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Table of Contents
COPYRIGHT NOTICE 3
DISCLAIMER 4
CHAPTER TWO: 25
REPRODUCTION 101 27
GETTING TO KNOW HIS SPERM 28
WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT HER EGGS 29
UNDERSTANDING THE IMPACT OF THE MENSTRUAL CYCLE 30
OVULATION 32
HOW GENDER SELECTION WORKS 34
IS SEX SELECTION MORAL? 37
THE HISTORY OF GENDER SELECTION METHODS 39
THE ANCIENT GREEKS 40
DEMECRITIS AND ARISTOTLE 41
THE MIDDLE AGES 42
MODERN DAY MISCONCEPTIONS 42
THE FACTS OF LIFE: ALL ABOUT THE X AND THE Y 45
THE POTENTIAL CONSEQUENCES OF ACCURATE GENDER SELECTION 49
CHAPTER THREE: 52
CHAPTER FOUR: 73
CHAPTER 5: 95
APPENDIX 1: 191
APPENDIX 2: 202
Chapter One:
Introduction
What’s the first question out of every ones mouth when a new baby is born?
“Is it a boy or a girl?” Even the doctors and nurses make this important
pregnancy should result in a boy or a girl. True, the vast majority of parents
really do just want a healthy baby, but still that tugging toward a certain sex
For some couples, this want (or need) for a certain sex child can become
Wrought with controversy, sex selection has taken a big hit amongst critics in
recent years as the technological advances in fertility make it more and more
possible to choose a baby’s sex. Although it may seem a bit extreme to turn
to medical science to ensure a boy over a girl (or vice versa), the truth is,
couples have been doing the same thing for years – albeit on a much less
scientific scale.
From taking herbs; making love during certain days of the moon’s cycle, to
have been trying to increase their odds for a specific sex for centuries. Why?
There reasons for preferring a certain gender vary. For some, it is a matter
of breaking a cycle. A family with three girls may do whatever they can to
have a son to carry on the family name. While a couple with five boys may
yearn for a little girl to add to their family. Some couples want to even out
their families with one or two of each sex, giving siblings a playmate they can
better relate to. Others, however, may have more serious medical concerns
that they are trying to avoid. For instance, only males carry the recessive
gene for hemophilia (a severe and often life threatening bleeding disorder). If
a family which has been riddled with this dangerous genetic disease could
guarantee that no males are born for one generation, they could literally
wipe that problem from their gene pool. Now, that’s not a bad reason to
Regardless of a couple’s reasoning for wanting to pick the sex of their next
child, the fact is that people have been trying to do just that for thousands of
viable. Still, many opt to be surprised and let nature choose the sex of their
But what if you and your spouse have a good reason for wanting a girl over a
boy this time around? Lucky for you there are choices! Yes, you can make it
much more plausible that you will conceive one sex over another, if you
follow the tips and suggestions in this book. From highly technical
Not always a simple thing to do, sex selection can be rather complicated,
both physically and emotionally. That is why we have decided to offer helps
to our readers in all areas of this sensitive issue, thereby giving you more
than just an overview of the scientific advances which can help you choose
This book has been organized into four main sections in order to help you
The first section will tackle the tough topics of morality in relation to gender
selection. Sometimes a touchy subject, choosing the sex of a baby has a long
history, which will be covered here. Also, the basics of how nature chooses a
child’s sex will be discussed in detail as will as the consequences of using any
In Section Two we will go into even more details about the things you should
choose the sex of your baby, but it isn’t something everyone should consider.
Depending on your reasons for wanting one sex over another, you may or
may not be good candidates for the procedure. Take for instance, if having a
boy would cause undue stress or even depression in your life and
having one sex over another that they can not even bear to see the baby if it
is born the wrong sex. These are definitely questions you and your partner
This section will also discuss the tests and medical procedures available
Section Three will go into greater detail about the methods available in
helping couples choose their child’s sex to help you decide which one is best
for you. One of the most popular baby gender methods used these days is
Shettles, M.D., Ph.D. In this section, we will discuss this popular gender
naturalists.
The last section of the book is considered the most important, offering an in-
depth guide to choosing your child’s sex the natural way. If you are one of
the thousands of couples who would like to increase your odds of choosing
your next child’s sex without the cost and complications of high tech
discussion about the emotional impact of gender selection and then going on
to describe (in detail) how to promote the ideal physical environment for
conception, this ultra-safe system allows couples to prepare their bodies and
If you have considered gender selection for any length of time, the odds are
good that this isn’t the first book you have read on the subject. Most likely,
you have been researching the topic for some time and may even be
confused about what methods will work and which ones will not. Let me
assure you that the all-natural holistic approach featured here is a sure-fire
method that can give you the absolute best chance of getting the baby that
you want. How do I know? Because I’ve used it myself with great success…
My Story …
After several boys my husband and I longed for the quieter spirit of a little
girl to help round out our family. Don’t get me wrong, we love our boys and
would not trade any of them for a girl. But knowing that our limit for
childbearing was reaching its end (after 5 boys and 10 years we were getting
tired), we knew that we only has one or two chances left to get our little girl.
We asked ourselves if we should just adopt. That way we would know exactly
what gender we would get. That was a nice idea, but I had so many fears
about getting a child only to have the birth mother come back and claim it as
her own or bringing a child into our home only to find out later that it had
irreparable damage due to its mother’s alcohol or drug abuse during the
pregnancy. Were these risks we were willing to take? Was there another
option? Could we conceive our own child and still be guaranteed a girl?
A little research started to uncover some amazing facts about the advances
in medical technology that yes, could give us the girl we wanted. But, the
became. My husband and I couldn’t help but wonder if we were playing God
Then my husband stumbled across some interested facts about how the
body reacts to certain conditions which can increase (or decrease) your
gender selection and then let nature handle it,” he suggested. Sure, we
wanted a girl but if it failed and we were gifted with another boy we would
love him just the same. A healthy baby was our end result, and we couldn’t
Our bodies really do work in an amazing way and yes, it seemed as if (under
It took a while to sift through all of the information we had gathered and
produce a detailed plan to follow, but finally it was finished and we were
determine the sex of our unborn child. What if it was a boy? Would we be
bundle of joy in our arms to find out the fate of its gender. That way, we
reasoned, who can be disappointed looking into the face of any newborn?
Delivery day came. Although we were anxious and exited to meet our new
baby, I have to admit that I was downright terrified that our quest for a girl
would end in failure. Although I tried to act as if a boy would be fine (and
honestly another little guy would have been fine), I also hid a small pink
You can’t imagine our excitement when the doctor yelled out “hey I haven’t
been able to give you guys one of these before – it’s a girl!” Our plan had
Those first weeks were wonderful as our family now felt complete. Imagine
our surprise when 14 months later another girl joined our clan. Our gender
Now it was time to see if we were onto something other couples could use to
pick the sex of their baby. Hesitantly we shared our 5 step plan with a few
friends, who saw results were similar to ours. Only one couple failed to
conceive the gender they were striving for and they later confessed that they
Next, we offered our plan to other couples all over the world via our blog. It
only took a few months before dozens and dozens of reports started filing in
the gender they were after! That’s when we knew that we had developed a
Our next step? Putting our findings into an easy-to-follow format. That’s
when “The Baby Gender Miracle Book” was born. You are now holding our
newest baby: our book. Now that you know why we wrote this book and
how it actually came to be, let’s move onto to explaining exactly how the
Works
The Baby Gender Miracle Book is a 5-step approach to choosing your baby’s
sex.
The Baby Gender Miracle Book is more than an overview of how gender
selection works. It is also a simple to follow program that has been designed
The first step involves helping you make the decision regarding gender
choose the sex of your next baby and what the emotional repercussions of
system before trying to conceive if you want to try and get one sex over the
In step 3 of the program, couples will learn how to predict ovulation, which
will ultimately help them to conceive at just the right moment to help the
sperm with a certain sex chromosome to make it to the egg for fertilization
first. Tools, kits, methods and charts will all be explained in detail to make
finish out their journey to the egg where it can be fertilized. In step 4 you will
the body just right for a better chance at getting a boy or a girl.
Finally, in step 5, both partners will learn the roles that intercourse and
orgasm have in gender selection. This section will give you both step by step
instructions on what to do (and not do) when trying to conceive a certain sex
child. Charting, sperm, abstinence, male and female organism and sexual
positions will all be detailed to increase your chances of getting the gender
• The Reasons to Choose (or not choose) High tech gender Selection
methods
• PGD Basics
• Sample Meal Plans and recipes to ensure having a girl or boy baby
Having a baby can be a happy and exiting time. Planning for a boy or a girl
only adds to the excitement. But, before you begin the journey of gender
selection, it is vital that you completely understand what it is all about and
how to handle the situation safely. This book will guide you through every
Ready to learn how to get that little girl or rowdy boy? Whether you are after
a prince or a princess does not matter. We are going to help you achieve
your goals and get the gender that best fits your family right now. You are
only 5 simple steps away from having the baby you dream of …
Chapter Two:
The Morality, Accuracy
and History of Gender
Selection
Gender selection is nothing new. Generation after generation has tried to
find their own ways of ensuring that they would conceive a certain sex child.
Some couples want a son while others want a daughter. It really does not
matter which end of the gender roller coaster that you are on; the fact is that
there are couples like you who would like to predetermine the sex of their
baby.
One of the biggest questions couples ask when it comes to pre-selecting the
sex of their next child is: “Is sex selection right? Is it moral?”
That is for each individual couple to decide. But the fact remains that if you
are honest -- really, really honest -- the odds are good that you too want a
certain sex child (otherwise you would not be reading this book). Maybe you
and your partner have kept your quest a secret for fear of backlash from
friends and family. Maybe you are reading this book in secret, (even from
I don’t care who you are or why you would rather raise a boy or a girl. My job
The good news is that there are plenty of solid and effective ways to choose
But first let’s talk about some of the nitty gritty details of gender selection
and some of the conflicts that may arise because of your choice.
Reproduction 101
It’s time to learn how babies are made!
This is the absolute simplest way to explain how babies are made. Oh you
wanted a little more information than that? Okay. Let’s dig a little deeper
into the basics of human reproduction (without turning this book into a
simple and straightforward – until sex selection enters the picture. Then
suddenly, the need to completely understand how the body works and how
conception happens on a more intricate level comes into play. After all, if
you do not know exactly what your body is doing at each stage of the
process, you will be unable to conceive the gender that you are after.
able to sort through the various methods of sex selection and choose one
that will not only be effective, but that you are comfortable with.
partners throughout his entire lifetime. Age, does however, affect the quality
of his sperm and could increase the chances of a miscarriage if indeed they
It takes about three months for a man to produce mature sperm. That makes
his preconception diet and lifestyle very important since what he eats and
drinks today will continue to affect the quality of his sperm for as long as 90
days.
A healthy sperm is divided into two main parts: the head and the tail. The tail
is what helps propel the sperm through the cervix and toward the awaiting
egg. The head, on the other hand is very important since it contains the
Sperm contains exactly half of the genes a baby gets at conception. These
are continued within chromosomes, of which there are 22, plus either an X or
chromosome) which determines whether a woman will carry and give birth
to a girl or a boy baby. Since the female partner only has X chromosomes, it
is up to the man and his sperm which gender the pregnancy will result in.
regards to gender selection is that the woman (and her egg) has absolutely
Girls are born with all of the eggs they can ever produce safely stored in their
female to determine which gender she will incubate. That decision is solely
up to the sperm which reaches the egg for fertilization. Since male sperm can
gender really rests in which is the strongest sperm and makes it to its final
destination first.
