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Visualising the life you want

The visions in your head create the life you live! Everybody who has ever read a self development book of any kind knows this, but it is worth re-iterating. It literally affects every single area of our lives from going for a walk to building up a business. We have to realise that our thoughts are real and they have energy. Think about what you do every morning to go to work. You wake up; picture your place of work and either roll back to sleep or jump up, ready for action. You picture, in your mind, what you have to do for the day, either dreading it or looking forward to it. You are picturing your outcome for the day ahead. You do this with almost everything you do day to day. The thing is when we have pictures in our head and dread the image we are never going to have a good day and we leave our days in the hands of fate. If you took 10 minutes out of your day, dont say you dont have the time because thats just not true and you know it, we could have a great day, a great week, a great month, a great year and ultimately a great year. A lot of people are concentrating so much on what they dont want that they are attracting more of what they dont want. I was talking with a friend the a few weeks ago and he told me his son was always getting into trouble at school and seemed to attract children who wanted a fight. During the conversation it was clear that his son was always on his guard in case someone picked on him or bumped into him. My friend told me his son always had a scowl on his face and looked angry all the time, another reason he was attracting attention to himself. I got a chance to speak with my friends son and he did indeed have a

scowl. We spoke about his problems at school and he told me what my friend had told me. I asked the boy of he could try something for me. I asked him to be aware of every time he scowled and to straighten his face, literally. I also asked him if he could try a fun exercise very morning and that was too picture in his mind having a great day at school, I asked him to picture having a laugh with his friends, playing football, and getting on well at school and enjoying himself. I didnt mention about the fights or anybody who was causing the trouble. I wanted him to concentrate on the good things and not wake up every morning thinking he was going to get into a fight. My friend reported, a few days ago, that his son has not been in trouble for a few weeks and had actually enjoyed going to school. How it works By visualising something you are literally creating a ball of energy, it is real and it can be directed. It is attracted to the same type of energy you have created e.g. positive energy you have created will attract positive energy someone else has created. Sound far fetched? Try this: Stand up. Feet together, legs straight. Bend down and try and touch your toes without bending your knees. See how far you get.
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Now try this. Picture in your minds eye or feel it, if you think you cant visualise, yourself bending down and touching your toes but this time going further than you did the first time. Open your eyes. Now do it again, bend forward in your minds eye and bend forward and go further than you did the last time. Do this a few times. Now stand up for real and bend down, without bending your knees, and try and

touch your toes. I am willing to bet that you got further than you did the first time you tried it. This is the power of visualisation, only this time it is affecting your physiology as well, thats for another article. For now, take it for granted that your thoughts stem from mental energy which forms a physical energy which is attracted to the same form of energy of others and attracts back to you. If you do this only once you may get something back in return. However of you do it often you will get what you wish for or visualise for. The process works like this; Set your desired outcome Visualise it in your minds eye Focus on it often, preferably a set time every day Always give it positive energy. Be sure not to mix up those positive thoughts with thoughts of negativity, which is quite easy to creep into your thoughts. This works every time and the only reason it wont work is you working in negative thoughts into your thinking when visualising your desired outcome. Positive thinking This might sound clichd, but it is true. You will not attract positive things in your life if half your time is spent thinking negatively. If you keep thinking about the lack of money you have you will NEVER attract money into your life. Also be prepared to work for your desired outcomes. Dont just visualise 1 million pounds and expect not to work for it. You will have to be aware of the synchronicities that will happen after a few days of your practicing your visualisations. Be on the lookout for people coming into your life, books

presenting themselves, signs in general that will lead you towards your desired outcome. If you have any stories about how this has worked for you let me know or if you have any questions let me know and I will be happy to answer your questions.

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Staying in love
Having a great partnership whether in your personal life or your professional life is easy, to begin with. However longer term it can be harder. It doesnt have to be this way at all. In this article I will show you a really simple trick to stay in love with your partner, your job, your kids, your education, any area of your life. When we do something there has to be a payoff at the end. For example going to work everyday, the payoff is the money which is deposited into your bank account every month or every week. You may not like it but you still do it as the rewards are greater than the pleasure of staying in bed. You may not like going to the gym but you do it as the rewards are greater than being a bit flabby or downright fat. There is a payoff for everything we do in life. Think about it for a minute, I challenge you to think of something you do which doesnt have a payoff; you go to the toilet to relive your bladder and to stop feeling uncomfortable, you eat to stop the hunger, you make love to produce endorphins in your body and make you feel good, you go to work to get paid, you take the dog for a walk so he doesnt make the house messy.everything has a payoff. The payoff What most of us do though is make the payoff the primary goal. Would you go

