Points to remember before you participate in this disuccsion: Assume, you one of the member of a real group discussion.

Take the initiative to participate and contribute your thoughts. Express your positive attitude towards providing the solution. Indu said: (Fri, Feb 10, 2012 05:30:23 PM) I feel, you should discuss with your teen/adult openly, as to what are the parameters that can crop, in love or arranged marraige. Eg hindu marrying a muslim. Both are equally good, but it adds to the burden of another line of adjustment after marraige in this inter religious marrage. Before marriage, one may be blinded to what problems can arouse after marraige. So initially itself, if there is an open communication between parents and children, then the teen/adult who fall in love keeps this in mind. So there will be less heartbreaks. Even in arranged marraige, both the girl/boy should have a sufficient courtship period where they understand each other, their perosnlity types etc. before finalising the arrangement. Rate this: +0 -0 Karthikk said: (Fri, Feb 10, 2012 11:49:49 AM) The sickness of discussing love or arranged happens only in ingrown societies- your life is for you to decide- not for others, be it parents as well- definitely every person would like someone- tell it to your parents- they say no? tell them again- a hundred times- a thousand times- still they don't understand? wait! but if they try to act smart and start looking for an alliance, tell them right away to respect your feeling just like how you respect theirs- still they remain stubborn? just go ahead to start your own life as they will never accept or understand as they are not grown enough to understand your feelings. But if you want to sacrifice your love for their wish, you are ultimately spoiling 5 lives- yourself, your parents, your love, the person you'll marry- you can never live peacefully in that case. Experiences speak loud always! Rate this: +11 -1 Jothi Chandrasekar said: (Wed, Feb 8, 2012 11:24:13 AM) Partners love is not that much great as parents love. Because parents are living god for us. They know about our future. But, in our particular age, most of them are falling in love. Partly the peope only living the peaceful life. Because, while loving, mostly adjustment took place. But, after marriage, most of the people are not adjusting and they are not understanding partners situation. Dont fall in love. If you fall in love with your lovable guy/girl, don't miss till your life end for your parents. He will be the best for your future. Because, if you are not going 2 marry him/her, then your life will be like a duplicate one. Rate this: +3 -2 Babita Choudhary said: (Tue, Feb 7, 2012 08:20:16 PM) I support love marriage.As we all know our country is moving towards globalization and therefore people of India should adopt the different way of thinking.Love marriages not only joined two people but the two families also.It not only eradicate the dowry system but also provides a new binding between two states,two culture,two religion and two families. Rate this: +14 -3 Ganesh Pawar said: (Mon, Feb 6, 2012 11:34:19 AM) Parents are not god but not less than god, if they had not given birth to us how could we come in this world, no one has seen god, but we still rome in search of god to mandir & masjid, but we don't respect them who has brought us in this world. Love or arrange marriage dosen't matter but

braking a thousand of heart for our selfish ness is not good, first make you are parents convence to you are love. Rate this: +7 -5 Saurabh Akshant Shukla said: (Fri, Feb 3, 2012 12:07:30 AM) hi frnz.... in my opinion arrange marriage is much better than love marriage bcojof many reasons ...firstly i want to tell u that marriage is not the relation b/w only bride and groom but also it is merging of 2 families ..secondly in arrange marrrige there is a mediator that knows each & every thing about both families who definately shares the feelings and nature of both families with each other and it will definately profitable...whereas in case of love marriage the couple will totally decides about their future they will not understand the feeling of their families .....and someof my frnz told that in arrange marriage there is a problem of dowry .....butdowryis not the problem of arrange but also in case of lov emarrieage also.............thus finally we can say itis good to make a arrange marriage because in arrange marriage we will haveallthe things i.e blessing s of our parents and the good lifepartner............ Rate this: +21 -7 Vemulamounika said: (Tue, Jan 31, 2012 12:41:29 PM) HI friends, I think both love marriages and arranged marriages, frustations or happiness's depends on the life partners now a days many arranged marriages are spoiling two lives as well as love marriages are also spoiling their lives so its all depends on the two hearts. Rate this: +9 -6 Pramod Kumar Maurya said: (Tue, Jan 31, 2012 10:11:39 AM) Hi friends, I always prefer Love marriage because Love is very important before marriage. Its matter for life long not for only few months. Love never see religion, caste, money etc. It only see love and bond. 90% of arrange marriages are done in India only for money which is demanded by boy's parents or boys. I have also done love marriage with different religion, diff. Caste, diff. Place but after 4 years we are very happy and we having a baby also. Most important things in love marriage is that both partner respect and love each other, they never Harris but in arrange marriage boy always Harris his wife. Girls never feel freedom. Friends, remember one thing always. God made us and we are human. We have same right to live our life. No matter thats man or women. That's real humanity. Rate this: +37 -8 Dibyanarayan Hazra said: (Sun, Jan 29, 2012 08:59:05 PM) Hi friend, I am Dibyanarayan Hazra. I am support Love Marriage. I will give all reason.But first i want say some thing. In INDIA Parents always think about their child love. If someone falls in love it will punishable in home. It is not true.Real example one of my friends falls in love with good moral girl. He told his parents then his parents refuse his prayer and rusticate from home. Parents do not give money to him, he loss his carrier object. He can not keep "Hons". So he first loose his education. He may be a great person so India loss one new star. In that way so many student got stacked. Now another one mentality ,

One of my senior falls in love then he talk with his parents again refused by parents without knowing the girl. After two years someone parents start to see girl for their son. Son said "Whom I want I can not get her according to you so whatever you choose i will accept" to his mother. Then they start to find and finalize one girl then one copy of picture gave to his son. He is shocked that it is that girl who is loved by him. After the marriage he said to his parents she is this girl whom I want. It is real so now what you say about this type of family. Now I am for in love marriage. 1> We should know each other before marriage. 2> A girl or a boy can do acting for three or five days not for long time. So when parents went to see him or her then he or she becomes good one. 3> If a boy and a girl is not perfect to each other then after marriage divorce is must. 4> Marriage is done between two people so decision should take by two people. That's why I support LOVE MARRIAGE. Rate this: +18 -5 Saranya said: (Sat, Jan 28, 2012 11:15:50 PM) Hi this is saranya. When most of the person said arranged marriage is better than love marriage. But my point of view love marriage is best because there is decision taken by two hearts and they have enough time to understand one to ene. And they are ready to fece any type of problem in future. In arranged marriage decision to be taken by olders and nobody giving chance to people to share their feelings. Arranged marriage its may be a compulsion only. So love marriage is better. Rate this: +17 -5 M Ismail said: (Sat, Jan 28, 2012 12:59:59 PM) Hi Friend Both Saying Arranged Merriage is Better than Love Merriage , But my Oppionion is That we love to Partner but his parents not Agree with us , How can we do , Thats why all ways depend on Future is possible our life is Sucessful . Marriage is concerned of Both people , not forget the parents and not forget the Friend, So Keep smillling Allah is better than Know Our Future ..... Rate this: +3 -11

Anjana said: (Fri, Jan 27, 2012 11:56:34 PM) Hi friends in my mind what type of marriage it is secondary first they should have understanding and love in both arranged and love marriage they should have love and understanding in both marriages with out these 2things no marriage can go safely in their life journey. Today we are seeing number of eloped love marriages why means then can't convince their parents for that reason only parents are against to lovers. Parents are seeing our future only they know which type of person suit his/her to their children s once we prove in your self in life after we should convince our parents we have a chance to tell our opinion in-front of our parents they will defnetly accepts our love parents can never against to the love its depends on our convincing and our capability. Arranged marriage also have some problems in olden days our parents very suffering with dowry problem in arranged marriages that is the disadvantage it should also have love and it is fully parents choice the parent should know the opinion of her/his.

So don't never loss our love till end of your life friends and don't forget your parents don't cheat your self or any other persons and all the best to your life. Rate this: +3 -0 Ram Sahu said: (Tue, Jan 24, 2012 11:23:46 AM) Hi friends, Let me read few words of my mind. This is not a fight between LOVE or ARRANGED. MARRIAGE is a life time bond between you and your life time partner. If it is not then there will be no more any MARRIAGE. If you have a clear picture of your partner then it means you can understand him or her at any time... and if you really love some one then you really want to undesatand him or her. Love starts from an attraction then every one wants to keep it as it is; so you all should know to protect your attraction by being as same as you were, though it is arranged or love. If you are able to prove that you really love each other and you can manage your rest of life as being one person then I don't think any parent would spoil your love. Rate this: +5 -2 Sam, Nagercoil B.D, Mba said: (Sat, Jan 21, 2012 10:50:13 AM) Today Love or Arranged marriage became a debating point. From this we can understand both have its own strength and weakness. When we think of love marriage we must consider today's youngsters mind. Love become a fashion among the youth. They think if my friend have one lover I must have two lovers in order to prove my caliber to attract the opposite sex. They love each other without bothering the end results. When somebody want to love they must have the goal in their mind. But it is not found often in the love of our youngsters. They are ready to break their relationship whenever they have minor misunderstanding. So determine what sort of girl or boy you want and then fix your lover to love and make as your life partner. When you do so love marriage is good. When we think of arranged marriage the individual expect a lot from their life partner. They often rely on the opinion of their parents. Especially girls. In this the mother play a major role in forming the mind of the girl. Many a time girls don't even show a heart to forget minor mistake of their life partner. Because of their expectations and instigation of their mother. But one think they must know "all the mistakes are happening not by intentions but by situations" which make them to do the wrong. Such kind of girls or boys life never be happy. Hence when we have lesser expectations and adaptable mind arranged marriage is good. Let me conclude MIND PLAY A GREATER ROLE IN DECIDING WHICH IS GOOD. When a person decide a girl or boy for marriage they must have clear vision of life. Have the heart to adjust and accept their shortcomings. The success of marriage is determined by their selfless love. If there is no true love there is no success in love or arranged marriage. If there is no "sacrifice" behind this love then the love itself is not true. Thus have sacrificial love and then have love marriage or arranged marriage. Here you find both will be best and successful. Who ever read this please share your opinion. Rate this: +43 -2 Cindy said: (Thu, Jan 19, 2012 09:49:04 AM) After reading several of these, I think the point of marriage is being over looked. One must look at what love really is beyond the emotions and pressures from others to get married. One must find and understand themselves in a way that they can honor another and not take away dreams, but to enhance their partner. Thus creating a meaningful relationship that will last. Is eveyone compatable? To choose a partner for another? It could be compared to breeding livestock. Yes