Menstrual Cycle
For women, the menstrual cycle can be a real nuisance, causing havoc in
their lives for a week each month. For men, it is something to ridicule and
a hormone high. But, the menstrual cycle is meant for so much more than to
create chaos in our lives. It is the process that readies the female body for
conception.
During the menstrual cycle, the uterus has one job to do: develop a thick
The pituitary glands produce hormones which signal the ovaries to release
an egg into the fallopian tubes, where it travels to the uterus. If all goes as
planned, a male sperm will make its way to the egg in time to be fertilized
If, however, fertilization does not occur in time, the uterus begins to contract,
flushing the unfertilized egg and shedding the lining it has created. The
result is a bloody flow called a menses. This bleeding time typically lasts
This entire menstrual cycle process takes about one month (or 28 days) to
complete; and then it begins again. Month after the month, the body does
for a pregnancy to occur but there is much more. In order to pre-select the
Ovulation
Ovulation is a multi-step process which begins with the pituitary gland
excreting certain hormones and chemicals and ending with the release of a
mature egg form the ovaries. Here is a basic rundown of how the entire
process works.
gland goes into action. This is the time when her body begins secreting FSH -
possible pregnancy.
dozen or so antral follicles (fluid filled sacs surrounding the egg), begin to
grow in order to mature one egg for release later in the cycle.
thicken.
estrogen, causing FSH to decrease and the smaller follicles to stop growing.
This signals the pituitary gland to release an LH surge, which makes the egg
resulting in an embryo that will now begin to travel down the fallopian tubes,
toward the safety of the womb, where it will implant and grow for the next
nine months.
gender selection found within these pages, picking the sex of your baby can
be done in a variety of ways. There are high tech methods which require the
removal of the woman’s eggs and the examination of her partner’s sperm;
conception within a Petri dish using on boy or girl sperm; and then insertion
into the uterus for a pregnancy that results in the “right’ sex baby.
But as you will soon learn, these high tech methods (although effective), are
not necessary. There are simpler and more natural ways of ensuring that you
get pregnant with one sex over another. This requires understanding the
differences between girl sperm and boy sperm and understanding how they
• A male sperm is smaller and can move faster than a female sperm?
This means that it may make it to the egg faster, especially when
ovulation time.
• Female sperm are heartier, which means they tend to survive longer in
may result in those female sperm making it to the egg for fertilization.
• A more acidic environment tends to kill off male sperm; while a more
alkaline environment kills off female sperm. Thus, knowing when the
female body is more acidic versus alkaline can help you better choose
• Men with low sperm counts tend to have more female producing
Of course, each of these factors does play some role in which sperm
make it to the awaiting egg to fertilize it and which never complete their
journey. But, can you alter these factors to ensure that you give birth to a
boy rather than a girl (or vice versa)? We will learn how to do just that
later.
factor in gender selection, there are other methods that seem to offer good
results. Controlling the diet is another. There has been other research which
indicates that diet can also play a role in helping couples choose the sex of
their next baby. No, that doesn’t mean that if you only eat carrots, for
instance, that you will be guaranteed a girl. But, there is some evidence that
shows that certain food types (alkaline vs. acidity) can help certain sperm on
their journey; while others may hinder it – and this can give you a better
chance of fertilizing that egg with a certain sex sperm. Some scientists
speculate that certain diets may help in the gender selection process by:
• altering the membrane of the egg, making one type of sperm easier to
penetrate it
• certain diets tend to make the body more acidic or more alkaline,
Lastly, sex positions are often considered a viable way to choose the sex of a
pregnancy. For centuries, couples have opted to use one position over
another to guarantee the sex of a baby. Science does back up some positions
over others when it comes to sex selection. So, we will look at the biological
factors that may help verify the results thousands of people have recorded
within their own families to see if there is indeed any truth to the notion that
the way you have sex can indeed guarantee a certain sex child.
Selecting the gender of a baby isn’t always easy; and no method is 100%
foolproof. But there are many ways to increase your chances of conceiving
one sex over another; as you will soon learn in more detail.
in your family tree have a higher incidence of a certain disease, so you would
rather conceive a boy to spare a daughter of years of illness and pain. Most
couples have a good reason to choose the gender of their next child, still
society often frowns upon gender selection. Why? To many, it means playing
God; while to others it simply means that you would love one child more
than another.
Couples who choose gender selection as a viable way to increase their odds
of conceiving a certain sex child know that these concerns are false. They
would love any child (boy or girl), but simply prefer to enhance the odds of a
Their decision may be a private one, but unfortunately, often becomes public
Each person (and couple) has their own definition of morals, which they must
live by. For some people, choosing the sex of a baby seems to be wrong
somehow so they call it immoral. Yet, if done for the right reasons – and in
the right manner – most scientists, clergyman and parents agree that pre-
Notice here, the word pre-conception. This means that if you change your
diet, your sexual potion or even try Invitro-fertilization to get the gender you
want, then the process is a moral one. But, if you take sex selection a step
further and either destroy embryos that are the “wrong sex” or have an
abortion when you discover that the baby you are carrying is not the right
conception sex selection, as did the Catholic Church when the head of their
Family Life Bureau in new York said this: … certain sex selection methods are
acceptable “as long as the intent of these efforts is not to prevent pregnancy
So, when trying to determine whether or not gender selection is moral, ask
yourself this important question: “how far am I willing to go to get that girl or
that boy?” It is within that answer that you will find your own level of
morality.
Methods
Trying to conceive a certain sex child is nothing new. People have been
prescribed tonics, herbs and specialized douches to help guarantee the sex
of a certain child. Village elders and shamans would also instruct couples on
when to have sex (during a full moon) or how (with the man’s boots on or
with one testicle tied to only allow sperm to come from one side). Some of
these couples succeeded in getting the gender they wanted despite their
efforts; while others failed miserably. And no wonder. None of these so-
called cures offered any scientific proof as to how to select the gender of a
baby. Why, the Chinese actually believed for centuries that the mother could
change the sex of her baby while it was in utero! Preposterous! And so are
many of the so-called cures for gender selection used throughout history.
Even so, let’s take a look at the history of gender selection to see what the
ancients got right – and what they got wrong. After reading this, you will be
glad you live during a time of scientific breakthroughs that can indeed help
you in your search, other than offer the false hopes of centuries ago.
world counterparts. Still they managed to get this whole gender selection
thing wrong.
was determined that humans also have two uteruses’. Why would we
women need two? According to the Greek theory: one was meant to house
boy babies and the other to house girl babies Therefore, all you had to do
was get conception to happen in the correct uterus. Easier said than done.
No one knows why, but the right uterus was selected as the “boy’s house”
and the left “the girls house.” Once this discovery was made, couples were
encouraged to have intercourse on one side or the other to ensure the right
gender outcome.
both men and women made sperm and the strongest sperm would result in
a child. Of course female sperm were produced by the woman and male by
the man.
Aristotle believed that the way to ensure that the right sperm made it to the
egg was to show more vigor during intercourse than your partner. However,
even this type of excitement could not guarantee the right sex if the winds
weren’t blowing correctly. In one paper, Aristotle wrote, “more males are
born if copulation takes place when a north wind blows rather than a south
wind.”
rule. Here are just some of the faulty ideas exercised during this time period
in history:
• In Sweden, young brides were said to bring a young boy into tier bed
the night before their wedding in order to ensure that they would
under a nut tree to ensure that the next child would be a boy.
gender selection process, but wait: modern day folk had a few of their own
misconceptions. Until just the last 20 years or so, many people practiced
some of the same rituals as the ancients to help pick the sex of their next
child.
For instance, in the 1800’s it was believed that if a woman ate sweets during
her pregnancy she would give birth to a girl; but if she ate a lot of manly
As late as 1899 a book entitled Suggestion: The Secret of Sex, was printed
explaining how men could (and should) hypnotize their wives, implanting the
suggestion of one sex over another before planting their own seed within the
woman. It was advised, that the women show as little participation in the act
as possible.
By the early 20th century, the idea of right and left came back to the forefront,
with one expert claiming that the right ovary produced boys while the left
produced girls and since the eggs alternated where they came from, having
sex during only girl months or boy months would produce the correct sex
offspring.
In the 1970’s astrological charts were used with vigor as the newest and best
In less than 20 years, scientists had begun the search for ways to cure
embarrassing methods at choosing the sex of our babies than in nay other
and the Y
No matter what method of gender selection you ultimately choose, there is
one thing you must absolutely learn – the difference between those X sperm
Sure, there are factors within a female’s body that may help one type of
sperm make it to the egg than another; but in the end it is the sperm that
with sex selection for more than 100 years, it was not until the 1950’s when
developed into a girl baby and the Y always into a boy baby. This amazing
discovery was just the link researchers needed to begin the process of
figuring out how couples could indeed pre-select the gender of their baby
A female egg emerges from the ovaries and begins its descent into the
fallopian tube on this way to the uterus where it can be implanted (if
only X (or girl) chromosomes. What does that mean? The X egg must meet
It is amazing to think that with each ejaculation a man can insert as many as
one billion sperm into his partner’s vagina. A billion – wow! With such a
great army on the attack, it would seem impossible that a pregnancy does
not occur. Bu alas, the vast majority of these sperm will never even get close
to the egg released within the woman’s body. Most will get lost or die during
the journey. That leaves a very small number making it to their destination;
but even fewer still will be able to detect the egg it is after. Still, it only takes
some to penetrate the shell for a pregnancy to occur. But which one will it
be? And with so many looking for that egg how in the world can a couple
help the right one (and X or a Y) get there first? To answer that question you
When you look at sperm under a microscope you will notice several things:
1. there are more male sperm than female sperm (that may explain why
selection? Well, if you understand that male sperm can move quickly
slightly before and after), but die quickly in a more acidic environment
(days before and after ovulation), you can understand the necessity of
and faster boy sperm can outrun those X or female sperm in the race to
the egg.
Wait a day or so after ovulation and the women’s female secretions will
become much more acidic, striking down those Y sperm cells and allowing
more of the slower, yet stronger X sperm to make their way toward the
With this knowledge it would make sense that an X sperm that is released
2 days before ovulation and survives the journey will be the first on the
tube. The lesson here? If you want to be sure of a boy, hold off on any
intercourse until as close to ovulation as you can to give those fast boys
the best chance of beating those female sperm to the finish line!
problems they may be faced with are what their reactions will be if their
It is important to ask yourself (and your partner) if having the “wrong sex”
will undermine your feelings for the child you do welcome into your
While this is not the case in the U.S., there is some concern amongst
gender selection critics, that when the process fails, parents are more apt
to treat the child differently or fail to love the child in the same way they
Consider your own feelings before going forward in your gender selection
quest. If you believe that you or your spouse cannot love a child born
Some researchers believe that females are born at times because they
are stronger. This can leave a couple heartbroken when they get that
Nature has a wonderful way of protecting itself and ensuring its survival
when left to its own devices. But, when we interrupt nature in order to
Here are some facts: Since female sperm cells seem to be stronger than
male cells, pregnancies that result in a female child are generally healthier
reported than female ones and infant death rates are higher in males
infants than females. So, while you may ensure that a male child is
conceived, you may not be ensuring the health and strength of that
pregnancy.
that must be considered. We will talk about more in the future. But for
now, consider the risks of undergoing this process before you ever begin.
