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marriage instead of love marriage? This question faculty of Purdue University since 2003 as
kept clouding my mind until now. When I was Department Head and Professor of Sociology.
fifteen years old, my sister got married with a Along the journey of his career, Dr. Gecas has
man chosen by my parents. Since then, I used to published two books and over sixty journal
think that arranged marriage is a good choice. articles. Most of his research and writing deal with
However, after a year, my sister’s marriage ended socialization in family particularly with regard to
marriage instead of love marriage? taught this topic in his class. So, with all
smiled and quickly gave me an example “...for marriage and love marriage has its own
instance, they send their children to the good advantages and disadvantages. I asked him what
schools to meet good people.” Meanwhile, Dr are the differences in the effects of both
Gecas insists that for lower class people, no marriages and he calmly answered me, “Arranged
arranged marriage was practiced. This is because marriage is more stable than love marriage.”
they had less wealth and their marriages were Suddenly, he stood up and walked toward his
that the high point in marriage is in the beginning will remain forever. Dr Gecas also stated that,
which is during the honeymoon and then just “Contradict to arranged marriages, the love
goes down in terms of love and happiness. Dr marriage has nothing to do with developing the
of marriage and for keeping the “If the main reason of confidently claimed that,
marriage and for keeping
marriage is love, that’s not really the marriage is love, when a couple gets
a solid reason because love is that’s not really a solid married based on love,
reason because love is
going to decline,” Due to that, they will work with high
going to decline,”
the couple might end up with expectation on the spouse.
Dr Gecas
suffering and divorce. But if the When some of their
political, the marriage is much more stable. As in after marriage, there is little likelihood that their
arranged marriages, love is not the priority so this relationship will and a great danger of failure.
makes the marriage to be more stable unless it is Furthermore, Dr Gecas believes that when the
just a horrible match. expectation is lower, then the couple will work to
Likewise, arranged marriage also can developed and the marriages will succeed. Mutual
understanding also
lead to perpetual
develops as their
happiness. Dr Gecas
relationship matures. As
concedes that arranged
Barnett R. Brickner states
marriages will begin with
“Success in marriage
sadness. Nevertheless,
does not come merely
within few years, love will
through finding the right
Figure 3: Ring is the symbol of love.
shows that Brickner agrees that a successful and have no time to find a mate. Dr Gecas also
marriage is based on adjusting yourself with your added, fifteen to sixteen years ago, in the United
partner instead of expecting to have a perfect States, the status of women were lower than
the average marriage age of women in this Then, Dr Gecas continued his point. “You
country has increased from 23 to 27 in 2003 while may have broken heart in arranged marriage
for men from 25 to 29 (Dr Phil Foundation, 2009) especially when you’d fallen for another guy.” said
This is due to the job prospect as many Dr Gecas while he is holding a copy of DVD in his
countries are rapidly developing. Women and hand. The DVD’s title is Romeo and Juliet. Dr
men are tending to struggle to ensure their stable Gecas continued his sentences by saying that love
will lead to hard feeling. Dr Gecas claims that this of the country that practiced arranged marriages
situation had happened in Romeo and Juliet love is the lowest. Dr Gecas insists that this is because
story. In the story, the arranged marriages are more stable than
emphasizes that this is the bad Figure 5: Arranged marriage can divorce.” He also stated that California
lead to perpetual happiness.
side of arranged marriages. was the first state practiced no fault divorce
Moreover, he implies that at the beginning of and at that time, the divorce rate in California
than in love marriages. From Dr Gecas’s example, After thirty minutes conversation, the
I can see that Dr Gecas is a very dedicated and
interview comes to the end. As a conclusion, Dr
organized person as he already prepared some
Gecas confidently concluded that arranged
materials to support his points and also as
marriages are not bad practice. “If I were be given
additional information for me.
a chance to choose, I will choose love marriage for
Before ending the interview, I asked Dr myself but for my children, I will choose arranged
Gecas’s opinion on does arranged marriages marriage.” said Dr Gecas with a smile on his face.
violate human right. Dr Gecas quickly replied, “No He explained that when somebody is in love, they
it does not. Practicing arranged marriage does not will marry for romantic love, sex and feelings.
violate human right but prohibiting arranged However as a parent, he will not think about that
marriage does violate human right.” Then, I also but instead think about his children’s future life.
the future.
evidences.