2018: Clarity of Vision

A worksheet for refinement and focus

C.K.Ami

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Mind Intellect Consciousness Academic

Body Emotional Energy Dreaming Resting

Sexuality & Intimacy Self-assuredness & Heart & Greater Love Communication,
CoreConfidence Expression, Voice

Enviorment Home Participation/ Career Financial

Volunteering/
Giving

Cherished Humanity Higher Dimensional Vision/ Clarity

Relationships Relationships Connection/ God

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 Defining The Terms:
Potential questions to consider in brainstorming

Mind:
This is the quality of your mind and mental processes.

1. How is the quality and duration of my focus?

2. How strong is my ‘muscle’ of attention?
3. What practices can I adopt to strengthen my memory?
4. What lenses of perception am I valuing over others? What additional
lenses can I add to expand my general awareness?
6. How efficiently and easily can I retrieve information I need?
7. How balanced am I when using optimistic or pessimistic viewpoints?
8. How can I better my practice of rational critical thinking?
9. How much am I practicing distinguishing between intuition. impulse/
desire, and paranoia? If I can distinguish between the three, how can I
strengthen my intuition?
10. How much time am I spending in deep effective contemplation?
11. Consider learning a musical instrument.
12. What methods of organization can I research and apply?
13. How can I improve my inner dialogue?
14. Do I talk to myself like a partner, negotiating; or like a slave,
demanding? Which way will be the most effective long-term to talk & treat
myself ?
15. How often am I giving away my autonomy and my sovereignty by
checking into social media?
16. Do I have a healthy relationship with technology? What would be a
better way to interact with it?
17. Am I protecting my mind, my critical thinking skills, my focus range,
from the rapid, demanding, and endorphin draining social media human
energy farming corporation? How much of myself am I willing to
consent to give away for marketing and consumption?
18. My mind is a tool, it does not define me. My identity is not my mind.

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Intellect:
This is how I am choosing to learn what I am learning, what I am learning, where, and when.

1. What sources of information am I using to build my intellect? Are

they of good or questionable quality?
2. What am I learning to prepare me for where I want to be in the future?
3. Learning another language opens new worlds, friends and
opportunities to our lives; when I weigh the cost/benefit conditions for
myself, how should I prioritize language acquisition?
4. Am I satisfied with my range of vocabulary?
5. What well-known philosophies echo the way that I view life? What are
some philosophies that differ?
6. What are the Key Topics I want to Learn?
7. How can I improve the process of my learning journey?
8. How effective am I reading? Taking notes? Recalling new information?
9. What communities can I belong to that will sharpen my intellect?
10. My intellect is a tool, it does not define me. My identity is not my
intellect. I am not my thoughts. I am that which is aware of those thoughts.

Consciousness:
What makes us more then machines and bundles of response mechanisms or animals driven by
impulse desire and reaction.

1. Am I asking the right questions?

2. How can I ask better questions?
3. How aware am I of subtleties?
4. In which ways can I be more lucid?
5. How would I define my personal ethical standpoint? How can I practice
this ethic?
7. Do I have an idea of a moral baseline that humanity could flow with
for a more harmonious collective experience? Am I living according to that
moral baseline?
9. How can I strengthen my control over my impulses?

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 10. Am I practicing using my desire as a tool, instead of being used by my
desires?
11. Can I prolong the time of reaction and refocus it into a considered
action?
12. Am I satisfied with the time and quality of my meditation/ prayer/
silent time?
13. Am I utilizing hierarchical thinking in consciousness? Does hierarchical
thinking reflect a deep understanding of consciousness?

Academic:
How we are engaging in the academic community

1. Am I using the opportunity of my education to get its highest potential

benefit?
2. Am I engaged with the community available at the academic
institution; students, teachers, clubs, organizations, scholarships, grant
communities
3. How effective am I at connecting with others/ networking for post
academia?
4. What scholarships or grants would help me succeed with more ease?
5. Publish something. Anything. Just practice submitting and publishing a
critique, a poem, art, a short story, scientific paper, theory or opinion piece.

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 6. Practice public speaking. We will all have to speak in public at some
point in our lives, might as well practice it now.
7. Despite what my grades or evaluations reflect, how do I feel that I am
learning? What could take it up to the next notch?
8. How can I embody the improvement that the educational system
needs?
9. How am I supporting others in their learning journey?
10. I am not my credentials.