Getting a girl or a boy is one thing; but getting the healthiest and
Chapter Three:
Things to Consider
Before Attempting
Gender Selection
There is a lot to consider when choosing the sex of your baby. The method
these days, it is important to pick the one you and your partner feel most
comfortable with. Once you have chosen, the procedures can be varied,
except for one thing: almost every gender selection method relies on
Determining ovulation is the one factor that every gender selection process
requires. It usually occurs about midway through the menstrual cycle (about
day 14, but that is not always the case. Miscalculate by just a few days and
you can thwart your efforts of selecting the sex of your baby. So how can
you determine the exact time of ovulation? There are several ways to do so.
occurs without some sort of outward sign that it is about to (or is) happening.
Here are just a few things to look for when predicating ovulation:
• Watch the calendar: while some women ovulate early and others late,
• Check the cervix: a woman’s cervix becomes softer and slightly open
when she ovulates. This can be felt with the tips of the fingers. Of
course you will have to check the cervix at other times of the month so
you can tell the difference in the way it feels during ovulation. When
you are not ovulating, the cervix remains further back in the uterus
• Check for spotting: some women experience slight spotting when they
ovulate
• Bloating
basal body temperature. What is your Basal Body Temperature? Simply put,
your body prepares itself for ovulation, this BBT tends to rise sharply,
It is best to take the BBT right away in the morning before even getting out of
Once you begin to chart your morning temperatures, you will begin to see
definite rise and fall throughout your cycle. These changes will show you
temperature (by about 1/10th of a degree) from day to day. This is normal.
When your temperature rises .2 degrees higher than any temperature taken
in the last 6 days, and it stays elevated for three consecutive days, you can
usually assume that you have ovulated. By tracking this temperature rise for
several months, you should be able to predict when you ovulate each month.
what’s the best and easiest way to ensure that you’re doing it correctly? Try
1. First, get the right instrument – glass basal body thermometers are BEST.
2. Begin on the first day of your temperature (use the attached chart).
graph. Start by placing a dot on the graph on the spot corresponding to each
day’s temperature. Join the dots of consecutive days. If you do not take your
temperature one day, do not join the dots across that day. Also write out the
which generates more body heat. This is what causes the BBT to increase.
Here are some of the most common scenarios to watch out for when
ovulation. A gradual incline (or sloping rise) is efficient. Watch for a gentle
curve over a three to four day time span as the temperature rises to indicate
ovulation.
rising again and remaining higher throughout the Luteal menstrual phase.
steady or may even slightly decrease and then rise and stay steady again
until reaching the elevated level. This can take a couple of days.
pregnancy.
Cervical Palpation
Changes in the way your cervix feels can also tell you when you ovulate –
especially when used in conjunction with the basal body temperature – since
most of the time the cervix feels firm and dry and easy to reach. It will also
feel closed. The closer to ovulation you get, the softer and wetter it will feel.
It may also feel as if it is creeping further and further into the vagina toward
the uterus. During ovulation it can actually move an entire inch deeper into
the pelvis. Plus, it will feel open to the touch – you will actually be able to
stick your finger into it! This allows the sperm to make their way through.
So, how do you check each of these items? Start by using the same position
each time (putting one foot on a low stool is best) and inserting your finger
all the way into your vagina (reaching up and back) until you feel the top.
Your cervix can be felt on the underside of the tip of your finger. If you do not
feel your cervix, try pressing on your lower abdomen. (Just be sure to do this
each time you do a cervix check since consistency is vital for accurate
charting.
It is easiest to draw the changes of the cervix on a chart. Use a dot to signify
If the cervix is low in the vaginal canal, draw it low in the space for cervical
Next, write Firm if the cervix is firm and soft if the cervix is soft.
Finally, go over your charts after a few months looking for patterns. You will
notice a distinct pattern to the changes in your cervix and that will help you
better determine ovulation. Next, double check with your BBT to see if both
results match.
available at their local drugstore. Much more accurate then in the past, these
boxed kits are very good at predicting ovulation in most healthy women.
Those who suffer with infertility issues may find them more difficult to use,
but at this time we are assuming there are no fertility issues to worry about.
Very simple to use, these at-home tests use daily urine samples to detect a
ovulation. It may take several days (or even cycles0 to see a rise in LH levels
–especially if your cycle is not considered “normal.” For instance, most tests
day 14. But, if you ovulate around day 9 or 10 or even 17 or 20, you may not
see that rise by checking your urine between days 12-15. In that case you will
have to try again the following month, extending the testing period. In
addition, ovulation can vat if the woman has been ill, overly stressed, etc., so
dating. Still, when used correctly, Ovulation predictor kits are very accurate.
which can be purchased for under $50. When looking through the device,
the fluid’s pattern can be seen. If it looks like a fern plant, you are ovulating.
and easy to use; and since it can be re-used hundreds of times, you can take
Other types of fertility monitors are a bit more high-tech and can record data
as well as predict ovulation using the same type of bodily fluids as the
microscope device. These ovulation machines are pretty pricey though and
require the purchase of testing strips. That said, they can be very effective.
man’s sperm, which is separated for X and Y sperm and then inserted via a
catheter into the woman’s uterus. Once the sperm has been prepared, the
Although not the most romantic way to get pregnant, the success rate
amongst healthy fertile couples is high and the results of getting the
preferred sex are also very high. True, a few of the wrong sex sperm may
make it into the sample, but in most cases the vast majority of selected
Sperm Samples
When it comes to collecting sperm samples for an IUI procedure, timing is
within hours.
The patient is asked to take regular ovulation tests to determine the exact
ovulation time and then call the clinic as soon as ovulation occurs.
In some cases, the man’s sperm may be collected an, sorted and stored fore
insemination.
Generally, men are asked to make their deposit at the clinic, but some
doctors may allow the collection to happen in the privacy of their own home
as long as they can get it back to the clinic in less than one hour.
Once taken to the clinic, the clinicians sort through the sperm collected and
remove those that are malformed; slow and show characteristics of the
wrong sex. The rest are then inseminated into the female. After that it is up
preferred gender.
Invitro-Fertilization (IVF)
Invitro-fertilization (IVF) is a common procedure used to help infertile couples
get pregnant. But, did you know that it can also be used successfully to select
a baby’s gender? Well, it can! In most cases IVF is used for sex selection only
when infertility issues are also present sine the procedure can be both costly
and intensive. In most cases IUI works fine for a healthy fertile couple and
But, if you and your partner have been experiencing a difficult time getting
pregnant and IVF is in your future, your doctor may also ask you if you want
Like IUI, IVF allows the technician and doctor to pick and choose the
healthiest sperm of a certain gender for fertilization. But, it goes one step
further and also allows the doctor to choose the most viable embryos to
Since the doctor chooses the healthiest embryos for implantation many
people show concern that “the wrong” embryos are then destroyed. To
regarding the start of life will have a big impact on whether or not you use
pills, and then adding new hormones at certain stages of the menstrual cycle
via injections. At the appropriate time, the ovaries are then stimulated using
hormone injections and the eggs are retrieved from the patient.
Back in the laboratory, male sperm that has been sorted into X and Y
specimens is then added to the eggs in a Petri dish for fertilization. In about 5
days, the patient returns to the clinic to have a certain number of embryos
inserted into the uterus using a catheter. A successful impanation will result
put the couple’s embryos right into the fallopian tube via a small incision.
This enables the embryos a more natural journey to the uterus which seems
selection. It involves sorting the man’s sperm and taking out the undesired
sex sperm and then putting them right into the fallopian tube where they can
meet up with the woman’s egg naturally. Although GIFT can be very effective
in healthy fertile couples, it does not always work when infertility is an issue,
intercourse. The reasons it works so well for gender selection is the fact that
the doctor is only inserting the desired sex dominant sperm into the tube for
possible fertilization.
1. Choose Your Baby’s Sex. People have a lot of different reasons for
wanting one sex over another. Think about all of the reasons that you
are leaning toward a certain sex. Now consider all of the pros and
cons of each. Once you are sure that you know exactly which sex you
want to strive for, then you can begin the gender selection process.
2. Visit with a Specialist. We have not even begun to discuss the many
ways that you can enhance your chances of getting a certain sex baby
in detail, but that does not mean that you should not meet with a
appointment to see what types of procedures they offer and review all
of the pros and cons of each. Take the time to learn about low tech
and high tech methods so that you have a clear idea of what options
are available to you. Ohm and finish reading this book so you know as
sex selection program outlined in this book. Or maybe you would like
and your partner. The important thing is to pick a protocol and stick
with it.
procedure you choose, the one thing that you must do is figure out
when you ovulate. Begin charting your BBT; check your cervix and
cervical mucus and get an ovulation predictor test and start charting
your cycles. Until you can pinpoint the day of ovulation, none of the
5. Undergo the Procedure or Program. Now you are ready to try your
completely (don’t skip any steps). One change in the procedure and
6. Wait for the Results. Congratulations, you are pregnant! Now all you
have succeeded and if you are pregnant with the sex that you strived
for.
how others will look at it – and ultimately treat you because of your decision
to use it. Sometimes even couples themselves disagree and that can cause
When it comes to telling others about your decision to choose the sex of your
baby, be prepared for some backlash. Nothing is worse than having people
spout their opinions at you during this highly sensitive and hormonal time.
Pick the people you care to share your news with carefully. Sometimes it is
helpful to write down some of your own desires about having a certain sex
baby or even write answers to the most common arguments people have
regarding the process. That way you will not feel stuck for words should they
confront you with their opinion. Above all else, find people who are
What are some of the other drawbacks of sex selection? Another major
concern amongst critics is that the parents will not feel the same way toward
a child born the wrong sex should the process fail. Think about this carefully
and talk with your partner about his/her own thoughts on the subject. Most
parents cannot even think about to loving any child they bring into the world,
but let’s be honest: if you have your heart set on a girl and a boy is born, will
you have a difficult time adjusting to your “loss?” If honest, some people will
Not every sex selection process ends with the desired results. Even couples
surprised to learn that they are having the opposite sex child than they were
create bad feelings; unloving feelings or other chaos in your life and
emotions then you may want to reconsider your attempt to select the sex of
your baby. There are other ways to ensure the “right sex” (like adoption) and
Gender selection is a highly emotional process and only those who can
honestly say that a mistake wouldn’t alter their feelings with their new child
Finances are another downside of sex selection. Going through the various
expansive and send a family into financial turmoil. Be sure to carefully weigh
As you can see, there is a lot to consider before ever attempting gender
selection with your next pregnancy. Once you have decided to go ahead with
the process there will be plenty of decisions to make and emotions to deal
with. Now is the time to consider all of your options and think about how
Now that you are ready to begin, let’s start looking more closely at the
different methods available for gender selection and choose the one that’s
Chapter Four:
Methods Available for
Gender Selection –
Choosing What’s Right
for You
One of the most common low-tech methods used in recent years for
Landrum B. Shettles, M.D., PH.D., the Shettles Method is the most commonly
used timing method for sex selection. After years of research Dr. Shettles
came to the conclusion that X sperm lived longer, but moved slower, which
means that you have a wider window of opportunity for conceiving a girl;
while Y sperm move fast but don’t survive the harsh conditions inside the
ovulation to produce a boy. This meant that couples using his method were
required to time their intercourse to best allow the sperm of their choice to
was able to manipulate which sperm would make it to fertilize the egg about
75% of the time simply by advising his patients when, how and how often to
have sex.
