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Issue 19, December 2009

Rider from the Deep South

Spreads the Message
Lone rider and mother of six from the deep south Sheryl Henare
decided to hit the road on her Harley Davidson this year in support
of White Ribbon Day.

She left Bluff on 22 November and arrived back “My goal is to increase awareness of family
on 6 December, travelling more than 5000km. violence campaigns, both national and local,
and to educate and support wha-nau to
A karakia was written by her Kaumatua,
strengthen family relationships.
Riki Cherrington, for her ride. It was recited
as the sun came up before she left Bluff, “My previous mahi involved supporting young
farewelled by her Kaumatua, Mum, Dad, wha-nau mums and tamariki who were exposed to
and members of her community. She recited
the karakia every morning to keep her safe on
her journey.

Sheryl’s partner accompanied her to Timaru,

then she was on her own until Wellington where
she joined the White Ribbon Day ride led by the
Patriots and Super Ma-ori Fullas.

“I was so interested in the messages last year

when the Super Ma-ori Fullas came to Southland.
Some local riders went to meet them in Gore
and supported the ride through town and at
Murihiku Marae.”

Sheryl lives in Invercargill and works at the

Southland Institute of Technology and manages
Te Wa-nanga O Aotearoa programmes. She also
does community work for local iwi and marae
and is a self defence instructor.

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domestic violence and abuse. The messages are
getting out to the community and it is up to us to
manaaki our wahine and tamariki.
“I’ve brought my children up in a close wha-nau
unit. They are teenagers and adults now and
they support me in everything I do.
“Riding up Te Waipounamu (the South Island)
was an awesome experience. The Kaikoura coast
is so stunning to ride on a motorbike,” she said.
“I had my backpack decorated with the white
ribbon logo and I gave ribbons out along the
way. On my journey I enjoyed the responses
from tamariki, seeing their faces and them
waving to me as I passed by.”
Changes at the NZ Family
Violence Clearinghouse
Some services at the NZ Family Violence Clearinghouse will be
reduced for the next few months while resources are focused
on improving delivery of services through the website.
These are:
„„ reduced services at the outreach office based
at the National Collective of Independent
Women’s Refuges
„„ customised packages of information for
community services may be replaced by
standardised responses
„„ active network building, delivering
presentations about the Clearinghouse,
reviewing the content of web pages, producing
a newsletter this year, comprehensive link
checking on the website and developing new
factsheets will be deferred for a period.
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Sheryl visited the It’s not OK Campaign team
in Wellington before setting off up the West
Coast of the North Island with Super Ma-ori Fulla
West Wind Mervyn Rawiri. She was one of just
four women riders leaving Wellington on White
Ribbon Day.
Sheryl was part of a group visiting community
centres, groups and marae along the way
and meeting the other groups in Whangarei,
Ruakaka. She planned to delve into some family
history in Nga Puhi, Northland.
Sheryl’s iwi are Nga Puhi Nui Tonu & Nga Rauru
Ki Tahi. Southland Stopping Violence supported
her ride.
“This temporary reprioritising will allow us to
make progress on our strategy for improving
delivery of services via our website,”
spokesperson Phil Worthington said.
All other regular Clearinghouse services will
be provided as usual.
An updated Family Violence Statistics Fact
Sheet incorporating the latest available
national data from agencies working with
people experiencing family violence will be
available soon.
http://www.nzfvc.org.nz
Marching for Non-Violence
The North Shore Leisurelites marching team would have to be the
most colourful campaigners seen promoting the It’s not OK message.

Leisure marching brings together women aged
40 upwards. Many have been marching girls
in their younger days and although their skirts
may have been replaced by trousers, they still
share a love of marching.
The Leisurelites North Shore team promote
the It’s not OK Campaign message on their
polo shirts as they travel around the country in
the Community Facilities Trust vehicle with the
Campaign logo on it.
They recently joined more than 40 teams from
throughout the North Island – average age of
65 – for the Leisure Marching Event 2009 at the
North Shore Event Centre.
The team also put up banners at the event to
promote the It’s not OK message.