Body:
Lets talk about self-care, routines and rituals, staying or getting healthy, preventative health care,
physical exercise, and body-mind-emotion indicators
1. How am I embodying my sovereignty? (That is, who has final say or
jurisdiction over my body)
2. How can I practice being a better listener for my body? Do I get sick
when I am stressed out? Do I sprain my ankle when I am having difficulty
making decisions in my life? Do I get digestive problems when dealing with
uncomfortable social situations? How can I use these body cues to be more
insightful about deeper patterns that are happening in my body. Can I move
from taking an advil for the symptom of a headache, to dealing with the root
cause of why I got a headache in the first place?
3. Who can help me when I feel stuck?
4. What can I do now to prevent getting sick in the future? What is in my
power to control to avoid getting cancer, diabetes, anxiety, etc.
5. What physical exercise is best for my personality type? Do I like going
to the gym? hikes in nature? Capoeira, dancing, yoga, tai chi, parqkore,
acrobatics, sports, wrestling, swimming, rock climbing, circus, sex?
6. Am I as healthy as I can be? What can I do to get to the next step of
health?
7. How is my diet? how can I improve my diet?
8. Have I found a fermented live food that I like and eat on a regular basis?
(sauerkraut, kimchee, homemade beers, kombucha, kefir, un-pasterized
yoghurt, pickles- so many all over the world especially in Korea and
Japan)

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 9. Am I educated about the supplements, vitamins, herbs, that will better my
physiological processes?
10. What is my daily self care routine? Have you heard about
dinacharya?
11. What is my weekly self-care ritual and treat?
12. How much do I feel comfortable about touching my own body, how
can I practice safe, gentle, loving, patient, and nourishing touch for myself ?
13. What massage is best for my personality to practice? Practice Safe-
touch.
14. When was the last time I cleaned out my deep sinuses? Neti-pot time?
15. When was the last time I cleaned my ears? Ear-candle time?
16. When was then last time I scrapped off all the refuse from my tongue
and cleaned out the pores in my tongue? Tongue- scrapping time?
17. When was the last time I opened and cleaned the pores and channels in
my teeth? Oil pulling time?
18. What does my hair, skin, and nails reflect need more attention?
19. Detox time? How is my liver and gallbladder doing?
20. Am I happy, honestly, with how I feel physically? What can I do to get
there?
21. Am I satisfied with how I look, honestly? What can I do to get there? (this
is not about societal standards of beauty- this is about your own self-defined
value system of physical bodily respect. )
22. Have I dealt with being being touched without my consent? Check out
Tami Kents book, Wild Feminine.
23. How do I physically process and move through trauma? Look at
Somatic therapy methods.
24. How connected am I to being aware of more subtle sensations?
25. How flexible am I? How strong am I?
26. Am I connected to my ancestors? Am I participating in taking
responsibility for ancestral healing, trauma, or reparation?

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 27. How often do I practice expressing & showing joy, happiness and
gratefulness? Practice smiling helps signal our body to release stress-
relieving endorphins. Smile for yourself in the privacy of your own temple,
smile at yourself- your doing great and I love you so so much.
28. How good am I at healing myself? Where or why am I giving away
my power asking for someone else to heal me? Am I treating my doctor like a
savior or like a partner?
29. My body is a sacred container, yet it does not define me. My identity is
not my health, nor my gender, nor my ancestry, nor my physical alter-
abilities, nor my body. These are my cherished and respected tools and
influences that contain and sustain me.

Emotional
Emotional health, range, skill-building

1. How can I practice being comfortable and confident to feel a full range
of emotions
2. Who makes me feel its safe to express my emotions? How can I carry that
safety with me to express myself with sincerity and integrity wherever I go?
a. Am I expressing my emotions sincerely or for show or
manipulation?
3. Am I practicing focusing my emotional passion into refined pure potential
energy?
4. How can I be more emotionally balanced?

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 5. How do I perceive emotional responsibility? How can I learn more
about emotional maturity and responsibility?
6. Can I express emotions openly? What do I need in order to do so?
What has happened in the past that has inhibited it, and now that I am here
and safe and no longer there, how can I take back the power and confidence
to have autonomy and agency with my emotions once again.
7. Do I follow a process of consent before sharing my raw emotions? If
I don’t receive consent to share my emotions, do I know how and where I
can share and express my emotions in nature without hurting anyone or
anything while simultaneously respecting my deep and valuable need to
express emotion?
8. How can I become more open to seeing and feeling sad things? How can I
move beyond feeling sorry or depressed for the sad things, and into
a place of informed action?
9. How can I become more open to seeing and feeling happy things? How
can I move beyond my bubble of happiness and harmony, and into a
place of informed action?
10. How can I express my anger in a respectful, responsible, and
refined way.
11. How refined is my ability to distinguish between passion, lust,
love, affinity, comfort, and mirroring?
12. How refined is my ability to distinguish between hate, disapproval,
mis-understanding, challenge to a core value system, challenge to
my ego, a hurt cry for love?
13. How well do I move through the steps of emotional maturity? 1.
Recognize emotion, 2. Observe triggering thought or situation that created
emotion, 3. Removing the judgment label of the emotion ( ‘anger’ , ‘frustration’, ‘sadness’,
‘ecstatic’) and see the underlying raw potential energy available. 4. Understand the outcome
you want from expressing your emotion. 5. Negotiating consent from those around you to
share your emotions, or finding a neutral place to express it 6. Gathering your emotion
or the raw potential energy and focusing it into expression. 7. Observing the result, does it
align with your original intention of sharing it? 8. Seek feedback. 9. Reflect and Resolve.