they will breed and get along to some extent. I would like to think that mankind could advance beyond that sort of union and enter into an inspirational realm of great advancement. One of thinking and rational descion making. Imagine that mankind has evolved and advanced into something new wonderful and exciting! What would male and female encounters look like then? Rate this: +9 -8 Shan said: (Thu, Jan 19, 2012 05:02:25 AM) Hello everyone, At the beginning I am telling that, I support love marriage. What is love marriage and arrange marriage? love marriage is to marry our own girlfriend, and arrange marriage is to marry other's girlfriends. Then why should we think about arrange marriage? parents are used to say that there are always a girl behind a successful man, but do you know! there are always a girl also behind a unsuccessful man also. And the no. Of unsuccessful is drastically increasing and the girl behind this, is either his girlfriend or his mom. At the time of our parents, they were not able to love before marriage, so is there any reason to pass their frustration on their children? parents are making our voter id to separate the field of income. Then why they are so much eager to choose our life partner? if we can't love then why this valentine's day, why that Adam-eve? why boys ? why girls? why this type of social discrimination? come friends lets enjoy our past stone age. We aren't able to live in this century. Rate this: +5 -26 Radhika said: (Tue, Jan 17, 2012 01:09:36 PM) Hi friends, Let me read few words of my mind. This is not a fight between LOVE or ARRANGED. MARRIAGE is a life time bond between you and your life time partner. If it is not then there will be no more any MARRIAGE. If you have a `clear picture of your partner then it means you can understand him or her at any time. And if you really love some one then you really want to undesatand him or her. Love starts from an attraction then every one wants to keep it as it is ;so you all should know to protect your attraction by being as same as you were, though it is arranged or love. If you are able to prove that you really love each other and you can manage your rest of life as being one person then I don't think any parent would spoil your love. Rate this: +20 -4 Manila said: (Sun, Jan 15, 2012 05:09:25 PM) Hi Guys, I read through many of the comments, some supporting love marriage some arranged. I think marriage has its own progression cycle. Which starts much ahead incase of luv marriage and starts post marriage incase of arranged one. It starts from knowing your partner and then liking / disliking things and then finally accepting the person. The acceptance though comes gradually when you develop the sense of belonging. In both cases if you have not been able to get or give the due respect from /to your partner. Or not being able to give that special position. Then eventually we all feel lost and loose the basic sense of why we got married. The day we choose separation or divorce to be an option. I guess it happens. So in my view it doesnt matters if you were in love n then got married or you got married and then luv happened. What matters is that sense of belonging n respect and trust that he/she will be there and you will not be left alone. Rate this: +11 -7

Rameez said: (Sat, Jan 14, 2012 04:08:26 PM) In my regard arrange marriage is far better than love marriages..because if a love marriage doesn't work then the two persons who has taken the commitment of being with each other can be blame for that and there will b no one to give sympathy it often leads to despair. Well in arrange marriage its a marriage where parents play the main role even if it doesn't work you can be rest assured that you are not the culprit..my sister's arrange marriage didn't worked well but still she is firm from her mind that her parents are not the culprit..she will have a better life..in love marriage two individuals go against there parents wishes..sometimes it leads to untimely death.. Rate this: +5 -22 Tanweer Siddiqui said: (Thu, Jan 12, 2012 12:06:40 AM) Hello. Marriage is not only about two individual in particular. Its about two family from different back ground. So while we talk and support love marriage we should look at this aspect As well. Rate this: +12 -13 Swapna said: (Mon, Jan 9, 2012 01:42:41 PM) Hello everybody, I find this topic a very interesting one. For me, Love marriage and arranged both has its own importance. Viewing now-a-days relationships success rates, all i can see is that people break up and move on with other people quite easily. so for me, Until and unless people spend both, quality and quantity time with each other in positive as well as negative situations. Love can not be defined. If people get married after 1 year of their relationship with all Happy Happy things , no fights . It seems nothing can be as great as it is. But, when it comes to tackling the fights, family everything all together, then only one can be sure about what their actual relationship is. and where it stands. And everything remains the same for arranged marriage. I personally think that if The courtship period before the arranged marriage is long enough to understand each other , there is not at all a single difference between Love and Arranged marriage. In fact in that case nothing can be more successful than it. because it becomes LOVE CUM ARRANGED then :) Rate this: +51 -6 Chitra said: (Thu, Jan 5, 2012 12:28:18 PM) Hi friends we can't say anything about love marriage or arrange marriage that this will be success. I always see in mostly cases of arrange marriage that girls are always sacrifice with their feelings, dreams etc etc. After that girl's parents give dowry for her daughter too live better life with whom they choose why? I don't know I hate those people who take dowry. In love marriage all these things are not applicable. That's why I always support to love marriage but we should check all the things of our partner if we do love marriage or else arrange. Because now a days many people are fake in both cases. So open your eyes always before do arrange or love marriage. Rate this: +46 -6 Bharadwaj said: (Thu, Jan 5, 2012 05:58:15 AM)

I think this is one of the good discussion I found regarding this topic. Lot of good views about both versions of marriage. I think, In a place like India, Love marriage works best when their parents support it. Again love marriage can be inter caste or in the same caste. But unfortunately, when people fall in love, caste is always taken for granted. Parents resist it when it is inter caste and they most likely support when it when it is same caste. People should be really lucky for that to happen. I have seen successful marriages even after their parents warned it will fail. I have seen unsuccessful marriages even after parents matched all the points in horoscope. The point, I am trying to make here is, it all depends on two individuals on how they deal with life after they get married. Both versions of marriage has it own pros and cons. It is perfectly fine with meeting someone whom parents choose when you have not choose anyone by yourself. But if you choose someone by yourself, you should discuss with your parents before giving up. I can understand, sometimes, not every parents will agree to it but we all know that no parents wish to spoil their own children's lives. I think success of the any marriage cannot be measured by divorce rate. Lot of couple choose to stay together even though they do not like just for the sake of society or for the sake of their children or for the sake of their parents. They make compromise and carry on with their lives. The way I look at marriage is, when you are in love with someone, you should try every possible thing to work and stand by each other. After all, it is not like you wake up one day and realize you love someone. Not everyone fall in love or express their love. But when you do not know whom to marry, then seek your parents help. PS:Everything above are just my opinions. It is not meant to hurt anyone's sentiments. Rate this: +33 -5 Priyanka Pal said: (Mon, Jan 2, 2012 12:19:54 PM) I guess marriage totally depends on the nature of the two people getting married. Nowadays, thinking matters more than all those culture, habits, family and all. If two people are happy being together then it will be a successful marriage. And you cannot make evryone happy at the sametime. Either make your family happy or urself happy. Its true that in past arranged marriages worked best. But at that time, girls hardly had any say. They had to obey their husbands and din't have any option. Now it is not the same. Girls are quite matured and they can decode thei good or bad. So marriages of any kind can break. I myself know one of my aunt who got arranged married thrice and only the last one worked for her. Her previous husbands were very bad and she is a simple middle class girl. Rate this: +19 -2 Nitheish said: (Wed, Dec 28, 2011 12:34:35 PM) Hello friwnds. In my point, arrange marriage is best when compared to love marriage. See in olden days have more arrange marriage and less love marriage so, have no more divoce case in court but, today having more love marriages and less arrange marriage so having more divoce case in court. So,

arrange marriage is best. I would like to give an example here my friend, first he love a girl, she's his college mate. It goes up to only three months the that love get destroyed now he love her school mate and she also love another boy. But, now also he was not confident with their love I don't know when it get break or join. So friends today's love are not a real love it's just a infatuation. So arrange marriage is best. Rate this: +27 -41 Abeerah Khaliq said: (Thu, Dec 22, 2011 05:10:16 PM) A love marriage is a union of two individuals based upon mutual love, affection, commitment and attraction. In maa opinion LOVE is important in every relation but it doesnot mean that it could be in the form ov love marriage. MUtual understanding is the 2nd important thing that is the key behind any successful relation. Both the marriages could be successful as well as unsuccessful if they have these 2 basic things or lack it respectively. Rate this: +40 -9 Kiran said: (Thu, Dec 22, 2011 12:10:12 AM) Hi friends, On this discussion I would like to add few lines and real life example. I feel that Love marriage is better because we choose our life partner after knowing in and out about him/her because we spend a good amount of time with him/her. We know about his/her likes and dislikes, his lifestyle, his decision making points, his nature, when to talk or when to leave him alone and many more things which are very important for life. And in arrangs marriage, all these matters we can't judge about a person in one or two meet where that person can be fake also. And these matters are unavoidable after marriage and you can't change the things afterwards. If things go wrong, the girl will either bare it commit suicide. Yeah she can also go to her parents where her parents will either ask her to go back to in-laws place after few compromises, just to save their image in society. Or SUPPORT her to get divorced, thats all happens in real life. An example with me, My parents brought a proposal to me of an IES officer. Families had almost decided that this marriage is fixed. When we went to meet them, they asked few sarcastic questions to me before my family itself which my family also dint like but still they were fine. The Guy (IES) dint utter even a single word, he was not even bother about my like and dislikes, whether i'll be able to adjust with his family or not, how my behavior is. No nothing he asked. And after 2 hrs of family talk and all. They left. After half an hour their response comes saying they are ready for this marriage but with the dowry of 35 lakhs. Friends, I am an MBA working with reputed IT firm and belong to financially balanced family. I said no this decision despite getting pressurized by my family members and later on they also found an evident about that guy side family. And my friends, this happens in almost all the parts of India. But not everyone is lucky as me. I believe Love marriage is better but don't go with blind love also. Rate this: +74 -7 Sameer said: (Tue, Dec 20, 2011 04:12:01 PM) In love marriage the two individuals know each other very well after spending ample amount of

