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Introduction
You may or may not have had one of these moments related to
a friend of yours going through an unexpected relationship
issue the relationship issue may have even been your own.
She had been going about her day without even the slightest
premonition that anything could be amiss with her love life,
when out of the blue, she found her entire world turned upside
down and shaken violently as carelessly as a bag of potato
chips.
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It was an extraordinarily late hour when the phone rang, the
time of night where the phone only rings if theres some serious
business waiting to be discussed on the other end of the line I
picked up the phone and was immediately blown back by a tidal
wave of torrential emotions that can only be produced by a
woman betrayed.
Melanie was on the other end of the phone, shouting her lungs
off and calling her boyfriend all kinds of nasty names.
Hes a complete pig, she told me. A big, fat, stinking chunky
pig.
Considering how madly in love she had been with this man, to
hear her using such words to refer to him was more than a little
jarring.
I dont know how long she want on calling him names between
sobs, but by the time it died down, I was confident that the
volume of those insults had just about exceeded every positive
thing that shed ever said about him before she had said
many, many positive things about him in the past.
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even simply say that it didnt do it justice.
I had been ready for her to say hed done something on the
level of burning down her family home in an psychopathic or
alcoholic rage, but the fact that hed just casually left her
without warning was even more strange.
I had been curious before, and now I was just plain stunned.
The best that I could do to verbalize my shock and dire need for
further exposition was a sincere, What?
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Yes! He left me. She replied in a very convinced tone.
As she expelled the full brunt of her pain to me, I couldnt help
but be brought back to the same times that Id found myself in
the same position.
I knew all too well what it was like to have the romantic carpet
ripped out from under you and be left sprawling on the ground
with nothing but the emptying sensation of betrayal and wild
outrage.
She told me that not only had he just left her out of nowhere
like a snowstorm in June, but hed even packed his bags and
decided to relocate his entire life into the home of another
woman that he was secretly hanging out with behind Melanies
back.
Shocked & disturbed by this letter, Melanie felt like she had
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never really known or understood this man at all.
But the truth was bitter because the only thing that provided
the most clarity as to what motivated his actions was,
unfortunately, the most upsetting thing of all for Melanie.
And that was this He had been passively cheating on her for
several months.
Can you imagine how much this must have rattled her world?
But let me tell you the weirdest thing about it all. Melanie was
the TYPE who was on the Hunt Rader of every man out
there. Every man hungered to possess her, capture her and do
anything in the world to be with her.
When we were younger, Melanie was the type of friend that you
always have to look to with equal amounts of jealously and
admiration when it comes to physical health.
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She had an infectious laugh, a more-than-respectable career,
and an intimidatingly sharp wit more than a few guys had
found it too intimidating after just one or two dates.
And once she met this guy, my best friend Melanie who was the
shameless demigoddess, assumed the form of a giggling
schoolgirl.
But! Melanie was in fact way too good for this man and
everyone had been telling her that all along including me.
Even our mutual friends usually had the same reaction when
they saw Melanie and that man together in public: How did a
guy like him actually end up with a woman as beautiful as
that?
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At the end of the day, in spite of what people would perceive as
their physical attractiveness imbalance, there was no doubting
that it appeared as if they had that something that could make
it work.
Over the next few days, Melanie got back in touch with me with
some really disturbing details.
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At this point you might be thinking that the critical factor must
have been some kind of personality trait the woman possessed
that won out in the end, but not even this was the case.
The more I heard, the more it started to sound like this woman
had actually made it mission to see just how many undesirable
traits she could rack up and still be capable of stealing another
womans man away.
All this time Melanie and I couldnt quite put a finger on why
her boyfriend would leave a completely secure, successful and
pleasurable relationship for a woman who was completely
messed up and not even as attractive as Melanie.
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But after my research I discovered the truth and it was this
Feelings dont have eyes! They dont occur based on what a
person looks like.
The phrase love is blind may be clich, but its clich for no
other reason than the fact that its based in truth.
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percent.
Believe it or not, our words and the ways we deliver them have
the kind of weight that simply looking good cant hold a candle
to beyond a first impression.
The way that the mystery woman had been able to steal away
Melanies man had absolutely nothing to do with anything about
her physical appearance in the slightest that would be the
ideally easy explanation, but in truth, there was something
much more intimate at work behind the scenes.
Physical looks can only do so much for you, but, the way that
you communicate carries massive amount of importance.
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Here is what I further discovered in my research
With just the right word uttered at the right time, a chemical
process takes place in the male mind which can make him find
a woman 10 to 20 times more attractive than she currently is.
Melanie may have grabbed her mans attention once with her
charming personality and amazing looks, but that still wasnt
enough to prevent this man from getting attracted to someone
else.
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far.
I cant tell you how many other women Ive counseled who
have wound up getting themselves set up for failure by
committing based on a momentary infatuation that mistook for
the real deal.
Now while using the power of words can certainly help you get
a leg up on the competition, the power of this technique also
makes apparent the massive potential there is to screw your
chances if you use your words poorly.
How often have you ever been offended by a person but smiled
through your teeth to keep things from seeming awkward for
everyone around you? Even if you dont do that yourself, its
how most people compensate for not being emotionally
transparent, which in some scenarios, can be downright
practical.
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Knowing this, its imperative to understand that everything you
say to a man can have massive effects that go completely
unseen on the surface, sometimes without even so much as a
facial twitch.
With how subtle and powerful your words can be, accepting the
influential power of words endows you with both extreme
capability and also extreme responsibility play the game
correctly and youll get everything you wanted, but neglect the
vital signs and youll be left sitting out in the cold in no time.
As a disclaimer, Ive got to let you know that this book will only
be as effective as your motivation to honestly apply everything
that you take away from it.
Something else thats vital to take away from this is the equally
powerful twinborn partner of words action.
Words set the stage for success before show time, and after
that, your actions will bring forth the full power of what youve
set into place. Make sure to honestly apply everything you learn
here with as much consistent action as you can, and youll be
on your way to easy street in no time flat.
Melanie hadnt explicitly done any one thing wrong, but in truth,
it was what she didnt do that spelled trouble for her in the end.
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Its not to say that communication alone is going to make an
inherently destructive relationship suddenly work, but noticing
the power it has to influence the chemistry of you and your
partner will enlighten you to all kinds of other signs that things
may or may not be slipping out of the safe zone.
You will become attuned to the signs that your partner may be
seeking out a deeper connection with someone else, which is an
absolutely invaluable security measure. Now that weve covered
the basic foundation for what youre going to be learning, its
time to get down to the first chapter!
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Chapter 1 Understanding the Male Mental
Theater.
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Knowing how deeply ingrained the power of words are in the
foundation of all of our vastly different societies, our status as
the human race, and as members of the animal kingdom, it
should come as no surprise how powerful words can be in the
world of romance.
In short, every time you hear a word, your mind turns that
word into a mental image which you see in the theatre of your
brain.
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1. Heavily-emboldened font
2. A significantly blown-up picture
3. Hard-hitting words.
For the sake of only getting you to read something, the front
page of the newspaper attacks your image-processing faculties
from multiple angles simultaneously this is done for a reason
that hasnt changed since the dawn of man.
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Now lets just imagine that were having a conversation, and
eventually I mention that I took my dog to the park for a walk.
Did the line, I went to the park today to walk my dog flash in
your mind as soon as I finished the sentence, or a little bit
before that?
If youre like most people, then you didnt literally envision the
words I went to the park today to walk my dog sliding across
an empty space in your mind.
The way that our brains can visually consolidate what isnt
immediately observable is why we can accurately describe it as
an image-processing machine.
When youre engaging in small talk with a cute guy that you
just met in the coffee shop, everything that youre saying to
one another is creating an image that gives you a hypothetical
representation of what each others lives are like this forms
the basis for a more significant level of attraction than what
appearances alone can do.
After youve just had a lively five minute conversation with the
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cute guy at the coffee shop, the volume of mental images that
were exchanged between the two of you could potentially
compose a mental narrative that could fill half of an entire epic
novel.
Once you hear something and see a mental image of it, your
mind then respond with adequate Emotions & Feelings in
response to that mental image.
So if I say to you I was crossing the street and had this car
rushing to meet me at 100 miles per hour, what happens
mentally?
Chances are that you imagined a car coming to meet you at one
hundred miles per hour, and though it may not necessarily be
an overwhelming feeling, you might have gotten twinges of
slight fear as a response.
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someone says something to you that just rubs you the wrong
way. Have you ever really thought of what it means for
someone to be rubbed the wrong way?
Being rubbed the wrong way means that even though there
may not be an immediate or objective explanation for it,
something about what was communicated created an
unpleasant sensation.
Even though the words may not have been intended as insulting
or even objectively negative, at the end of the day, only the
image summoned in the mind of the listener matters.
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you they do.
The stronger the image that gets created by the words that are
spoken, the more intense the somatosensory experience of
hearing them is going to be.
A person could feel fear, desire & even love based on how
powerful your words are.
These ideas of the people were getting to know for the first
time, and the dreams of doing all sorts of hypothetical things
with them in the future, all of these things are the exact kind of
mental images that weve been going over thus far.
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Despite fact of how amazingly simple this is, you wouldnt
believe how many women dont even have the faintest shred of
understanding about just how incredibly powerful mental
images are.
Because most women usually stick to most basic words & dont
know how to add more punch to their conversations.
Sometimes a woman who thinks shes giving off all of the right
signs could actually be creating an incredibly unpleasant impact
without having any idea about it whatsoever.
Now its not to say that none of these clueless women are ever
able to get into stable relationships quite the contrary.
Since they fail to take note of the subtle but powerful effects of
their own words, theirs is a life of endless confusion and
struggles with relationship issues that appear to have come
completely out of left field, without warning.
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words and phrases and recognize how some words can get you
literally anything you want from a man
Now consider the fact that simple words, and words alone,
carry the power to sell a product.
You know how words trigger certain images and feelings in our
minds to construct a vivid mental narrative that frames our
grasp on reality and the people around us.
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It is now that were going to start putting together the most
important part of the puzzle.
The best way that you can get a man to love you to the point of
just about worshipping you is by using special kinds of words
that can fulfill some of his deepest desires.
The kinds of desires that youll be tapping into will be sort that
he goes through most of his day having largely unfulfilled, due
to how much he probably keeps them under wraps on a daily
basis.
But when I say Deepest Male Desires, some of you ladies are
probably thinking that you already have the answer.
Heres the deal: that line of thinking is only a little bit right, but
mostly off-base. Sex does account for a part of the equation,
but in the grand scheme of things, its only useful for solving
about one percent of the entire puzzle.
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something is understood before moving on even a step further.
The truth is that when a man desires you for nothing other than
what you can offer him sexually, it means that at some point,
you were not able to fulfill him in some department of his
desires.
Now that may not be something youd like to hear, but I urge
you to not take personal offense to it it doesnt always mean
that it was your fault.
When you fully understand what a man desires from you, you
will be much more capable of getting into the kind of
relationship in which you will realistically be able to have mutual
satisfaction with a man who is right for you.
