where real life begins
again. Perhaps that is where the seismic activity inside me is coming from. I am, however, ready to experience
life with the person who knows me and has chosen me in spite of all my faults, the one who brings me candies
from the convenient store and hides random loves notes for me to find. I am ready to see where this new life
leads and to set out in search of other places on the journey where we may experience this feeling of deep-
rooted satisfaction once again.

When you read this, Anna K. Pitts will have become Anna P. Fox. Media Specialist at Greenwood Elementary,
Anna loves reading and writing. But, more than anything, she loves being Anna P. Fox!
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The Truth Sets You YÜxx

bÇ On July 4th, Independence Day, we celebrate
our freedom, for which we are truly thankful! Let’s
look at another important area of freedom you and I
have – the freedom in right thinking. Author Marcus
Aurelius once said,“Very little is needed to make a happy
life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.”
think I can.” The lesson here is the little train could do
it; but, first, he had to get his thinking right. Notice that
thinking precedes action. Like the little train, we can do
all things through Christ Who strengthens us
(Philippians 4:13).
Jesus will equip us to do whatever He calls
by Sherry S. Page Atkinson

Our thoughts are very powerful and persuasive. us to do. His grace will be sufficient to carry us
They can strengthen us – or weaken us. They can influ- through. Never lose hope. Our right thinking can
ence our moods, our health and our relationships. make our day, and wrong thinking can break it.
Many of our problems are from wrong thinking. Because Philippians 4:8 urges us to think on good things, to
our actions result from our thoughts, we must guard our fix our minds on them.
thought life. “Bring into captivity every thought to the Got the blahs? Feeling yucky, resentful, angry
obedience of Christ” (II Corinthians 10:5). or grumpy? Feeling sad, unloved, rejected, discouraged
The truth in God’s Word applied to our lives and wondering who cares? Thinking on the things
can bring genuine freedom. Our flesh and the devil are someone does that irritates you rather than being
trying continuously to control our thinking and make thankful for the good in them? Feeling like a fail-
us miserable. Satan will put negative thoughts in our ure and like life hasn’t turned out like you planned?
minds as soon as we wake up in the mornings so he Stop! Open the door of your mind and push all
can ruin our day. However, you and I can choose not those negative, harmful thoughts out to make room
to dwell on these defeating thoughts. This is when we for good thoughts to come in! Crowd your mind
will have real freedom. If we don’t choose our with right thinking and a grateful heart so there
thoughts, the devil will. The Bible instructs us to won’t be any place for negative thinking.
choose life (Deuteronomy 30:19). Jesus is right there to help you! He will
A very unhappy person once heard of the fol- help you take control of your
lowing principle and decided to do it every morning. thoughts and make them obedient
Before getting out of bed, he was told to list ten things to God and His Word.
for which he was thankful. He began to do this daily, Of course, you and I
and it changed his life because he started each day with are human, and it takes time
good thoughts and a grateful heart to God. You and I and much effort to resist
could be more victorious if we applied this same prin- wrong thinking. However, we
ciple daily. As we dismiss wrong thoughts and replace ought to be determined to
them with right thoughts, our minds will experience keep working at it. The same
freedom. In Proverbs 23:7, the Bible states, “As a man negative thoughts may come to
thinks within himself, so he is.” our minds several times a day.
If we don’t learn to think right, we won’t live God will give us His abun-
right. We will miss out on God’s plan for our lives. dant grace and help us
Negative, pessimistic thinking closes the door to what change in our weaknesses.
God wants to do in our lives and opens the door to It is His will for us to be
Satan and his attacks on our mind. changed by the renewal of
In Jeremiah 4:14, the Lord asked, “How long our mind (Romans 12:2).
shall your iniquitous and grossly offensive thoughts So, guard the
lodge within you?” For those who can’t seem to move door to your mind! Reject
beyond past hurts, be encouraged and meditate on those persistent, negative
Isaiah 61:7. The Lord promises He will give you a thoughts and enjoy the free-
twofold recompense for your pain if you seek Him and dom in right thinking.
His ways. He will give you double reward for your hurt A prayer to be sure of
as you remain faithful to Him and keep right actions. salvation: Father God, thank You
Galatians 6:9 reminds you to be not weary in for Your abiding love and for send-
well doing; for in due season, you will reap if you don’t ing Your only son, Jesus, to die on the
give up. If you were abused or forsaken as a child, cross for my sins. I ask You, Jesus to for-
Psalms 27:10 says the Lord will take you and adopt you give my sins and come into my heart and my life.
as His child. A phrase from a calendar: The really happy Thank You for saving me and preparing a place for me
person is the one who can enjoy the scenery when he in Heaven with you the moment my life is finished here
has to take a detour. See Proverbs 16:3-4. on earth. Baptize me in Your Holy Spirit, and fill me to
I am reminded of a simple illustration that lit- overflowing with Him that I may be empowered to live
tle children learned in school when they would say, “I a victorious, Christian life and be a bold witness for
can” or “I can’t.” A little train is chugging up a hill, huff-
ing and puffing and repeatedly declaring,“I think I can, I
you. In Jesus’ name, I pray.
TÅxÇA
Sherry S. Page Atkinson lives in the Centenary Community of Marion County with her husband, Jimmy. Those wishing to
contact her may do so at the following address: 6526 South Highway 41, Marion. Sherry teaches an Adult Co-Ed Class
at Marion Baptist Church and loves pointing people to Jesus.
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Some of us had parents that made us feel
guilty when we did things that they did not approve of. Because of that,
sometimes, we would feel guilty even when we didn’t do things that were
bad. False guilt is when we feel guilty but haven’t really done anything
wrong. On the other hand, true guilt is when we do something really wrong
and we should feel guilty. An example of false guilt would be forgetting to
call and remind a friend to do a task, and true guilt would be if you shot
and killed your neighbor on purpose for saying something mean to you.
The feeling of guilt is a really bad, negative feeling – and can be
devastating at times. God wants us to feel convicted of bad behavior; He
doesn’t want us to feel guilty. When you become a Christian, your sins are
washed away and forgiven. A lot of times, however, we don’t forgive our-
selves and we carry around all that guilt when it isn’t necessary.
When we have done wrong, we should ask for forgiveness from
whomever we have wronged. And, sometimes, we absolutely have to for-
give ourselves. In addition, as we mature, the tendency is to avoid friends and
family that try to make us feel guilty. When we were younger, guilt was used
to control us. But, as we get older and we discern people using guilt to try
and manipulate us, it makes us angry. That, however, is a healthy response.
Using guilt with your children is definitely not a good thing to do.
As parents, we need to be careful to not use guilt because it can have a very
strong impact and can profoundly affect the child later. An example of guilt
would be when the child does something you don’t approve of and you say,
“I don’t even know why I ever had children!” Or, more specifically, the parent
would say,“I don’t know why I ever had you!” Even if you don’t say this to
the child directly and they hear you saying it to someone else, it can have
a major impact on the child and his self-esteem.
Another example of false guilt would be when you ask your child,
“What is wrong with you?” If the child hears this question over and over,
he will begin to believe that there is something wrong with him, when what
you are actually questioning is his behavior. Asking a child what’s wrong with
him will definitely affect his self-worth and self-esteem. When this child
becomes an adult and he has not dealt with this issue of false guilt, he may
have issues and have an overeating problem and very low self-esteem. And
even worse, he may use the same approaches with his children.
Another problem with guilt is using it in relationships to get your
way. If you are knowingly using guilt to get your way, this is considered abu-
sive behavior. It is so much better to be assertive and just state what your
needs are than to be manipulative. Anyone can learn to be assertive. It
takes guts and may be uncomfortable at first, but it is such an excellent tool
and very healthy behavior. You have to figure out what your needs are and
then you state what you want or need from the person you are dealing or
communicating with at that time. You do it in an assertive, factual and
nonaggressive way. You state what you wish to get across to the other per-
son in a calm manner and discuss the facts. You’ll probably be pleasantly
surprised at the results.
I believe that the best way to break free from the guilt of all the
things you should have and maybe could have done is to realize, first of all,
that you are dealing with false guilt. You haven’t done anything to feel guilty
about. You just made a mistake or maybe you were actually doing the best
job that you could have in that particular situation. Maybe other people
were holding you back and complicating things by not supporting and help-
ing you so you could move forward with your plans and projects. The best
thing to do is re-group and re-evaluate realistically. Set new and realistic
goals based on your personal evaluation of the situation. Make a decision
as to what is best for you at this point in your life and be determined to
move forward. Surround yourself with people that can encourage you and
take a supportive stance to help propel you forward. Try and get in touch
with the excitement that you had before and be determined to not feel
guilty but accomplish what you need to in your own life.
Ouida K. Page is a Master’s Prepared Licensed Professional and National Board
Certified Counselor. She has a Bachelor’s Degree in Nursing and is a member
of Sigma Theta Tau (International Honor Society of Nursing). She has been in
private practice in the Hartsville and Florence areas for over 15 years, specializing
in families and issues relating to children, adolescents and women of all ages.
She is married and has one son who has graduated from Wofford College.
To contact Ouida, you may call 843-398-0915. You may also contact her by
e-mailing editor@shemagazine.com with “Ouida” as the subject matter.
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or at least “coupled.” Sometimes, they feel left out,
especially in a family-oriented town. I used to wish I could
meet the “perfect” guy – or even the “perfect” best friend. This person
would want to do everything together, but mostly everything that I wanted to do.
In reality, I learned that in relationships, you are sometimes asked to do things you
don’t want to do.
For the most part, I really love the single life. And, when I am dating someone,
I frequently start to feel trapped. I don’t want to hang out with the same person five
nights in a row, or eat his mom’s Sunday dinner or go to his nephew’s kindergarten grad-
uation. I’m willing to make compromises, but I like my life. I’ve had boyfriends who get
jealous about my guy friends, gal pals and even if I want to go to the gym.
Some women want a man who is clingy and wants to spend every moment
with them. Personally, I like some space. And, as it turns out, I have not yet found
the one “perfect” date or friend who wants to do everything I want to do. If you
think about it, you don’t want to do everything your guy or BFF wants to do, either.
Now, I’m not saying that married life or a relationship isn’t a good thing; it
can be a very real blessing. But one of the things you have to trade away is a cer-
tain level of freedom and independence. If you’re going to have a successful relation-
ship, you’re not going to get your way 100% of the time. You may not even get your
way 50% of the time.
So, while you’re single, enjoy your freedom! If you’re trying to meet a “spe-
cial someone,” you’ll be more attractive if you’re happy and carefree, so you might
as well enjoy where you’re at. Let me give you some examples.
When you’re single, you get to keep all your money and spend it however you like.
I know we ladies like to dream of a Prince Charming who will swoop in and save us
from all our bills. However, every man I’ve ever talked to about this has told me his
dream girl is not a debt-ridden overspender who wants to charge up his credit cards.
Also, once you’re married, you need to be in agreement about money. This is the
number one issue couples fight about, and you may not get to spend everything you
want. Also, if your husband is the spender, you may not be able to save and invest
how you want.
I really enjoy being able to spend my money as I see fit. Let’s face it. Most
men don’t understand why we need seventeen pairs of black shoes. One of my
friends has to hide her purchases from her husband because he gets mad when she
buys more clothes and shoes. I never have to hide anything I buy, nor do I ever have
to ask permission to get a housekeeper, manicure, massage or earrings.
Another friend of mine wants to de-clutter her house, but her husband
pitches a fit whenever she tries to get rid of anything. I just cleaned out all my clos-
ets and my attic and nobody stopped me when I hauled things to Goodwill or the
dump. My house is a lot more organized, and I don’t have to worry about someone
bringing me more stuff (except for the additional seven pairs of black shoes I hope are
in my future).
I recently went to Myrtle Beach for a four-day vacation by myself, which
absolutely shocked several of my friends. They could not believe I would go on a
vacation alone. Here’s what I love about vacationing alone. I can do what I want,
when I want. Last year, I went to Atlanta for a long weekend to see my first Major
League Baseball game. My team was in town to play the Braves, so I went to Atlanta,
stayed in my favorite hotel and went to Turner Field to see two games. I watched base-
ball, shopped, sunbathed out by the pool, took naps and ate more sushi than any one
person should be legally allowed to consume. I also went to visit the church of one
of my favorite TV evangelists and got to watch him live and in person after seeing
him on TV for years. That was very cool!
by Mary R. Dittman, MBA
Two years ago, I went to Spain with my mother and brother, and they
dragged me to every museum on the Northern Coast. I hate museums! I want to
shop, sit in a café and watch the locals go about their days. But I don’t want to feel
guilty about telling my family I don’t want to spend the day with them at a museum.
I’ve also learned that if I wait for someone else to want to go do things, I might miss
out. When I was in college in Reno, Nevada, the opera, La Bohème, was being per-
formed by the local opera company. That’s my favorite opera, and I dropped sever-
al hints to the gentleman I was dating. Two weeks after the opera left town, he asked
me if I wanted to go. To this day, I still have never seen La Bohème live. However, I
have made it my motto not to miss out on anything because I “don’t have someone
to go with.”
Don’t worry about what people will think if you go somewhere by yourself.
In Florence, I go to the movies, Florence After Five, Florence Little Theater, Florence
Symphony Orchestra, various art and cultural events, church, shopping, basketball
games, baseball games, concerts and parties by myself. Actually, the only thing I don’t
feel comfortable doing alone is going to formal, black-tie galas. I’m old-fashioned in
that respect. And, although, I do understand that today’s culture says it’s perfectly
fine for a group of singles to go to a prom or formal gala as a group, I just don’t feel
comfortable with that. (Of course, I don’t wear white shoes, pants or dresses before
Memorial Day or after Labor Day – old-fashioned, I know.)
In fifteen years of living in Florence, nobody has ever made fun of me (not
to my face, anyway) for going to the movies alone. Or anywhere else, either. I’d rather
go to a Red Wolves baseball game by myself than miss out because none of my friends
like baseball. And I always see people I know and end up visiting with folks.
Maybe if you go do some things alone and enjoy your freedom, you might
meet a new friend or a new boyfriend. You’re more likely to be approached by a nice
guy if you’re not in an intimidating group of four girls.
Don’t miss out on life by building a prison of solitude for yourself. What if
you never meet Prince Charming? Do you really want to miss out on movies, con-
certs and vacations just because you were afraid to go by yourself? Put on your big-
girl britches and get out there and enjoy this big, fun world! What if you end up with
someone who doesn’t want to travel or go to the things you would like to go to?
You’ll still end up sitting on the couch – and you won’t be living your life.
Right now, while you have your freedom, get out there and enjoy life!
Look for me. I’ll probably be there (movies, concerts, events, vacations) on my own,
so come grab a seat next to me and let the show begin!
This July, declare your independence from the fear of
doing things alone and start being free to be free!
Mary R. Dittman, MBA, is an Instructor of Marketing and Director of
the Internship Program in the School of Business
at Francis Marion University. She consults for a
variety of local and regional companies and is
actively involved in the Florence
community.
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why it was so important that he correct these problems to help me lose weight, as well as keep it off. He seemed
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My plan included correction of my thyroid and insulin resistance. He also started me on a bio-identical
hormonal treatment to correct the estrogen dominance that was hindering my ability to lose weight. I started on a
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A MAN’S PERSPECTIVE ON THINGS WOMEN C ARE ABOUT

ASK
ASK
Dr. Avie
with Avie J. Rainwater, III, Ph.D., ABPP

Dear Dr. Avie,

I recently went through a traumatic time in my life and now find myself unable to make
decisions – from the small things like what to eat for dinner to big decisions like whether or
not to buy a new car. Before this, I had no problem making a decision. In fact, it was just
the opposite. I was even very spontaneous. Is it normal to experience this kind of situation
after going through a tough time? Is there anything I can do to help myself?

Dear Reader,
As humans, we are typically very resilient and can overcome in
even the most trying of times. Sometimes, however, we just can’t seem to
rise above the stress of a particular trauma. The reasons why are unique
to each of us. What takes all the wind out of one person’s sails might not
present as much of a challenge to the next person. So, is it normal to
struggle after a trying, traumatic time? The answer is yes. Regardless of
how others saw or interpreted the problem, if you experienced it as trau-
matic, then you will probably have some difficulty getting past it.
Things that are experienced as traumatic typically share several
attributes. They are out of the ordinary for us; they stretch – or even
exhaust – our coping resources, and they create chaos in our otherwise
routine lives. It is the disruption of routine – our sense of safety in the
familiar – that leads to difficulties in decision-making. This can be almost
crippling if the trauma was our own responsibility.
Before the trauma, we go along in the shelter of habit, and we don’t
have to think twice about things. When the apple cart of our lives is over-
turned by some event, then all the comfort of consistency is upended, as
well. If the trauma is sudden (e.g., an unexpected death) or even if it was
some time in coming (e.g., divorce), there is still a moment in time when it
all falls apart. From that instant on, however, things no longer feel solid or
dependable. It causes us to question things we’d previously taken for granted.
It causes us to question ourselves.
More than being just unsettling, the fact of questioning ourselves
literally reinforces the negative impact of the trauma. With each choice
questioned, the tragedy is brought to the forefront of concern. So, this is
a pretty big and very bothersome deal – this decision-making gauntlet. And
if we are struggling with it multiple times a day, then we are keeping the dif-
ficulty – and its consequences – alive. The self-doubt fuels the impact of
the disturbance and keeps it alive.
What can be done? The answer is to starve the beast of self-doubt
and then we can regain our personal expertise in decision making and
thereby rob the ordeal of its power to upset us. How do we regain deci-
sional confidence? Simply (but that doesn’t mean easily) by making one
decision at a time. The great thing about life is there are typically lots of
decisions to make in any given day, so that gives us lots of opportunities to
begin implementing a change. Yes, when approaching the first decision, we
will be anxious; but, in reality, what’s the worst that can happen? We make
a mistake. We order a hamburger when what we really wanted was a
chicken sandwich. Fine. I think you’ll survive such an error. The imbedded
trick is to start small and realize with each good choice that you can do
this, that you can become confident again. The important thing to remember
is this: you start with sandwiches, not cars!
You might also need to limit yourself to not feel pressured. For
example, start with making only five decisions a day. Keep a piece of paper
with you and jot down each decision you make. You’ll surprise yourself.
What you’ll realize is that you’ve made five decisions – and made them suc-
cessfully – before you even leave your house in the morning! Keeping
track of your decisions, then, will help you realize just how many decisions
you are making and, very quickly, you’ll see that you are already much bet-
ter at decision-making than you are giving yourself credit for. Depending
on your life – and your job – you could find that, at the end of the first day,
you have made and logged over a hundred successful decisions.
What you’ll realize is that there are only certain types of decisions
that are giving you pause. Give yourself time to tackle making progressive-
ly larger and more important decisions of the challenging type. Expect to
make some mistakes. Realize that the mistakes are just that – mistakes, not
new trauma. Giving yourself this type of grace, you should be able to
regain your confidence over time. If you can’t seem to bring yourself to
approach the difficult topics, or if you don’t seem to be making progress,
then it would be time to call your psychologist. Either way, on your own
or in psychotherapy, you can take charge of your life again.

Avie J. Rainwater, III, Ph.D., ABPP

Senior Partner of LifeCare Psychology Group, LLC, Dr. Avie J. Rainwater is the only Triple-Boarded Psychologist in SC, holding Specialty Certification in Clinical Psychology
and Sub-Specialty Designations in both Biofeedback and Pain Management. He and his wife of 31 years, Karen, have three children together, Chelsea, Seth and Josh.

