Maximised Manhood by Dr. Edwin Louis Cole

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Maximised Manhood
by
Dr. Edwin Louis Cole
Lessons 4 to 6
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Primary Syllabus
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Dr. Edwin Louis Cole
Build Men - Raise Sons
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Maximised Manhood
Chapter Five & Six
Lesson 4
Theres a hole in the door
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Theres a Hole in the Door
Lesson 4 - Chapter 5
I. Theres a Hole in the Door.
(A) Forgiveness is always a release.
(page 53)
Write out Psalm 103:12
As far as the east is from the
west, So far has He removed
our transgressions from us
Transgression = Sin = Iniquity
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(A) Men need to learn forgiveness.

Ephesians 4:32

And be ye kind one to another,
tenderhearted, __________, even as
God for Christ's sake hath
___________ you. (KJV)
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(A) Men need to learn forgiveness.

Ephesians 4:32

And be ye kind one to another,
tenderhearted, forgiving one
another, even as God for Christ's sake
hath forgiven you. (KJV)
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(B) Unforgiveness binds you to one
who has wrong you.

Unforgiveness towards an
abusive parent can often birth
the same sin as yourself.
(page 54)

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1 Read John 20:23

Whosesoever sins ye remit, they are
remitted unto them; and whosesoever
sins ye retain, they are retained. (KJV)
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2 Name people in your life whom you
have NOT forgiven.

3 Review your list carefully. Are you in
any way reaping what they sowed?
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C) It is part of maximized manhood, and it
is ____________ to give and receive
forgiveness. (page 57).
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C) It is part of maximized manhood, and it
is Christlikeness to give and
receive forgiveness. (page 57)
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D) Circle one to complete the sentence:
(page 58)

Sins are often passed from generation
to generation because they are:

a) inherited
b) genetically-based
c) not forgiven
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(D) Circle one to complete the sentence:
(page 58)

Sins are often passed from generation
to generation because they are:

a) inherited
b) genetically-based
c) not forgiven
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A) Balance is the key to life,
therefore men must learn to be
both (page 61)

_________
and
_________
Tender and Tough
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A) Balance is the key to life,
therefore men must learn to be both
(page 61)

tender
and
tough

Tender and Tough
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List three ideas of how balance
can be kept when dealing with
children (page 61)

1. _____
2. _____
3. _____
Tender and Tough
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List three ideas of how balance can be
kept when dealing with
children. (page 61)

1. Reward & punishment
2. Caress & spanking
3. Commendation & correction
Tender and Tough
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B) Think of Bible stories you know and list
a few examples of Jesus tenderness.
_____
Tender and Tough
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C) The highest good of every
individual is to be like Jesus ..

So Manhood and Christlikness
are synonymous. (page 63)
Tender and Tough
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Romans 8:29

For whom he did foreknow, he also
did predestinate to be conformed to the
image of his Son, that he
might be the firstborn among many
brethren. (KJV)
Tender and Tough
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D) John 15:1-2
"I am the true vine, and my
Father is the gardener. He
cuts off every branch in me
that bears no fruit, while
every branch that does bear
fruit he prunes so that it will
be even more fruitful. (NIV)
Tender and Tough
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Read Luke 13:6-9
Then he told this parable: "A man had a fig
tree, planted in his vineyard, and he went
to look for fruit on it, but did not find any.

So he said to the man who took care of the
vineyard, `For three years now I've been
coming to look for fruit on this fig tree and
haven't found any. Cut it down! Why should
it use up the soil?
Tender and Tough
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"Sir,' the man replied, `leave it alone for
one more year, and I'll dig around it and
fertilize it.

If it bears fruit next year, fine! If
not, then cut it down." (NIV)
Tender and Tough
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The fruit God expects from our
lives as men is:
Circle one: (page 64)

a) angelic character
b) manhood
c) hard work
Tender and Tough
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The fruit God expects from our lives
as men is:
Circle one: (page 64)

a) angelic character
b) manhood
c) hard work
Tender and Tough
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Fill in the blank (page 65)

Jesus effectively said in John 15:2:

If it doesnt produce ________
Tender and Tough
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2. Fill in the blank (page 65)

Jesus effectively said in John
15:2:
If it doesnt produce lop it off
Tender and Tough
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E) Fill in the blank (page 66)

The Kingdom of God is based on truth,
not on human ________.
Tender and Tough
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E) Fill in the blank (page 66)