to work if you didnt get paid? For most of us that would be NO! NO! NO! So your primary goal, in this example, is go to work and get some money. My aim when I go to work is to try and make the payoff less important. Yeah right! You might be saying as if that could happen. I do like my job, I wouldnt do it if I didnt get paid but I still like it and I enjoy what I do. My job is a path to what I really want to be doing in my life and that is changing peoples lives, it is my first step to that outcome. What do I do to make the payoff less important than the actual work I do? Change my perspective on your work. My main job is to help prevent and to help sustain tenancies for persons who have previously been homeless. Now, I could in, do the minimum, complain about the large caseload I have and the amount of time to do an effective job but I try and look at my job in a different way. I have the chance to change a persons life for the better, I have the chance to help them stay in a house or a flat and possibly help them to become the person they want to be. Once they are in their flat or house I still work with them to try and maintain it, and to help them find employment or help with their health needs. I cannot help people who do not want to be helped and there are a lot of people like that in my line of work. However once in a while someone extends their hand for help and that hand is met with a multitude of hands willing to help and I have a chance to be a part of a life changing process starting with helping to put a roof over someones head. Thats the bigger payoff, the money is a good thing, it pays the mortgage but spiritually I get the better payoff.
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Falling in love again

What the hell has all this got to do with staying in love with your partner? Everything! You have a payoff by being I love, you have a payoff by loving your kids, you have a payoff by loving life but its a two way process you love and adore your kids, they will get love, affection time and attention from you and you get happy, loving, responsible children. But what happens when the kids are being a pain in the arse, what happens when your partner has two sets of love handles, what happens when you hate your job? Start falling in love with what you originally fell in love with! Take a moment to think of 5 reasons why you love your children Take a moment to think of 5 things you love about your partner Take a moment to think of 5 things you love about your job (and there will be some) Take a moment to think of 5 reasons you love going to university When doing this exercise you have to put your heart and soul into it. Dont just say it out loud, feel it, see it, look at your partner and see those beautiful eyes you adore, hear the voice that gets you excited, feel their heart, think back to when you felt all those things. Do it with everything that may be dying in your life. You have to re-acquaint yourself with those feelings as those feelings can go if we dont notice it going. Feeling the love Some people think I dont think I love my partner anymore, what happened? take time to get acquainted with them again. I am not saying your relationship will change overnight however, if you start to think about your partner all over again your partner will see the changes in you, they will feel a different vibe

from you and they will respond. We have to feel the feelings we felt when we first fell in love and that keeps us going. We are not meant to just drift along hoping that the feelings will stay. Thats what it means when people say you have to work hard at a marriage, you have to work hard to feel the love for you partner. Its true for anything in your life. Just re acquaint yourself with what you felt when you first started on the thing in your life and you can get the feelings back and subsequently the love back. Feel the hate Incidentally you can do this in reverse. If you dont want to like something anymore, chocolate for example. Think of 5 reasons why you really hate it makes you fat (see yourself being fat, see yourself being ridiculed, see yourself naked in the mirror as a fat person), it clogs your arteries (see your blood vessels being blocked, see yourself being out of breath,). You get the picture. If you can really put emotion into this and do it often it is a very powerful tool for change in your life.

you take it easy youll enjoy every minute of the process, setting up the bank accounts with your business name on it, doing your website, getting an accountant (one who you feel connected to and who knows your business), if you take gentle steps you will feel less stressed and enjoy the whole experience. Rest and let go - Let go of your goals for a bit. Stay focused on what you want but let the tension and stress you might feel go. Just hold up your hands and say I need some time with my family, I need a break, and I need to go fish. You need to let the cosmos catch up with your goals and their next step. You cant do everything at 100 miles per hour if the cosmos only works at 60 miles per hour. Just take some quality time to reflect and you will reach your goals a lot quicker.

Oozing sex appeal and being more attractive


Think about the people in your life who are attractive, not from TV or films, from real life. When I say attractive I mean the whole package, someone that draws you closer, someone you want to listen to when they speak, someone you like laughing with, and someone who is attractive in appearance. Take a few minutes to do this. Of the people you picked as attractive how many of them are visually attractive, good to look at? I am sure there a re a few who are not your cup of tea but you still find them attractive. Why is this? Attractiveness is a state of mind! It truly is. Think of some of the people for example on TV who may be conventionally unattractive but have that certain something that makes them attractive: For example my wife thinks James Belushi has something about him,

The recipe The goal you need to have a goal, preferably written down so you can check on it from time to time. Visualise Picture in your minds eye everything about the goal, how it looks, what it smells like use all your sense. Now get emotional with it how do you feel inside about it. Do this often but feel relaxed when you are doing it. Steps Take gentle steps toward your goals. If you want to start a business, enquire about it; enjoy the process of research and finding out. Too many people want everything to happen yesterday. If

and Adam Sandler, Jerry Lewis, Helen Miran, Karen from Will and Grace. What makes people attractive is their confidence, their zest for life and their I dont give a shit what you think about me attitude. How to change your feeling about yourself A lot of people for years have told themselves they are not attractive and guess what; they wont be to other people as well. You wont attract people to you if you feel unattractive yourself. You have to stop the years of that little voice in your head saying Im ugly, Im fat, Im unattractive, if you tell yourself that often enough you will be all those things. From TODAY start telling yourself you are attractive. I dont mean look in the mirror and say I am attractive, I am attractive, positive talking does not work like that. You have to see yourself in situations where people are attracted to you, you have to feel the emotions of those situations, and you have to tell yourself occasionally throughout the day that you attract the right kind of people towards you. This may take a few weeks to get you really from the unattractive mindset to attractive mindset. Due to the years of conditioning your mind has had it will find it difficult to give up on the image that you are unattractive.