* If you have a question that you would like to have answered in

ASK DR. AVIE, email anonymously to askdravie@shemagazine.com
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Sweet Land
of Liberty by Cookie Cawthon

“I have ever loved the stars and stripes, baseball, brilliant

fireworks, and the delectable flavor of freedom that tastes
a lot like homemade apple pie…”

I still cannot sing “My Country ‘Tis of Thee” without a sickening nausea cramping my stomach. That song still
evokes in me the terror of first grade. I don’t remember much about that school year, yet I do remember stand-
ing each morning to recite the pledge and sing this anthem – as instructed and led by some invisible authority over the
public address system. Each school day began this way, and each day I was awash anew with anxiety. I can easily recall
the placement of my desk in the classroom and my view through the window beyond the mounted flag.
However, this song stirs more in me than “big-girl school” jitters; its lyrics have beckoned a personal sense of pride and
patriotism and pure love for this land long before I could have named those sentiments.
I easily take this place for granted - and its beauty. Not its natural beauty as much as its political beauty. When I focus
beyond the issues and admire the system, I am moved. Liberty flavors this land with a sweetness that remains intact even
when there are a few less than savory meals served on the table of democracy. Freedom as a nutrient was tilled into the soil
as this country was settled, and it has persisted.
But not without cost.
Three years ago I ran the Cooper River Bridge Run, which is a 10K race over the Arthur Ravenel Jr. Bridge from Mount
Pleasant into the heart of Charleston. It’s a tough run. The bridge is a fanny-kicker, and maneuvering among the thousands
in the crowd can require the agility and quick feet of a gifted running back. I slowed; I darted; I struggled and trudged up the
incline. I could feel the grade leveling and knew the crest was near. I kept my eyes trained only a few steps ahead – taking
it moment by moment. I allowed myself to quickly glance ahead to gauge the distance to the top when I spotted him.
The course was peppered with participants clomping along in high heels, fellows weaving through the crowd in card-
board boxes decorated like famed Nascar racecars, and another dressed as a banana, but his running apparel snagged me.
When I saw him my throat caught in an audible choke and my eyes filled as the cool breeze of the peak blew against my face.
A red shirt. Camouflaged pants. Combat boots and a weighty pack that bent his body. Full military gear. Bathed in sweat,
he kept a slow but sure pace. At that point I was uncertain of the purpose of his run, but I was touched by his struggle. My own
steps quickened and inspired by his, I closed the gap between us and zigzagged my way across the bridge. I sidled up beside
the soldier with little breath for words but managed to pant, “You can do it; you’re doing great!” before momentary tears
streamed into my hair just beneath my cap.
I encountered several others like him along the route and learned that they were Marines and Citadel cadets running – with
55 pound packs – to raise money for the Injured Marine Semper Fi Fund, which assists wounded Marines and their families.
Team Semper Fi, injured Marines who received assistance through IMSFF, also pounded out the 6.2 miles with determination
and fight. Their obstacles made my effort seem puny, but I trotted and finished with new vigor, challenged by their grit.
Years later that memory is fresh and vivid even as I continue to be challenged by their sacrifice. The sacrifice of all
who treat me to liberty – at great expense to themselves and their families. Sacrifice is a pretty unpopular concept and
term in our culture; self service tends to enjoy greater favor. But without the dusty selflessness of thousands of men
and women in this country, we wouldn’t have the opportunity to gorge ourselves on independence. We are the
beneficiaries of their loss.
This past Memorial Day I heard a speaker encourage his audience to thank every service man and woman
we encounter dressed in uniform. At the grocery store. In the airport. Pumping gas. Mailing a letter. A simple
“Thank you for what you do for our country. You rock!” Okay, I added that last part, but I think it’s a nice
touch…
I was born sixteen minutes shy of Independence Day, so I spied my first glimpse of sunshine on the
one hundredth and ninety-seventh birthday of this country. I have ever loved the stars and stripes, baseball,
brilliant fireworks, and the delectable flavor of freedom that tastes a lot like homemade apple pie…
I am free to be grateful.

Cookie Cawthon and her family are humbly grateful for the sacrifice of those who pick up the tab for their freedom!
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I am thankful for my
freedom to be...
Jennifer Schock
Hartsville
“ . . Do whatever I love to do, whenever I
love to do it!”

Jayme
Powers
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“I am free to love a Go
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“. . . Be free to have fun!”

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Florence Jowers
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“July is my favorite month
tory, you find it wasn’t too long ago in civiliza-
because it’s my birthday month.
tion that women were not taught to read and
And, since I’m not taking
write. They weren’t seen to be ‘worthy’ of such
summer classes, I’m free to be
things. I love being able to read! To learn and
out in the sun and be a water
to take an escape and read for fun – it truly is
baby by the pool!”
what saves my sanity most of the time!”
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Hartsville is the cool place to be in the heat of the summer! Visit our beautiful
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free to be a
Woman
One of the greatest liberties that God has
allowed me to experience is the blessed freedom to
be a female. Or, simply put, I am free to be a woman!
I am His creation. I am able to make my own choic-
es about life, education, travel, worship and family. I
naively thought this high and holy honor of female
freedom to be universal until my journey to
Macapá, Brazil.
The year was 1999. My wonderful
husband, Rex, and I were serving as Christian
Missionaries to the precious people of the
Amazon Basin. New to the language and
having been in Brazil for a little over a
year, I still made daily visits to shopkeep-
ers in our city of Macapá, trying to con-
verse and improve my “everyday” by Becky Hunter
Portuguese. Part of my route took
me by a small sewing store where
you could drop off your mending
and have it completed by the next
day. The shop owner was a well-spoken Brazilian, but
“She’s . . . dead, Honey,” I said, clearing my dry Most of the readers of this wonderful maga-
her three workers spoke “slang,” which I desperately
throat, hot tears streaming down and stinging my cheeks. zine are female. They have an education; they can read
wanted to glean. Each day, I would converse for five or
“I know, Mommy, but why did her husband do and comprehend. This is a blessing not to be taken for
ten minutes, trying to build relationships, as well as get
it?” My fears were realized. She had been by my side granted. The glorious fact that you and I are not cattle
a few new idioms for my notebook.
and had understood the words. Crazy words. Broken to be bought and slaughtered is a result of our
One morning, with my six-year-old Hannah in
sentences. Angry answers. Gracious God.
hand, I made my rounds into the meager sewing room.
“Maria,” the shopkeeper had said, “Maria's Oh, ladies, we are truly blessed to live in a
The usual laughter and conversations were frightfully
husband – he stabbed her while she was in the show- country where we can equally be educated, choose to
stilled. Silent as stone, the ladies’ bronzed faces were
er. Her children saw it all. He was angry that she was wed (or not to wed), to choose to be with our fami-
buried in their labors. The owner, whom I had never
making more money than him. He thought she was lies, our churches and most importantly, to worship
seen touch a garment, was busying her hands sticking
having an affair. If you think your wife is unfaithful, a freely, knowing Jesus liberates our souls to be free
a hem. Her lips were tightly drawn in; her narrowed
Brazilian husband can murder his wife. He’s not in jail. women! Yes, I am free to be a she! Jesus sets me free
eyes glaring at the stitches.
He is at his mother’s house.” because, in Christ, “there is neither bound or free,
“Bon dia!” I cheerfully declared, giving the
Silent rage swelled within me as I drove male or female” (Galatians 3:28).
normal morning greeting. Nothing. Silence. Not a
quickly to our home, jumping out, holding my children I am honored and proud to be a Christian
word of response. Not an eye from a worker. Not a
tightly. Rex was furious at the news and after having lady of God. Men and women are both uniquely
return greeting. Nothing. Simply nothing.
talked with seasoned missionaries, found the sordid designed to be the creatures God has formed. But,
My eyes glanced around trying to fathom
story to be all too common an occurrence. I took each has his or her own unique purposes. Yes, I am
what could make this group of warm-hearted women
Hannah aside and told her it was an evil thing that had constantly aware that He made me fully female, and
suddenly become solidly frozen. After surveying the
been done to Maria. I assured her that her dad would that I am at my best when I am free to be His she.
room, I noticed the left corner. I made my way to the
never do that, and our home was safe. To quote Brother Lawrence, a seventeenth-
shop owner’s tiny counter, her body still steady at the
That day, I thanked Jesus for the freedom He century Carmelite Monk, “The time of business does
task. I pointed to the empty chair and, in my best bro-
lovingly lavished upon me – and our daughters. We are not with me differ from the time of prayer; and in the
ken Portuguese, I asked where Maria was.
His creation – the female. He has always done that. noise and clatter of my kitchen, while several persons are
Without dropping a stitch, she simply said,
The woman, caught in the very act of adultery, did not at the same time calling for different things, I possess
“Matar!” No one else spoke. My eyes began widen-
receive His condemnation (John 8:3-11). God in as great tranquility as if I were upon my knees
ing and my tempo quickened as the questions flew
The fact that I am a woman – that I am writ- at the Blessed Sacrament.”
from my heart. And the anger poured from hers.
ing and that there is even a She Magazine – speaks vol- Finally, I am reminded of when Jesus revealed
I quickly turned, grabbing our daughter’s hand
umes! When I told the women in Brazil that I had a His Resurrected Body. His first recorded word after
and sprinted back toward our truck, not daring to fin-
Master’s Degree from college, it was like trying to the grave was “Woman . . .” (John 20:15). The first
ish the day’s route. The racing in my chest was only
explain snowdrifts to a native who had only lived on name He spoke was Mary (John 20:16). Or, in
surpassed in pressure by the nausea that was now
the equator all her life. Once, when I was driving our Portuguese, Maria.
consuming my entire being.
As I silently drove to our home, Hannah truck, I was pulled over because the policeman was
going to give me a ticket for driving. He was going to give Becky Hunter and her husband, Rex, have three chil-
turned and asked me why Maria was not there. I dren, Hannah,Thomas and Carmen. They live in
began to pray that her language skills were not me a ticket for driving because no female was ever educated
Florence. Rex is the Minister of Music at First Baptist
developed enough to have understood the horrible enough to drive in the area we were in. When I showed the Church of Florence, where Becky serves as Pianist and
conversation. policeman my driver’s license, he was furious! Children’s Choir Teacher.
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20 Tips for
Looking Your Best
This Summer
With summer now upon us, everyone wants to look good in bathing suits and
hit the beach. What better time than now to discuss weight-loss tips? Everyone wants
to look and feel good about themselves. Now is the time to take off that excess weight
you made a New Year’s Resolution to take off but is still hanging around in July. I’ve out-
lined some simple – but very effective tips – to help you achieve your goal and feel good
about yourself on the beach.
1. Diets do not! Most people will gain their lost weight back in one year 90% of the
time. Be leery of diets that promise 30 pounds of weight loss in one month. Those
plans are the worst for weight regain. Diets are temporary. When you change your
dietary lifestyle, however, you’re changing habits and putting yourself on track for long-
term success and weight maintenance.
2. Take before and after photos. That’s a great motivator and allows you to see
the success you have achieved. Take measurements to look for lose inches that you
want to get rid of, as well as pounds. You’ll be astonished by the transformation your
body will undergo.
3. Start reading labels. I know it’s a pain, but there is no way to be an educated
eater except by reading labels. Otherwise, you’re flying blind. Always check the serv-
ing size, as well as the ingredients list. I can personally give you a prime example. I
picked up some bran muffins. The calorie content was 240 calories and 24 grams of fat
for half a muffin! You can bet I passed on those muffins.
4. Tell your family. You need their support and praise. If they are unaware that
you are trying to lose weight, they may inadvertently sabotage your goals. They can help
you obtain your goals. And, who knows? Your new habits may rub off on them.
5. Identify your exercise. Find out what works best for you. You don’t want to
choose a program that’s too demanding for your fitness level. You’ll only get frustrat-
ed and quit. Pick a program that best fits your lifestyle. Start out slowly; it does you
no good to get so sore that you can’t walk for days. That means you won’t be able to
work out, as well.
6. Zone out! Make exercise fun and listen to your favorite music. It takes your mind
off the physical activity. I recently did a long mountain climb, and I feel like my iPod
helped me to get through the long grind.
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Dr. Dent is Board Certified in Family Practice and Obstetrics and Gynecology and also holds an Advanced Certification in Menopausal Medicine.
by J. Marshall Dent, III, MD
7. Set realistic goals for yourself. You won’t lose 20 pounds in a week even if
work out 12 hours a day and eat nothing but celery. Be leery of lose 30-pounds-in--
weight-loss programs. Most weight loss in the first two weeks is water loss. Slow and
steady is the way to win the race. I’m happy when I see consistent weight loss, not five
pounds lost one week and gain a pound back the t week.
8. Avoid trans-fat and high-fructose corn syrup. First of all, they are not
good for you. By avoiding these items, you eliminate a lot of “bad foods” in the process.
9. Vitamins are good for you. When on a weight-loss plan, it’s good that you
take in your essential vitamins and minerals to replace what you may be deficient in.
The essential fatty acids are an excellent choice.
10. Identify your ideal body weight. Too often, I see patients that have unre-
alistic expectations. I always set a goal for them at the start. It may not be their goal,
but it eliminates frustration with trying to achieve and maintain an unrealistic weight.
11. Consider the source. There are many doctors out there that would gladly pre-
scribe you a diet pill. But, are they really helping you? Without a diet plan and behav-
ior modification and maintenance plan, you are doomed to be a yo-yo dieter. I use the
analogy,“Would you have your brain tumor taken out by a foot doctor?” If you’re seri-
ous about losing and keeping your weight off, see a doctor that specializes in the field
of weight loss.
12. All weight is not created equal. Muscle weighs more than fat. And the last
thing you want to lose is muscle! That’s why protein is so important to help preserve
muscle mass. It’s also important to have a regular exercise program. Without adequate
protein, your body will burn the muscle first. You should lose 75% fat and 25% muscle
on a sound program.
13. Sleep it off. To be an efficient fat burner, your body requires at least eight hours
of sleep. Many of your hormone levels normalize during the sleep cycle. If you’re not
sleeping well, it could be a hormonal imbalance that needs correction.
14. Slow down your eating. I encourage my patients to drink two glasses of
water prior to a meal. It works wonders to curb your appetite. Practice slow and
deliberate chewing; that promotes satiety. When eating out, plan to take half your meal
home with you or share a meal with your dining partner.
15. Snacks. Find a good snack that is low in carbohydrates, and make sure that snack
is always readily accessible to you. I suggest protein bars. Cut them into small pieces
and eat one piece at a time, followed by an eight-ounce glass of water. Snacks can be
the killer of a weight-loss regimen!
16. Fiber is good. When you lose fat, you’re going to get constipated. Increasing
your water intake and fiber is a way to fight this problem. I also recommend magne-
sium in either pill or liquid form for those “stuck” moments.
17. White bread means belly fat. Please eat whole grain white bread if you
must have bread. But try to eliminate all bread if you can. It’s added carbohydrates that
you don’t need, and it goes directly to your belly. No six-pack abdominals will ever be
attained with white bread.
18. Join the anti-soda club. For most people, getting off sodas it is the hardest
thing about a weight-loss plan. I’ve often wondered if there’s an addictive ingredient in
these drinks. If you are a soda drinker, dropping it from your diet will allow you to lose
five pounds in a single week. And that’s without doing anything else! I hope that’s
enough incentive for most to quit with the sodas.
19. Alcohol is empty calories. There is nothing nutrionally sound about alcohol.
The calories are high and it has no sense of satiety, so you drink more and more and
you gain that infamous “beer belly.” There are many commercials now about low-calo-
rie beer. But any way you present it, it’s still not a nutrionally viable option – even if
Lance Armstrong does promote it. Remember, Lance has probably already burned off
5000 calories before he had his lite beer. Unless you’re in his league, stay away from
the alcoholic beverages.
20. Water is your friend. When one is on a strict diet, the loss of water can be
dramatic. Therefore, it’s very important to hydrate well. I encourage at least eight glass-
es of water a day. You are more likely to retain water weight when you’re not hydrat-
ed well. You’ll be surprised how adding water to your diet in the place of sweet tea
makes the tea seem too sweet if you drink it again. Your taste buds will adjust to the
change, but you have to change your mind first!
I hope these tips will be beneficial as you embark on your weight-loss journey.
Remember that the key to weight loss is a change in lifestyle. And the hardest part of
any weight-loss regimen is the maintenance of your weight. If a diet program doesn’t
have a plan for maintenance, I would avoid that plan entirely because it’s only a set-up
for disappointment. Good luck!
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48 6/22/10 1:54 PM Page 1
In a quick minute, I can list the names of
books I have read in my adult life. From that, you can
gather that I don’t read much – or that I am very
selective of books that I do read.
About a year before his book was released,
Steve Harvey spoke about the debut he was going to
have as an author. At that moment, I was ready to
read Act Like a Lady,Think Like a Man. I knew it was
one book I was definitely going to read. And I was
not disappointed.
Steve Harvey writes about leaving his years of being
a bad boyfriend and a bad husband behind him and to,
now, being a newly-married and good husband. He
also includes some of his friends’ points of view. Act
Like a Lady, Think Like a Man is unique in so many
ways. One of the many ways is when he answers
questions that females have been trying to figure out
since Adam blamed Eve for eating the apple.
Tracey and her husband, Isaac L. Singletary, Sr., have four children: Isaac (11),Twins, Zanovia and Zachary (9) and Tayden (2). Originally from
Georgetown, She has lived in Florence since 1993 and is a Front Desk Clerk for Hampton Inn & Suites in Florence.
What’s on
Tracey Frierson-
Singletary’s
Best-Seller List?
The subtitle of the book is What Men Really
Think about Love, Relationships, Intimacy and
Commitment. Steve gives a wonderful and easy-to-
understand perspective of the male species on these
subjects. He mentions how some men chastised him
for writing the book because he had given up his “play-
er’s card.” His response to that was,“Well, it’s time you
get yourself together and stop hiding behind your lies.”
He suggests that woman stand up for them-
selves and realize the mighty power they possess.
And he says that they should act on that power.
Steve writes on how a woman wants to be treated by
her mate or friend and tells us that we should reject
anything less than that.
In chapter three, he writes about the three
things that every man needs from his woman – sup-
port, loyalty and “the cookie.” (You’ll have to read
the book to find out what “the cookie” means.)
Ladies, how many times have we asked,
“Why do men do what they do?” Well, guess what!
There is a chapter on that very thing! And, finally, the
chapter, “The playbook: How to WIN the game,” is
where the work really takes place. For me, I saw
myself in a lot of the things he said not to do.
Steve’s straightforwardness and humor
allowed me to keep reading, and I longed for the next
chapter. I walked away from this book enlightened,
inspired and encouraged, knowing that in those
places where I failed, I can repair and be the strong
mate for my husband that he wants but never got
around to asking for.
Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man is a won-
derful read, and you will not be disappointed.
Everyone can surely gain some vital information on
love, relationships, intimacy and commitment from a
man’s perspective.
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If your hair is prone to frizziness, the
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Now, there is a new salon procedure that
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KERATIN HAIR-STRAIGHTENING
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I NSTANT the ridges of curls to unwind them, offering
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SMOOTH Conditioners like coconut oil add softness and
shine. A Keratin Hair-Straightening Treatment
HAIR: is a long-term treatment specially designed
for people who have curly or frizzy hair
but dream of smooth, frizz-free locks. It
does not use any harsh chemicals and
actually claims to boost the health of
your hair! It will help repair any dam-
aged areas of your hair as the main
component used is Keratin, a pro-
tein already found naturally in
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vary among salons.