If the method sounds easy, it isn’t. To ensure the sex you are after takes a
ensure one sex over another. The position they choose for sexual
times couples can – and cannot – have intercourse during the cycle (more on
all of this later). Why, the Shettles Method even dictates whether or not the
Method
Advocates of the Shettles Method tout a success rate above 75%! Now that’s
not bad odds for a low-tech method that doesn’t require any medical
selection does indeed seem to offer good results (heck great ones really!), it
is not all good news. Let’s go over some of the main pros and cons to this
The biggest benefit of The Shettles Method is that it requires very little
outside help. It is something that couples can do alone in the privacy of their
own home (no doctors, nurses or catheters involved!). It is also basically free.
the method (which comes at a small cost) and may also undergo basic
When it comes to any type of fertility program, the fact that a couple can use
The Shettles Method without any risk to the mother’s health is a big draw for
many couples. While more high-tech options may be available, they often
require the use of potent drugs (which come with side effects); surgical
contrary, the Shettles Method is 100% natural, with no need for nay other
Another major benefit for couples is that it seems to work about two-thirds
of the time. Sure, about 25% of participants report failure with the method,
but when researchers looked into the claim, they found in the vast majority
of the time, the couples skipped one of the steps described by Dr. Shettles in
his methodology. If there is one thing to remember about using this method
for gender selection is that the program must be followed exactly as outlined
With these four main benefits: low cost; all natural; done in private and very
Method for gender selection purposes, critics have a host of reasons why the
program is too difficult and ineffective to be deemed the right method for
most couples. Here are just some of the disadvantages of using this method
difficult (if not impossible) for some women. While it can be done for
those who experience very regular menstrual cycle’s women with any
Unless you can do this, the method will not work. Another drawback:
the fact that couples must follow the program precisely as give. Any
essentials step in success for the Shettles Method. When trying for a
the menstrual flow has stopped and continuing until their stop day
postponed until ovulation day and for a few days afterward. Sex
• The inability to use birth control. Since no other birth control methods
can be used during the wrong “gender days” while using the Shettles
methods.
change the Ph levels in the vaginal area, which can work against
certain sperm types. For this reason female orgasm is restricted during
foreplay, sex and afterward when trying to achieve a girl. The good
• The inability to ejaculate. When trying to get pregnant with a boy, men
are advised not to ejaculate for about 5 days prior to the appropriate
It is always good to weigh the pros and cons of any sex selection method,
but when it comes to Shettles, the big question is, can it work?
inaccurate to use, but if you talk with its advocates all you adhere are
toward science for the answer. Here we’ll discuss the science behind the
While researching ways in which a couple might be able to choose the sex
sperm
After uncovering these facts, Dr. Shettles came up with two main ideas to
Idea # 1:
Faster, boy producing Y sperm are more likely to get to the egg for
fertilization first if released into a more alkaline vaginal environment (at the
time of ovulation).
Idea # 2:
Female X sperm may take longer to get to the egg for fertilization, but if
released when the vagina and cervical secretions are more acidic, will survive
the journey more often than male sperm thus producing a girl child.
• What does this all mean? The timing of sexual relations is an integral
more alkaline) and those fast male swimmers have the ability to out-
“the conception race’ to the egg with the secretions from a capillary
tube, Dr. Shettles was able to mimic the female reproductive tract and
could watch male sperm speed forward using a specialized dye which
would garner false results, Dr. Shettles also retrieved sperm samples
during varying stages of intercourse to see how they acted and reacted
…the head of the X sperm is larger than the head of the Y sperm
…” Dr. Alan Barr, Rensslear Polytechnic Institute.
Here is another fact that helps to back up Dr. Shettles claims when it comes
to gender selection: in the vast majority of cases, men with low sperm counts
fact that X sperm are more resilient. This has been confirmed in other
situations where more girls have been born due to weakened by sperm due
When it comes to offering scientific proof that his method works, Dr. Shettles
had plenty of confirmation prior to his death in 2003. From Europe to Japan
and elsewhere on the globe, doctors and scientists alike have refocused his
tests and used his techniques with similar results – success! In Japan alone
several hundred gynecologists were trained by Dr. Shettles in the late 1990’s
and reported a 90% success rate upon treating patients in their homeland.
In most cases, however, the success rate hovers among 75% according to
published reports.
method that can be used to ensure a gender specific pregnancy. The answer
is no. The reason so many couples opt for the Shettles Method is because it
results. But that does not mean that you are tied to using it and only it in
your gender selection quest. There are other methods to look into and
maybe even try, including some very low-tech options as well as some highly
scientific options. Read more to discover which ones interest you the most.
isn’t the only one. The 0 +12 Method is one method being used these days
couples have the best chance of conceiving a girl within 12 hours after
Zealand in which it was reported that most girls were conceived within hours
There are some nuances to the method that are very important and which
may explain the different findings between the researchers in New Zealand
and Dr. Shettles himself. First, the father is instructed not to ejaculate for at
aggress that “older semen” contains more female sperm, this fact alone may
be a major reason why more girls are conceived using the method.
The second variant is the fact that couples are instructed to have intercourse
just one time 8-20 hours after ovulation and then abstain again until your
fertile time has passed. The reason: that fresh batch of sperm will have more
One of the main drawbacks of the method is the fact that the woman must
countdown. Miss this very small window of opportunity and the odds of
conceiving a boy skyrocket (just as Shettles said). Keep in mind that most
ovulation tests predict that ovulation is going to occur; not that it has
occurred or if it has exactly when. This can leave couples struggling to figure
One way that a woman can determine the exact time of ovulation is by her
ovulation pain (a sharp pain in your side as ovulation occurs). That, coupled
with BBT ratings, cervical changes, mucus changes and other ovulation
predictor tests can help some women predict the exact moment of ovulation.
For those who experience no ovulation pain, the method usually does not
work.
(many have heard of the Young method which is almost identical), but still
both of these methods seem to spring up from time to time. Offering new
ultimately the Young Method) is derived from faulty research and statistics.
the following:
• Boys are conceived between the 4-6 day before ovulation occurs
As you can see, Ms. Whelan completing butts heads with Shettles, offering
the exact opposite advice to would-be parents. Her plan was developed
So, why the discrepancy between Dr. Guerrero’s findings and Dr. Shettles?
Well, one so the type of research he used. When investigating the results of
U.S., studies at several acclaimed universities, but when it comes to the data
during the natural semination (sexual intercourse) segment of his study, the
While using the scientific research from the U.S., Guerrero reported the same
results as Dr. Shettles; but the exact opposite when using his own data
collected from local couples. Here is what many believe happened: Dr.
Guerrero had to rely on the couple’s memory of when they had intercourse
months later when the baby was born. Another problem may have been
that the couples themselves were not clear about when ovulation really
occurred, which could have skewed the results. Remember, being just one
or two days off on this important factor could result in a totally different
outcome.
Since the natural semination aspect of the study was not conducted in a
valid. Ms. Whelan used them anyway when devising her sex selection plan.
Now, while the scientific evidence may dispute her claims, the fact remains
that she touts a success rate of 68 percent for girls and 57 percent for boys.
Not bad, you may think until you compare it to Mother Nature, which offers
roughly the same statistical rates. What does that mean? Basically this: you
have the same chance of conceiving the sex you want using the Whelan
to sex selection).
erupted in the media as the new chosen method of sex selection for couples.
Until, that is, J. Martin Young resurrected it in the late 1990’s when he
introduced his own books on the subject, How to Have a Boy and How to Have
a Girl, which basically redesigned Whelan’s original plan. Both have faded
forward with a timing method for sex selection, you would be mistaken –
they are just the most well-known. There have been dozens of other
researchers that have come forward with their own opinion on the matter,
derived from their own independent research. Some agree with Dr. Shettles
William James
According to this man’s methodology, women who have sex every day (or
close to every day) during their cycle will give birth to boys. His reasoning:
amongst first born children, boys are conceived more often as are the
offspring of newly married folks who tend to have sex more frequently that
couples married longer. The problem with this theory is twofold. There is
little statistical birth evidence to substantiate it and science has shown that
men who ejaculate more have lower sperm counts, thus producing fewer
male sperm.
intercourse during Niddah (the week following the end of the menstrual
flow). This, according to most research, puts the first sexual encounter after
female.
the moon and stars to determine what time of the month to try to conceive a
be very effective, many couples opt for more sophisticated methods that
ensure the sex of their child. Some of the most popular high-tech gender
high tech option for gender selection touts an 80% or higher success
rate. There is a slight chance that the wrong sex may be conceived,
sperm out of the specific, no matter how hard the clinician tries. Here
days which can increase the chance of success. Cytometry is one which
sperm brighter than the male sperm, making it easier to find and sort
them.
how it works: first the sperm is collected form the man and the
form the female sperm. Once ovulation has occurred, the “preferred
odds are increased substantially; and since only one sex sperm is
presumably introduced to the egg, the couple has an almost fail rate
While the success rate is near 100%, the procedure does offer some
also offers the side benefit of detecting the sex of the embryo. While
some still offer the service to their patients. Keep in mind though that
remains one of the most popular and most successful low-tech methods
Shettles Method till remains one of the most effective, offering a 75%
success rate compared to only 58% for Whelan and similar for Young.
While the Niddah Method described also has a very high success rate,
one must consider the fact that it completely backs up Shettles in the fact
that Shettles states that more boys are conceived at ovulation time and
Although many of these other timing methods do not seem to offer the
do seem to offer more hope to couples than Shettles timing methods can.
Sperm separation offers couples the chance to actually separate male and
female sperm to give them the best chance of conceiving the gender they
more sophisticated manner such as PGD offers, the success rate can
now, which avenue you and your partner should pursue in regards to
your own sex selection journey. For those who aren’t comfortable relying
simply on the Shettles Method and can not afford or are wary of more
high tech helps, there are other ways to increase your chance of having
that girl – or that boy – that you long for. The Baby Gender Miracle Book
Offering a step by step guide that tells you what to do and when to do it in
certain sex (like making it more acidic or alkaline); knowing when (and
how) to have sex with your partner; and even how to detoxify your body
to ready it for a healthy pregnancy, this guide does not just give you part
of the answer –we offer a complete answer to help you choose the
Great! The 5-Step Baby Gender Miracle System is the best place to begin…
Chapter 5:
The Five Step Baby
Gender Miracle System
Choosing the sex of your next baby is not always easy. Maybe you and your
partner know exactly what sex you would prefer, but when it comes to
actually taking the steps to ensure that that particular sex is conceived, some
people come up against opposition. Before you begin the process of sex
selection, it is important to think about the reaction your will get from others
as well as the cost both financially and emotionally to yourself and your
family.
Gender Selection
Taking the plunge into gender selection is not a decision that should be
that should go into your decision – both emotionally and physically. Before
you ever delve into the process of choosing what sex to conceive, be sure to
guidance you may need to make the right choice for yourselves and your
family.
opinions that can be hard to hear –and discuss. Before talking to anyone
about your idea of selecting the gender of your next baby, think through how
you will bring up the subject and how you will best convey your thoughts and
emotions. This is true whether you are talking to your mother, your best
friend, or your partner. Be sure that you understand why gender selection is
Don’t be surprised if the person you are speaking with is not as thrilled about
your decision as you are (at least at first). For many people, the mere thought
of choosing what gender their next baby will be is akin to playing God, and
warrants some criticism. Prepare yourself with solid answer sot the
questions you most expect and try and keep your emotions in check.