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 14. How much do I allow guilt or shame to stop or inhibit myself from
taking responsibility and action? Is it necessary?
15. In which ways do I see myself belonging?
16. In which ways to I see my identity?
17. When the tension between my belonging and my identity arrises, how do
I maintain equanimity and balance?
18. What are my coping mechanisms?
19. What is the worst case scenario baseline of my reactions? Can I raise the
bar a bit?
20. What is the best case scenario aptitude of my reactions? How often do I
react this way?
21. How do I deal with fear?
22. How often do I practice focusing on what I love and filling my body with
that sensation of love when I am in scary situations? or when I have fearful
thinking? How can I strengthen my muscle of moving my attention
from fear and into love?
23. How can I adapt to change quicker, more efficiently, and more
graceful?
24. How can I respond and hold space to others expressing strong
emotions better?
25. How can I witness trauma in a healing way?
26. How can I witness joy and share in that nectar from just observing?
27. How can I share joy and happiness to strangers and friends better?
28. How can I be a better listener?
29. How can I promote a safe space for others to feel welcome to share
their emotions?
30. How can I hold one another accountable to be responsible with our
emotions?
31. How do I self-soothe?
32. Practice soothing a stranger, and get better at it.
33. My emotions are a tool, they do not define me. My identity is not my
emotions.

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Energy:
Just as a city or a home functions better when it has sufficient and sustainable sources of energy,
so you yourself will function at a more optimal level if you invest some focus into sustainable
sources of energy for your being.

1. What is the quality of my energy? Am I sleepy most of the time?

Hyper?
2. How can I support myself to maintain an energy baseline?
3. Am I getting the proper sleep, food, love, quiet moments, to sustain my
energy?
4. Where in my body do I feel my energy is blocked?
5. What situations alter my energy for the better?
6. What situations alter my energy for the worse?
7. What foods effect my energy levels?
8. How do I protect my energy?
9. Do I give too much of my energy away? Do I keep too much of it? how
can I budget my energy wiser?
10. My energy is a tool, it does not define me. My identity is not my energy
levels.

Dreaming
We spend half of our lives sleeping. Some people find much satisfaction and insight from utilizing
that time wisely through dreaming.

1. Am I dreaming? What is inhibiting me from dreaming and what can I

do to promote dreaming?
2. Am I remembering my dreams? What can I practice to remember my
dreams?
3. How educated am I about dream cycles?
4. Do I record my dreams, am I able to understand the symbolism or
psychological insight that is potential within them?
5. Could I become lucid in my dreams? If so, how will I practice it?
6. If I am lucid, am I meeting teachers in my dreams? Spirit guides? Angels?
Soul groups? Seeking my greater purpose?

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Resting:
Just because we sleep, nap, or take vacation, does not automatically mean that we are resting.
Being able to rest is a skill, and becoming more purposeful and specific about how we rest will
result in more refreshing moments of rest.

Sexuality & Intimacy:

Mmm… this sounds delicious. We all need intimacy to survive, but we can move beyond the
needs-based animalistic tendencies and into more skilled ways of giving and receiving. But before
the fun and orgasmic part, lets take care of business.

Section: Business:
1. Mutuality. How can I share in the mutual responsibility of
contraception? Despite what body you are born into or how you express
your sexuality, it is important that we all understand and take responsibility
for contraception. Sexual satisfaction is a group effort, and so is being
responsible for our population, resources, and health of one
another. It is not automatically the female-bodies responsibility to use
contraception. A male-bodied individual can also use contraception;
herbally with Neem or physiologically through a little snip, or in the
act, with condoms or pulling out. All parties can track the cycle to see
when ovulation and menstruation is occurring and which days are the
most fertile days.
2. be kind and aware to the fluctuations of hormones for folks on the
pill, folks before menstruation or nearing menopause, and folks taking
hormones. We all experience this to some degree and can make a better
effort at responding to a very natural physical process.
3. Practice making sexy-time conversation comfortable for yourself.
Each time you practice it with your partner it will get easier, I promise.
4. Tell your partners before engaging in sexy time about any STIs or
STDs you may have. They have the right to make a decision for themselves.
5. Support your partners to share their STD or potential STI
information to the new lover, some STIs, like chlamydia does not show
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 female-bodied individuals. LOOK OUT FOR YOUR SISTER. If you have
had an STI like chlamydia, implore all of your partners to share that
information with their female-bodied lovers so they can get antibiotics as
soon as possible. The danger of not doing so and causing another
discomfort, cancer, surgery, or death, outweighs the little bit of embarrassed
discomfort.
6. Get checked regularly. Have a pretty mellow love life? a regularly
scheduled checkup every 6 months or whatever is comfortable for you and
your partner(s) should be fine. Just got through a break up and had a little
Tinder fun more times then you can remember? Get checked once a
month :) Remember, the older we get, just statistically, we have a higher
probability of encountering an STD or STI. There are lots of humans and
fluids everywhere.
7. Cleanliness! Did you cum on those sheets more then a few times or
nights and are still sleeping in it? Hmmmm… Do you think that is the nicest
environment for more sleepovers? Change your sheets frequently.
8. Most everybody loves morning head, unless your sexy part is dirty and
crusty. Take a quick rinse before bed to make sure your optimal for all the
potential grooviness.
9. Is your underwear tattered, stained, or faded? can you buy a coffee? Forgo
the coffee and buy new underwear or boxers instead! yey!
10. Wash all toys after use immediately. Duh.
12. WASH YOUR HANDS AND CLIP YOUR NAILS BEFORE
FINGERING SOMEONE (who has given you pleasant and conscious
consent, of course). Hands are gross, did you pick something up from the
metro floor before? Tie a shoe lace that was just dragging in dog pee at the
park? Touch a bathroom handle covered in microscopic feces particles? ew.
Wash your hands before you put them in someones orface including their
mouth.
13. Attentively wash those beautiful sexy parts, trim the hair so that
you can see your skin relatively easily. Is anything new? Has the texture
changed? Coloration? Cum quality? Any cuts, blemishes, or bruises?