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their desires, and that is what Im going to help you with here
today.
So taking sex off the picture, here are some of the most vital
male desires you must be aware of before you star using my
Obsession Phrases.
The first desire that youve got to nail down is the desire for
approval.
A man will build an entire empire to hide this fact inside of, but
at the same time, he is helpless to escape the fact that does
desire to feel validated.
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Every man is seeking out some form of approval from a female
figure from an early stage in childhood, and oftentimes, it
begins with the mother.
Just like you probably have, Ive heard a lot in my life about
how it is selfish to seek out validation from others and how the
best thing to do is to make sure that were always secure
enough in our own skin to be content without anyones approval
at all.
Men crave approval from women to the degree that you likely
have several men right now who want to feel like heroes in
front of you.
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Hes going to want to seek you out due to the fact that you give
him a feeling that no other woman can manage.
Now this is far from being the easiest thing to do, but if you can
pull it off, youll be accomplishing something that a lot of
women really tend to struggle with accepting.
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around them to acknowledge that.
The universal inner desire for respect makes it so that the very
moment you acknowledge his effort, hes going to respond
positively. If you acknowledge him consistently enough, then
eventually, its possible for him to return it with love.
If you arent attentive enough, you wont have any idea where
things went wrong when hes completely withdrawn.
Now that you know how to avoid the worst case scenario by
making sure to maintain a consistent level of respect, its time
to move onto the third key point.
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relationship with a man over an extended period of time, you
can consider it like keeping a small flame fanned and active.
If you fan it too hard, it will die out, but neglecting to tend to it
will make it lose its luster as well. Were going to refer to this as
raising a mans emotional temperature, and by extension, the
art of maintaining it as well.
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unshakeable and mysterious magnetism towards you.
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You may or may not be aware of it, but just the concept of
emotionality is a very touchy thing for the average man to
come to terms with.
Whenever he knows that youre nearby, hell feel relief from the
cloud of uneasiness that may have formerly shrouded him any
time that he thought about the horror stories and sacrifices of
commitment.
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Men hate monotony as much as they love the feeling of
freedom, and so naturally, their worst nightmare is to feel like
theyre trapped in a boring life spent with a woman who drains
all of the high-octane pleasure and spontaneity out of his
existence.
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becomes bold enough to embark.
When he feels that you respect him for the essence of all that
he is, hell feel a certain kind of compulsion to be near you that
cant possibly be matched just by seeing another lady in the
store whos physically attractive.
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Chapter 2 The Big Secret of Obsession
Phrases.
Has the immersion ever been so great that you cant help but
actually feel as though you personally understand the pain and
happiness that the characters are experiencing?
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If you said so, you wouldnt be wrong, but you wouldnt be one
hundred percent right, either what Hollywood really uses
those actors and special effects for is to profit from yours and
others emotions.
People see movies for all kinds of reasons, from the want of
laughter even to moral obligation, but at the end of the day,
those motivations are unified by the element of emotional
investment that has to happen first.
It may seem a bit odd that you could actually buy the
experience of your own emotions, but dont get too caught up
in the face-value of the words technically your emotions are
already there, and what you purchase is the entertainment
medium to serve as a temporary conduit for all of your feelings.
Your joy, your excitement, and your fear are all things that
Hollywood and other professionals in the creative medium are
monetizing.
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Now hold on, why am I talking about movies so much?
Bland and boring events get discarded in the static of all of the
rest of our disregarded memories, but emotionally electric
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events get moved to special shelf in which they can always be
viewed more clearly.
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The goal seems simple enough on paper, but you might be
wondering exactly how it is you can most successfully go about
stirring up emotion in the very first place no need to fear,
because Ive broken it down into three essential steps.
So here are the details you must keep in mind before you say
anything to a man
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determined by the mental image formulated in the mind of the
hearer.
There are millions of ways that you can paint a vivid picture in a
mans mind, and so understandably, it can be a tad bit
intimidating to try and think of every single possibility one
thing that you assuredly can do, however, is make sure that
your words arent boring or mundane.
You could very easily tell a guy something as honest and simple
as, Hey! I like you!
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Instead of just telling him that you like him and leaving it at
that, what you can do is say something more to this effect:
The added imagery here really drives it home that youre not
just trying to make him think that you like him.
Remember: the more detailed the mental image you can paint
in his mind, the heavier of an impact youll be able to make on
his mind when youre no longer in the immediate vicinity.
When you can get him to think about you even when youre not
actually around him, youll know that youve finally succeeded
in painting a powerful mental image in his psyche that will
gradually drive him wild with affection for you.
One of the best ways that you can see to it that a man gets
emotional is by making it so that he has to wrestle with his own
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uncertainty.
Men love to be right, and so when you dont allow them to have
everything figured out right away, theyre naturally going to
start feeling a little bit out of sorts about things.
Suppose you want to let a guy know that you like spending time
with him, but dont want to make it seem like hes won you just
because he made a good impression so far.
You could say something to the effect of, Hey Eric, I enjoy your
company and be done with it, or you could take a step farther
in order to really engage his curious mind at a level that you
havent touched before.
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Instead of just telling him that you enjoy his company, you can
both express your appreciation for while still allowing for some
shadow of a doubt.
Now do you see what the critical difference is here with the
latter form of the phrase?
The first sentence barely requires any thought at all on his part
to understand. Even though it may be true that you do enjoy
his company enough to express it to him honestly, its an
incredibly bland statement that he wont have to roll over in his
head for very long in order to fully understand.
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3 Create anticipation
What do you think the purpose of that open loop is, exactly?
Now its crucial that before I dive into the specifics of this step,
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I clarify something for you:
Now if there comes the time when you legitimately do feel you
need to employ the art of creating a sense of anticipation, Ive
got an example you can look to for inspiration.
You could very well just say something as simple as, It was
nice meeting you and I hope to do this again sometime. and
leave it at that.
Ending a night out with a line like this may not exactly push him
away, but its highly unlikely to have him chomping at the bit to
come out and see you again.
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Now if you really want to leave your potential lover off on a
serious cliffhanger, all thats needed is a slight adjustment. Try
to instead say something to the effect, of:
Now after you say something like this, hes naturally going to
wonder and be curious about what you thought was SO
STRANGE about a wonderful date.
Oh! I really need to head back home. Ill talk about it some
other time.
Now after you utter this last sentence, do you have any idea of
what might happen next? Ill tell you: youre going to end the
date, right then and there.
From the very moment you leave, you will have effectively
summoned a loop of intrigue and uncertainty in his mind that
hell be hard-pressed to escape from.
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and more than anything else, hell want to clarify the truth the
mystery of your true feelings.
Now to sum this chapter up and put it all on the same page,
lets just briefly review all that weve covered here thus far
about these obsession-generating phrases.
You dont have to literally create fantastic images off of the top
of your head, but you can benefit simply from taking care to
make specific mentions of all of the things it is that he does that
please you.
When your phrases compliment him while still giving off the
impression that your approval is something that he still has to
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work for, youll be triggering ancient components within him
that kick start the emotions conducive to pursuing you
frustration, happiness, determination, confusion, and obsession.
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Chapter 3 The Razzle-Dazzle Phrases
He hasnt given you a single red flag yet the entire date, and so
naturally, youre feeling pretty optimistic.
You get that feeling in your chest that just makes you sense
that things are going right instead of only thinking that they
are, and what you can see is confirming all that you feel.
Its like all of the dating planets have aligned perfectly in your
favor with this guy, and from the beginning to the end of the
outing, it seems like youve won the romantic lottery.
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You try not to, but you cant help but check and re-check your
phone to see if you might actually be missing something.
Your curiosity eventually turns into just being plain pissed off.
He promised something that you had just about every sign of
him eventually following through on, and then he proceeded to
forget you existed.
The state you can fall into that makes you susceptible to a
situation like this is something that I like to call the state of
random attraction.
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occasionally exhibit vulnerability to the state of becoming too
star-struck by a gorgeous male specimen to see whats
happening (or sometimes, not happening) directly in front of
them.
Now of course there are some other women out there who
actually might be fortunate enough to catch onto the one-
sidedness of the passion before its too late however, a lot of
even these women may tend to try and go about remedying
what theyre discovered in a completely incorrect fashion.
These women believe that just by looking good, they can sway
a man to suddenly see the merit in becoming committed to
them.
Heres the truth that a lot of women these days just dont seem
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to be one-hundred percent familiar with
With nothing more than just the use of the right words, this
woman will have the power to dazzle men right out of their
shoes as if it were as easy as playing mini-golf on a Sunday
morning.
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The answer is that the woman actually failed to create a
legitimate sense of intrigue.
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What is of the utmost importance, however, is that you
understand just how vital it is to make sure that you
understand what the impact of being legitimately intriguing is.
The only way that youre ever going to be able to keep a lock
on attention from a man that youre interested in is if you make
sure that you command that attention to the best of your
ability.
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Remember all that weve talked about so far regarding the
power of mental images?
Mental images are how the top marketers are able to get you
buying three, four or five of their products before sunset.
Its as simple as what weve already been going over here so far
you have to be able to trigger his intrigue and stir up his
emotions until he practically feels like he has no other choice
but to get involved with you to settle up those stormy,
stimulating feelings inside.
What are these phrases? Well, I call them the Razzle Dazzle
phrases and they can be used in any first date situations
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Here are some examples, you can say at the end or in the
middle of your first meeting with a man
This innocent line carries a lot of intrigue power within it. Its
going to make the man seriously start thinking, and his
thoughts may be along the lines of, I get that she was excited,
but why scared?
Chances are that hes going to ask you for just a little bit of
clarification as to what it was that got you feeling nervous, and
thats when you move onto another intrigue-arouser like the
following line
Its imperative that immediately after you drop this line, you
make a point to change the subject.
After you do this, hell once again be at the mercy of his own
intrigue.
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same time, hes going to be left hanging on uncertainty.
The boundary of course will vanish in time, but the key point is
that the time will be provided by the fact that he still has things
about you to work towards figuring out.
And will be motivated to figure them out due to the fact that
youve expressed a clear sign that youre actually interested in
him.
Now just like after the very first line you dropped, after this
one, theres a good chance hes going to start wondering just
what it is that youre so unsure about telling him, which will
likely compel him to ask exactly what it is youve done that you
dont know about whether or not youd like to share.
When he does ask you exactly what it is that youve done, your
next job is to once again change the subject.
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Say that youll be able to tell him about it once youre a little
more comfortable with him, and it will absolutely drive him
nuts.
When you finally get around to the latter half of the date, you
have an opportunity to intensify the tension boiling up between
the two of you to really drive things home.
Rest assured that as soon as you drop a line like this one, there
is a 99.9% chance that hes going to ask you, in some way,
shape or form, to explain yourself better than you did.
Unless hes denser than dark matter, hell know for certain that
you are interested in him, but hell also be aware of the fact
that keeping you is going to take a little bit more of an effort
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than just asking you to spill out all of your secrets.