WHERE TO GO
FOR MORE
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52 6/22/10 3:45 PM Page 1
One Man’s Trash
is Another Girl’s
PLANT STAND
God is in the repo business. He loves to take over where oth-
ers have given up. I was reminded of this when I was dumpster diving the other
day.Yes, you read right. I went dumpster diving. For those of you not familiar with
this coined term, “dumpster diving” is when perfectly reputable human beings
rummage through the garbage for things that others have tossed aside as trash.
It all started on a sunny Friday afternoon when I was barreling down
Ballpark Road – the location of our city dump. The closer I got behind the pick-
up truck ahead of me, the more intrigued I became.There, in the truck bed before
me, sat the most adorable scrolled wrought iron chair. Red, nonetheless. My
thoughts yelled out,“Surely he isn’t going to the DUMP with that chair!” His right
blinker began to pulse along with the beat of my heart as we drew near the
garbage sight. Sure enough.The red, wrought iron chair was on its swan song.Well
not if I had anything to do with it! I turned my Mustang right around and stalked
the chair’s owner until he was out of sight. Sheepishly, I drove up beside the clanky,
green dumpster that held the treasure. I wasn’t completely sure if I would be
strong enough to lift the chair out, but I was determined to try.The first several
attempts were completely unsuccessful. My arms were simply too short. So, I gave
up and went home. OF COURSE NOT! Quicker than you could say “free chair”,
I had a plan.
You should have seen me edging our red, Mustang convertible up beside
that tall dumpster. I hopped up onto the car and began to reach over into the
dumpster. The chair had become tangled among a discarded clothesline, yard
swing, and a lawn mower. So I gave up and went home. NO! I plunged
forward….almost literally! Feeling the staring eyes on me from across the park-
ing lot (I wasn’t exactly dressed for the occasion) I summoned my arm muscles
Melodie Griffin is an inspirational speaker and singer who resides with her husband
and 3 children in the Midlands of SC. She is also a freelance writer who just happens
to go dumpster diving now and then.
by Melodie Griffin
to work together in one sweeping motion and retrieved my prize! I did it! The
red chair was mine now! Upon returning back home, I placed my treasure in a
place of honor on the front porch with a lively plant in it. Next order of business
was to post my dumpster diving adventure to my facebook status. I was pleased.
One of the first comments on my wall was by my beleaguered hubby who was
traveling on business and found out about my garbage procurement via social
media. Oops! His comment read like,“Dear, do you really have to dig through the
garbage? Has it come to that? And do you have to tell the whole world about it?”
Why yes.Yes, I do. Not only was I excited about the chair, but there seemed to
be a story here.
I can’t help but think of the parallel between myself and that red chair. Its
paint is chipping and it is missing a leg, but that is somehow part of its beauty to
me. There is still so much value in it and it is worth redeeming. When God saw
life carting me away to my death in the back of a pickup truck, He did the unthink-
able. He stood beside the dumpster of death and reached in to pull me out and
redeem me. He placed me in a position of honor on the front porch of His love
and placed new life inside of me. Psalm 103:4 says it beautifully,“He redeems your
life from the pit; He crowns you with faithful love and compassion.” Does that not
make you want to twirl around with joy? Can you grasp the fact that the very
Creator of the universe, the Holy One, stepped into time and filth to redeem your
life and mine from the pit? Amazing.
Next time you are driving past the city dump, let your heart take a twirl
with the thought of being redeemed from the pit! And if you happen to see a
woman standing on a convertible, keep driving. She’s plumb crazy.
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j What do you need in your life to be free? So often, we take for granted the
general freedoms of waking up every day in a society that offers so much freedom –
freedom to speak, to worship, to choose, to vote and, for the most part, to lay down
at night in peace, without fear.
Yet, it seems that every one of us, at least in moments, holds on to something
that keeps us from the freedom to just be. We each have a cross or a burden to
bear that we think no one else has, or knows, and it hangs like a noose around our
I Am!
by Eddie James

I am the Lord and the Almighty God

I am the One for nothing is too hard
I am the Shepherd, and I am the Door
I am the Good News to the bound and the poor
necks, choking the life out of us. Situations in life – or issues we face – stun us. We wake I am the Righteous One, and I am the Lamb
up one day realizing we have allowed our burden to hinder our personal freedom. I am the Ram in the bush for Abraham
A couple years ago, I became aware that I had allowed the expectations and I am the Ultimate Sacrifice for sin
needs of others to control most of what I did in life – and, sometimes, even my every- I am your Redeemer, the Beginning and the End
day decisions. It surfaced when I realized how hard it was for me to make decisions
I am Jehovah, and I am the King
on the most menial things. I second-guessed myself, analyzed every option and often
I am Messiah, David’s Offspring
remained paralyzed when I just was not sure which choice would be right. I spent too I am your High Priest, and I am the Christ
much of my life being a pleaser and not learning how to make choices that would be I am the Resurrection, and I am the Light
in my own best interest.
I also realized I had come to a juncture in my life. As my children left home I am the Bread, and I am the Wine
for college (and graduated! – moving on in life), leaving me with an empty nest, circum- I am your Future, so leave your past behind
stances were not so much deciding my role anymore. Who I was would not be defined I am the One in the midst of two or three
greatly by motherhood and all the activities that came with it. It really was up to me. I am your Tabernacle, I am your Jubilee
I was the older generation. But, who was I, really? Now, that is a major question for I am Hope
someone who has a hard time with decisions. I am Peace
I did feel a little less awkward and frustrated with myself when I realized one I am Joy
of my best girlfriends takes some of her worries to the extreme. She confessed to me I am Rest
as we had lunch recently that she can often take so long to decide where she will go And I am your Comfort and Relief from your stress
out to eat. And if she makes it to the restaurant, it takes so long in deciding just the I am Strength
right entrée with the right mix of drink and sides that her family will forego the whole I am Faith
event. I had to laugh because, as we made the plans for our lunch date, the choices and I am Love
questions about where to go and what to eat were endless. I finally had to stop the I am Power
And, today, I give you Freedom this very hour!
spiral and tell her we were not contemplating another single idea; we were going with
the first restaurant mentioned, and I would be there at noon. I am!
This reminded me that the simplest of things can become debilitating when
we allow them to take away our freedom to just be. This same friend, after battling
weight problems and eating disorders, cannot relax and just be when it comes to meal-
time and choosing food and restaurants. I find it difficult to relax and be comfortable
just being me if I’m faced with a decision that may affect someone else or my future.
On the same plate in keeping many of us from living in freedom, we often find
guilt, anger, insecurities, unforgiveness, broken relationships and perhaps even addic-
tions. Only God and we know what the things are that we hide under the plate, think-
ing that no one really sees. Eventually, we’re going to have to eat the green peas. Of
all the freedoms that we are blessed to have, I think this one – realizing and letting go
of things that bind us – is one He wants us to chase and hang on to with all our might.
On my journey, as I realized that I often get stumped when faced with a yel-
low brick road, I knew the first step would be to make a decision – the very thing I
feared. I had to decide that I would make a change because my vacillations were not
only affecting me, they were affecting those around me that I love. I desired for the
freedom to be me more than I feared being wrong. I had to decide that I could even
make mistakes along the way – and it would be just fine – as long as I had made the
choice with an honest and prayerful heart. I was going to start believing in myself and
my God-given right to be . . . me.
The most beautiful part of this freedom is the characteristics that we trust in
God can become our own and are at our disposal. As we continue to travel down the
road, leaving behind at every turn the things that keep us from being free, we pick up
His gifts to take their places. We become ever more aware that His presence and
strength are always with us and that He created us, in all things, to reflect His glory.
Just this week, I heard a song that reminded me of how free I am . . .
because of who He is. I would like to share the lyrics, and I pray that they will bless
your yellow brick roads, stone by stone and step by step.

eeal Yreedom by Paige Self Thomas

Paige Self Thomas lives in Florence with her husband, Joey, and two Sheltie pups. She has three grown sons and four stepchildren. She works part-time as
Business Administrator for the Francis Marion University Center for the Child, and she is currently licensed as a Realtor with Prudential Segars Realty in Florence.
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freedom It’s amazing to me how many definitions have changed as I’ve gotten older.
I suppose part of it is just a matter of perspective. Some of it, however, is due to
the cards we are dealt, the experiences we encounter, the paths we have walked.
No matter what cliché you choose, life changes the way we look at almost every-
thing. As a little girl, I didn’t have to worry about things that concern me today. I
knew that my parents loved me and would provide for my needs. I never really
wondered about freedom. I had no concept of the price that has been paid through
the years to buy that freedom we enjoy. As I grew, however, I became more aware.
I was in high school during the Vietnam “conflict.” I always thought that was a
strange name for a war. But, the older I’ve gotten and the more I know about the
conflicts of life, perhaps that really was an appropriate name. I had friends who
went to Vietnam and never came home. My uncles had been in World War II, but
they never talked about it. My daddy wanted to serve but was not
accepted due to his poor eyesight. As difficult as times
must have been, I would like to have been a part of
the surge of patriotism from everyone that existed
during those years. I suppose the closest thing
we’ve had to that united patriotic front was
September 11. I’m sure that experience
paled in comparison to WWII. As strong
as our unity appeared to be during
the days following September 11,
it soon – way too soon – faded,
and life went back to the way
i it was before. It’s sad that
difficult experiences
sometime bring
out the best in us.
BY FEREBE GASQUE
It’s sadder still that our memories seem to fade so very quickly when the
crisis is averted. Even now, I get chill bumps and a tear comes to my eye when I hear
“The Star Spangled Banner” sung reverently (we won’t talk about some of the des-
ecration of our national anthem by some folks at sporting events). Unfortunately,
most folks are not aware that there are multiple verses to the song. My favorite is,
“And thus be it ever when free men shall stand between their loved homes and the
war’s desolation: Blessed with victory and peace, may this Heaven-rescued land
praise the Power that hath made and preserved us a nation.Then conquer we must,
when our cause it is just. And, this be our motto: ‘In God Is Our Trust.’ And the
Star Spangled Banner in triumph shall wave o’er the land of the free and the home
of the brave.” I still have friends and relatives who proudly wear the uniform of
the United States Armed Forces. I will never be able to repay them for the price
they have paid and the sacrifices they have made for my freedom.
Ultimately, I realize (as obviously did Francis Scott Key) that our freedom
comes from God and from the sacrifice His Son made more than two thousand
years ago. Freedom isn’t free. Perhaps that’s been too often and far too flippantly
stated. But, no freedom is ever free. And, with freedom comes responsibility. That’s
why we have laws. When I taught fifth grade Sunday School
many years ago, I explained to the children that the laws and
limits imposed upon us by those in authority over us (parents,
legislators, God) are not meant to restrict us but to provide
parameters to protect us. The Ten Commandments aren’t some arbi-
trary “Hmmmmm, I’m in charge so how should I show my authority”
whims of an egotistical God. If we obey those laws He set before us, life is
much less difficult. Breaking those laws makes our lives more difficult. He
gave us those guidelines and boundaries to protect us and those we love
because He loves us. It’s sad that some folks never understand that truth.
So, I have freedom in Christ and I have freedom as a citizen of this great
country we call home. But, freedom is not just freedom from, it is freedom to, as
well. Freedom from oppression, freedom (and
responsibility) to vote, freedom to have an opin-
ion and to express my opinion in appropriate ways,
freedom to own property (with my best friend, the mort-
gage company), freedom to love, freedom to laugh, freedom to
participate or not to participate in activities, freedom to choose to
accept or reject faith and responsibility, freedom to choose period.
I’ve learned that freedom and independence are best experienced with
those we love and trust and with whom we share faith and values. We are most
free when we share that freedom. The older I get, the more I appreciate the gifts
of life and love and freedom. With each experience of life (even the difficult ones),
I realize how truly blessed I am that God is still in control, that His gifts are never-
ceasing and ever-surprising, and that He loves me. Freedom isn’t free, but I don’t
have to pay for it. It is a gift from God and from those courageous men and women
in uniform who have unselfishly given of themselves so I can enjoy it.
Ferebe Gasque is the Music Therapist at McLeod Hospice House, has a private
music studio, sells Pampered Chef kitchen tools, and is proud to have friends who
even now are fighting to preserve the freedom we are so blessed to enjoy in the
greatest country in the world.
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By Marti Miller

Lost motivation. Found boredom. This letting go process is simply torture when it None of us has to look very far in our own fam-
begins. We send our children off to school for the first ily and friendship circles to find loss and sadness and other
Lost patience. Found anger.
time and pretty soon we’re packing up their things for horrors. But sometimes the greatest of life’s moments
Lost love. Found grief. camp or college…we slap on a fake smile as we steal one appear within the worst of times. Maybe it’s about finding
Lost self. Found hope. last hug from the baby waiting to board another military ways to let go rather than holding on to these hurts that
flight…we try not to panic when we get those phone calls gives us back our freedom or helps us find our own new
Lost grief. Found love.
that say they are fine but we know it’s not because of a normal? When we can loosen our control-freak grip on
Lost weakness. Found strength. cold or sinus infection that they sound so sniffly and stuffy. life, we can begin to find a “peace of quiet” for our souls.
Lost possessions. Found peace. We want to control everything around them. Let Surely, we’ve all had our shares of losing in life.
the rain not fall in their worlds. Keep the wolves from their But it’s in that very losing that we can sometimes find the
Lost keys. Found sidewalk.
doors.Take every first step with them so they won’t stumble greatest of freedoms. Been thinking about these kinds of
Lost track of time. Found panic button. and fall. But it just doesn’t work that way. For anyone. Ever. ironies for a while now – those times when loss is gain,
Lost glasses. Found edge of table with shinbone. My precious niece and her husband are trying to when being a true servant is the ultimate freedom. It’s so
breathe through their first child’s medical difficulties.They cornball and Hallmark card-y, but we do need to let go of
Lost weight. Found it hiding on hips 6 weeks later.
have not yet known the joy of bringing tiny Vita Mia home what we love in order to find the freedom to be without
to sleep in her own crib or be rocked and comforted in it. If it returns to us, we rejoice. If it does not, it wasn’t
Okay, those last few aren’t particularly profound,
her own surroundings, free of tubes and monitors and ours in the first place. I suppose the Prodigal Son is a per-
but they are, unfortunately, quite true. But mostly, when
sterile white walls. When my niece was crumbling under fect example of this concept – of being lost and found. But
we loosen our grip on people (especially our grown chil-
the pressure of an abnormal start to motherhood, she don’t you sometimes identify with that other dutiful
dren) and possessions and those things we claim to be our
asked her husband how he could be okay with it all and he brother or how about those laborers in the field that
inalienable rights, we begin to find what they truly mean to
told her it was because he knew he had no control over earned the same wage as the latecomers? Perhaps,
us. We may lose “stuff”, but what we gain in the process
the situation. There was nothing he could do for their though, had they had been able to find the freedom to
can bring incredible freedom. We let go of our grip on
baby other than to be there for her. He has already begun rejoice in their “loss”, they might have truly gained more
things and let God do His thing (wait a second, I don’t
the letting go process – the one that brings the peace we than the returning son or the 30 minute workers?
think we have the power to “let” or “allow” God to do
all seek.Their sweet baby girl will come home. It just may And that is maybe why we have this thing called
anything, do we – except maybe to let Him into our lives
take a while before she gets there. Meanwhile, he’s treas- freedom in our country – God wants to see what we do
– to answer the door when He knocks?)
uring all the moments in between. Powerful stuff – there’s with it. Oh brother. Are we in trouble, or what? Maybe
Remember that friend who keeps sending me the
freedom right there in those few words. not. If prayer has the power we hope it does, it’s not too
daily devotions she thinks I might need or appreciate?
My stepson was just diagnosed with bladder can- late for us. I plan on joining others in praying for our
Well, she’s gone and done it once again. Another one
cer – stage I and non-life-threatening because it was found nation and our families and our service people defending
arrived yesterday at just the right time, at the precise
so early. But he suffered through childhood leukemia and our freedoms around the world at 9:00 PM (Eastern Time)
moment I needed to see it the most.This one was about
his dad lost his own battle with cancer, so any mention of every night this month. July is the month we celebrate our
letting go and letting God – how we tend to want to hold
the “C” word in our family brings waves of remembered freedom in this country. Let’s pray not only for our free-
on for dear life to our precious children – even the fully
sadness. We could all get lost in its fog, but we don’t. dom but for our ability to remember from whence it
formed and grown ones.We hold on so tightly to what we
Instead, we find varying ways to live, laugh, and love comes and how quickly it can be lost. It will take just a
think we can do for them.We figure if we just keep a good
through it. Some days are just easier to love than others. minute of our time.And that’s not even a drop in the buck-
firm grip on their hands (the ones that are now our own
And so it goes. et of eternity. Of course, you are free to lose out on the
size or larger), they won’t wriggle free and run straight
opportunity if you so choose. Let freedom ring? I wonder.
into harm’s way.

“Some days are just easier

to love than others.
And so it goes.”

Marti Miller lives in Marion, SC and is a case manager for the

Volunteer Guardian ad Litem program. She has officially lost
much of her writing time, but has found a reason to rejoice
and be glad in it.
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Free to Be!
This month, we celebrate our FREEDOM
as citizens of this great country and as WOMEN.
We’ve come a long way, baby, and we truly
are FREE TO BE anything we dare dream.
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to do
W What I want,
When I want!
Liz Shaw
My husband, Ian, and I moved
to Florence from England in 1976.
Ian came to work at Fiber Industries in Darlington
County, which eventually became Wellman, Inc. We
arrived in Florence during Labor Day weekend, which
then was the same time as the Darlington 500 Race. We
wondered what in the world was going on! The motel
was a lively spot those first few days. Early memories
were of negotiating breakfast and wondering what “grits”
were. (We have since come to love them.)
Everyone was so welcoming and helped us get
settled in a house and the children in schools. Looking
back, I remember having to speak slower as my British
accent confused many – and still does, occasionally.
Driving on the “other” side of the road took some prac-
tice and was not that hard. However, I learned every
option rather than make a left turn at Five Points for a
long time. We were all quite homesick for about a year,
but as we made friends and embraced the American way
of life, Florence soon became our home. Now, Ian, our
two children and I are all American citizens.
I started working part-time for the City of
Florence Planning Department in 1980. My Degree is in
Geography, so I had a suitable background and became
full-time once my children were older. Planning
Liz Shaw’s hometown is Stratford-Upon-Avon,Warwickshire, England (Shakespeare’s birthplace, as well!). She and her husband, Ian, now call Florence home.
They have two adult children, Andrew and Jacky; and two grandsons. Liz enjoys cooking, which is one of her passions!
encompasses such an interesting range of activities, as
well as the opportunity to meet and assist lots of people.
In early 1990, we relocated with Ian’s job to
Charlotte, North Carolina, but that was only for a short
time. Then we returned to Florence, where I went back
to work with the City. At this time, planning was con-
solidated with Florence County, so I took on the
Business License Coordinator’s Position and later
moved into more planning activities, learning GIS, which
is a computer mapping software. The City recently re-
established its Planning Department, and I became the
Senior Planner and Zoning Administrator. I’ve always
enjoyed working with people, and my various positions
with the City always gave me that opportunity.
My husband retired first, and I thought I’d give
him some time to make the adjustment before I joined
him. We are both in our mid-sixties and planned to
retire while we are both in good health.
Even though I knew I was retiring, I found it
hard to make definite plans. The usual things go
through your mind – freedom to travel, visit family, read,
work out, garden and, in my case, play more tennis.
Well, since I retired, I am doing all these things and
having so much fun! I know that I will also get involved
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in other activities in the community, and I look forward
to those opportunities. The freedom to choose is very
liberating.
I’ve always been a “planner,” and I’m enjoying
having the time to do the things I want and need to do. The
good thing is I’m not under any pressure, and I can go at my
own pace. Before retiring, I made a long list of “things to do
when I retire.” Some are mundane chores like cleaning
those closets and organizing the family photos. Others are
more exciting adventures such as learning new skills.
At first, I was apprehensive about leaving the
structured working world, but I have been able to fill my
days productively with activities that I, now, have the
freedom to choose. I still love getting up early, but I
enjoy taking time over that first cup of hot tea while
reading the paper. It’s also great being able to spend
more time with Ian. We both miss the people we
worked with; however. They are all a great group.
Fortunately, I’m still serving on a couple committees, and I
hope to keep in touch that way.
These first few months of retirement have
been a transition in learning to adapt to our new freedom,
but Ian and I both saved and planned for, hopefully, a long,
healthy and active retirement.
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Falling!
Kim
Gregg

five-minute flight under our parachute built for two. Suddenly, my cameraman waved goodbye, and
I consider myself to be
These parachutes truly fly and I was able to assist my my instructor pulled the shoot. I thought I had gone
an “adrenaline junky.” First, I’m a
instructor in steering. deaf. We were floating like birds. My instructor was
Registered Nurse at Carolinas Hospital System in the
My husband, Jay, and I were fortunate enough to mostly the one steering, of course. I felt like I was in a
Progressive Care Unit, which is very fast paced. Every
be filmed from the time we suited up to the time we dream.
second counts when it comes to cardiac patients.
landed. The music in the videos was set to fit our per- There are no words strong enough to describe
Second, my family and I love the outdoors. My husband
sonalities. My music was “Living on the Edge.” how amazing, scary, dangerous and exciting that jump
is the host of SC Outdoors, so we get a lot of opportu-
When our group was called, about twenty of us was! I just remember floating and talking about what we
nities to be adventurous. We do anything from scuba
lined up to board the plane. It was the coolest thing saw from that elevation, which was all of Charlotte. In the
diving to . . . skydiving.
because we got to walk into the back of the plane like distance was a triangle. It was the airport where we would
I have loved watching airplanes since I was little,
the military. As we ascended, the air got colder. All of a land.
but the desire didn’t stop with just wanting to fly one. I
sudden, the pilot came over the speaker and said we Before I went up, I watched other divers land so
wanted to freefall from a plane! When I went to Skydive!
were at 13,000 feet and a green light came on. I think I gracefully. It was amazing to see them walk in like they
Carolina in Chester, South Carolina, my adrenaline was
went numb for a minute and then giddy all at the same didn’t just fall out of the sky! I was informed that our
really flowing! (My dad still wonders why I jumped out
time. My instructor, who was attached to me from height difference would hinder us from landing quite so
of a perfectly good airplane.)
behind and about 6’2”, began buckling my straps. I’m beautifully, though.
My jump was a 120-MPH Freefall Tandem
only 5’1”, so I had to stand on his feet so that he could All of a sudden, a gust of hot 105-degree heat
Skydive! The process included being fitted for suits,
adjust my straps. Then we put our hats and goggles on hit us. We were below the clouds and nearing our land-
watching an educational video, classroom instruction
and made our way to the front of the line. My heart was ing zone. The voice behind me said,“Pull your legs up to
that took approximately thirty minutes with an instruc-
racing! I swear, I think I could hear it! you when I say, and we’ll try to land as smoothly as pos-
tor and, finally, I met with my personal Tandem Instructor.
Then I heard the voice behind me say, “Cross sible.” Needless to say, my instructor cushioned my
Then we waited for our turn to board the plane. My
your arms in front of you. It’s going to be great! And, landing. It was perfect!
nerves were shaky, but I had just passed my RN Boards two
Kim, don’t forget to breathe!” Once again, my cameraman was in front of me
days prior. I was still in shell shock from that.
Just then, my cameraman stepped off and half a asking how I liked it and if I would come back to Skydive!
When it was our turn to jump, my instructor
second later, so did we! At 13,000 feet, it was freezing – Carolina to do it again. My answer: “It was everything I
and I boarded the aircraft together for the ride to the
and loud! We were parallel with the ground and always dreamed it would be! And, absolutely, I will do it
appropriate altitude. After reaching the desired altitude, it
freefalling for about 2,000 feet. I remember hearing that again and again!”
was time to freefall with my instructor attached behind
same voice behind my head, “You forgot to breathe! You know what the strangest feeling was that
me as my personal guide. We accelerated to over 120
Hold on; we’re going up!” day? I honestly felt safer in the air than I did on the
miles per hour for up to 60 seconds.
interstate on the way home.
Then we pulled the ripcord and enjoyed a breathtaking