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 Gisborne Shows
it is OK to Care
White Ribbon Day in Gisborne was a week long event bringing
home the message that It is OK to Care.
Events included an outdoor concert, celebrity
debate, a business breakfast and a march
through town, all part of Gisborne’s campaign
for zero tolerance of domestic violence.
The week of events went under the banner of
‘Who Cares’ – to demonstrate that we care,
says TAIN (Tairawhiti Abuse Intervention Network)
chairwoman Dianne Saunders.
“This year for White Ribbon Day we wanted to
raise awareness about the affect family violence
has on children, and reach local businesses as
there are lots of workers in the area who don’t
get information about family violence.”
The week kicked off with a march against
violence through town on Monday 23 November.
“We had three school buses head the march to
symbolise the number of children in Gisborne
who witness family violence every year – which
on average is about 160.
“The bus windows were filled with artwork of
children’s faces drawn by local children and
were really powerful. Marchers also wore t-shirts
with ‘Violence Free Tairawhiti’ on the front.
The backs of the t-shirts had the question
Who Cares? with a list of the 52 local agencies
that can help.
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“During the march, TAIN representatives collected
signatures from people pledging to live violence-
free. This was a great way to involve the whole
community in the week,” said Ms Saunders.
The next day a Business Breakfast was held with
50 local business leaders to discuss how family
violence affects business and how to help staff
experiencing family violence. Judge Tony Adeane,
lawyer Alison Bendall and Senior Sergeant
Christopher Bunyan were guest speakers.
“At the breakfast we launched a toolkit – Violence
Free Tairawhiti: It’s your Business. The toolkit
includes information about family violence, a DVD,
and It’s not OK Campaign posters and booklets.
“The next event was a celebrity debate including
Principal Family Court Judge Peter Boshier,
Auditor-General and former deputy police
commissioner Lyn Provost, and Turanga FM’s
Cushla Tangaere-Manuel. It was chaired by
Murray Edridge CEO of Barnardos.
“The topic debated was ‘Growing up in
Gisborne was it better then or now?’ We really
wanted to remind everyone that childhood should
be fun and an important time while still being
mindful that family violence has a huge impact
on our community.
 Local businesses were showing they cared,
and we wanted to get involved too.

“It was a great evening and a nice light event in the “The idea is for families to bring their kids
middle of the week. Lots of people came up to me down and have a picnic at the riverbank,”
and said their faces hurt from laughing so much! Ms Saunders said.

“On White Ribbon Day, 120 riders from the “It’s all about family and keeping them safe,
Patriots Motorcycle Club arrived with the Super and a great way to end the week.
Ma-ori Fullas to launch a Tairawhiti Men Against
“It was a fantastic week, worth all the work!”
Violence photo competition. Titled Supa Gizzy
Fullas and Supa East Coast Fullas, the photos George in Gisborne
will show men doing positive activities with
wha-nau. The best snaps will be celebrated in
an exhibition next year.

“And also on White Ribbon Day thousands of

local school children took to their fields to form
giant white ribbons. Children from over seven
local schools took part in the event.

“The Lion Foundation Eastland Rescue Helicopter

flew over each school field with The Gisborne
Herald and Tairawhiti Men Against Violence
(TMAV) on board to take photos of the school
children. The rescue trust donated its services
for the White Ribbon cause,” she said.

Nearly all the 500 students at Gisborne

Intermediate took part in forming their giant
ribbon, except for five students who were
giving out white ribbons at Gisborne Hospital,
principal Don Niven said.
“Local businesses were showing they cared,
and we wanted to get involved too.”
George Ashby from the Campaign’s television
ads attended several white ribbon week events
in Gisborne. He was there to share his story
and show it is possible to change. George is
available to talk at local events or to community
groups around the country.

“Collaboration between the organisations and To find out more email:

the schools was part of a community stance victoria.parsons007@msd.govt.nz
against violence towards women and children,
TMAV’s Tim Marshall said.

The week ended with a free community

concert on Friday afternoon to celebrate the
end of White Ribbon Week. Entertainment
included Zero T, DJ Hat, Dion Whaanga from
Skankamelia, dancing from the Gisborne Salsa
Group and fire dancing.