Make sure that you leave the conversation at the point at which
hes still slightly reeling from the unanswered question and the
expression of your interest, and I guarantee that hes going to
be blowing up your phone for another date.
Now I understand that this may all seem just a little bit out
there, but trust me, there are few things than men love more
than the thrill of the chase.
Men live and die by the chase, and by doing this, youre
essentially giving them exactly what they crave on a biological
level.
As long as you make sure that you always leave room for just a
little more to be found out than what you explicitly reveal, you
can pretty much ensure that you always keep him firmly locked
into that precious never-ending loop of attraction.
You dont really even need to over think what it will take in
order to keep the intrigue at an optimal level.
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If youre having any second thoughts about what it will entail in
order to keep a mans intrigue floating at the highest level
possible, just take a moment to appreciate what your own
personal life means to you.
The world is full of people who are not only unbearably boring
to talk to, but also incredibly candid about every single aspect
of their lives that just about no one ever actually asked about.
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challenge the faculties within him that make him feel powerful
and smart, which will frustrate him just a bit, but also compel
him to work harder.
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Chapter 4 Everlasting Attraction Phases
Are you familiar with the concept of a soul mate? You may or
may not actually believe in it, but chances are you at least
understand the idea of two people who are meant to be with
one another until the end of time.
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Heres the thing about happily ever after even though a lot of
us would like to believe that the decision to commit to someone
for life can only be made after a long and highly rational
process of weighing down the pros and cons to the wisest
possible decision, it is feelings and feelings alone that
determine that decision.
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When you get to the point at which youve identified a guy that
you both have feelings for and have reason to believe that he
has the same, its time to start building up the foundation for
Everlasting Attraction but how do you do it?
Now let me just ask you a question: have you ever witnessed a
man get completely caught up in the thrill of a casino?
You may have felt that sensation once or twice yourself, and it
is that very feeling that were going to be capitalizing upon in
order to produce a full picture of what it takes to induce
Everlasting Attraction.
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Why do you think it is that a man just doesnt seem to be able
to stand up and leave that table at the casino that he keeps
pouring his money into over and over again?
Hes aware of the fact that his wallet cant keep bleeding cash
forever, and yet in spite of this, he continues on his awe-
inspiringly stubborn drive to recoup everything that hes lost in
the process.
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by them.
However you word it, the end result is that the man becomes
extremely impulsive.
And this can be achieved by one thing and one thing alone,
which is
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You have to turn yourself into a trigger of pleasurable
feelings in his mind.
Have you ever seen a guy who is driven absolutely out of his
mind by another girl, even though it didnt really seem like that
girl actually possessed any remarkable qualities?
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try to conceptualize what can seriously spark interest in this girl
that we think is incredibly ordinary.
Even though she may appear ordinary to us, in the mind of that
specific man chasing her, she may as well be the queen of the
universe.
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chances if theyre high, but the kind of influence that you can
wield must transcend that.
None of us are perfect, that much is certain, but when you have
a man who is as driven to be with you as a gambling addict
wants to win at the slot machine, you can consider it a total
victory.
Now in order to get the man you desire to this level of desire
for you, youre going to need to employ some extremely well-
tuned and weaponized obsession phrases to get them on the
path to wanting to invest in you more.
When you know what it takes in order to make a man fully dive
into the Everlasting Attraction phases with you, all that hes
going to experience in regards to you are the feelings of love
and excitement.
Hes going to want and need you more as he spends more time
with you, never quite acclimating to the rush of being in your
immediate vicinity.
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At the end of the day, its going to be just like when a little kid
craves love from his mother when this happens, there are
going to be two amazing things that occur as a result.
Something incredibly weird and yet very powerful all the same
occurs when you manage to get a man to this stage of
attraction towards you.
Hes going to feel like youre one hundred times more worthy of
his attention than every other woman out there, based on how
closely your own happiness and security are tied to his own
personal feelings of happiness and security.
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In a sense, you could say that hes going to start actually
feeling emotionally hungry for your closeness.
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The most obvious sign that hes been fully driven into this state
will be if you ask him exactly why hes so driven to do so many
things for you or protect you so fiercely, and he has trouble
forming a clear explanation.
All hell know is that, for some reason, going to extreme lengths
to protect you and care for you just seems entirely right.
Now that youve gotten a solid idea of just how powerful the art
of arousing everlasting attraction is, its time to start going over
what specific phrases can actually be used in order to start
actually moving the man in that particular direction.
With these phrases, youre going to be both feeding his ego and
validating him at the very same time. Do this correctly, and
Everlasting Attraction will be achieved in no time flat.
Here are some phrases you can use on him in your day to day
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dealings
A simple phrase like this will appeal directly to the parts of him
that are designed to make him a powerful and appreciated
provider.
His mission to protect you and keep you safe will be both
rewarded and encouraged with a simple phrase such as this
one.
You are planting a seed of your affection for him within his mind
that will remain rooted at all times.
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I really like to have someone like you by my side.
When you use a phrase like this, youre letting him know that
you see him as more than just a hot body that can be replaced
youre expressing appreciation for him as an ally and life
partner, which will strongly consolidate his security in you as
someone who can reliably be committed to.
Telling him that hes unusually good at pleasing women will give
him a massive confidence boost in his idea of his place within
male hierarchy.
Ive been wanting to tell you this, but Ive been the
happiest since the day Ive met you. You give me the
best feeling in the world. Thank you so much for being
there for me.
If hes ever had any doubt about what his presence has ever
meant to you, then this will assure him that every moment
since the two of you have been together has contributed to an
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overall pleasant experience.
Lots of men worry that their women may not be feeling like
theyre getting all they truly deserve, but with this phrase, you
basically guarantee that he knows youre taking in the full value
of everything he does for you this is highly conducive to
stirring up his enthusiasm to continue on working to please you.
Someone who stands by you when there are the most reasons
ever to not be around you is always a keeper, and he may or
may not know that when you express just how much he
stands out among everyone else for being there for you in your
darkest hour, he will feel like he holds an extremely exclusive
and valuable place in your heart.
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Piecing it all together
You can definitely tweak these phrases to make them as
relevant to you and your man as possible just be sure to use
at least one of these phrases a day in order to achieve
maximum influence.
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Chapter 5 The Whiz Bang Phrases.
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Despite how argumentative she got, actually arguing with her
was not a complex matter in all honesty, I didnt entirely
disagree with her, but I certainly didnt place as much
importance upon what she identified as the most important
thing of all, and that made her incredibly irate with me.
Looks are important, but the thing to remember is that they are
not that important.
To illustrate this just a little bit more clearly, lets imagine a nice
big beautiful piece of cake.
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Now that youve got the picture of that gorgeous dressed up
nicely in your mental image, lets classify its components lets
say that the toppings and icing represent a persons physical
appearance, and that the actual cake itself represents the full
inner value of a person in general.
The cream on top of the cake only represents about 10% of the
cake overall, and the remaining 90% is composed entirely of
the actual main cakes body itself.
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The term that were going to refer to in order to describe the
case in which a man no longer values you beyond your
physicality is called Visual Blur.
We use the term Visual Blur due to the fact that men who are
attracted to a woman for only the things that are visually
appealing are just about guaranteed to see them as less
attractive and valuable as soon as theyve gotten what they
wanted.
Im not commanding you to care less about your looks than you
currently do, but as this guide was written for your benefit, Id
be doing you a heavy disservice if I didnt make sure to provide
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an ample warning of what you could be bringing upon yourself if
you neglected to pay attention to the things that truly matter.
For your own benefit, Im going to tell you exactly what I told
that argumentative former client of mine that I had to cut off,
and you must take as you will: No matter how pretty you are,
there will come a point at which a man you are seeing will no
longer be as impressed by your looks as he was when he saw
you for the very first time.
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Do you remember what I mentioned in the previous chapter
about the truth of what constructs everlasting attraction?
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Its all fine and well to want to attract a man by showing that
youre not allergic to his help, but at the same time, its not
attractive at all to try going about it by going out of your way to
seem helpless all of the time.
Ive scarcely ever met a man who wants to stay with a girl who
throws a tantrum every time she cant reach a jar of jelly up on
the high shelf, but I do know that men have appreciated me
being unafraid to exhibit that I would honestly appreciate their
assistance.
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Whiz Bang phrases allow you an easier way to approach the
difficult task of owning up to things that you might be just a
little bit nervous about mentioning openly.
Have you ever felt like there was just some sort of invisible
barrier between you and the man you were interested in?
Perhaps when you got this feeling that something between the
two of you was missing, you felt like the solution was to say or
do something to connect better, and it didnt exactly turn out
like you planned.
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Did the reason for that failure perhaps stem from the fact you
werent quite as open with him as you could have been?
The only way that youll be able to pull this off is by being
brutally honest about all of your deepest feelings, and thats
where the power of Whiz Bang phrase truly shines.
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Eric! I am not going to hide, the world seems so perfect
when I have you by my side. I dont know if you feel the
same way about me or not, but I want to let you know
that youre really special to me. Thats all.
Its simple, its honest, and most importantly, it cuts right to the
point as well.
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people might be afraid of doing for the fear of showing
weakness if you do this properly, however, you wont need to
worry one bit about coming off as needy or clingy.
By going into detail about how much you love the feeling of
having his arms around you, youre also creating the powerful
kind of mental image that we covered in detail near the
beginning of this guide.
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feelings with you today. Thanks for being such a joy for
me.
Now this phrase right here represents the full extent of the
power thats to be found in expressing vulnerability for your
mans attention.
A lot of women try to cover up the fact that they feel anything
when their men are around other women, but with this phrase,
youre going to take things complete in the other direction.
Your man knowing that you do get a bit jealous when hes
around other man will actually satisfy the part of him that
wants to be reassured of the fact that the you still feel a spark
for him.
If you can show him that your jealously comes from a place of
attraction from him and not just bitterness, hell find it a lot
easier to commit to you.
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When women attack their men for getting attention from other
women instead of just honestly expressing that theyre a little
bit jealous, thats when the ground is laid for pointless fights.
You know Eric, you might not know this about me, but
Im a sucker for affection. When I love someone, I do it
with all my heart and soul. I love the feeling of being in
love, I love the feeling of being around you.
Youve got to let him know that not only are you a person who
is honestly and fully addicted to the feeling of being loved, but
also that you are specifically captivated by his way of
expressing love for you.
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I know that I might seem a little too eager and even
desperate to you, but I just want you to know that Im a
little weak when it comes to matters of the heart and Ill
love you no matter where things go in the future.
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Chapter 6 Attraction Spinner Phrases.
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If youve been paying attention so far, then you know exactly
what I meant by what I said to Jennifer.
Men are capable of many things, but one thing that no man in
history has actually been able to do is look at a woman and
think to themselves Okay! Today, I am going to be allured,
charmed, and seduced by this particular woman.
Now when Jennifer heard this, she naturally wasnt very happy
about it. The first thing that she did was jump right on up to her
feet like something had possessed her.
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There was a glint in her eyes that can only be created in the
most spectacular moments of human fury, when mental
floodgates come crashing down and the full wrath of Eros spills
out into the ether with reckless abandon.