Remember, the people closest to you only want what’s best for you – and
Of course there may be certain people in your life that you know will not
understand or agree with your decisions, so why even make them a part of
your inner group? In the end, the decision is up to you and your spouse, so
you may want to ask yourself why it is important to involve others in the
process. If those in your life cannot understand your need for a certain sex
child, then simply keep your thoughts (and actions) regarding sex selection to
yourself.
local hospital is a good place to start. If an actual group is not available, your
doctor may be able to connect you with another couple who has gone
through the process. Sometimes just hearing how it worked for someone
with other gender selection couples online. There are plenty of blogs and
Gender Selection?
So far we have talked about couples who are both eager and willing to
embrace the idea of gender selection. But, what if your husband or wife isn’t
so keen on the idea? The first thing that you must do is sit down and calmly
discuss the idea. Do not let it become so contentious that is causes a rift
Ask direct questions about why your partner is hesitant about the idea. Does
he/she have a religious reason for not wanting to try gender selection? Is
your partner afraid that he/she will not be able to love the wrong gender is
sex selection is chosen? Is the financial cost just too high? Listen carefully at
instance some people who are initially against the idea of sex selection
because they do not want to take it all out of God’s hands are okay with using
a timing method like Shettles since it does allow God to make the final
decision regarding the gender of your baby; but they may remain adamantly
opposed to using sperm separation or IVF to ensure the right sex baby.
For some, using minor parts of our plan like dietary changes may be alright,
Or maybe your partner doesn’t really care which sex child you produce. If
that is the case, try and explain why it is so important to you. If they see your
anguish and pain, your partner may be more willing to entertain the idea for
your sake.
The key to coming to an agreement is to really listen to what each other has
to say regarding the gender selection and respecting each other's feelings
and point of view. There is almost always room for compromise in any
situation, but if you find that this is one area where you simply cannot agree,
then it is usually best to avoid gender selection altogether. For some that
may be hard decisions, but it won’t do any good to go against your partner
only to discover that you have created a rift so large that your relationship
usually this partner that asks the all-important question: how much is gender
That is not always an easy question to answer. The reasons are simple: there
are so many different avenues to pursue, that the cost can vary from virtually
between.
On the cheapest level, you can expect to have to pay for some type of
ovulation testing. That may mean buying a few kits form the pharmacy or
the exact moment of ovulation. If you decide that a timing method such as
Add to that the cost of the right vitamins, and other supplements and the
cost still remains low. But, add in multiple doctors’ visits, sperm separation,
insemination or full IVF treatments, and the cost of sex selection can quickly
skyrocket.
For the average couple, using sex selection on a more private manner using
Of course, there are other financial costs to consider. Take Jim and Mandi,
who had three boys and said they were willing to keep trying to have that
girl. Looking at the cost of raising a single child meant that having three or
four more boys before getting the desired girl would cost this couple
Don and Tina, on the other hand had thought about adoption as a means to
getting the boy they desired. But, after looking at the high cost of adoption
child, they decided that the money they would have put into adopting
child of their own using one of the gender selection methods described here.
So, when trying to decide if indeed you can afford sex selection –and how
much you are willing to spend on it – be sure to consider all of the cost, not
just the initial ones for testing, doctor visits and procedures.
manageable. How are you going to pay for it? Here are few options:
• Use your savings. The most advisable way to pay for any large expense
is to use your savings (or save up for it) to alleviate any financial stress
account for out of pocket medical expenses, you may want to consider
this option. Since the funds are untaxed, you can actually make your
money go further than simply taking your savings to pay for any
necessary procedures.
any form. But, some do pay for some fertility procedures including
ultrasounds, insemination, IVF, etc. If this is the case, you may be able
to use your insurance for parts of your sex selection bill since it
pay – this is fraud! But, for couples who have legitimate fertility issues
and want to also use gender selection, the option for some coverage is
available.
this is a possibility.
for choosing gender selection), you may be eligible for grant help form
you suffer with a genetic disorder that is driving your need to conceive
one sex over another, you may qualify for a discounted price on some
procedures.
• Credit Cards. Credit cards may be the popular methods of paying for
Still not completely sure that gender selection is right for you and your
determine if indeed picking the sex of your next bay if the right thing to do.
2. How desperate are we to get one gender over another? For instance,
if you are so desperate that getting the wrong gender would send you
selection.
so, why?
9. If our sex selection efforts fail, can we still love the baby in the same
10. Are my reasons for selecting one sex selection legitimate? List all of
the reasons that you want a boy (or a girl) and review what you have
written. If they all seem too superficial, you may want to reconsider
your options.
11. Do we have a good doctor or midwife who can help guide us through
the process?
12. What would you first reaction be if we were to give birth to the wrong
gender? What would our second and final reaction be (to the baby
13. Which gender section options are we most comfortable with? Are
there options that we would not entertain? If so, what are they and
why or why wouldn’t you use them? The answer to this question can
help you better see where your limits are as an individual and a couple
14. Is our doctor an advocate of gender selection? If not, consider the fact
16. If our financially situation does not allow us to ensure the gender
17. How are we planning to pay for our gender section costs?
18. Will spending this money on gender selection cause out family any
financial stress?
19. What are some of the ways we can raise the money for the procedure?
20. Are we wiling to give up other things in our lives to help pay for this
process?
Be honest when answering these questions and then review your answers
decision. Unless you carefully evaluate your reactions to both success and
failure, the odds are good that you will not be happy with your decision over
Conception isn’t an easy task to accomplish. When you look at the biological
all! Now, try and conceive only one type or gender of child and your likely to
Creating an ideal environment for conception will not only make getting
pregnant easier; but getting pregnant with the gender you want more likely.
In the coming pages, we will outline some of the things that you can do to
ensure that your next child is the girl or boy that you long for. But, first, let’s
system.
It does not matter whether you are male or female. Each partner plays a
crucial role in the making of a baby. This requires that each partner’s body is
in tip top shape so that it can work properly. This means eating well and
For women, this means strengthening her entire reproductive system since
the baby will be conceived and grow there. But men too, must be careful to
positive outcome.
So what are some of the things that a couple should do to prepare an ideal
For Men
There isn’t as much pre-planning that man has to worry about, but that does
not mean he can’t of anything to help the process along. For starters, he
should avoid alcohol, drugs, cigarettes and junk food for at least three
months prior to trying to conceive. He should also try to keep his groin
temperature as low as possible. This means avoiding tight briefs, hot tubs;
saunas; etc. Testicles that are constantly heated above the normal body
temperature of 98.6 could produce fewer sperm, which can make it more
For Women
Women don’t have it as easy as men. They have to work at preparing their
eggs for maturity and release and their uterus for impanation and nurturing
Diet and lifestyle can have a direct impact on your ability to conceive. How?
Eat the wrong foods, or participate in the wrong habits and your immune
cannot perform properly and your blood can’t flow the way it should. This
can all create an imbalance in your body that prohibits one of its most
After all, if you don’t give your body the proper mix of vitamins and minerals,
how can you expect it to handle such a complicated (and important) job as
So, where should you start when trying to improve your overall health? Let’s
Every living cell in your body requires sufficient amounts of linoleic acid and
alpha-linoleic acid to stay healthy. They are also a key to ovulation, so eating
plenty of fish, fish oil, soy, eggs, broccoli, and dark green vegetables can all
One Important Note Here: while eating fish is a great way to get essential
fatty acids in your diet, pregnant women (and those who are trying to get
pregnant) need to avoid fish that are at the top of the food chain (shark,
flake, tuna, etc.). High levels of mercury are often found in these fish and the
higher you go on the food chain, the more mercury is found. Not sure which
fish to avoid; use this simple rule: stay away from fish that eat other fish to
survive.
sure to eat plenty of non-citrus fruits, vegetables, sprouts, cereal grasses and
The foods we eat aren’t always good for us – even if it isn’t considered “junk
food.” For some women, the pesticides, chemicals and hormones found in
today’s meats can also interfere with natural hormone production and cause
infertility.
Every time you eat something that has an additive, preservative or artificial
flavor, you are not only robbing your body of the chance to get the right
nutrients from that particular food, but you are stripping your body of the
nutrients it has already collected. How? When you add these elements to
Our bodies take the essential vitamins and minerals in the foods we eat and
grains are refined, many of these important minerals are stripped away. If
you eat too many refined carbohydrates like white bread, plain pasta and
white rice, your body may be forced to tap into its mineral stores to get what
it needs. This can oftentimes result in a zinc or folic acid deficiency in your
zinc are essential to increase sperm counts in men and too little zinc in either
Folic acid deficiency can result in reduced production of eggs and sperm, as
encourage the cows to produce more milk, as well as pesticides used in the
feed they are given. Ingesting these hormones can cause your own levels to
All stimulants should be avoided when trying to conceive. Nicotine can age
your ovaries and make your eggs resistant to fertilization, especially as you
IVF who had consumed even minimal amounts of alcohol; and caffeine can
restrict blood vessels in both men and women, causing fertility problems.
to get pregnant since they can affect every organ of the body and the energy
they emit.
other unhealthy foods can all contribute to infertility by not providing the
right nutrition necessary to keep your body in its best and healthiest shape.
For instance, eating too many saturated fats can interfere with the
metabolism of those essential fatty acids you need, which can create a
hormonal imbalance.
Eliminate Toxins
Some researchers estimate that our bodies are bombarded with up to 300
health effects of all of this abuse! No matter how well you eat and how
of toxins everyday – and some of them may be the root cause of your
infertility! From air pollution, cleaning products, garden sprays, and even
radiation from our cell phones and building materials, our bodies are under
Water
It isn’t just the water you drink that could be a problem, The water you bathe
and shower in can also seep into your system through the skin, causing
concern. Your first step to making sure the water you come in contact with is
and cryptosporidium from the water you drink, cook with and bathe with.
Also, consider installing a filter on your shower for even more protection,
since hot water can make many toxins more volatile and more easily
absorbed.
Lead
Lead can be very dangerous to your nervous system and is often found in
older homes built or remodeled prior to the 1970’s. There are simple home
tests you can purchase to see if any lead resides in your home, or you can
Mercury
Almost everyone comes in contact with mercury on a regular basis. It is
and some cosmetics), as well as some of the fish we eat (tuna and shark).
may begin to leach after a few years. If you suspect that high mercury levels
Cleaning products
There are plenty of cleaning products on the market that should be avoided
products are easy to find these days and offer a toxin-free way to keep your
Gardening products
Lawn and garden sprays can all present a hazard to couples trying to
conceive. Forget the pesticides for a more natural lawn and garden.
Environmental Toxins
Our environment is riddled with toxins that may be prohibiting our ability to
plastics and regular meat). These types of man-made chemicals which can
a regular basis and are usually found in that is found in glue, dry cleaning
clothes, nail polish and paint. They can lead to an array of health problems
including fatigue, anxiety, depression, brain swelling, and fetus damage and
sites, and by hindering the ability of the liver to produce estrogen. This can
tissues), damage the female ovarian follicles and make them dysfunctional.
progesterone.
Sound scary? Well, it is! I can’t stress enough the importance of minimizing
3. Don’t use pesticides or house sprays for bugs, pets or for your lawn or
garden.