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 Section: Sexy deliciousness

1. How often do you orgasm? How often do you feel sexually fulfilled and
satisfied? What can you do on you to feel more fulfilled sexually?
2. What types of orgasms do you have? How can you explore other types
of orgasms?
3. How can you give your partner greater sexual satisfaction?
4. Are you ‘boiling their water’ getting them ‘hot’ before the action of
intercourse?
5. Skills practice: Turn someone on just mentally, just with your voice, just
with sound, just with touching their hand, just with a letter, just with a kiss,
etc.
5.a Learn how to give and receive pleasure sexually without
orgasm being a goal or outcome
6. Being sexy is a skill, it is not an innate talent or capability that someone
has. It is not a specific look or body shape, size or wetness factor. Being sexy
is something anybody can practice for fun!
7. How confident and comfortable are you with being you? The
more you accept yourself the sexier you are.
8. What are you exploring sexually? This is not a 50 shades basic
question. Go deeper. Have you looked into Sacred Taoist Sexual Practices
(Mantak Chia)? There are sexual techniques and skills from every culture,
and hundreds and thousands or years of humanity refining the practice of
giving and receiving pleasure, maybe its time to look into that…
9. How much do you practice pleasing yourself by yourself?
10. How can you practice respecting your own sexuality more?
11. How can you practice respecting others sexuality?
12. Do you ask for consent? How receptive are you to accepting
boundaries?
13. Are you comfortable saying no? How much do you practice defining
your boundaries?

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 14. In what ways have you participated in the commodification of
sexuality in our consumeristic culture? Would you like to continue
participating that way?
15. In what ways can you shift from using sexuality as a commodity
into using it relationally and energetically?
16. Make time for sexy time, it can be a way to relate deeper to yourself,
another and our greater sense of spirituality. It has been used for healing,
as we can focus the energy from sexual practice or orgasm into a certain part
of our body, such as our liver, in order to bring greater healing energy and
overall well-being. We can learn how to express our orgasms inwardly and
upward, instead of outwards. Do not waste your precious orgasms and
sexual energy. It is a source of great potential power for you. Learn
about how to use it well and practice frequently.
17. Discern and choose when you want to engage in fucking, sex,
making love, healing passion, etc. Only one type makes for a bland diet.
18. Kiss with sincerity, and love with Honesty.
19. It is safe for you to be in your body and to experience giving
and receiving pleasure. You innately deserve it just as you are.

Self assuredness & Core Confidence:

We do not value one tree over another, unless we are in the lumber business, so why then, do we
view ourselves within a hierarchical structure of one life having more or less value then another?
This section is about understanding our core innate value, that is similar to every other humans
value at the moment we were born, and moving into that state of original harmony when we all
acknowledged one another as equally valued. This section is also about building the trust we have
in ourselves. How self-assured we are in our capabilities to make decisions, do the right thing,
stand up for ourselves, be rational, and deserving of emotions, love, intimacy, a respected identity
and belonging.