Thirty-five-year-old Kim Gregg was born and raised in Florence. She has been married to her best friend, Jay Gregg, for fourteen years. They have eleven-year-old twin girls, Carolyn and Courtney.
Kim is a Registered Nurse at Carolinas Hospital System in the Progressive Care Unit (PCU).
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to be Me!
I am so incredibly thankful that I am
– free to be me! I was born June 15, 1985 to Tommy and Terry
Walkup. I became sister to Kenan Walkup Granger. I had blonde hair and hazel
eyes, ten fingers and ten toes. I attended Christian Assembly School for kinder-
garten, Florence Christian School during my first through twelfth grades and
Francis Marion University for a Bachelor’s Degree of Business Administration in
Management. I married my husband, Neil, on September 26, 2009.
So many people are chasing the dream of becoming someone else.
What they must eventually realize is that no one else will ever be like you. No
one else will have your exact face. God has molded each of us the way He
wants us to be. No two people are exactly alike in God’s eyes. So, in July – and
throughout the year – not only will I celebrate the freedoms that we have as a
country; I will also celebrate the freedom that I have to be me!
What I love most about being me is that no one else will ever be me.

No one else with my name will ever do the things that I have done, the way
that I have done them. No one else will be born on the same date to my moth-
er. No one else will have my sister as their sister. No one else will ever have
the relationships with my family and friends that I do. No one else will ever
love my husband the way I do. God will never create another creature like me.
No one else in this world will ever be me.
There was a time in my life, however, when I battled with accepting and
loving myself. During middle and high school, I really struggled with being okay
with myself. As my mom says, my “heart is as big as the world!” I never want-
ed anyone to dislike me, and I would do whatever I could (to a certain extent) to be
accepted amongst my peers. I was a cheerleader, a softball player, in the high school
choir, high school ensemble and the drama club. I was even a water girl for the soc-
cer team. I wanted to be friends with everyone – upper classmen, everyone in my
class, lower classmen and even the elementary school kids. Friends would hurt my
feelings, and I would go crawling back to them apologizing as if I had done something
wrong! I always wanted to be more popular, drive a better car and, yes, sometimes,
even be other people.
I believe I realized that it was okay – and even a great thing – to be me when
I entered college. I looked back on the things I had been active in during high school
and the friends I had – and then I looked ahead. While all those friends and activities
were great, the majority of them were not there any longer. My slate was clean, and
there was very little for me to do to be able to impress others. I began college as
what I considered “a nobody.” I finally realized that I had to accept that I was “some-
body” before anyone else would.
The first day of college, I walked into my math class, scared to death. I
opened the door expecting approximately twenty-five desks, one teacher, one chalk
board and posters on the wall (a typical high school classroom). That room had at
least sixty desks, three teachers, four chalk boards and blank walls! I took a seat in
the section that my class number was assigned to. No one was talking. No one was
making eye contact with anyone. Everyone was as terrified as I was.
Then, I looked to my right at the tall, small-framed girl next to me. She
turned to me, and we both muttered something to the nature of,“Wow! I’m scared!”
Megan
Walkup Mathers
We then proceeded in our conversation. I found out her name, and she found
out mine. She was a Meghan, also. And, she was born the day before I was. She was an
athlete, as well. And that was it! From then on, we were pretty much inseparable.
I had made a friend – and I made that friend just because I told her who I
was. There was no fluff, nothing to make me look cool – just my background. And
she accepted me. It was then that I knew it was a great thing just to be me.
I think that a lot of young women struggle to accept themselves. Most
young women look to celebrities as their idols, or who they “want to be like when
they grow up.” The thing most young women don’t realize is that at one time or
another, those people probably wanted to be someone else, too. Now, the majority
of them are like someone else. And, like someone else, they are facing hardships. I’m
not saying that in being yourself, you won’t face hardships. But in being yourself, you
will make your hardships a little easier.
The person that I look up to in my life right now is what I call a “silent men-
tor.” She is super busy. And, to me, she is Superwoman! I’m not able to talk to her
all the time; but, when I do, it’s always life-changing. Her life is crazy, raising three girls,
working part-time, being a wife and a full-time woman of God. I speak with her at
least twice a month. And, during those talks, I always learn something from her about
how I can make myself a better me. From those conversations, I grow. And when I
feel God is telling me that it’s time to learn something new, the phone always rings
and it’s her on the other end of line, ready to bring me a new challenge. God is truly
using her to mold me into a more beautiful me!
So, if you rely on God, pray about circumstances in your life and look up to
real women, God will mold you into something beautiful, as well. In my lifetime, I’ve
learned that having a mentor is a lot better than having an idol.

Megan Walkup Mathers and her husband, Neil, live in Florence. Her parents are Tommy and Terry Walkup. Megan is the Office
Manager for Walkup Electrical Construction. She enjoys spending time with her family and friends. Her main focus right now is
being a great wife to her wonderful husband. Their new passion is travel. Jamaica, New York City, you name it and they want to
visit. During the summer, you’ll find them by the pool at Megan’s parents’ house, on the boat – or traveling.
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A Missionary
The call started for me to go into the mission
field when I was a child. When I first learned what a
missionary was, I wanted to be one! It wasn’t an obvi-
ous call, but it was exciting to me. I loved God, and I
knew it would be fun to teach people about Him.
Nevertheless, I was young and my goals for what I
wanted to be when I grew up changed all the time.
When I was in the second grade, my brother
died. He was twenty-six, and he was my hero. He was
so amazing in my eyes. When he died, I went into a
deep depression for years. I went through years of
having no self-worth. The devil had convinced me
there was nothing good about me and I was a waste.
My amazing parents were right there with me,
though, helping me get through it. My mom held me,
cried with me and reminded me that I am valuable to
God, and He loves me beyond all understanding. I
thank God for blessing me with parents that love Him!
Finally, in high school, I was free of the depres-
sion! I was happy! I loved myself! I smiled and laughed
all the time. This was a growing period for me in the
Lord. My parents had such an influence on my relation-
ship with God. I was raised to put God first. Going to
church on Sundays was never an option. My parents
guided me in the way I should go – not the way every-
one else was going.
Sadly, though, I’ve never been one to put my
all in something. I always put just enough effort to get
by. I hated school. Even though I liked sports, I still did-
n’t commit to them. At that time, nothing was ever
that important to me. I had no desire to go to college
and had no clue as to what career I would “stick” to
for the rest of my life.
Shortly after high school, I lost my focus on
God and got distracted by the world. I started party-
ing. I thought I was having fun. I can honestly say the only
reason I’m here right now is because God never let me
go! He fought for me! A few years later, the devil finally
got me so far down that I was desperate for God again.
I was twenty-four-years-old when I gave my
life completely back to Him. I will never forget His love
and grace toward me. All I wanted was to be in His
presence. And I wanted to tell the world how great
God is! The next few years in my life was all about
growing in God and learning more about Him and put-
ting the past behind me, which was often hard. I thank
God for surrounding me with strong Christian women
and men who reminded me of who God says I am. I
quickly realized that God was my only desire; He con-
sumed me. For the first time in my life, I found some-
thing I wanted to put my all in! I wanted to live my life
for God and God only.
About that time, I remember thinking about
what a wonderful life I had. God blessed me with the
most amazing parents and He also blessed me with the
opportunity to travel overseas in high school and many
family vacations. I’ve never been abused, neglected or
without. God has given me a wonderful life. Now, I
wanted to give Him my life in return.
to be
That’s when I made up my mind to give Him the rest
of my life for His purpose. I wanted to live my life
completely for God! I remembered my desire as a
child, and missions started coming back to me. It was-
n’t a major confirmation at that point; I had never been
on a mission trip, so I didn’t want to commit until God
removed all doubt.
At twenty-six, however, I was blessed with the
opportunity to go on my first mission trip as a chaper-
one with our youth group to the Bahamas. That trip
was important to me. I knew it would be the confir-
mation either way. And, God did confirm it! I didn’t
want to come home. I cried the entire bus ride home
from Florida to South Carolina. I was so sure! I want-
I want the
hopeless to
know there
is always
HOPE in
God.
ed to quit my job and go back right away! No planning,
just faith. I had a month to make my decision. Even
though I loved it and didn’t want to come home, I still
wasn’t sure if that was where God wanted me and if
this was the right time. I knew what Anna wanted, but
was it what God had planned for me?
I prayed and prayed, asking God for an answer.
He clearly answered me. My heart was broken! He
spoke to me through a lovely woman of God I went to
church with. Even though my heart was breaking, I
knew God had my best interest in His heart. After all,
my life is the Lord’s life.
Waiting for His promise was very hard! I
praise Him for keeping me here long enough to spend
valuable time with my parents and family. I have to
admit, though; my heart was longing for my future in
God. Although it was hard, it was also amazing. God
has completely changed me. The Lord has been right
beside me – growing me, loving me, correcting me and
teaching me. Most importantly, He has continually
shown me how great He is! He has worked miracles
in my life that only He can do!
A couple weeks before Christmas, God put
the urgency in my heart to search for missions on-line.
He led me to Google and the first
thing that popped up was The World
Race. I loved it! I felt like this was it.
I didn’t want to rush into anything,
so I kept looking. But The World
Race was the only mission that kept
my attention. So, I prayed about it.
The next day at church, I asked my
Pastor’s wife to be in prayer with
me about this decision.
I couldn’t go to sleep that
night until I filled out the application.
It was clear to me that this was it. I
have no doubts this is where He
wants me. God has confirmed it
and has been right beside me
through this process. I’m so excited
to see how God will use me! He
has given me a heart for people who
are desperate for Him. I want to
share God’s love with people who
don’t feel loved. I want the hopeless
to know there is always hope in
God. I know I’m going to miss my
family; it will be hard being apart
from them. But I keep reminding
myself that I have eternity to spend
with them and only a short time
here on earth. I want God to make
my life count for His purpose.
The World Race travels to
eleven countries in eleven months.
Participants live out of a backpack,
survive on a limited budget and find
themselves in situations where faith
is the only reality to choose from.
In partnering with existing mission-
aries and ministries, World Racers develop relation-
ships with those in the most need. And through acts
of service, they will see communities and nations trans-
formed all over the world. Our June 2010 squad has
fifty-two people. We are broken down into teams of
five to six people. The team will be our family for the
next eleven months. We don’t leave these people at all.
We eat with them, sleep with them and minister with
them. In some countries, all fifty-two of us might be
together; in other countries, all the teams may be separat-
ed. We don’t know what will happen until we get there.
I have prepared myself for this mission by try-
ing to live my life for God every day. I’ve been minis-
tering to people on a daily basis. No matter where I
am – at my job or in the grocery story – I’ve made
myself available, and God is using me for His good, as
well as mine. I love speaking life into people. That’s my
gift, and God puts me in positions all the time to use
that gift. I love to encourage people, to remind them
of who God says they are and not what their circum-
stances are or what other people say they are. The
devil is a liar, but God does not lie!
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Lindsey Buchanan,
Recently, I returned from an
amazing experience in Washington,
DC, where I lived, studied and worked
as an Intern for C-SPAN (Cable-Satellite
Public Affairs Network) for three and a
half months. I was there as a Fellow of the
Washington Semester Program, which is organized
through the University of South Carolina’s Honors
College. I was one of seventeen students chosen for the
Spring 2010 semester. Each of us was from colleges and
universities around the state. A once-in-a-lifetime
opportunity, I am so grateful to God for having this
opportunity in His plan for me. And I’m thankful to my
family for helping with the logistics and moral support to
make it possible.
Living in the District of Columbia was a dream-
come-true for me! I’ve always wanted to live in a city
and experience what it’s like to be in the middle of a
fast-paced environment. What better place to do that
than in Washington, DC (which, by the way is my favorite
city)? It’s in DC where my dual passions for history and
politics meld together. It’s in this city where God has
placed leaders of every background and viewpoint
together to work tirelessly to defend and improve upon
the freedoms we so deeply desire. Is it any wonder that
families from all over America – and even around the
world – make it a priority to visit our nation’s capitol at
some point in their lives? They each want to be a part of
the heartbeat of what makes this country and its freedoms
so precious.
Every day, I walked past the Capitol Building on
my way to work. For three and half months, I took that
walk and the rush of excitement I felt was just as strong
the last day as it was the first. During my time there, I
met seasoned Washingtonians who have dedicated their
lives to being a cog in the wheel that keeps this country
running. Each of them shared with me that no matter
how long they have lived there, they still get that exact
same thrill every time they walk through the halls of the
Capitol, help brainstorm a piece of public policy, walk
past the White House or do any of the countless things
that make DC such a unique city.
While I was living there, I experienced so much.
I learned how to navigate the city by foot and Metro. I
learned how to order groceries online (a hard-learned
lesson after first attempting to bring them home by foot
in a rolling suitcase!). I met powerful and influential peo-
ple (I promise you they are regular people, trying to
make a difference, just like us!), and I was able to go to
the White House. I survived the worst blizzard DC had
seen in years and watched people cross-country skiing
down our street! When the snow finally melted, I
learned that DC is one of the most beautiful places to
experience the spring season.
to be
Outspoken!
After all I had seen and learned, I still didn’t
have the faintest idea of what the District had in store
for my roommates and me. We quickly found out that
the unleashing of riots of flowers was just one product
of spring in the city. There’s another unleashing that is
just as varied – and just as overwhelming. And that’s pro-
testers! Protesters for healthcare; protesters against
healthcare. Protesters for immigration reform; protest-
ers against immigration reform. Tea Party protesters,
anti-war protesters, financial reform protesters, gay
rights protesters, anti-government protesters and pro-
gun protesters. Protesters against big insurance, loud
protesters, silent protesters, brick-throwing protesters
and yoga-doing protesters. Protesters that try to set up
camp in congressmen’s offices, protesters that wear tar
and feathers, protesters that don’t wear pants (yes, I’m
serious!). And the list goes on.
After my spring in DC, I would challenge any-
one who argues that our first amendment rights have
been compromised in any way. While I was there, I met
“... I no longer believe I
have the right to complain
unless I’m willing to do
something about it.”
people from Nicaragua, Georgia (south of Russia, not
south of South Carolina), Cuba, Italy, Brazil, Australia,
Taiwan, England, Zambia, South Africa, Ireland and even
Yankees! Each of them came from outrageously diverse
and differing backgrounds. Each one has different pas-
sions, careers and interests. Each one has opposing
views, likes, disgusts and idiosyncrasies. Each of them is
in America for one primary reason – freedom. They want
freedom! Freedom to choose their work, their speech,
their news source, their hobbies, their life partner, their
religion. Freedom to write without being censored, to
learn about anything, to speak freely and free to protest.
And, they find that freedom here. Here – in America.
Here, they can do all those things and more.
There is a reason that God has blessed our
country since its founding. I don’t pretend to know His
mind, but I do believe I can safely say that He has hoped
from the beginning to use this country as an example to
the world of what freedom can look like. We are not
perfect by any stretch of the imagination – not as indi-
viduals and not as a country. I know that each of us can
pull out a laundry list of things we personally find wrong
with our country. However, in the end, I do not believe
that any of us can deny that we are blessed beyond com-
pare on this earth.
Freedom is something most of us take for
granted on a daily basis. I have garnered a new appreci-
ation for what it means to have been born in this coun-
try. I could just as easily have been born any other place
in the world, but I wasn’t. Every day, I get to wake up and
make a decision about where I want to go, what I want
to do and who I want to spend my time with. As a
woman, I am beyond blessed to live in a country where
I can wear what I want (hopefully with a little style!) and
pursue any career I desire. As if these luxuries aren’t
enough when compared to the lives of millions of other
world citizens, I also have the freedom to disagree with
anything I want. And not just disagree – I have the right
to protest in any way I choose.
I’m not a protester by nature. I’m not one to
get riled up by a cause and organize a group march.
However, after witnessing the movers and shakers in our
country, I have found I no longer believe I have the right
to complain unless I’m willing to do something about it.
There are people in DC fighting every day for the very
rights we take for granted. Some of them are over the
top; some of them are outright bizarre! But, in the end,
you have to admire the type of passion that causes
someone to believe in something so strongly that they
are willing to put everything else aside in an effort to
make change happen. And you must appreciate a nation
and a God that makes that possible.
My time in DC has come to an end. I’m back
with my family, driving my car instead of walking and
shopping at Walmart and Piggly Wiggly instead of ordering
my groceries online. And I’m starting my summer cours-
es at Francis Marion University. I’m not surrounded by
the buildings and history-making people I have come to
love, and I’m not able to walk next door at nine at night
and eat really good sushi!
I am, however, able to be with my family every
day, grill out in my backyard and not share a bathroom
with three other females. It’s bittersweet, heart-wrench-
ing and joyful, all at the same time. And it’s all due to a
loving God who blesses me and this country more than
we deserve.
I don’t know if I’ll ever have the opportunity to
live in a city again. I don’t know where I’ll be working
when I graduate in a year. I’ll trust God to work all that
out. But, I do know this: I will never regret the oppor-
tunity I was granted to experience the thrill of living in
our nation’s capitol or the lessons I learned while I was
there, including discovering how blessed I am to live in the
United States of America and experience the personal
freedoms God has given each of us.
As a mom, I’m making it a priority to educate
my girls about how blessed we are as Americans. And
you can be sure that a large part of that education
includes trips to DC!
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“ I will never regret

the opportunity
I was granted to
experience the
thrill of living in
our nation’s capitol
or the lessons I
learned while I was
there, including
discovering how
blessed I am to
live in the
United States
of America and
experience the
personal freedoms
God has given
each of us.

