RESPONSIBLE

PARENTING
BY ANGEL C. DEOCAMPO
PARENTHOOD
• is the state of being a parent. Traditionally, it
means being a father or mother of the
biological child.
• When adoption is involved, it means
the legal father or mother ( couple )
of the child.
PARENTING
• is defined as the skills, experiences, abilities,
and responsibilities involved in rearing and
educating child.
• also includes the inculcation of values and
the instilling of discipline. It entails a lot
of hard work and great responsibilities.
DUTIES AND RESPONSIBILITIES OF PARENTS;
• 1.Provision of Physical Care and Love
• 2.Inculcating Discipline
• 3. Developing Social Competence
• 4. Education
• 5.Citizenship Training
• 6.Teaching the Wise Use of Money
• 7.Financial Aspect of Responsibility
• 8.Spiritual Formation
 9 TIPS AS
EFFECTIVE
PARENT
BOOSTING YOUR CHILD'S
SELF-ESTEEM
Praising accomplishments, however small, will make
them feel proud; letting kids do things independently
will make them feel capable and strong. By contrast ,
belittling comments or comparing a child unfavorably
with another will makes kids feel wothless.
CATCH KIDS BEING GOOD
Make a point of finding something to praise every
day. Be generous with rewards- your love , hugs
and compliments can work wonders and are
often reward enough. Soon you will find you
are “ growing” more of the behavior you
would like to see.
 SET LIMITS AND BE CONSISTENT WITH
YOUR DISCIPLINE
• Discipline is necessary in every household. The
goal of discipline is to help kids choose acceptable
behaviors and learn self-control. They may test
the limits you establish for them, but they need
those limits to grow into responsible adults.
 MAKE TIME FOR YOUR KIDS
• Kid's who arent getting the attention
they want from their parents often act
out or misbehave because they're sure
to be noticed that way.
 BE A GOOD ROLE MODEL
• Model traits you wish to see in your kids:
respect, friendliness, honesty, kindness, and
tolerance. Exhibit unselfish behavior. Do
things for other people without expecting
a reward. Express thanks and offer com-
pliments. Above all , treat your kids the
way you expect other people to treat
you.
 MAKE COMMUNICATION A PRIORITY
• Make your expectations clear. If there is a problem,
describe it, express your feelings, and invite your
child to work on a solution with you. Be sure to
include consequences. Make suggestions and offer
choices. Be open to your child's suggestions as
well. Negotiate. Kids who participate in decisions
are more motivated to carry them out.
 BE FLEXIBLE AND WILLING TO ADJUST TO YOUR
PARENTING STYLE
• Kids environments have an effect on their behavior,
so you might be able to change that behavior by
changing the environment.
• As your child changes, you'll gradually have to
change your parenting style. Chances are, what
works with your child now won't work as well
in a year or two.
 SHOW THAT YOUR LOVE IS
UNCONDITIONAL

• As a parent, you're responsible for correcting

and guiding your kids. But how you express
your corrective guidance makes all the
difference in how a child recieves it.
 KNOW YOUR OWN NEEDS AND
LIMITATIONS AS PARENT
• Try to make parenting manageable Job. Focus on
the areas that need the most attention rather than
trying to address everything all at once.
• Focusing on your needs does not make you selfish.
It simply means you care about your own well-
being, which is another important value to
model for your children.
 DEFINITION OF BULLYING
• when an individual or a group of people
with more power, repeatedly and inten-
tionally cause hurt or harm to another
person or group of people who feel help-
less to respond.
 TYPES OF BULLYING
• PHYSICAL BULLYING
- includes hitting, kicking, tripping, pinching and pushing or
damaging property. Physical bullying causes both short term
and long term damage

