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Goal Setting:
5 Steps To
Developing a Well-Formed
Outcome Statement
by Richard C. Perl, CTNLP, CPC
Introduction.
“What do you want?”
To help determine what desire you wish to work on, ask yourself the
following question:
“If I could change one thing in my life right now, what would it be?”
Categorizing your desire in this way is a useful step in simplifying it. The
broad categories can be further broken down. For example,
• Relationships
• spouse/significant other
• children
• other family members (parents, siblings, in-laws)
• friends
• social acquaintances
• business acquaintances.
As you go through this exercise, you will probably find that you are
experiencing more clarity as to what you really want. This is good!
Now that you have determined what change you want to make in your life,
you can apply the process of “Developing a Well-Formed Outcome Statement”
that will enable you to focus on what needs to happen for its achievement.
OK. You've decided what desire you want to satisfy. Stating your desire in
the positive simply means stating what you indeed want, not what you don't
want. You may be in any number of situations that you don't want. Statements
such as, “I don't want this job,” or “I don't want to live here anymore” are clearly
negative desires.
To help you state your desires in a positive frame, think of the situation
that you don't want and ask yourself, “What do I want instead?”
Allow your mind to come up with a direct positive statement of what you do
want. For instance, “I want a job that utilizes my skills and has opportunities for
professional growth” or “I want to live in a spacious house in an area with a
pleasant climate.”
How about, “I want to lose weight.” This sounds positive. Yet the objective
of this desire is loss. So, what do you want instead of excess weight? “I want a
trim, healthy, attractive body.” This is now a positive desire. A true outcome
statement.
The objective here is to write a statement of your desire that, in effect, sets
up a target towards which you will aim and focus your energies to achieve. This
also helps in letting you know if the results of your action steps are indeed, on
target.
Think of one thing in your life that you would like to change. If it's
something you don't want, think of what you would like instead.
The objective criteria are those which can be measured. Pounds, dollars,
inches, hours, repetitions are examples. Other measurable quantities might be
number of sales calls you make, number of “date nights” with your spouse or
significant other.
The subjective aspect is internal experience. What are you seeing, hearing,
feeling, when you achieve your outcome? Are you feeling joy? Fulfillment?
Triumph? Take a moment and mentally put yourself in the situation where your
outcome is achieved. Experience the great feeling when you look into the mirror
and see that trim body of yours, or when you see the higher number on your
paycheck, or when you make your 20th rep in that exercise.
At this point, your outcome statement can now look something like, “I have
a lively social life, going out to at least three social gatherings a month where I
speak to at least three new people at each one, and having two social phone
conversations each week, making me feel that I am making a contribution to a
growing circle of friends.”
At this stage, you want the measurable and internal criteria of the achieved
outcome. The action steps needed to achieve the outcome is a subsequent step
which are determined after you have developed your Well-Formed Outcome.
Now it's your turn. Imagine you have achieved your outcome. What
specifically can you point to that demonstrates you have succeeded?
List some criteria that must be met for your outcome to be achieved:
Your outcome must be one that can be achieved by you. It is your outcome
which you initiate, pursue, achieve, and maintain. You will probably have
assistance, but your outcome is your responsibility, in the best sense of the word.
Initiating the pursuit of your outcome must also be in your control for it to
be well-formed. “I'll reorganize the house as soon as my spouse/significant other
throws out his/her 'stuff'.” The “as soon as” indicates dependence on either
another person, an event, or both. In this case, you might take the risk of
throwing the “stuff” out yourself! Good luck!
As you think about your outcome, keep in mind that even after you will
have achieved it, you will still be responsible for maintaining the outcome. For
example, if you do reorganize your house, you would need to establish guidelines
and procedures to keep it neat. You would need to have control in setting up
these guidelines and procedures and to be prepared to carry them out.
his/her thoughts on what you want. From this discussion, you can formulate
mutually beneficial outcomes that would improve the connection with each other,
remembering our guidelines of positivity, quantification, and “internal
sensification.”
When you make your outcome and its pursuit within your control, the
achievement will be a very sweet experience for you indeed, and your self-
esteem will soar!
As you envision the pursuit and achievement of your desired outcome, you
want to consider what effect this has on the people in your circle of influence, and
also the impact on other aspects of your own life.
There is a price to pay for every achievement. Working long hours on the
job may be necessary for your job, yet the potential negative health effects of the
prolonged stress may not be worth it. Other examples include quitting smoking
only to find that you overeat, changing your diet for health reasons which may be
very inconvenient for other members of your family.
The point here is that everything you do has ramifications. You will want to
discuss your desired outcomes with the people who are close to you. Your
outcome isn't written in stone. You can modify it so that the effects are optimum
for all concerned.
Finally, after going through this entire process, ask yourself, “Am I really
better off, in all areas of my life in achieving this outcome?”
If you are honest with yourself, and take into consideration the people with
whom you interact, there is a high probability that , not only will you know what
you want, but also that you will get it.
For this exercise, it is often helpful to think from the inside out. Your
immediate family, your usual co-workers, relatives, friends, and on out.
Taking into account these people (and not neglecting yourself!). Think
about positive and negative effects.
List the positive effects of not pursuing and achieving your outcome:
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List the negative effects of not pursuing and achieving your outcome:
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