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 Sex & Ethics Framework
Piloted in Wellington
A pilot programme running in Wellington is teaching young adults
how to negotiate sexual relationships in a healthy and safe way.
The Sex & Ethics pilot to prevent sexual violence
is half way through and is already being labelled
highly successful.
The Wellington Sexual Abuse Network received
$164,000 from the Ministry of Justice for a
two year pilot of the programme Sex & Ethics,
developed by Australian Moira Carmody.
Professor Carmody has 25 years experience in
sexual violence prevention.
The new programme is a move away from
traditional sexual violence prevention
programmes which tend to teach individual
women how to manage risk and avoid sexual
violence, Wellington Sexual Abuse Network
(WSAN) project manager Sandra Dickson said.
“These programmes leave women holding the
responsibility for sexual violence. Sex & Ethics
teaches how to negotiate mutual, healthy
and safe sex with sexual partners and how to
step in when they see others in sexually risky
situations.
“Internationally there is very little evidence
that traditional programmes worked at all.
We know from tackling other issues like
smoking that changing the environment
people live and socialise in works better than
trying to change the individual’s behaviour.”
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Professor Carmody asked young people what
they wanted to know about having good sexual
relationships and based Sex & Ethics on what
they told her. They said they:
„„ knew how their bodies worked
„„ knew about condoms
„„ didn’t know how to negotiate sexual
interactions
„„ didn’t know how to help when they saw
others in sexually unsafe situations.
Most don’t know the
law and most don’t
know how to handle
situations where
sexual violence
usually occurs
Ms Dickson said many young people report
unwanted sexual contact and negative sexual
encounters here in New Zealand (Youth 2000
study). Most don’t know the law and most don’t
know how to handle situations where sexual
violence usually occurs – with people they
already know.
“Traditional programmes focus on stranger
rapes but these are rare.”
 There was definitely a ripple effect out
from the people who have participated
so far,...
The WSAN pilot will run Sex & Ethics for eight
groups of young people across four sites,
during 2009 and 2010. The young people are
drawn from Evolve and Vibe community centres
and Victoria University groups.
So far 40 young people aged 18 to 24 have
participated – half men, half women and a good
cross section of New Zealanders in terms of
ethnicity, education, sexual preferences and
sexual history.
They were invited to be part of the pilot. Results
are being evaluated by Professor Carmody.
“Everybody loved it. They welcomed the
opportunity to be talking about this issue,”
Ms Dickson said.
“Every single person among the Ma-ori and
Pacific Island participants said it was wonderful
to be able to talk about sexual relationships.
“The hunger from the young people to find ways
to explore how to have safe and healthy sexual
interactions was extraordinary.”
The programme includes an ethical bystander
component where participants role play ways
to help their friends to manage risky sexual
situations.
Participants are involved in the evaluation for
six months after they complete the programme.
There was definitely a ripple effect out from
the people who have participated so far,
Ms Dickson said.
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“We assume that women have the responsibility
for sexual safety but we really need to teach
safety to both genders and the young people
welcomed that approach.
“This programme feels really ground breaking,
and not just to me. Every single time I have
been involved in promoting the programme or
presenting about it, the feedback is ‘I would
have loved to do that programme’ – many of
them in the over 25 age group who have had
poor sexual experiences in the past.”
A clinical workshop will be run next year
for counsellors who want to incorporate
Sex & Ethics into their one-on-one work.
Every single person
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among the Maori
and Pacific Island
participants said it
was wonderful to be
able to talk about
sexual relationships
For more information please contact Sandra
Dickson at wsanprevention@xtra.co.nz
The Wellington Sexual Abuse Network is
a collaboration between Wellington Rape
Crisis, Sexual Abuse HELP Foundation
and Wellstop.
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 Police Speak Out in the
News Media
A handbook to support Police to speak out about family violence in
the news media has been produced by New Zealand Police and the
It’s not OK Campaign.

The handbook will be distributed among
detective level Police to encourage them to
speak out about family violence prevention when
they are working on family violence crimes.
“Proactive publicity will ‘name’ the context of
family violence, bring forward other victims
and witnesses and help raise awareness in the
community so that family violence crimes can
be prevented,” the handbook says.
A media audit by the It’s not OK Campaign
found that when Police make strong statements
about the unacceptability and seriousness
of family violence their comments are used
prominently in news stories and often shape
the headline.
“As we know, many of these terrible crimes are
of high public interest and concern,” Ged Byers,
Police national family violence coordinator said.
“Police are active within their communities,
working with partner agencies to prevent family
violence crimes and encouraging people to
seek help.
“With this handbook, we can further equip our
investigators with key messages to support the
community and raise awareness of the issue of
family violence.
“We can highlight what people should look for
regarding safety and encourage them to seek
help or advice where they have concerns about
themselves, their family, friends or neighbours.