Are you saying that theres no hope at all for me then? Im just
going to be a one-night deal to him and thats it? She asked!
There is hope, Jennifer. Sit back down and just let me finish my
sentence.
Jennifer sat back down, crisis just barely averted. I asked her to
take a deep breath and to listen to my next words as carefully
as possible.
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amount of influence regarding the way that he thinks of you.
His heart will race and identify you as the acquisition he needs
in order to calm it down.
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this mental component of his in order to get him to either spark
into action or head for the hills.
Once you learn how to point his amygdala in the right direction,
you can put all of your fears about him devaluing you after sex
to bed the principal issue here is, then, how exactly do you
pull this off?
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I order to achieve this considerable feat, what youve got to do
is make it so that you have a firm grip on the mans emotional
temperature.
The more intense his emotions are in relation to you, the more
that his own body is going to be forcing him to take actions that
are conducive to chasing you down and being with you.
The truth is that before those emotions can even exist, there
has to be a physiological chain reaction that occurs at a
molecular level when you stir up his emotions in order to get
him to feel something more for you, the power of science is on
your side.
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He will be just about physically incapable of not feeling intense
attraction and love towards you if you have what it takes to
send his amygdala into overdrive on a whim.
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the two of you.
Can you even imagine just how much more involved and
intimate this is than a man just thinking that you look kind of
hot?
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approaches you under the presumption that whatever you have
to offer is inherently extreme valuable and somewhat exclusive.
You are going to pull the man towards you, but as soon as he
gets close enough, you are going to push him away.
On one end you are expressing that you do enjoy his company
when hes around (pull), but at the same time, youre telling
him that pursuing anything more serious may not be the best
idea (push).
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When a man gets hit by a whammy like this, the stage will be
perfectly set for him to become extremely emotionally active.
The thrill of the chase that he experiences from going after you
will no longer be based entirely on sex, if it ever was before.
Youll have brought him to a point at which both his logical brain
and emotional brain are being equally stimulated and
compelling him to come after you.
Rather than just putting your uncertainty out there right in front
of him, youre instead leading him down the path of
understanding that while youre attracted to him, there is the
very real chance of you pushing him away.
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to keep you by his side.
Its fine and well for a man to feel comfortable with you and
appreciated by you, but at the same time, you cannot let things
get to the point at which hes so comfortable with you that he
actually becomes complacent in his feelings, which will
eventually kill the attraction.
When you say that youd like to take a break, you are pushing
him away with the hanging implication that it just might be
permanent.
This immediately follows you telling him that you think hes an
incredible man before saying that youve got a bad feeling
about the chemistry between the two of you.
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Eric, both of us wanted to keep it strictly sexual, but I
feel that things are getting too intense between us. Can
we please take a break? I dont want to get too deep into
this.
Now this is an extremely meta Attraction Spinner that hes
highly unlikely to see coming.
Men are more or less aware of the fact that certain women are
less receptive to strictly sexual relationships than others, but
very few of them are ever prepared for a woman to outright
admit that she only ever wanted to keep things physical.
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Eric, were doing too much of this lately, can we please
slow down a little? Youve started treating me like your
girlfriend.
If things between him and you have been progressing at a rate
that led him to believe that things were legitimately getting
serious between the two of you, then this phrase right here is
going to send him for one of the grandest loops that Attraction
Spinner phrases are capable of creating.
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By directly mentioning the physicality aspect of the relationship,
you will prevent him from making the false assumption that the
best way to get things back on track with you is to be more
sexual.
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Chapter 7 Obey Me Phrases
If only he would just stop being a lazy bum and get off the
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couch just once a year, they pray.
What you truly need to be concerned with is the way that you
choose to go about approaching your man in order to achieve
that objective that you have in mind.
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successful every now and then, but their effects are rarely ever
actually permanent.
At the end of the day, the women who use these dishonest
methods will just wind up feeling extremely frustrated and
burned out at the results.
You can really only press a man so far before he starts to sense
that hes being pushed and decides to push back.
There are few things that people hate more than the sense that
someone else is actively trying to control their behavior, and so
when a man catches onto a woman trying to do this to him,
almost nothing can destroy the relationship more swiftly.
Heres the deal you can very well get your man to do the
things that you want him to do, but attempting to manipulate
him into doing it is never the answer.
Even if sounds like its a little bit sneaky, you neednt worry
yourself all that youll be doing is finding a more cohesive,
effective, and non-offensive way to get your relationship needs
met on a day-to-day basis.
The key reason that you need to go about things in this manner
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is due to the fact that there are only two key ways that a man
can be motivated to do something:
When you want your man to do something for you, then youre
going to need to motivate him on a level that matters.
When you try to deceive your man into acting in the way youd
like through deception, nagging or coercion, youre negatively
charging him up this is exactly what wed like to try avoiding
if theres any way that we can help it.
When your man has come to associate all of the things that you
ask of him as acts of pleasure and not just commands, hell
need to be motivated less and less in the future.
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Youre not going to be experiencing even the slightest bit of
doubt or friction from him if youre able to effectively arouse
nothing but the most positive emotions from deep within his
heart.
We seek out all of the things that weve come to associate with
feelings of pleasure and satisfaction. On the other hand,
anything that gives us pain is something that we are wired to
avoid at all costs.
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Your suggestion + A strong reason WHY + optional
benefit = Persuasion
With nothing more than this basic and highly effective formula,
you can essentially ensure that your man does exactly what you
want him to with almost no delay.
Now lets just imagine for a moment that youd like your man to
just take you out somewhere nice to eat for a change.
You could just outright ask him to take you out to eat and leave
it at that, but chances are that its not going to be extremely
likely to work the way that you wanted it to.
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Now lets imagine an alternate route in which you dont just
hope for him to say yes to your request.
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that whoever made the request is only doing it in order to
control us or, even yet more offensively, separate us from our
right to our own free will.
One of the main things that a person considers when being told
to do something is whats in it for them if they agree to
acquiesce to the request.
By using the above technique, you essentially guarantee that
the mans question of whats in it for me is already answered
before he even has a chance to ask it himself.
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your desire to your man to go somewhere nice.
Lets say that youd really like your man to start calling you a
lot more often than he currently does your very first instinct
may be to say something to the effect of, Honey, can you
please call me daily instead of once or twice a week?
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voicing your concern in that particular fashion, but theres
definitely a more persuasive way that you could go about
making your desire known.
Now you may or may not have noticed this right away, but did
you take note of how the second part of the sentence cued your
man in on a hidden benefit?
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With that single sentence, you have all three parts of the
Indirect-Direct formula working powerfully in your favor.
Honey, can you please help Honey, can you please help
me clean the house? me clean the house today, as
Ive been working since the last
3 hours, and dont think I can
do it all on my own?
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Can you please hold me for a while? I just feel an amazing
while? sense of calm, and security
when you hold me. It
something I just cant explain.
By now youve probably got more than solid idea of exactly why
this technique works as well as it does, but you might
understandably be wondering What should I do if he still says
no to my request after Ive asked him nicely and offered
benefits?
After youve kept your cool, you need to take inventory of any
rational reasons you can think of as to why it didnt work out in
the way you had hoped heres a quick list of some possible
reasons.
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2. Improper timing
Timing is of the utmost important when it comes to having him
be the most considerate of your request.
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Chapter 8 Emotional Transparency Phrases.
Have you ever been in the company of man who just seems to
appear as though he was born with an inability to express his
feelings?
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You can blame it on our ancestors if you want, but at the end of
the day, theres no point in trying to deny the effects of history.
The weapons men use to defend the mighty male ego are
stubborn and heavy tools indeed, and so it will take nothing
short of a great deal of work or very good strategy to bypass
them thats why Im here to provide you with a solution!
Our history as the human race sings the praises of men who led
hundreds of under-armed soldiers against thousands of the
better-armed masses, heads raised high in spite of the threat of
destruction at all times.
There are some men who even represent the end of a long
generational line of sons being taught by their guardians to
never trust any woman that they come across.
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There are plenty of men who have had the distaste for any of all
signs of weakness drilled so far into their ancestry that they
detest the idea of expressing any signs of fear or sadness as if
those emotions were actually lethal poisons instead of simple
feelings.
Theres just no getting around the fact that there are tons of
men in the world who rather go to the grave being considered
unfeeling beasts rather than vulnerable human beings.
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weathering crashing waves, you need to be aware of the fact
that just because he lets those waves crash down on him
doesnt mean hes actually immune to them he very well
could be, and often is crumbling on the inside.
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aid.
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Now for a moment, picture that you and your man have just
gotten into a particularly nasty fight and are both feeling pretty
emotionally exhausted from the bulk of it.
You both said things to one another that you regret, and
eventually things got so out of control that you both more or
less just elected to walk away and leave the argument hanging.
The issue that you might run into, however, may be that your
man expresses little to no interest in actually acknowledging the
fight as a matter of fact, he may actually decide that its
better to just pretend that the fight never happened at all.
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The stress will generally stick with the woman for a longer
period of time than it sticks with the man.
Even though the stress will tend to stick with us longer than it
sticks with men, it doesnt mean that women are any bit
mentally weaker than men are thats not any more truthful
than the farce so many men believe in that their emotional
constipation makes them stronger.
The fact of the matter is that we need to account for the fact
that there are likely going to be some challenges that men have
to face in regards to their emotional expressiveness, and now,
you may have a better idea of just exactly why that is
The term for these phrases that are meant to increase the
openness with which your man divulges his feelings are what
we are going to refer to as Emotional Transparency phrases,
and should you master them well, you will be able to
understand him a lot more easily than you ever could before.
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Here are some examples of phrases that you might find helpful
in digging deeper into your mans capacity to be completely
emotionally candid with you.
You can take a great deal of weight off your mans mind by
acknowledging the fact that you know hes probably going
through a lot, while at the same time, stroking his ego just a
little by expressing how much you admire him for the qualities
he possesses that he can be proud of.
You can show that you care about him in spite of whenever he
may exhibit some tendencies that show a chink in the armor
that he works so hard to keep up at all times, which will do a
great deal to invite him to be a lot more honest and raw with
you instead of just bottling things up inside whenever he feels
uncomfortable.
Eric! I know you love me a lot & I can feel it in the way
you look at me, the way you warmly hold me but as a
woman, some part of me still craves to hear what you
truly feel about me. Please know that even if you dislike
certain things about me, Id like you to please share it
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with me without fearing any judgment.
As long as you are in something that resembles a committed
relationship with a man, he will be thinking about how you are
receiving all of the signs he tries to send out that he cares for
you without explicitly stating it outright.
It takes a great deal of effort for many men to outright say they
care, and so naturally, they try to compensate for this by
making a point to express the ways that they feel in as many
other subtle ways as possible.
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If he starts to act like hes withdrawing, something you
positively do not want to do is try and force him to be more
open around you. Weve already discussed what the pitfalls of
trying to force your man to do something are, so by now, I trust
you know to avoid pursuing such a course of action.