The Kingdom of God is based on
truth, not on human sentiment.
Tender and Tough
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F) Read Joshua 24:15
And if it seems evil to you to serve the
Lord, choose for yourselves this day
whom you will serve, whether the gods
which your fathers served that were on
the other side of the River, or the gods
of the Amorites, in whose land you
dwell. But as for me and my house, we
will serve the Lord.
Tender and Tough
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(F) Fill in the blank (page 69)

Women desire their men to make
_______.
Tender and Tough
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F) Fill in the blank (page 69)

Women desire their men to make
decisions.
Tender and Tough
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G) Fill in the blank (page 71)

Maturity doesnt come with age, but
with acceptance of __________.
Tender and Tough
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G) Fill in the blank (page 71)

Maturity doesnt come with age, but
with acceptance of responsibility.
Tender and Tough
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H) No one can be responsible for
success unless he is willing to
accept the responsibility for: (page 71)

a) his wife
b) money
c) failure
Tender and Tough
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(H) No one can be responsible for success
unless he is willing to accept the
responsibility for: (page 71)

a) his wife
b) money
c) failure
Tender and Tough
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I) The more Word you have in you, the
more ________ you become.
(page 73)
Tender and Tough
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I) The more Word you have in you, the
more Christ like you become.
(page 73)
Tender and Tough
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J) Circle all that apply (page 74)

What challenged the prodigal was:
new clothes
accepting responsibility for his actions
repentance
the fatted calf
asking for forgiveness
pigs
Tender and Tough
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J) Circle all that apply (page 74)
What challenged the prodigal was:
new clothes
accepting responsibility for his
actions
repentance
the fatted calf
asking for forgiveness
pigs
Tender and Tough
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Practical
1 If we fail to act in truth because of
sentiment, the consequences can be
tragic

Read See 1 Samuel 2:12-26 &
3:13-14 about Eli & his sons
Tender and Tough
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1 Samuel 2:12-26 Now the sons of Eli
were corrupt; they did not know the Lord.
And the priests custom with the people was
that when any man offered a sacrifice, the
priests servant would come with a three-
pronged fleshhook in his hand while the
meat was boiling. Then he would thrust it
into the pan, or kettle, or caldron, or pot;
and the priest would take for himself all that
the fleshhook brought up.
Tender and Tough
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So they did in Shiloh to all the Israelites who
came there. Also, before they burned the
fat, the priests servant would come and say
to the man who sacrificed, Give meat for
roasting to the priest, for he will not take
boiled meat from you, but raw.
Tender and Tough
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And if the man said to him, They should
really burn the fat first; then you may take
as much as your heart desires, he would
then answer him, No, but you must give it
now; and if not, I will take it by force.
Therefore the sin of the young men was
very great before the Lord, for men
abhorred the offering of the Lord.

Tender and Tough
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Samuels Childhood Ministry
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But Samuel ministered before the Lord,
even as a child, wearing a linen ephod.
Moreover his mother used to make him a
little robe, and bring it to him year by year
when she came up with her husband to
offer the yearly sacrifice. And Eli would
bless Elkanah and his wife, and say,
Tender and Tough
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The Lord give you descendants from this
woman for the loan that was given to the
Lord. Then they would go to their own
home. And the Lord visited Hannah, so that
she conceived and bore three sons and two
daughters. Meanwhile the child Samuel
grew before the Lord.
Tender and Tough
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Now Eli was very old; and he heard
everything his sons did to all Israel, and
how they lay with the women who
assembled at the door of the tabernacle of
meeting. So he said to them, Why do you
do such things? For I hear of your evil
dealings from all the people. No, my sons!
Tender and Tough
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For it is not a good report that I hear. You
make the Lords people transgress. If one
man sins against another, God will judge
him. But if a man sins against the Lord, who
will intercede for him? Nevertheless they
did not heed the voice of their father,
because the Lord desired to kill them.
And the child Samuel grew in stature, and
sin favour both with the Lord and men.
Tender and Tough
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2 Samuel 3:13-14
For I have told him that I will judge his
house forever for the iniquity which he
knows, because his sons made
themselves vile, and he did not restrain
them. And therefore I have sworn to the
house of Eli that the iniquity of Elis house
shall not be atoned for by sacrifice or
offering forever.
Tender and Tough
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List times when youve been guilty of acting
on sentiment rather than truth.
1. _____
2. _____
3. _____
4. _____
5. _____

Tender and Tough
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2 Consider the types of wrong decisions
mentioned on page 69:
(a) Decisions based on personal
preferences or selfish gratification
rather than what is best to the
followers.
(b) No decision (a decision by default).
(c) Indecisiveness (which creates
instability).
Tender and Tough
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2 Reflect back, and name times when
you were guilty of each.
Write on these three most affects you
(not necessary to write down).