Police are usually the primary information source “Police would like to thank the It’s not OK
for media for crime investigations involving Campaign for their support in developing this
family violence. handbook.”

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 The bags were a massive hit, we had many
requests for more bags at every venue

It’s not OK Bags support

Teal Ribbon Week
The It’s not OK message was highly visible round South Auckland
for this year’s Teal Ribbon Campaign in the first week of November.

Nearly 1000 bags with the message Family

violence is not OK but it is OK to ask for help
were distributed during the week.

Teal Ribbon Week is held each year to raise

awareness about family violence in South
Auckland. Several local community and
government agencies were present at the
various suburbs in South Auckland distributing
information and encouraging communities
and individuals to do what they can to stop
family violence.

“The bags were a massive hit, we had many
requests for more bags at every venue,”
Work and Income Family Violence Response
Coordinator Jolene Irving said.
Local Police will hand deliver some of the bags
with family violence resources and a letter
to families at high risk of family violence at
Christmas time.
Pictured are Lisa Lee, Childcare
Co-ordinator Panmure Work and
Income (left) and Jolene Irving,
Family Violence Response Coordinator
Work and Income South Auckland,
spreading the word during Teal Ribbon
Week at Pakuranga Mall.

Police send personalised messages each year

to some of the higher risk families who have
come to their attention during the year for family
violence, in an effort to prevent the onset of
violence and discuss ways of getting help before
situations get out of hand.

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 White ribbon day
Events were held all over New Zealand
this year marking White Ribbon Day on
25 November.

The photos on this page show: left

Work and Income staff in Northland,
above men sign a pledge in Gisborne
and below the Super Ma-ori Fullas
and Patriots Motorcycle Club on their
travels up the North Island.

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The photos on this page show: right White
Ribbon icing in Timaru, below men support the
White Ribbon message on the steps in Nelson
and bottom of the page the White Ribbon run
through the streets of Wellington.

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 Family Violence
Networks Update
There are now more than 40 community networks across
New Zealand working to prevent family violence.
An internal review of the Te Rito Collaborative
Fund which funds some family violence networks
was conducted this year by Sheryl Hann, and
found that they are now an established part of
communities’ efforts to address family violence.
Ms Hann’s review found that all networks
or collaboratives work differently, and their
activities range from prevention to intervention.
Their work includes:
„„ information sharing, training, fixing gaps in
local responses, developing violence free
strategies, promoting services, research
„„ improving crisis responses
„„ raising awareness and mobilising communities,
including activities linked to the It’s not OK
Campaign and White Ribbon Day; using the
media and involving other sectors in family
violence prevention.
Most networks have a coordinator, although
their weekly hours range from five to 40.
The coordinators’ role includes:
„„ being a key family violence resource person
for the community
„„ activating the network
„„ working with the media, organising events,
developing resources, and managing
campaigns
„„ relationship management
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„„ supporting good practice and providing
training and current information.
“It does seem like having a coordinator role
helps networks to get more done. People
described their coordinators as the ‘catalyst’
or the ‘glue’ or the one who would ‘pull
everything together’,” Ms Hann said.
“International good practice suggests that we
need to work together to stop family violence.
Those networks that are working well realise this,
but they are also very clear about WHY they are
collaborating. Everyone knows what the vision is,
and what outcomes they are trying to achieve.
“They develop action plans and work in project
groups or sub-committees to make real changes
that will improve safety, accountability and good
practice for their communities. More people
want to get involved with the network when they
see that positive things are happening, and it’s
not just a talk-fest,” she said.
“It’s great to see so many networks planning
actions that will inspire and motivate people
from across the community to do something
to stop family violence. There are new partners
in family violence prevention such as sports
groups, businesses, churches, marae, local city
councils, and service organisations like Rotary
and Lions that family violence networks are
connecting with. If we want to create change,
we really need everyone in this together.”
 It’s great to see so many networks
planning actions that will inspire
and motivate people...