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 1. How much do I trust myself? How can I practice building trust in
myself ?
2. What small actions or habits can I begin to prove to myself that I
am trustworthy? Just as we dont expect to benchpress 100 ends on our first
trip to the gym, and instead start out with the 2 or 5 pnd weights, so then
also we need to start with something smaller then what we know we can
handle. Make it easy! Tiny steps build the confidence for later larger
steps.
3. Do I see humanity in a hierarchical fashion? Who or what taught me that?
Do I actually believe that?
4. Do I treat others in a hierarchical manner? Does that align with my
core values?
5. What are my core values?
6. Which core values do I practice on the regular?
7. What core values would I like to add to my life and personality?
8. What is my inner image of myself? Is that the most effective way to
view myself ? If I were to view myself better, what is in my power to bring
myself to help me in that process?
9. What emotions to I see myself emoting inwardly? Do I hold an
inner smile? Do I hold an inner nervousness and anxiety? Do I hold an inner
discontentment? Do I hold an inner rage?
10. What inner emotion would I want the person I love and want to protect
to see in me? What inner emotion would I want to show a scared small
child?
11. What inner emotion is going to be useful and helpful to me in living the
life I most desire to live?
12. In which ways are you lying to yourself? Could you let go of it in
order to get better clarity? You have the courage to make your life how you
want it. Don’t listen to the past or those who didn't believe in you. Its no
longer about the external environment. This is now all about the internal
environment. How can you be honest with yourself.
13. What disguises are you using? What if you didn't need disguises? What
would that be like?

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 14. Who told you that you were not valuable? not good enough? beautiful
enough? smart enough? Did you believe them? If you did believe them,
WHY?
15. If you saw someone come up to your best friend and tell them the
meanest things that have ever been said to you, would you let your friend
believe those hurtful things? We need to be our own best friends.
16. Do you think that when people say mean and hurtful things, that it could
be that they are just crying out for love, but they don’t know how to ask for
love any other way? Its weird, but, what if….?

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 17. When do I find that I am mean and hurtful? What is the emotion or the
thought that triggers that action? Its usually just a handful of certain triggers
or memories that make us washout, see if you can find the pattern. Then
when you see the pattern, take a look at that original memory or trigger, why
is it there, and is it necessary anymore?
18. What makes you feel full of love right now? Is it your child when
they laugh? Is it that stubborn piece of grass that grows between the
sidewalk? Is it smashing patriarchy? Is it when your stocks jump up? is it the
when the kittens purr and cuddle? Is it warm soups, sweet kisses, letters from
friends? Whatever it is in your life that brings you love, FOCUS on it.
Remember it daily, as often as you can, and keep that feeling inside
of you, its all yours to keep forever.
19. In the moments when I am excellent at making decisions in my life,
what is contributing to that? Do I have the support of friends? Am I full of
energy? Have I been following a string of synchronicity?
20. Where do I feel I belong? In the forest with the forest spirits? With my
dog cuddling? In the corner office surrounded by sharp colleagues?
Choreographing a world-acclaimed dance piece with inspired creatives?

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 Giggling with my friends in the park with wine? Making noise music in a
basement? Running through the woods on acid with other weirdos?
Negotiating International law in Switzerland? Playing board games drinking
rum with other zombies? Debating with post-Marxists? Grilling with
the family? Painting murals? Tending gardens with the Zapatistas?
Organizing justice and social movements? Chillin with the babes?
21. How good am I at making others feel welcome and like they
belong as well?
22. If someone gets hurt around me, can I stand up for them? How can I
protect myself and protect others?
23. What must I have in my life? Music, coffee, an apartment with my
partner, a house with a pool and three car garage, a flat in every
international city, a lover, a cat, plants, justice, books, lots of stuff, access to
education, a garden, family, community resource centers, etc. Decide what
you will not compromise on, and make sure you attain it.
24. Practice posing in confident positions. Put your hands in the air!
This isn't about putting on a show or about not being you, this is all about
how you feel inwardly about yourself, not for anyone else.
25. How can you dress and present yourself better according to your
own definitions? Do you need to learn how to tie a tie? dance in high heels?
take care of linen? Remove stains? make your own lipstick out of rose petals?
26. What goals do you need to boost your confidence for in order to attain it?
Want to learn math at a higher level but have some internal belief that you
are not good at math? Change that limiting belief! People get
brainwashed all the time, might as well brainwash yourself for good.
You can be great at whatever it is you set your mind to. So look up that
research on how to change your mind to unlock your potential.
25. Visualize yourself as your happiest, finishing your goals.
Visualize anything that you want to happen.
26. The quality of our confidence determines our effectives at attaining what
we want in this life, and the effectiveness of creating the change that we
believe must happen in this world. Confidence is internal.

Heart & Greater Love:

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 This is about pure love. Not romantic love or love for one person. It is a general love, the
love that touches every molecule in this existence. Take time to receive pure love from your
surroundings and the universe. Every bird song you hear in the morning is a sweet song for you,
the wind caress your cheek as it passes you by, the sun warms your back supportingly, the ground
reaches up to meet your feet helping each step along the way. There is so much love and care put
into you each moment, if you will take the time to acknowledge and accept it.

1.How well can you show your love through words of affirmation or
expressing affection?
2. How can you serve others or show through action instead of words?
3. What about some surprise gifts?
4. How can you share more quality time with those that you love and with
what you love?
5. How can you improve your ability to show affection through physical
touch? How can you touch others in a non sexual manner, and more in
loving manner? Imagine the best hugs a sweet grandmother gives, can you
practice touching others like that?