What can you do about it?

What will you do about it this week?
Tender and Tough
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Prayer:
Father, You know my heart and You see what I
am writing on these pages. I ask you to help
me accept responsibility and become truly
mature in ever area of my manhood. I submit
to You my errors of the past, thank You for
Your forgiveness, and ask You to help me go
forward with good balance, good decisions,
and a better relationship with You and all those
around me. Amen
Tender and Tough
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1. Leadership in the home requires both
_____ and _____.

2. Unforgiveness _____ you to the sin of
the one who has wronged you.

3. Sins are inherited.
___ True ____ False

Tender and Tough
Lesson 4 - Self Test
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1. Leadership in the home requires both
toughness and tenderness.

2. Unforgiveness binds you to the sin of
the one who has wronged you.

3. Sins are inherited.
___ True ___ False
Tender and Tough
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4. There are times when God requires you
to be rough in your leadership at home.
___ True ___ False

5. Our God looks for fruitfulness in our
lives. The fruit He expects from us is
manhood.
One of the principles of the kingdom is, if
it isnt producing, _____.
Tender and Tough
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4. There are times when God requires you to
be rough in your leadership at home.
___ True ___ False

5. Our God looks for fruitfulness in our lives.
The fruit He expects from us is manhood.
One of the principles of the kingdom is, if it
isnt producing, purge it or lop it off.

Tender and Tough
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6. The major issue in becoming "mature"
in our manhood is learning to _____ for
our decisions.

7. What are some areas in which I need to
be tougher on myself?
_____
_____

Tender and Tough
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6. The major issue in becoming "mature"
in our manhood is learning to accept
responsibility for our decisions.

be tougher on myself?
_____
_____

Tender and Tough
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be more tender with those I lead?

_____

be more decisive?

_____
Tender and Tough
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Maximised Manhood
Chapter Seven
Lesson 5
Is there a Priest in the House
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Is There a Priest in the House?
I) Is there a Priest in the Home
A) The priest not only ministers to the
Lord, but to the ones entrusted to his
care. (page 75-76)

In your own words, what are major
areas of your life that you are
responsible for as a minister?
___________________________
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A) The priest not only ministers to the
Lord, but to the ones entrusted to his
care. (page 75-76)

In your own words, what are major areas
of your life that you are responsible for
as a minister?
Family, work, sport, church
everywhere
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B) As a priest of the home, you must
pray with and for your wife (page 77)

1. You become ______ with the
one to whom you pray, the one for
whom you pray, and the one with you
pray.
2. Prayer produces _________
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(B) As a priest of the home, you must
pray with and for your wife (page 77)
1 You become intimate with the one to
whom you pray, the one for whom you
pray, and the one with you pray.
2 Prayer produces
intimacy.
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C) Fill in the blanks:
1 Sexual relations are one thing:
___________ is another. If you really
want to be one with your wife, then
pray for her and with her. (page 78).

2 Read Amos 3:3

Can two walk together, except they
______? (KJV)
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C) Fill in the blanks:
1. Sexual relations are one thing:
spiritual union is another. If you
really want to be one with your wife,
then pray for her and with her.(page 78)
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2. Read Amos 3:3 Can two walk together,
except they agree to? (KJV)
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D) Some women try to play God.
Read 2 Samuel 6:20-23 - David & Michal.

Then David returned to bless his household.
And Michal the daughter of Saul came out to
meet David, and said, How glorious was the
king of Israel today, uncovering himself today
in the eyes of the maids of his servants, as
one of the abase fellows shamelessly
uncovers himself!
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So David said to Michal, It was before the Lord,
who chose me instead of your father and all his
house, to appoint me ruler over the people of
the Lord, over Israel. Therefore I will play music
before the Lord. And I will be even more
undignified than this, and will be humble in my
own sight. But as for the maidservants of whom
you have spoken, by them I will be held in
honor. Therefore Michal the daughter of Saul
had no children to the day of her death.
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Look up John 6:44 and write it out

No one can come to Me unless the Father
who sent Me draws him; and I will raise him
up at the last day.