” Lindsay Buchanan lives in Florence, where she raises her two

amazing and hilarious daughters, Samantha (12) and Carson (6).
She loves to travel, is a senior at Francis Marion University, and
she is a member of Cornerstone Baptist Church.

Collin M. Smith Photography

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to be
A Patriot
Charlotte Hendrix
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The thing I like most about
being free is my God-given freedom to worship when
and where I choose, which is Florence Baptist Temple.
The sad thing is that our freedom to worship and the
freedom to do many other things have always been
taken for granted. Recently, we are seeing many of our
freedoms slowly being eroded. Too many mandates are
being handed down by our government – insurance and
health care, gun control, increased taxes, out-of-control
spending, taking away our religious symbols, no National
Day of Prayer and laws that show no regard for our
Constitution. In addition, our elected officials show no
regard for the wishes of the people – the very ones who
elected them in the first place.
I love my country, but I am concerned about
the kind of life my children and grandchildren will have
in the future. Will they be able to live as God intended,
free from governmental control? Will they know this
truth: “. . . that all men are created equal, that they are
endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable
Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the Pursuit
of Happiness”? Will they know that no government can
take that away?
I love the military. I love those who wear the
uniforms now and those who have worn them and died
while defending what precious freedoms we know
today. I pray for their safety and the safety of their fam-
ilies back home that are also making a big sacrifice by
being alone while their loved ones are off fighting for
our country.
I love the United States of America, and I
believe we are at a crossroads in history. The recent Tea
Party Protests are part of a growing, larger anti-tax
political movement called the Tea Party Movement. The
Tea Parties, on the other hand, focus on smaller govern-
ment, fiscal responsibility, individual freedoms and
They have two daughters, two sons, five grandchildren and four grand-dogs. Charlotte grew up in Fayetteville, North Carolina,
upholding the Constitution. When Tea Parties started
popping up across our land, it became evident to me and
others that we had been out of touch with our govern-
ment, and we had stopped participating in the political
process. We, as a nation, have become too complacent,
too concerned about ourselves to see that some of our
elected officials are busy being self-serving and trying to
get their own agendas passed rather than listening to
their constituents. Tea Parties are grassroots organiza-
tions that are trying to educate the public about govern-
ment and elected officials who are making policies that
empower the government to define what is best for its
citizens. This growing big-government mentality is
pulling us farther away from our Founding Fathers’
Principles.
There is a difference between being “political”
and being “patriotic.” I choose to be patriotic and help
others who are “like-minded” to know the facts and to
get informed. That’s how my involvement began with
the Tea Party Patriots of Florence, which is dedicated to
promoting all patriotic activity in the greater Florence
area, believing that patriotism cannot be franchised but
must be an individual response to one’s country’s needs.
We help the people of the area validate how any candi-
date, regardless of party affiliation, stacks up on all the key
issues. The Florence Tea Party Patriots also help the
newly-educated voter make a better choice when electing
his or her candidates. And the better choice in candidates
is one that will listen to the people and do the right things!
We have until November to make important changes in
our local, state and federal governments. It’s now or never
to forever be controlled by big government.
We need to go back to the beliefs that our
Founding Fathers wrote in The Declaration of
Independence and The Constitution of The United States of
America. We need to get back to doing what is right for
America and work to preserve these blessings.
Charlotte Hendrix and her wonderful husband, Ronald, will have been married for forty-six years in August.
but she has called Florence home since 1992. She is a Registered Nurse at McLeod Physicians Associates.
Our Constitution is not outdated and nei-
ther is our Bible; they’re just overlooked.
Those who deny that we’re a Christian nation
are simply a loud minority. I thank God that I was born
in the United States. (I especially thank Him that I was
born in “The Bible Belt.”) No, we’re not perfect as a coun-
try, but we beat anything coming in second!
Finally, I love the Flag; I love the American pride
it symbolizes. I love patriotic music and grassroots
America. No other country on earth is as loving, giving,
compassionate and caring as the United States of
America. We are always there for other countries, as
well as our own homes, in times of disaster. I’ve been on
medical mission trips to Brazil, Romania, Mississippi and
Louisiana. And, guess who is always there to give serv-
ice and compassion? Americans!
When searching for the most important sup-
port and guidance that, we, as a nation, need to know in
this day and time, nothing explains our duties and respon-
sibilities better than His charge in II Chronicles 7:14:
“If My people, which are called by My name, shall humble
themselves and pray, and seek My face, and turn from their
wicked ways, then will I hear from Heaven, and will forgive
their sin, and will heal their land.”
This Independence Day, may we all be reminded
of a verse from “The Star Spangled Banner”:
“Oh! Thus be it ever, when freemen shall stand
Between their loved home and the war’s desolation!
Blest with victory and peace, may the Heaven-rescued land
Praise the Power that hath made and preserved us a nation.
Then conquer, we must, when our cause it is just,
And this be our motto: ‘In God is our trust.’
And the Star Spangled Banner, in triumph, shall wave
O’er the land of the free and the home of the brave!”
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Major, Janelle Arnette
“Only our individual faith in freedom can keep us free.”
After joining the Naval Junior
Reserve Officer Training Corps
(NJROTC) in high school, I knew that I wanted
to serve in the military. I took classes and participated
throughout the tenth through the twelfth grade. After high
school, I joined the Army because, after applying for both
Army and Navy scholarships, I received the Army scholar-
ship. I went to college and participated in the Army
Reserve Officer Training Corps (ROTC). I didn’t attend
Basic Training because ROTC Cadets attend an
Officers’ Advance Camp between their junior and sen-
ior year of college.
When I told my parents about my plans to join
the Army, they were supportive. Mom and Dad commis-
sioned me at graduation. My mom has attended every one
of my promotion ceremonies.
I entered Active Duty in August 1995, so I’m com-
ing up on fifteen years of Active Federal Commissioned
Service. My first assignment was as Chief of the
Management Analysis Branch at Fort Jackson, South
Carolina. After that,I served in multiple assignments at Fort
Bragg, North Carolina (Battalion S1, 261st Area Support
Medical Battalion; Brigade S1, 28th Combat Support
Hospital; Adjutant, 55th Medical Group; Company
Commander,Womack Army Medical Center). I also served
as Task Force S1,Task Force Medical Eagle in Bosnia. Then,
I served as Medical Center Brigade S1,Walter Reed Army
Medical Center in Washington, DC. Later, I served in the
Department of the Army Secretariat for Selection Boards
and Medical Corps Career Manager, Human Resources
Command, in Alexandria, Virginia. Following that assign-
ment, I served as Chief of Medical Personnel Services in
Camp Arifjan, Kuwait. Currently, I am Chief of the
Human Resources Division and Troop Commander at
Fort Jackson.
When I’m asked what I fear most, my response is,
“I try not to dwell on fear.” I get peace from my personal
relationship with Christ and my belief in the Lord God
Almighty. I seek Him for strength, understanding, comfort
and peace. I have a great deal of admiration for women
who serve in any situation where their lives are – or have
been – in danger. That danger may be at a duty assignment
~ Dwight D. Eisenhower
in the States, having to deal with a terrorist event or when
women are deployed where bombs are exploding. I pray
to always be in God’s will, and I trust my life to His capable
hands. I continuously pray for strength and understanding.
I’m also asked about being a female in a some-
what-predominantly male world. I don’t feel my being a
female has hindered me in my duty assignments or per-
formance. Soldiers are trained to respect the rank, regard-
less of gender, age, race or ethnicity. I enjoy a great deal of
support and camaraderie from subordinates, peers and
supervisors. And, I surely don’t think I represent “all
women.” I think I represent an Army Officer. I’m humbled
when people thank me for my service because I feel I’ve
done so much less than others who have been in harm’s
way and endured terrible tragedy because of their service
or situations that occurred while serving.
Only by having an extremely supportive husband
and family can I balance being a wife, a mother and being in
the Army. And I thank God for them! I don’t want to be
the “woman who wants it all or does it all.” I try to listen
to God and go down the path He directs. I try to be ever-
present for my Soldiers when at work, and I try to be ever-
present for my family when I’m home. I don’t like mixing
work and home, so I try not to take work home with me
or bring my personal life into my work environment.
I’m proud to be in the military for so many rea-
sons. First, I’m extremely proud of the countless struggles
that women before me endured so that women today have
the opportunity to reap the benefits and create a life for
themselves and their families that were not previously avail-
able. With that being said, I’m proud of all the women and
men serving in different branches of the military.
I’m mostly proud of my family. They have endured
countless relocations, time apart from friends and other
family members and separation due to deployments and
because I serve. That brings me to the hardest component
of my military career, which is being separated from my
family when duty calls.
I’m amazed at all the families who continually sup-
port their Soldier, Sailor,Airman or Marine when they have
to stay late, deploy multiple times and miss family get-
togethers. I’m impressed when our nation’s people come
together to support the troops, regardless of their person-
al beliefs/fears. Finally, I’m proud of businesses that offer
military discounts and show their support.
Getting to meet people from different walks of
life whom I would otherwise not come into contact is what
I enjoy most about serving in the military. I love continual-
ly meeting people, making friends and (hopefully) positively
affecting their lives as much as they affect mine. I’ve learned
so much from all the experiences I’ve had and places I’ve
seen because of being in the military.
Prior to being a part of the military, I didn’t think
much about those serving in the military. I surely didn’t
think much about my freedom. I was oblivious to my free-
dom; it was just there. There was no connection for me.
Once becoming a member of the military and learning of
the various opportunities for people, the operations our
nation has entrusted men and women to complete, the
responsibility our nation places on young Soldiers and
Senior Commanders, I became – and I still am – constant-
ly amazed at the strength of character and service of our
people. I personally feel the mature generation was more
connected with freedom and service to our country.
Advances in global communication and connectivity
changes the way people think about life.
As we all celebrate our freedom this
Independence Day, for those who are currently serving –
whether Active Duty, Reserves or National Guard – I pro-
pose that every one of us offer our strength, support and,
most importantly, our prayers to these brave men and
women. For those who have already served and got out
of the military for whatever reason or retired, they need
our respect and appreciation, as well, for their service to
this great nation we call the United States of America.
Janelle A. Arnette and her husband have twin boys. She is the
Human Resources Officer for the United States Army Medical
Activity at Fort Jackson, South Carolina. Janelle has a
Bachelor’s Degree in Biological Science, Pre-Physical Therapy,
from Ohio University and a Master’s Degree of Science in
Administration from Central Michigan University. Her military
training includes an Intermediate Level Education from
Command and General Staff School.
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Jane Ellsworth
I always thought that being able to fly would be
great, but I never really considered taking flying lessons because I thought it would
be too expensive. Nevertheless, in 1996, Gerold Ellsworth, a Flight Instructor, gave
me a business card and discussed the cost of the lessons. Not being one to make
snap decisions, I held onto the card for about six months. Eventually, I decided that
I could afford the lessons and called to make an appointment.
During that time, the first lesson was free. After my initial flight lesson,
Gerold told me to think about it and to let him know if I wanted to continue les-
sons. My immediate response was,“I’ve already thought about it. I’m ready to start!”
I had no fear of flying. I loved the freeing sensations felt in a small plane, and I was
thrilled at the sights seen below.
One of the greatest thrills was the first time I flew solo. It was simply a
take off from the airport, circling the airport and landing. It’s hard to explain the
exhilaration of piloting a plane alone for the first time. One of the requirements of
private flight instruction is to make solo, short cross-country and solo, long cross-
country flights. Those flights were practiced with my instructor and then I did them alone.
We also practiced night flights. The view from a small plane at night is breathtaking!
Early in my flight lessons, Gerold told me that we were going to do “stalls.”
Not really understanding what a stall was, I was a bit apprehensive. The objective, of
course, was so that I could recognize a pending stall once I had my license and pre-
vent it from happening. To first clarify a point, stalling an airplane has nothing to do
with the engine. It’s not the engine that stalls; it’s the wings. Wings stall because the
pilot tries to make them lift too much with too little airflow. In doing so, they abruptly
stop doing anything at all.
On that day, I was instructed to raise the nose of the plane until I felt the
plane drop a bit, which was the stall. Then, I should push forward on the yoke to
lower the nose of the plane. In my fear, I pushed the yoke too hard and had the plane
heading straight for the earth! Gerold quickly corrected my mistake and said,“Okay,
let’s try that again! And, this time, don’t push so hard!”
I just wanted nothing more than to get on the ground, but I didn’t want him
to know how much that maneuver had frightened me. The next stall was not so bad
Jane Ellsworth and her husband, Gerold, live in Bishopville, SC. Their son and daughter-in-law, Doug and Desi Bramlett, have two children, Aislinn (7) and Rowan (4).
Jane is an RN at the Women’s Center of Carolinas Hospital System.
and, eventually, I got to where I didn’t mind practicing them at all. To this day, that’s
the only thing about flying that ever gave me a sense of fear.
In order to get a Private Pilot’s License, a written test must be taken. The
tests are offered at many different sites. I took my exam in Conway, South Carolina.
After completing flight instruction, an oral exam is given by an FAA (Federal Aviation
Administration) Examiner. If the oral exam is passed, then a flying exam is conduct-
ed by the same FAA Examiner. I had done most of my flying around Florence and
the surrounding areas. However, on the day of my scheduled exam, there was a low
overcast ceiling of clouds prohibiting me from taking my exam in Florence. Being
ready to be tested, Gerold called around the state to find an airport with acceptable
weather. Columbia, South Carolina, was the spot. The FAA Examiner agreed to
meet us in Columbia, so off we went. I came home that day with a Private Pilot’s
License! Prior to finishing my flight instruction, I bought a Cessna 150. I was very
proud of my beautiful white and blue plane.
In 1999, I married my Flight Instructor! On my 60th birthday, he asked me
what I’d like for my birthday. I told him that I’d like to learn to ride a motorcycle. I
had been riding on the back of his, but I wanted my own. So, we purchased a bike.
He taught me to ride, and I took a course at Florence-Darlington Tech on motorcy-
cle safety. After that, I got my motorcycle license. I now own a Honda Shadow 750.
We only have one plane now – a Beech Musketeer, which is a roomy four-seater.
There aren’t many things more exhilarating and freeing than to drive a
motorcycle or fly a plane. We’ve taken quite a few trips on both our motorcycles
and in our plane, including Michigan, Vermont, Maine, Florida, Georgia, New York,
Virginia, North Carolina,Tennessee, New Hampshire and Branson, Missouri.
One of my greatest joys is spending time with my granddaughters. And,
although my family, motorcycling and flying are important to me, there is nothing
more important than my relationship with Jesus Christ.
So, during this month in which we celebrate our country’s freedom, I’ll not
take for granted all my freedoms – flying my own plane, riding my own motorcycle
and freely worshipping my Lord and Savior.
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I’m from a little place in the
Beth
country named Barrineau, South Carolina. It’s a small little cross-
roads where you’ll find that everybody is either related to each other
or, at the very least, everybody knows each other. I was born, raised
Barrineau
and married in Barrineau. And it looks like I’ll be a part of this won-
derful community until Jesus decides to take me home.
My father died at a very young age due to cardiac problems.
My mother, Carole Welsh Barrineau, raised my sister and me on her
Godwin
own. I am very thankful, and I appreciate all the times she gave up
her freedom to do things or to go places so she could make sure that
we were well taken care of.
Over the years, I’ve realized the great importance of free-
dom and what freedom really means. We, as citizens of this great
nation, should be very thankful for the great gift of freedom to be
who we want to be. We’re free to be loved and be in love; free to
be able to have life and live it abundantly; free to be able to pray, give
praise and to worship; free to be able to make our own choices, to
be able to vote and to speak out and let the world know that we
matter and that we can make a difference.
During my lifetime, I’ve met many people from all walks of
life, different nations, different religions and cultures. These people
made me realize how fortunate I am to have the freedom to be who
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I desire to be. God made this possible for each of us. From those
meetings, most importantly, I realized that we have the freedom to
be loved by the greatest love of all, our Heavenly Father. All we have
to do is accept His love because it is always there. He will never leave me or forsake
me, even until the end (Hebrews 13:5).
I am free to be able to live each day in a nation that is known as “The Land And, finally, I have the freedom to vote. Americans are blessed to be given
of the Free and the Home of the Brave.” This speaks for itself. We, as Americans, are the privilege to vote. And this is a very political year in the great state of South
so blessed to be able to live in a nation that offers so much freedom to each and Carolina. The one comment I hear that irritates me is, “My vote will not make a
every one of us in the hard economical times that our nation is facing at this very difference.” Every vote makes a difference! My candidate may not win, but I was able
moment. To be able to have life and to live it freely is such a blessing to each of us, to vote on my chosen candidate. As citizens of The United States of America, we
and I am thankful each day for this freedom. should be proud to know we have the right to vote, and it is our duty to vote and
I am free to pray. Sadly, I experienced firsthand how it feels to be told to speak out in order to turn our nation around.
that you are not allowed to pray, as this happened to me in the workplace. I could go on and on about the freedom I have to be me, but the words
Thankfully, God made a way for me to get out from under the pressure of know- to a popular contemporary Christian song sum it up quite well:
ing that I worked for a company that had this belief, which went against everything
I believe in. We should always remember that prayer is our communication “I got a couple dents in my fender,
between us and God. Got a couple rips in my jeans.
I am free to worship. We are privileged to be able to worship freely. Due Try to fit the pieces together,
to the many cultures and religious beliefs, Americans have the freedom to express But perfection is my enemy.
ourselves through worship. Give praise to and worship God daily, magnify His And on my own, I’m so clumsy.
name, call on Him and remember that He is with us every moment of our lives. But, on Your (God’s) shoulders, I can see.
I am free to make choices. We are the hero of our own life’s adventure. I’m free to be me! . . . and you’re free to be you.”
We can write our own story anyway we dream it to be. But, in the end, it amounts ~ “Free To Be Me” by Francesca Battistelli
to the freedom of choices we make throughout our lives.

Beth Barrineau Godwin and her husband, Ricky, live in Barrineau, South Carolina. She has two daughters, Lindsey and Kelli Roberson. At 49, Beth plans to start a new career in nursing this fall.
She enjoys painting, singing, playing the piano, gardening and trying to make a difference in people’s lives.
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Choose Life by Erika Chapman

Life is a series of choices.