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Communication, Expression & Voice:
This section is about using our voice and how we communicate. It is our main tool for
expressing ourselves.
1. How comfortable do I feel about expressing myself vocally? How can
I feel more confident expressing myself ?
2. What times do I notice it is harder for me to communicate? What can I do
to prepare for these times and help me still have my voice heard?
3. Am I able to voice my opinion when I need to?
3.a Am I taking up too much space?
4. Do I talk to much? rattle when Im nervous? Talk over others? Hog the
conversations?
5. If someone gets made fun of or put down next to me, can I practice
using my voice to support them?
5.a How can I use my privileged voice, (i.e. live in the global north, have
access to education, have access to internet,) how can I use my voice to
support those who do not have access to the same privileges I do?

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 6. What words am I using the most? Do those exemplify my inner
territory and reflect my core values?
7. Does the way I communicate invite other people to join in or push
others away?
8. Do I tend to debate? discuss? or dialogue?
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9. How can I bring my conversations more into a dialogue base?
10. What emotions are underlying my tone of voice?
12. How can I work on being a better communicator?
13. Does the way I communicate allow for new ideas to emerge or just
for their to be a ‘winner’ or a ‘right opinion’?

Environment:
This is the space that we reside in, and how we make that into a place. It is our
community, our city, our ecosystem.
1. How am I engaging with my immediate community? Is there a way
I can participate more?
2. Am I participating in keeping a nice environment for everyone? i.e
picking up trash I see on the sidewalk, carrying out bottles I find on hikes,
etc.
3. What am I doing to take care of our global environment? Am I
building soil? recycling? turning lights off when Im not in the room? using
rain water? bicycling instead of driving? carpooling?
4. How much am I educating myself about what else I can do for our
environment?
5. Do I spend time appreciating national parks, city parks, protected
natural reserves?
6. How kind am I to all animals? squirrels, birds, dogs, cats, monkeys,
fish, otter, bears, rats, skunks, horses, elephants, etc.
7. How kind and thankful am I to plants? houseplants, garden plants,
weeds, random city plants?
8. How much do I take care of or value water?
9. How am I dealing with my waste? am I recycling? Am I making
efforts to minimize my use of plastics?

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 10. Can I participate in larger community movements to reduce
waste or clean the environment?
11. Am I using toxic chemicals and am I disposing of them properly?
12. How much am I buying from small family owned businesses, and
how much am I purchasing from corporations?
13. How much do I consume that is made locally?
14. How much of what I own and consume is made from sustainable
resources?
14, How much do I consume that is made from the disadvantage of the
global south or of china?
15. How much longer will I stay complicate with my participation
of taking advantage of other peoples labor?
15. What other ways can I make the areas around me beautiful and
healthy?

Home:
This section is about your home environment. Home sweet haven home.

1. How much of my life is self sustainable? How much to I rely off an
unsustainable system to truck me food, clean my water, provide me with
energy?
2. In what ways can I be a little more self-sustainable this year?
3. How happy am I with my living environment?
4. Should I move to another city/place?
5. Are my things well taken care of? Does the way I treat my things
reflect respect for the resources, time, and labor that was put into making
them for my use?
6. Am I using non-toxic cleaning supplies that doesn't threaten my
health or the health of my children or animals?
7. What changes do I want to see in my environment? Is my home the most
conducive for what it is that I like to do?

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 8. How is the quality of the air in my home? Is there enough
ventilation? Is there mold? Could I use things to help clean the air in my
home such as: plants, oil diffusers, beeswax candles?
9. Is my refrigerator clean?
10. Is my home organized to the point where it doesn't cause me
stress when I need to find something?
11. Do my loved ones feel comfortable and welcome in the space?
12. Am I sleeping well in my space?
13. Is my kitchen a welcome environment for me to cook healthy foods
that I like in it?
14. Is my bathroom inviting to get clean and take care of my self in?
15. Does the art I have around me inspire me?
16. Do I have too much things in my house? Spring cleaning time! If you
don’t love it and it is not useful- get rid of it.

Participation/ Volunteering/ Giving:

We live in a global community. We all have needed help at one time or another and have
benefited from the charity of a stranger. Just as we put focus on how to gain more for ourselves, it
is important to balance that with what we can give to others. Volunteering in a way that helps
your career or academic pursuits is good, but a really great exercise is to give in a way that in no
way benefits yourself- then you can experience the act of just pure giving. It can be anything,
think creatively! Here are some ideas:
1.) go for a walk in your nearby park or forest and pick up all the trash you see and recycle
it responsibly.
2.) pack lunches for the people sleeping on the street and hand them out as you walk to
the metro or to work.
3.) Write little love notes or notes of encouragement and leave them in public places for
strangers to find them.
4.) Work in an animal shelter, a soup kitchen, a needle exchange, a free medical clinic.
5.) Organize play dates for the kids in your neighborhood.
6.) Organize share-faires, where everyone brings the things that they dont want to a
central location and people can take what they need, the items left donated to a homeless
shelter.
7.) build soil.
8.) share stories with people in hospices and old folks homes.
9.) write letters to people in prisons.