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Who draws a man to God?
(page 80)
_______________

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Who draws a man to God? (page 80)
The Holy Spirit

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3. Women need to ______ their husbands
for his sin and love ___
(page 81).
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3. Women need to forgive their
husbands for his sin and love
him. (page 81).
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E) Men can change ____. Only God can
change a _____. (page 81).

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E) Men can change habit. Only
God can change a nature.
(page 81).

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Read 2 Corinthians 5:17 and fill in the
blanks

Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is
a _____ _____: old things are passed
away; behold, all things are become
new. (KJV)
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Read 2 Corinthians 5:17 and fill in the
blanks

Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is
a new creation: old things are
passed away; behold, all things are
become new. (KJV)
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F) A man ministers to his wife by giving her
assurance.

1. Every woman needs to know she is
_____ to her man. (page 82)
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F) A man ministers to his wife by
giving her assurance.

1. Every woman needs to know she
is unique to her man. (page 82)
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2. Read Proverbs 31:28

Her children rise up and call her
blessed; Her husband also, and he
praises her:

In your own words describe how you
can minister to a wifes uniqueness.
_____
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3. You are ________ to what you
confess. (page 82)
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3. You are committed to what you
confess. (page 82)
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G) Everything in life is ______.
(page 84)

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G) Everything in life is ministry.
(page 84)

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H) You are only a ______ of your wifes
love, not a possessor of it.
(page 85)
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H) You are only a steward of your
wifes love, not a possessor of it.
(page 85)
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I) Look up 1 Timothy 3:5

for if a man does not know how to rule
his own house, how will he take care of
the church of God?

What is a mans priority (circle one)?
1) church
2) earning a living
3) ministering to his family
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What is a mans priority (circle one)?

1) church
2) earning a living
3) ministering to his family
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J) Read 1 Corinthians 4:2 and fill in the
blank:

Moreover it is required in stewards,
that a man be found _________.

(KJV)

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J) Read 1 Corinthians 4:2 and fill in
the blank:

Moreover it is required in
stewards, that a man be found
faithful.
(KJV)

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Practical
1 What are some specific areas where
you can strengthen your position as
the priest of your home?
_____
_____
_____
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2. Think about your family life, and write
some thoughts down on paper. THEN go
to your wife and ask her to join you in
prayer for those matters. Dont promise
to do it regularly. Just DO IT regularly.

(Sometimes she cant hear your words
because your actions are too loud).
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3. Look your wife in the eyes TODAY,
and tell her how special she is to you.

4) Plan your next honeymoon now,
spending at lest one night away from
home.
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PRAYER: Father, in Jesus Name, forgive me
for not being a priest in my home. Help me be
faithful to come to You, and then to my wife.
Forgive me for prayerlessness in my home. I
make the decision today, to be a man of
prayer, and a tender but firm priest in my
home.
Open my eyes to ways I can minister to my
wife and help me be faithful to minister to her
daily. Help me remember this lesson, and
make new habits in my marriage and home.
Thank You Father for hearing me. Amen
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1. As the priest of the home, I minister not
only to the Lord, but also to
_____

2. Prayer produces _____.

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1. As the priest of the home, I minister not
only to the Lord, but also to the ones
entrusted to his care.

2. Prayer produces intimacy.

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_____.

4. Ministry is defined as preaching.
___ True ____ False
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unique.

4. Ministry is defined as preaching.
___ True ___ False
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5. In your own words, in what areas of life is
a man responsible to minister?
Pray for her
_____

6. A man never stops ministering.
____ True ___ False

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5. In your own words, in what areas of life is
a man responsible to minister?
Pray for her
_____

6. A man never stops ministering.
___ True ___ False

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Maximised Manhood
Chapter Eight
Lesson 6

The One Dollar Tip
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The One Dollar Tip
I. The One Dollar Tip
A) Write out 1 Peter 3:7

Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with
understanding, giving honor to the wife,
as to the weaker vessel, and as being
heirs together of the grace of life, that
your prayers may not be hindered.

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1 If you do not treat your wife right, your
______ will not get ready answers
(page 89).

The One Dollar Tip
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1. If you do not treat your wife right,
your prayers will not get ready
answers (page 89).