As women, our choices seem endless at times – chocolate or vanilla ice
cream, caramel or gold highlights, silver or clear heels, workout or no
workout, run the 5K or the 10K,WeightWatchers or Jenny Craig, answer
the phone or block his calls. And the list goes on and on.
Sometimes, our decisions affect only us and we can make them
without much thought. Other times, however, for many of us, there
comes a time when the choice we face will affect not only our life but
another little life, as well. Many times, we’re not prepared for the weight
of this decision.
Trinity Sampson faced just this dilemma at the end of 2009. As
a nineteen-year-old from Pembroke, North Carolina,Trinity was in a rela-

Trinity
tionship that led her to Florence. She and her boyfriend were actually
trying to get pregnant when, in the fall of 2009, she unexpectedly lost her
job. Then, on December 29th, she found out – to her surprise – that she
was pregnant.
She made a doctor’s appointment to confirm the pregnancy and
to make sure all was well before she told her boyfriend. Expecting him
to be surprised and excited, she was devastated when his reaction was
not the same as her own. He was overwhelmed and concerned because
she didn’t have a job. He made it very clear that he wanted her to have
Sampson
an abortion.
Their relationship was already under stress, and this brought it
to a breaking point. Trinity loved him and wanted the relationship to work, but her
“The decision is their own to make.
boyfriend finally told her that either she needed to have an abortion or move out.
She had nowhere else to go because her family lived out of state.
Her choice required her to be
She went to her mother and told her the situation. Her mother was excit- strong and brave...”
ed that she was pregnant but obviously concerned for her. Trinity’s seventeen-year- wrong and asked her to come back. She did, and they started counseling through A
old sister was also expecting a baby, so her mother was handling a lot of unexpect- Choice 2 M8k.
ed news from her girls. However, with Trinity, she had the extra angry emotion Trinity shares that the support and counseling helped her through the pain
because of the way she was being treated by her boyfriend. She was concerned that she was going through. She feels strongly that because of A Choice 2 M8k and God’s
Trinity would have an abortion. help, her relationship with her boyfriend is healing. He is excited about the baby now,
Trinity didn’t want to have an abortion and didn’t want to give her baby up and they are looking forward to being parents to their little girl.
for adoption. She asked around and was given phone numbers for places that could Trinity’s baby is due on August 17th, 2010. Thankfully, her pregnancy has
possibly help her with her decision, but her boyfriend had her phone cut off so she been healthy and fairly uneventful. She wants to be the kind of mother that is always
was unable to call for assistance. At a loss as to what do now, she found a way to there for her little girl. She knew she could not have an abortion because her baby
call her mother, who, the very next morning, knocked on her door and told her to is an innocent life. Although she felt pressure initially to have an abortion, she believes
get dressed and come with her. that would have been a sin. Fortunately, she had the freedom to choose life for her lit-
She took Trinity to see Carla Wright at A Choice 2 M8k Crisis Pregnancy Care tle girl, and she is so thankful she found the support to help her through that decision.
Center. Carla was a tremendous support for her as she helped Trinity process her Trinity hopes that other young women in her situation will be encouraged
decision. She helped Trinity set up an appointment to have a free ultrasound, where and know that they are free to choose life. The decision is their own to make. Her
she discovered that she was two months pregnant. choice required her to be strong and brave, but people were there to help her. She
When Trinity returned home to her boyfriend, things went from bad to needed support and found it at A Choice 2 M8k. She wants women to know that help
worse in their relationship. He told her he didn’t want anything to do with her and is available if they will just reach out to receive it. God will help them through the diffi-
she had to move out. In the middle of the night, she gathered her things and went culty of the decision and the season they are in. Just as Trinity chose life, others can, too.
to stay with a friend for two days. During that time, her boyfriend realized he was

Erika Chapman lives in Florence with her amazing husband and three busy little boys. She gets excited about discovering a great read, NewSpring Church
and sharing her most recent adventures at www.erikaivory.wordpress.com.
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Helping Others Find
by Ouida K. Page, RN, LPC
I first met Karen Caulder
at a workshop about Traumatic Head Injury for Veterans of Iraq
and Afghanistan. A bright, energetic and positive individual with a great
sense of humor, she grew up in Rock Hill, South Carolina. Karen was
adopted by a couple when she was very young, only several weeks old.
Her younger years were filled with chaos and crisis, so she readily
understood about being hurt. Nevertheless, out of those painful
experiences has come a deep passion for helping others go through
their own journey of grief and loss.
At seventeen, Karen had to have emergency surgery and ended
up being placed in a room with a woman who was dying. Because it was
such a bad experience for Karen, she gave back the nursing scholarship
that she had and decided on a different career path. She attended and
graduated from Winthrop College, where she decided to study social
work and focus on helping people in emotional pain. (The course was
not called Grief and Loss at the time.)
While she was at Winthrop, Karen became very involved in
campus ministries. Following graduation, she attended Lutheran
Southern Theological Seminary in Columbia. She attended Seminary
for one year and then did her Clinical Pastoral Education Unit for
three and a half months at the State Hospital as a Chaplain. Based
on her experience at the State Hospital, she was offered a position
as a social worker, which she accepted. She was in this position
approximately six years.
Karen later became certified in Thanatology, the study of
death, dying and bereavement. While working for hospice, she began
working in bereavement with families, patients and staff. She also
embarked on community education, which involved speaking, as well
as group work with families and staff. She also did an open-community
group that was advertised in the newspaper for people that had a loss.
Some of her groups consisted only of hospice families; others were in
churches. Many of these were in Columbia, South Carolina.
Karen was married for twenty-three years and did counseling
in various settings, including juvenile justice, hospice, nursing homes
and the Department of Mental Retardation. Her husband moved
around all over the state with his job.
Ouida K. Page is a Master’s Prepared Licensed Professional and National Board Certified Counselor. She has a Bachelor’s Degree in Nursing and is a
member of Sigma Theta Tau (International Honor Society of Nursing). She has been in private practice in the Hartsville and Florence areas for over 15
years, specializing in families and issues relating to children, adolescents and women of all ages. She is married and has one son who has graduated from
Wofford College. To contact Ouida, you may call 843-398-0915. You may also contact her by e-mailing editor@shemagazine.com with “Ouida” as the
from Grief
After Karen and her husband separated, she was leading a
grief group of twelve ladies. They found that the first year with the
holiday season was the hardest, and she prayed and ask God what she
could do to help the ladies – and herself – get through the holidays.
She looked for books and cards, but everything was trite and patron-
izing. During this period of time, the inspiration came from God for
the Calendar and the Datebook and Journal that she has created.
The calendar is called “Beyond Loss Into Hope,” as is the date-
book and journal. They are developed through Karing Creations, LLC.
Burry Bookstore in Hartsville and Pee Dee Christian Book & Supply
in Florence are planning to carry the 2011 calendars.
The calendar is beautifully done with gorgeous pictures and
quotes of comfort and support on each page. However, it is not just
a calendar; it’s a tool to help you as you go on your grief journey
(death, divorce, pet loss, separation or war, etc). From the time your
loss occurs and you start your journey, the words of comfort and hope
will be there for you to hold onto daily. You can mark off days or make
notes of things that happen, things you remember – or things you want
to forget. The weeks and months prior to the anniversary of the loss
provide you an opportunity to write down events and memories. While
these may be painful, the words of comfort and hope are also there to
help you begin your road to recovery. This calendar allows you to express
thoughts and feelings of your grief (which only you understand) without
“judgments” and “rules.” Yet, those same thoughts and feelings also pro-
vide comfort and hope as you journey through your pain to recovery.
The uniquely designed datebook and journal can be cus-
tomized for any twelve-month period, so it’s practical any time of the
year. Each month features roomy calendar pages in a two-page-per-
week format, as well as four lined pages each week for writing notes
and thoughts. The Datebook/Journal is a considerate and effective
tool for working through the grief process.
Karen is available for speaking engagements and can be reached
at 843-319-2126. Or you can e-mail her: karingcreations@hotmail.com.
For more information, please visit her website, www.karingcreations.net.
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Lead
Betty Sigmon
It was early 1960. The Vietnam conflict was just getting
started. Men had not been drafted yet, and the women’s movement was still just an
idea. Women were trying to become more self-sufficient and Madeleine (Betty) Byrd
was not going to stand by unnoticed. She was ready to make her mark in the world.
Raised in Darlington County, South Carolina, on an agricultural farm, Betty
graduated from St. John’s High School in 1957. Knowing
that typically women of that era married, raised a fami-
ly and multi-tasked at home, Betty wanted to make a dif-
ference in a special way. So, she joined the United States
Air Force.
“Sometimes you just
She chose the Air Force because of the uni-
form. “Back then, the uniform was everything!” she said.
Stationed at Lackland Air Force Base,Texas, twenty-one- have to use those
year-old Betty went through women’s basic training.
Immediately following her graduation, she was assigned
to the Finance/Accounting Division. This was not, how-
ever, what Airman First Class Byrd had in mind by serving
God-given feminine
her country.
During a routine inspection when the Director
of WAF was visiting the base, the Director asked Betty
charms to get
if she was happy with her orders to work in the
Finance/Accounting Division. Betty replied, “Ma’am, I’d
really rather stay right here.” She admitted having been
what you want.”
sheltered all her life on the family’s farm and said,“It was
comforting [on the base]; we were protected. Then, the
Director looked at my Commander,Aggie, and said,‘Aggie, get these orders changed.
We need people here like Airman Byrd.’”
So, Betty’s orders were changed and she set upon a new adventure and
career. She became the only woman studying in the tactical school. This was a venue
where only men participated, so Betty knew early on that she needed to imitate the
men if she was going to survive and succeed. She was afraid her Southern drawl
would be embarrassing when she stood in front of a class to teach, so she practiced
lowering her voice range so that giving commands to her “flights” would garner more
respect. (Note: the term “flight” means a recruit.)
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Initially, her commanders didn’t want Betty to drill an all-women flight, so
they allowed her to drill an all-male flight at the time. Competition was fierce among
the instructors; contests were the norm. Betty was not one to be undermined.
“When you get up in front of forty men, you have to overcome the ‘I’m a
woman and you’re a man’ thinking. So, I picked the biggest man, got up in his face and
told him what was happening. ‘My husband and I have
been married for six months, and if I win this contest,
I’ll get to go and see him. The Air Force will pay me
to go see him, and I want each of you to help me get
to go see him.’”
Lesson learned: Sometimes you just have to use
those God-given feminine charms to get what you
want. Betty was awarded Instructor of the Year
in 1962.
Betty has scrapbooks filled with photos from her
Air Force days. In fact, at one time, Airman Magazine
was on base and took several photos of all the ladies
in their uniforms. As a cute, freckled, wholesome-
looking redhead, Betty was chosen to be on several
posters and brochures promoting and recruiting for
the Air Force. When she was a Captain, she modeled
a newly-designed officer’s uniform (called “cords”)
that eventually was given the honor of the preferred
white summer uniform.
Betty met her husband, Edward (Ski), who was
also in the Air Force. While she was stationed in Texas, he was across the sea in Japan.
“Usually they try to keep husbands and wives together,” she said. “But I couldn’t go
there because of the facilities. So I stayed back in the training squadron until he fin-
ished his tour.” Eventually she was able to visit him and they spent some time togeth-
er in Japan.
Betty never felt she needed the government to liberate her. “I was always
liberated. I was a Christian and had a constitution. That’s all I needed.”
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ried after her beloved Ski passed on. Today, she is happily married to Ronnie
Sigmon. They live on her family’s homestead where she enjoys organic farming,
raising chickens and taking care of stray animals that Ronnie seems to attract.
Living the simple life is paramount to her, as are her Christian values.
Each month, she cooks fresh vegetables and prepares a meal for the senior
citizens at her church. Seniors are precious to her, as well as her family. Her

“Betty never felt she needed the government

to liberate her. “I was always liberated.
I was a Christian and had a constitution.
That’s all I needed.”
sister lives in their mother’s former farmhouse just down the road. Her father,
an early environmentalist, was instrumental in keeping the land pristine by exca-
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Defend Myself
In the past few months, I spoke
with several friends who have taken
the CWP (Concealed Weapons
Permit) class. My husband commented that I
should take it because I drive back and forth to
Darlington at night for choir practice and special serv-
ices and, consequently, need some sort of protection
in case I had car trouble.
I already owned a gun but hadn’t fired it in
years and had forgotten everything I knew. In talking
with my son, Matt Lewis, I found out he had taken a
class from Mr. Dana Epting, owner of Defender
Firearms Training. He is also Instructor of Basic Self-
defense and Firearms Training. Matt said if we could
get several people together, Dana would come to my
house to teach the class.
We had seven family members attend the
class on two separate nights for about three hours
each. One night was spent fingerprinting, taking our
pictures, filling out paperwork and going over the rules
and regulations of carrying a handgun. The second
night, we reviewed what we were taught and took the
Ann Dowling and her husband, Philip, live in Florence. Their blended family includes five children and three grandchildren, all of whom live in Florence. Ann works at First Reliance Bank
in the Loan Operations Department, and she is also the Organist at her church, King Avenue and Darlington Presbyterian Church. In addition, Ann owns a small picture framing business
that she operates out of her home. She enjoys working in the yard and planting flowers. Her favorite pastime, however, is painting in oils and watercolor.
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Ann Dowling
written test. We then met at the gun range on a sep- close range to the target. After firing about fifteen
arate evening for target practice and to take the rounds, we moved further away from the target and
shooting test. used a slightly larger gun.
In order to obtain a CWP, one must pass a
written test (currently 70 is a passing grade) and get a
“I know it’s a great certain percentage of hits on the body of the target.
responsibility to carry Upon completion, the paperwork is sent off and the
permit is mailed within approximately 90 days.
a gun and use it I really have no desire to shoot a gun, but I
will definitely feel safer now that I can legally carry
properly, and I one. If I were not driving at night by myself, I probably
appreciate the would have never considered getting the CWP. At
Freedom we have
least now, though, I have a means of protection in case
I need it.
to do so.” I know it’s a great responsibility to carry a
gun and use it properly, and I appreciate the freedom
we have to do so. Carrying a firearm is not for every-
It was a little scary at first just holding the body, but I think we should respect and allow those
gun. However, after I learned the proper way to load who do wish to carry one to do so.
and unload the gun and the proper way to hold it For class information, contact Mr. Dana Epting
when firing, I was more at ease. For the ladies, we at 229-9902.
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by Cheri Jordan
When Nancy Kennebeck
was a little girl, her sister had an
Asian doll. Nancy loved that doll and dreamed
about going to China one day and having a little Asian
girl of her own. Little did she know at the time that
this dream would one day become a reality.
As most couples do, Peter and Nancy
Kennebeck of Florence, were married and began build-
ing their family. Peter came into the marriage with a
son, Vincent, and Nancy was quickly introduced to
motherhood. Not long after, the Kennebeck couple
had their first daughter, Kathleen. A few years later,
Nancy was expecting again. This pregnancy was much
more difficult, though, and the doctors discouraged
Peter and Nancy from having any more children after
the birth of their second daughter, Genevieve.
Greatly discouraged, the Kennebecks com-
mitted the matter to prayer and waited to hear from
God. They never felt a peace in their hearts about say-
ing no to more biological children, and God richly
blessed them a few years later with a third daughter,
Margaret Ann. However, this pregnancy did prove to
be more dangerous. For Nancy’s safety, the
Kennebeck’s decided it would be best that she have
surgery to prevent future pregnancies.
Though some people would feel that their cup
was running over already with four children, Nancy
mourned the finality of it. She loved being a mother and
didn’t have a peace that their family was complete.
Nancy did, however, have tremendous hope in the
process of adoption. That hope had begun to build
in her heart years earlier when their first daughter
was still a baby.
Their oldest son, Vincent, had come to live
with the Kennebecks at ten-years-old. Nancy worried
that she wouldn’t be able to love Vincent properly. She
had recently given birth to her first biological child and
had the instant bond that only mothers can know and
understand. Nancy prayed that she would be able to
love Vincent with that same intensity. God led Nancy
to I Corinthians 13:4-8,“Love is patient, love is kind. It
does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is
not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered,
it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight
The Kennebeck Family
Pictured: Sam, Kathleen, Margaret Ann, Rosalie, Peter, Nancy, and Genevieve
in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects,
always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”
In studying this Scripture, Nancy realized that
none of the attributes that God gave to love are about
feelings. They were simply about obeying and doing.
Nancy began to love Vincent in accordance with this
Scripture and the feelings and emotions fell into place.
Nancy says,“That’s when I realized that it doesn’t mat-
ter how you get a child; it’s how you love them.” It was
this process that helped her realize that adoption was
something she would be open to if God led their family
in that direction.
In May 2004, God did indeed lead their family
to adopt. They brought home a beautiful little African-
American boy, whom they named Sam. The Kennebecks
adopted through a private attorney, and they were able
to have Sam with them from the moment he was born.
They are the only family he has ever known, and he is a
perfect match for their family. Sam just recently cele-
brated his sixth birthday, and he is one of the happiest,
most bubbly little boys I have ever met.
For a time, Nancy was convinced that their
family was now complete. They were a family of seven,
happy, healthy and enjoying one another to the fullest.
However, God had more in store for them. One night
in August of 2007, God woke Nancy during the middle
of the night. She was terribly burdened for a little
Asian child, but she didn’t understand this burdening.
She began to pray intensely for this child, and her eyes
opened to international adoption. Nancy couldn’t
sleep that night and continued to pray. Afraid that her
husband would think she was crazy, she kept these
thoughts to herself and asked God to confirm this to
her if it was something they were supposed to do.
And confirm it; He did! On three separate occasions,
in fact.
Nancy and Peter talked about it with one
another and agreed in faith that God was leading them
to adopt a child in China. They began the long
process of paperwork, home studies, background
checks, etc. The worst part of it all, though, is the
process of waiting.
Being an adoptive mother myself, I can tell
you that it is an emotionally draining time. You feel this
maternal instinct towards a child that you have no
rights to. You can’t see them, you can’t touch them and
you can’t protect them. You feel very helpless to do
anything but love them from where you are and pray
for them with all your heart.
These are the feelings that Peter and Nancy
know all too well and that they had to live with. Then,
in October 2008, Nancy received an e-mail with refer-
ral lists. They had received these lists many times
before with pictures of children that were waiting to
be adopted, but this time was different. A little girl’s
face appeared on the screen and it took Nancy’s
breath away. She knew in an instant that she was star-
ing into the face of her little girl.
Nancy’s daughter, Margaret Ann, walked
through the room and saw the picture and exclaimed,
“Mom, that’s her! That’s our Rosalie, isn’t it?”
(continued.)
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family. When Peter and Nancy first discovered this precious child, she was
already four-years-old. They locked in her profile and then, once again,
began the process of waiting.
The Kennebecks waited for about six months for their approval. Once
they received that initial approval, they had to wait again for travel
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May, and I imagine the best present of all is knowing that she’s home to stay.
The Kennebecks faced many hurdles throughout this adoption process,
but God gave them grace throughout. Their family now stands at eight. Vincent
serves in the military and is stationed in Oahu, Hawaii. Living at home is Kathleen
(15), Genevieve (13) and Margaret Ann (11), Sam (6) and Rosalie (6).
Is their family now complete? The Kennebecks can’t say for sure if God
has more children in store for them or not. They can tell you, however, that they
are content and happy and blessed beyond measure that they are all now free to
be . . . family.

Cheri Jordan is a Florence resident and has been married to her husband, Robert, for eleven
years. She is a stay-at-home mom to four children, Abbi, Luke, Savannah and Matthew.
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“ Be who you are. Give yourself the

okay to break the mold and exercise
your God-given freedom. God, in
grace, has purchased you from bondage.

”
Christ has literally set you free.
~ Charles R. Swindoll

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She Magazine • July 2010 • 105

Congratulations to these 2010 High School Graduates:

Kimberly Simon Amanda Grubb Melanie Payne

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Jennifer McKay ents’ Bingo game in Dillon in the

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and Daughter, Hannah-Marie (3)
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Because he’s the best
father my children
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for!

