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Ballard, Elise.
Epiphany : true stories of sudden insight to inspire, encourage, and transform /
by Elise Ballard.—1st ed.
1. Epiphanies. 2. Insight. 3. Change (Psychology) 4. Intuition. I. Title.
BF449.5.B35 2011
153—dc22 2010029439
ISBN 978-0-307-71610-1
eISBN 978-0-307-71612-5
10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1
First Edition
introduction 1
AWAKENINGS
g. w. bailey 15
maya angelou 19
ali macgraw 22
roger birnbaum 27
florence horne 30
julie horton 33
andrew ko 36
rachel blaylock 41
alexis minko 45
gregory wilson 50
esther perel 57
desmond tutu 63
NEW DIRECTIONS
mehmet oz, m.d. 69
clive davis 73
linda biehl 78
kathy and bill magee, m.d. 83
carol lanning 88
barbara fredrickson, ph.d. 92
michael roizen, m.d. 97
elizabeth avellán 102
craig newmark 107
HEALINGS
rupert isaacson 121
kate milliken 128
jenifer chilton 134
laurian scott 138
nancy ballard 144
andrea buchanan 149
billie myers 153
MIRACLES
joel harper 161
christopher lee 164
stephen bruton 168
chloe wordsworth 171
wendi cooper 176
COMINGS OF AGE
lawrence wright 183
stacey lannert 187
judith orloff, m.d. 193
eion bailey 198
alison armstrong 203
roly gosling, m.d. 208
roy williams 211
tracy hafen 214
bart knaggs 221
sam danniels 225
CALLINGS
barry manilow 233
annie leonard 236
Acknowledgments 295
EPIPHANY
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This is what I’ve been asking people from all different professions,
nationalities, ages, beliefs, and walks of life—from well-known
figures to my fifth-grade teacher to a former street urchin in
Tanzania. Epiphany contains the stories of the revelations that
changed their lives forever.
True epiphanies change not just us but also the other peo-
ple in our lives—and sometimes the world. This book includes
epiphanies that have led to achievements in science, medi-
cine, education, sports, government, religion, music, technology,
books, entertainment, world outreach, personal growth, healing,
child rearing, and many other areas of life.
Epiphanies are incredible gifts. They reveal some of our
greatest wisdom and many universal truths. Some of the narra-
tives here “turned the kaleidoscope” for me. They might contain
insights that I’ve heard before, but somehow in the way the sto-
ries are shared, it caused a shift and I now understand them in a
completely new, personal way. I have found that every one of the
stories in this book has enhanced my life in some way, and I hope
the same is true for you.
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they replied that they just don’t really talk about it— the expe-
rience seemed too deep and private. And many people, until
asked, had never even thought they’d had an epiphany. Once
remembered, their epiphanies were some of the most profound
and emotional.
We don’t often speak about our epiphanies because they are
held so close to our hearts. There simply aren’t opportunities
in our society to share such delicate moments, and often we’re
embarrassed by them. We don’t always take the time to think
about extraordinary moments in our lives and what they really
mean. We miss the experience of awe that comes from listen-
ing closely to others, to ourselves, and to the signs in the world
around us.
Through this project, I’ve learned it’s important not only to
know others’ stories but also to honor and tell our own. When
we do, we often discover things about ourselves or find a deeper
meaning behind an epiphany. This happened over and over again
when I interviewed people. Until they were telling their stories,
they had not fully realized what certain points and moments
truly meant to them. Many times they also realized or remembered
other epiphanies in their lives that they had forgotten or buried,
and only now could they see how their epiphanies had similar
themes and built upon one another. Examining our epiphanies
can be quite helpful in gaining insight into our lives and seeing
where we’ve grown and where we still may want to grow.
I’ve found that, just as most great spiritual teachings seem to
share similar essential values and messages, those I spoke with
seemed to share wisdom and lessons that are universal in nature
even though they experienced their epiphanies in very different
ways. The goal of this project has always been to see what we
can learn from one another. How are we the same? How are we
different? Can we benefit from hearing these stories? This proj-
ect explores the mystery that each of us is unique and different,
yet we are all also very much the same. We have widely varying
doubted for one instant that whatever happened was real for
them. They had absolute faith and trust in their experience and
themselves, knowing the action they were taking because of
their epiphany was right for them, regardless of what anyone else
thought.
3 . AC T ION . Every single person whose epiphany positively
changed his or her life took action. All of them took the first
step toward whatever the epiphany compelled them to do, even
if they had no idea what would happen after that.
4 . SE R E N DI PI T Y. After people began to take action on
nies and ask the people in your life about theirs. Even ask people
out in the world whom you admire for whatever reason, or write
in and tell me who they are so I can! And I invite you to come
experience still more stories— and share your own— on our web-
site, EpiphanyChannel.com.
This project has been the greatest epiphany of my life. It has
left me changed and has led me both to learning and to healing.
That’s been my experience. And now, I want you to have yours.