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 Whatever it is you choose to do, give for the sake of being another human on this planet.
CAUTION: be careful to not fall into the ‘savior’ mentality when helping others.
Everyone is capable of helping themselves when given the right conditions. Sometimes the
conditions are very difficult, and it is important to help in a way that supports the other
and BUILDS them up, that gives them back that sense of agency that through some
trauma or misfortune was unjustly taken away from them. Be kind, not patronizing.

Career:
Are you doing what makes you happy? If not, why? What about considering some
possibilities and looking for the opportunities to do the thing you love.

Financial:
Are you financially stable enough to support your own life? If so, are you
financially stable enough to give altruistically to things that you believe in? Are you
financially stable enough to help someone who you care very much about if they run into
a hard time or get sick? If you had to leave your source of income right now, because of
whatever emergency, how comfortable financially do you feel?

see: <link article from 80,000 hours>

Cherished Relationships:
This is our relationships with our lover, partner, family, and close friends.

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 1. How often do you treat interactions with those you love as transactions

instead of relationship building activities? How can you treat your

interactions with loved ones more as a relationship?
2. How honest are you in your relationships? Do you believe the people you
are in relationship with deserve the truth from you at all times?
3. How can you be better at communicating in your relationships? Have
you practiced NVC (non-violent communication) by Marshall Rosenburg?
Have you looked into other communication techniques? Communication is a
skill we can always get better at ^_^
4. Why are you in relationship with the people you are in
relationship with?
5. They say our friends reflect who we are. Do your friends reflect who
you are and what is valuable to you?
6. Do you help your partner grow? Do you help them believe in themselves
and their own inner strength?
7. Does your partner/ friends help you grow? Help you believe in your
own personal value and strength? If not, why are you in relationship with
them?
8. Are you in a codependent relationship? Are you educated as to what
that looks like and have you decided if that is how you want your
relationship to be like?

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 9. Are you using people? Are other people using you? Are you ok with
that?
10. Do you know what gas lighting is? Are you experiencing gas lighting?
11. How can you educate yourself better about abusive traits and how to
deconstruct them?
12. Are you able to give positive, supportive critiques that help another
grow? What do you need to learn to be able to do so?
13. Do people feel safe around you? What do you need to change to
make the environment and your energy more safe and loving for those
around you?
14. How can you show the people you love that you love them more
frequently?

15. Do you show your partner that you love them in the way that
they want to be loved?
16. How much do you put effort into decreasing the stress in your
relationship so that more love can grow?
17. How many different ways can you tell your loved ones that you love
them?

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 18. How can you celebrate your love together?
19. How can you share the joy that your love and cherished ones bring
you with the greater world?
20. Your partner is not what brings you love. Your partner is not your
‘love-dealer’. They make you feel safe and align with you in such a way
that your own love that is already within you comes forth when they are
around. The love you feel has always been inside of you and will always be
there. It does not disappear when the other disappears, it cannot be
destroyed, it can only be neglected within your own being.
21. How are you connecting with your family? What hardships did you
experience with them which, when seen under a different light, are actually
valuable lessons to prepare you for your best life? What gifts did they bring
you that you can show them gratefulness for?
22. How are you recognizing your children for the individual beings that
they are? How are you supporting them in all aspects to be healthy and
successful individual community members in life?
23. How are you looking after your elders? Are you including them in
family activities?
24. How able are you to put aside differences of opinion to connect
with your family and loved ones? How can you practice this better?
25. How often are you letting your environment determine how you treat
others?

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Humanity Relationships:
This section is about how we relate to other humans around us; strangers near and far, in our
communities and those living on the other side of the world.

1. Do I know my neighbors?
2. Do I know the names of the cashier or workers at the markets or stores
that I frequent?
3. What is my attitude to people or strangers that I pass on the street? To
people I sit next to on the metro? Other parents at my children school?
4. How often do I take the opportunity to look out for others?
5. How often do I make eye contact with people?
6. How open am I to make a new connection or am I inhibiting those
opportunities by always being on my phone?

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 5. If I see someone being abused in public, how likely am I to step in? Why is

that? How can I prepare myself or make myself more comfortable to

help others?
6. Do I feel confident with peaceful conflict resolution? How can I train
myself better?
7. How much of my time and effort do I want to invest into the well-being
of all of humanity?
8. Is there something small I can do to be kind to others on a daily
basis?
9. When we look around our communities, are we asking, who is not here
who should be here?
10. What communities are not present in our gatherings? How can
we include them?