time with each other, accepted but when they get married the real picture starts there where the girl and the boy have to follow the custom and duties of the family they are living with. In short, the girl easily excepts the boy but finds difficult to except his family readily. And the conflicts begin ruining the beautiful dreams they have thought before marriage. Whereas in arrange marriage the girl and the boy though do not know each other make efforts to understand themselves. There relationship is excepted by all relatives and they do not have to face any social obligations. Two families unite together and the relationship is very healthy. Thus married couple has a family to share their joy. Where in love marriage the struggle continue even after marriage. In a country like India having enormous population, the rate of divorse is very low because due to arrange marriage system the decision of marriage is taken by elders and responsible members of the family and hence they share their thoughs and interfere during testing suituations in a couples life, while in love marriage, the association is in between two families of entirely different culture hence they have very low tolerance limit and marginal tensile strength resulting into seperation of relationship and afterwards it is the girl not the boy who is blamed for the whole consiquencies. Rate this: +31 -4 Vikram Rathore said: (Tue, Dec 20, 2011 09:57:01 AM) Hey hi friends from my point of view arrange marriage is much better then love because 1. In arrange marriage you don't know anything about each other and you are excited to know about your partner (Interest,Hobbies, etcccc. 2. As we take an average our ancestors did arrange marriage and which are more successful till now . 3.Arrange marriage satisfies both families related to caste , Dowry etc . 4. Today is the modern era of human beings so after fixing arrange marriage boys & girl enough time to thought among themselves which is quite god enough from my point of view so in a short interval of time they came more closer then apart of 2-3 years relationship . 5.Today generation is well educated so they don't think about dowry because they want to settle their independent life and want to work together . so its a good approach of today generation to settle a wonderful time in a short time i. e arrange marriage . Rate this: +20 -25 Rekha said: (Sun, Dec 18, 2011 08:29:53 PM) I strongly go with the Love marriages as in love marriage, you know about your life partner his thoughts , nature etc so you can adjust with him for end of your life however in arrange marriages sometimes you compromise with lots of things. Might be your parents forced you to do that.If your parents understand you , they will respect your feelings and do for your best.Love marriages are successful becoz they understand feeling of each other and respect each other and always think of his or her better and never feel guilty too. Rate this: +21 -8 Mahdi Bayat said: (Fri, Dec 16, 2011 08:44:23 AM) Marriage is an official bond of mutual respect, faith and honesty between two people. It is a sociocultural issue which vastly depends on the religious, traditional and geographical indicators of a region. In some cultures, this relationship is believed to be sacred and divine. However, in different cultures and religions, the approach to this life-bond process is different. In most western countries, the pendulum is for love marriages, while in many Asian countries the gravitation is for arranged marriages. There is also a third type of marriage which is prevalent in Afghanistan; forced marriages. Since marriage is one of the most important stages of one's life, a public controversy may arise about whether a person should choose his partner himself or the family should select his partner. Although some may advocate the idea of arranged marriages and some may go for love marriages, I believe that a mixture of both would lead to a more secure and everlasting relationship.

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Neena said: (Thu, Dec 15, 2011 08:27:19 AM) In most of the arrange marriages involve the two strangers who agree for the alliance when they only get to see each other for the first time and commiting to a relationship on advice of others. And sometimes there could be lots of fraudlent, lies involved from either side to make it happen there and you can not know what the other person is like in all the cases. For what it may look can be untrue. Whereas in love relationships where you can be committed to someone for years and you get to know each other through the years. You will also face many situations where you both need each other and be supportive or unsupportive or whatsoever. Hence you are tested whether you both can fit into the frame of love marriage and make it a successful marriage later on. So entirely upto a person as it affect his/her whole life make the decision wisely. Rate this: +11 -4 Priya said: (Fri, Dec 9, 2011 07:09:24 PM) Well according to me love marriages are better, because in love marriage there is a scope for both the girl and boy to know each other in a very good manner. Moreover the level of commitment between them would definitely support their relationship. Where as in arranged marriage, infact in most of the cases it's the dowry the deciding factor, but not the opinions of the boy or girl to enter into a relationship. Understanding your partner will peep only after you get engaged. Here is a deadlock where you cannot deny now, keeping in view the respect of yoor family answer social status. So I would certainly support love marriages. Rate this: +21 -7 Mona said: (Wed, Dec 7, 2011 08:26:48 PM) I have just question for those people who says arrange marriage are good because their parents are there even in ny fight & love marriage is unsuccessful because both partner has to face more worst situations and having no support from anyone.-There are many arrange marriages where both partner has to face worst situation & even they get their parents support too.But for what..finally that support is given to satisfy each ego & which result into rate of divorce...And if people says that arrange marriage are more successful then this is also the fact that in INDIA the rates of divorce are getting increased too..Is this only the support that every body get in arrange marriage?Then somebody can still decrease rate of divorces??????? Another point that someone mention that love marriages are unsuccessful because men's nature always get change after marriage.That's true.But is it not possible that after 3-4 yrs of success of arrange marriage even those men can also change any point of the time & make a life more worst like a hell? If a girl & guy can understand each other's nature, if they are clear about how their partner wish them to be then the success bar of love marriage too will go high. Rate this: +19 -9 Prasanna said: (Wed, Dec 7, 2011 05:33:05 PM) Hi friends, In my opinion arrange marriage are more successful as compare to love marriage. Because in love marriage both boy and girl have to manage all the situations, most of the time their family member never interfere in between them. After marriage sometimes it happens that their ego

problem might come and they fight because of that.... and like before marriage if one from them gets angry so other one comes and try so solve the situation, is not going to happen after marriage. Ego and nature of both is same but the situation is changed like before marriage they are Couple and now they are husband and wife. And I men's expectation is surely change after marriage. Apart from all this things in arrange marriage we never know the actual nature or behavior of the person with whom we are going to spent our entire life. But we both are not alone their to spent our life, we have the family with us. Rate this: +52 -17 Anusha said: (Tue, Dec 6, 2011 10:32:29 PM) In my view love marriages are little bit better because in this type of marriages the decisions are taken by our heart. Although our heart is at left but the things that are done by it are always right. And I also agreed all my friends opinions and concluding that where there is a good understanding between couples then the result never depends on the type of marriage. Rate this: +13 -9 Mona said: (Tue, Dec 6, 2011 08:11:01 PM) Hello All, I am back again... Read your inputs and this time i found all guys & girls having balanced thinking about that both love & arrange marriage can be successful.That shows that this generation is really mature enough that atleast they will not commit same mistake as past age parents are doing.If thi generation couple willing to do arrange marriage for their children then it will be not for sake of their EGO but they will go with child happiness.And definitely with love marriages i dont think you guys will raise any concern. Just a little note for Shivani.Its not good that without knowing other's life situation you can simply comment or vomit about philosophical lines written in the book "Parents are almost topper than GOD". You know the concept that "Five Fingers are not always same".If you got good parents then that is your good luck & that's why you are talking all good about. Its not you that make parents great or its not Milez that makes parents selfish.Its all about individual situation and luck.Today also in many area of Rajasthan or if you take east India their are parents who looks after their EGO,gives more attention to society thinking if their girl or guy choose any right partner.And just for their selfish purpose they will get their girl married to such a guy who will beat her , treat her entire life like a slave & still enjoying all rights as a good man in a society. In this case where can you comment that parents are great like a GOD or they have thought about their children happiness? Parents are addressed next to GOD because after coming on the earth they take care & make u stand on our leg.But they are also normal human being like us.So parents are always correct or they are always great -- No science talk about such lines too. Rate this: +22 -6 Shivani Sen said: (Mon, Dec 5, 2011 09:02:21 PM) Hi Milez, I think you are totally wrong. I know you are in love but you cannot say that the parents are selfish. Parents do every thing welfare for us. But the people like you thinks that the parents are wrong and selfish. I think you are selfish that your parents cared you, since your childhood and in return of it you gave a thougt "selfish" to them. Now a days this is impossible to find a true love. This is true only in movies. Your parents have a very bad luck that they you.

