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INTRODUCTION
Each person has many indicators of who they are. Facial expressions, body language, speech patterns, and handwriting all
reveal insights into an individual's emotions and personality. How we communicate is much more important than the words
we say. Many studies and reports have shown that communication is approximately 7% verbal, 38% vocal, and 55% body
expressions.
Body language is the science called kinesthetic. By careful observation of how someone presents herself, you can
understand whether your communication is achieving its goal. By controlling your body actions, you can control the
conversation. Although body language is generally an auto response to a situation, you can determine to change your
language and as a result change your message and acceptability.
It has been shown that you have 20 seconds to make a good first impression. You then have 5 minutes to prove yourself.
After that you may be tuned out and lose the opportunity.
The brain operates as a feedback control system. It controls the neuromuscular action based on a personality
characteristic and perception. If the language is changed, then that trait will be modified. The mental paths are drawn
whether the traits are trained or untrained.
The practice of kinesthetics is as old as mankind. We have all used it, even if not trained in its nuances. Who can not
recognize when another person raises an eyebrow or shrugs a shoulder indicating a question of the credibility?
The science is important in personal relationships as well as business ventures. We are all selling something - either
ourselves, an idea, or a product. Therefore understanding how your client or relation is perceiving you is crucial to your
success.
Since many indicators reflect who a person is, we have developed common approaches
to identification and analysis. The procedures and structures commonly taught are
primarily based on correlations to a personality trait. The trait is identified, then the
appropriate language is described. Although this is effective to describe the trait, it is
inconvenient for a structured, mechanical examination of the expression.
The two basic indicators of body language are leaning forward or backward and having
an open or closed position. Leaning forward is active while leaning back is passive
participation. An open posture is positive, while a closed posture portrays a negative
attitude.
There are numerous muscles and attitudes that can be reflected in infinite number of
points within the circle of body language expressions. Nevertheless, the basic
expressions can be identified by the quadrants created from these two indicators.
A simple example illustrates the three levels. When a person is caught off guard, the
first emotional reaction is to pull back and close up. Because of a previous experience,
a person may not like someone or the way the person looks and makes a mental choice
to pull back and close up. When the temperature is cold, a person will pull back and
close up. Whether the body position is a result of emotional, mental, or physical
circumstances, the expression is similar and the mental responsiveness is the same. A
person that is cold from the temperature will be cold to your ideas and discussions.
Each of the quadrants is also the home response for one of the personality styles. It is
the expression that the personality will go to without further stimulus. Regardless, every
person can control the body language to achieve a particular response.
By observing the body language when you are talking to someone, you can improve the
influence to your way of thinking. Ask the right questions to move them from the
negative side to the 'S' and finally to the 'I' language. Attempt to close the transaction
only after they are moved to the involved quadrant.
Similarly, by controlling your body language when talking, you will present a particular
image. A person that is Involved during his discussion is much more believable than a
person that is constrained.
Since the body language correlates with the personality traits of a person, it is
appropriate to consider a few other symbols that have been used in psychological
circles. These are various ways that have been used to illustrate a persons reactions to
stimulus. The trait color is the classic representation of the characteristics based on
Hypocrites. The preferred color is the one that is often selected as the most liked.
A brief table correlates the body positions with basic terms and how to respond to the
person. Each of the quadrants of the circle correspond to a participation level by the
listener. The attitude may be positive or negative and the action may be active or
passive. The level of intensity increases as you move out on the circle from mild to
strong. There is enough difference in the kinesthetics to notice different positions and to
warrant different terms.
INVOLVED is active and positive. In the mild case the person is INTERESTED in what
is happening. At the height of active interest the person is INTENT to do something.
DETERMINED is active but negative. In the DOMINANT posture, the person disagrees
and wants to make his point. Further regression to negative attitude is shown in active
DISBELIEF.
There may also appear to be a conflict between actions. These can generally be
resolved very easily by seeing if the conflict item is necessary to support the posture.
For example, stroking the chin is a positive response. However, this requires the arm
that is stroking to be held in a somewhat unnatural and uncomfortable position.
Therefore, it is common to use the other arm as a support. This would be a closed or
negative posture if it were not a supporting feature.
CORRELATION
There are only a few key items to observe that will identify each key term in the body
language.
legs
feet
arms
hands
face
eyes
Hand motions among men are the strongest indicator of attitude and emotions. Women
use these to a lesser extent in deference to facial expression. Although hand action is
very descriptive, it should not be used as a lone indicator of body language.
Consideration must be given to the other indicators such as leaning, face, arms, legs,
and feet. It is the combination that describes the kinesthetics. However, for men, this
remains the predominant clue.
Hands are presented in 3 ways - a single hand, two hands, and a serving hand. A
serving hand is presented toward the listener in the form of a handshake, pointer, or
exclamation. The description will be given, followed by the vernacular definition, and
the value.