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 11. How can we be more considerate to include others? How can we
include those with alter-abilities, or different ways of thinking, or the elderly,
or children

12. Why do we segregate people into mental hospitals? disability centers?

Elderly care facilities? Do we not all have something valuable to share with
the broader community? Where can we stop focusing on ‘the ability to
produce’ in our social gatherings and urban and community living spaces,
so that everyone can participate?
13. How often do I use the term, ‘I’, ‘You, or ‘We’? What does that reflect
about my cultural imprint and my underlying priorities?

Higher-dimensional Connection/God-Allah-Buddah-Jah-Love/ Oneness :

1. How often do you find yourself in the present moment? How often are
you treating the present moment like an obstacle to overcome?

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 2. What gives your life meaning? How are you connecting to that sense of
deeper meaning daily?
3. Yes, its true religions have done created absolute havoc in the timeline of
human history, but it also has been around for so long because there is
something worthwhile about it. What is it? What is it that grabs the
human spirit en mass? Is it the teaching of ‘love one another’, is it the
practice of stilling the mind, of prayer or meditation, of cleaning oneself ?
Find what it is that has made religions useful to humanity, and keep that part
for yourself, the unusable parts can be composted.
4. When you die, what happens to your spirit?
5. If the religious teachings around feel manipulative, they probably
are. Have you found a a theology or philosophy or spiritual path that feel
clear and truthful for you personally?
6. Do you understand other religions well? Can you understand why a
believer of that religion might very well, from a rational and honest
perspective, believe what they believe? How well can you trust that each
human has the right to their own set of beliefs?
7. Do you understand what causes fanaticism? or nationalism?
8. How well can you explain and how deep is your understanding of what
Nelson Mandela, Ghandi, and Martin Luther King have in
common?
9. What do all world religions and spiritual practices have in
common?
10. What is your spiritual practice?
11. How are you living that out for the benefit of all humankind?
12. How can you connect with people who share similar practices as you
to celebrate with?

Vision/ Clarity:

1. What are you doing to inspire yourself daily?

1. Imagine yourself at 80 years old surrounded by a large family that
loves you very very much and thinks you are the bees-knees most cherished

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 person in their lives. You are telling them the story of your life. What
story do you tell? What milestones make your heart warm? What
accomplishments make you blush and puff up with pride? What steps did
you take to get to where you are at 80, satisfied, with no further regrets,
knowing you have lived the best life in your power to live?
2. How do you want people to remember you if you died next year? If
you died at 40? if you died at 102? Even if it is just your cat who remembers
you, or your partner, or your mom. What words and qualities would they use
to describe you?
3. Do the qualities people use to describe you at your death reflect your day
to day life now? If not, how can you begin to practice those qualities?
4. If you were to imagine that you have one very specific goal, just for
you that only you can do, to help humanity, what is that goal? What is the
reason you are an integral and very important part of humanity?
You are so so important, never let anyone underestimate your value, not even
yourself. <3
5. Would it be helpful if you spent the first 5 minutes of your day each
day doing the most important thing? If your most important thing is
publishing a book, write the first 5 minutes of the day. If your most
important thing is starting a business, envision the steps it takes to get there.
If your most important thing is expressing your inner world in art or dance,

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 spend the first 5 minutes spilling yourself forth on canvas or the across the
floor. What ever is most important to you, protect it and make space for it.
Don't let the monkey business of errands even get a chance to get in the way.
Your vision comes first.

6. How can I change doubt & stress into a tool that will be useful for my
endeavors? If there is no way doubt & stress can serve me, how will I dispose
of it?

7. How can I practice dreaming better?

8. If there are no limitations, what is the best possible life I can live?
9. How can my individual life benefit greater life?

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 10. How will I die? Does that change how I will live?

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When we are not taking responsibility for ourselves in a holistic
manner- someone, many times unrecognized, is taking responsibility
for where you are not. When we have not taken the time to be responsible for
our emotions, some one else will have to do the emotional labor while you are
depressed, anxious, angry, or inconsiderate. When we do not take the time to be
responsible for our finances, others- our friends or institutions- will have to step in
and provide for you. When we have not learned how to please ourselves sexually,
we are subtly demanding that the other lover serve us that which we ourselves are
not acquainted with, thus leading to disappointment for all involved. When we
have not taken the time to compost or recycle, our urban waste centers become
overwhelmed, and our mixed waste gets sent to the global south where it causes
sickness in the surrounding populations, toxins in the environment, and climate
change that effects the whole of life as we know it. Where in our lives is our
lack of taking responsibility creating more work for others?

There is a very clear distinguishment between consenting to a mutual

exchange in relationships while we are learning about how to have greater
responsibility, and to unconsciously and immaturely taking from others without
consent or mutuality.

Every moment we have a choice. To respond to life, or to numb ourselves. The

most radical thing that each person can do, to create the society we want, to
create the political system we want, is to know that we have value enough to
know who we are and what we want.

so,

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 Who are you?

What do you want? (all the juicy details ^_~ )

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