I am givivng a avice to you that, The place of parents is almost topper than a god. So, respect your parents and Be Concious in love. Rate this: +19 -34 Deepak Yadav said: (Mon, Dec 5, 2011 01:06:07 PM) In my point of view its not a matter whether love marriage is successful or arranged marraiage is successfull. The matter is that how both understand each other, how much they love each other and respect to each other. But I think that arrange marriage is more successful because arranged marriage have support of both families, society. It is not necessary that girl/boy you love will be get married with you but it is 100% sure that after marriage you will definately love to each other. Rate this: +22 -5 Savi said: (Mon, Dec 5, 2011 10:24:03 AM) I think in both situation couple can be live happily, if they have understanding, love & respect to each other. By the love marriage cast system can be removed, but arriage marrige can be successful if family & couple understand each other. I think in love marriage both (girl/boy) dissused all the things so they are happy with each other. Sometimes love marriage is risky if our parents not agree with our decision. So if love marriage is done with arrange system, we found all are haapy our parents, society & couple also. Rate this: +7 -4 Milez said: (Sun, Dec 4, 2011 11:13:53 AM) Hello, Me also have a very very bad experienced which regards to arrange marriage. I had a boyfriend before he is from Guna India. Our relationship was long almost 1 year 6 months. When me and my parents was ready he told me that he can't marry me because he don't want to give any disappointment: (Why he let me to fall in love with him. He promised me that he will do his best to marry me. Love marriage is always on top. Arrange marriage is just being selfish of a parents. If parents really love you and understand you then they will let you to marry a girl with his choice. Parent only need some dowry that's why they doing this it is too unfair to man or woman who have a real love: (. Rate this: +10 -18 Chinmaya Mahapatra said: (Thu, Dec 1, 2011 11:51:06 AM) Whether it be love or Arrange. Doesnt matter. Both are good and can be made successful. The irritant which we have to take out is the society, some of the dirty people in it, caste system. Becoz with it comes the problem of Dowry (the worst curse of society) , the stupid astrology (this makes people manglik, bestow them with rahu dosh, sani dosh) , Relatives (jealous, crooked and always gossiping and interfering in others world). If we all leave these factors behind. Our lives would become much much happier no matter what type of marriage we prefer. Nobody (girl or boy) in this world is perfect. Nowadays parents have become liberal. They allow their children to mingle with their future spouse for 6-7 months before marriage. All that is required in a marriage is understanding your partners desire, luving them, caring for them and respecting them. And the you will get all the things back. If we all can leave our 'EGOS' and adjust a bit, help a bit and share the responsibility of the priorities in life and daily household work. We will not only make our life happy but we will be spending quality time with our better half. This way both will be happy and will lead a successful life. In Today's scenario career and financial stability is a big requirement. So if we plan our life accordingly. Like attaining higher degrees together with your spouse. Having children only whn both are ready. We can make any

marriage work. :). Rate this: +50 -3 Manas Mishra said: (Wed, Nov 30, 2011 10:33:24 PM) Hello, As per my point of view, arranged marriage is best. Because what you say if you are fail in love marriage? lots of mishap have been taken place in the name of love. The most worst word SUICIDE happens in most of the love case. It's all about to convince your parents. If they agree then its ok otherwise it's a damn situation for the would be couple. Even they take many risky steps. So I don't think it's a sacrificing nature of love marriage. But in arranged marriage this kind of situation never come in way. Yes there is little bit misunderstanding between the couple, but somehow it's manageable. Who said there is no love in arranged marriage?, arranged marriage is more successful than love marriage. There is no certainty on premarital love, but there is 100% certainty on love after marriage. Rate this: +9 -15 Mugu said: (Tue, Nov 29, 2011 03:38:09 PM) Hi friends. On my point of view, if Love marriage is great .. if so then Arrange marriage is Greatest. Let me tell you why ? In Love marriage, They learn how to fit mutually before marriage , This gives more confident to couples about their life indeed. emm great. In arrange marriage, they are committed first & they started loving each other eventually. At the beginning , they both struggle to understand, judge or what ever ? then they both hold the line of trust,& bla bla.... this shows their maturity !!! well i am not saying loved , married guys has less maturity ? pls dont get me wrong . They are not choosing their love ? they are moulding what love is about...You can only mould when you dont have EGO, How great . Now tell me how many people still stand for First love ?? ( i am only talking about love indeed) .. No , Most of them are choosing the love partner !!! Rate this: +17 -10 Leslie Locker said: (Fri, Nov 25, 2011 01:25:53 PM) I am married for 25 years now and I can say that arranged or Love marriages are made in heaven - you should beleive it. Marriage isa bond that your make with each other and it is your commitment to God that you will follow His divine plan of Pro-Life or His creation in this World that He has created for us. If we understnd that God has given each one of us a FREE mind, and we respect our partners will and thoughts, marriages will be heaven ON EARTH - wif we do not and beomce selfish marriages could be HELL. Wheather in Love or arranged marriages, you should love your partner some time in Life and when your love is pure then you seek the happiness of the other person and not of you and vice versa and that is marriage. Today, the youth are not able to differentiate between Love & Lust and it is the physical attraction that attracts us closer, the beauty that adds to a mans ego and not true unselfish love. Rate this: +16 -8 Shrish Pandey said: (Wed, Nov 23, 2011 11:04:59 AM)

I would like to add my view on this hot topic is that arrange marriages are more succesful because our parents finds partners for us. So they think this is their responsibility to support it. But if someone is doing love marriage and parents are not giving permission for it but if we still od it then they just accept it unwillingly but they still don't support it. Here the causes start for missunderstandiings which leads to big issues in future life. This is a fact no one can deny this. Another thing for successsing arrange marrriages is the expextation. If we loved sumone then we expext alot from each other. But with time priorities also changess. So our partner thinks we are changing and we are not fulfilling our promises. Its create differences. While in arrange marriage their was not so many promises so partner accept everything easily that work is also necessary with love. Love can't be eat or wearr. So if sumone is concentrating in carrier its not mean that luv is diminshing. It means we are caring our partner and for better life and future just putting our hundred percent. Thank you. Rate this: +16 -10 Mona said: (Tue, Nov 15, 2011 04:32:51 PM) Hi Ronie, Really Loved your lines :. "Because parents just have to sacrifice their EGO whereas children have to sacrifice their LIFE. ". Its not just about loving the lines but its the white truth. Today many good and sincere girls & guys life getting totally spoiled when just their beloved guy or girl left them just to bring smile (support EGO) of Parents. Why those people can't understand that to bring the smile on their parents face they are fetching away somebody else smile. Its easy to say that he or she is so good that he will get a nice girl or she will get a nice other guy to marry. But has those people asked what those rejected girls and guys heart says. They get married to others just for sake of everyone happiness & at each point of life somewhere in a corner get again feeling for the person whom they loved so much. Is this not a biggest sin or crime cheating both (current partner and also whom they loved). This is something like INDIA & Pakistan war due to rubbish corrupted politicians. There is no bitterness present in any of the Indians heart for any pakistani & Vice Versa. Same way there would have never been debate on Arrange or Love marriage. But stupid society can't see something happening good with others. Rate this: +37 -7 Bhuwan said: (Sat, Nov 12, 2011 09:15:04 PM) I believe that love marriage is better than arrange marriage it is because in arrange marriage you judge the person from your brain and than select that person as your partner but in love marriage your heart select the person for you, love is never ending feeling if it is true but problem is that now people are becoming more practical instead of emotional they calculate the person on basis of looks, income, cast etc and than select their life partner which is not right, why people afraid to listen their heart, if you are parents love you than they definitely respect your feelings and give you a permission to do love marriage but its on you how you convince them. Rate this: +51 -5 Ronie said: (Fri, Nov 11, 2011 12:14:17 PM) Hello everyone, I would like to express my few thoughts about this. As we all know the mentality of INDIAN society is totally against LOVE. And so parents can't bear that their children choose their life partner by their own. And the reasons for that are totally unfair from my point of view. The

situation gets even the worst if guy and girl belong to different cast. In most cases of love, guy&girl have to give up the hope just because of their parents happiness (actually I think 'EGO' should be here instead of 'HAPPINESS'). If anyone fall in love with someone it doesn't mean that they don't respect their parents. Now this is the time to change our narrow minded thoughts. Parents should respect their children's decisions about their life. At least parents should try to understand the feelings of their children. And if they are satisfied with their children's choice then should not think over what other people will say, what will be our reputation and all that. Because parents just have to sacrifice their EGO whereas children have to sacrifice their LIFE. Let the society go to hell. I think your child's happiness is far more important than anything else. Let your children live their life. Rate this: +83 -8 Mini said: (Mon, Nov 7, 2011 10:39:40 PM) It totally depends on you.Marriage is a knot tied between two people who are compatible with each other .So it does not make a difference whether its a love marriage or an arranged marriage. Talking about society i would like to say that in today's scenario its you who has to ultimately make a relationship successful so what people say really doesn't matter. Marriages being successful or unsuccessful depends on the people sharing the bond.No marriage become unsuccessful because of the society, people and friends they can only influence but cannot interfere.Love marriage is when you know who can be compatible with you and arrange marriage you want to know with whom you can be Compatible with.So none of them is a bad way of choosing your life partner.Its the Perception that makes a difference the way you want to see things and want things to be. In the end i would like to say that Marriage is a very delicate thread of "Trust","Compatibility" and "Understanding" whether its a Love or an Arranged Marriage !!! Rate this: +27 -11