AWAKENINGS
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
TH E I N TERV I EW
When this project started taking off, I called G.W. right away. He
is a consummate storyteller and always has wonderful stories to
tell. Once again, my friend delivered. Even though he had been
shooting earlier on The Closer and had to attend an event for
his organization, the Sunshine Kids, that afternoon, he squeezed
in some time to talk with me about his epiphany. He says he is
moved to both laughter and tears whenever he shares this story,
and so was I when I heard his poignant account.
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again that it wasn’t possible but as soon as she got back I’d have
her come to Los Angeles and make it up to her, but I just couldn’t
come to Colorado right now. So we hung up, and about five min-
utes later she called back. And very slowly and determinedly she
said, “You are my godfather, and I want you here.” Pause. She
meant it. I sighed and kidded her about manipulating me and
told her I’d just get to come for a day, that it was going to be an
ordeal getting there and would cost a lot, and she replied in typi-
cal teenage Brandy fashion, “Whatever.” So of course I laughed
and begrudgingly said I’d come— I couldn’t deny her anything. I
got there the next day.
Brandy had given me their activity schedule, so I knew
they’d be at the volunteer fire department when I arrived. They
were having a battle with the water hoses, and the kids were all
dressed up in fireman outfits and hats and all that stuff. When I
got to the fire station, you could hear all the commotion of the
kids playing outside in the back, so I walked toward the noise of
the children, went out the back door, and rounded a corner. And
what I saw forever changed my life.
I had seen one child with cancer. I had seen a couple of chil-
dren with cancer. But I had never seen thirty children with can-
cer all together in the same place. They were all laughing— all
having this exuberant celebration of their lives. I had this over-
whelming emotional response I still can’t describe properly. It
was all these kids— all ages, all sizes— and it was just like . . . what
is this?
No one had seen me yet, so I turned around and went back
out to my rental car, and I sat in it for ten or fifteen minutes. And
I cried. I cried for her. I cried for all of them.
I ended up staying the entire week in Breckenridge, and
then flew straight to Houston to meet with Rhoda, the founder
of Sunshine Kids. I knew I had to be involved and be a part of
this organization that helped these kids to celebrate their lives
in spite of their illness. That was twenty-five years ago. I started
TH E I N TERV I EW
Many people requested Maya Angelou as one of the people whose
greatest epiphany they’d like to know about, and her interview
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TH E I N TERV I EW
I was on a plane reading the March 2010 issue of Vanity Fair
when I came across this terrific article on Ali MacGraw and felt I
had to try to contact her. When we finally spoke on the phone, she
was just as wonderful as everyone says. Her epiphany had happened
six months before and she had not discussed it with many people,
so I feel very honored that she was willing to share it here.
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is it. This is what you have to do— you have to live your life in
faith.”
In that moment, I became clear about faith— about the abso-
lute truth of the power of the Light, about the power of Love
without judgment. Entrusting the people and things we care
about to that Light is the best we can do. We’ve all read about
this concept ad nauseam, but it’s another thing to feel it. In a
very unintellectual way, I had a very deep experience of . . . I use
the word God, but without any connotations that come with an
organized religion. It was absolutely in my solar plexus, and in
my heart.
My experience is very personal. I’ve only told my son and a
few friends about this. Mine may not be as specific in some ways
as other people’s epiphanies, but it was enormous for me, and it
has altered me. Certainly I am very clear that I know nothing—
meaning that my life will always be a work in progress— but I am
beginning to learn to live a different way. I know I am changing. I
learned something that I know my friends will notice. I am becom-
ing more peaceful, less controlling, and less narrow. I’m ever so
slowly stopping my compulsion to fix, fix, fix— and with that has
come tremendous relief. I feel as if I’d been wearing an enormous
bandage, and suddenly it unwrapped. I am freer, much freer. It’s
wonderful to look at things in a more peaceful, more permissive
way. I am learning the power of true compassion and the impor-
tance of stepping back with love. I know now that my idea of what’s
good for people is not necessarily the whole story. You can wish
people well, offer them kindness and supporting prayers. But then
you have to permit them to follow their own paths, helping where
you can, but knowing that you probably cannot change them. I’ve
realized that that is the greatest gift that we have to offer.
Every one of us gets to find our way, hopefully surrounded by
love, but we still have to pick out our own way through the land
mines of life. By accepting this and relinquishing control, there’s
just extraordinary beauty.
TH E I N TERV I EW
Roger and I became instant friends at a buffet-style dinner party
in Los Angeles when I expressed to him my utter dismay at the
disappearance of all the chocolate-dipped macaroons I’d been
eyeing all evening. He had arrived at the dessert table in anticipa-
tion of the coveted macaroons as well. Bonded by our disappoint-
ment, we started talking. This book came up, and he said he had
an epiphany story, so I wanted to hear it. For days I couldn’t quit
thinking about his anecdote and this phrase he used, “the best
version of yourself.” It really made me step back and consider: did
I even know what the best version of myself was? His interview
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