Communicating

& Dealing with

Challenges

DIGITAL PARENTING
Sekolah Cikal believes technology is an essential
tool for learning environment and should be
used responsibly and respectfully. Students must
realize that the access to the internet in the
school is a privilege and therefore students
abide by the regulations set forth by the school
pertaining to technology use policy.
WHY GIVE ACCESS TO
TECHNOLOGY?

Normal, cheaper, and available

Secure feeling
Social pressure suffer academically
Learning tools

YOU HAVE TO INTRODUCE TO THEM TO

TECHNOLOGY AS EARLY
AND OFTEN AS POSSIBLE
 How They Changed
Early Adolescence (9 13 years old)
- Personal disorganization
- More negative attitude toward authority
- More testing on family limit

Challenge for parents

Keeping positive attitude during a more off-putting
time

Common problem
Set back on academic achievement
Mid Adolescence (13-15 years old)
- My friends are my everything. We = Me
- I want to be free to explore new and try out different
things
Challenge for parents
To provide loyal opposition to your childs push for more
social freedom when it appears unwise or unsafe, without
resorting to coercion or censure to settle disagreements
Common problem
Cheating
 I type an IM/chat and then I
quickly minimize it. Then I pull
up my homework really fast.
I have four different email
accounts.
I have more than one Facebook
account.
I wait until my parents are
asleep
HOW THEY HIDE
WHAT THEYRE DOING
FROM YOU
Truths about how PEOPLE interact
online
They do things online they wouldnt do in
real life.
Fight online without getting immediate
feedback that might challenge.
Quicker and easier to disseminate, but
harder to get rid of.
Post personal information online.
Addicted to being connected.
Laying down the law
IT IS PRIVILEGE,
NOT A RIGHT

- A special advantage or benefit not enjoyed by

all
- A right reserved exclusively by a particular
person or group
You have a responsibility to use it ethically.
Never use it to humiliate, embarrass, send
personal information, misrepresent yourself or
someone else, misuse passwords, share
embarrassing information or picture of other
people, etc.
If I see that you are violating the terms of our
agreement, I will take all your technology away
until you can earn my trust back.
1. Set the limit -- Its okay to be
disconnected.
2. Its a tool to strengthen communication.
3. Safety, security, and integrity.
4. Parents have the right to check.
5. There is what you call technology
manners.
*Engage and be role model
Everyone makes mistakes. Its how you
conduct yourself after messing up that
shows what kind of person you are.
WHAT IF YOUR CHILD
MAKE A MISTAKE?
PROBLEMS THAT MIGHT
HAPPEN
DISCUSS WITH A PARENT BESIDE YOU FOR 5 MINUTES

What if your child sends personal information

about herself/family?
What if your child forwarding bad information
about others?
What if your child embarrasses herself?
1. Comforting
Sit with your child.
Reminding him/her about how horrible
the situation, will not help.
Do an activity that is not related, will
clear everyones mind.
2. Acknowledging
Discuss on how your child is part of the
problem.
Discuss on possibilities of consequences:
to self, others, and family.
3. Deciding on responsible action
Write down scenario and timeline.
Practice makes perfect.
Be there all the way.
4. Reminding about the agreement
Agree on the consequences.
Committed to it.
How the school supports
Laptop self-inspection
Our last laptop and online behavior self-inspection was
conducted on February-March, 2014. We covered some useful
do and don'ts including checking power cords, backup files,
download History, software (educational use and illegal use)
and folder Management.
Essential Agreement
Having discussion with the students to ensure that they learn
the best way to manage and reflect on their behavior when
working with their laptop and their online behavior
(refer to the Technology Use Policy)
Class Essential Agreement
Responsible Use of Technology

Laptop can only be used research related to the subject only

Consider age appropriateness factor when opening reliable websites
Making sure the laptop is in good condition and saved in secure place
Contract
Sample
Use appropriate language in online communication

Consequences

First warning (having discussion with homeroom teacher/subject

teacher and reflection)
Decrease bandwidth for a day
Confiscate the laptop and is only allowed to use school computer
under supervision

* Major inappropriate behavior will lead to suspension

Earning trust and building skills,
are far more important then simply using parental
monitoring software.

Parenting will always give you a

chance for a redo