Mona said: (Sat, Nov 5, 2011 12:13:30 PM) Many people has got bit misunderstanding for those people who are supporting LOVE Marriage.Friends we all are Indians where we value our parents first rather than anyone else.People who support LOVE Marriage it doesnt means they are blaming their parents or are against their decision.But those guys are raising voice against that why stupidly parents are following these days stupid society selfish wishes.In a society if 100 people are not able to fulfill their wish of getting married by their own choice then they will never accept if their relatives child getting married by his or her own wish.And will harass their parents by giving nonsense torture to them.Here somewhere our parents are lagging behind where they will listen or accept society tonts without doing any mistake.And will get trapped into stupid mentality that love marriage always fails so our children should not fall into love.Arey baba you are the same parents who is going to support when your children will do arrange marriage then why not while love marriage? Why such differences get placed just due to selfish society? Any indian son or daughter will support their parents first when somebody says any rubbish about them even in situation where their parents would hav really done something wrong.But why parents has became so selfish to follow stupid society that even if their son or daughter has took right decision to marry a right guy or girl of their own choice , they will not support this even though if it is right. Ggodson as a friend i have just one feedback about you as your first girl friend denied you to

marry so you realize the importance of Arranged Marriage.But here there are many people who will support Arranged Marriage upfront but their heart too says that if they would have got chance or situation to get marry their own girl or guy then they would have choosen that option first.They are quiet or they are supporting ArranGE Marriage as their situtaion was not favourable or they dont want thier parents to be unhappy.And this again doesnt means that LOVE MArriage is best.But society should not say wrong about LOVE marriage due to just their selfish feeling. Rate this: +30 -3 Sohan said: (Thu, Nov 3, 2011 05:01:20 PM) Love or arranged marriage whatever its the compatibility, we being in India where there are so many culture and tradition there is so much of inequality in all the people, If one sees here in India today people have become selfish There was a time where there were people like Mahatma Gandhi, Bhagat Singh who fought for freedom in these two peoples cases they did not think about their family but they thought of India as their family, people like Mahatma Phule and Raja Ram Mohan Roy fought for the rights of women, are there such brave people now who can fight against superstitious society. In olden days people were against love marriage still there were some who went against such odds married and are happy together, this was true love, these were committed people, there was bravery there at that time. What does one think about Harishvanshrai Bacchan who never believed in caste and creed. Are we the people coming from the same country why there is no integrity and harmony amongst ourselves, When are people's thoughts going to match cause until this doesnt happen India will never progress, Please think but think for all and think as one instead of fighting over this caste and culture and fighting over love marriages think of India's progress and a better future for our country. Rate this: +9 -5 Ggodson said: (Wed, Nov 2, 2011 07:02:37 AM) In my point of view, I strongly support for 'ARRANGED MARRAIGE'. Because in Arranged Marriage, we will get full family as well as communal support and along with the strong support of state law also. The result is, no one can easily collapse this relation. And I am strongly disagree to those who said before in this debate, "in arranged marriage, the two parties are unaware of understanding each other because, they don't know one's interest, habbit, character.....etc....etc". May I say something to them, now-a-days, the steps towards to arranged marriages are little bit open than before. Non of the parents are compelling their children to marry a boy or girl whom they suggested, the selection of life partner is left on children's interest. Once the relation get confirmed, the two party (boy and the girl) can talk each other whenever they like, with the support of family and parents, until the day of their marriage. Becuase, now the marriages are not happened suddenly, it will take around one or two months time to complete the process. I think, this time is enough for the both parties can understand each other about their tastes, interests, character.... etc...etc. And one of the most important to say, if anything happened in their life, which means, any clash, the whole family and their relatives from the both sides will come together and tried to calm them, convince them and tempt them lead a peaceful life forever. Because, they have a strong family, relatives, communal and even the state support!!!!! Ours is a Arranged Marriage, I didn't see my girl even at a glance before I visited her home during the process of our marriage. She is from my same village, it is around nearly 1 km. away from my home. On the very first day of our marriage, I realised, we really loving each other and this love still existing even after 15 years of our family life. Occassionally, we clashing, conflicting each other but, at the end, only the love wins!!!!!! Ironically, I had many love affairs (not physically) before my marriage. But I choose only arranged marriage, you know why? Becuase, I realised, non of these affairs will not be successful in real family life, because, we don't like to make sad of our parents. Without their blessings, no one can go success. One of my girl freind to whom I loved very much, I asked her to convert and come to my religion but she said, she doesn't want to

be her parents to go sad or to oppose. If our parents not been here, we would never be born on this earth. So we have to respect them, we should understand their feelings, non of any parent would choose a wrong decision for their children. The fact is, children is their wealth. They loved them from their heart. It is agreed that, there are few parents here who doing opposite to this. Don't look at them. So, I hardly suggested to go for an Arranged Marriage. You will be blessed...... Rate this: +14 -47 Manisha Jain said: (Sun, Oct 30, 2011 01:29:23 AM) Hi Sohan, I really appreciate your thoughts as the experience that you have shared for nice girl, I can reflect my image too in that nice girl. I love the statement very much that why parent's allowing to roam their guy with any caste girl, spoil girl life by having all enjoyment & then trying to act as most sincere son in the world by marrying to same caste girl. Today if this debate came into picture, somewhere really parents need to awake to avoid getting many nice girls or nice guys life becoming worst just due to their rubbish support to stupid society mentality of getting married their children in same caste. Jaago ladke ladkiyon Jago. Falling in love is not that bravery. Commit to someone for lifetime after falling in love shows that you are really a human being. Rate this: +14 -3 Sohan said: (Thu, Oct 27, 2011 08:23:01 PM) I never said parents make a wrong choice for their children off course parents want their children to always be happy and get the best, but we also can't say their choice will always be right, there are divorces in arranged marriage's also isn't it? same goes for the children they too can go wrong. The female about whom I have discussed and known is a nice girl, my view point is that why should a good person suffer. Please correct me if I am wrong anything can happen with anyone, at least parents can have a look and check through their children's choice at least they can be fair in that way, the boy and girl I have discussed are of different caste but belong to same religion. I was only pointing out since this boys parents had put this condition the boy managed to flirt with other caste girls and marry someone else, nor did he have any feelings for the girl just because she was not of his caste it doesn't mean he use her just for the sake of it like an entertainment purpose. Not only this the boys parents are totally unaware of all this. So is that right then. Is there any solution over this can this caste and creed difference arising in love marriage be solved. If the girl/boy is good coming from good family background irrespective of his/her caste can people then accept each other. Can we fight against unfaithfulness in love relationships? Please be open in answering this?Try to look at things with different perspective. Understanding is required at every level in every relationship. Rate this: +14 -5 Twinkle said: (Wed, Oct 26, 2011 10:14:02 PM) Curiosity and the desire to have new experiences are some of man's most common traits. Now once a boy and a girl are in love , they spend intimate moments together , know everything about each other and might be in a physical relationship too. RESULT- everything has already been experienced , the excitment is gone. Whereas in case of arrange marriages , the first few years are spent in knowing the positive and the negative qualities of the partner , which in itself can be fun . This also strengthens their bond....ummy or daddy knows the best , they always choose the right person for us , no parent would want their children in trouble. So I definitely would go for arrange marriage.

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Sohan said: (Wed, Oct 26, 2011 05:19:16 PM) After reading all the post and different views I have found people are mostly against love marriage. I do have a case to discuss about a good friend of mine who suffered both in love and an arranged marriage and is a tiff I feel our society is not that open to inter caste marriage but what if a boys parents are of the opinion where they feel that their son should marry a girl only in their caste, to which the boy too agrees but at the same time he has been in a relationship with a girl for more than 3 years who loves him wants to marry him, whereas this guy is totally of his family view, this girl is definitely a nice girl, comes from a good family background she even agrees to maintain a physical relationship with the guy and that too when he feels like the boy has told her that his parents will not accept her, so he never even thinks of discussing about this girl with his parents, I know many of you will say what a stupid girl she should have got over with this relationship, unfortunately she is even a divorcee (her part of story was something like this she had got no close to her partner the poor girl got forced in this marriage due to an tapori type of a guy although educated but a rascal had wooed her, only to do show off amongst his office colleagues used to boast around showing how much he loved her and what big plans for marriage, he was very dominating and acted possessive he also made it sure that my friend doesn't inform about this to her family since he knew they will not agree, he was quite unpopular as such, he kept things on hold convincing her that she should tell only after he finds a good job to which the girl agreed she actually pitied him since he was dark and ugly but things turned up this affair lasted for 4-5 months my friends boss knew her uncle and informed him so about everything to which the girls parents and relatives reacted very strangely and got her married immediately in a month to a guy who looked quite older to her strange in his behaviour, at that point of time my friend was mentally upset she never had any physical relationship with the x-bf (the ugly duckling) , but she started getting a feeling that she had cheated him and the same time was also not happy with this guy she remained honest explained him how she got forced into this marriage and told her husband that she would not be interested in physical relationship, things went sour totally, a divorce got filed by her husband but didn't inform parents of both parties later everyone got to know, it had become a huge blunder, disputes took place, and finally there was a divorce it was like a trauma for her. Many felt after taking divorce she had plans to go back to her x -bf, but it was so since he had created many problems for her in this whole process and later her on had turned his back on her saying that she was the one who was behind him. After which this other guy comes in picture meets her starts liking her since she was just out of one huge problem linked to marriage and love she thought of keeping the string loose regarding marriage but she has hopes that one day he would love to marry her but things again go against her will this guy is just wanting her for sex they still are in contact the boys parents have almost found him a girl but this guys feelings still won't budge for her, in this 3 year relationship he has never much spend on her and poor thing I always found her thinking gifting him sometimes she is angry frustrated, but she can't let go off him, he too is in contact with her but only for sharing hi hellos, she does try to look out for someone else but not that interestingly and nor does she find the kind she is looking for. I somewhere feel had this guys family been little open and modest may be she could stand a chance to marry him. Is this always going to be like this if it is so parents should ask their children to wander only with friends of their caste, sent to schools where only their caste exists rather than going to others land eating, growing earning livelihood somewhere else stay at your place of origin, you can use someone else's place to grow and why when it comes to marriage you can't accept other caste. Rate this: +20 -3 Mereena said: (Mon, Oct 24, 2011 10:57:03 PM)