Showing gratitude for what your man has been doing to create
a better life for the two of you will make it less likely that he
feels he has to uphold maximum rigidness in the persona he
adopted in order to become the best possible man in your eyes
as weve already gone over in previous sections, all men want
to be looked at as heroes at the end of the day.
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could open a little bit more around me emotionally. I
know its not the easiest thing to do when I am being so
demanding of you, but please understand that it would
truly make me feel loved if you opened up more.
Now this is easily one of the most powerful ways that you can
really get on track to having your man feel a lot more right
about expressing his feelings for you without the fear of being
judged by you at the end of the day.
When you make a statement like this, one of the best effects is
that you are transcending the expectations levied upon the two
of you by the official positions of being a boyfriend and
girlfriend or husband and wife.
Telling your man that you simply appreciate him for all that he
offers you and the rest of the world as a whole will make him
more prone to emotionally opening up to you due to the fact
that the two of you will be able to connect more in terms of just
being people who appreciate one another instead of it being his
job to be approved of by you.
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Chapter 9 Love Cocktail Phrases
Chances are that you had absolutely no idea why he was being
so cold to you and wasnt making a great effort to enlighten you
as to what the source of his coldness was.
Of course you want to see if theres any way that you could
perhaps simply just talk to him and figure out what it is thats
got him acting like an astronaut, but you eventually give in due
to the fact that its like he doesnt understand your language.
You want to see if theres any possible way that you might be
able to get him to want to be alone with you for once instead of
just going out with his buddies, but youre lucky if you can get
an answer thats delivered with more than just a single syllable.
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The memories of the last time that he hugged you or
passionately kissed you seem to fade further into the ambiguity
of your most obscure memories, and eventually theyre flung so
far back behind you that you wonder if you might have just
been imagining it all along.
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amount of care into the relationship that is necessary to
maintain a cohesive, mentally beneficial bond with one another.
You would at least hope to get some kind of Dear Jane letter to
clarify things fully, but many women who are unceremoniously
dumped dont even get the courtesy of a poorly-written letter to
explain what factors led to them getting kicked to the curb
without any warning.
One of the worst feelings in the world can be when you already
have been left and you just simply cannot, for the life of you,
understand at exactly what point everything between you and
your ex went south.
You want to know if theres anything specific that you may have
done to make things turn out the way that they did, but all it
seems that you can do is draw a blank and grow increasingly
distressed with the way that things turned out between you and
him in the end.
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You would like nothing more than to at least know if the truth
may actually be that he was just seeing someone else on the
side during the time that you were under the impression that
there was still something going on between the two of you, and
yet the catharsis of having that simple explanation just
continually avoids you.
Try as you might, you just cant seem to place your finger on
anything that might have reasonably led to him losing so much
faith the relationship that the two of you had, with little to no
prompting or incident.
Here are several of the things that you absolutely must refrain
from doing at all costs if you truly want to take a shot at
salvaging your relationship when it reaches its darkest hour.
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convince a man to love or like you.
Becoming needy and desperate when youve been cut loose will
only send him flying in the opposite direction at an even swifter
pace than how he moved when he left in the very first place.
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certainly not any better than him just leaving altogether.
It may seem a bit cruel, but if you can make peace with the
concept of giving more than youre guaranteed to get, then
youll be a lot less broken up inside when a man leaves.
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at the end of her rope and has just about lost any hope she had
left of positively resolving things between she and the man that
left them.
All that you accomplish when you do this is confirm for your
man that leaving you was the correct course of action at the
end of the day. Who wants to be committed to someone who is
criticizing them constantly?
If you want your man to be there with you to stay, then youre
going to have to show him that you value him. There is a
difference between expressing that you value your man and
expressing that you absolutely need his company, all of the
time, like an addict.
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If you want to take a shot at getting your man back thats
actually based in logic and could feasibly work, then I have
something highly valuable for you.
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If you can keep on planting seeds in his mind that grow into
reasons for him to desire you ever more, theres a lot less of a
chance that youll wind up losing him.
Lets just take a moment to think about the very air that we
breathe into our lungs on a daily basis. We can go for weeks
without food, days without water, but wont last much longer
than minute without any air.
Can you fathom how much worse your life would be if you
suddenly had to worry at all times about suddenly not being
able to inhale?
Any time, any place, without any warning at all, you could
suddenly find yourself without even the slightest bit of air.
Now take a deep breath right now and relish in the security of
how available air is to you chances are that breath you took
seemed just a little bit sweeter than most of the other breaths
youve taken this week.
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We take air for granted so often due to the fact of just how
incredibly accessible it is.
Now think of your partner. If we can take air itself for granted
because of how accessible it is, what would make anyone think
that their partner wouldnt ever get tired of them?
Never imprison a man with your company. The last thing that
your partner desires is being tethered to something hes
powerless to escape from, like a ball and chain effect.
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How to win him back
When it comes to most of the things that people do, the fear of
losing something generally wins out over the potential pleasure
of working in order to attain something.
On the flipside, you can use the human tendency of fearing any
sort of loss to your advantage in terms of finding a way to get
your man back.
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Essentially, all that youre really going to be doing is creating a
legitimate sense of anxiety in his mind that makes him dread
the emptiness that will accompany a choice to leave you.
Thats really the only thing youd have to say in order to achieve
the intended effect.
After you use this technique, theres a very good chance that
your man is going to respond strongly to it if you issue the
statement via text or email, you wont have to actually worry
about getting any immediate response or reaction from him
after making the statement.
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or weakness
3. You indirectly told him that youre not interested in
him anymore
If you two live together, move out of the house. Leave him
alone and take some time to get to know yourself a little better.
If he calls or writes you to find out whats going on, respond
with something like-
Ive been having a blast and would love to tell you all
about it. Things have been going great for me. We
definitely needed time apart. I guess when things
happen they happen for a good reason, right? Anyway, I
am in a rush, Ill speak to you or write later.
While youre off doing your own thing, his curiosity will be
incited and hell be wondering about everything that youve
been up to.
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Once he starts making an active effort to try and find out what
youve been up to, thats a total wrap.
It will be as though the two of you have just met all over again
when this happens, you need to show off your self-reliance
and self-confidence, establishing your rightful status as a
person of true value.
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Chapter 10 Mutual Pleasure Phases
Dont let the way it may sound give you the wrong idea this is
not an exercise in simply manipulating the man to do whatever
you please.
With this exercise, you are going to simply learn how to inspire
a man to do more things that fall in line with your wants and
needs, without having to actually manipulate or beg him at all.
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1 - Identify exactly what it is you want, and keep it
simple- one request at a time
Wed all like our men to be able to pick up on all of the most
important things without needing to be explicitly prompted all
of the time, but sometimes there is just no other recourse than
to take the initiative and lay it out directly on the line.
Here are some of the things that you should never beat around
the bush when they become important:
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-Youd like for him to take care if something broken or urgent
related to the house
-You feel like you need just a little bit more attention, even just
a kiss or a cuddle now and then
Hey hon, the faucet has been dripping for a month now. Are
you ever going to get it fixed?
Hon, I know how good you are at fixing things. This faucets
been dripping forever, it seems, and I just cant seem to figure
it out.
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When worded in this way, the answer will be yes, nine times
out of ten.
Do you recall all that weve already covered about the extreme
importance of respect and admiration when it comes to a mans
sense of being?
You dont need to be over the top about it, but as long as your
respect and admiration are sincere, hell be appreciative and
motivated. If he senses that youre trying to force it, by being
too gushy, hell pick up on that and may become resentful as a
result.
A good way to start practicing the ways that you can exude a
little bit more respect and admiration for your man is by taking
a bit of time to write down a list of all of the different reasons
you have to respect your man for all of the things that he is and
is capable of doing.
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The only thing that you really have to do is point out just one
simple quality about him that you love, once per day, and youll
be on the right track.
For example
Lets say you want him to tell you that he loves you more often.
Instead of directly saying
Hey! How come you never tell me how much you love me
anymore?
Try saying Honey! I wanted to tell you that I feel really good
when you tell me that you love me. Thank you for caring
enough by letting me know how you feel.
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- I love it when you surprise me.
- I really need your help. I cant do it without you.
- I trust you with all my heart.
- Its amazing how good you really are at doing ______ (insert
action)
Are you aware of the fact that we, as human beings, are much
more likely to follow through with a large commitment when we
have already gone through with a more modest commitment?
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For example, say this
Honey! Can we please go out to eat tonight? Im exhausted
and feeling very stressed & really dont feel like cooking.
All that you have to make sure of is that you remember how
vital it is to always lead into your larger request with smaller,
more manageable requests first.
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If you immediately put your man on the spot, hes more likely
to disagree simply to protect his right to refuse for being told
what to do.
Heres another example, lets say you want your special guy to
take you out to a show this weekend. Say the following to him
You know? Theres this really good show this weekend, and
Ive been just dying to see it. Perhaps we could go together,
and then go out to that really nice jazz bar you took me to a
couple of weeks ago. I know Id really like that.
One thing you should take care not to do is to ask him whether
or not he believes it would be a good idea or not to go through
with whatever your idea is. You would actually be best off if you
completely refrained from asking him about what he thinks
about the idea at all.
When you make your desire known but also make a point to
keep it relegated to a point in the dialogue that doesnt make it
the number one attraction, you give your man time to consider
the request without feeling like hes being pressured into
agreeing to what youve got in mind.
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Chances are that unless hes got a conflict that makes it literally
impossible for him to follow through with whatever it is that
youd like to see happen, hes going to invite you to see that
that show that you mentioned earlier.
Whats better is that he wont get the sense you expect him to
do it, hell get pleasure out of the thought that hes giving you a
nice surprise.
Lets look at it this way: if you dont train him in all of the most
effective ways to do what you need him to do to make you
happy, where else is he going to learn?
If youre tormented by the fact that your man is going all of the
things you hate, and youre at a loss for ways to make him
change whatever hes doing, then youve got to face a truth
that may be a hard pill to swallow: at some point in the past,
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you trained your man to believe that the behavior was
acceptable.
Its not to say that you outright told your man that doing the
things you hate is acceptable, but ignoring the behavior that
makes you unhappy is actually just as bad as outright
encouraging it by doing that, you lead him down the path of
thinking its completely harmless.
Now heres one thing that you need to be one hundred percent
aware of: punishment doesnt mean that youre going to be
breaking out the blowtorch and chasing him into the attic.
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The first thing that you should be focusing on is making sure
that you dont miss out on the chance to make sure that you
can exercise one of these rewards any time he doesnt
something you like right.
Now if your man is doing something that really doesnt sit well
with you, like leaving his clothes out on the floor all of the time,
you could try stating something like the following
Honey! I need to let you know that its really difficult for me to
organize your clothes every day after you leave. I would love to
do it for you, but I cant do it every single day.
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You arent necessarily obligated to go out of your way doing all
of the things around the house that are convenient for him, and
so when you cease doing one of these things to punish him, its
not malicious chances are that he will associate the lack of
that thing with the action that displeased you, which will lead to
him repeating that behavior notably less. There is no trickery or
manipulation required.