Te Rito Funding „„ greatly improved responses to reported

Around 30 of the networks receive funding from
the Te Rito Collaborative Fund (through Family
and Community Services).
The review of the fund found that it has
contributed to the current high profile and
momentum around addressing family violence
in local communities.
Many communities said that prior to receiving
funding, there was no family violence network
and/or there was fragmentation, duplication of
efforts, and misunderstanding among agencies.
The fund has meant:
family violence
„„ Government and community organisations
working better together
„„ better sharing of knowledge, skills and resources
„„ increased local profile, number and range of
family violence prevention activities including
more media coverage and information on
where to go for help.
The review identified strengths of the Fund,
as well as ways to improve effectiveness.
Work to develop good practice guidelines,
ensure funding is effective, and find better ways
to support Te Rito-funded activities is underway.

„„ better leadership, ‘professionalism’, For more information, please contact

and optimism Sheryl Hann Sheryl.hann005@msd.govt.nz

Two Te Rito Coordinators

Profiled
The differing work of two Te Rito Coordinators shows the range and
complexity of efforts to address family violence in New Zealand.
Keven Croskery in Gisborne and Gayle Helm in Nelson play a key
role in family violence prevention work.

Kevin Croskery – the Hub of the Network Kevin has been the full time coordinator for the
Tairawhiti Abuse Intervention Network (TAIN)
Including a message
about family violence for nearly four years, in the Gisborne and East
in his regular surf Coast district.
report on Tolaga Bay
Talking to anyone and everyone about family
Radio is just one
violence is a big part of his job and the radio surf
of the many ways
report is a great way to reach a big audience.
Kevin Croskery has
developed his job to The main part of Kevin’s role is supporting the
fit his community. local interagency case management process –

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 daily and weekly meetings to look at reports of
family violence and linking those involved with
local services.
Tairawhiti is one of the few communities in
New Zealand to provide a 12 hour response
to families experiencing violence. Referrals are
taken from Police and other agencies such as
the hospital.
It’s proving effective.
“People are coming on board. People are turning
around. Men are taking responsibility because we
are getting in there early, and we are consistent.
We keep going back to offer help,” Kevin said.
Having a coordinator to organise case
management meetings, make assessments
and referrals and ensure processes are working
well has enabled this to happen.
Kevin reports local trends to the news media
and arranges family violence training for local
organisations.
He constantly looks for ways to improve
responses to families caught up in domestic
violence, in Gisborne and the East Coast district.
In Ruatoria he is helping set up an interagency
case management system and supporting
local iwi and hapu- to take action to address
family violence.
He has a high profile in the community and many
people who want to know about family violence
go directly to him at TAIN.
Kevin promotes local family violence services and
the anti-violence message where ever he can –
speaking at public events and to local groups.
Tim Marshall, Deputy Chair of TAIN said “The
coordinator is the hub of the network. He’s the
link for all the various parts of the network.
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“He’s our ‘on-the-ground’ person. We used
to have ‘cup of tea’ meetings, now the real
power of the network is in our coordinated case
management and the coordinator role is key.”
TAIN has just launched its local family
violence campaign Who Cares? linking with
the It’s not OK Campaign.
Gayle Helm – Taking the Message Everywhere
Gayle Helm has been
the Te Rito Coordinator
for Nelson/Tasman for
two and a half years,
coordinating and
representing the local
family violence network.
The network has 59
members who have
signed a memorandum of understanding.
They include local iwi, Police, Government
agencies, ACC, the president of the local
school principals association as well as a range
of social services and representatives from
Motueka and Golden Bay.
About 25 – 35 people attend monthly meetings,
often including the local MP, deputy mayor,
school principals and the media as well as
member agencies.
Gayle organises and facilitates the meetings.
She is also responsible for:
„„ public awareness campaigns
„„ arranging guest speakers, family violence
educators and workshops
„„ submissions to councils and government on
behalf of the network
„„ liaising with other family violence initiatives
locally, regionally and nationally
 We are seeing far more synergy happening
across agencies that wouldn’t have been
possible without the network.
„„ linking to the national It’s not OK Campaign
and national events like White Ribbon Day
„„ ensuring all network and family violence
information is communicated to the
membership.
“The neutrality of my role is one of its great
strengths. Another is the public awareness
raising I can do,” she said.
“None of our members have the time, funding or
energy to do awareness raising work on their own,
and it would take them away from their core work.
“For example our next stage of work is going
into businesses and hospitality, that could not
be done by individual agencies.
“We are seeing far more synergy happening
across agencies that wouldn’t have been
possible without the network. It’s hard ground-
breaking work but we are starting to see results.
“At the A and P show last year there was a lot
of resistance from the public, this year there
were very few who wouldn’t take a white ribbon
and a lot of men who hung around the cars and
bikes and talked to the Police about what was
happening to them.
“We took white ribbons and posters into pubs
and there were lots of businesses already
showing interest for next year.
“We are seeing public ownership of the problem,
it is out there.”
Ross Lienert, a member of the Te Rito
Governance Group said the importance
of having a dedicated, resourced network
coordinator cannot be underestimated.
The network has a high degree of visibility and
credibility locally and across the region through
its various projects, activities and the profile of
the coordinator, he said.
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“The role of the network coordinator has
become an integral part of our community’s
response to family violence in a way that an
agency, government or non government,
cannot, he said.
There are a number of reasons for this:
„„ the coordinator represents the network
and is the ‘public face’ of the community’s
response to family violence, this is invaluable
in that wherever they go they take the
network, its vision and the national campaign
messages with them
„„ the coordinator is able to reach out into the
wider community such as schools, social and
sporting bodies, businesses, not only getting
the family violence message into those
arenas but also linking those parts of the
community (and their resources and skills)
into the network
„„ they project manage, use media
opportunities, and develop and maintain
effective relationships with key stakeholders
„„ coordinators are able to initiate projects
with particular groups who then go on to
implement family violence projects
„„ they are able to seed and support particular
individuals and groups who are not ‘in the
business of family violence’ to develop their
own initiatives such as SAVE in Nelson.
“With all the goodwill in the world a group of
agencies on their own wouldn’t be able to do the
work the coordinator does because they do not
have the skills or resources. They are not able to
‘go’ where the coordinator goes as they are also
seen as representing the agency they work for,
and its particular interests and ideology, rather
than the network with its broader focus on family
violence,” Ross said.
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 Aroha in Action – Keeping
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Whanau Safe
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Aroha in Action is a new booklet for wha nau, and those working
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to support whanau, which Amokura Family Violence Prevention
Consortium, SKIP and the It’s not OK Campaign have worked
together to produce.