Favorite
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Grease

My Favorite Restaurant: The

My Escape: Going Cheesecake Factory
to the beach with
my husband and chil- Something You’ll Always Find In My
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worry about all the things back
home that are waiting on me to be done.
My Inspiration: My grandmother, Betty
Grimsley – She had eight children, but she always
Childhood Ambition: To become a school teacher made every one of them feel loved and special.
like my mother She never complained about what all she had to
do; she just did it. I wish I had the energy that
she always seemed to have. I really appreciate all
Proudest Moments: When my stepfather adopted that she did after having children, knowing now
me; I finally felt like I was part of a family because I how much work they really are! She’s now an
gained a sister and two brothers. I know my life would- Angel in Heaven, and I’m sure she’s one of
n’t have turned out the way it did if he hadn’t been God’s hardest workers.
there for me.
The One Thing I Know For
Biggest Challenge: Balancing work and small chil- Sure: God has blessed me
dren who always seem to want their mom with so much in my life,
at home – Thankfully, we have great and I am eternally
staff at our office that helps me grateful.
spend more time with my chil-
dren. I’m thankful that I am Free to Be . . .
a working mother that gets to enjoy some
My Music: Right now, I’m time away at work, yet still be able to spend
obsessed with Glee. I’ve a lot of time with my children, as well. Most
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She Magazine • July 2010 • 109

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This month, She salutes our local

men and women who are serving in
the Armed Forces.
Our thanks to everyone who sent
in pictures.Though we were unable
to recognize every soldier, all are
very much appreciated.

pictured left to right

1SG JAMES HARRINGTON
US ARMY, from Ft. Bragg, NC
SGT JOHN GRAHAM
from Florence, SC,
SPC RAYMOND HASELDON,
from Johnsonville, SC,
SPC TRAVIS WALKER
from Florence, SC,
ARMY NATIONAL GUARD

SSG. JAMES N. RA AARON G. CHRISTOPHER

JOHNSON HELTON ATKINSON
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WITH OPERATION Bennettsville, SC
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from
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from Florence, SC Florence, SC
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As the country celebrates its freedom
this month, one little girl celebrates her own
personal freedom – freedom of speech.
Maddy Boyle hasn’t always enjoyed this freedom that
most of us take for granted because she didn’t always
have a voice to exercise.
What began as an assumed speech delay, Maddy
was diagnosed with Verbal Apraxia at four-years-old. For
the first three years of her life, her voice was trapped
by this neurological disorder where her brain neglect-
ed to send the proper signals to the muscles involved in
speech. She began speech therapy at two-and-a-half-
years-old, but she was still unable to form any words at
all until she was about three-and-a-half.
Speech therapy wasn’t an instant solution to
Maddy’s Verbal Apraxia. Although she could make
sounds that she associated with different objects, like
her dog that she called “Hoo Hoo” (her name was Missy),
she was unable to form the sounds that combine to cre-
ate full words. Her mother and father prayed every day
that God would help their little girl find her voice. With
dedicated speech therapy three times a week and the
patience and prayers of her family and teachers, Maddy
retrained her brain to free her voice.
Maddy has enjoyed her freedom of speech by
exercising that freedom in any arena possible. Through
song, she has developed her voice into a beautiful
melody. She enjoys singing both around the house and
Allison Marie Chandler is a senior at Francis Marion University where she majors in English-Liberal Arts and minors in Mass Communications. She will graduate in May 2011.
She was born in Florence and graduated from West Florence High School. Along with being a full-time student at FMU, she works as a waitress at Percy & Willie’s in Florence.
at church, where her mother says, “Maddy sounds like
an angel.” Even with the speech disability, Maddy can
sing perfectly without being negatively affected by her
speech deficit. Her mother says that there is an inno-
cence and softness in Maddy’s singing that brings tears
to her eyes every time she hears her daughter sing.
Maddy has also learned to enjoy the freedom
of loud speech. While playing baseball with the
Hannah-Pamplico Youth League, she uses her voice to
yell across the field at her fellow players, “Throw me
the ball!” A voice that at one time couldn’t be heard
can now be heard all over the baseball field when
Maddy yells at the boys to include her in the game.
She also uses her loud voice while playing bas-
ketball and cheerleading. While some parents wince
when their children scream and yell, Maddy’s parents
understand what a blessing it truly is to be able to hear
their daughter over the noise of a crowd.
Maddy’s speech deficit certainly hasn’t kept
her from succeeding in school, either. She is on the A-B
Honor Roll at Hannah-Pamplico Elementary and is
loved by all of her teachers.
Now that her voice is free, Maddy uses it to
make friends no matter where she goes. She has
become quite the social butterfly. Her mother says
that Maddy never meets a stranger, is always laughing
and smiling and exudes a warmth, love and compassion
that is evident, even without her voice.
by Allison M. Chandler
Maddy continues to develop her voice with
weekly speech therapy – and with the support of her
speech therapists, her family’s love and God’s grace.
Verbal Apraxia was not a label Maddy’s parents want-
ed to put on their child at such a young age because
they feared that the label would limit her growth and
possibilities. Maddy proved everyone wrong and over-
came the disorder that was holding her back. She did
not allow the speech deficit to defeat her – Maddy
defeated it!
Maddy’s parents tell her that God made her
extra special and that they are so grateful that He gave
her to them. They don’t want Maddy to be “normal.”
They want her to be the strong, happy, incredible child
God shaped her to be.
And now that she has found her voice, Maddy
is able to enjoy a multitude of other freedoms. Best of
all, though, is the freedom to be anything her little
heart desires.
Maddy is the daughter of Kevin and Elizabeth
Boyle of Pamplico. She has one sister, Riley, and one
pampered pooch, Bruiser. This month’s “Wee She” was
submitted by Maddy’s mom. If you would like to nomi-
nate a little girl for “Wee She,” send an e-mail to edi-
tor@shemagazine.com with “Wee She” Nomination as
the subject.
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She Magazine • July 2010 • 113

A TEAM DEVOTED TO N U RT U R I N G , C O M PA S S I O N AT E C A R E

McLeod OB/GYN Dillon and Dr. Fazil Mohamed are very

pleased to welcome Dr. Jonathan Eli-Phillips to the practice.
A very skilled and caring physician, Dr. Eli-Phillips adds even
greater strength and experience to one of the region’s most
reputable and admired OB/GYN practices. “I enjoy what I do
because it allows me to have a positive impact on a woman’s
health,” he says. “The addition of Dr. Eli-Phillips is another
reflection of our high standards of patient care,” says
Dr. Mohamed. “As a team, we continue to provide
comprehensive and compassionate care personalized to your
individual needs.”

Providing a full range of obstetrics and gynecologic care

to women of all ages, both Dr. Eli-Phillips and Dr. Mohamed
are now accepting new patients.
Dr. Fazil Mohamed and Dr. Jonathan Eli-Phillips

McLeod OB/GYN Dillon. Dr. Fazil Mohamed and Dr. Jonathan Eli-Phillips. McLeod
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THE REAL
ABOUT DOGS
truth
My brother got mad at me last month and said that I never mentioned him or his
children in my columns. "All you write about is your son or your RV," he said.Wrong, I said.
I also write about my sidekick, a Westie which I adore.
Humans are so full of contradictions – no wonder our animals look at us funny. If
you have a pet, you know the look. That head cocked to the side that dogs and cats do
when they think you’re acting nuts or look like you are behaving crazy. My dog stays cool
about everything, except when she spots a cat, a squirrel or another dog larger than she.
To have a place on the highest rung of the mammal chain based on sophistication,
brain power, and dexterity, men and women tend to be somewhat idiotic in a number of
situations.They aren't as cool about everyday things the way our pets may be.
Let me explain. Have you been on the beach in summer and experienced a sud-
den downpour? People treading water in the ocean, body surfing, frolicking through the
waves and wet sunbathers basking in the sun suddenly leap from their spots, grab their tow-
els and head for shelter.“What’s the logic in that,” Mr. Spock would have probably asked on
Star Trek.
Surely it would be appropriate if there is thunder and lightning to dash toward the
safety and dry environment of indoors. But why head inside, just because your wet bathing
suit soaked from the saltwater and beach is now getting showered with pellets of rain fresh
from the sky? It just doesn’t make sense.
The same effect occurred in my backyard pool last week. Family and friends were
mindlessly floating in the cool pool, enjoying libations and idle conversation. (And, yes, if you
must know we were gossiping about friends and family who were not there, but don’t tell
anyone). Anyway, a few drizzles began and everybody bounced out a’splashing, nearly top-
pling one another underwater, and wildly scampered to rush inside to dry off. Now inquir-
ing minds want to know: is there a difference in being wet from the ground up than from
the top down? My son’s two beagles and my adorable white terrier,Vegas, remained where
they were resting poolside, enjoying the refreshment of the droplets and looking at their
two-legged "superiors" with disgusted expressions. I was too embarrassed to refute the
fact that I had also been a part of the rapid evacuation to avoid the rain.
Jumana A. Swindler, a resident of Florence, is the Director of Marketing and Public Relations for McLeod Health. Her personal favorite pastimes,
reflected in her writings, are RV'ing, movies, theater, fishing, reading and spending time with her son and family.
SINCERELY YOURS
BY JUMANA SWINDLER
The same lack of reason applies to another one of my
own habits. I don’t mind sharing.While I am highly critical of
news organizations which continuously persist in report-
ing only the negative and depraved aspects of the world
around us, I can’t shake my personal addiction to the
Lifetime Channel or back episodes of Criminal Minds.
I know it’s somewhat of a shock to you all.Although
I become unglued and incensed a the descriptive news
accounts exposing adulterous affairs involving men and
women in power, or horror stories about brutal abduc-
tions, fatal seductions, unfair deductions and illegal pro-
ductions, I will spend hours glued to the television
screen on rainy weekend afternoons watching Lifetime
movies or DVR'd episodes that feature those very same plots.The
scenes even include some very bad actors portraying those abductions, seductions deduc-
tion and productions. I can’t give you a rational response as to why I think that pastime is
enjoyable (except that maybe I don’t want to be lounging in the pool outside because I
would be getting wet in the rain).
How about delusionary dieting behavior by humans? Our pets eat when hungry
or fed and are satisfied with their figures based on their breed and their owner’s selection
of a tasty dog or cat food brand. But people make it far more complicated on themselves.
We want to eat what we want, when we want it and how luscious we make it, and expect
to maintain healthy physiques that keep us in the same size for years.
And, then there’s no way to reason with someone who wants to lose that unex-
pected additional weight with out exercising, cutting calories or carbs, or occasionally
restricting desserts because she has been convinced by a slick advertisement that one tiny
pill “can shed those 40 unsightly pounds with out any change to your eating routine.” How
does this compute? Hundreds of thousands --probably millions of dollars a year -- are spent
by many of us on diet pills, diet belts, shapely miracle girdles, miracle weight loss drinks,
lotions an even weight loss machines that shock stomach muscles to produce those reduc-
tions to our bulges.That certainly demonstrates the wisdom of mankind over the beast.
At any rate, illogical behavior occurs on the road as well. Have you ever noticed
how other motorist think they’re so clever and take out the aggressions by trying to speed
down the street? You’ll be driving safely along, staying up with the rate of traffic and remain-
ing the preferred car lengths behind the vehicle ahead.Then some smart whippersnapper
closely nosing behind your back bumper passes you in a huff and then suddenly must
screech to a halt because he’s surprised that the stoplight you were anticipating turned red.
Especially at Five Points in Florence. Boy, he proved his point, didn’t he – zooming around
you really got him down the road to his destination faster. NOT….
For all our complexities, we humans can really be simpletons, and our actions
probably serve as a source of constant entertainment for those less intellectual species
among us. No wonder my pets are always grinning at me.They know they're a lot smarter
than we are!
Happy July! Matthew 5:16
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Judy Langley and Kansas-Missouri Pilots • April 2010 She Magazine
• “This is a group of energetic and dedicated volunteers, serving their
communities through Pilot International. It was a privilege to be with
them for their convention in Springfield, Missouri.” ~ Judy Langley
B Sydney, Australia
Joy and Chloe Rodgers • March 2010 She Magazine
• “My copy of She Magazine came in handy on the long flight to Australia
to visit my daughter, Chloe, where she is studying abroad at Griffith
University in Gold Coast. We traveled to Sydney and brought along She
for some amazing sightseeing of the Sydney Opera House and the Sydney
Harbour Bridge.” ~ Joy Rodgers
C Cozumel, Mexico
Samantha Evans and Crystal Garris • April 2010 She Magazine
• “In May, we boarded the Carnival Imagination Cruise Ship to Cozumel,
Mexico. We toured the Mayan Ruins and laid out on the beach and swam.
Nikki Bethea, Connie Garris, Lisa Nolan, Brenda Henderson, Erin Grainger
and Mead Altman were also on the cruise.” ~ Crystal Garris, Marion
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Australia for seven glorious days. The first thing I packed in my suitcase was
my She Magazine. This picture was taken in front of the famous Sydney Opera
House, overlooking the Sydney Harbour.” ~ Shelley Schommer, Marion
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• “My husband and I took a romantic getaway to Asheville, NC, in April for
some much-needed R&R. We enjoyed our visit to the Albemarle Inn Bed &
Breakfast, which was beautiful. And they treated us like royalty! It was the
perfect time of the year to visit the Biltmore House to see the gardens in full
bloom (especially the Azalea Gardens). On an absolutely gorgeous day, we
meandered down the garden path to the pond and the waterfall. We love She
Magazine and wanted to share a few pictures from our trip.” ~ Sherry Mims
F Milford, Pennsylvania
Audy Brink and Shane • April 2010 She Magazine
• “I visited family in the quaint Victorian Village of Milford, Pennsylvania, where
the Pocono Mountains begin. The area is famous for the Grey Towers
National Historic Landmark, run by the National Forest Service and known as
the Birthplace of Conservation in America. Below the sign, posing with me is
Shane, the grand-dog.” ~ Audy Brink
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OUR PHILOSOPHY: “Not for profit, not for
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OUR STAFF: Angie Burr, President/CEO;
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Hudson, Teller/Operations Clerk; Randie Yarborough,
Teller; Carole King, Teller; Wanda Muldrow,
Receptionist; Jerie Barrow,Volunteer Receptionist
CREDIT UNION ORIGIN: The first credit unions,
as we know them today, were formed in Germany in
the mid-1800s. After working through a crop failure
and famine, a couple local men came up with the idea
to organize the first cooperative credit society known
as the “People’s Bank.” The goal was to provide credit
to farmers to purchase livestock, equipment and other
farming needs at reasonable rates. By 1909, the idea
eventually spread to the United States with the opening
of the first credit union named St. Mary’s Bank Credit
Union in New Hampshire. According to the NCUA,
Starla Shelton and her husband, Roger, have two daughters, Chloe and Gracie; and two dogs, Leo and Nina.
She is Vice President of Palmetto First Federal Credit Union in Florence.
by Starla Shelton
there are now about 7,950 active, federally-insured
credit unions in our country.
OUR HISTORY: Palmetto First Federal Credit
Union was established in November 1953 by a group of
railroad employees. We were originally known as the
Florence Atlantic Coastline Employees Credit Union
and serviced the folks who worked for the railroad.
Their purpose for creating the credit union was to pro-
mote saving money and provide credit at a minimum
rate of interest to other railroad employees. Through
the years, with the loyalty and support of the railroad
employees, we grew and underwent several name
changes: Florence Seaboard Coastline Employees
Credit Union and then Seaboard Trust FCU. In January
2004, our credit union converted its charter to be com-
munity-based, meaning that we can now serve anyone
in the Florence community. We also updated our name
to Palmetto First Federal Credit Union to reflect this
more-inclusive charter.
THE CREDIT UNION DIFFERENCE: On the
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look the same. We offer the same products and servic-
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ference; we are Democratically Controlled. Once you
open your Share Savings with the minimum $25
deposit, you are an owner of the credit union. As an
owner, you have the right to vote at our annual meetings
to elect your Board of Directors. The Board of
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members. Customers of banks are not owners and
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loans or higher rates on certificates.
• Volunteer Board of Directors: Our Board
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shareholders.
• Banks are insured by the Federal Deposit Insurance
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strings Independence Day
The Fourth of July is almost upon us. To commemorate Independence Day, we
shoot off fireworks, attend picnics and maybe even walk in parades.While it might not be
as dramatic, another celebration of freedom should eventually play a big role in your life —
specifically, your personal Financial Independence Day. And you can speed the arrival of this
day by making the right moves.
Here are a few ideas to consider:
• Boost your 401(k) contributions. To build the resources you’ll need to become
financially independent during your retirement years, you should take full advantage of your
401(k) or other employer-sponsored plan.Whenever your salary goes up, try to contribute
more to your 401(k). Generally, your contributions are made with pretax dollars, so the more
you put in, the lower your taxable income. And your contributions grow on a tax-deferred
basis. In 2010, you can put up to $16,500 into your 401(k), or $22,000 if you’re 50 or older.
• “Max out” on your IRA. In 2010, you can contribute up to $5,000 to your IRA, or
$6,000 if you’re 50 or older.Your traditional IRA contributions may be deductible, depending
on your income level, and your earnings can grow tax deferred. Contributions to a Roth IRA
are never deductible, but earnings can grow tax free, provided you don’t take withdrawals until
you’re 59? and you’ve held your account at least five years.
• Build an emergency fund. Try to build an emergency
fund containing six to 12 months’ worth of living expenses,
placed in a liquid account. Without such a fund, you may be
forced to dip into your long-term investments to pay for needs
such as a new furnace or a big doctor’s bill — and the more
you tap into your investments, the longer it will be until you
can attain financial freedom.
• Cut down on your debt. It’s easier
said than done, but by reducing your
debt load, you’ll have more money to
invest for the future.You might want to
start by eliminating the smallest debts
first, then moving on to whittle away at
the bigger ones.
• Don’t “over-focus” on your investment statements. Obviously, you want
to know how your investments are performing. But you may be better off not checking
on your investments every day, or even every week.When you pay extremely close atten-
tion to the movements of your investments, your emotions may lead you to make deci-
sions based on short-term events rather than long-term goals. Invest with your head, not
your heart.
• Avoid “time traps.” Many people know they need a certain amount of money at
a certain time for a specific goal, such as a down payment on a home, the first college
tuition payment or even the first year’s living expenses during retirement.Yet they get into
trouble because they set aside the money in an inappropriate investment — that is, one
whose price can fluctuate greatly. If you know when you’re going to need the money, put
it in a lower-risk investment and avoid the time trap.
Taking these steps won’t instantly enrich you. But eventually, they can lead you
down the path to your personal Financial Independence Day — and that may be reason
enough to celebrate.
Tammy Epps has been a financial advisor with Edward Jones in
Hartsville since 2008. She and her husband, David, are the proud
parents of a puppy, Daisy.
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BY FEREBE GASQUE

Stitching together
Alice In Wonderland, Jr.
contributions. I have had the opportunity to see some Her love for costuming is related to her pro-
ANGIE KETCHAM BELIEVES THAT
of the costumes, and I know that Angie has some pretty fession. Angie is a visual artist. Her preferred media are
ALL PEOPLE SHOULD USE their talents and
“fantastical” ideas of her own! painting and sculpture. After seeing “Alice, Jr.” howev-
skills in helping their communities to grow and to
When her children were little, Angie recalls er, lots of folks will want her to add costuming to the
thrive. She not only believes it, she lives it. And, she
that she told them she would make any costume for list, no doubt. Her artwork can be seen locally as well
instills it in her children, as well. Her current role in ful-
them they could think up. So, she made fish and slugs as in other venues. Currently, she has displays at the
filling this wish is through her volunteer involvement
and flowers and anything else they could imagine. I’m Florence Little Theater and at the Art Trail Gallery (the
with the upcoming production of “Alice in Wonderland,Jr.”
not sure who had more fun, the kids or mom. Angie old Kimbrell’s building) in Florence.
at the Florence Little Theater. As head costumer for
was born in North Carolina but grew up in Florence. As a strong advocate for arts programs for
the play, she is able to use her wonderfully creative
She moved back to North Carolina in the eighties while young people,Angie believes passionately (and correct-
mind to invent and reinvent more than one hundred
she was in high school and then attended the ly) that participation promotes self-confidence, disci-
sixty costumes. However, Angie is quick to point out
University of North Carolina at Charlotte. After grad- pline, focus, teamwork, and invaluable life experiences.
that she could never have done this job so well without
uation, she returned to Florence and reconnected with It has been proven that children who are actively
the help of some other incredible volunteers. Neta
Anthony Ketcham, who had been her friend while she involved in the arts perform better academically, as
Haughn, Rachell Hyman, Roberta Olmstead, Terri
was living in Florence previously. Anthony grew up in well. Participation does not have to be on center stage
Handley, and Michelle Zarrella have been invaluable and
an artistic home, as well. His dad was Dr. Adrian for all of these positive results to take place. Working
constant in their assistance. She also would like folks
Ketcham, who was a long-time, well-loved music pro- both onstage and backstage provide wonderful oppor-
to know that costuming is more than sewing… cutting,
fessor at Francis Marion College (now University). His tunities for both children and adults. She encourages
gluing, pasting, stapling, and imagination are vital to the
mom, Jane Ketcham, still lives in Florence and continues others in the community to offer their time and talents
process, too.
to be a strong supporter of the arts. for future FLT productions – whether it be helping
“Alice in Wonderland, Jr.” is a one-hour, fast-
Angie and Anthony have three girls. Laura will backstage, working with costumes, working in the box
paced production. There are four adults in the cast and
be attending Winthrop University in the fall. She, like office, or appearing on stage.
a gazillion children! Several characters in the play are
her mom, is a visual artist. Riley has been accepted into “Alice in Wonderland, Jr.” will be presented
portrayed by multiple actors, making the show even
the Governor’s School for Arts and Humanities in July 16, 17, 18, 23, 24, and 25. Reservations and ticket
more magical than the original “Alice.” Angie is
Greenville as a drama student. Sophia will be beginning information can be obtained by calling the Florence
thrilled to have the opportunity to collaborate with
the International Baccalaureate program at Williams Little Theater at 843.662.7691.
such a talented, generous group of people. Florence is
Middle School in August. They have all been active in The Art Trail Gallery is located in the old
so fortunate to have a community theater with amaz-
theater locally. Angie started her participation by Kimbrell’s building at 135 South Dargan Street
ing talent and local support. There are only four paid
assisting in drama clubs at the schools were her chil- (843.673.0729) and is open Monday through Friday
staff members at the Florence Little Theater, everything
dren have attended. Laura, Riley, and Sophia have par- from 1 – 4 PM.
else is completely volunteer. Angie is excited to be
ticipated actively both onstage and backstage in many Florence is a great community. Angie encourages
working with new-to-Florence director Robinson
productions. Anthony participates by being an advocate you to do your part to make it better by volunteering.
Royce. She says he has a “fun, fantastical vision.” She
and patron of the arts. He is proud of his girls… all
wants to help him express those ideas through her
four of them.