6. Install stone or tile in your home. The glue found in most carpets releases
7. Cleanse and detoxify your bowels, kidneys and liver every 2-3 months.
Exercise has many benefits for both men and women trying to conceive
alleviating the stresses that could all be inhibiting conception. Focusing too
much energy on the skeletal system can take important energy from the
Control Stress
Chances are you have heard this advice during your quest to have a baby:
just relax. Easier said than done, but the fact remains: stress can be a major
Referred to as the “fertility killer” stress can impact the way our bodies both
act and react. Putting your body into a fight or flight response with too much
stress, can inhibit the reproductive system from doing its job. Stress
redirects blood flow away from the areas you need it most in order to
conceive. This can keep your body from producing the right amounts of
the right order. Remember, just one little part of the system out of whack
treatment were 93% more likely to achieve a pregnancy and live birth if
Sleep Optimization
We all know how important sleep is to our health, but what about to our
fertility? Your body can’t reach its perfect balance without the right amount
of sleep. Be sure to get at least eight hours of solid sleep each night and be
sure to take time throughout the day to relax rest and meditate in order to
Your Body
Another way to notice too much stress in your life is by the way it can make
you feel physically. Here are some of the major symptoms of stress to watch
out for:
• anxiety
• back and neck pain
• headaches
• boredom
• a change in bowel habits
• crying
• dizziness
• dry mouth
• forgetfulness
• an inability to make quick decisions (or any decisions)
• indigestion
• heart palpitations
• restlessness
• tinnitus (ringing in the ears)
• sweaty palms
• teeth grinding
This one can be really hard for some people, but learning how to accept your
limitations is essential to keeping your stress levels – and your Psoriasis–
under control. For instance, Kathy absolutely loved a spic-and-span house,
but when her Psoriasis symptoms flare, she has come to accept the fact that
some tasks must be put aside for a time. Where once she would try to keep
up, only to prolong her symptoms, she now realizes that by allowing her
body to heal, she finds relief much quicker and can get back to normal days
that much faster.
Learn to Say No
Whenever someone asks you to add something to your schedule, tell them
you will get back to them in one day. This will give you time to figure out if
indeed it is something you can handle – or even want to do. And don’t feel
badly about saying no. Your main priority should be your health and
anything that interferes with that should be declined.
If you recognize that certain situations are so stressful they incite Psoriasis,
than do whatever you can to remove yourself form the situation; or at least
limit your exposure to it. Frank admitted that visiting with his in-laws for long
holidays became so stressful that his PSORIASIS flared either before they
even left home or soon after returning home. It made every holiday
something to dread rather than enjoy. Since not going at all was not an
option for his family, they decided to limit their exposure by shortening their
average 5-7 day trips to just 2-3 days and also staying at a hotel to give Frank
a chance to get away from the people and events causing him the most
stress. After finding simple ways to alter the visits, Frank soon found his
symptoms easing. Like Frank, you need to acknowledge when a stressful
situation causes a PSORIASIS flare and find ways to remove ourselves either
physically or emotionally form the situation.
Once you have worked on some of these lifestyle changes, be sure to give a
few of these stress helps a chance:
Young or old, male or female, it doesn’t matter; relaxation therapy works for
all sorts of people. Simple and easy to learn and do, relaxation therapy is
used to help calm both mind and body. It can be done anywhere, making it
an excellent choice for Psoriasis patients, who may need to incorporate it
into their workday; on vacation or even at home, to help them keep their
symptoms at bay.
Most people find it easier to lie down while they learn how to use relaxation
therapy. But, once you get the hang of it, you can use the therapy while
sitting in a chair; waiting in your car; on an appliance; or virtually anywhere
else. The key is to learn how to relax every single part of your body. Here’s
how:
1. Begin by imagining that your feet are completely relaxed and tension
free. Allow them to grow heavy.
2. Breathe slowly and deeply to help accelerate the process. Take your
time.
4. Once your feet grow heavy and relaxed, imagine that feeling making it
way up your calves, into your thighs and throughout all other parts of
your body, once section at a time.
5. It will take some time until you learn the technique to achieve full body
relaxation.
While imagining this feeling of total relaxation and release travelling through
your body, some people like to paint beautiful and calming pictures in their
minds; others prefer a void of nothingness. Some may use music to help
them relax. Others prefer total quiet. These are all very independent
decisions. Use whatever sources will help you achieve a mode of total
relaxation.
There’s no way to escape all of the stressors life has to offer. But, learning to
recognize some of the things that can increase your stress levels and your
Psoriasis can help you to limit its effect.
When trying to find the stress in your own life, look at these common areas:
• Finances
• Family Life
• Relationships
• Work
• Health Issues
• Life Changes
• Time Pressures
• Eat Well. Poor nutrition will only wear your body down more, making
it harder to deal with other pressures.
• Exercise. Nothing clears the head and relieves stress than regular
exercise; especially if you find something you enjoy like gardening,
walking, swimming, tennis, etc.
• Find a Good Balance. Finding time for both what needs to get done
and the things you enjoy can all help to ease the stress in your life and
keep you from always feeling under pressure.
• Stay Away From Sleep Aids. Many sleep disorder sufferers think they
have to have a tranquilizer or other sleep aid to get enough rest. The
problem is those medications can sometimes make the problem
worse.
When you become stressed, your body reacts in specific ways: your blood
pressure increases; your breathing becomes more rapid; your temperate
even rises. Those who use biofeedback learn how to control their body’s
response to stress in order to intercept it. After all, it is difficult to really feel
upset or unnerved if your blood pressure drops or your breathing slows
down.
For biofeedback to work you first must learn how your body reacts to stress.
This is done by graphing your response mechanically using a variety of
monitors. By hooking yourself up to a variety of machines you can see how
you’re pulse races, your temperature rises, etc. when stressed. Then you can
begin to train your body to recognize when your stress levels begin to rise so
that you can practice ways to reverse those responses in order to lower
those stress levels. This of course, takes time, understanding and a qualified
biofeedback teacher.
Not always easy for some to learn, biofeedback techniques have been used
quite successfully in helping reduce symptoms in many Psoriasis patients.
While the entire process can take months to learn, over time, patients no
longer need monitoring or other assistance to talk their bodies into handling
stressful situations differently.
As is the case with most therapies, there are several different kinds of
biofeedback techniques that can be tied on the Psoriasis patient to help
better control their stress levels:
Thermal Biofeedback: Those who suffer with migraine headaches have used
this type of biofeedback therapy with much success. It works by measuring
the temperature of the skin and can be used to help teach patient’s the
benefits of hand warming.
Finger Pulse Biofeedback: By measuring pulse rates in the finger patients can
understand how their stress levels affect their breathing heart rate and other
cardiovascular symptoms.
help to calm an exited nervous system, but it can keep your body from
releasing stress hormones. The easiest way to practice this technique
is to lie flat on the floor or the bed. Place your hand on your abdomen
and take in a deep cleansing breathe through your nostril. If you notice
your hands rising on your belly, then you are breathing correctly. If,
however, your chest rises and not your abdomen, try again. Inhale to
the count of five; hold your breath for 3 seconds and then slowly
exhale. Repeat up to 25 times or until you begin to feel the anxiety
leave your muscles.
This does not mean that Psoriasis victims find it more difficult to cope; they
just have a lot to cope with. Keep in mind that depression can result anytime
during a flare as you struggle with the uncertainty and often
misunderstanding of this disease.
Of course, you cannot deal with something you don’t recognize or will not
accept. For some people, depression is a sign of weakness. Nothing could be
further from the truth. This has absolutely nothing to do with a person’s
coping abilities.
The following short and easy to follow liver detoxing protocol will
help you cleanse your way to a complete, normal and healthy
pregnancy.
The liver is the largest organ in the body and is a main player in the digestive
process the foods it takes in, and every organ would suffer as important
nutrients fail dot make their way to other places in the body and excess
2. aid in digestion
It is able to these jobs by making bile (acids which help in digestion) and
filtration (the process of separating needed nutrients from other toxins and
chemicals). As the food we eat is digested, the liver helps to send off the
vitamins and minerals the body needs and flush out everything else.
So it makes sense that when your liver is not working properly, your entire
body suffers. And when digestion suffers, a leaky gut can occur.
To help keep your liver working effectively, it is important to clean it our once
There are a lot of different ways in which to detoxify the liver, but this simple
where do you begin? Here are three main steps to a great liver detox:
The Prequel
No detoxifying program is going to work well without first boosting your liver
your liver the nutrients it needs to handle the actual toxin purge.
When you fast, your body releases toxins from your fat cells, forcing them
into your bloodstream. If your colon and liver are not prepared, they will be
unable to handle the influx, sending the toxins back into new cells. By
supporting these organs with liver strengthening foods prior to the fast, you
The prequel program requires eating a good mix of liver strengthening foods
for 5-7 days before the actual detox. What foods will help prepare your body
for the purge ahead? For one week before the detox fast, be sure to choose
Crucifers
- cabbage
- cauliflower
- Brussels sprouts
- broccoli
Citrus
- oranges
- lemons
- limes
Herbs
- dandelion
- mustard greens
- parsley
- kale
- watercress
- char
Sulfur-Rich Foods
- garlic
- onions
- eggs
- radish
- artichoke
- asparagus
- beets
- celery
- yeast flakes
What to Avoid
To ensure that your liver and colon are not being stressed for the week prior
- artificial sweeteners
- caffeine
- gluten
- refined carbohydrates
- trans fats
- soy
- alcohol
One of the fastest and easiest ways to flush the liver of toxins is to drink a
concoction designed to purge toxins from the liver while still supporting it.
Keep in mind that this protocol should only be sued for one day or else you
Juice Recipe
Ingredients:
• cinnamon
• ground ginger
• nutmeg
Cooking Procedure:
• Place cinnamon, ginger and nutmeg into a tea ball and then add to
simmering mixture
Be sure to alternate drinking one cup of filtered water and one cup of detox
mixture throughout the day, being sure to take in about 68-72 ounces of
clear water. This will require drinking at least 8 ounces of either every hour.
detox mixture
Take a 20 minute walk at the end of the day to help your circulation and keep
The Sequel
In just one day you should be feeling lighter and more energetic as your liver
flushes tons of toxins from your body. But, that’s not all. To help the liver get
rid of all of the toxins clogging up your gut, be sure to add plenty of probiotic
food sources to your diet during the next three days to help your intestines
plenty of raw fresh sauerkraut and nonfat whole milk yogurt. In addition,
before each meal take 1-2 tablets of hydrochloric acid in a formula that
mg ox bile extract.
To finish off the program follow the 7 seven prequel diet for a week following
Time of Ovulation
No matter what program you ultimately use to help conceive your next baby
– and no matter what gender you choose it to be – there is one thing that you
ovulation has gotten much easier in the last few years, but still can be a
Have you ever known anyone who insists that she can tell the moment she
ovulates? You may have thought the woman was nuts. But, the odds are
good that she has just taken the time to listen to her body and learn her
too can learn how to do it simply by listening more closely to what your body
Signs
Your body has the tendency to tell you exactly what it’s up to – if you are
Some experience a sharp pain in their side or right through their belly button
others become crampy and may even spot a bit. Any of these signs sound
familiar? You may be missing an important sign that you are ovulating!
The first step is to watch for signs of ovulation so that you are sure to you’re
your sexual encounters to benefit your gender section. This can be done by
When you ovulate, your body produces more progesterone, which raises
your basal body temperature (usually by about 1 degree F). Of course, this
indicator that ovulation has either already occurred (or is about to), it should
When tracking your Basal Body Temperature make certain to follow these
basic guidelines:
Mucous Changes
woman’s
infertile times, the mucous in her cervix tends to be thin and somewhat
pliable. If you watch your cervical mucous daily, you will notice that
you can take a dab of mucous between your fingers and stretch it
Being able to detect these subtle changes and link them to ovulation can
Cervical Palpation
Changes in the way your cervix feels can also tell you when you ovulate –
especially when used in conjunction with the basal body temperature – since
most of the time the cervix feels firm and dry and easy to reach. It will also
feel closed. The closer to ovulation you get, the softer and wetter it will feel.