The One Dollar Tip
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2 If your own words, name some
effects in life that come from God
not answering you:

_____
_____
_____
The One Dollar Tip
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2. If your own words, name some
effects in life that come from God
not answering you:

Spiritual & emotional death
and at the extreme physical
death
The One Dollar Tip
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B) Assumption is lifes _____ level
of knowledge (page 91).
The One Dollar Tip
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B) Assumption is lifes lowest level
of knowledge (page 91).
The One Dollar Tip
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C) Self-justification makes you right in
_______ eyes by placing _____ on
someone else.
(pages 91-92)
The One Dollar Tip
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C) Self-justification makes you right in
your own eyes by placing blame on
someone else. (pages 91-92)
The One Dollar Tip
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D) When the man treats his wife like a
chattel instead of a joint heir, the
______ observe it and reflect the
same attitude. (page 93)
The One Dollar Tip
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D) When the man treats his wife like a
chattel instead of a joint heir, the
children observe it and reflect the
same attitude. (page 93)
The One Dollar Tip
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E) When something _________, it
gains in value (page 93).

When something _________, it
loses in value (page 93).
The One Dollar Tip
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E) When something appreciates,it gains
in value (page 93).

When something depreciates, it loses
in value (page 93).
The One Dollar Tip
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F) When a woman is appreciated, she
gains value in (circle as many as apply)

a) your eyes
b) her eyes
c) her childrens eyes
(page 93)
The One Dollar Tip
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F) When a woman is appreciated, she
gains value in (circle as many as
apply)
a) your eyes
b) her eyes
c) her childrens eyes
(page 93)
The One Dollar Tip
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A) good spirit
B) hospitality
C) steady worker
D) devotion
E) loyalty
F) good mother
G) desire for goodness
H) humour
H) responds to love
J) attention to detail
K) retains friendships
L) future-minded

G) What positive attributes can you say your
wife has, even if only partially (circle as
many as apply)?
The One Dollar Tip
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G) How can we bring out her
strengths?

1. _____
2. _____
3. _____
4. _____
The One Dollar Tip
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G) How can we bring out her
strengths?

1. Encouragement,
2. Prayer,
3. Support,
4. Love, etc
The One Dollar Tip
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Practical
1 Have you allowed yourself to make jokes
about your wife (not necessary to write
down)?

Are there areas of her life that you
habitually murmur about, even though
joking?

The One Dollar Tip
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What can you say in place of such
jokes?

Write out appropriate phrases to say to
your wife regularly.

Commit them to memory & commit to
the Lord to use them.
The One Dollar Tip
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2 A one dollar tip may offend women
whose husbands have more than a
dollar to share. Others might not have
as such as a dollar to give. What can
you give to your wife that would be
meaningful to her now.
The One Dollar Tip
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PRAYER: Father, in Jesus Name, I desire for
my wife to be completely comfortable around
me. I want her to know that she is safe when I
am around, especially when were with others.
Please forgive me for knowingly or unknowingly
hurting my wife by my choice of words and
jokes. Help me to listen to her and to value
what she says, even when I dont agree. I
determine right now to build my wife up, not
only when in public, but also when were all
alone. I ask You to help me achieve these
goals so that our marriage brings glory to You.
Thank You, Father. Amen
The One Dollar Tip
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1. 1 Peter 3:7 (KJV). Fill in the blank from
memory.

"Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them
according to knowledge, giving honour
unto the wife, as unto the weaker
vessel, and as being heirs together of
the grace of life; _____ be not
hindered."
The One Dollar Tip
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1. 1 Peter 3:7 (KJV). Fill in the blank from
memory.

"Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them
according to knowledge, giving honour
unto the wife, as unto the weaker
vessel, and as being heirs together of
the grace of life; that your prayers
be not hindered."
The One Dollar Tip
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2. One of the lowest levels of knowledge is
_____.

3. Children will pick up from _____ their
attitude toward their mother.
The One Dollar Tip
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2. One of the lowest levels of knowledge is
assumption.

3. Children will pick up from the man their
attitude toward their mother.
The One Dollar Tip
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4. Murmuring against your wife will keep
you from having a maximised marriage.
___ True ___ False

5. When something "appreciates," it _____
in value.
The One Dollar Tip
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4. Murmuring against your wife will keep
you from having a maximised marriage.
___ True ___ False

5. When something "appreciates," it gains
in value.
The One Dollar Tip
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