Ferebe Gasque is the Music Therapist at McLeod Hospice House, a music teacher, and an advocate for the arts. She loves meeting new friends and telling their stories to the readers of She Magazine.
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IN his OWN WORDS

Eric S. Weinstein, MD
ON FREEDOM
parents of an infant to having the hospice-talk with adults caring for their parent, from
a heart attack to stroke. It’s not my personality to be a physician specializing in
one organ system or primary care in an office setting.
The first time I was faced with caring for a wounded soldier, I was attending to
those that we received from the phase just after the end of the first Gulf War,
Desert Storm, at Andrews Air Force Base. Caring for those soldiers was an honor.
From having done medical school in Newark and Camden, New Jersey, and doing
my residency in Harlem, New York, the gunshot wounds were not new to me. The
blast injuries were; however, and they required some additional learning. I was also
taught about chemical, nuclear and biological injuries early in our United States Air
Force (USAF) Medical Officer’s training.
The toughest part about my service in the military was receiving salutes from
my colleagues in the hospital (nurses, techs, physician’s assistants and other staff)
when I saw them outside the hospital and we were in uniform. The most reward-
ing part was regardless of whom I treated – a General or his/her family or a newly-
enlisted Corporal or his/her family – the Emergency Department Staff and I were
treated with respect.
People might assume that physicians in the military and civilian physicians are the
same. That’s a very misunderstood concept. Physicians in the military recognize
that they are Military Officers first and physicians second. They realize that they will
not earn anything like their colleagues in the civilian world, and their families will live
the military lifestyle. While in the military, I served as an Emergency Physician, which
is, of course, different than that of a Pilot or other flight-related USAF job.
Nevertheless, all of us had the same duty as a United States Air Force Captain.
My career in the USAF has definitely influenced my practice of medicine. It lead
directly into my work in Disaster Medicine and on the NDMS (National Disaster
Medical System) SC-1 DMAT (Disaster Medical Assistance Team), as well as with the
American College of Emergency Physicians Section of Disaster Medicine and
Disaster Preparedness and Response Committee writing textbooks and working
with the CDC (Center for Disease Control).
My thoughts about freedom and country have certainly changed due to my
military experiences, especially now with all the talking heads of TV, entertaining
their audience with their interpretation of the facts about the country. From per-
sonal experience, I know how blessed we all are to live in this country.
With that being said, my freedom covers many diverse areas. It is as uncompli-
I was young when I first recognized the desire to serve my country.
cated as being able to drive my car from South Carolina to Maine, without border cross-
In junior high school, I read the Federalist Papers detailing the reasons behind the
ings; to the more-complicated area of being free to have self-expression. I can have a pub-
Constitution. From there, I was captivated.
lic conversation about our government, society and religion – with anyone and at any time
The desire to serve my country and my desire to become a physician came
– without fear of arrest or censure. And then there’s my freedom to vote for candidates,
together when I realized that for me to best serve my country, I could do so as a physi-
taxes and questions on a ballot. Reflect for a moment on the courage, the blood and the
cian. I applied to the Military Medical School – The Uniformed Services University of the
sacrifice of men and women in generations past who gave so much so that we all have the
Health Sciences in Bethesda, Maryland – but I didn’t get accepted. When the opportunity
freedom to vote.
to enter an Emergency Medicine Residency Program as a United States Air Force-
In these United States of America, my freedom is something I do not take for
Sponsored Resident was offered, it was the best of both worlds.
granted.
I do feel that there is a specific purpose for my life because, frankly, I don’t think
that I could do anything else. Emergency Medicine suits my “A-type” personality. With
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“From personal experience, I know how

blessed we all are to live in this country.”
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Free!
I’ve Got
To Be
by Sharon Bixler
“I’ve got to be free. Gotta be, gotta be free . . .”
(“Got To Be Free” performed by Diana Ross.) The real question is: “What does
it mean – to you – to be free?”
As I sit back and watch my canine “children” in our fenced-in backyard, I
was almost shocked at the realization of what “being free” is – or is not – depend-
ing on the individual. I think that Daisy, our senior (twelve-years-old) “designer
dog” or “mutt,” after many, many escapes in years past, has given up the belief that
she can be free. She no longer even tries to dig out or bolt through the open gate.
What changed? Since Daisy first stepped foot in our home, she has always been
the alpha dog, even though her “adopted” brother is nearly twice her size. She has
never lost her moxy attitude, but something has definitely changed. I don’t know
exactly what; I think she’s just become comfortable.
And, isn’t that exactly the way we are, sometimes? We have our own
chain link fences – our beliefs that we hold or that hold us. One of the strongest
beliefs that some of us embrace is the “I can’t!” Oh, how the devil wants us to
cling tenaciously to that one! If I believe I can’t do something – wow! – how com-
fortable I can grow with that excuse. I remember so vividly one of my beliefs; there
was no way I would ever or could ever speak in front of people. I was just far too
shy. I clung to that and lived most comfortably there for years, through high school,
college and well into my nursing career. At some time, I changed. But, what is it
that actually changed? At the time, I really didn’t know, but I applied for and accept-
ed a teaching position in a new nursing program. “Aah!” I asked myself, “Did you
not think you were going to have to speak in front of people if you’re going to be
a teacher?” I now recognize it was God who freed me from the comfort of my
mental chain link fence.
Looking back to the yard, J.D., our Pit Bull/Lab Mix, is on his daily inspec-
tion rounds of the fence’s border. Why? Because the fence is his security. The
opposite of Daisy, it would never occur to him to want out on his own again. He
appeared in our yard about eight years ago when he was around eighteen-months-
old. Poor J.D. had been beaten, battered, abused and starved. His physical injuries
basically healed with only some minor limitations, but the emotional scars linger
on. Inside the fence is J.D.’s secure place – the place where he receives food, shel-
ter, companionship and love. I believe he has a very graphic memory of how life
was for him beyond that fence, and those memories only foster many strongholds
of fear – fear of change, strange noises, plastic bags, strangers and the list goes on
and on. Is J.D. free? In many ways, yes. In other ways, however, a resounding no!
Sharon Bixler is blessed to be the wife of Hal, mother of Holly (Stanley) and grandmother of Ian. She is a Member of Emmanuel Baptist Church in Hartsville.
He’s free from physical abuse, pain, verbal abuse and starvation, but he will never
be totally free from his emotional strongholds.
Although I, too, am relatively free in my environment, I harbor many
strongholds – pride, vanity, selfishness and lack of self-control (just to name a few).
These are not constant companions, but they do raise their ugly heads periodical-
ly just to remind me that I still have more to work on. At times, I think I have my
vanity issues well behind me when suddenly a situation will arise (a special event,
seeing an old friend who obviously looks great or truly looking at myself in the mir-
ror). And, zap! The Lord shows me I still have more work to do! Now, I’m a fair-
ly non-selfish person (Oops! A little pride there. Sorry!); but, truly, I have asked
God to reveal these areas to me. The funny thing is – He does! He has peeled
away many layers of selfishness. The thing is, in the past, I never considered a lot
of those layers as selfish. Nevertheless, those are my strongholds, and they can be
as mentally confining as any physical fence.
The yard beckons my attention again for the only truly “free spirit” we
have – Abbee. She, too, is a designer dog rescued from along a busy highway. I
don’t believe she was ever abused, only lost and starving. She is the sweetest, gen-
tlest and most devoted dog. She’s happy in the house or the yard. And if you open
the gate, the only place she runs to is the car.
Although Abbee may look and act free to a stranger, she has an invisible
fence, as well. She will never be totally physically free because without her med-
ication twice a day, she would have a fatal seizure. Does she like her medication?
No! Does she take it easily? Not always.
Abbee reminds me so much of my relationship with Jesus that I almost
have to laugh. I love nothing more than being at His feet learning from Him. She,
too, loves to be right at my feet looking up at me with those big, warm, brown eyes.
She adores her family.
As I continue my walk with the Lord, I sometimes find a situation I
thought I had dealt with and it pops back up again – especially if it is unforgiveness.
I find myself on my knees before the Lord asking for my forgiveness – and that I
might truly forgive the other person. Unforgiveness is such a bitter pill. And the
sad thing is the only one it poisons is you. It has absolutely no affect on the one
you haven’t forgiven.
Like when Abbee sometimes spits her pills out and has to be forced to
take them, the Lord makes us take a really hard look at ourselves so that we –
through Him – can ask forgiveness, break a stronghold or just trust and believe
Him. These may be our bitter pills to swallow; however, the difference is we have
a choice. God never forces us; He only offers us grace.
So, back to the question, “Are you free? Or do you have strongholds or
unforgiveness that hinders your freedom, as well?”
As for me, I can only be free in Christ. As Jesus said “I am the way, the
truth, and the life” (John 14:6) and “You shall know the truth, and the truth shall
make you free” (John 8:32).
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Do you think men are freer

to be whatever they wish
to be than women?
Or do you think the playing
field is finally even?

1 Jeff Matthews - Lake City

“I think the playing field is finally even because women are in very high-profile jobs
today. For instance, in every job interview I’ve had, women were a very significant
influence, ranging from Human Resources to Financial Officers to CEO. In today’s
society, I feel that women can do anything a man can do. They can even be President
of the United States!”

2 John Drinkard - Hartsville

“The gap is much smaller but still not even.”

3 Chad Yates - Florence

“For the most part, I think it’s fairly possible for a woman to achieve anything that a man can.
However, in most cases, I do think a woman may have to be more determined then a man due
to hurdles and old ways of thinking that are still very much present in the South. I’m a firm
believer in determination and – no matter if you’re female or male – if you want something badly
enough, you can achieve it. So, is the playing field equal? I would say it’s close but still weighted
towards men. In the next ten years, though, there will be very little difference in gender when
it comes to equality.”

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“I do not believe that the ‘playing field’ is now – nor will it ever be – truly equal. Men and
women are just different. We all have our weaknesses, and we have different strengths. It’s
when we team up and rely on each others’ strengths that we become truly strong. In addition,
some jobs fit certain people better than others. I don’t think it really has much to do with the
sex of the person as much as the way a person is wired. I’ve always thought that any person –
male or female – could do anything that they wanted to do.”
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Ruffles
&Tatting
S Sometimes, I wonder how I got here – never a
dull moment, weary and forgetful. I used to have a mind
like an elephant, remembering everything and more. It
frightens me how even simple things like people’s
names and directions seem to drift away into thin air.
How embarrassing and awkward as I stumble into mid-
dle age and find that it’s not occurring gracefully.
I remember when I was in my twenties and I
imagined myself in my older years dressed in ruffles, sit-
ting by the fire, tatting, with grandchildren littering the
floor beneath me. I do have the grandchildren, but I’m
definitely not tatting by a fire. Instead, I’m busy sweep-
ing crumbs from under the table, bathing them, polish-
ing toenails or cleaning out ears and stuff like that. I
spend a great deal of time lifting them down from
somewhere they shouldn’t have climbed, reinforcing
manners and lecturing on how to be a good brother or
sister to one another. This is all done to the back-
ground noise of cries, whines – and crashes!
After gently placing the little one safely back to
the floor, I step into something sticky. I grab a paper
towel and begin to wet it to clean the sticky glob on the
floor. I stop to put “passy” back in the mouth of my
infant grandson to soothe his cries. Upon cleaning the
mess on the floor, I don’t see the drawer recently left
open above me and clunk my head as I rise. I rub the
Beth Grant is an Artist, Interior Decorator and Writer – and Grandmother. She and her husband, Don, live on their family farm in Lamar, South Carolina. They own and operate Mantissa Row in Hartsville.
spot that hurts and realize I must have exclaimed some-
thing inappropriate because I now find myself pum-
meled with questions from my six-year-old grandson
about what just happened. I try the simple answer rou-
tine and, once again, he’s not buying it. He wants the
play-by-play version (like the ones my father has spent
his whole life trying to stop me from telling!).
Whew! I have raised my children already, and
now I’m trying to run a business, too! Not to mention
being a wife, fulfilling social obligations, helping with
community projects and serving on boards – and on
and on. My nerves can’t tolerate this kind of chaos like
they used to. I know why people are young when
they’re parents now. Yes, it’s true. I have moments like
this where I feel overwhelmed and exhausted. Then,
one of my grandchildren enters with a precious story
or an adorable look and I’m ready to go again!
Allow me to turn the page to my precious
family life and share some of the most wonderful
moments I have known. After a recent surgery, my six-
year-old grandson, David (recuperating at home), said,
“BeeGee, this surgery was not so bad because it made
me get to spend time with the people I love the most.”
Every afternoon as Don and I arrive on the
farm after work, we turn the key and walk into the
house and our two-year-old granddaughter, Grant, flies
by Beth Grant
to the door and jumps into our arms while calling our
names. She gives hugs and kisses and tells us how happy
she is we’re home. I lean over to kiss my infant grand-
son, Oliver’s head, and he smiles and tries to talk to me.
At that moment, his dimples (like mine) appear and I
smell his precious little smell. I lift him from his little
seat, and he nestles up against me and settles in. I
believe he’s happy we’re home, too.
Then, I look over at my beautiful but tired
daughter, Lauren, and I’m reminded of how a mother
feels by this time of the day. I know hours feel like days
to her right now, but I also know all too well that these
moments pass so quickly, and she will yearn to get them
back someday. Just like I did. I watch her in awe as she
mothers these blessed babes and tucks them in at night
and listens to their prayers. Just moments ago, the
older ones fought over who would sit next to me while
I read their bedtime stories, so I sat right in the middle
(like I always do). They beg for another story and,
sometimes, Mommy says yes. Tonight, though, she tells
them, “No, it’s too late. Maybe two tomorrow.” She
then kisses each forehead and tells them, “God bless
this child” and turns out the light.
Okay, so maybe I’m not in ruffles and tatting,
but I am free to choose. And there’s no other place I’d
rather be!
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During the summer months, childhood injuries increase drasti- cart can present. Children should be supervised when riding a golf cart,
cally.According to Safe Kids Florence, led by McLeod Health, during the and should remain seated when the cart is in motion with hands, feet,
summer: and other body parts inside the vehicle. High speeds and reckless play
Drowning deaths increase by 89% can cause children to fall off a moving golf cart or cause the cart to tip over.
Bike deaths increase by 45%
Fall deaths increase by 21% Fall Prevention
Motor vehicle deaths increase by 20% A child’s motor skills are still developing as they grow older, and
Pedestrian deaths increase by 16% they can fall easily, putting them at risk for head injuries.
Know how to keep your children safe this summer. It is important to never leave children unattended around balconies,
decks and open windows. Do not let children climb on furniture or use
Water Safety shelves and drawers as steps. In addition, do not place furniture near a
Children drown quickly and silently, and most of these accidents window and, when possible, secure it to a wall to prevent tipping.Always
occur when a child is left unattended or during a brief lapse in supervision. actively supervise your child while they are playing,and make sure that
Be sure that there is close supervision when your child is near water. they have a safe area to play.
Make sure that the person responsible for the child’s safety is not distracted.
Children can easily find and fall into any body of water, including Motor Vehicle Safety
tubs and buckets, and a child can even drown in water less than a few Regardless of age, all passengers need to be buckled in. Follow
inches deep. If you have a pool or hot-tub, make sure it is protected specific guidelines for your child’s height, age and weight to determine
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If your child does not know how to swim, enroll them in lessons. Thursday with Kohl’s Child Safety Seat Check each month at
Children from non-swimming households are eight times more likely to the Florence Kohl’s location from 4:00 p.m. - 6:00 p.m. At this
be at risk of drowning.And if you are participating in water sports, event, certified child safety seat technicians will check to make sure
make sure your child is wearing a lifejacket. your child’s safety seat is the proper fit.
Finally, be prepared for an emergency. Have a phone nearby to
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Pedestrian injuries are the second leading cause of unintentional
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The most important safety aspect in wheel safety is WEAR A children the rules of pedestrian safety:
HELMET.This can reduce the risk of head injury by as much as 85 • Look left, right, then left before crossing a street, and keep looking
percent. Make sure your child has the right size helmet and that they both ways while crossing
wear it every time when riding, skating or scooting. • Understand traffic signals and signs
Be sure to closely inspect the bicycle, skateboard or scooter, to • Walk facing traffic on sidewalks or paths
make sure that it is working properly. It is also very important to teach • Do not let children play in driveways, unfenced yards, streets or
your child “the rules of the road”, and to make sure they wear reflective parking lots
clothing or have reflective material on their bicycle or other wheeled-toy. Taking steps in prevention for your child’s safety is an effort that
Also, it is important to practice wheel safety when it comes to is truly worthwhile.
golf carts. Many adults do not realize the potential dangers than a golf

For more information, call McLeod Safe Kids at (843) 777-5021

or visit the Safe Kids website at www.safekids.org.
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My Family: Parents, William and Joan; My

Subordinates (Sister and Brother), Mary and
James

My Town: Marion

My School: Pee Dee Academy

My Accomplishments: Honor Student,

Honor Roll, Eagle Award for Varsity
Softball and Volleyball, All-Region SCISA
(South Carolina Independent School
Association) Volleyball and First Team
All-Region Palmetto Volleyball

My Dreams for the Future: Going

shopping in New York City with
unlimited amounts of cash!

My Favorite Song:
ANNA
“No Surprise”
by Daughtry
My Favorite Movie: Pride & Prejudice

If I could meet anyone, it would be . . .

SHELLEY
Andy Roddick; he’s my rock star!

If I could go anywhere in the world, I would go Thoughts About My Final Year of High
to. . . Hawaii. School Coming Up: Excited!

One Word that Describes Me and My
Personality: Heartfelt
Words that Inspire Me:
“Don’t give up; don’t ever give up!”
~ Jim Valvano
What Makes Me Laugh: All the crazy moments
with my friends and family
The Coolest Person I Know: The James William
Shelley
My Plans for the Summer: Spending time with
my family and friends and many different sport-
ing events
The Best Part of High School So Far: Hanging
out with my friends
The Most Challenging Part of High School So Far:
Mrs. Susan’s English class
The One Thing I Hope to Accomplish Before
Graduating High School: To get to school on
time!
If I could change anything about my high school
years, it would be. . . to have air conditioning in
the gym – and to allow my opinion to be Collin M. Smith
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Aside from academics, what I’ve learned
thus far about life that will serve me in
the future is. . . “Life ain’t always beau-
tiful, but it’s a beautiful ride.” (“Life Ain’t Always
Beautiful” by Gary Allan)
When I leave home, the thing that my parents
taught me that will help me the most is. . . to
remember the words to this song: “I hope you
still feel small when you stand beside the ocean.
Whenever one door closes, I hope one more opens.
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And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance, WHO’S THAT GIRL, send an email to
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