Relationship before marriage

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Mdm- hamouchi ELMAJDAOUI ASMA JADIRI HATIM KANZA BELASSOULI

PLAN
Introduction What is relationship ? What is marriage ? The problematique With relationship before marriage Against relationship before marriage Conclusion

Ctually as we all know to insure the continuity of human being we must have males and females having different types of relationship: Husband and his wife . Boy with his colleague .

What is relationship?

The state of being connected or related by blood or marriage etc..

What is marriage?

Social contrast

between two individual that unites their lives: Legally. Economically . Emotionally.

With relationship before marriage

A question most of the people wonder about is "What is marriage?"
In order to define marriage, you need to look not only at the historical period, but also on the geographical location and the cultural traditions of the individuals involved in the marriage relationship. A general definition of marriage: marriage is a social contract between two individuals that unites their lives legally, economically, and emotionally. Being married also gives legitimacy to sexual relations within the marriage.

 So from here we can conclude that relationship before marriage (our topic for today) refers to any emotional or physical contact between the future married couple before they sign their marriage contract.

 Before marriage a person is termed single. He can lead his life in his own ways and makes decisions that he thinks are best or not for him. He is free like a bird and he can act according to that. But once tying the nuptials everything changes. He become obliged to share and to discuss every single thing he attempt to do. Therefore if two people are not compatible to each other and got involved in a marriage, they start having problems and conflicts as soon as they start living together.

 For these reasons so many people think that having a relationship before marriage is necessary. They claim that marriage is committing your entire life to a person and you would place yourself in a whole different ball park if you stepped into it all wrong. Therefore a Relationship before marriage can sort give you a taste of what marriage is going to actually be like. Which means that Relationship before marriage helps you to get to know your partner better before you make the big commitment so you can see his flaws before assuming that he is the one.

 Relationship before marriage is a great way to practice sharing responsibility and knowing what it's like to be under the same roof as your partner. This means that people did not stop at spiritual and emotional relationships but they rather to have even a physical relation before marriage so they started cohabitation*. * "Cohabitation" is commonly referred to "living together." It describes the relationship of a man and woman who are sexually active and share a household, though they are not married.

 Common "wisdom" says that living together in a "trial marriage" is a good way to determine if couples are compatible before marriage.

 But There have been numerous studies that have examined whether living together before marriage is a good idea. The data shows that people who have multiple cohabiting relationships before marriage are more likely to experience more negative communication in marriage, lower levels of marital satisfaction, the erosion over time of the perceived value of marriage, higher perceived marital instability, lower levels of male commitment to spouse,and greater likelihood of divorce than people who do not cohabit before marriage. Although some of these effects might be due to the characteristics of people who cohabit, recent studies suggest that selection is not involved, but that the cohabitation experience itself contributes to problems in marriage. The reason why cohabitation may setup couples for failure in marriage is because cohabitation is just a test. Since all couples suffer from some incompatibility, when the other partner "fails" the test, the person moves on to the next partner. A succession of cohabitation failures results in an inability to maintain commitment - the most important part of a marriage relationship.

Against relationship before marriage

Those who in relationship before marriage are least likely to marry each other :
The majority of couples who in relationship will end their relationships before marriage.

Against relationship before marriage

Those who in relationship before
marriage have higher separation and divorce rates :

The Journal of Marriage and Family reported marriages that are preceded by relationship have 50 percent higher disruption rates than marriage without premarital cohabitation.

Against relationship before marriage

Those who in relationship before marriage have unhappier marriages :
found that those who cohabit prior to marriage show a significantly lower marital quality and have significantly higher risk of marital dissolution at any given duration. Couples who in relationship before marriage also separated more often, sought counseling more often and regarded marriage as a less important part of their life than those who did not in relationship before marriage.
A review of 10 cohabitation studies

Against relationship before marriage

Those in relationship before marriage have more frequent disagreements, more fights and violence :
The researchers found that those who in relationship were more negative and less positive when resolving a marital problem and when providing support to their partner. They also found that husbands and wives who had in relationship before marriage were more verbally aggressive, less supportive of one another and generally more hostile than spouses who had not in relationship before marriage. More frequent disagreements, more fights and violence, lower levels of fairness and happiness with their relationships.

Against relationship before marriage

Those who in relationship before marriage have more behavior problems :
-Alcool problem. -Aggression is twice as common. -Greater marital instability, lower marital satisfaction and poorer communication. -Depression rates are more than three times higher. -Women being assaulted is 56 times higher.

Against relationship before marriage

The conversations between man and woman its denied in Islam, because its often help to get evil and affliction , and also its the same when a man write a message to woman not seen by others.
The Islamic law prohibit that woman and man stay alone in one place together the reason for this that the woman and man will have a reaction one each other .

Against relationship before marriage

A young man asked Shaykh Ibn Jibreen : What is the ruling on correspondence between young man and women, knowing that this correspondence is free from immorality and love ? He replied: its forbidden for the man to correspond with woman out law, because of the affliction, maybe he think that there is no affliction, but the devil play his turn to tempt them. The Correspondence of young men and women has a great temptation and a high risk. And women are forbidden from speaking softly with those who do not permissible for her, as God said : ( 32/ )

Its forbidden for men to have a lust and desire about the women voice.

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