The booklet concept and content was created
by Amokura. “Through our work and the
conversations we were having within our
wha-nau, we saw a need for a resource that
provided clear, accessible information to support
wha-nau keep mokopuna safe,” says Di Grennell,
Amokura Executive Director.
“We all had to ask ourselves ‘Who are the
mokopuna in my world, the ones I see and touch
– do I listen to how they are spoken to, notice
how bodies are when I pick them up and hold
them close, do I know how they experience the
world, what am I teaching them, how do I help
keep them safe?’

Amokura is a Taitokerau Iwi-led collective “Can we as wha-nau sit down and name our kids
violence prevention and early intervention – the ones we are responsible for – the isolated
strategy. The range of Amokura activities kids – the kids we don’t get to see – and who is
includes research, advocacy, provider going to take this on board?
development, training, education and promotion
“We talk about aroha – where is our aroha
across wha-nau, hapu-, iwi, marae and community.
in action?”
The opening words of the resource sum up the
The booklet acknowledges abuse and violence
project: ‘We all love our children and want to
are problems that we all share responsibility for
keep them safe. But we also know about tragic
and identifies potentially risky situations and
situations where mokopuna have been seriously
practical suggestions for wha-nau action.
hurt or killed by someone in their wha-nau.’
Designed by children’s illustrator Ali Teo, the
“The initial idea for the resource came from a
booklet includes photos contributed by wha-nau
conversation I had with Delaraine Armstrong
associated with Amokura and wha-nau of SKIP
after a high profile death of a Ma-ori child,” Di said.
and the It’s not OK Campaign team members.
“Del identified some of the big questions for
It was launched in Taitokerau on 8 December at
us as wha-nau Ma-ori. We are clear about the
Te Puna o te Matauranga in Taitokerau.
impact of poverty and other social factors but
there are things we can do as wha-nau that will If you would like to order copies of the booklet
make a difference. email: skipinfo@msd.govt.nz

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 The Tauranga initiative is proving
very popular.

Get It’s not OK with

your Groceries
Shoppers in Tauranga are getting a little more with their
supermarket dockets these days.

The Zonta Club of Tauranga has arranged
for information about local family violence
prevention services to be printed on the back
of supermarket dockets.
Contact numbers for local agencies and the It’s
not OK information line number (0800 456 450)
are being printed on the back of dockets at
15 supermarkets from Katikati to Te Puke.
The Tauranga initiative is proving very popular.
Zonta groups in other parts of the country are
showing interest in taking up the idea.
Zonta is a women’s service organisation that
works towards advancing the status of women
worldwide.