• VERBAL BULLYING
-includes name calling, insults, teasing, intimidation, homo-
phobic or ractist remarks, or verbal abuse. While verbal
bullying can start off harmless, it can escalate to levels
which start affecting the individual target. Keep reading
in this section for techniques to deal with verbal bullying.
 SOCIAL BULLYING
• sometimes referred to as covert bullying,
is often harder to recognise and can be
carried out behind the bullied person's
back. It is designed to harm someone's
social reputation and/or cause
humiliation.
 SOCIAL BULLYING INCLUDES:
• lying and spreading rumors
• negative facial or physical gestures,menacing or
contemptous looks
• playing nasty jokes to embarass and humiliate
• mimicking unkindly
• encouraging others to socially exclude someone
• damaging someone's social reputation or
social acceptence
 CYBER BULLYING
• can be overt or covert bullying behaviours using digital
technologies, including hardware such as computers and
smartphones, and software such as social media, instant messaging,
texts, websites
and other online platforms. It can happen at any time . It can be
in public or in private and sometimes only known to the target
and the person bullying. Cyber bullying can include:
• Abusive or hurtful texts emailsor posts images or videos
• Deliberately excluding others online
• Nasty gossip or rumours
• Imitating others online or using their log-in
SIGNS OF BULLYING
 EMOTIONAL AND BEHAVIOURAL
SIGNS OF BULLYING
• Changes in sleep patterns
• Changes in eating patterns
• freaquent tears or anger
• Mood swings
• Feels ill in the morning
• becomes withdrawn or starts stammering
• Becomes aggresive and unreasonable
• refuses to talk about what is wrong
• Begins to target siblings
• Continually loses money or starts stealing
 PHYSICAL SIGNS OF BULLYING
1. Has unexplained bruises, cuts, scratches
2. Comes home with missing or damaged
belongings or clothes
3. Comes home hungry
 SCHOOLS IN BULLYING
• Doesn't want to go to school
• Changes their route to school or are
frightened of walking to school
• Doesn't want to go to school on the
bus/tram/train
• School grades begin to fall.
OTHER SIGNS OF BULLYING
• Often alone or excluded from friendship
groups at school.
• a frequent target for teasing, mimicking
or ridicule at school
• Unable to speak up in class and appears
insecure or frightened.
HOW TO STOP
BULLYING??
 LISTEN
• Try to listen to the whole story without
interrupting. Be emphathetic, calm and
show you understand what the child is
saying. They might need to tell their story
more than once.
 TALK
• Have a conversation about what happened.
Try not to let your very understanding
emotions ( anger, distress..) show. Your
feelings can intensify the child's or make it
worse for them and might even deter
your child from talking to you another
time.
 FIND OUT WHAT IS HAPPENING
• Note what, when and where the bullying
occured, who was involved, how often and
if anybody else witnessed it. Don't offer to
confront the young person or their parent's
yourself. This might make things worse for
your child.
 CONTACT YOUR CHILD'S SCHOOL
• In children's lives, school is the most common
location for bullying. It's therefore important
you alert the school to the situation, as they
may not be aware of it.
 TIPS TP GUIDE IN DISCUSSIONS WITH
THE SCHOOL
• make an appointment to speak to your child's teacher or
coordinator
• check your school's bullying/ online bullying policy. This may be
containedwithin the behaviour or wellbeing policy. It might be
available on the school's website or printed in the school diary.
Note what the policy promises to do to keep children safe
from harm and respond to the situation
• Take along your notes about the situation or screen shots,
texts etc. It's often difficult to remember specific details
• Find out if the school is aware of the bullying.
• Ask what is being done to ensure your child's
safety.
• Ask for a follow-up appointment to ensure the
situation is being addressed. The school may ask
you to attend a restorative conference. If so,
they will explain to you what is involved.
• If your child asks to stay home from school,
explain it won't help- and may make things
worse.
 GIVE SENSIBLE ADVICE
• Encourage your child not to fight back, but coach them
to use neutral
• Explain it's safer to avoid people, places or situations that
could expose them to further bullying
• If possible, help to make opportunities for them to join
other groups of young people. ( clubs at school or other
groups outside of school time)