If your man is being a little bit lazy around the home, try the
following phrase:
Honey! I know that you care about me deeply & have been so
good to me. I truly admire that quality in you. However, lately
you seem a bit distant; this isnt like your usual self. Is there
something wrong?
With this phrase, you are at once showing your appreciation for
him and indirectly letting him know that something about his
current behavior is off.
Men love to please the women that theyre with, but none of
them want to be harped on about the past and relentlessly
criticized.
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Make sure to always prioritize positive reinforcement for all of
the times that your man follows through without being asked,
and you will get much more attention and appreciation in
return.
Now let me show you some effective ways that you can
integrate these principles into your everyday life:
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If you want to be fully understood, then first, you must commit
to understanding. Show him unconditional love and respect,
and hell be a lot more cooperative.
Show him that youre the one he wants, and hell kick into
provider mode almost instantly. Dont be surprised if your
girlfriends get jealous!
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Chapter 11 The Monstrous Intrigue Phrases
Now just for a moment, I want you to imagine that youve been
having the time of your life with a new guy that youve just met
very recently.
He may or may not be the one, but so far, hes been making
all of the right moves and you have a feeling that you
understand just about every good thing that there is to know
about him.
His moods, emotions and habits are all things that you
understand well. Most importantly of all, you really get the
sense that you have legitimate feelings for him that transcend a
passing fling.
You love spending time with him much more than a lot of the
guys youve met prior, and every little thing he does seems to
draw him in closer to you by the day.
You love it when he tells you how much you mean to him, and
just being by his side has this uncanny effect on you that makes
you feel incredibly safe.
You like how he holds you warmly every single day, and overall,
being with him just gives you the sense of completeness that
youre almost at a loss for an accurate way to describe.
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Its safe to say that youre definitely thinking of something
resembling a bright future with this guy, and so naturally, you
start to envision all of things that could come to be if the two of
you really decided to kick things up to the next level.
Now suddenly, one day, things start to head south. You dont
know for what reason or even at what point it started to
happen, but eventually, there is no doubting that something has
undoubtedly gotten different between the two of you.
This man you were feeling so good about before, whose smile
and touch could make your whole week, suddenly starts to act
extremely distant in a completely unprompted fashion.
Hes outright avoiding you, and you dont have any idea of how
to describe it than you have ideas of how to colonize the planet
Jupiter.
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You find it hard to believe that this loving and generous man
could really just leave you hanging for no other reason than to
give you distress, but youre at a loss of possible explanations
for why he would suddenly start to act like you dont even exist.
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We naturally feel like were more attached to just about
everything that gives us the sense of being more attached to
whatever it is that connects us to the person that were getting
to know better, and at times, it almost feels like a legitimate
addiction.
To say the least, the high that we get from getting to know this
new person for the very first time is quite a nice feeling.
We like the sensation of being able to feel lifted higher just from
being around another person that gives us a sense of security,
but in spite of that, eventually we get used to the sense of that
addiction.
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What some men can unfortunately do at times, however, is act
as though they have conquered all in terms of things to
discover and see when it comes to getting to know you.
When they feel that there is nothing left to do, say or feel in
terms of experiencing time with you, they will withdraw from
you for fear of the monotony.
To make this a little bit easier for you to understand, I just want
you to take a moment to imagine your most favorite television
program in the world.
I want you to think about all of the different ways that a new
episode can draw you in with its beginning scene, and how the
perfectly constructed ending can get you hungry for the
possibility if resolution with the next episode.
Channel all of the passion, thrills and excitement you can that
youve associated with a new episode of the first favorite show
of yours that comes to mind.
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Now of course at first, this doesnt seem to be anything close to
resembling a bad thing. You actually feel compelled to jump up
out of your seat and rejoice, because of all of the television
content that could have been preserved, it was your favorite
show that you were so fortunate to see be the only one that
was left on the air.
After a while, you actually start to miss what all of the other T.V.
shows had to offer. Eventually, you get to realize that your
favorite television show no longer seems as entertaining as it
used to be when theres nothing left on the air to compare it to.
You realize that instead of rejoicing at the fact that your favorite
episode of your favorite show is the last thing on the air, you
actually just start to feel this odd and crushing sense of
disappointment in the fact that its the only thing left.
You start to wonder about exactly when it was that the amount
of times that one episode that was left had been replayed more
than one hundred times, but you know that to be told the
actual number of how many times that episode had been
repeated would do nothing but depress you.
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You swear that youve seen that episode at least 5,000 times if
you rounded it down, but all it becomes irrelevant when you
cant even bear to look at the television screen anymore.
After a time, these men start to see that all of the thrills and
peaks of those emotions that they experienced at first just
doesnt give them the same feeling that they used to get they
start to feel like we would in the hypothetical situation of the
favorite episode of your favorite show getting replayed infinitely
on the television, and eventually, the loop becomes too much to
bear with pleasure.
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Over time, the other shows start to fade away. Eventually,
there is only one repeat show that keeps on playing over and
over again, without any end in sight.
If youve just met a guy and theres no variety in the ways that
the two of you spend time with one another, you can rest
assured that hes probably not going to just sit back and wait to
be driven mad by the boredom of being committed to you with
absolutely no sign of change or excitement.
As you start settling into one anothers habits and lives, you get
cozy with one another, but the relationship also inevitably starts
to lose a bit of its edge in the process.
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How do you think you should go about fixing this issue with the
natural order of developing relationships? How do you think this
problem can be fixed without anyone losing their minds?
Well Ive got good news for you the answer to this issue is
incredibly simple. The only thing that you have to do in order to
come out of the initial stages of a relationship with your sanity
(and actual relationship) intact, is to make use of what I like to
call Monstrous Intrigue Phrases.
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if you need space. In fact, I think both of us need space
at the moment.
Very few men actually expect, even still in this day in age,
women to actively suggest that they need their own space when
the men need space.
Lots of guys are ready for a woman theyve been with to start
on an aggressive campaign of chasing after them they stop
being as available, but when you actually refrain from trying
extra hard to keep him when he starts to pull away from you,
youre actually opening the doors to him becoming a whole lot
more interested in you in general. He may actually start
thinking about you a whole lot more.
Now when you say something like this, youre letting him know
that youve got your own things going on.
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the reality of how you spend your spare time.
When he clearly sees that you have a full life of your own and in
fact arent going to spend all of your waking hours waiting for
him to come around when hes done dealing with his own
business, youll find that hes going to be a lot more likely to
take the initiative in setting up times to meet with you.
The best case scenario with this technique is actually that hell
become a little bit anxious.
If you play your cards right with this technique, youll be able to
have made it so that he might actually begin to slightly fear the
prospect of you going off and finding another man whose
schedule is more congruent with yours than it is with his own
as we covered before, human beings are even more afraid of
loss than they are fond of gain.
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While youre plainly addressing the fact that you two have been
taking some time away from one another, youre doing in a way
that shows youre actually appreciative of the fact that youve
had that time apart.
Youre showing the man that you are equally appreciative of the
time you have to spend with him as you are of time that you
have to be your own person as well.
When you exhibit comfort with the time that the two of you
have to be on your own, you are exhibiting a certain kind of
mental maturity that will highly endear you to the kind of man
who likes a well-balanced woman in his life.
Not only are you showing him that youre centered enough to
handle his absence without having some kind of nuclear
meltdown, youre also doing it while offering a legitimate
incentive for seeing you again soon.
His will to see you again will be supported by his curiosity about
just what it could be that you have to tell him about whats
been going on in your life since youve gone.
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Eric! Ive been getting mixed feelings about us lately, I
dont know if its good or bad, but I am glad that both of
us have time to each other to reflect better on things. Oh
& by the way, a few new & exciting changes have taken
place that Id love to share with you someday.
When you say that youve been getting mixed feeling about a
guy that youve been seeing, almost nothing else can give the
guy an equal sense of being confused and anxious about just
what it is that your opinion of his is.
Its not like youre outright telling him that you want nothing to
do with him, but at the same time, you are leaving the perfect
amount of uncertainty in the corner of the room for him to think
about.
When you show that you yourself are uncertain about where
things could be headed between the two of you, youll be
showing him that youre anything but stuck in the same old set
routine.
Hell be forced to accept the fact that you yourself are a person
of a life that is always subject to change, which will let him
know that getting involved with you will not equate to anything
resembling boredom.
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Send him on the adventure of getting to know you instead of
laying it all out on the table like a boring, linear textbook about
yourself.
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Chapter 12 Secret Fantasy Phrases
I dont think theres many men out there who will ever honestly
just stand up and admit it, but honestly, deep down all men
desire a woman who can simply make them experience the
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kinds of feelings that hes never actually been able to have
before.
Did you know that you can turn a man on just by delivering the
kinds of words that can coalesce in his subconscious and erupt
into a series of vivid images in his brain?
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When youre stimulating the image processing brain in a way
that can attract a man with the kind of stimuli that rock his
perspective from the very core, what youre doing is fulfilling a
latent desire of his that he himself may have never been aware
that he actually possessed deep down.
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to have set the stage to raise things up to the next level.
Now, here are some special phrases that you can use for the
purpose of getting tension up to the best possible level for
making a powerful impact.
The phrases that you use in order to build up tension dont need
to be long and complex in order to get a high caliber of effect.
With a line as simple as mentioning that you like the way his
eyes sparkle, youll be kicks-starting a thought process related
to something that he may never even think about.
When you tell him that his eyes are sparkling, hell have no way
to visualize that without representing it in his head and trying
to imagine what his own sparkling eyes look like most
importantly, the sparking will be in relation to you.
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imagination.
Any time that he holds your hand again, he just might feel
phantom palpitations in his own heart that lead him to
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imagining what it must be like to have a heart thats
legitimately feeling like it could beat right out of the chest.
It really doesnt get much more honest than this. With this
phrase, you have effectively fused the advantages of being both
innocent and naughty in your dialog.
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on me, made my heart accelerate like crazy.
Now with this fantasy phrase, you are introducing the power of
stimulating his memory. He will be considering the idea of being
with you in the present moment, the future, and the past as
well.
With just one fantasy phrase such as this, you can effectively
set your man on the track to qualitatively assessing all of the
past moments that you two have ever shared together.
Now this is one of the simplest fantasy phrases that you can
employ, but it is strikingly powerful all the same. There are few
more iconic sensations for a human being than the touch of
another persons lips on the skin, and so when it comes to
creating a fleshed-out fantasy, something such as this will be
exceedingly hard to beat.
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Eric, you make me feel like the most important woman
in the world & honestly that turns me on in ways I cant
describe.
Youre honestly letting him know that you have a fantasy about
the two of you being more than just a casual flee, but at the
same time, youre letting him know what something else sits at
the base too something raw and saucy that can add a bit of
embellishing edge to your emotional expressiveness..
There may be plenty of women hes met in the past who have
complimented him on his looks, but when you tell him that the
fact that he prioritizes you turns you on, he might be taken
aback and intrigued at the same time.