The campaign will run for a year and it’s

estimated the numbers will appear more than
two million times.

The supermarket docket idea is a discreet way

of providing information and it’s available in a
place where most women go shopping on a
regular basis.

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 Abuse of Parents – A Well
Kept Secret
A new resource is being produced in Southland for parents who are
being abused by their children.

It has been produced by the Invercargill/ adolescent perpetrated domestic property

Southland Family Violence Focus Group in violence, helped inform the resource.
partnership with Public Health South and the
The pamphlet lists all the local services parents
Te Rito Fund.
can call on.
Titled Invercargill/Southland Support Services
It lists the types of abuse parents may be
Information for Parents who are Victims of Family
experiencing such as:
Violence, the pamphlet encourages parents to
ask for help if they are being abused. „„ physical violence

Andrae Gold, Health Promoter at Public Health „„ verbal abuse

South, said the group realised that parents were
not always asking for help or did not realise that
help was available.
“I was hearing familiar and similar stories –
parents embarrassed to seek help in case they
were seen as a bad parent, minimisation of what
was happening at home or feeling as if they
‘could not ask for help if it is not a crisis’.”
The resource has been developed with
assistance from PhD student Latesha Murphy-
Edwards, whose study Not just another hole
in the wall, an investigation into child and
„„ unrealistic demands
„„ damaging property
„„ financial abuse.
Parent abuse can occur in any family,
most commonly to mothers but fathers
can be affected too.
For more information please contact Andrae
Gold at Andrae.gold@phsouth.co.nz
Or Karen Ave, Project Manager Invercargill/
Southland Family Violence Focus Group at
karen.ave@woosh.co.nz

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 It was a clever idea to provide information
in a fun and fashionable way.

Nail Files Combine Beauty

with Safety
Colourful nail files printed with how to get help information were
a big hit at the Girls Day Out event in Auckland recently.

The It’s not OK Campaign team partnered with

Women’s Refuge to produce the nail files which
featured the It’s not OK 0800 phone number and
Women’s Refuge website.

Around 7000 files in a range of colours were

handed out in three days.

“It was a clever idea to provide information in

a fun and fashionable way. The nail files were
hugely popular and encouraged people to visit
the Women’s Refuge stand to find out more
information or to talk to the Refuge staff about
their work,” Women's Refuge spokesperson
Janet Bagshaw said.

Girls Day Out attracts thousands of women

Celebrity Suzanne Paul, who was
from greater Auckland, with 175 stands
exhibiting at the show, thought the
featuring fashion, beauty and fitness promotions.
nail files were a great idea.
A community section of the three day expo
included information by the Police, the SPCA
and the Women’s Refuge stand.

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Copies of earlier issues of Te Rito News are available: we have
listed below the articles appearing in each issue.

Issue 14, April 2008 Issue 15, June/July 2008 Issue 16, September 2008

Minister Commends Campaign Reaches Māori Nelson Launches Violence

Men’s Courage and Pacific Viewers Free August

Faces of the Campaign Wellington Netball Says Walking Alongside Families

Masterton Supermarket
Goes Violence Free
Elder Abuse Report
Reuben Wiki Poster
Violence Free Motueka
Chinese Campaign
Promotes Harmony
Nelson Plans Street Flags
Hauraki Māori Strategy
Tu Tama Wahine O Taranaki
Igniting Change in Christchurch
Community Action Fund 2008
It’s not OK Letterboxes
It’s not OK
Stage of Origin promotes
It’s not OK
Elder Abuse Awareness Day
Campaign Resources Popular
Media Advocacy Results
West Coast Wins Award
Youth Line and Women’s
Refuge T Shirts
Rangatahi Lead Through
Performance
High Profile Westies
Support Campaign
First Ethnic Social
Services Forum
Conference Calls for Back
to Basics
It’s not OK Community Funding
tops $2 Million
White Ribbon Day Update
Te Rito Collaborative Fund
being reviewed
Family Violence in Taumarunui
drastically reduced
Wallplanner Spreads the
Message All Year Round
Being a dad – it’s more than OK
Blow the Whistle Campaign
Wins Award
Women’s Refuge Highlights
Domestic Violence as a Human
Rights Issue

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