WHAT TO DO
Each language position reflects what a person is feeling. To address those emotions,
there are specific directions you should head. In conjunction, there are questions that
may move the emotions and affect the attitude to the direction you desire.
Critical
Intent Soaking Up Soaking up
Cavalier Critical
Facial expressions are derived from the eyes, mouth, and tilt of the head. Since it is
such an important issue, eyes will be dealt with in a separate section.
There are numerous nuances. The figure dramatizes the expressions in cartoon form.
Nevertheless, these are an accurate overview of facial motions..
Body Language - Eyes
The eyes have been called the window to the soul. Through this opening, you can
observe into the very essence of a persons feeling. The eyes reveal more about the
emotions than any other physical expression.
Facial expressions are derived from the eyes, mouth, and tilt of the head. The eyes are
composed of the brows, lids, and gaze.
Each eye element has separate, independent motion that is controlled by specific
muscles. The muscles are the linkage that operates the physical response. The
emotions can cause an involuntary muscle action. In contrast the mental faculties can
voluntarily determine to create a particular attitude and expression..
The mouth and head tilt are very easily controlled by mental attitude. However, the
eyes will tend to subtly reveal the emotions, even when they are attempted to be under
control.
The eyes are such a major part of who a person is that our language has common
expressions that relate to this feature. The eyes observe and can be observed to reveal
the emotions and attitudes.
Each of the observing elements are separately identified with the language expression
and the psychological representation. The positive and negative signs illustrate whether
the person is receptive to you.
As
Upan interesting
raisedobservation, the shoulders
raise a question generally
question? + move the same as the eye lids. If
the lids are predominantly up, then the shoulders tend to be raised. Conversely, if the
Mid neutral
lids are predominantly down, then the shoulders droop. It is as if the same control
Down goes to
signal furrowed cuttingsets
two different deep exclamation! -
of muscles.
Down digging in look down on negative -
SIDE appearance vernacular expression
The position of the gaze corresponds directly to the quadrants of the body language
diagram. Up is positive, down is negative, left is active (I am right of you), right is
passive. Hence I = up-left, S = up-right, D = down-left, and C = down-right.
When the left and right side are different, this indicates a mixed signal between both
sides. Therefore it shows doubt.
Combinations of the eye expression explain a great variety of intense emotions. For
example brows up lids up and wide open indicates surprise
CONCENTRATION
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EGO
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DEFIANT
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EXTRAVAGANT
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INTUITION
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sympathy
vertical - logical
backward - emotionally withdrawn
both back & forward - dual personality
straight, even
Slope - perfectionist
bottom
up right - optimism
down right - pessimism
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EMOTIONAL
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BALANCED
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EMOTIONALLY WITHDRAWN
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DUAL PERSONALITY
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PERFECTIONIST
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OPTIMISM
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DESIRE RESPONSIBILITY
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JEALOUSY
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ACQUIRING
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RESENTMENT
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HUMOR
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CAUTIOUS
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TENACIOUS
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GENEROSITY
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DESIRE ATTENTION
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LEADERSHIP
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ANALYTICAL THINKER
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SURFACE THINKER
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DIPLOMACY
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SELF CONSCIOUS
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MANUAL DEXTERITY
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CIRCULAR sharp middle hook a,c,d needs challenge
loop wide a,o frankness
narrow, retraced e,a,o selective listener
open a,o talkative
extra before a,o self-deceit
extra after a,o secretive
extra before & after a,o lying
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NEEDS CHALLENGE
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FRANKNESS
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SELECTIVE LISTENER
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TALKATIVE
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SELF DECEIT
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SECRETIVE
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LYING
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philosophical
STEMS Up large loop h
imagination
large loop d,t sensitive to criticism
retraced & taller d,t pride & dignity
tepee d,t stubborn
short, no loop d,t independent thinker
no height d,t live for moment
down stroke & to
t directness
right
unclosed, sigma d, E desire culture
balance w/ lower f organizational ability
Down average loop p,y physical desire
large, wide g,j,y physical imagination
very long, big p,g,y physical experimental
deep in next row,
g,y physical variety
wide
long, narrow low g,y socially selective
long in next row g,y too many irons in fire
incomplete g,y physical frustration
downward turn g,y fear of success
figure eight g fluid thought
retraced g,j,y anti-social
breakaway top p argumentative
hard right up g,j,y aggressiveness
not normal shape g,y perversion
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PHILOSOPHICAL IMAGINATION
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SENSITIVE TO CRITICISM
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STUBBORN
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INDEPENDENT THINKER
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DIRECTNESS
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DESIRE CULTURE
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ORGANIZATIONAL ABILITY
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PHYSICAL DESIRE
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PHYSICAL IMAGINATION
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PHYSICAL EXPERIMENTATION
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PHYSICAL VARIETY
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SOCIALLY SELECTIVE
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PHYSICAL FRUSTRATION
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FEAR OF SUCCESS
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ANTI-SOCIAL
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ARGUMENTATIVE
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AGGRESSIVENESS
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PERVERSION
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DETAILED
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LOYALTY
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INDIVIDUALISTIC, ARTISTIC
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IRRITABILITY
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GOAL LEVEL
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GOALS UNREALISTIC
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PERSISTENT
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ENTHUSIASM
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HUMOR
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SELF CONTROL
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WILL POWER
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DEFINITE, POSITIVENESS
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SARCASM
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OPTIMISM
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DOMINANT
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DOMINEERING
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TEMPER
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PROCRASTINATION
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Hand Writing
based on a personality characteristic. If the handwriting is changed, then that trait will
be modified. The mental paths are drawn whether the traits are trained or untrained.