It may also feel as if it is creeping further and further into the vagina toward
the uterus. During ovulation it can actually move an entire inch deeper into
the pelvis. Plus, it will feel open to the touch – you will actually be able to
stick your finger into it! This allows the sperm to make their way through.
So, how do you check each of these items? Start by using the same position
each time (putting one foot on a low stool is best) and inserting your finger
all the way into your vagina (reaching up and back) until you feel the top.
Your cervix can be felt on the underside of the tip of your finger. If you do not
feel your cervix, try pressing on your lower abdomen. (Just be sure to do this
each time you do a cervix check since consistency is vital for accurate
charting.
Charting your cervical changes will take a couple of months since it will likely
It is easiest to draw the changes of the cervix on a chart. Use a dot to signify
If the cervix is low in the vaginal canal, draw it low in the space for cervical
Next, write Firm if the cervix is firm and soft if the cervix is soft.
Finally, go over your charts after a few months looking for patterns. You will
notice a distinct pattern to the changes in your cervix and that will help you
better determine ovulation. Next, double check with your BBT to see if both
results match.
Once you have learned how to detect ovulation, you will need to keep a chart
While it may sound complicated (and often looks that way in the books you
read), a fertility chart can be as simple or complex as you make it. Basically,
month so you can see any patterns that emerge which will help you better
For some people, predicting ovulation on their own requires the use of more
software. Others simply want to double-check their own results with these
LH generally rises 24 to 36 hours before ovulation, these tests can help you
determine about what day you are apt to ovulate from month to month.
There are some drawbacks to these tests however. First, women with
polycystic ovaries may have a high LH all the time, so the kits will always be
They can also be difficult to read and understand so many women must use
your spit. Believe it or not, your saliva’s salt content rises as you your
estrogen levels increase, so finding your saliva’s peak salt line can be a good
According to the FDA, these spit tests are about 98% accurate and easy to
use. Since you can reuse the testing tubes, the kits must only be purchased
once, unlike other ovulation kits which must require buying a new kit every
month. Plus, you can use the testing kit anytime, not just when your bladder
Although more expensive (about $60) and harder to use, the salvia test does
appear to be more accurate, especially for women who do not have a regular
period.
Fertility Monitors
For those wishing to use a more high-tech method of determining their
computer to track and store data regarding your test results, these monitors
can actually test both your estrogen and LH levels from day to day. Able to
predict ovulation five days before it happens, they can give couples a much
Fertility monitors can also be used if you’re taking fertility drugs, and unlike
other testing kits, it can also be set for women with unpredictable cycles.
They are expensive — running over $200 — but are the most accurate home
selection outcome, it should be handled slowly and carefully. Take the time
to use each of these methods, creating multiple charts to log your results.
Sure it may take 3-5 months to determine the exact time that you ovulate,
but it is well worth the time it takes to ensure that you get the baby that you
want.
Supplementation Measures to
Selection
There are a lot of factors that go into creating an inviting environment for
one type of sperm versus another. Keeping your body’s pH level within a
No matter what method of gender section you decide to follow, the research
2. High acid levels in the vagina and cervix destroy male (Y chromosome
4. High alkaline levels destroy female sperm, but have little effect on
male sperm.
alkaline level of the female body is one way to help predispose conception
to find out what your Ph level is and then do whatever is necessary to adjust
it to make your reproductive tract more sustaining to the gender you want.
The best way to test your vaginal Ph levels is by using either manual test
strips or a testing meter. The strips are usually cheaper, but can be harder to
read; while the test monitor gives instant and easy to understand results.
Regardless of which type of testing device you sue, you will have to get a
mucous sample form your vagina. The best and most accurate way to do this
is to reach into the vagina near the cervix and try and lightly scrape your
Next, smear the mucous onto the testing device according to the directions
in the box. Testing strips will generally change color which needs to be
matched to the color strip found with your kit. This will tell you how acidic or
alkaline your mucous. Digital meters, on the other hand usually give you a
Ph levels are gauged on a scale from 0 to 14. The lower the number, the
better chance you have of conceiving a girl. To conceive a girl you want a Ph
Important Note: the alkalinity of a man’s semen can also affect gender. To
test your partner, simply repeat the test using a sample of semen taken right
after ejaculation. In rode rot conceive a girl, his levels should be around 7 or
provide an optimal environment for conceiving the sex you desire. This can
(equal parts) and then insert into the vagina 30 minutes after
• Use egg whites. Egg whites can help raise pH levels in a safe
carefully wash the shell. Separate the yolk form the egg white
and tests the whites for their Ph level. If the level is at least a 9,
then gently inert the egg whites into the vagina before
intercourse.
should eat to conceive a specific sex. But first, it is important for us to review
Right now is not the time to begin consuming large amounts of food to
about 6-8 weeks before you try to conceive. This will help your body provide
Before adding things to your diet to help give those girl or boy sperm the
best chance of survival it is important to make sure that you are getting
enough folic acid, calcium and iron rich foods in your daily eating plan. These
three main nutrients are critical if you want to conceive and maintain a
Iron
Iron is an essential nutrient needed to ensure a healthy pregnancy. Its main
role is to produce red blood cells which are needed to carry oxygen
• add more vegetables into your diet (try adding them to soups
and casseroles)
• Add legumes (beans) to your diet through pasta dishes, chili and
a variety of soups.
Calcium
We all know that calcium is a crucial ingredient to building strong bones. Go
into pregnancy calcium defiant and both you and your baby will suffer. To
milk
orange juice
Folic Acid
Most women need at least 400 micrograms of folic acid daily to ensure a
healthy pregnancy. Yet, few ever get that much. In addition to the folic acid
found in your prenatal vitamins, try adding these foods to your daily eating
plan:
• orange juice
• tomato juice
Vitamin C
A powerful antioxidant that protects the essential fatty acids, vitamin C also
helps with male infertility (sperm motility), speeds up the healing process and
You can provide yourself with vitamin C simply by eating organic citrus fruit
with water cannot only provide a high quality of vitamin C, it also cleanses
Vitamin A
Vitamin A helps the body produce the proper amounts of cervical mucus in
increase abnormal sperm so it is suggested that both men and women get
up to 10,000 IU of Beta Carotene. The best foods to eat for this purpose
include: carrots, sweet potatoes, cantaloupe, spinach, eggs, yellow fruits and
vegetables, whole milk and milk products, dark green leafy veggies, and fish
oils.
throwing off the balance too much. Male Y sperm do not thrive under these
circumstances and will either be killed off or will slow down so much that
vagina and cervix, be sure to eat more acidic foods such as:
• corn
• lentils olives
• winter squash
• blueberries
• citrus
• cranberries
• prunes
• plums
• barley
• bran
• oats
• bread
• wheat flour
• macaroni
• noodles
• wheat germ
• wheat products
• almond milk
• chick peas
• beans (green beans, chick peas, pinot beans and red beans)
• rice milk
• soy milk
• butter
• cheese
• ice cream
• legumes
• bacon
• beef
mussels)
• lamb
• oils (olive oil, safflower oil, avocado oil, canola oil, sesame oil,
sesame oil)
• lard
• carob
• corn syrup
• sugar
• catsup
• cocoa
• mustard
• soft drinks
• vinegar
diet:
• alfalfa
• barley grass
• beef greens
• beets
• broccoli
• cabbage
• carrots
• cauliflower
• celery
• collard greens
• cucumber’
• dandelion
• edible flowers
• egg plant
• garlic
• green peas
• kale
• lettuce
• mushrooms
• nightshade vegetables
• onions
• parsnips
• peas
• peppers
• seaweed
• spinach
• sweet potatoes
• tomatoes
• watercress
• wheatgrass
• dandelion root
• apples
• apricots
• avocado
• bananas
• berries
• cantaloupes
• coconut (fresh)
• currants
• dates
• dried figs
• grapes
• grapefruit
• honeydew
• lemon
• lime
• nectarines
• oranges
• peaches
• pears
• pineapple
• raisins
• almonds
• chestnuts
• tofu
• chili pepper
• cinnamon
• ginger
• curry
• herbs (all)
• sea salt
• bee pollen
• green juices
• blackstrap molasses
that you can try. Note: please be sure to check with your doctor to
ensure that each is safe under your unique health and fertility
situation:
Sudafed: this mucous drying over the counter medication can help
Since they are hardier than their male counterparts, the theory is
that they can survive the dryer environment can make it to the egg
reduce the Ph level in your body which is said to help female sperm
thrive and male sperm die off before they reach the egg for
fertilization.
you can take to help boost the alkalinity of your Ph levels. Here are
just a few:
Orgasm Factors
Man + woman= baby. When all goes as planned, a husband and
you know that the frequency, timing, and organism factors all play
decision.
To determine the time each month that you ovulate, please refer to
utilizing:
ensure that the day you have chosen as your special day is indeed just
stress (and isn’t this all a bit stressful) as well as illness. So, take the
What if you suffer from an irregular cycle? Does that mean that gender
trickier.
For women with irregular cycles it is recommended that they look back
at their cycles over a 6-month period of time. Find the shortest cycle
and then subtract 14 days. Then subtract another 3 days. This is your
target date. For instance, if your shortest cycle is 26 days, you will
9. If you are trying to conceive a girl then you would want to have sex
no later than day 9 of your cycle. For a boy; after day 9. By working
with the shortest cycle you are guaranteeing that you will not have a
heavily on these earlier date, you may miss the opportunity to get
pregnant altogether when your cycle runs later than 26 days. This can
considered.
Once you have determined your target date for ovulation, then you
can figure out when to bets time your sexual escapades to coincide
with the proper time to conceive the gender you want. Remember, to
days before you ovulate and then stop on ovulation day. For boys,
lower the sperm count a bit. This can be done by keeping the
Want to have a girl? How often you have sex may be a factor. There
are two main ideas considering the frequency of intercourse and the
On one hand, some scientists believe that having frequent sex can
when couples abstain for too long (let’s say for 2 weeks or more)
tends to dramatically lower the sperm count. The timing of this often
occurs just at the right time for trying to conceive a girl. So some
count, and this can sometimes allow more female sperm to be emitted
during ejaculation. Try and keep the testes warm by wearing longer
pants and snug underwear (but not tight since this can cause an over-
Jacuzzi tub, try soaking in it from time to time but keep the
cause the sperm count to become too low for a pregnancy to occur at
all.
“boy days” around ovulation. Also, if you can abstain altogether during
your non-girl days (this is usually 2-3 weeks per month), you may have
But, is it safe to douche while trying to conceive? The jury is still out on
Making the final decision is a health care question that you will have to
answer yourself. Only you know how much risk that you are willing to
increase their chances of giving birth to a girl, here are a few recipes
try:
• mix equal amounts of water and baking soda (use more water if
birth control methods may to only harm your ability to conceive at all,
symptoms of ovulation which are false and can cause you to try for
Any type of medicated birth control like the pill or an IUD must never
caused by these methods of birth control can not only keep you from
result.
Foams and gels are also discouraged. While they may seem safe, they
can alter the alkalinity of the cervix and can also destroy sperm.
Most researchers agree that when trying your hand at sex selection
there are only two forms of birth control that will not interrupt the
process:
making their way to the egg to for fertilization during the wrong
the cycle as well as whether or not orgasm has been reached. When a
smaller and lighter male sperm further into the cervix, giving them a
more difficult for male sperm to make their way to the egg for
fertilization. The longer the trip, the more successful the female X
3. The Edge of the World Position: this position requires the female
to lay on the edge of the bed, couch or chair and allow her
that conceiving a boy sit he exact opposite. In some cases that is true.