Changing beliefs
Our beliefs about the world around us and ourselves can be limiting and can, in a lot of cases, be unfounded when we question them. This article looks at beliefs and how they are formed and what we can do to the beliefs that may be holding us back. From the day we were born we have been programmed to believe other peoples beliefs. The biggest example of this is religion. I was programmed from the moment I could talk that God created

the world, my parents told me this, my school taught this, my friends believed this, the church told me this; everybody believed in God and it was sacrilegious to believe otherwise. When I was ten years old I asked some of my friends how do you know there is a God, various answers were proffered from just look at the grass, look all around you; it proved God created it. I used to look at them and think that wasnt proof. So I asked my parents and their take on it was how else could we have been brought into the world if it wasnt God. I asked lots of questions and asked lots of different people even ministers and priests and I did not receive, not one, single satisfactory answer to the question, how do you know there is a God?. So, at about the age of 14 I boldly announced I did not believe in God when I was asked the question, this was met with horror and disdain except from my mother. The point here is, believing in God was not my belief it was someone elses and someone elses before them and someone elses before them etc etc. It was, to me, an outdated belief without foundation. However far from being liberated by this conclusion there was a gaping hole in my life, if there wasnt a God what is my purpose in being here, what is anybodys purpose. I searched for answers in books, in myself, from friends, from groups of different people and I couldnt come up with a satisfactory answer. I still dont have a satisfactory answer to that question and it haunted me for years, until I started to swing toward the belief that there was some kind of unified conscious that we could tap into. I had been studying psychology and particularly Carl Jung and liked some of his ideas like the collective

unconscious, then I found Edgar Cayce, Dion Fortune, Robert Bruce and theories of the Akashic records, spiritualism etc. I liked these ideas and I liked some of the theories although some of them were a bit wild. The question to myself was, was I just deliberately trying to be different and a bit strange or did I genuinely believe in the theories? Well the answer is I know I dont believe in a God of any kind. What I do believe in is a universal force that everybody and their granny can tap into should they so wish. I havent really voiced this belief as it is my belief and it is not a firm belief it is a soft belief at best, but it is a base to start with. What are beliefs? Our beliefs help us provide stability in our lives by compartmentalising everything in order to make sense of the world. As an example if you see a group of youths on the street, wearing hooded tops and being rowdy a lot of us might immediately try and compartmentalise these as follows: youths - loud hooded tops street corner dark = dangerous = steer clear = fight or flight This is a very simple example but one that shows where our beliefs lead us and what actions it prompts us to take once we have boxed all the relevant categories and then put them together and then formulate a belief.
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Obviously beliefs are perpetuated the more we come into contact with that particular scenario, like the one above. So a belief can be seen as the compartmentalising of different things together to form a particular belief, which in turn causes us to act in a certain way. I used to believe in the tooth fairy when I was really young, and when I found out that my mother used to put a 10 pence

piece under my pillow I was a bit distraught but I pretended to go along with the belief to get more money. The only reason I found out that my belief in tooth fairies was not real was because I saw my mother putting money under my sisters pillows when I was younger. It was experiential; I knew there were no fairies because I saw my mother putting the money under the pillow. However, how many of our beliefs have we questioned in our lives? Not that many I suspect because we have never had to question them, weve never had evidence to the contrary to cause a massive shift from one belief to another. Changing our beliefs Exercise: This is a very quick exercise for you to try in your head; it will take a few moments; List the things you believe to be true about yourself: My list would be; intelligent, honest, good looking, a bit overweight, inner confident, and so on. Now try to think of each belief and ask where it came from. For example I believe I am intelligent because I have a degree, I am very questioning, I read a lot, I pick up things easily etc etc. Now, all of these reasons are beliefs within themselves e.g. I believe that people who read a lot is a sign of intelligence, now this is not the case as it would depend on what the person was reading, so therefore I have to refine that belief to; people who read, what I class, as intelligent books are intelligent. Break this down further; how do I know that the people reading these intelligent books are actually comprehending the words they are reading. So therefore I have to refine the belief again to; people who read and comprehend intelligent books are

intelligent. Now I have the dilemma of asking what comprehension really is. We can dig deeper and deeper until we unearth the core of a belief which is nothing really than a set of other beliefs. Where does this leave us, does it mean all our beliefs are unsubstantiated? No, it means if we dig deep enough we may find some of our belief are unfounded and find they are outdated and do not fit with our lives.
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