In my opinion, love marriage is better than arranged marriage.In love marriage, we know the character of our partner very much. So we can adjust with them without any effort. But in arranged marriage, we cannot get the chance to understand them before the marriage. We cannot know anything about them - their character, aptitude even though their taste. They are absolutely new person for us. So it is very difficult to adjust with them. Rate this: +15 -7 Manisha said: (Mon, Oct 24, 2011 12:13:39 AM) Hello All, Today i really want to write from my heart after getting answer "NO" for love marriage from 3 guys where I has truely fallen in love with them.Reason was common that they need to take care of status & pride of their parents in the society.Cool we dont think all these while falling in love.But when a guy or girl realize that their parents were more important then why the hell they tried to make that person fall in love to spoil their entire life where the opposite party has honestly dedicated his or her life whom they love very much. Sometime I feel are only our parents are the reason that we are doing debate on Arrange & Love Marriage.Every parents give best virtues to their child thinking that their children should pass happiest life.And then same parents loose their trust from their child when he or she demands for love marriage.And those great parents who have given great virtues to their child will forget the value of those just for a rubbish stupid society mentality. When parents have given these good things to their child then going against to love marriage they are prooving that somewhere they have shown lacking in giving good things that's why today my son or daughter had made mistake by falling in love.Why dad & mum cant trust that their son or daughter will make correct choice as they are their children. Frnds, you may feel as i have received 3 times disappointment for love marriage and that's why i am in support of this.Its nothing like that.But i have learnt one lesson.I will really wish that when i will give birth to a girl then i will teach her once she is mature that if you are really falling in love with guy seriously then just get signed certificate that he will pay for your honesty by marrying you so that you will not experience a noise of hurt when a guy leaves you. And if i will give birth to a boy then will teach him that if you are falling in love with gal then try to promise her to be life long.Dont insult her love saying that you will not marry her just because you want to give respect to your parents. I feel today if every guy and gal parents would have supported their children happiness and feeling instead of supporting rubbish society then their would have never been debaate like either arrange marriage or love marriage are best? Rate this: +72 -4 Priya said: (Thu, Oct 20, 2011 12:18:58 PM) In my opinion I think marriage may be any be it arranged or love. The most important is caring and understanding each other. Sometimes people take 2 months to know each other sometimes they don't understand each other for 2 years. So I don't think love or arranged makes any difference. The thing is that both partners should be at their best comfort level and be himself or herself. Today many people think that if someone is doing arrange marriage they are compromising their life for their parents. But its not so. And you know the fact we don't think and love. It comes anytime in our lives. We start caring for someone, loving someone without thinking the consequence. So ultimately we are the ones who has to convince our parents. But our parents also arrange the right guy for us because they know us. So I conclude saying compatibility between partners are must in any relation to be succeed. Rate this: +17 -4

Shankey said: (Thu, Oct 20, 2011 12:11:00 AM) I Think type of marriage is not important. It totally depends on he/she, how much they caring, understand their life partners. Some peoples think understanding and care for each other comes only when he/she indulge with each other. I Think There are three important things:. 1. Understanding 2. Caring for each other. Rate this: +22 -3 Aditya said: (Wed, Oct 19, 2011 04:45:20 PM) Arranged marriage: Must do your level best to make your partner your friend (Husband to boyfriend and Wife to girlfriend). Love Marriage: Must do your level best to make your partner your (Girlfrined to Wife and Boyfrined to Husband). Lesson: you need both Husband and friend ; girlfriend and wife (spouse and a friend). Nothing come automatically but has to be worked upon. Requirement of parental/family support:. Arranged marriages: LOW as both partners have a high understanding of social adjustments and commitments. (as it is the parents have found the suitable match). Love Marriages: High. As there is a high possibility that both partners willinngness to compromise is low (too much of Why not, what about me, my life, my priorities, why should I? etc etc). How to approach in a love marriage: keep your parents in close confidence at every step- right from the first date and hopefully not (multiple break up- it is not easy to find a friend who is eventually a husband/wife material). Parental support during the excitement phase (meeting a new person) and depression phase (break ups) is phenomenally crucial. Love marriage without parental support means- children have been doings things which they thought best to hide from parents. Things which need to be hidden from parents can never be right. Take parents support right frmo the word GO. Rate this: +20 -3 Anne said: (Tue, Oct 18, 2011 06:51:05 AM) Okay, frankly I think that the idea of making a decision as monumental as marriage just to appease your parents is ludicrous. It's YOU that's going to have to spend the rest of your life with this person, NOT your parents. True, having your parents' approval is nice (to a certain extent), but at what cost? Do you really want to spend the rest of your life married to a guy that you only considered marrying because your parents liked him?? I think the whole concept of arranged marriage is ridiculous. Rate this: +7 -7 Mathew said: (Sun, Oct 16, 2011 08:45:41 PM)

Hai everybody .This is a very interesting topic.In my opinion arranged marriage is better than love marriage.In love marriage we didnot get full support of our parents.In arranged marriage we get a family support.Parents know who is the suitable match for their children.Love starts because of some attractions.It will not continue for long.When face with the real things we need support of parents and relatives. Rate this: +12 -7 Neha said: (Sun, Oct 16, 2011 10:34:24 AM) HELOO !! Thanx 4 the pionts.which is bettr LOVE MARRIAGE OR ARRANGED MARRIAGE?? The abve view of points hepld me for my debtae.. Accorrdng to me LOVE + ARRANGED = MARRIAGE OR ARRANGED + LOVE = MARRIAGE..I bevlve tht love a persn and merry hi wth ur parents lov..or marry tht persn and thn falll in lov wth him...nevr marry anyne whch make our parents sad...it just spoils our lif...its our parents who has been wth us throught our lif ...mak thm happy and marry...its a dream for any parent sees whn a child is born ...startng frm ther childs- childhood, school days,collge days,job,marriage and finally thy becme grandparents...whch is the main motive of thr lif aftr a child is born to thm.... you only feel it whn u stand in your parents position....so frndz marry anyne whch maks ur parrntz happy... Rate this: +19 -4 Gaurav said: (Sat, Oct 15, 2011 01:37:25 PM) Hi friends, According to my point of view both the love and arrange marriage have positive and negative points. We can't say any type of marriage to be good or bad. It's a relation of faith. But according to me arrange marriage is sometime better than love marriage because we all know that love before marriage is not the real love it just a infatuation or you can say an attraction towards some quality of the person. And loving a person after getting married means we are loving that person because he/she is my husband/wife. But in the arrange marriage you have full support of your parents but in love marrg. There may be some chances of not having your parents support so according to me with arrange marriage we can live our life to the fullest. Rate this: +13 -5 Azura said: (Sat, Oct 15, 2011 12:49:19 PM) Hello, I would like to say that marriage is something that just happens. It can sometimes be good or bad, it all depends how you act in it. I believe everyone can have a smooth marriage. Love marriage or arranged marriage which one is better? That is a questions everyone asks. I say that both have their ups and downs. I have to admit that I don't like it if parents force you into an arranged marriage. Some of the children have the arranged marriage but don't really like it, but some parents choose the right type of guy or girl their child likes and they get along fine. So it all depends how you act in your marriage or how your partners acts. All I can say both are equal, but it is true that love marriage has a higher divorce rate than the arranged marriages. I would like to know some question for "is love marriage better than arranges marriage" (For not against). To help a friend of mine please in her debate.

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Aorpa said: (Fri, Oct 14, 2011 12:27:59 PM) Hey Y'all, It doesn't matter whether someone has an arranged marriage or a love marriage, it's their choice. An individual can chose by himself/herself whether they desire an arranged or love marriage, but, of course a parent also has a say in this. Your parent influences your own life either for the good or the bad, they influence the choices you make no matter what they are. Say, your parent would want you to be a doctor (just saying ;D) wouldn't you want to at least consider that as an option? Wouldn't you want to make them happy even if it is the slightest bit? It's also the same with marriages, they influence your choice. I know I am an enormous (<-- did I spell that right? :L) supporter of love marriages but recently i've been questioning whether or not arranged marriage is as bad as I thought it out to be, I mean, I am almost completely surrounded by arranged marriages. My Parents are arranged, my aunt and uncle are arranged, my cousin and her husband are arranged and they all seem to have no problem with it, but then again, every single one of them was brought up in India and with a different environment to mine. I've been brought up in an environment which the community within don't really beleive in arranged marriages, and have more freedom of choice than those who live (d) in India (just my opinion from what i've recently seen and experienced). Not all love marriages end up in divorce you know. If you know the one that you want to marry is your significant other then you can compromise with the other in order to reduce your chances of divorce. But, if you you are not ready to compromise then there was no point in getting married. I honestly don't know what I just typed up so if there are any mistakes or typos or you simply just don't understand then forgive me. I came across this site while researching and I had a sudden impulsive urge to write something :) ). Well I hope you all at least get a gist of what I'm trying to say. Rate this: +5 -3 Mathew A Mathew said: (Thu, Oct 13, 2011 11:41:22 PM) I think arranged marriage is the best. And arranged marriage does not means that the parents will select a match and the son or daughter is forced to marry the person selected by them. Any way my parents have promised me that they will give priority to my decision regarding my partner. Love before marriage is not real love just infactuation. This is said by most of the famous psychologists. And love before marriage is just an attraction to some behaviour or some thing that is very attractive about a person, that's just infatuation. Loving a person after marriage means that I am loving that person only because he/she is my husband/wife not because of any behaviours or specialities and that is what is called true love. So if you want true love love your wife/husband only because he is your partner not because of anything else. Bible also says that. Rate this: +9 -7 Gurpreet said: (Tue, Oct 11, 2011 12:09:56 AM) I don't think only type of marriage is enough to decide marriage will be successful or not. There must be understanding & honesty towards each other its more important. Nothing is good or bad in love or arrange marriage bad is our cast system. Is it not enough that we are human being So peoples separated us in different different cast. If two different cast boy & girl love each other honestly but they just have to left each other because of our cast system or honesty towards