As is the case in trying to conceive a girl, the first step to trying for that
boy is determining when you ovulate. once you have make that
important determination, then you must figure out the best boy days
to have intercourse. For the highest rate of success, time your sexual
encounters for the day of ovulation and beyond. This way, your
more sperm you have, the more chances you will have that a Y
chromosome one will make it to the egg for fertilization. Reread some
you a better chance of conceiving a boy. Avoid clothing pieces like jock
straps, wet suits, jogging suits, tight underwear and other pieces of
tight clothing. Also stay away from hot rubs, warm baths, saunas and
fact that your sex life is more active. Having sex at least 2-3 times per
birth control methods may to only harm your ability to conceive at all,
symptoms of ovulation which are false and can cause you to try for
Any type of medicated birth control like the pill or an IUD must never
caused by these methods of birth control can not only keep you from
result.
Foams and gels are also discouraged. While they may seem safe, they
can alter the alkalinity of the cervix and can also destroy sperm.
Most researchers agree that when trying your hand at sex selection
there are only two forms of birth control that will not interrupt the
process:
making their way to the egg to for fertilization during the wrong
should help to push male sperm further into the cervix where it needs
the egg as possible. This helps to limit their trip and stay away from
positions are best for baby boy conception? Here are a few to try:
can also help to push those male sperm along. Men, just be
sure to warn your partner before you ejaculate so she can come
requires the woman to lie on her stomach with her legs spread
• The astride position: while lying on his back, the woman strides
the man with her legs on either side of him. This allows the
Now that you have a bit more knowledge about how sex section works
deciding whether or not you want to try the options offered here.
Yearning for a certain sex child is nothing new; couples have struggled
with this need for centuries. Lucky for you that you live in a time that
If you are thinking about sex selection, take the time to re-read this
book carefully and discuss it with your partner, and then, if you both
agree, go ahead and give out method a try. Nature gives you a 50-
50chance of getting the gender you yearn for – our program increases
APPENDIX 1:
Other Methods of Sex
Selection?
Sometimes the need for a certain sex child is so strong, that couples
do not want to “risk” getting the wrong sex. In most cases, this is due
that they can’t even think of giving birth to the gender which could be
time to consider more drastic – and ethnical – means for fulfilling their
dream of parenthood.
While high-tech solutions are not for everyone, they do offer some
hope for those couples who have a legitimate “need” to ensure one
So, what medical intervention options are available for these couples?
The three most common are: MicroSort; The Erricson Method and
PGD.
the sperm. Since a man’s sperm dictates which sex the embryo will be,
sex of their child. With a bit more research and tweaking to make the
device work for humans, MicroSort became one of the most popular
MicroSort offers couples three important things that can allow them to
3. figure out which sample contains girl sperm and which contains
boy sperm
Until this technology was made available, sorting sperm was a difficult
2. Next, the sample is put into the cytometry machine, which tags
3. Next probes that can read the dye are attached to the
pregnancy.
success rate of about 76-95%. Early statistics show the success rate
for female birth to be higher than those for male births. It is also
completely safe for both mother and child. Many couples like the fact
with MicroSort.
The problem with using Invitro is that it requires the woman taking
remain the same; MicroSort seems to be one of the best and most
Getting Started
According to the MicroSort website, couples must qualify for the
most cases, MicroSort is only permitted for those who are trying to
• must be married
a genetic problem is the reasons you are trying to select the sex
Once a couple has been approved for the procedure, ovulation will
simple rules:
On procedure day, a semen catch will be taken; the sperm sorted; and
who are undergoing IVF, the sperm will be sorted and stored until the
how involved the process, the basic consultation, sort and natural
the Erricson Albumin Method was first introduced in the 1970’s. The
into the patient in the hopes that a pregnancy takes place. Most
patients must repeat the process for 2-3 months before any
pregnancy occurs.
When it comes to conceiving girls using the method, the success rate
While the Erricson method for sex selection does have its critics, there
seems to be a large request for the method since Dr. Erricson alone
has nearly 20 of his own clinics worldwide which offer the procedure
genetic disorder, the odds of giving birth to a child with the disorder is
couples fear getting pregnant at all. Now, they can rest easy, knowing
that they can safely and successfully choose to have a child of the
heartbreak.
PGD works by collecting eggs form the female, fertilizing them with her
partner’s sperm and then allowing those eggs to form an 8-10 cell
embryo. This takes 3-5 days. Once the embryo is big enough, a single
cell is removed form it (this in no way harms the embryo). The embryo
is then left to continue growing while tests are done on the single cell
discovered that they could determine what sex an embryo was during
the testing phase. This is where the controversy lies. Many critics
literally “thrown away” when they turn out to be of the wrong sex.
since the embryo contains DNA form both partners, many feel
uncomfortable with this tactic, feeling as if they have just given away
one of their children. Other couples opt to freeze the unused embryos
for a time when they feel like they would like to expand their family
One way to help ease the concern of some is to also employ MicroSort
Once an embryo has been chosen, it is then implanted into the mother
pregnancy. Success rates vary, but are extremely high, touting the
Although the process does come with some criticism, the fact is that it
for couples who fear genetic issues. Not only can the PGD process
screen the embryo for its sex, but can also screen the embryo for
possible genetic problems, easing the minds of the new parents even
more.
the pros and cons from those around you. No program (no matter
how high tech) is 100% effective; yet some processes offer better
Appendix 2:
Your Sex Selection Menu
You have already learned about the different kinds of foods that you
shield you want. But, how can you take those foods and ingredients
and create menus and recipes that you want to eat? Here are some
magnesium and calcium rich foods like milk, yogurt, cheese, leafy
Here is a sample meal plan to give you some ideas of how to include
Monday:
Breakfast: a glass of milk, bran muffin, a half a grapefruit
Lunch: a leafy green salad; a cup of yogurt; glass of milk and a handful
of almonds
Snack: wheat crackers and peanut butter or ice cream (your choice)
Tuesday:
Breakfast: eggs served your favorite way; wheat toast (with butter),
prune juice and fresh fruit
Lunch: corn chowder; wheat or soda crackers; cup milk, bread and
butter
Wednesday:
Lunch: lentil soup, bread and butter, soda crackers and small green
salad
Thursday:
Breakfast: whole grain cereal and almond milk; fresh fruit and
yogurt
Dinner: Macaroni and cheese with ham; green beans and roasted
potatoes
Friday:
Breakfast: Whole wheat toast; scrambled eggs, bacon, blueberries,
milk
Saturday:
Lasagna
Ingredients:
1 lb hamburger
What to Do:
the top.
Lentil Soup
Ingredients:
2 cut carrots
8 cups water
2 tablespoons vinegar
½ cup spinach
What To Do:
In a large soup pot, heat oil over medium heat. Add onions, carrots, and
celery; cook and stir until onion is tender. Stir in garlic, bay leaf, oregano, and
Stir in lentils, and add water and tomatoes. Bring to a boil. Reduce heat, and
simmer for at least 1 hour. When ready to serve stir in spinach, and cook
until it wilts. Stir in vinegar, and season to taste with salt and pepper, and
Corn Chowder
Ingredients:
2 teaspoons butter
2 diced potatoes
1 cup onion
4 cups water
2 tsp. cornstarch
What to Do:
Sauté onions lightly in melted butter. Add drained liquid form the
clams (set clams aside). Add water, salt pepper and cornstarch to pan.
Add potatoes. Cook (covered) for 10 minutes. Uncover. Add milk and
Tuna Loaf
Ingredients:
2 cans tuna
1 egg
What to Do:
Mix all ingredients. Shape into loaf pan. Cook in a 350 degree oven for
30 minutes.
beef up your meal plans to include plenty of red meats and other
Monday:
Breakfast: carrot juice, sausage, eggs and fresh melon
Tuesday:
Breakfast: cereal, banana, dried figs and fresh fruit juice
Dinner: Chicken, rice and stir fry vegetables (broccoli, green beans,
cauliflower)
Wednesday:
Breakfast: honeydew, carrot juice, almond nut cereal
juice
Thursday:
Breakfast: sausage, eggs and pineapple
Friday:
Breakfast: bacon, eggs and bananas
Dinner:
Saturday:
Breakfast: apricots. Yogurt and eggs
products, tomatoes.
Ingredients:
1 tablespoon(s) ketchup
1 teaspoon(s) cornstarch
What to Do:
sugar in a small bowl until smooth. Toss tofu in a separate bowl with 2
6. Add the remaining 1 teaspoon oil to the skillet and heat over medium
heat. Add garlic and ginger and cook, stirring constantly, until fragrant,
about 30 seconds. Add bell pepper and cook, stirring often, for 2 to 3
minutes.
7. Pour in the sauce and cook, stirring, until thickened, about 30 seconds.
8. Add the tofu and pineapple chunks stirring gently, until heated
through.
Ingredients:
• 2 sliced mushrooms
What To Do:
Begin by cooking the beef, mushrooms, celery and onion until meat is no
longer pink (stir continuously). Drain and then stir in flour until blended.
Slowly add broth. Stir in the carrots, potato, pepper and salt. Bring to a boil.
Add barley by stirring slowly. Reduce heat; cover and simmer for 45-50
minutes or until barley is tender. Whisk in milk and tomato paste; heat
through.
Ingredients:
• ½ cup mayonnaise
What to Do:
mayonnaise and then bake for 8-10 minutes. Serve over cooked rice.
Season to taste.
Ingredients:
• 2 cups breadcrumbs
• 2 eggs (beaten)
What to Do:
• In a large mixing bowl, place 1 1/2 cups bread crumbs (set aside the
• Mix in eggs, parsley, green onions, lemon juice and black pepper.
• Add salmon (break it small pieces with your hands) and then form the
• Place remaining 1/2 cup bread crumbs on a plate and dip both sides of
• Melt butter in a large skillet and fry salmon cakes over medium heat
for about 3 minutes on each side (or until golden brown and crispy on
each side).
Ingredients:
• 2 large cucumbers
What to Do:
Begin by cutting the cucumbers into thin slices. Mix together with all other
Glossary of Terms
ART (Advanced Reproductive Technologies or Assisted
Reproductive Techniques)
Carrier
A person who carries the gene for a specific disease, but does not have
the disease itself. However, they can pass the gene on to their
offspring.
Chromosome
A package of DNA found in the nucleus of the cell. Every cell in the
and sperm, which carry only half the normal number (one from each
pair), so that when the egg and sperm combine, the correct number of
46 chromosomes is formed.
Family balancing
Gender Selection
Using a specific method to help insure that the child conceive will be of a
specific gender.
In-vitro fertilization
Menstrual Cycle
The number of days between the first day of your menstrual period to the
MicroSort
Ovulation
Ovulation is a release of an egg from an ovary into the fallopian tubes. It
PH of an Egg
The alkaline or acidic charge of the egg varies every month. It will only accept
impregnation from a sperm if the sperm cell has the opposite charge.
the desired sex, or free from the tested genetic disorder, are
X Sperm
Y Sperm
A sperm bearing a Y chromosome. An egg fertilized with a Y sperm
Supporting Research
health.
www.who.int/genomics/gender
www.infertilityweb.com
www.ihr.com/infertility
www.fertiledreams.org
www.cdc.gov
www.womenshealth.gov
www.mayoclininc.org
www.fda.gov
www.fertilitycommunity.com
www.genderdreaming.com
www.mothering.com
www.bodyandsoul.com/au
www.selectgender.com