The practice of graphoanalysis has been around for millennia. It has been a common
university course in Europe for centuries. Most major corporations use the technique for
researching senior management and sensitive position candidates. It has only recently
become a readily available tool for personal evaluation.
PROCESS
The procedures and structures commonly taught are primarily based on correlations to
a personality trait. The trait is identified, then the appropriate script is described.
Although this is effective to describe the trait, it is inconvenient for a structured,
mechanical examination of the writing.
In any sample, the indicators may change. Also some of the indicators will be different
at the beginning, in the middle, or at the end of a word. Look at the prevalence of
indicators of a particular letter and correlate with other letters.
The seven shapes are size, angle, terminus, stem, crossing, hump, and circle. The
segregation of the shapes illustrates the contrasting orientations. Each orientation is
further separated by indicators, which are described later.
SHAPE ORIENTATION
SIZE height
space
ANGLE slant
slope
TERMINAL start
end
STEM up
down
CROSSING dot
horizontal
HUMP top
CIRCLE sharp
extras
HandWriting - Table
philosophical
STEMS Up large loop h
imagination
large loop d,t sensitive to criticism
retraced & taller d,t pride & dignity
tepee d,t stubborn
short, no loop d,t independent thinker
no height d,t live for moment
down stroke & to right t directness
unclosed, sigma d, E desire culture
balance w/ lower f organizational ability
Down average loop p,y physical desire
large, wide g,j,y physical imagination
very long, big p,g,y physical experimental
deep in next row, wide g,y physical variety
long, narrow low g,y socially selective
long in next row g,y too many irons in fire
incomplete g,y physical frustration
downward turn g,y fear of success
figure eight g fluid thought
retraced g,j,y anti-social
breakaway top p argumentative
hard right up g,j,y aggressiveness
not normal shape g,y perversion
CROSSING dots close i,j detailed
perfect i,j loyalty
circle i individualistic, artistic
slash i irritability
line height level t goal level
high w/ large I t self esteem hi
very low t self esteem lo
above t goals unrealistic
double back t persistent
unusually long t enthusiasm
wavy t humor
concave t self-control
crossed backward t self-castigation
heavy t will power
blunt t definite, positiveness
sharp t sarcasm
up t optimism
down, blunt t dominant
down, sharp t domineering
mostly right t temper
mostly left t procrastination
The most negative traits make difficult relationships . People with too many of these
traits can make life very tough. The degree of relationship problems depends on the
frequency and the intensity of the traits. Be careful when dealing with these people.
The table includes the shape, orientation, indicator, and trait. Click on the trait for a
script sample.
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DUAL PERSONALITY
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JEALOUSY
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RESENTMENT
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NEEDS CHALLENGE
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LYING
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SENSITIVE TO CRITICISM
____________________
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FEAR OF SUCCESS
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PERVERSION
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Interpersonal - Influence
The book was written by Dale Carnegie and originally published in 1936. It has been reprinted numerous
times and has become one of the most published books in history. The material has become the standard
for personal relationships. Since it has such a strong impact on individual actions, it is occasionally maligned
and the subject of some jokes. Nevertheless, it has stood the test of time.
Carnegie summarized each section of the book. These are listed as an overview for the standard reference
of personal interactions..
Part One
Fundamental Techniques in Handling People
Part Two
Six ways to make people like you
Part Three
Win people to your way of thinking
Part Four
Be a Leader:
How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment
A leader's job often includes changing your people's attitudes and behavior. Some suggestions to accomplish
this:
Find You
BACKGROUND
Have you ever wondered what you were put on earth to do? That is one of the major
personal challenges faced by virtually everyone. It can be as much of a puzzle for a 50
year old executive as an 18 year old beginning university student. Most people make
EXPERIENCE
Warren summarizes activity part as experience necessary to be who you want to be.
Network: Meeting new people is the most effective way to launch a job or enterprise.