parents after then to whom they will marry it will be not exactly marriage it will be just a compromise for their parents happiness. How many peoples have to sacrifice because of this stupid cast system Or for their parents respect. But this way what happens four peoples life become just formality. Because only physical satisfaction is not enough to spend life their feelings & interest are more important. But their marriage is already compromise or sacrifice for their parent Or cast system then how it will be come. I am against cast system. Because I also love someone but she is very honest towards her parents & she can't chit her parents & me too but we can't love honestly anyone because we already love each other. Now their is just formality of our marriage for our parents. Rate this: +14 -3 Kuldeep1 said: (Mon, Oct 10, 2011 07:26:46 PM) Love Marriage and arrange marriage both are good, it's no matter the type of marriage we can not live our life without under stand partner's think. If we want to make our life happily it's important to satisfied each other. If we have good understanding between couple then we can live our life good. Rate this: +6 -2 Sarathi said: (Sun, Oct 9, 2011 08:06:12 AM) According to my point of view both types of marriage has positive as well as negative points. We can't say any type of marriage is good or bad. It is a relation of faith, mutual caring and welfare for each other.i think love mrg is better than arrange mrg.. Rate this: +6 -3 Mamta Yadav said: (Sat, Oct 8, 2011 06:58:43 PM) Love marriage is better than arrange marriage because dowry is main problem problem of arrange marriage. All we know that domestic voilence spreads out all over the India due to arrange marriage and the growth of Indian women are not successful by this. In love marriage this problem is not faced by those. In love marriage men and women have same right and they take decision equally by which women can also participate in growth of family and country. Rate this: +14 -4 Shakthi said: (Sat, Oct 8, 2011 03:15:20 PM) I have something to say. Amid all your arguements, there's 1 important thing- marriage and life after belongs to an individual. Elders or parents who have already lived their own life have to understand that their son or daughter has a life that he/she would love to shape up. Its his/her own life. So definitely they would make good choices- trust them. DON TRY TO LIVE THEIR LIFE AS WELL. Please understand their love and let them live a life of their choice. Parents can guide their children but never force them to a life of parents' choice and shatter their entire life. Rate this: +37 -3 Jitu said: (Wed, Oct 5, 2011 07:45:34 PM) Hi friends. According to my point of view both types of marriage has positive as well as negative points. We can't say any type of marriage is good or bad. It is a relation of faith, mutual caring and welfare for each other. Sometimes love marriage doesn't last for long time due to some unresolved conflicts and misunderstanding but it never means that we blame couples for this because same things happen in case of love marriage then whom we blame for this parents or couple? so instead of saying any type of marriage good or bad we should believe in improving the status of our society.

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Kalyan said: (Wed, Oct 5, 2011 04:02:36 PM) I have gone through all the posts and i would like to suggest my friends love marriage as in love marriage a person can know the maximum positives and negatives of the other person and after accepting the negatives also only you will go forward to marriage and because of this reason in future they may not get any problems because of that particular behavior as he/she already knows that persons nature. One can share each and every feeling to the other person when it is love marriage but in arranged marriage one can't share all the feeling to the other as they feel that the spouse may think otherwise if she/he shares their feeling. So try to go for the love marriage and that also should be converted into arranged marriage for the happiness of the parents and yourself also. Rate this: +6 -8 Saurabh Jain said: (Tue, Oct 4, 2011 11:43:32 PM) Arrange marrage is not a boundation of family,in this parents doesn't presureed his son for got merriged with some one. your perents choise a perfect choice for his son/dough. and his son has many option for she/he. It is not true that in arrange marrage,two persons can't understand each other .In arrange merrage,before getting merriged you have a enough times for meeting and understand each other.Also perents arrange all information before merrage.on the basics of his and his parents information, some one can dicide that he or she is perfect or not. Merrage is not is not only the mixing of two human but also the two family,if the two family person is not happy with his merrage then this will cause the problems. Rate this: +5 -8 Saurabh Jain said: (Tue, Oct 4, 2011 11:20:56 PM) Arrande merrage is not a certificate of happiness life, it is a compromization of son or daughter for satisfation of perents which insure perents that the sosity will accept it.Some time arrange merrage become the punishment for the couple because they can't understand each other and the have to spend his all life with each other .At finally this reach to divorce and his family distroyed.so for happy life love with marrage is necessary . Rate this: +7 -7 Chandan said: (Tue, Oct 4, 2011 12:27:09 AM) Go ahead with the your choice and blessings of your parents, In Love marriage ..if they don't agree try to make them understand via different channels and still not then I would not say try to run/change the situations but talk to your partner with clarity and take decision accordingly ...not means separating but involve your self into each other's family for better understanding irrespective of negative feedback from them,,try try at last when your heart and mind says the same thing..They will definately be convinced but effort should be done from both the ends ie you and your partner.. Conclusion=> Love+Arrange+understanding+trust+co_operation-ego-fake-anger=Happy Life Rate this: +15 -2 Praveen said: (Mon, Oct 3, 2011 10:30:43 AM) Indians having so many Superstitions, Religion, cast system there are no human rights, We have forgo ton we are only human & hindu. This kind of country to love someone honestly its crime. So don't love in India otherwise you have to lost your everything. But one day these factors (Superstitions, Religion, cast system) will be reason of end India. Rate this: +8 -5

Sai said: (Sun, Oct 2, 2011 08:39:56 AM) In both love and arranged marriage has its positive and negative points. Whether the life is happy or not depending on the persons who are getting married. Marriage means mix up of two souls as well as two family, so I support arranged marriages. If any one want to marry after love its better to marry after taking permission of parents its like a love com arrange. Rate this: +11 -2 Praveen said: (Sat, Oct 1, 2011 06:26:03 PM) I don't think only type of marriage is enough to decide marriage will be successful or not. There must be understanding & honesty towards each other its more important. Nothing is good or bad in love or arrange marriage bad is our cast system. Is it not enough that we are human being So peoples separated us in different different cast. If two different cast boy & girl love each other honestly but they just have to left each other because of our cast system or honesty towards parents after then to whom they will marry it will be not exactly marriage it will be just a compromise for their parents happiness. How many peoples have to sacrifice because of this stupid cast system Or for their parents respect. But this way what happens four peoples life become just formality. Because only physical satisfaction is not enough to spend life their feelings & interest are more important. But their marriage is already compromise or sacrifice for their parent Or cast system then how it will be come. I am against cast system. Because I also love someone but she is very honest towards her parents & she can't chit her parents & me too but we can't love honestly anyone because we already love each other. Now their is just formality of our marriage for our parents. Rate this: +15 -5 Kajal said: (Sat, Oct 1, 2011 04:28:27 PM) Marriage is get to gather of two souls so why we shouldn't go with arrange marriage? As per as my concern arrange marriage is far better than love marriage. Arrange marriage means you get to know your companion after marriage but love is also present there but in love marriage you can get the trust & love only from your companion but because of love marriage you just broke the trust of those parents who cares for you & supports you since from your childhood. Do you all think that someone loves you or cares and understand you more than your parents I think no one and if a person who can broke the trust of his/her parents it means he/she can betray their loved one also for whom he/she breaks the one of the most valuable relation of our life i.e. with our parents. You all are talking about that there is not guarantee of our relationship with our companion after arrange marriage but can you give guarantee that your loved one can never cheats you? Rate this: +11 -10 Viky Rai said: (Thu, Sep 29, 2011 01:30:19 AM) Hi, I am vicky, from my point of view love marriage is better than arrange marriage because love marriage has broken cast system. Cast is not good for our country it is dividing people. Love marriage has broken this barrier. Most of case in the arrange marriage dowry system is there. People are asking for dowry this is the worst thing. Many person they could not give dowry his is killed. These things are not happened in love marriage. So my point of view love marriage is better than arrange marriage. Rate this: +9 -4 Gaurav Kataria said: (Tue, Sep 27, 2011 12:03:50 AM)