There are some couples out there who can go for years at a
time without being able to articulate to one another the same
amount of raw emotion and honestly contained in the above
phrase, and so when you do something like this, youre striking
a cord within him that may rarely ever actually get struck.
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This is glorious tag-team attack that involves eighty percent of
all of his senses sight, smell, touch and sound all at the same
time.
Eric, I shouldnt say this but I cant help it! You looked
extremely handsome the other day and I couldnt push
that image out of my mind, not even for a single second.
I dont know this but when I was looking at you that day
my mind was imagining things, naughty thingsOkay! I
should stop now.
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Eric, when you hugged me the other day and lovingly
moved your hands up & down my spine, I felt so turned
on that just controlling my temptations was a struggle.
Being held by you gives me the greatest feeling in the
world.
Now unlike the phrases that ask his mind to travel back to a
point at which the two of you physically touched one another,
this is a purely sensory stimulus exercise that invites him to
create an entire nights worth of limitless fantasies that you
could have been having about him all night.
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By injecting the mental image into something as casual as
kisses and hugs, you guarantee that the image will be
sharpened every time that the two of you actually do kiss or
hug.
Its not very often that a woman will express admiration for
something as specific as mans bad mood, and so with this, hell
be taken aback by the sheer unconventionality of your
compliment.
With a fantasy phrase like this and the one that weve just
covered, you are going to be able to turn the mans own
emotions into vessels for the flight of your mental images.
Any time that hes feeling a bit pissed off or intense, he may be
associating the experience with the thought of you when he
least expects it.
I never told you this, but the other day, seeing you in
that fancy suit truly turned me on. Okay, I better stop.
Ive got things to do today, cant let that image of you
drive me crazy again.
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Where the last fantasy phrase set up a situation in which hed
be liable to think of you any time that he feels a certain
emotion, this fantasy phrase will encourage him to think about
you any time he looks at his own suit -minimal effort, maximum
effect.
After you make a statement like this, any time that he even
briefly looks at you, he might be considering the effect that he
has on your hormones with his eyes.
The sky is truly the limit when it comes to the ways that you
can frame these fantasy phrases.
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Chapter 13 Permanent Obsession Phrases
Once upon a time, I was on a desperate quest to discover all of
the answers in regards to men and relationships.
Dont worry, Im not going to put you to sleep with all of the
fine technical details.
Im going to cut right down to the juicy core of it all if you can
understand what I have to share with you there, youll be able
to apply what you learn to every single situation you find
yourself in which a guy.
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No matter who the man is, you will have the necessary
foundation to get the exact results that youre after.
If you want to take the best advantage you can of the most
critical period that you have in order to capture the mans
interest at the best possible opportunity. If you can make a
killer first impression, then more than half of your work is
already done.
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As an online dating advantage
In todays day and age, online dating is no longer considered
nearly as taboo as it used to be near the beginning of the rise
of the Internet. Online dating, even on Facebook, has become
exponentially more common than it has in the past.
Its no secret that occasionally, men are going to try and test
you in ways that you may not immediately expect.
Every now and then, there will be a man who wants to see just
how far youre willing to go for him even if hes not doing it
consciously, you can still very well be tested by cold behavior.
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This technique is a time-tested and verified breaker of any and
all tests that women may take in regards to men who exhibit
curious behavior towards them.
Any time that you feel a man may be putting you through some
kind of character test, you will have absolutely no reason to
fear. Instead of dreading the character tests, you will be able to
completely embrace them and dominate them before it ever
even comes close to being a problem.
This is what youve been waiting for after you digest the full
value of what I have to share here, all of your man problems
will seem like little more than childs play.
Now, without further ado, heres the vital secret that you need
to know in order to draw out the full power of all of the phrases
that Ive shared with you thus far.
During each interaction you have with a man, your job is
to twist everything he says to make it sound as if he is
trying to get you to like him or trying to win you over.
Out of all of the techniques that Ive seen work over the years,
that have been very few that Ive seen so effective as this.
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By making it so that each interaction you have with a man
makes it seem as though hes going on the offensive, you are
basically ensuring that the ball is always squarely in your court
instead of his.
Lets just take a look at an example here that can shed some
light on how to use this technique when a man is rejecting you
indirectly
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Him I dont think well get along.
Basically, what you did was take what he said and flip it right
back over into something that changed the context of the entire
exchange with a few well-placed words, you legitimately
made it seem as though it was actually he himself who was
getting rejected by you all along.
Now after youve managed to pull off something like this, you
will basically force him to come to realization that hes never
really understood things as much as he thought that he did.
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extremely personally as soon as it happens.
You dont have to outright say that you dont accept his words,
but when you go about things in this fashion, you engaging in a
subversive practice that will befuddle him without cluing him in
on what youre actually doing.
When you show him that what he said doesnt really matter to
you all that much, you are establishing yourself as an alpha
female thats not going to be reduced to a sniveling wreck just
because a man didnt immediately jump to the idea of being
with her.
There are far too many men out there who seem to have this
misconception that every little thing that they say is
immediately validated by default. Rather than thinking of
exactly what the reason may be why they said X, Y, or Z, they
will immediately jump to assuming that theres no need to think
about it at all.
When you make it seem as though the man has actually been
the one who has been attracted to you all along, hell suddenly
feel like he has to fight to justify exactly whatever it is that he
said in the first place.
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Heres the best part about using this technique effectively
even though youll be transferring all of the power in the
equation to yourself, hell have no idea that you actually wield
as much power as you do.
Now here are a couple of examples of the ways that you can
use these phrases to your advantage whenever the time may
arise.
You Okay! Slow down tiger, lets take this one step at
a time (And then offer your cheek for the kiss).
As was said before, men love to believe that theyve got you on
the ropes at all times just because they think theyre being
smooth or smart.
If you tell him to slow down, its going to instantly shatter any
perception he has they hes the one who has all of the control in
the equation.
You Well, you seem like a safe enough guy so far. But
a part of me doesnt trust you yet!
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Him (If he gets a little nervous).
Adding in that you think hes cute when hes nervous is going to
do two every useful things for one, its going to make it so
that he knows youve still got at least an iota of interest in him
in spite of the fact that you got a little bit nervous around him.
At the same time, calling him cute is also going to add to the
uncertainty factor just a little bit too.
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Him Were better off being friends.
He probably expects you to try and find all kinds of ways that
hes wrong when you say something like this, but when you
simply agree with him, youll be showing him that youre not
like all of those other desperate and clingy girls who cant last
more than a couple of hours without some mans approval. You
show that youre a person, not an unfinished half waiting to be
claimed.
Hes probably preparing for you to deny the fact that you like
him after he says this, but after you come back by confirming
that you do and calling him annoying, it will be like a double-
whammy blow to his expectations that leaves his head spinning.
Here you are not even accepting his idea of rejection, rather
you are flipping the tables by letting him know that you never
really thought the two of you could work well together as a
couple anyway.
This would instantly put him in the submissive seat & he would
wonder if you even liked him at all.
Here are a few more quick examples you can use once your
date is over & youre headed back home (Use these as texts).
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It was a great night; It was cute to see you sneakily
checking me out.
You are a nice guy, I like you and it was cute how you
kept staring at me as I finished my food.
Did someone tell you how cute you look when youre
angry? Your little nose goes all red.
This is just a cute little way to reverse the script and put him in
a role where he seeks your validation.
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If he is acting distant, say the following
Guys love to pull the its so cute when you do (X,Y,Z) card on
a girl when shes frustrated, but its not often that theyll be
talked to in this way at the same time let him have it and
watch the confusion run over his face when it happens.
If he wants to be left alone, say the following
Okay! Please have all the time you want. Either way, I
know how crazy youre about me and wont be able to
keep your hands away from me for too long.
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Hell know you mean business.
OR
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Chapter 14 Subconscious Bonding Phrases
The element that Im coming from is the kind that fully awakens
the instincts within him that compel him to embrace his role as
a protector.
Im talking about the instincts within him that truly arouse his
natural need for commitment, instead of the reasons a woman
will try to give him to want commitment.
As a matter of fact, the woman who can master the core of this
element will essentially be fulfilling her man in a way that
absolutely nothing else in the world can.
Hes never going to want to lose you, and it will all be because
of hundreds of tiny factors that blend together and create a
grand picture of paradise with someone he sees as the ultimate
partner.
With nothing more than the most subtle gestures, you will be
able to trigger a certain kind of affection within him that you
will literally be able to feel youll be able to feel the affection
pulsing from within him when he holds you, when he hugs you,
when his head is on your shoulder and in the way that he plays
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with your hair.
Once upon a time, there were fishermen that had made a sport
out of competing amongst themselves to see which among
them could collect the most fish.
However, there was one fisherman among all of the rest who
managed to stand out by being capable of catching far more
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than the average amount of fish on a regular basis. For this one
particular fisherman, it would seem as though every single day
was always his lucky day when it came to the daily haul.
Not only was this one fisherman capable of catching at least ten
fish per day, but he was actually even able to regularly outshine
the other fisherman by over ten times what they were able to
catch on a regular basis.
This short, beardy, heavy man was able to reel in fifty of sixty
fish per day, in comparison to the other fishermens typical
hauls of about five or six fish in a day.
Naturally, all of the other fishermen were more than just a little
bit jealous of the mans seemingly inexplicable success with his
daily hauls. With his almost unnatural success rate, the man
managed to inspire more than a few ambitious copycats.
When they were finally devoid of all hope, they found no other
choice than to approach the man directly and ask him just what
exactly the secret was behind his insane success rate.
The bearded mans reply was low and subtle. He replied, -I try
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to think like the fish, while everyone else is thinking like a
fisherman.
You might not know this but fish prefer a certain kind of
water temperature, so they swim to a specific place in the
ocean where the water suits them.
There are certain times during the day when theyre most
hungry, and most likely to be lured into bait.
While other man scratched their heads about why fish wouldnt
take a bit of their bait, this man knew in advance that the spot
they were fishing in was a poor choice.
The moral of the story is this: if you want to catch fish, then
you have to think like the fish. Its really as simple as that.
Now chances are that youre not looking to catch sixty fish,
though, so what does this have to do with you?
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In truth, if youre looking to unlock the deepest amount of
affection within your man that you can, then the story of the
magical fisherman is related to everything that you want.
You see, most women out there are stuck approaching their
relationship issues in a manner that can actually be compared
to the average fishermen in the story.
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How is it possible for us to understand men even better then
they themselves do?
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heroes and one-of-a-kind saviors, and a statement like this
satisfies that need very plainly.
When you say that he makes you feel loved, you are instantly
making him feel like that hero in your eyes that he strives to
become every single say in order to feel fulfilled as man.
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Not only will he feel like a hero, but also, when that action is
reinforced, hes going to do it more often and with higher
enthusiasm this is mutually beneficial for the both of you.
When you show him that you legitimately care about the things
that hes invested in, hes going to feel more motivated to
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pursue those interests of his that get him out of bed in the
morning as a core component of the kind of person that he is
by default.
When you tell you man that you are able to benefit simply from
understanding who he is as a person, you are basing the entire
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foundation of the relationship from a place that is extremely
positive and conducive to happiness for the both of you.
At the same time, you will be making him feel like more than
just a hero you will be making him feel like a teacher,
someone who has something valuable to share with the world in
terms of bringing out the best in everyone around them.
When you express that he makes you want to become the best
woman that you can be, you are also expressing to him that
you are the kind of woman that wants to grow with him instead
of just riding on his back a high-quality man will appreciate
the fact that you are ambitious enough to want to better
yourself and bring something to the table.
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I feel so safe and protected when you hold me tight.
Thank you so much for being such a loving
husband/boyfriend.
By now, I hope you get the idea and this is just the beginning.
You can come up with plenty of similar phrases on your own by
using these lines as the source.
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Chapter 15 Monogamy Awakener Phrases
If you can identify with these clients of mine, then your story
probably goes something like this:
Youve been seeing him for several weeks, even several months
or years, and you just know in the pit of your heart that hes
truly in love with you. He gives you plenty of respect, he took
his time completing the chase, and he eventually won you over.
You cant quite place your finger on what exactly it is, but you
know that theres something keeping him from fully committing
to you for good.
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The most solid answer that youre able to draw out of him is
that he just doesnt feel like hes quite ready for a complete
commitment.
Even though youve fully let him know how vital the concept of
commitment is to the kind of person that you are, he still hasnt
done anything to indicate that hes going to pop the question
any time soon.
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still a strangely powerful hope.
You need to show this man that youre not just going to be
another woman thats going to stifle him and hold him back
from his potential. You need to show him that everything he
wants and needs is something that you can provide, without a
shred of clinginess and neediness.
Now do you remember exactly what it was like when you met
your man for the very first time? Do you remember what it was
like when you first felt that he was actually interested in you?
Do you remember what it was that first gave you two the spark
that let you know that the two of you actually had the potential
to be something greater? Perhaps it was all your self-assurance
about the matter. Perhaps you were in a place in your life in
which you exuded so much self-confidence and stability that he
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respected you for it.
When you attracted your man to you for the very first time,
maybe it was because you actually had something to bring to
the table. Perhaps it was a combination of the warmth of your
company, your interest, your friends, and your general life
satisfaction.
Chances are that when you first ever actually met your man,
you gave him a legitimate sense of fun. Perhaps you were able
to spend as much time with one another as you wanted,
without even the slightest bit of pressure.
When things were at their best point between the two of you,
you probably werent even aware of it, and chances are that
you werent aware of it either. Now, at this point in time, you
two have come to a point in time in which you are consciously
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aware of the dynamic.
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Now before I move onto the next point, I have to point out the
fact that this may not be taken as completely politically correct
try not to hate me for this. In the worst case scenario, a
woman is going to wind up getting more rights than the man in
equation.
Im not here to defend the male side over the rest of my ladies,
but we have to play it straight. If there was ever a moment in
which it seemed like divorce was imminent, you would be full
entitled to a part of finances, real estate, and a percentage of
everything else that he has too.
So, you see, the male fear of commitment is deeper than just
not being able to see as many different women as he wants it
is an extremely real, valid fear that he has. Even if a man
completely adores you, there is a high chance that hes going to
be highly consumed by the fear in his heart about what the
hard implications of the risks are.
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If he faced a horrible divorce or breakup in the past, youve got
a serious challenge up ahead in getting him to subscribe to the
idea of committing to you and giving it another try.
Now even though all of these reasons are very strong, at the
end of the day, they are really only surface-level reasons the
bigger reasons are generally much deeper than that.
Once upon a time, I had a client who was at a loss for how to
understand why her boyfriend couldnt ever seem to fully
commit to her.
I asked her to give me just a few details about what the nature
of her relationship is, I realized something the things that
they argued over were always the smaller things.
They fought at lot, but at the same time, almost nothing that
they fought over ever actually seemed to merit the extreme
fallout that resulted from it.
Despite the obvious fact that she and her man were generally
arguing over nothing, she didnt seem to fully understand the
situation.
I could see that her boyfriend was observing every single one of
her reactions to the little things that didnt matter individually,
but cumulatively, they determined the course of where things
were going to head in the long term.
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how you react to smaller issues in the relationship if the way
that you handle those things isnt something that he can see
himself dealing with on a larger scale, then the chances of him
settling are far less than they could be.
For all of these reasons, you need to keep these three things
into mind if you want your man to commit to you exclusively.
Above all else, you need to show your man that you would like
to commit, but you dont actually need him to commit to you in
order to feel fulfilled as a human being.
A man needs to know that if he doesnt want you in his life, its
not going to utterly destroy you from the inside out.
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This is going to show your man that a committed relationship
with you doesnt equate to just being trapped or caged.
You arent trying to force your man into doing something that
he has no will at all to do on the other hand, you are giving
this man the absolute freedom he needs to follow what his
heart desires.
It may not be the easiest thing in the world to do, but even
when things arent going entirely in your favor, you will benefit
massively from knowing how to exude a real glow of positivity
when it comes to the way that you conduct yourself around
your man on an everyday basis.
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Remember, humans seek out positivity and actively avoid the
things that fill them with negativity.
If you can show to your man that you will make him laugh
instead of nagging him, he is naturally going to be more
attracted to you and idea of actually committing to you down
the line if youre negative, its the opposite.
Now there are three major reasons why it may seem like your
man may be prevented from committing to you
There are more than few ways you can steer him away from
fearing these three things, and they come in the form of my
Monogamy Awakener phrases. Ive prepared some examples
below.
If hes afraid that you might lock him down, try something like -
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from each other sometimes. Thats healthy for you and
for me, and I wouldnt want it any other way.
Financial struggles are one of the most common and also one of
the most legitimate fears that a man has in regards to what it
means to commit to you.
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A lot of men want to believe that their relationship wont end up
financially compromising them, but with this statement, you
make it one hundred percent clear that he has nothing to worry
about.
If he fears that his life will change for the worse, you can say
things like
Once again, this is something that just about all men fear to an
extent, but rarely get verbally comforted about. If you can show
him that have full intentions of allowing him to indulge in his
freedom, you are not only putting him at ease, but youre also
probably motivating him to keep on living the fullest life that he
can.
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With a statement as simple as this, you are showing your man
that youre not content to live out the days of your relationship
trapped of doing the same old thing, day in and day out.
When they can actually hear the things that they hope for deep
in their heart, it will make them much more willing to commit
than ninety percent of other men out there.
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Final Words
In a way, you could say that it is not only patience, but rather,
the lucrative qualities that result from it.
The feeling of running out of time creates fear, and when one
feels fear, one makes mistakes that could have been avoided.
The mistakes manifest in behaviors that are coercive,
premature, and completely lacking in insight all of which are
perfectly capable being based in nothing but the best
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intentions.
Rather than hoping to force or beg for good results, those who
think like the magical fisherman have learned how to do what it
takes in order to turn the odds as strongly in their favor as
possible. Obsession Phrases will do something even more
valuable than just drawing in the best possible relationship for
you into your life it will assist you in avoiding the worst kinds
of relationships.
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When Obsession Phrases are spoken, they arent only
communicated to the man that youre involved with they are
also communicated to a very deep place within your own mind.
These phrases that allow your man to see that you arent a
codependent whiner will not only psychologically condition him
to respect you more, but they will also condition you to realize
your own power to a greater extent as a result. A woman who
has mastered Obsession Phrases has not only become an expert
in the art of syncing with the ebbs and flows of male
psychology, but also a master of how own domain as well.
I wish you the best in realizing the full extent of what it means
to acquire the ultimate relationship, and in the process, become
an ultimately empowered woman!
Razzle-Dazzle Phrases
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2. I am usually the nicest person youll ever come
across, all my friends say I am the nicest girl they know,
but I have a very evil and weird side to me. Honestly, if I
could tell you the weird things Ive done
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woman pleased as much as you do. I am so thankful to
be around you.
6. Ive been wanting to tell you this, but Ive been the
happiest since the day Ive met you. You give me the
best feeling in the world. Thank you so much for being
there for me.
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3. Eric, I have to confess something. I lose myself when
I am around you. I get needy for your love and I am not
ashamed to admit it. I do get jealous when other girls
stare at you. I long to have you love me, adore me &
cherish me and I do understand thats an unrealistic
expectation. But I just wanted to honestly share my
feelings with you today. Thanks for being such a joy for
me.
4. You know Eric, you might not know this about me,
but Im a sucker for affection. When I love someone, I do
it with all my heart and soul. I love the feeling of being in
love, I love the feeling of being around you.
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4. Eric, both of us wanted to keep it strictly sexual, but
I feel that things are getting too intense between us. Can
we please take a break? I dont want to get too deep into
this.
Obey Me Phrases
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5. Can we please just talk a little bit longer? Im having
a rough time at work and talking to you just makes me
feel better.
Emotional Transparency Phrases
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5. Eric, I dont just see you as my boyfriend/husband, I
actually also see you as my best friend! Youve cared for
me, adored me & have been there for me unconditionally.
I just wanted to let you know that Id really love it if you
could open a little bit more around me emotionally. I
know its not the easiest thing to do when I am being so
demanding of you, but please understand that it would
truly make me feel loved if you opened up more.
2. Ive been having a blast and would love to tell you all
about it. Things have been going great for me. We
definitely needed time apart. I guess when things
happen they happen for a good reason, right? Anyway, I
am in a rush, Ill speak to you or write later.
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feeling your touch makes me feel so safe and warm.
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could go together, and then go out to that really nice jazz
bar you took me to a couple of weeks ago. I know Id
really like that.
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Monstrous Intrigue Phrases
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2. Eric! Your nearness overwhelms me. I shouldnt say
this but just feeling your hands on my hands sends
shivers of delight race through my body.
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10. Eric, I shouldnt say this but I cant help it!
You looked extremely handsome the other day and I
couldnt push that image out of my mind, not even for a
single second. I dont know this but when I was looking
at you that day my mind was imagining things, naughty
thingsOkay! I should stop now.
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better stop. Ive got things to do today, cant let that
image of you drive me crazy again.
You Okay! Slow down tiger, lets take this one step at
a time (And then offer your cheek for the kiss).
You Well, you seem like a safe enough guy so far. But
a part of me doesnt trust you yet!
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You Thank you, just dont think anything naughty yet.
After the date, here are some phrases you can text him
You are a nice guy, I like you and it was cute how you
kept staring at me as I finished my food.
Did someone tell you how cute you look when youre
angry. Your little nose goes all red.
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I dont mind your anger as long as I get to see this hot
intensity on your face. Its so damn sexy!
Okay! Please have all the time you want. Either way, I
know how crazy youre about me and wont be able to
keep your hands away from me for too long.
If hes afraid that you might lock him down, try something like -
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I believe in having a life of our own outside of the
relationship. Just because were together doesnt mean
we should do everything together. I would love it if you
spend some free time with your buddies and do things on
your own.
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