Here are some large gaps which we all are trying to fill by providing different assertion/definition (which is being rooted into our memory by different means. Most of it is biased or influenced) to this polemical issue. Love V/S arrange marriages ? this shouldnt be the issue here to debate, more of issue is, are we true and clear to ourselves that what definition we have for arrange marriages and love marriages, is result of unbiased and honest deliberation. Im Talking about pure act of disinterested thoughtfulness on our opinions without any interference of anybody. I called it polemical, cause every definition you have changes its meaning with after certain age (a period may be a decade) this is what we called generation gap. Cause whatever we have in our mind is either passed on or manipulated or we are walking in herds. Life aint about everytime you have to make a correct decision, it is about challenges. Both love marriages and arranges marriages are challenging. But for me both terms doesnt have much difference, just it is the same candy with different wrapper. Everyone want and desired candy to be sweet, but we all forget how it could be sweet, when ourselves adding different ingredient to it AT ONE GO, it will be a mess instead. Its a reciepe in which every ingredient to be added slowly and steadily, with each in turn. Quite a metaphor, Ingredients I refers is different (multiple) roles we ought to play before and after marriages, and these roles comes with responsibilities. And if we do not play these roles precisely in turn (as reciepe) , any marriages could be a mess or choas. India is changing so a Indians. So we have to cope up with changes in culture what our parents had and what we gonna posses in this changing envoirnment, keeping in mind we shouldnt strict to our partner and burden the relationship. Ultimately, we all want to have the sweet taste, that is care, love and respect :). Rate this: +7 -5 Deep Chaturvedi said: (Sat, Sep 24, 2011 10:12:08 AM) I think arrange marriage is more succesful than love marriage because in arrange marriage we have a family support, An arranged-love marriage, that is loving after engagement is always better and healthy one. I think the time between engagement and marriage is more enough to understand themselves to lead a happy life. This love will be a long-lasting one. Arranged marriage have many advantages. As our parents select our life partner, that will be a blessed one. No any parents give a wrong companion to their daughter/son. In each and everything, our parents give the one, which suits us in the best. Then while choosing a partner for us, they never fail to choose a best one. In future, after marriage, if there is any problem, our parents will guide us to solve them. We can't expect all these in love marriage. Love marriage is more painful and have many problems. It mainly affects the parents, who took care of us from the childhood till we get a job and settle in life. Thus arranged marriage is always more and more healthy when comparing with love marriage.

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Aby Mathew said: (Fri, Sep 23, 2011 08:05:07 PM) In my view, I would agree with love + arranged marriage. If you truly love a male or female person. Love them sincerly, and if time comes. Go and talk to both the parents. If they do agree. Go ahead and enjoy your life with your spouse and if the parents don't, make them to agree as much as you can, if they say no again, think its a fate, don't try to run away with him or her, its absolutely stupid. It creates big problems between you both, your family members and to the society too. So all the best to all my dear friends and live a happy life with your loved ones. :-). Rate this: +16 -7 S.Divya said: (Thu, Sep 22, 2011 11:29:56 AM) Hi, I would like to say love come to arrage marriage. Because it makes happyness to both couple and family members. Since you makes decision your self for love marriage it hurts every family members and relative. Love come arrage marriage if any problems on couple it soved by partens. Rate this: +15 -4 Nsp said: (Tue, Sep 20, 2011 06:20:05 PM) According to me arrange marriages are better since in love marriages two people will like each either by their likes or dislikes, marriage is not a mechanism to group two opposite gender people with the help of their tastes and interests, it makes two people as a single person, means their heart is same. Basically love starts in colleges where they do not think about their career just they do speak about their interests and they do friendship after some days they think they are in some special bond which is love. As many people said is important, I do agree with that but in college days won't let them to understand the opponent (lover) , they think they understood completely when they get married the scenario is completely different the man will think the woman has completely changed after the marriage and vice versa because they expect something and get something. In arranged marriages they do not know about life partner so in which ever way they come they accept. Here the character of life partner is depend on his family background so in arranged marriages our elder members of family will see the whole history of opponent (boy or girl) family along with opponent's character so there is 80% of getting a suitable life partner in arranged marriages even couple will get support from their parents. Rate this: +14 -7 Mouli said: (Mon, Sep 19, 2011 10:29:49 PM) Hi everyone. This is Mouli. I would like to share some points with you about the current topic. In my opinion, marriage is a traditional and social lock between two persons. So for that we have to options, like love or arranged marriage. In both we have adverse and advantageous things. In both motive is happily living, people should make themselves happily by understanding each other. They should support each other, should help each other in every aspect. Then only can survive long with each other. In both have successes and failures. In arranged marriages moral support of elders, their expertise and maturity will help to people, but in love marriages decisions making by their own way is sometimes immature and leads to fail. For that they are the responsible. So arranged marriages more security than love marriages. Rate this: +9 -6 Ramya said: (Mon, Sep 19, 2011 03:38:22 PM) According to my point of view I don't think love or arrange marriage is better in sense what I felt is

Main understanding BTW the two couples and without ego we hve to spoken with our partners and we hve to go through them whether dey suitable are nt before marriage Might be you ppl think that its foolishness I don't think like that because its life question we hve to be with them still rest of our life so understand the person he/she before marriage and get marry and live life happily and smoothly and thanks. Rate this: +6 -7 Sarika said: (Sun, Sep 18, 2011 02:45:02 PM) Most of our friends are saying that love marriages are succeeding better than arranged marriages and some are saying that arranged marriages are succeeding better than love marriages. But in my opinion the success or failure is not depending upon the the type of marriages, it depends upon the understanding between the partners. Rate this: +35 -3 Kalyan said: (Tue, Sep 13, 2011 06:35:15 PM) Hello friends I vote for love marriage. Human life is filled with love and that love should be with him or her lifelong and I believe that we can get that life time love through the love marriage only and of course sometimes from arranged marriage also but somewhat difference will be there. In arranged marriages the male or female person may not have the interest towards other and for the sake of their parents they will agree for the marriage and they can't give the true love to their spouse, then think what would be the life and how they can lead the life happily, the total life will be mechanical. Apart form this I have so many reasons showing interest towards love marriage. So friends try to go for the love marriage and if not possible try to give more love to your wife when you are going for arranged marriage. One more point Please try to make your love marriage into arranged marriage for your parents happiness but never loose your loved person, that will hurt you your life time. ALL THE BEST MY DEAR FRIENDS. Rate this: +39 -7 Gunayamu said: (Tue, Sep 13, 2011 05:04:17 PM) LOVE MAKES MAN FERFECT. Ya, its true. So many elders support for arrange marriage because they thinks for their long life. Example age, settlement etc. Love comes under without reason, but it may powerfull if they understanding well. Though I lives for long life, nowadays immature-love leads to high divorces. How ever arrange marriage lives long due to elders privacy. If lovers can able to face all problems before marriage or after marriage means, love lives forever and I am also proud to be an lover. Rate this: +8 -7 Reddy said: (Tue, Sep 13, 2011 03:27:02 PM) Hussssshhh !! OMG. After reading a whole lots of opinions I would like to say few points. From my perspective LOVE or ARRANGED have both positives and negatives, none of them is 100% correct. A person who likes LOVE marriage may find some flaws in ARRANGED and vice versa. This's because it depends on individual's perception, their circumstances, their surroundings, their way of thinking etc,. 'BUT LET ME ASSERT ONE THING.. nothing is perfect/correct/static in this universe everything depends on TIME, SITUATION and PLACE, it perfectly works on the type of marriage which we're talking about. It's my strong intuition. It's not the magic of love marriage or arrange marriage which keeps the couple together but it's the 'UNDERSTANDING B/W 2' which of prime importance. There're many couple who're quarreling everyday those who love/arrange married and many who're happy.

The complimentary of 'LOVE+ARRANGED=LOVE CUM ARRANGED' TO BE PRECISE I PREFER 'INTRA-CAST LOVE CUM ARRANGED MARRIAGE' which brings everyone together with no problems to anyone. The life of couple is incomplete without their family, relatives etc. Hope you like the lengthy post. Thank you. Rate this: +102 -8 Anniket said: (Tue, Sep 13, 2011 01:27:29 PM) The person who lack the qualities like self confidence, management, positive nature, convincing power, self dependent, and who can't judge by themselves, and those who don't know the reason for marrying should and always go for an arranged marriage according to statistics. Cos in this every case if something goes wrong in their marriage they are first to blame others. Love marriages are the only marriages made in heaven, without any diversification of religion, caste, race and color. And the person who understand the real meaning of love and protection are blessed with love marriages. Rate this: +13 -4 Captain Jack said: (Sat, Sep 10, 2011 09:58:58 PM) Compromise is the word which silences every vendetta. Its not out of topic. I air my views on both. There won't be any problem if there is mutual understanding and compromise, be it love marriage or arranged one. What say you all? Rate this: +8 -3 Sumiran said: (Sat, Sep 10, 2011 03:59:13 PM) Must say that love is a gift of god, Love is everywhere and there and by default it is in nature, and why we are more concerned about it. nobody can understand u better than u, u should know urself what r u, where r u, what u should be, and where u should be. u must be loving your parents, siblings, relatives, and ur friends, and whatever reason u cant avoid them n u cant be unfaithful to them, similarly when u love somebody or when u r in love u cant be unfaithful to ur love, so u must try to make ur love happy n happy 4ever by convincing ur parents n ur lover parents n make it love cum arranged marriage. Real love never expect anything except ur love. u would be the most successful person in this world if u marry the one u love the most. Most importantly, try to understand the difference between love and attraction. Rate this: +20 -3 Shweta said: (Thu, Sep 8, 2011 09:50:36 PM) It totally depends on an individual. 'Love' or 'Arrange' is not an issue. Both has its own pros and cons. Love is just a synonym of 'Attraction' and attraction, here, can be to, any of the qualities of the other person. It can be beauty, nature, character, behaviour etc. The person just gets attracted to the other person's qualities and it can happen after the marriage too. You just need to adjust with his/her other habbits and then any kind of marriage is a success. Rate this: +7 -9 Vinay said: (Thu, Sep 8, 2011 12:14:07 AM) Hi all..

Everybody is talking about marraige.. Let me say something.. Love marraige is any day better.. It kills all religion,caste,creed,race.. Everybody has to think positive in a new way.. Its been 64 yrs since India got independence and still most of us act like illiterate.. Be a human first and look others as the same everything will fall in place... stop tis religion,caste and improve otherwise stay single...